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Breaking Up With Twitter Because It's Dead

Dear Twitter, when we fell in love in March 2009, you were the cutest and the best bird I had ever met. I remember when we used to sit in bed together during those long, cold, winter nights. Now I just feel like I don’t know you anymore.

You never let me speak my mind with your 140-character limit, and you have become overweight with too many part time users. I don’t feel like you talk to me enough by sharing what I tweet on you, and you hardly share me with your friends like you used to.

Other, much cuter birds, have taken my attention away from you like Instagram with her sexy filtered pictures, flawless skin, and luscious colors. I started cheating on you with Instagram and then I found myself hooking up with her friends Snapchat and Periscope.

To my surprise, I even find myself starting to look again at older more mature birds like Facebook because of the way you make me feel. You haven’t aged as gracefully as others with your ever increasing wrinkles, and your inner beauty just doesn’t shine through like the bird I once knew.

Every time I tell you that you need a makeover, you just ignore me with your short bites of content and your robotic auto replies. So Twitter, I can’t do this anymore. I am breaking up with you. I’ll miss you Twitter but the time has come for me to see other people. Tim.

Below are the eight reasons why I broke up with Twitter:

 

1. Automated posts

One of the challenges Twitter is having is that social media is making a move towards real-time. I’m not saying that Twitter is the only platform that has automated posts, but it’s one of the worst offenders.

There are so many Twitter accounts that have more than three tweets a day, and you just know that they were scheduled a long way in advance. Many of these same tweets are often rehashed content from the user’s account that has been posted before on Twitter.

Tweets just feel too spammy these days and like a robot is writing them, and then repeating them over and over. It’s this reason more than any other that I believe Twitter is dying a slow death. Their financial position at times seems to reflect the same sentiment.

 

2. Followers are meaningless

Twitter, more than any other social platform, has the ability to add followers, which I now believe, are virtually meaningless. There are so many automated follower software tools that you can use to fake the number of followers you really have.

It’s not about the number of followers you have; I believe it’s about the amount of engagement you have with your followers that is the real power.

 

3. Useless automated replies

Not only are followers meaningless, but when you connect with someone new Twitter allows users to have spammy auto replies. These automated replies usually have some form of self-promotion or link to a product that someone wants you to buy.

This whole function just feels outdated and adds to the argument that Twitter is not relevant anymore and is dying a slow death.

 

4. Not enough characters

Fundamentally, one of the restrictions of Twitter is the number of characters you can type. In the beginning, it was cool, but over time, it has just become annoying because you can’t say anything of any substance.

This is why tweets are not memorable, which in turn, makes a lot of what the platform does forgettable. Maybe I am wrong on this one, but I get this feedback from people on social media all the time.

 

5. Engagement is at an all time low

Twitter Having Problems - Jack DorseyI am lucky enough to be connected with quite a few mega influencers who have followers in the hundreds of thousands. I don’t tell you this to brag; I mention it because it allows me to ask the successful people on Twitter their thoughts of the current state of play.

Every single one of them says that their engagement with their fans on Twitter is at an all time low, and they just don’t get the same level of retweets and favoured tweets as they use too.

Many are moving to other social media outlets or automating their accounts entirely so they can concentrate on other platforms.

 

6. Too much spam

As I have highlighted in the previous points, and I want to highlight again, Twitter just has too much spam nowadays. Many of the posts are not about adding value but are more focused towards shameless self-promotion.

It seems like Twitter has become the one platform that has ignored Gary Vaynerchuk’s advice from his book Jab, Jab, Jab, Right Hook. For those who haven’t read it, it’s a simple concept; deliver three tweets of value (the jabs) and then one tweet (the right hook) with an ask such as “subscribe to my mailing list.”

 

7. Uninspiring interface

Over time Twitters, interface hasn’t changed a lot. Beginners still find the Twitter concept hard to understand, and the interface is nothing too exciting, What Twitter needs in its interface is some cool new features.

Without any updates, I fear that Twitter will continue to go the same way as the Apple iPhone. It will continue to lose its relevance and what made it an awesome platform in the first place.

 

8. Too many hashtags

Hashtags are a great way to find content on social media. Another reason why I believe Twitter is dying a slow death is that hashtags have become overused on the platform. When you write one sentence and have three or more hashtags all promoting a brand or product, it just doesn’t feel right.

 

***Final Thought***

To be clear, this post is really my personal opinion of Twitter, and I’d like to think I have some credibility around its use. The purpose of this post is not to hate on Twitter but to point out some improvements so that maybe the masses will lobby for change.

While I think Twitter is dying there are still some great social media platforms that will achieve some similar Forget The LinkedIn Guru's And Communicate Like A Humanresults. An example of one is LinkedIn, which has gone from a site about people’s resumes, to a real, multifaceted social media platform.

I feel that LinkedIn engagement is at an all-time high, and the “Influencer Pages” are what Twitter should have done. Even though Twitter is becoming less attractive, I still find that following super-human influencers with millions of followers – like Tony Robbins and Richard Branson – is 100% worth my time.

Are you going to break up with Twitter? What’s your current favourite social media platform and why? Let me know in the comments section below or on my website timdenning.net and my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook.

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  1. Gleeo

    Jul 9, 2016 at 11:22 pm

    Tim, you have summed up my thought regarding Twitter. It’s platform that I joined late. I’ve never had any enjoyable interaction with friends or followers. I’ve often wondered, does anyone really see these posts. Usually on Facebook and or LinkedIn I receive feedback, so I know I’m engaging people. I might leave my Twitter account alone and focus my efforts on LinkedIn and Facebook. What do you think of periscope? Is there much happening on that platform?

  2. Rob Malone

    May 23, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    Not only was this very insightful and dead on, concerning twitters issues it was extremely well written. Very engaging and entertaining.

    Nice job

    • Tim Denning

      May 29, 2016 at 5:15 am

      Thanks Rob I am glad you enjoyed my point of view around Twitter!

  3. Marquita Herald

    May 14, 2016 at 2:03 pm

    Couldn’t agree more. I’m still on Twitter because as an author I pretty much have to be there for my “platform” numbers, and I post at least a couple of things each day, but almost never invest the time to go through the feed or read DM messages. I know others may say I’m foolish, but I’m spending more time on Google Plus. I love the Collections feature and it’s just so much easier to connect and engage with people.

    Facebook is definitely the big guy on the block, but a few months ago I gave up and deleted my fan page and now focus on engaging in groups and using my profile page. I’ve never posted “personal” information there anyway, and many of my readers post comments about my articles and books on my profile so it’s actually working out much better than my page ever did. I am certainly no expert but I do believe it’s important to remain flexible about social media and be willing to try new things rather than settle in anywhere for the long haul. Thanks!

    • Tim Denning

      May 15, 2016 at 5:21 am

      Marquita thank you for sharing your own perspective. I have never really used Google Plus so I must give it a go. Direct messages on Twitter are mostly just auto responses and there is just too much noise. For me, in my newsfeed, I don;t want to see every followers update but there is no way to block out followers easily. I have starting using Pic feed to help with this.

  4. Abel Solomon

    May 13, 2016 at 11:16 am

    Great article very interesting, to be honest I never really got into using Twitter. I found it a bit confusing and aesthetically not really appealing. As far as using it, I can`t imagine anyone being addicted to it, like say Instagram or Snap Chat. However I think it`s really good for live events like boxing or a Cup Final, you always find hilarious Tweets from people.

    From a business point of view, I personally don`t think it`s that good, because there are so many other tweets coming, your audience probably won`t even see your post.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 7:14 pm

      Thanks Abel for your feedback. I totally agree with your points around Twitter and lots of people, like you, have never really got it. It is great though for following mega influencers and for live events.

  5. Stefanie

    May 13, 2016 at 6:18 am

    The reasons you stated are exactly the ones why I never entered in love with Twitter, Tim. I have been always asking myself: What’s so great about scheduling 3 tweets a day? There is so much meaningless stuff I’m not interested in, and I don’t want to be part of the people sharing these kind of stuff. Sometimes, I use it tweeting real time, and I find it helpful to enter in conversations with others.
    Thanks for sharing the article in LinkedIn. Gonna check this out, as I’m not too deep into LinkedIn yet. Since the people we want to reach out to are mostly in Facebook and Instagram, we spend more time there. I believe though that interaction has become stronger in Instagram than in Facebook.
    Do you use Snapchat? If yes, how is your experience? I haven’t used it so far, as I considered Snapchat to be more for teenagers and not for people I want to connect with. However, I heard Gary talking several times about it and it made me change my mind and check it out at least.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:55 am

      Stefanie thanks for sharing your experience. Yes I have played around with Snapchat. The main benefit of Snapchat is that it helps you build a deeper relationship with your audience. The disadvantage is that you can’t build an organic audience and have to bring over followers from platforms like Instagram – which i don’t like that much. The future is live streaming video though. I would try Snapchat out for yourself and see what you think. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

      • Stefanie

        May 18, 2016 at 4:17 pm

        Thanks for sharing your insights, Tim! Looking forward to more articles from you.

  6. Toño

    May 13, 2016 at 4:13 am

    You’ve done a beautiful introduction, Tim! I’m convinced now you may very well write a review on apps, tech products or even movies, from time to time. The story, once again delivered from your experience, kept me reading, despite having some home stuff to do before my beloved job.

    I believe, you may be a very good book writer, with your ability to explain things in simple way and deliver your emotions and state of mind in honest and available form. Oh, and have I mentioned already your talent for amazing intro? I think I did 🙂 I eagerly waiting for your book and subbed for your mailing list now not to miss on it. Take your time of course.

    Back to the article, I just realized you simply overgrown your little bird and took everything you could from this ‘relationship’. I get what you saying by ‘have credibility to use’ and I se it is not a hate, but rather constructive and valuable feedback, which, I am convinced, smart people should take as a pro tip.

    Social media took over our life so this is fully understandable we want some quality time to spend together.

    Thank you for my morning motivation, it was a good pleasure! Have a good day my friend, stay well and healthy 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:57 am

      Toño I am glad you like the intro. It’s how I really feel though…lol. Twitter was like someone I felt close to but over time it has just gone down because they have not innovated. They are starting to remind me a bit of Nokia when they were the most popular phone. I think they can still fix their issues but they need to do something.

      I have written an ebook so keep an eye out for it as i hope to complete it soon and am about to get the cover done. Thank you for taking the time to read through and for your compliments 🙂

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The One Strategy to Help You Create Meaningful Work

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This past week I had dinner with a friend who had recently returned from Japan. While hearing about her trip, the Japanese concept of Ikigai came up and had stayed on my mind for days. I found it really compelling and couldn’t help but delve into the topic.

Ikigai, pronounced (ee-kee-guy), translates to “One’s Reason for Being.” It is believed that everyone has an Iikigai and discovering it brings satisfaction and meaning to life. The challenge is to find it since it requires a deep and often lengthy search of self.

I invite you to explore whether you have found your meaningful work- your Ikigai- because if you haven’t then you might be working to help someone else achieve theirs.

Not too long ago, I was going through my own career struggle. I was extremely unhappy and disconnected to my work. I only wanted to wake up inspired and enjoy what I do, instead of playing various scenarios in my head telling my manager that I was ready to quit.

I had no clue what would be the best fit for me. I craved a meaningful career, not just a job to get by. I tried testing different options, but as time went by I lost hope that I would ever be able to discover my life’s work.

I was desperate for clarity, but instead, I was getting more and more confused. Later on, it became clear to me I was doing it all wrong. I was influenced by countless opinions and suggestions of others, all showing how work should be, which eventually resulted in a total choice paralysis: Should I start a business? Should I try to establish myself in a company? What was I even interested in? What was I truly good at?

When it finally became clear, I couldn’t believe it took me almost two years to figure it out, because it was so simple.

The one strategy I needed was starting backwards.

I started by unwinding my creative imagination and used a design thinking approach. I knew once I crafted a vision about work which could get me excited, I would be on the right track. In the beginning, I was trying to create my life around a career, instead of doing just the opposite. I had to first design the life I wanted to have and then search for what careers fit that lifestyle.

“The life you want begins by embracing the life you have.” – Rob Bell

I had to start backwards from the bigger vision of what I wanted my life and work to look like. Not many people will implement that approach, but for me, it made all the difference. I took my time to articulate my own perspective on life and work. I figured I should be asking myself different questions which would help me understand what I wanted for my life as a whole, not just my career, family, or social life.

Truth be told, our work consumes a huge amount of our time. Spending it asking the wrong questions won’t get us any further. The key to a happy and fulfilled life is to create a way to integrate all areas of life into a coherent lifestyle. A life that allows us to fully express ourselves and our beliefs in order to be content with how we spend our time. Essentially, all of us want to live a happy and fulfilled life as opposed to a mediocre existence.

I started with the bigger vision in mind and asked myself the following questions:

  • What is the lifestyle I want to have?
  • What do I want my day to day activities to be?
  • Where would I like to work from?
  • What hours and intensity of work do I want to commit to?
  • What is my social and family life going to look like?
  • What are the fields of interest that I would like to develop, learn and grow in?
  • Who and what is supporting my values and interests?
  • What is making me proud to say what I do for a living, and why?
  • What impact do I want to create for the society and for the community I am a part of?
  • How do I want to make money and how much money do I need to feel comfortable supporting myself and my family?

Once I reflected on all of these questions I was able to look at my life from a much more creative angle. I gave way to my imagination and curiosity, because I saw my life as a joyous experience I wanted to intentionally design. I was approaching my career with a whole new perspective, which allowed me to see opportunities I didn’t think existed before.

I have come to realize that our school system is more often preparing us for a scripted life. It isn’t set up to propel asking the important questions. In fact, there isn’t a class which teaches how to discover meaning and fulfillment. Climbing the corporate ladder only to wake up bored every morning isn’t what we signed up for, but somehow most of us end up doing just that.

“Create the highest grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey

Today, I dare you to create your Ikigai- by getting clear on what you desire your life’s work to be. Start designing your vision with intention and you’ll encounter wonderful serendipities. The right people will come your way, opportunities will align and eventually, you’ll find yourself on the right track.

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I Can’t Always Be Mr Success And Neither Can You.

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Today I stuffed up big time.

I’ve spent the last five years becoming disciplined and learning every self-improvement hack I could.

I’ve tried very hard not to drink too much alcohol, minimise my sugar intake, reframe from swearing, treat people better, give more to those in need and be an all round good human being.

But today I F*#ked that up. Can you believe it?

Well, you better.

As hard as I try to be successful, there are going to be times when I mess up. Today was the day I was put to the test.

So today we had a function for work, and we went to a secluded island to sit back, relax, and let our hair down. We had to board a ferry to the island and there was a long line of people. Our group was at the front because we had waited for the longest.

When we finally got to the front, a young lady attempted to push in. Without thinking, my friend and I prevented the cue-cutting attempt. What happened next shocked me. This lady then began dishing out all sorts of insults.

She made fun of the way I looked, accused me of being such a low life that I must be single, had a crack at my financial position and everything under the sun. I managed to reframe from overreacting until I let one insult slip.

That insult is what surprised me. I’ve tried so much to be well behaved and then in the heat of the moment I broke the promise to myself.

 

It’s normal to mess up.

Okay, so I’ve been well-behaved for quite a while and you probably have to. It’s not the end of the world when you fall back into your old ways for a brief moment. The key is to acknowledge when you’ve returned to an old pattern and stop yourself.

The moment I let out that inappropriate insult, I knew I’d stepped over the line. It didn’t feel good. I felt guilty. I wanted to take it back but couldn’t because the young woman had left.

“If you try and cruise through life, and never break your commitments, you’ll fail and hate yourself”

There needs to be some room for stuff ups. You have to be okay with being imperfect once in a while.

 

The idea is to outweigh the bad.

What I mean by this is that you need to aim for 51% or more of quality habits, conversations, gestures, etc. The more you tip the scales over to the good side, the less you’ll be tempted to fall back to your old ways.

 

Shooting your mouth off like I did is only a temporary blemish.

You can come back from it and it all starts with taking ownership. Being in denial or acting like you did nothing is not okay. Being a leader and admitting the error in your ways takes guts and that will lead you towards success in the long run.

“Don’t let a brief moment of madness ruin all the progress you’ve made”

Make your temporary mishaps parts of the self-improvement process and use them as a lesson. Experience the regret that comes with being out of alignment with your true self.

This personal incongruency is the motivation you need to stand true to your commitments.

 

Sometimes we all need a reminder.

Otherwise, we forget the life we’ve left behind and it becomes far to easy to lose the plot and rack up a scorecard of negative activities. That slap in the face that you get when you go back to the past and reunite with your addictions and temptations is exactly what you need.

Reconnecting with the past gives you perspective. It also shows you how far you’ve come. The moment your personal progress is under threat, you’ll be surprised how quickly your mind puts you back on the path you were on.

 

It always starts with trying to be right.

Falling back to your old ways always starts with trying to be right. It’s because we all secretly hold rules of how life is supposed to be and when someone violates that rule, we risk going back to our former self. You can’t always be right so stop pretending you can be.

Don’t let trying to be right all the time stand in the way of all the progress you have made. I know it sucks when someone does something that violates what you believe but think before you take action. There are times when you should stand up and there are other times (like my recent encounter) when you should just reframe from going down the rabbit hole of rules you wished people would live by.

 

The truth is we all stuff up.

Even your favorite pop star Katy Perry loses her mind once in a while. That’s right I saw when she was interviewed by a therapist and she had a brief moment of huge failure, embarrassment, and dirty laundry aired on TV. It’s okay.

Once you understand that there are times you are going to do the opposite of what your goals say, and that’s cool, you’ll live a much more relaxed life.

 

Try forgiveness.

This is what I tried after the mishap on the ferry. I permitted myself to mess up. I told myself I was sorry and committed to making up for what I’d done. The most difficult person to forgive is yourself a lot of the time and that’s who needs it the most.

Don’t just try and be kind to others; be kind to yourself too. If you forgive yourself more often when things go wrong, you’ll discover what it’s like to take failure and disappointment by the curly ones and own your life.

 

Life is about owning your successes and your mishaps.

The mishaps lead to your success, eventually.

Never forget that. I’m not successful 24/7 and neither are you.

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The Three Fundamental Principles of Achievement

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I’m all about keeping things simple. The world is much too complex and I find that much like Vince Lombardi, we tend to complicate things. If we just focus on truly mastering the basics, we can achieve whatever we set our hearts and minds to. One of my favorite stories comes from Coach Lombardi’s best-selling book.

“He took nothing for granted. He began a tradition of starting from scratch, assuming that the players were blank slates who carried over no knowledge from the year before… He began with the most elemental statement of all. “Gentlemen,” he said, holding a pigskin in his right hand, “this is a football.”

It is the summer of 1961, and he begins training by introducing a “football” to a bunch of men who had been playing football for years, perhaps well over a decade. Was this Insulting? No, because the players obviously knew what a football was. Nonetheless, from day one Vince Lombardi was teaching them the basics. This was the secret of one of the winningest coaches in the history of football because the basic, fundamental principles never fail.

When you build a wall, the basic element is a single brick. Put enough of them together, in the right pattern and you have your wall. Concert pianists use only eight keys to create the world’s greatest masterpieces. They don’t try to come up with new notes. They work with what they have.

As fortune would have it, there are basic principles of achievement that when mastered, create success. It’s a formula you can count on, which is as predictable as the sunrise. Success doesn’t care how old you are, how much money you have or haven’t earned in the past. It doesn’t give a hoot about your skin color, background or where you grew up. Regardless of who you are, success is achieved when the basics are mastered.

Here are three of the most fundamental principles of achievement:

1. High-achievers take action

With a ready-fire-aim mentality, nothing beats taking action. You could pull out a great book about success and learn from the greats, but there is no better teacher than experience, which comes only from taking action.

The dangerous thing about the internet is the overabundance of information as we’re still a little unsure of how to handle it. Because of all this new information, many entrepreneurs can easily get caught in a comfort zone of learning because it makes them feel like they’re doing something when they’re not sure what else to do or they’re afraid to take action. By reading another book or listening to one more podcast, they delay action and don’t have to feel guilty.

Others spend too much time making a decision. They worry about making the “right” decision. A mentor of mine taught me that it’s far more powerful to “make a decision, and then make it right.” If you find out it’s wrong, make a new decision, pivot quickly and take new action. Whatever you do, avoid getting caught up in analysis paralysis. Action is the cure.

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” – Tony Robbins

2. Consistent action breeds momentum

Momentum is the mitochondria of the cell; the powerhouse. When you have momentum on your side, several benefits kick in. For example, challenges shrink from overwhelming obstacles to small speed bumps and you will tend to make decisions quickly. Small annoyances become meaningless as momentum serendipitously brings with it a cousin named “confidence.”

Think back to the last time you made a lane change while driving. It was easy; you glanced over your shoulder (hopefully) to make sure there was adequate space, put on your blinker and drove into the other lane.

Compare that with your lane getting caught in a standstill. The lane next to you is cruising along, must be an accident up ahead. Naturally, you want to make the same maneuver- a lane change. You look over your shoulder and…wait. You wait for a gap sufficiently large enough to allow you to jump into the lane and speed up without cutting off oncoming traffic.

Granted, some drivers don’t seem to care much about that (ask me how I know), but you get the idea. Momentum is a mindset game changer. When you have it, everything seems easier because everything is “going your way.”

3. Habit takes over and rules it all

Once you are consistently taking action, and you’re having fun because of all this newfound momentum on your side, you’re likely to repeat it and form a habit. Firstly, this happens mentally and then physically. Mentally, a habit is a new way of thinking about things, because your expectations change. Without realizing, you begin “looking” for good things to happen because you just know they will. You become an optimist.

Your habits are the backbone to your success. Once you start the mental habit of thinking like a successful person and you start doing the things successful people do every day, your life changes. Success is inevitable. It’s the law of the harvest- you reap what you sow. Plant good seeds in the spring, water them all summer and fall will produce.

“Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.” – Brian Tracy

If you aren’t where you want to be in life, take a deeper look and you’ll notice a breakdown somewhere along the way. Be honest in your self-diagnosis and admit when you’re off track. Allow for mistakes, because perfectionism is one of the great plagues prevalent in our society.

So now that you’ve read this blog, stop learning and start earning. Get up and take action- start the cycle and see how it changes your life.

Which one of these principles will help you most this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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My Giant Imaginary Billboard Would Say This: The Stories You Tell Yourself Come True.

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We’ve all played the game where we try to think of a message we’d put on a metaphorical billboard that costs us nothing.

The point of the exercise is to try and find out what one message you would share with the world that could change the game for all of us.

I racked my brain trying to think of mine. There are so many messages I want to share. Finally, I figured out what mine would be.

The message I would put on a giant billboard is:

“The stories you tell yourself come true”

 

The stories you tell yourself.

The reason I chose this powerful message is that it’s the one thing that has changed the course of my life. When I began telling myself a new story, everything around me appeared differently. I genuinely believe that I am going to change the world in a big way and create positivity.

You have a recurring story running through your own brain that you’re probably unaware of. The story might be one like this:

– Life is hard, so I better relax tonight.
– I need to make more money so life will get easier.
– Why do these disasters always happen to me?
– Why is it so hard to make a living?
– Why can’t I find my passion like everyone else?

These stories are all built on a lie. These stories focus on inaction and that will get you nowhere.

 

The stories you tell start with a question.

To improve your story, you first need to start by asking better questions. Questions that limit you will destroy your success. I’ve found the best questions to ask yourself have the following elements:

– They’re big and audacious
– They mention the phrase “Changing the world”
– They’re open-ended
– They assume the best, not the worst
– They’re not of a selfish nature

Write down some questions that will help you create a new story for your life.

 

You’re going to be repeating this story a lot so it might as well be good.

These stories play over and over in our head every day. You might as well have a story that’s interesting and makes you feel good don’t you think?

I don’t want to hear nonsense playing in my head on repeat. There’s enough of that in day-to-day life already.

That’s why my story says the following:

– I will inspire millions of people
– I will be healthy so I can have energy to do what I love
– I will have a life full of challenges and no matter what I’ll find the positive
– I will be fearful and that means I’m excited
– I will help others because that’s the true wisdom of life

 

What you tell yourself over and over becomes your reality.

Your life becomes what you tell yourself over and over. Change that pattern and insert a new story, and if you’re patient enough, you’ll become that new story.

Not overnight. Not in 60 seconds. In a few years probably.

So tell yourself things that are going to inspire you to do the extraordinary. Don’t fill your head with deadbeat ideas like “I’m not enough.”

You are bloody enough and you can be a bloody ripper of a person if you put your mind to it and tell yourself clever things.

The whole “Life Hacking” sport has become everybody’s favorite TV station. The thing is you don’t need to hack anything if you tell yourself the right stories.

 

Translation of “The Stories You Tell Yourself”

This line is a bit hocus pocus when I think about it. If I were to transcribe this phrase, I’d say that the stories you tell yourself stem from one idea: YOU MUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

All the stories I just shared with you that I tell myself are stories of believing in what I can achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself then how can you expect anyone else to take a chance on you? There are so many distractions nowadays so for anyone to give you their attention, they have to believe it’s going to be worth it.

Believing in yourself is centered around one idea: You’re going to back yourself even though you don’t know the outcome or the steps you necessarily need to move forward.

Believing in yourself is a belief in the reality of uncertainty.

Uncertainty takes courage and that means crushing fear. All of these fundamentals of life that I’m sharing are not new things that you’ve never heard. These pillars of life are interconnected.

“When you fall in love with uncertainty, you tell yourself that you’re confident, strong and can deal with obstacles. This creates a fortress around your mind that protects you from outside, negative forces, telling you a different story. It’s how you avoid the opinions of others and back yourself”

 

5 years ago…..

I told myself a story that I was going to crush my ridiculous fears and become somebody who focuses on the “doing” and spreading positivity.

That new story seemed so stupid at the time because of where I was but none the less I believed it. It then took everything I had to make it come true. I never let challenges bring me away from that storyline and I kept it front and center.

People told me I wasn’t good enough, rich enough, smart enough, experienced enough and I decided to tell myself the story that “Yes I am and I won’t be stopped from achieving my goal.”

I’ve told this story so many times since then that now the majority of my network and colleagues believe it. It’s no longer an idea. It’s now a reality.

“The stories you tell yourself do come true and I’m living proof of that”

 

Commit to a new story.

I never write any blog post without insisting on one action from you. The action for you right now is to commit to a new story. Sign up for a new story and put all your poker chips on the line. Throw away that old story that told you that you weren’t good enough.

Create a new story that supports the person you want to become and the goals you want to achieve. The last step is this: Tell that new story to yourself every single day and believe every word.

The stories you tell yourself do come true and that’s what I would put on a giant billboard if I were given access to one. Much respect.

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This past week I had dinner with a friend who had recently returned from Japan. While hearing about her trip, the Japanese concept of Ikigai came up and had stayed on my mind for days. I found it really compelling and couldn’t help but delve into the topic. (more…)

Vanya Lazarova is a certified professional coach, specializing in helping people create their life's work by starting with purpose and authenticity. She loves writing, reading, psychology, philosophy, arts and all forms of self- expression. She co-founded a personal development podcast called "The Coaching Journal", where she offers thought provoking concepts to empower people intentionally design the life they want to have. You can find more about Vanya and the work she does on her website www.LiveAuthentic.net and at her podcast The Coaching Journal.

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  1. Gleeo

    Jul 9, 2016 at 11:22 pm

    Tim, you have summed up my thought regarding Twitter. It’s platform that I joined late. I’ve never had any enjoyable interaction with friends or followers. I’ve often wondered, does anyone really see these posts. Usually on Facebook and or LinkedIn I receive feedback, so I know I’m engaging people. I might leave my Twitter account alone and focus my efforts on LinkedIn and Facebook. What do you think of periscope? Is there much happening on that platform?

  2. Rob Malone

    May 23, 2016 at 5:57 pm

    Not only was this very insightful and dead on, concerning twitters issues it was extremely well written. Very engaging and entertaining.

    Nice job

    • Tim Denning

      May 29, 2016 at 5:15 am

      Thanks Rob I am glad you enjoyed my point of view around Twitter!

  3. Marquita Herald

    May 14, 2016 at 2:03 pm

    Couldn’t agree more. I’m still on Twitter because as an author I pretty much have to be there for my “platform” numbers, and I post at least a couple of things each day, but almost never invest the time to go through the feed or read DM messages. I know others may say I’m foolish, but I’m spending more time on Google Plus. I love the Collections feature and it’s just so much easier to connect and engage with people.

    Facebook is definitely the big guy on the block, but a few months ago I gave up and deleted my fan page and now focus on engaging in groups and using my profile page. I’ve never posted “personal” information there anyway, and many of my readers post comments about my articles and books on my profile so it’s actually working out much better than my page ever did. I am certainly no expert but I do believe it’s important to remain flexible about social media and be willing to try new things rather than settle in anywhere for the long haul. Thanks!

    • Tim Denning

      May 15, 2016 at 5:21 am

      Marquita thank you for sharing your own perspective. I have never really used Google Plus so I must give it a go. Direct messages on Twitter are mostly just auto responses and there is just too much noise. For me, in my newsfeed, I don;t want to see every followers update but there is no way to block out followers easily. I have starting using Pic feed to help with this.

  4. Abel Solomon

    May 13, 2016 at 11:16 am

    Great article very interesting, to be honest I never really got into using Twitter. I found it a bit confusing and aesthetically not really appealing. As far as using it, I can`t imagine anyone being addicted to it, like say Instagram or Snap Chat. However I think it`s really good for live events like boxing or a Cup Final, you always find hilarious Tweets from people.

    From a business point of view, I personally don`t think it`s that good, because there are so many other tweets coming, your audience probably won`t even see your post.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 7:14 pm

      Thanks Abel for your feedback. I totally agree with your points around Twitter and lots of people, like you, have never really got it. It is great though for following mega influencers and for live events.

  5. Stefanie

    May 13, 2016 at 6:18 am

    The reasons you stated are exactly the ones why I never entered in love with Twitter, Tim. I have been always asking myself: What’s so great about scheduling 3 tweets a day? There is so much meaningless stuff I’m not interested in, and I don’t want to be part of the people sharing these kind of stuff. Sometimes, I use it tweeting real time, and I find it helpful to enter in conversations with others.
    Thanks for sharing the article in LinkedIn. Gonna check this out, as I’m not too deep into LinkedIn yet. Since the people we want to reach out to are mostly in Facebook and Instagram, we spend more time there. I believe though that interaction has become stronger in Instagram than in Facebook.
    Do you use Snapchat? If yes, how is your experience? I haven’t used it so far, as I considered Snapchat to be more for teenagers and not for people I want to connect with. However, I heard Gary talking several times about it and it made me change my mind and check it out at least.

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:55 am

      Stefanie thanks for sharing your experience. Yes I have played around with Snapchat. The main benefit of Snapchat is that it helps you build a deeper relationship with your audience. The disadvantage is that you can’t build an organic audience and have to bring over followers from platforms like Instagram – which i don’t like that much. The future is live streaming video though. I would try Snapchat out for yourself and see what you think. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

      • Stefanie

        May 18, 2016 at 4:17 pm

        Thanks for sharing your insights, Tim! Looking forward to more articles from you.

  6. Toño

    May 13, 2016 at 4:13 am

    You’ve done a beautiful introduction, Tim! I’m convinced now you may very well write a review on apps, tech products or even movies, from time to time. The story, once again delivered from your experience, kept me reading, despite having some home stuff to do before my beloved job.

    I believe, you may be a very good book writer, with your ability to explain things in simple way and deliver your emotions and state of mind in honest and available form. Oh, and have I mentioned already your talent for amazing intro? I think I did 🙂 I eagerly waiting for your book and subbed for your mailing list now not to miss on it. Take your time of course.

    Back to the article, I just realized you simply overgrown your little bird and took everything you could from this ‘relationship’. I get what you saying by ‘have credibility to use’ and I se it is not a hate, but rather constructive and valuable feedback, which, I am convinced, smart people should take as a pro tip.

    Social media took over our life so this is fully understandable we want some quality time to spend together.

    Thank you for my morning motivation, it was a good pleasure! Have a good day my friend, stay well and healthy 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      May 13, 2016 at 9:57 am

      Toño I am glad you like the intro. It’s how I really feel though…lol. Twitter was like someone I felt close to but over time it has just gone down because they have not innovated. They are starting to remind me a bit of Nokia when they were the most popular phone. I think they can still fix their issues but they need to do something.

      I have written an ebook so keep an eye out for it as i hope to complete it soon and am about to get the cover done. Thank you for taking the time to read through and for your compliments 🙂

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The One Strategy to Help You Create Meaningful Work

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This past week I had dinner with a friend who had recently returned from Japan. While hearing about her trip, the Japanese concept of Ikigai came up and had stayed on my mind for days. I found it really compelling and couldn’t help but delve into the topic.

Ikigai, pronounced (ee-kee-guy), translates to “One’s Reason for Being.” It is believed that everyone has an Iikigai and discovering it brings satisfaction and meaning to life. The challenge is to find it since it requires a deep and often lengthy search of self.

I invite you to explore whether you have found your meaningful work- your Ikigai- because if you haven’t then you might be working to help someone else achieve theirs.

Not too long ago, I was going through my own career struggle. I was extremely unhappy and disconnected to my work. I only wanted to wake up inspired and enjoy what I do, instead of playing various scenarios in my head telling my manager that I was ready to quit.

I had no clue what would be the best fit for me. I craved a meaningful career, not just a job to get by. I tried testing different options, but as time went by I lost hope that I would ever be able to discover my life’s work.

I was desperate for clarity, but instead, I was getting more and more confused. Later on, it became clear to me I was doing it all wrong. I was influenced by countless opinions and suggestions of others, all showing how work should be, which eventually resulted in a total choice paralysis: Should I start a business? Should I try to establish myself in a company? What was I even interested in? What was I truly good at?

When it finally became clear, I couldn’t believe it took me almost two years to figure it out, because it was so simple.

The one strategy I needed was starting backwards.

I started by unwinding my creative imagination and used a design thinking approach. I knew once I crafted a vision about work which could get me excited, I would be on the right track. In the beginning, I was trying to create my life around a career, instead of doing just the opposite. I had to first design the life I wanted to have and then search for what careers fit that lifestyle.

“The life you want begins by embracing the life you have.” – Rob Bell

I had to start backwards from the bigger vision of what I wanted my life and work to look like. Not many people will implement that approach, but for me, it made all the difference. I took my time to articulate my own perspective on life and work. I figured I should be asking myself different questions which would help me understand what I wanted for my life as a whole, not just my career, family, or social life.

Truth be told, our work consumes a huge amount of our time. Spending it asking the wrong questions won’t get us any further. The key to a happy and fulfilled life is to create a way to integrate all areas of life into a coherent lifestyle. A life that allows us to fully express ourselves and our beliefs in order to be content with how we spend our time. Essentially, all of us want to live a happy and fulfilled life as opposed to a mediocre existence.

I started with the bigger vision in mind and asked myself the following questions:

  • What is the lifestyle I want to have?
  • What do I want my day to day activities to be?
  • Where would I like to work from?
  • What hours and intensity of work do I want to commit to?
  • What is my social and family life going to look like?
  • What are the fields of interest that I would like to develop, learn and grow in?
  • Who and what is supporting my values and interests?
  • What is making me proud to say what I do for a living, and why?
  • What impact do I want to create for the society and for the community I am a part of?
  • How do I want to make money and how much money do I need to feel comfortable supporting myself and my family?

Once I reflected on all of these questions I was able to look at my life from a much more creative angle. I gave way to my imagination and curiosity, because I saw my life as a joyous experience I wanted to intentionally design. I was approaching my career with a whole new perspective, which allowed me to see opportunities I didn’t think existed before.

I have come to realize that our school system is more often preparing us for a scripted life. It isn’t set up to propel asking the important questions. In fact, there isn’t a class which teaches how to discover meaning and fulfillment. Climbing the corporate ladder only to wake up bored every morning isn’t what we signed up for, but somehow most of us end up doing just that.

“Create the highest grandest vision possible for your life, because you become what you believe.” – Oprah Winfrey

Today, I dare you to create your Ikigai- by getting clear on what you desire your life’s work to be. Start designing your vision with intention and you’ll encounter wonderful serendipities. The right people will come your way, opportunities will align and eventually, you’ll find yourself on the right track.

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I Can’t Always Be Mr Success And Neither Can You.

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Today I stuffed up big time.

I’ve spent the last five years becoming disciplined and learning every self-improvement hack I could.

I’ve tried very hard not to drink too much alcohol, minimise my sugar intake, reframe from swearing, treat people better, give more to those in need and be an all round good human being.

But today I F*#ked that up. Can you believe it?

Well, you better.

As hard as I try to be successful, there are going to be times when I mess up. Today was the day I was put to the test.

So today we had a function for work, and we went to a secluded island to sit back, relax, and let our hair down. We had to board a ferry to the island and there was a long line of people. Our group was at the front because we had waited for the longest.

When we finally got to the front, a young lady attempted to push in. Without thinking, my friend and I prevented the cue-cutting attempt. What happened next shocked me. This lady then began dishing out all sorts of insults.

She made fun of the way I looked, accused me of being such a low life that I must be single, had a crack at my financial position and everything under the sun. I managed to reframe from overreacting until I let one insult slip.

That insult is what surprised me. I’ve tried so much to be well behaved and then in the heat of the moment I broke the promise to myself.

 

It’s normal to mess up.

Okay, so I’ve been well-behaved for quite a while and you probably have to. It’s not the end of the world when you fall back into your old ways for a brief moment. The key is to acknowledge when you’ve returned to an old pattern and stop yourself.

The moment I let out that inappropriate insult, I knew I’d stepped over the line. It didn’t feel good. I felt guilty. I wanted to take it back but couldn’t because the young woman had left.

“If you try and cruise through life, and never break your commitments, you’ll fail and hate yourself”

There needs to be some room for stuff ups. You have to be okay with being imperfect once in a while.

 

The idea is to outweigh the bad.

What I mean by this is that you need to aim for 51% or more of quality habits, conversations, gestures, etc. The more you tip the scales over to the good side, the less you’ll be tempted to fall back to your old ways.

 

Shooting your mouth off like I did is only a temporary blemish.

You can come back from it and it all starts with taking ownership. Being in denial or acting like you did nothing is not okay. Being a leader and admitting the error in your ways takes guts and that will lead you towards success in the long run.

“Don’t let a brief moment of madness ruin all the progress you’ve made”

Make your temporary mishaps parts of the self-improvement process and use them as a lesson. Experience the regret that comes with being out of alignment with your true self.

This personal incongruency is the motivation you need to stand true to your commitments.

 

Sometimes we all need a reminder.

Otherwise, we forget the life we’ve left behind and it becomes far to easy to lose the plot and rack up a scorecard of negative activities. That slap in the face that you get when you go back to the past and reunite with your addictions and temptations is exactly what you need.

Reconnecting with the past gives you perspective. It also shows you how far you’ve come. The moment your personal progress is under threat, you’ll be surprised how quickly your mind puts you back on the path you were on.

 

It always starts with trying to be right.

Falling back to your old ways always starts with trying to be right. It’s because we all secretly hold rules of how life is supposed to be and when someone violates that rule, we risk going back to our former self. You can’t always be right so stop pretending you can be.

Don’t let trying to be right all the time stand in the way of all the progress you have made. I know it sucks when someone does something that violates what you believe but think before you take action. There are times when you should stand up and there are other times (like my recent encounter) when you should just reframe from going down the rabbit hole of rules you wished people would live by.

 

The truth is we all stuff up.

Even your favorite pop star Katy Perry loses her mind once in a while. That’s right I saw when she was interviewed by a therapist and she had a brief moment of huge failure, embarrassment, and dirty laundry aired on TV. It’s okay.

Once you understand that there are times you are going to do the opposite of what your goals say, and that’s cool, you’ll live a much more relaxed life.

 

Try forgiveness.

This is what I tried after the mishap on the ferry. I permitted myself to mess up. I told myself I was sorry and committed to making up for what I’d done. The most difficult person to forgive is yourself a lot of the time and that’s who needs it the most.

Don’t just try and be kind to others; be kind to yourself too. If you forgive yourself more often when things go wrong, you’ll discover what it’s like to take failure and disappointment by the curly ones and own your life.

 

Life is about owning your successes and your mishaps.

The mishaps lead to your success, eventually.

Never forget that. I’m not successful 24/7 and neither are you.

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The Three Fundamental Principles of Achievement

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I’m all about keeping things simple. The world is much too complex and I find that much like Vince Lombardi, we tend to complicate things. If we just focus on truly mastering the basics, we can achieve whatever we set our hearts and minds to. One of my favorite stories comes from Coach Lombardi’s best-selling book.

“He took nothing for granted. He began a tradition of starting from scratch, assuming that the players were blank slates who carried over no knowledge from the year before… He began with the most elemental statement of all. “Gentlemen,” he said, holding a pigskin in his right hand, “this is a football.”

It is the summer of 1961, and he begins training by introducing a “football” to a bunch of men who had been playing football for years, perhaps well over a decade. Was this Insulting? No, because the players obviously knew what a football was. Nonetheless, from day one Vince Lombardi was teaching them the basics. This was the secret of one of the winningest coaches in the history of football because the basic, fundamental principles never fail.

When you build a wall, the basic element is a single brick. Put enough of them together, in the right pattern and you have your wall. Concert pianists use only eight keys to create the world’s greatest masterpieces. They don’t try to come up with new notes. They work with what they have.

As fortune would have it, there are basic principles of achievement that when mastered, create success. It’s a formula you can count on, which is as predictable as the sunrise. Success doesn’t care how old you are, how much money you have or haven’t earned in the past. It doesn’t give a hoot about your skin color, background or where you grew up. Regardless of who you are, success is achieved when the basics are mastered.

Here are three of the most fundamental principles of achievement:

1. High-achievers take action

With a ready-fire-aim mentality, nothing beats taking action. You could pull out a great book about success and learn from the greats, but there is no better teacher than experience, which comes only from taking action.

The dangerous thing about the internet is the overabundance of information as we’re still a little unsure of how to handle it. Because of all this new information, many entrepreneurs can easily get caught in a comfort zone of learning because it makes them feel like they’re doing something when they’re not sure what else to do or they’re afraid to take action. By reading another book or listening to one more podcast, they delay action and don’t have to feel guilty.

Others spend too much time making a decision. They worry about making the “right” decision. A mentor of mine taught me that it’s far more powerful to “make a decision, and then make it right.” If you find out it’s wrong, make a new decision, pivot quickly and take new action. Whatever you do, avoid getting caught up in analysis paralysis. Action is the cure.

“The path to success is to take massive, determined actions.” – Tony Robbins

2. Consistent action breeds momentum

Momentum is the mitochondria of the cell; the powerhouse. When you have momentum on your side, several benefits kick in. For example, challenges shrink from overwhelming obstacles to small speed bumps and you will tend to make decisions quickly. Small annoyances become meaningless as momentum serendipitously brings with it a cousin named “confidence.”

Think back to the last time you made a lane change while driving. It was easy; you glanced over your shoulder (hopefully) to make sure there was adequate space, put on your blinker and drove into the other lane.

Compare that with your lane getting caught in a standstill. The lane next to you is cruising along, must be an accident up ahead. Naturally, you want to make the same maneuver- a lane change. You look over your shoulder and…wait. You wait for a gap sufficiently large enough to allow you to jump into the lane and speed up without cutting off oncoming traffic.

Granted, some drivers don’t seem to care much about that (ask me how I know), but you get the idea. Momentum is a mindset game changer. When you have it, everything seems easier because everything is “going your way.”

3. Habit takes over and rules it all

Once you are consistently taking action, and you’re having fun because of all this newfound momentum on your side, you’re likely to repeat it and form a habit. Firstly, this happens mentally and then physically. Mentally, a habit is a new way of thinking about things, because your expectations change. Without realizing, you begin “looking” for good things to happen because you just know they will. You become an optimist.

Your habits are the backbone to your success. Once you start the mental habit of thinking like a successful person and you start doing the things successful people do every day, your life changes. Success is inevitable. It’s the law of the harvest- you reap what you sow. Plant good seeds in the spring, water them all summer and fall will produce.

“Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event.” – Brian Tracy

If you aren’t where you want to be in life, take a deeper look and you’ll notice a breakdown somewhere along the way. Be honest in your self-diagnosis and admit when you’re off track. Allow for mistakes, because perfectionism is one of the great plagues prevalent in our society.

So now that you’ve read this blog, stop learning and start earning. Get up and take action- start the cycle and see how it changes your life.

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My Giant Imaginary Billboard Would Say This: The Stories You Tell Yourself Come True.

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We’ve all played the game where we try to think of a message we’d put on a metaphorical billboard that costs us nothing.

The point of the exercise is to try and find out what one message you would share with the world that could change the game for all of us.

I racked my brain trying to think of mine. There are so many messages I want to share. Finally, I figured out what mine would be.

The message I would put on a giant billboard is:

“The stories you tell yourself come true”

 

The stories you tell yourself.

The reason I chose this powerful message is that it’s the one thing that has changed the course of my life. When I began telling myself a new story, everything around me appeared differently. I genuinely believe that I am going to change the world in a big way and create positivity.

You have a recurring story running through your own brain that you’re probably unaware of. The story might be one like this:

– Life is hard, so I better relax tonight.
– I need to make more money so life will get easier.
– Why do these disasters always happen to me?
– Why is it so hard to make a living?
– Why can’t I find my passion like everyone else?

These stories are all built on a lie. These stories focus on inaction and that will get you nowhere.

 

The stories you tell start with a question.

To improve your story, you first need to start by asking better questions. Questions that limit you will destroy your success. I’ve found the best questions to ask yourself have the following elements:

– They’re big and audacious
– They mention the phrase “Changing the world”
– They’re open-ended
– They assume the best, not the worst
– They’re not of a selfish nature

Write down some questions that will help you create a new story for your life.

 

You’re going to be repeating this story a lot so it might as well be good.

These stories play over and over in our head every day. You might as well have a story that’s interesting and makes you feel good don’t you think?

I don’t want to hear nonsense playing in my head on repeat. There’s enough of that in day-to-day life already.

That’s why my story says the following:

– I will inspire millions of people
– I will be healthy so I can have energy to do what I love
– I will have a life full of challenges and no matter what I’ll find the positive
– I will be fearful and that means I’m excited
– I will help others because that’s the true wisdom of life

 

What you tell yourself over and over becomes your reality.

Your life becomes what you tell yourself over and over. Change that pattern and insert a new story, and if you’re patient enough, you’ll become that new story.

Not overnight. Not in 60 seconds. In a few years probably.

So tell yourself things that are going to inspire you to do the extraordinary. Don’t fill your head with deadbeat ideas like “I’m not enough.”

You are bloody enough and you can be a bloody ripper of a person if you put your mind to it and tell yourself clever things.

The whole “Life Hacking” sport has become everybody’s favorite TV station. The thing is you don’t need to hack anything if you tell yourself the right stories.

 

Translation of “The Stories You Tell Yourself”

This line is a bit hocus pocus when I think about it. If I were to transcribe this phrase, I’d say that the stories you tell yourself stem from one idea: YOU MUST BELIEVE IN YOURSELF!

All the stories I just shared with you that I tell myself are stories of believing in what I can achieve. If you don’t believe in yourself then how can you expect anyone else to take a chance on you? There are so many distractions nowadays so for anyone to give you their attention, they have to believe it’s going to be worth it.

Believing in yourself is centered around one idea: You’re going to back yourself even though you don’t know the outcome or the steps you necessarily need to move forward.

Believing in yourself is a belief in the reality of uncertainty.

Uncertainty takes courage and that means crushing fear. All of these fundamentals of life that I’m sharing are not new things that you’ve never heard. These pillars of life are interconnected.

“When you fall in love with uncertainty, you tell yourself that you’re confident, strong and can deal with obstacles. This creates a fortress around your mind that protects you from outside, negative forces, telling you a different story. It’s how you avoid the opinions of others and back yourself”

 

5 years ago…..

I told myself a story that I was going to crush my ridiculous fears and become somebody who focuses on the “doing” and spreading positivity.

That new story seemed so stupid at the time because of where I was but none the less I believed it. It then took everything I had to make it come true. I never let challenges bring me away from that storyline and I kept it front and center.

People told me I wasn’t good enough, rich enough, smart enough, experienced enough and I decided to tell myself the story that “Yes I am and I won’t be stopped from achieving my goal.”

I’ve told this story so many times since then that now the majority of my network and colleagues believe it. It’s no longer an idea. It’s now a reality.

“The stories you tell yourself do come true and I’m living proof of that”

 

Commit to a new story.

I never write any blog post without insisting on one action from you. The action for you right now is to commit to a new story. Sign up for a new story and put all your poker chips on the line. Throw away that old story that told you that you weren’t good enough.

Create a new story that supports the person you want to become and the goals you want to achieve. The last step is this: Tell that new story to yourself every single day and believe every word.

The stories you tell yourself do come true and that’s what I would put on a giant billboard if I were given access to one. Much respect.

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