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Why I Broke Up With You Twitter And Have Found Someone Else

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Breaking Up With Twitter Because It's Dead

Dear Twitter, when we fell in love in March 2009, you were the cutest and the best bird I had ever met. I remember when we used to sit in bed together during those long, cold, winter nights. Now I just feel like I don’t know you anymore.

You never let me speak my mind with your 140-character limit, and you have become overweight with too many part time users. I don’t feel like you talk to me enough by sharing what I tweet on you, and you hardly share me with your friends like you used to.

Other, much cuter birds, have taken my attention away from you like Instagram with her sexy filtered pictures, flawless skin, and luscious colors. I started cheating on you with Instagram and then I found myself hooking up with her friends Snapchat and Periscope.

To my surprise, I even find myself starting to look again at older more mature birds like Facebook because of the way you make me feel. You haven’t aged as gracefully as others with your ever increasing wrinkles, and your inner beauty just doesn’t shine through like the bird I once knew.

Every time I tell you that you need a makeover, you just ignore me with your short bites of content and your robotic auto replies. So Twitter, I can’t do this anymore. I am breaking up with you. I’ll miss you Twitter but the time has come for me to see other people. Tim.

Below are the eight reasons why I broke up with Twitter:

 

1. Automated posts

One of the challenges Twitter is having is that social media is making a move towards real-time. I’m not saying that Twitter is the only platform that has automated posts, but it’s one of the worst offenders.

There are so many Twitter accounts that have more than three tweets a day, and you just know that they were scheduled a long way in advance. Many of these same tweets are often rehashed content from the user’s account that has been posted before on Twitter.

Tweets just feel too spammy these days and like a robot is writing them, and then repeating them over and over. It’s this reason more than any other that I believe Twitter is dying a slow death. Their financial position at times seems to reflect the same sentiment.

 

2. Followers are meaningless

Twitter, more than any other social platform, has the ability to add followers, which I now believe, are virtually meaningless. There are so many automated follower software tools that you can use to fake the number of followers you really have.

It’s not about the number of followers you have; I believe it’s about the amount of engagement you have with your followers that is the real power.

 

3. Useless automated replies

Not only are followers meaningless, but when you connect with someone new Twitter allows users to have spammy auto replies. These automated replies usually have some form of self-promotion or link to a product that someone wants you to buy.

This whole function just feels outdated and adds to the argument that Twitter is not relevant anymore and is dying a slow death.

 

4. Not enough characters

Fundamentally, one of the restrictions of Twitter is the number of characters you can type. In the beginning, it was cool, but over time, it has just become annoying because you can’t say anything of any substance.

This is why tweets are not memorable, which in turn, makes a lot of what the platform does forgettable. Maybe I am wrong on this one, but I get this feedback from people on social media all the time.

 

5. Engagement is at an all time low

Twitter Having Problems - Jack DorseyI am lucky enough to be connected with quite a few mega influencers who have followers in the hundreds of thousands. I don’t tell you this to brag; I mention it because it allows me to ask the successful people on Twitter their thoughts of the current state of play.

Every single one of them says that their engagement with their fans on Twitter is at an all time low, and they just don’t get the same level of retweets and favoured tweets as they use too.

Many are moving to other social media outlets or automating their accounts entirely so they can concentrate on other platforms.

 

6. Too much spam

As I have highlighted in the previous points, and I want to highlight again, Twitter just has too much spam nowadays. Many of the posts are not about adding value but are more focused towards shameless self-promotion.

It seems like Twitter has become the one platform that has ignored Gary Vaynerchuk’s advice from his book Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook. For those who haven’t read it, it’s a simple concept; deliver three tweets of value (the jabs) and then one tweet (the right hook) with an ask such as “subscribe to my mailing list.”

 

7. Uninspiring interface

Over time Twitters, interface hasn’t changed a lot. Beginners still find the Twitter concept hard to understand, and the interface is nothing too exciting, What Twitter needs in its interface is some cool new features.

Without any updates, I fear that Twitter will continue to go the same way as the Apple iPhone. It will continue to lose its relevance and what made it an awesome platform in the first place.

 

8. Too many hashtags

Hashtags are a great way to find content on social media. Another reason why I believe Twitter is dying a slow death is that hashtags have become overused on the platform. When you write one sentence and have three or more hashtags all promoting a brand or product, it just doesn’t feel right.

 

***Final Thought***

To be clear, this post is really my personal opinion of Twitter, and I’d like to think I have some credibility around its use. The purpose of this post is not to hate on Twitter but to point out some improvements so that maybe the masses will lobby for change.

While I think Twitter is dying there are still some great social media platforms that will achieve some similar Forget The LinkedIn Guru's And Communicate Like A Humanresults. An example of one is LinkedIn, which has gone from a site about people’s resumes, to a real, multifaceted social media platform.

I feel that LinkedIn engagement is at an all-time high, and the “Influencer Pages” are what Twitter should have done. Even though Twitter is becoming less attractive, I still find that following super-human influencers with millions of followers – like Tony Robbins and Richard Branson – is 100% worth my time.

Are you going to break up with Twitter? What’s your current favourite social media platform and why? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net and my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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  1. Gleeo

    Jul 9, 2016 at 11:22 pm

    Tim, you have summed up my thought regarding Twitter. It’s platform that I joined late. I’ve never had any enjoyable interaction with friends or followers. I’ve often wondered, does anyone really see these posts. Usually on Facebook and or LinkedIn I receive feedback, so I know I’m engaging people. I might leave my Twitter account alone and focus my efforts on LinkedIn and Facebook. What do you think of periscope? Is there much happening on that platform?

  2. Rob Malone

    May 23, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    Not only was this very insightful and dead on, concerning twitters issues it was extremely well written. Very engaging and entertaining.

    Nice job

    • Tim Denning

      May 29, 2016 at 5:15 am

      Thanks Rob I am glad you enjoyed my point of view around Twitter!

  3. Marquita Herald

    May 14, 2016 at 2:03 pm

    Couldn’t agree more. I’m still on Twitter because as an author I pretty much have to be there for my “platform” numbers, and I post at least a couple of things each day, but almost never invest the time to go through the feed or read DM messages. I know others may say I’m foolish, but I’m spending more time on Google Plus. I love the Collections feature and it’s just so much easier to connect and engage with people.

    Facebook is definitely the big guy on the block, but a few months ago I gave up and deleted my fan page and now focus on engaging in groups and using my profile page. I’ve never posted “personal” information there anyway, and many of my readers post comments about my articles and books on my profile so it’s actually working out much better than my page ever did. I am certainly no expert but I do believe it’s important to remain flexible about social media and be willing to try new things rather than settle in anywhere for the long haul. Thanks!

    • Tim Denning

      May 15, 2016 at 5:21 am

      Marquita thank you for sharing your own perspective. I have never really used Google Plus so I must give it a go. Direct messages on Twitter are mostly just auto responses and there is just too much noise. For me, in my newsfeed, I don;t want to see every followers update but there is no way to block out followers easily. I have starting using Pic feed to help with this.

  4. Abel Solomon

    May 13, 2016 at 11:16 am

    Great article very interesting, to be honest I never really got into using Twitter. I found it a bit confusing and aesthetically not really appealing. As far as using it, I can`t imagine anyone being addicted to it, like say Instagram or Snap Chat. However I think it`s really good for live events like boxing or a Cup Final, you always find hilarious Tweets from people.

    From a business point of view, I personally don`t think it`s that good, because there are so many other tweets coming, your audience probably won`t even see your post.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 7:14 pm

      Thanks Abel for your feedback. I totally agree with your points around Twitter and lots of people, like you, have never really got it. It is great though for following mega influencers and for live events.

  5. Stefanie

    May 13, 2016 at 6:18 am

    The reasons you stated are exactly the ones why I never entered in love with Twitter, Tim. I have been always asking myself: What’s so great about scheduling 3 tweets a day? There is so much meaningless stuff I’m not interested in, and I don’t want to be part of the people sharing these kind of stuff. Sometimes, I use it tweeting real time, and I find it helpful to enter in conversations with others.
    Thanks for sharing the article in LinkedIn. Gonna check this out, as I’m not too deep into LinkedIn yet. Since the people we want to reach out to are mostly in Facebook and Instagram, we spend more time there. I believe though that interaction has become stronger in Instagram than in Facebook.
    Do you use Snapchat? If yes, how is your experience? I haven’t used it so far, as I considered Snapchat to be more for teenagers and not for people I want to connect with. However, I heard Gary talking several times about it and it made me change my mind and check it out at least.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:55 am

      Stefanie thanks for sharing your experience. Yes I have played around with Snapchat. The main benefit of Snapchat is that it helps you build a deeper relationship with your audience. The disadvantage is that you can’t build an organic audience and have to bring over followers from platforms like Instagram – which i don’t like that much. The future is live streaming video though. I would try Snapchat out for yourself and see what you think. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

      • Stefanie

        May 18, 2016 at 4:17 pm

        Thanks for sharing your insights, Tim! Looking forward to more articles from you.

  6. Toño

    May 13, 2016 at 4:13 am

    You’ve done a beautiful introduction, Tim! I’m convinced now you may very well write a review on apps, tech products or even movies, from time to time. The story, once again delivered from your experience, kept me reading, despite having some home stuff to do before my beloved job.

    I believe, you may be a very good book writer, with your ability to explain things in simple way and deliver your emotions and state of mind in honest and available form. Oh, and have I mentioned already your talent for amazing intro? I think I did 🙂 I eagerly waiting for your book and subbed for your mailing list now not to miss on it. Take your time of course.

    Back to the article, I just realized you simply overgrown your little bird and took everything you could from this ‘relationship’. I get what you saying by ‘have credibility to use’ and I se it is not a hate, but rather constructive and valuable feedback, which, I am convinced, smart people should take as a pro tip.

    Social media took over our life so this is fully understandable we want some quality time to spend together.

    Thank you for my morning motivation, it was a good pleasure! Have a good day my friend, stay well and healthy 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:57 am

      Toño I am glad you like the intro. It’s how I really feel though…lol. Twitter was like someone I felt close to but over time it has just gone down because they have not innovated. They are starting to remind me a bit of Nokia when they were the most popular phone. I think they can still fix their issues but they need to do something.

      I have written an ebook so keep an eye out for it as i hope to complete it soon and am about to get the cover done. Thank you for taking the time to read through and for your compliments 🙂

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The Super Power Of Charisma – How You Can Adopt It For Yourself

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There’s this dude at the office. He’s fucking unstoppable.

His shit don’t stink and everything he touches turns to gold. At least that’s what I used to think.

Really, in reality, he’s just charismatic.

That’s how he got the cool job, the hot wifey and why everyone wants to be friends with him including me.

What does he do? Let’s delve a little deeper and discuss the eight things that lead to being charismatic:

 

1. Being confident baby!

This dude at work has swag. He backs himself even if he has no freaking idea what’s going to go down homey. In a business context, people that are confident are proven to be more trustworthy.

We trust confident people because it’s infectious. We want to work and be around confident people because it feels good. When something feels good, we do it, and do it lots!

My buddy at work walks into the room and people shake his hand because his presence changes the game. He also does these few things:

– He dresses confidently
– He pops his chest out just a fraction (not like the guy on the Bonds Singlet packet)
– He looks people in the eye

Out of these three, looking people in the eye is the hardest to do. To look into someone’s eye is the most vulnerable state you can put yourself in.

“The difference is that when you’re vulnerable, you connect with people better”

It also shows that you’ve got guts and allows you to enter their world. Okay, that’s wacky stuff and I may sound like I’ve read one too many “Power Of the Universe” type books. Take it or leave it chief.

 

2. Passion surrounds them. It pours out of their eyeballs!

Even the words I write demonstrate this. You can tell from everything I’m saying right now that passion pours out of me. I freaking love what I do and it shows even though you can’t see me or hear my voice. Okay, that’s a fraction creepy…enough about me.

This almighty bloke at work is charismatic because his values and beliefs are based on his passion. Passion is like a magnet according to science. When we see passion, it makes us start acting with more passion. You’re drawn to charisma in the same way because you want more of it.

There’s no point pretending you don’t like to be passionate because we all do. Sometimes, we just get lost and lose our passion for life or our career. That’s okay! None of us are perfect souls who don’t lose our way once in a while. I’m fucking lost more than I’m on track half the time.

Bottom-line: charismatic people are surrounded by passion. I don’t care if it’s collecting matchsticks or building sand castles – find something to get excited about and then show your passion for it.

 

3. They’re not vain: selfies are not their highest priority.

This charismatic chappy at work doesn’t spend half his days taking selfies of himself and then posting it on social media.

He doesn’t take photos of his food and then post it on social – he just eats it. He’d rather jump off a bridge than be a pretentious snob who’s insecure and has an inflated ego to compensate.

“The number one sign of a pretentious person vs a charismatic person is that they take credit for things they didn’t do”

Or they make things sound ten times bigger than they actually are in reality. Don’t fall for this trap young Indiana Jones. You’re better than that!

 

4. Expressing yourself through great stories

Storytelling is one of the many traits a charismatic person has. If you listen closely to their stories, you’ll notice they use strong phrases like “I know X to be true” instead of phrases like “I think,” or “I hope” which sounds weak.

Through stories, you can be: funny, vulnerable and share embarrassing moments. That’s what charismatic people do and they draw everyone in through their stories. As a side note, their stories don’t go on forever and they know how to get to the point.

Become a charismatic poet through stories about your experiences. Educate and inspire people around you and you’ll be acting charismatic by default.

 

5. Make other people feel comfortable around you

Not everyone is a hero and is comfortable being charismatic and confident. You can demonstrate charisma by learning to make others feel relaxed around you. Make other people the center of attention and let them feel special. There’s a subtle difference between charisma and hogging the conversation with your own bombastic, overpowering, unnecessary and selfish talk.

Back down; you’re not that big of a deal. Once you do that, you’ll have entered the universe of charisma.

 

6. A clear purpose and vision. In other words, they know why.

Part of what makes up the DNA of a charismatic person is their purpose or vision for their life. Quite simply, they know what they’re on this planet to do. They have a goal, it’s measurable, and they’ll stop at nothing until they achieve it.

To be in this state requires a certain sort of self-confidence that charismatic people have in spades. People seem to rally around a person who knows their purpose.

You can’t do anything and be motivated unless you know why. Without a why you’ll never build up enough momentum to reach any sort of peak performance. Mediocrity happens to us when we give up too easily. When we start a new pursuit for 4 weeks and then give up.

Map the seven seas of why you exist. Do a heap of self-reflection if you need to, to find this vision and bring it to the surface.

 

7. They look approachable

Most people look like they’re zombies when you walk past them and they almost look like they’re going to explode if you dare talk to them. That’s not charisma pal!

That unapproachable zombie look is called being scared, fearful and afraid due to a lack of self-awareness and a lack of self-improvement. It’s not the end of the world and it can be turned around.

The difference with charismatic people is one little, tiny thing: they smile. All you have to do is change one little thing – smile a bit more. Smiling is contagious and it makes people feel confident. It also makes you feel freaking amazing too!

 

8. They give more than anyone else and expect jack in return

This last one is the toughest trait of charismatic people. It sounds incredibly difficult and that’s because it is. We all have our own selfish desires that make us feel good, although only for a moment.

Charismatic people wow everyone around them by always going above and beyond to give. They either give time, money, knowledge or a listening ear to those who need it. The crazy, passionate, charismatic people even combine several of these to produce an outcome that can only be described as extraordinary.

Many of us do in fact give; the challenge is we expect something back. Worse, we even complain when we do an honorable act and get nothing in return. This is not how to play the game of life. This selfish behavior will make you very unhappy until you cut it the hell out!

“The secret to living is giving ” Tony Robbins

So let’s go over this one more time boss. To harness the superpower of giving that leads to charisma you must:

– Be prepared to give more than anybody else
– Expect nothing in return
– Ensure your own foolish and selfish desires are not front of mind every day

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The Real Reason Why Your Dreams Don’t Become a Reality According to ‘The 10x Rule’ by Grant Cardone

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Everyone has dreams. We all want to make something of ourselves yet it’s only a tiny percentage of people ever follow through. The self-help world encourages us to “Think Big”, “Follow Your Passions”, “Live as if there was no such thing as failure” and it usually just leads to keeping people stuck in a dream state, wishing, hoping and fantasizing yet never actually moving forward.

Why is this? Thinking big is just one part of the equation. This missing piece in the jigsaw is a bias towards massive action. Big Dreams + Little Action = disappointment and frustration.

Thinking and dreaming big must match with the equal and equivalent amount of action for it to go anywhere. When you combine big thinking with massive action you will be surprised at how much you are capable of, once you tap into the power of momentum.

What stops most people from achieving their goals?

I’ve been reading Grant Cardone’s “The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure” and in his view success comes from taking 10 times more action than you previously anticipated.

What stops most people from achieving a goal is underestimating the time, effort and energy involved in completing the project. They don’t spend enough time listing the steps required to succeed, the adversity they will need to overcome to push things through and the price they must pay to attain the goal.

If the number one sticking point in goal attainment is a lack of action then it’s obvious that the solution is in massive action. So what happens is they give up at the first sign of frustration or disappointment.

“Never reduce a target. Instead increase actions. When you start rethinking your targets, making up excuses, and letting yourself off the hook, you are giving up on your dreams.” – Grant Cardone

When I look back on my own life, anything I have ever achieved that was worthwhile did take an extraordinary amount of effort. Anytime I have ever coasted or done a “normal” amount of work, I would fall short of my target and feel the pain of frustration and disappointment which lead to reducing my targets.

In “The 10 X Rule” Cardone talks about his own failures in business and how he bounced back; “I committed to making this work by increasing my efforts 10 times. And as soon as I did that, everything started to change – immediately. I went back into the marketplace with the right estimation of effort and started seeing results. Instead of making two to three calls a day, I started doing 20 to 30

Most people fail only because they are operating at the wrong degree of action. There are 4 degrees of action which you can choose from:

  1. Do Nothing
  2. Retreat
  3. Take Normal Levels of Action
  4. Take Massive Action

At the “do nothing” level people are just accepting what comes their way. They are not pushing themselves or motivated to improve any area of their lives.

Retreaters are those who have taken action, experienced some setbacks or failures and retreated back into “doing nothing”. Examples of this include “Most businesses fail anyway so I am going to give up”, “Marriages aren’t working out these days so I will stay single”, “Businesses aren’t employing so I am going to file for unemployment benefit”.

The third degree is normal levels of action which is usually considered adequate. Grant says this is the most dangerous level where most people blend in, never stand out and thus never achieve the real success they wanted.

Lastly there is massive action which Cardone states is our most natural state. This is where you burst forth with 10 times the action you previously anticipated. “The goal is to be seen, thought of and considered – in one way or another. Your only problem is obscurity not talent”.

Obscurity is your only problem not talent. I like that. I am sure you all know someone who is less capable than you but experiencing much more success than you are. Why? Because they are more known and fearlessly putting themselves “out there”. So which degree of action are you taking currently? And will you commit to taking 10x action?

“Regardless of which degree of action you operate in, they all require work in their own way.” – Grant Cardone

So why not set your goals and actions higher than you ever imagined because it is highly likely you are not only underestimating the time, energy and effort involved in your endeavour, you are also likely underestimating your own capabilities and potential. Set high goals and never stop fighting.

Share with us one goal you have for 2017, and how you plan on achieving it. Comment below so we can see!

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My Thoughts On Money After Being Both Rich And Poor

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I’ve been in financial situations where I couldn’t even afford a pizza.

I know what it’s like to have more money than you can spend. I know what it’s like to see your goals turn into cold hard cash.

Through these two extremes of poverty and wealth, I’ve learned a thing or two about money.

 

Your mind constructs money

Whether you feel rich or not has to do with your mind.

You can have $100 in your bank account and feel like the richest guy or girl in California. How rich you feel comes down to your internal programming. If you practice being grateful, then you’ll find yourself believing that you are already rich. You can have all the money this world has to offer and still feel poor.

“The time I felt the poorest was when I had the most money, but zero meaning for my life”

I always felt at this time in my life like I needed more. I always felt I wasn’t enough. When I went through the whole personal development transformation phase of my life, all of a sudden, just having money to buy a hot chocolate felt amazing!

Be careful what the world tells you about money. You get to decide the difference between rich vs. poor. The money you have in your bank account doesn’t answer this question for you.

 

Meaning Vs. Money

When I discovered a meaning for my life, suddenly money wasn’t as important. The dumb thing was that money started to find its way into my life again without me focusing on it. People were attracted to the meaning I had created for my life which then bought me more abundance.

My advice to anyone reading this is to focus on finding out the meaning of your life. If you can’t figure it out, then create one. Think about who you admire and the meaning they have for their life, and create something similar for yourself.

If you want to inspire people, then do it.
If you want to create a business that gives back, then do it.
If you want to write blog posts like this one to help people in life, then do it.

During the time I had more money than I knew what to do with, I had no idea what I was put on this Earth to do. I would import widget A, make some money, import widget B, and then start all over again. I felt like a robot repeating a pattern. At the end of the process, I got another couple of zeroes in my bank account.

Those zeros on the screen of my Internet banking got very boring, very quickly.

As soon as I found something that lit me up and helped others, the focus on seeing more zero’s on my Internet banking screen disappeared.

 

Im not saying money doesn’t matter

If you just read that Tim Denning thinks money doesn’t matter, then you didn’t get me.

Money does matter, but it shouldn’t be your primary focus. Your primary focus should be finding meaning which will lead you to something that self-motivates you. This self-motivating activity can then be monetized to give you the resources you need to live like food, shelter and maybe a vacation once in a while.

What I want you to feel is that your focus is on something other than money.

“Having been both rich and poor, I’ve mostly felt nothing at both extremes”

 

Meaning can also be found in life’s simple pleasures

I remember the feeling I got from reading Unlimited Power.
I remember what it was like when I fell in love for the first time.
I remember how cool it was to go on my very first overseas holiday.

All of these memories gave me a meaning for my life and made me feel something. Each memory created a variety of emotions that I can still remember as I reminisce on these pastimes.

Meaning came to me through the simplest of pleasures. I didn’t need a million dollar Lamborghini to make me feel like I was on top of the world. Lying on a beach with friends spending no money gave me far more than I could ever imagine.

If you’d told me this five years ago, I would have called you a liar. Having been both rich and poor, I now understand what meaning money gives me: not much.

 

Final words on money…

Focus on who you can become. Find or create a meaning for your life than transcends money.

Go beyond what society tells you about money. Most of it is a lie. Money will not give you meaning or make you happy.

Only you can create happiness and meaning for yourself.

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5 Powerful Lessons About Success From Highly Successful Mentors

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We can’t help it. When we read an interview with a high flying, successful person, we secretly compare ourselves to them with our mind making little mental notes. Their lives seem perfect, and they seem so poised and confident. I wish I could be like that. Why do they seem to have it all, while I am struggling? When will things ever go my way?

For the longest time, I too believed in these popular myths of success, until I met several CEOs who became my mentors. When I asked each one of them what is the one biggest lesson they would like to share, their answers were unexpected, powerful and humbling.

These are the 5 powerful and humbling lessons they shared about success:

1. Nobody has Their Stuff Together

Just when you least expect it, an obstacle pops up, threatening to derail you from your goal. And sometimes, the bad news just keeps coming, which kicks you in the gut and you feel ready to give up. In comparison, successful people seem to be blazing trails of success. It almost seems unfair. While they appear to be picture perfect, where nothing can go wrong, the truth of it is this:

Nobody has their stuff together. We see these crowning moments of glory. But we don’t see the private, vulnerable moments behind the scenes. The sleepless nights worrying about what to do, where a series of wrong decisions resulted in people getting laid off. The endless meals alone in yet another soulless hotel room, with no one to share the burden with, because they don’t have the time to make a relationship work.

Obstacles and problems will always exist, no matter who you are. However, the challenges appearing to each of us is unique, and help us grow beyond the level we are at. A successful life is not about a lack of challenges, it’s about navigating and growing through the challenges so that we continue evolving to become the fullest potential of who we are.

2. Uncertainty Never Disappears

Brimming with confidence and well spoken, they always seem to know exactly what to say, and what to do in any situation. They seem to be the last people on earth to flail and feel vulnerable.

While on the surface they appear to be confident, the struggle with not knowing what to do plagues them as much as us. This can be the uncertainty of making a project work, because they have never done it before or lacking the necessary experience.

They can be worried that by taking this on, they might be biting off more than they can chew and experience massive failure and disastrous consequences. Nonetheless, the difference for them is despite their fears, they say yes and go ahead.

“Human spirit is the ability to face the uncertainty of the future with curiosity and optimism. It is the belief that problems can be solved, differences resolved. It is a type of confidence. And it is fragile. It can be blackened by fear and superstition.” – Bernard Beckett

3. Jump Before You Are Ready

Uncertainty and not knowing is a part of life. It never goes away. If you stay where you are, it feels safe and comfortable. But, it is a guarantee that you would not rise beyond where you are now if you don’t step out and make your move.

To take the leap of faith, your work through the uncertainty is the only way to grow. The fear of the unknown is not as scary as we make it out to be. All you have to do is to ask yourself “Do I believe I have what it takes to figure it out?” If your gut says yes, go for it.

4. It’s Not about External Motivation

Most successful people come with the traditional markers of success. Wealth. Status. A comfortable lifestyle. However, external motivation – the cars, the houses, the jewelry etc – can only motivate them so much.

Their motivation stems not from the outside – but from within themselves. It’s about their internal drive to be better thus building and expanding a grander vision of what they wish to create, and where they want to be.

That internal motivation is the driving force that pushes them through when things start to fall apart, because then it’s a battle within to overcome these setbacks and achieve their vision.

5. They Are Mental Ninja Masters

When everything that could go wrong, would go wrong, it’s natural to beat ourselves up. This negative feedback loop keeps replaying in our minds, and we start believing our negative self-talk, which threatens to spiral out of control and bring us down.

A few years ago, one of the CEOs I interviewed, Dave, was going through a particularly difficult time. Several major business deals fell through in quick succession. He emptied his life savings trying to keep things afloat, only for it to backfire and lost his life savings in the process.

He was faced with the real possibility of laying off hundreds of people at the company. Many lives were at stake here, and the pressure was on. He faltered, but only for a day.

He then rallied and continued to hustle. He hustled harder, stronger and faster than ever before. It was fascinating and impressive. What was his secret to bouncing back so fast from all the punches thrown at him?

He didn’t allow the negativity to control him. He controlled and directed his mind. Half the battle is with ourselves. We are often our own worst enemy with our negative self-talk.

Mastering control over your mind, instead of letting your mind control you is half the battle. Stop the negative self-talk when it happens. Redirect it towards positive action to achieve the outcome you desire.

“Protect your enthusiasm from the negativity of others.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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How to Build an Unstoppable Mindset According to These 5 Popular Entrepreneurs

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If you ask any of the top entrepreneurs, or any entrepreneur for that matter, they’ll tell you that the one quality you need to become successful is mental toughness. Becoming mentally tough is probably something you’ve already heard about before in your life. It’s something that seems easy, yet most people take it granted. They’d rather think about it than become it. (more…)

Trevor Oldham is a 19-year-old entrepreneur who’s had eleutheromania ever since he can remember. When he’s not working or studying, you can catch him by the ocean taking photos of the world in which surrounds us. Trevor is the co-founder of Become The Lion and founder of Trevor James Products.

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  1. Gleeo

    Jul 9, 2016 at 11:22 pm

    Tim, you have summed up my thought regarding Twitter. It’s platform that I joined late. I’ve never had any enjoyable interaction with friends or followers. I’ve often wondered, does anyone really see these posts. Usually on Facebook and or LinkedIn I receive feedback, so I know I’m engaging people. I might leave my Twitter account alone and focus my efforts on LinkedIn and Facebook. What do you think of periscope? Is there much happening on that platform?

  2. Rob Malone

    May 23, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    Not only was this very insightful and dead on, concerning twitters issues it was extremely well written. Very engaging and entertaining.

    Nice job

    • Tim Denning

      May 29, 2016 at 5:15 am

      Thanks Rob I am glad you enjoyed my point of view around Twitter!

  3. Marquita Herald

    May 14, 2016 at 2:03 pm

    Couldn’t agree more. I’m still on Twitter because as an author I pretty much have to be there for my “platform” numbers, and I post at least a couple of things each day, but almost never invest the time to go through the feed or read DM messages. I know others may say I’m foolish, but I’m spending more time on Google Plus. I love the Collections feature and it’s just so much easier to connect and engage with people.

    Facebook is definitely the big guy on the block, but a few months ago I gave up and deleted my fan page and now focus on engaging in groups and using my profile page. I’ve never posted “personal” information there anyway, and many of my readers post comments about my articles and books on my profile so it’s actually working out much better than my page ever did. I am certainly no expert but I do believe it’s important to remain flexible about social media and be willing to try new things rather than settle in anywhere for the long haul. Thanks!

    • Tim Denning

      May 15, 2016 at 5:21 am

      Marquita thank you for sharing your own perspective. I have never really used Google Plus so I must give it a go. Direct messages on Twitter are mostly just auto responses and there is just too much noise. For me, in my newsfeed, I don;t want to see every followers update but there is no way to block out followers easily. I have starting using Pic feed to help with this.

  4. Abel Solomon

    May 13, 2016 at 11:16 am

    Great article very interesting, to be honest I never really got into using Twitter. I found it a bit confusing and aesthetically not really appealing. As far as using it, I can`t imagine anyone being addicted to it, like say Instagram or Snap Chat. However I think it`s really good for live events like boxing or a Cup Final, you always find hilarious Tweets from people.

    From a business point of view, I personally don`t think it`s that good, because there are so many other tweets coming, your audience probably won`t even see your post.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 7:14 pm

      Thanks Abel for your feedback. I totally agree with your points around Twitter and lots of people, like you, have never really got it. It is great though for following mega influencers and for live events.

  5. Stefanie

    May 13, 2016 at 6:18 am

    The reasons you stated are exactly the ones why I never entered in love with Twitter, Tim. I have been always asking myself: What’s so great about scheduling 3 tweets a day? There is so much meaningless stuff I’m not interested in, and I don’t want to be part of the people sharing these kind of stuff. Sometimes, I use it tweeting real time, and I find it helpful to enter in conversations with others.
    Thanks for sharing the article in LinkedIn. Gonna check this out, as I’m not too deep into LinkedIn yet. Since the people we want to reach out to are mostly in Facebook and Instagram, we spend more time there. I believe though that interaction has become stronger in Instagram than in Facebook.
    Do you use Snapchat? If yes, how is your experience? I haven’t used it so far, as I considered Snapchat to be more for teenagers and not for people I want to connect with. However, I heard Gary talking several times about it and it made me change my mind and check it out at least.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:55 am

      Stefanie thanks for sharing your experience. Yes I have played around with Snapchat. The main benefit of Snapchat is that it helps you build a deeper relationship with your audience. The disadvantage is that you can’t build an organic audience and have to bring over followers from platforms like Instagram – which i don’t like that much. The future is live streaming video though. I would try Snapchat out for yourself and see what you think. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

      • Stefanie

        May 18, 2016 at 4:17 pm

        Thanks for sharing your insights, Tim! Looking forward to more articles from you.

  6. Toño

    May 13, 2016 at 4:13 am

    You’ve done a beautiful introduction, Tim! I’m convinced now you may very well write a review on apps, tech products or even movies, from time to time. The story, once again delivered from your experience, kept me reading, despite having some home stuff to do before my beloved job.

    I believe, you may be a very good book writer, with your ability to explain things in simple way and deliver your emotions and state of mind in honest and available form. Oh, and have I mentioned already your talent for amazing intro? I think I did 🙂 I eagerly waiting for your book and subbed for your mailing list now not to miss on it. Take your time of course.

    Back to the article, I just realized you simply overgrown your little bird and took everything you could from this ‘relationship’. I get what you saying by ‘have credibility to use’ and I se it is not a hate, but rather constructive and valuable feedback, which, I am convinced, smart people should take as a pro tip.

    Social media took over our life so this is fully understandable we want some quality time to spend together.

    Thank you for my morning motivation, it was a good pleasure! Have a good day my friend, stay well and healthy 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:57 am

      Toño I am glad you like the intro. It’s how I really feel though…lol. Twitter was like someone I felt close to but over time it has just gone down because they have not innovated. They are starting to remind me a bit of Nokia when they were the most popular phone. I think they can still fix their issues but they need to do something.

      I have written an ebook so keep an eye out for it as i hope to complete it soon and am about to get the cover done. Thank you for taking the time to read through and for your compliments 🙂

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The Super Power Of Charisma – How You Can Adopt It For Yourself

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There’s this dude at the office. He’s fucking unstoppable.

His shit don’t stink and everything he touches turns to gold. At least that’s what I used to think.

Really, in reality, he’s just charismatic.

That’s how he got the cool job, the hot wifey and why everyone wants to be friends with him including me.

What does he do? Let’s delve a little deeper and discuss the eight things that lead to being charismatic:

 

1. Being confident baby!

This dude at work has swag. He backs himself even if he has no freaking idea what’s going to go down homey. In a business context, people that are confident are proven to be more trustworthy.

We trust confident people because it’s infectious. We want to work and be around confident people because it feels good. When something feels good, we do it, and do it lots!

My buddy at work walks into the room and people shake his hand because his presence changes the game. He also does these few things:

– He dresses confidently
– He pops his chest out just a fraction (not like the guy on the Bonds Singlet packet)
– He looks people in the eye

Out of these three, looking people in the eye is the hardest to do. To look into someone’s eye is the most vulnerable state you can put yourself in.

“The difference is that when you’re vulnerable, you connect with people better”

It also shows that you’ve got guts and allows you to enter their world. Okay, that’s wacky stuff and I may sound like I’ve read one too many “Power Of the Universe” type books. Take it or leave it chief.

 

2. Passion surrounds them. It pours out of their eyeballs!

Even the words I write demonstrate this. You can tell from everything I’m saying right now that passion pours out of me. I freaking love what I do and it shows even though you can’t see me or hear my voice. Okay, that’s a fraction creepy…enough about me.

This almighty bloke at work is charismatic because his values and beliefs are based on his passion. Passion is like a magnet according to science. When we see passion, it makes us start acting with more passion. You’re drawn to charisma in the same way because you want more of it.

There’s no point pretending you don’t like to be passionate because we all do. Sometimes, we just get lost and lose our passion for life or our career. That’s okay! None of us are perfect souls who don’t lose our way once in a while. I’m fucking lost more than I’m on track half the time.

Bottom-line: charismatic people are surrounded by passion. I don’t care if it’s collecting matchsticks or building sand castles – find something to get excited about and then show your passion for it.

 

3. They’re not vain: selfies are not their highest priority.

This charismatic chappy at work doesn’t spend half his days taking selfies of himself and then posting it on social media.

He doesn’t take photos of his food and then post it on social – he just eats it. He’d rather jump off a bridge than be a pretentious snob who’s insecure and has an inflated ego to compensate.

“The number one sign of a pretentious person vs a charismatic person is that they take credit for things they didn’t do”

Or they make things sound ten times bigger than they actually are in reality. Don’t fall for this trap young Indiana Jones. You’re better than that!

 

4. Expressing yourself through great stories

Storytelling is one of the many traits a charismatic person has. If you listen closely to their stories, you’ll notice they use strong phrases like “I know X to be true” instead of phrases like “I think,” or “I hope” which sounds weak.

Through stories, you can be: funny, vulnerable and share embarrassing moments. That’s what charismatic people do and they draw everyone in through their stories. As a side note, their stories don’t go on forever and they know how to get to the point.

Become a charismatic poet through stories about your experiences. Educate and inspire people around you and you’ll be acting charismatic by default.

 

5. Make other people feel comfortable around you

Not everyone is a hero and is comfortable being charismatic and confident. You can demonstrate charisma by learning to make others feel relaxed around you. Make other people the center of attention and let them feel special. There’s a subtle difference between charisma and hogging the conversation with your own bombastic, overpowering, unnecessary and selfish talk.

Back down; you’re not that big of a deal. Once you do that, you’ll have entered the universe of charisma.

 

6. A clear purpose and vision. In other words, they know why.

Part of what makes up the DNA of a charismatic person is their purpose or vision for their life. Quite simply, they know what they’re on this planet to do. They have a goal, it’s measurable, and they’ll stop at nothing until they achieve it.

To be in this state requires a certain sort of self-confidence that charismatic people have in spades. People seem to rally around a person who knows their purpose.

You can’t do anything and be motivated unless you know why. Without a why you’ll never build up enough momentum to reach any sort of peak performance. Mediocrity happens to us when we give up too easily. When we start a new pursuit for 4 weeks and then give up.

Map the seven seas of why you exist. Do a heap of self-reflection if you need to, to find this vision and bring it to the surface.

 

7. They look approachable

Most people look like they’re zombies when you walk past them and they almost look like they’re going to explode if you dare talk to them. That’s not charisma pal!

That unapproachable zombie look is called being scared, fearful and afraid due to a lack of self-awareness and a lack of self-improvement. It’s not the end of the world and it can be turned around.

The difference with charismatic people is one little, tiny thing: they smile. All you have to do is change one little thing – smile a bit more. Smiling is contagious and it makes people feel confident. It also makes you feel freaking amazing too!

 

8. They give more than anyone else and expect jack in return

This last one is the toughest trait of charismatic people. It sounds incredibly difficult and that’s because it is. We all have our own selfish desires that make us feel good, although only for a moment.

Charismatic people wow everyone around them by always going above and beyond to give. They either give time, money, knowledge or a listening ear to those who need it. The crazy, passionate, charismatic people even combine several of these to produce an outcome that can only be described as extraordinary.

Many of us do in fact give; the challenge is we expect something back. Worse, we even complain when we do an honorable act and get nothing in return. This is not how to play the game of life. This selfish behavior will make you very unhappy until you cut it the hell out!

“The secret to living is giving ” Tony Robbins

So let’s go over this one more time boss. To harness the superpower of giving that leads to charisma you must:

– Be prepared to give more than anybody else
– Expect nothing in return
– Ensure your own foolish and selfish desires are not front of mind every day

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The Real Reason Why Your Dreams Don’t Become a Reality According to ‘The 10x Rule’ by Grant Cardone

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Everyone has dreams. We all want to make something of ourselves yet it’s only a tiny percentage of people ever follow through. The self-help world encourages us to “Think Big”, “Follow Your Passions”, “Live as if there was no such thing as failure” and it usually just leads to keeping people stuck in a dream state, wishing, hoping and fantasizing yet never actually moving forward.

Why is this? Thinking big is just one part of the equation. This missing piece in the jigsaw is a bias towards massive action. Big Dreams + Little Action = disappointment and frustration.

Thinking and dreaming big must match with the equal and equivalent amount of action for it to go anywhere. When you combine big thinking with massive action you will be surprised at how much you are capable of, once you tap into the power of momentum.

What stops most people from achieving their goals?

I’ve been reading Grant Cardone’s “The 10X Rule: The Only Difference Between Success and Failure” and in his view success comes from taking 10 times more action than you previously anticipated.

What stops most people from achieving a goal is underestimating the time, effort and energy involved in completing the project. They don’t spend enough time listing the steps required to succeed, the adversity they will need to overcome to push things through and the price they must pay to attain the goal.

If the number one sticking point in goal attainment is a lack of action then it’s obvious that the solution is in massive action. So what happens is they give up at the first sign of frustration or disappointment.

“Never reduce a target. Instead increase actions. When you start rethinking your targets, making up excuses, and letting yourself off the hook, you are giving up on your dreams.” – Grant Cardone

When I look back on my own life, anything I have ever achieved that was worthwhile did take an extraordinary amount of effort. Anytime I have ever coasted or done a “normal” amount of work, I would fall short of my target and feel the pain of frustration and disappointment which lead to reducing my targets.

In “The 10 X Rule” Cardone talks about his own failures in business and how he bounced back; “I committed to making this work by increasing my efforts 10 times. And as soon as I did that, everything started to change – immediately. I went back into the marketplace with the right estimation of effort and started seeing results. Instead of making two to three calls a day, I started doing 20 to 30

Most people fail only because they are operating at the wrong degree of action. There are 4 degrees of action which you can choose from:

  1. Do Nothing
  2. Retreat
  3. Take Normal Levels of Action
  4. Take Massive Action

At the “do nothing” level people are just accepting what comes their way. They are not pushing themselves or motivated to improve any area of their lives.

Retreaters are those who have taken action, experienced some setbacks or failures and retreated back into “doing nothing”. Examples of this include “Most businesses fail anyway so I am going to give up”, “Marriages aren’t working out these days so I will stay single”, “Businesses aren’t employing so I am going to file for unemployment benefit”.

The third degree is normal levels of action which is usually considered adequate. Grant says this is the most dangerous level where most people blend in, never stand out and thus never achieve the real success they wanted.

Lastly there is massive action which Cardone states is our most natural state. This is where you burst forth with 10 times the action you previously anticipated. “The goal is to be seen, thought of and considered – in one way or another. Your only problem is obscurity not talent”.

Obscurity is your only problem not talent. I like that. I am sure you all know someone who is less capable than you but experiencing much more success than you are. Why? Because they are more known and fearlessly putting themselves “out there”. So which degree of action are you taking currently? And will you commit to taking 10x action?

“Regardless of which degree of action you operate in, they all require work in their own way.” – Grant Cardone

So why not set your goals and actions higher than you ever imagined because it is highly likely you are not only underestimating the time, energy and effort involved in your endeavour, you are also likely underestimating your own capabilities and potential. Set high goals and never stop fighting.

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My Thoughts On Money After Being Both Rich And Poor

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I’ve been in financial situations where I couldn’t even afford a pizza.

I know what it’s like to have more money than you can spend. I know what it’s like to see your goals turn into cold hard cash.

Through these two extremes of poverty and wealth, I’ve learned a thing or two about money.

 

Your mind constructs money

Whether you feel rich or not has to do with your mind.

You can have $100 in your bank account and feel like the richest guy or girl in California. How rich you feel comes down to your internal programming. If you practice being grateful, then you’ll find yourself believing that you are already rich. You can have all the money this world has to offer and still feel poor.

“The time I felt the poorest was when I had the most money, but zero meaning for my life”

I always felt at this time in my life like I needed more. I always felt I wasn’t enough. When I went through the whole personal development transformation phase of my life, all of a sudden, just having money to buy a hot chocolate felt amazing!

Be careful what the world tells you about money. You get to decide the difference between rich vs. poor. The money you have in your bank account doesn’t answer this question for you.

 

Meaning Vs. Money

When I discovered a meaning for my life, suddenly money wasn’t as important. The dumb thing was that money started to find its way into my life again without me focusing on it. People were attracted to the meaning I had created for my life which then bought me more abundance.

My advice to anyone reading this is to focus on finding out the meaning of your life. If you can’t figure it out, then create one. Think about who you admire and the meaning they have for their life, and create something similar for yourself.

If you want to inspire people, then do it.
If you want to create a business that gives back, then do it.
If you want to write blog posts like this one to help people in life, then do it.

During the time I had more money than I knew what to do with, I had no idea what I was put on this Earth to do. I would import widget A, make some money, import widget B, and then start all over again. I felt like a robot repeating a pattern. At the end of the process, I got another couple of zeroes in my bank account.

Those zeros on the screen of my Internet banking got very boring, very quickly.

As soon as I found something that lit me up and helped others, the focus on seeing more zero’s on my Internet banking screen disappeared.

 

Im not saying money doesn’t matter

If you just read that Tim Denning thinks money doesn’t matter, then you didn’t get me.

Money does matter, but it shouldn’t be your primary focus. Your primary focus should be finding meaning which will lead you to something that self-motivates you. This self-motivating activity can then be monetized to give you the resources you need to live like food, shelter and maybe a vacation once in a while.

What I want you to feel is that your focus is on something other than money.

“Having been both rich and poor, I’ve mostly felt nothing at both extremes”

 

Meaning can also be found in life’s simple pleasures

I remember the feeling I got from reading Unlimited Power.
I remember what it was like when I fell in love for the first time.
I remember how cool it was to go on my very first overseas holiday.

All of these memories gave me a meaning for my life and made me feel something. Each memory created a variety of emotions that I can still remember as I reminisce on these pastimes.

Meaning came to me through the simplest of pleasures. I didn’t need a million dollar Lamborghini to make me feel like I was on top of the world. Lying on a beach with friends spending no money gave me far more than I could ever imagine.

If you’d told me this five years ago, I would have called you a liar. Having been both rich and poor, I now understand what meaning money gives me: not much.

 

Final words on money…

Focus on who you can become. Find or create a meaning for your life than transcends money.

Go beyond what society tells you about money. Most of it is a lie. Money will not give you meaning or make you happy.

Only you can create happiness and meaning for yourself.

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5 Powerful Lessons About Success From Highly Successful Mentors

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We can’t help it. When we read an interview with a high flying, successful person, we secretly compare ourselves to them with our mind making little mental notes. Their lives seem perfect, and they seem so poised and confident. I wish I could be like that. Why do they seem to have it all, while I am struggling? When will things ever go my way?

For the longest time, I too believed in these popular myths of success, until I met several CEOs who became my mentors. When I asked each one of them what is the one biggest lesson they would like to share, their answers were unexpected, powerful and humbling.

These are the 5 powerful and humbling lessons they shared about success:

1. Nobody has Their Stuff Together

Just when you least expect it, an obstacle pops up, threatening to derail you from your goal. And sometimes, the bad news just keeps coming, which kicks you in the gut and you feel ready to give up. In comparison, successful people seem to be blazing trails of success. It almost seems unfair. While they appear to be picture perfect, where nothing can go wrong, the truth of it is this:

Nobody has their stuff together. We see these crowning moments of glory. But we don’t see the private, vulnerable moments behind the scenes. The sleepless nights worrying about what to do, where a series of wrong decisions resulted in people getting laid off. The endless meals alone in yet another soulless hotel room, with no one to share the burden with, because they don’t have the time to make a relationship work.

Obstacles and problems will always exist, no matter who you are. However, the challenges appearing to each of us is unique, and help us grow beyond the level we are at. A successful life is not about a lack of challenges, it’s about navigating and growing through the challenges so that we continue evolving to become the fullest potential of who we are.

2. Uncertainty Never Disappears

Brimming with confidence and well spoken, they always seem to know exactly what to say, and what to do in any situation. They seem to be the last people on earth to flail and feel vulnerable.

While on the surface they appear to be confident, the struggle with not knowing what to do plagues them as much as us. This can be the uncertainty of making a project work, because they have never done it before or lacking the necessary experience.

They can be worried that by taking this on, they might be biting off more than they can chew and experience massive failure and disastrous consequences. Nonetheless, the difference for them is despite their fears, they say yes and go ahead.

“Human spirit is the ability to face the uncertainty of the future with curiosity and optimism. It is the belief that problems can be solved, differences resolved. It is a type of confidence. And it is fragile. It can be blackened by fear and superstition.” – Bernard Beckett

3. Jump Before You Are Ready

Uncertainty and not knowing is a part of life. It never goes away. If you stay where you are, it feels safe and comfortable. But, it is a guarantee that you would not rise beyond where you are now if you don’t step out and make your move.

To take the leap of faith, your work through the uncertainty is the only way to grow. The fear of the unknown is not as scary as we make it out to be. All you have to do is to ask yourself “Do I believe I have what it takes to figure it out?” If your gut says yes, go for it.

4. It’s Not about External Motivation

Most successful people come with the traditional markers of success. Wealth. Status. A comfortable lifestyle. However, external motivation – the cars, the houses, the jewelry etc – can only motivate them so much.

Their motivation stems not from the outside – but from within themselves. It’s about their internal drive to be better thus building and expanding a grander vision of what they wish to create, and where they want to be.

That internal motivation is the driving force that pushes them through when things start to fall apart, because then it’s a battle within to overcome these setbacks and achieve their vision.

5. They Are Mental Ninja Masters

When everything that could go wrong, would go wrong, it’s natural to beat ourselves up. This negative feedback loop keeps replaying in our minds, and we start believing our negative self-talk, which threatens to spiral out of control and bring us down.

A few years ago, one of the CEOs I interviewed, Dave, was going through a particularly difficult time. Several major business deals fell through in quick succession. He emptied his life savings trying to keep things afloat, only for it to backfire and lost his life savings in the process.

He was faced with the real possibility of laying off hundreds of people at the company. Many lives were at stake here, and the pressure was on. He faltered, but only for a day.

He then rallied and continued to hustle. He hustled harder, stronger and faster than ever before. It was fascinating and impressive. What was his secret to bouncing back so fast from all the punches thrown at him?

He didn’t allow the negativity to control him. He controlled and directed his mind. Half the battle is with ourselves. We are often our own worst enemy with our negative self-talk.

Mastering control over your mind, instead of letting your mind control you is half the battle. Stop the negative self-talk when it happens. Redirect it towards positive action to achieve the outcome you desire.

“Protect your enthusiasm from the negativity of others.” – H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

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