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Women You Need to Pursue Your Dreams Despite the Fear

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You hear it all the time…. you just have to follow your dreams. They make it sound so easy, but if it were easy, everyone would be doing it. Right? But have you considered what can happen to you if you stifle those feelings that you meant for something more? If you try to ignore those feelings by telling yourself it’s not the right time, you don’t have time for that, or any other excuse there is?

I never thought of myself as someone who would hold themselves back from trying new things, but I did, and there were consequences. I didn’t realize that how I chose to escape my feelings, led to me feeling bad because I was denying myself the pleasure of following my dreams, which then led me to overeat and overspend in an effort to make myself feel better. It’s a cycle that I fell into without giving it much thought, and I mindlessly overate and overspent in an effort to feel good about myself.

Humans are complicated people, and our emotions guide us strongly. But if you have a calling deep inside you that keeps telling you to try something new and follow a new path, don’t you owe it to yourself to explore it?

Personally, I had a deep seeded feeling that spoke to me for about 10 years. I wanted to start my own business, but I was so scared to step out of my comfort zone and really put myself out there. I distracted myself from these feelings from eating too much and spending too much. Yet no matter how much I ate or spent, the feeling always came back to me. I struggled with it for some time.

“Instead of worrying about what people say of you, why not spend time trying to accomplish something they will admire.” — Dale Carnegie

Then on Christmas Day 2018, my husband had a massive heart attack at the age of 46.  Thankfully he survived, but those are the kind of events that punch you in the face and wake you up. And at that point I knew I had things I wanted to change in my life, and I started working with a life coach, desperate for a way to cure the bad habits I had formed with eating and spending.

I am so grateful I found my life coach and worked with her. She helped me put myself first, get over the fear, and live my life. Within a few months of working with her I managed to finally start my own business, and I’ve never been happier.

What I learned with my coach is a lesson that applies to so many of us. I’d like to share these lessons with you.

Why you choose not to pursue our dreams:

  1. You let fear hold you back – It’s a lot easier to stay where you are comfortable and not challenge yourself. But when you stay within your comfort zone you become complacent, never challenging yourself, and lose the opportunity to learn and grow.
  2. Women put everyone else’s needs first – You may have kids or other family members to take care of, so if you were to do something for yourself when they need you so much right now, you’d feel too guilty.
  3. You’re looking for the “right” time – If you’re waiting for the perfect time to pursue your dreams, the perfect time is now. There will never be a better time, because if you are feeling the pull towards your dreams, it means you have to give it some attention.
  4. You care too much about what others will think – The idea of putting yourself out there and letting other people judge you may seem like it’s too much to bear, but have you considered that their opinions do not matter?
  5. Fear of failure and fear of success – Fear of failure is a common fear, but failure just allows you try again in a different way. Failure is part of the process.

“Everything you want is on the other side of fear.” — Jack Canfield

What most don’t explore is the fear of success, which is just as real. And these are feelings worth exploring because often those feelings are attached to not feeling worthy of success.

Today I wake up every morning excited to serve my clients. I feel so much energy and love for life, gratitude, and I’ve even lost 20 pounds in the process!

I hope what you takeaway from this story is that if your gut is telling you something, it’s alerting you for a reason. There are consequences to ignoring these gut feelings. My hope for you is if you are sitting on a dream, that today is the day that you take action on it. Start with one step, that’s usually the hardest, and keep going until you find your momentum, and joy!  Life is too short to be held back.

Melissa Houston is a Certified Professional Accountant (CPA) and a financial coach, who helps entrepreneurs overcome both their personal and business finance issues and earn more money. With over 20 years of financial management experience, Melissa understands how to improve your bottom line without making another sale.  Melissa works with business owners through coaching programs and signature course offerings. Reach out to Melissa on her LinkedIn account.

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The 5 Main Components of Winning

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When Jerry Krause was General Manager of the Chicago Bulls, he once said to Michael Jordan the oft quoted expression, “There is no I in TEAM.” Jordan retorted by saying, “But there is an I in WIN.”

What does it take to win? I believe there are five components that must be present to win in athletics. I believe these five ingredients are present in winning in all areas of life. They are especially important to the success of leaders in any endeavor undertaken. (more…)

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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