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Storytelling Is Not Self-Indulgent: Here’s Why Storytelling Is So Important Ms Hater.



Storytelling Is Not Self-Indulgent: Here’s Why Storytelling Is So Important Ms. Hater.

Last week, I received a nasty message from someone we will call Ms. Hater. I posted a photo of why I believe in volunteering to help those in need and to rally people to do the same.

In her message about the post, she accused me of something I’d never heard of – “Story Porn.”

For starters, I hate the word porn and that entire industry but let’s leave that for another day. Her gripe with my post was about the act of telling stories on social media.

She made the fundamental mistake of believing that I – and others I collaborate with like Joel Brown –are trying to be influencers and build some kind of BS personal brand to inflate our own egos.

Anyone who reads my stuff knows the following:

– I have no time for personal brand and don’t believe in it
– I believe that our ego is one of the biggest blockers from achieving success
– I am adamant that influencers are the same as everybody else and there’s no such thing
– I am certain that storytelling is one of the main ways we can change the world

When thinking about Ms. Hater’s comment, these questions spring to mind:

Would you rather me fall into line and live your vision of the world?
Would you rather me shut up and not tell you’ve what I’ve learned?

It’s easy to criticise and be negative, but my question out loud is simple: “What value are you bringing to the world?”

Here’s why storytelling is fundamental and not porn as Ms hater says:


People are motivated into action through stories.

Stories are not about enhancing yourself and your brand. The reason I tell stories and want to inspire others to do the same is because it’s how we create more action.

“There’s a lot of dreamers and not enough doers. I can’t change the world and solve all the problems of Planet Earth all by myself. Stories are how I recruit more people to pick up the metaphorical hammer and build things that solve these challenges for all of us”

Stories are personal and our fellow human beings can relate to them because we are all made from the same stuff, and come from the same place.

We all are deeply rooted in good and have unlimited potential to do things. Our mind is manipulated by our environment and positive, uplifting stories are how we disrupt this destructive series of thought patterns.

My storytelling on social media is not about me or my ridiculous ego: It’s about inspiring others through entrepreneurship and personal development to go out there and take action. There are too many nice ideas that force us to be perfectionists and never take action.

I want to inspire people to fail lots and attempt things they never thought possible as I’ve done. I want to be the example in the stories I tell not the focus of attention.


Vulnerability through storytelling is how we grow. Vulnerability through stories is the real story.

Storytelling is how we get better at sharing our experiences and over time I’ve learned that it helps us be vulnerable. It’s in the vulnerable moments of our life that the inspiration to help others is created. If I hadn’t hit rock bottom a number of times, then I wouldn’t have any stories to share.

My toughest moments in life have created the best learnings that I can share through stories on social media. Ms. Hater has accused me of Story Porn but the truth is that it’s challenging to share stories. It requires you to dig deep and say things that you might be scared of saying.

There are so many stories out there but the ones that stick are the ones that are vulnerable. It takes guts to be vulnerable and it’s not easy for me or anyone trying to share stories like me, to do so. It’s hard work and it takes an emotional toll on you after a while.

The reason I tell these stories like the one that Ms. Hater said was no good is for the opposite reason of what she has said. I tell these stories to take the focus off me and to focus on what other people can do to better their life and career.

It’s through a deep belief in helping others that I tell stories and want others to do the same. I’m not trying to sell you anything and I don’t need anything from anyone. I have an email list and I’ve never sent one email to anyone on it so far. I’d rather focus my time on sharing stories because it requires me to be vulnerable.

“Vulnerability is how we all grow and if we’re not growing, we’re dying”


It’s easy to be a critic.

Spending your limited time on this planet being a critic and producing negative energy will not produce any value. The energy that you waste being a troll and leaving negative comments on people’s social media is far better spent on storytelling.

It takes confidence and often good communication skills to be a critic and tear people down online. I’d encourage people like Ms. Hater to use those valuable skills to tell stories and help to solve the problems that threaten the human race.

Don’t take the easy option. The hard choice is putting yourself out there and telling stories that can help people to find what they’re looking for in life and achieve their goals.


Without a story to inspire, people can’t get a different perspective.

The story I shared of why we should volunteer, that Ms. Hater said was wrong, is how we give people another view of the world. Storytelling takes us out of our own head and takes us away from our own experiences so that we can see a different perspective.

Sometimes all we need to hear is someone have the same battle as us and produce a different result. That different result could be the lightbulb moment that changes humanity. I’m happy to risk my reputation, life, money and everything I have to serve that worthy cause.

Nobody will ever stop me telling stories because I’ve seen the power in them and what they can do to help the human race. I’m never going to give up because stories are fundamental. You should consider doing the same.


Stories validate the strategy.

I can share blind strategies and advice with you all day long until the cows come home but without stories, you’ll never believe me. Telling stories is how you validate the strategies and advice that you offer to everyone out there.

I could never get you to believe me when I say that personal development and entrepreneurship are so crucial if I didn’t share actual stories with you that demonstrate this. Your logical brain would just tune me out the way you record your television and cut out the ads in between.

“Stories are the evidence we need to believe something is true and works”

Stories give us the courage to face our fears and try something new. Stories are how we get out of our head and into action. Stories are the greatest tool we have available to us to bring value to the world.

If telling stories to inspire others is a crime then arrest me officer because I’m guilty of wanting to help serve the greater good. I’m guilty of the very ego driven behavior that Ms hater demonstrated to us all when she referred to my stories as “Story Porn.”

Porn is wrong. Stories are not. WE. MUST. HAVE. STORIES.


Stories are memorable in tough times. Raw information isn’t memorable.

When the proverbial brown stuff hits the fan and your life goes out of control at a moment’s notice, stories are how you remember things. Raw information like the stuff they dish out in the traditional education system is forgettable and is not remembered when it’s required to be put into action.

That’s why so many people forget most of what they learned at university after they graduate and join the real world of business.

I tell stories so you remember what I say so that when the guaranteed tough times hit, you’ve got an arsenal of weapons that you can fight the battle with in the form of stories. Stories create permanent memories in your brain.


Stories make things real.

I witnessed, last year, several people get run over by a car right in front of me. One of the victims was a small baby less than one year old.

After this incident, I met the woman whose sister lost that baby through sheer coincidence. Hearing her story of that same day that I saw with my own eyes made me remember one thing: Never forget how precious your time alive is. Never forget the ones you love or take them for granted.

Had this young girl not shared this story with me, I would have gone on living each day with no gratitude and no respect for how far I’ve come.

I knew this advice to be true beforehand, but this story of losing a young baby made it real and memorable.


It’s time to use stories for the good of everyone.

In summary, I’m never going to give up storytelling even if Ms. Hater wants all of us to. The truth is that I don’t need anything from anyone. What we need is more stories and more people to be leaders. We should never ever be ashamed of our stories because stories are who we are.

Stories are the lifeblood of the human race and they will always be part of our DNA. I’m going to keep telling you stories to inspire the world through entrepreneurship and personal development. All I ask is that if one day something I say helps you, I’d love an email from you to hear the story and then celebrate with you.

I don’t need any validation Ms hater and storytelling is never going to be porn in my eyes. If you don’t agree with me, then that’s cool. I’ll probably be wrong some of the time and I’m cool with that. Perfection is the enemy of a storyteller like me.

I just want us all to be optimistic and positive about the future and I think stories are a key part of this idealism that I hold for each of you reading this.

Don’t ever stop telling stories.

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Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website

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The 6 Step Process for Delivering Critical Feedback in a Constructive Way



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We have all been in the position where we knew we needed to have a difficult conversation at work that involved delivering constructive feedback. Maybe a major deadline was missed, there was a clear decline in performance, or someone blatantly dropped the ball. Most of us avoid delivering the feedback, and the conversation can get pushed back again and again, wasting valuable time and money.

Delivering constructive feedback is challenging, and uncomfortable for most people, even highly trained leaders. Yet, delivering and accepting feedback is one of the most important keys for success. So why do we avoid these conversations? Because we never learned how to have them.

Open, honest, direct communication is not a skill we are taught in school. There is no “How to Have Tough Conversations” 101. As a clinical psychologist that specializes in couples work, I see just how important communication is in maintaining thriving relationships. I understand that good communication is the foundation of every successful relationship; both intimate relationships and your work relationships.

Below is a 6-step guide to providing constructive feedback:

Step 1: Clarity on the Goal of the Conversation  

The first step is to get clear on the goal of the feedback conversation. Are you planning to see a change in performance, simply communicate how you felt, or receive an apology? Get clear on what you are hoping to get out of the conversation. Be honest with yourself about what you need, what is most helpful to the relationship, and what is most helpful to the organization. Getting clear on the goal also ensures you are speaking with the right person.

“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better.” – Elon Musk

Step 2: Invitation

Set up a time to talk. Feedback conversations are not meant to be had in the hallway. It is important that both parties can set aside adequate time and have the space needed for dialogue. Additionally, there must be respect for both parties’ need for time to process information. For example, if you are delivering feedback, and the receiver needs time to process the feedback before responding, setting up a subsequent meeting will be most helpful.

Step 3: Ownership

Own the role you played in creating the situation. When you model ownership of blind spots, failures, or missteps, you set the stage for the receiver to do the same. For example, you may acknowledge that you were not aware of how to support your employee and not aware of the problem until x situation occurred. Equally important as owning your role, is owning your emotions. Own your emotions using “I” statements. For example, “I felt disappointed when I realized your sales performance had substantially declined”.

Step 4: Open, Honest, Direct Feedback

Feedback that dances around the problem does not do anyone any good. It only increases anxiety on behalf of the receiver, and potentially causes the feedback to get totally lost. The conversation needs to be open, honest, and direct. For example: “I felt concerned when you did not attend the last two strategy calls this month…It brought up questions for me about your commitment to the company.”

Step 5: Listen, Validate and Accept

When providing feedback, it is important both parties maintain an open mind, and respond in a way that communicates validation and acceptance. As soon as an individual gets defensive, feedback cannot be taken in, and the value of the conversation dramatically decreases. When providing feedback it is important to listen, validate, and accept your receiver’s viewpoint. Notice, I did not say agree. This looks something like saying: “I can see why X led you to commit Y , I understand you were under a great deal of stress/dealing with a personal situation/frustrated.”

“We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve.” – Bill Gates

Step 6: A Clear Plan for Moving Forward

In providing feedback, the magic is that now things can change! If feedback is never given, relationships end, things will stay the same, businesses will die, and money will be lost. If you have gotten to this step, that means you did the hard work, and now you get to put change into action. A clear plan includes an acknowledgement from both parties regarding what they will do differently to prevent the situation from occurring again, and how they will stay accountable in making the change happen.

The good news about delivering feedback is that the more you do it, the easier it gets. Remember, giving and receiving feedback is one of the most surefire ways to open yourself up to massive growth.

As a giver of feedback, it is your job to model openness and a desire for growth, so that the receiver may take in the feedback and make the necessary changes. Exceling at feedback delivery will help you set you apart from others and enable you to achieve extraordinary relationships, in both your personal and work lives.

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show



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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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5 Essential Skills to Drive Success in Every Niche



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There are many people who don’t have the courage to launch a business in a niche as they think they don’t have the right skills and experience to obtain success. While there are specific skills which determine the success in every niche, there are also some general skills which ensure success in any business you would try.

Below are 5 essential skills you need to drive success in every aspect of your life:

1. Ambition

When you launch a new business, you need to be prepared for difficult moments such as fighting the competition and winning your target audience. Moreover, if you follow some successful entrepreneurs, you should keep in mind that they also faced difficulties and continue to experience them. So, how does a successful entrepreneur get over all the difficulties?

The essential skill you need to possess is called ambition. Set small and clear milestones in your development plan and use your ambition to go over each difficulty and finalize what you had in your mind. It doesn’t matter how hard the path is going to be. Visualize your target and put in all the efforts to achieve it. Staying organized and scheduling each step to get things done are some of the techniques you can use to achieve success.

2. Listen to those around you

While listening to your instincts is necessary if you want to be a successful entrepreneur, this is not enough. As your business develops, you will have an entire team to manage and lead to success. Therefore, you cannot be a successful leader and have success in every niche unless you learn how to listen to the people around you.

You should listen to your employees and discover what they are expecting from you. This is the way to follow if you want to keep your team motivated and help them give the best of themselves.

On the other hand, you will need to listen to your customers to improve your products and services and provide excellent customer support. By listening carefully to the voice of your customers, you will be able to stand out of the competition and ensure their loyalty towards your brand.

“We see our customers as invited guests to a party, and we are the hosts. It’s our job every day to make every important aspect of the customer experience a little bit better.” – Jeff Bezos

3. Courage

When you decided to become an entrepreneur and build your own business, it means you are a courageous person. Courage will help you harness the power of creativity. Don’t be afraid to take risks if you feel a specific action will bring more success to your business.

Apart from doing intensive research on your ideas and developing the exact steps you are going to follow, you will need the courage to implement them. Not all the ideas will turn out to be successful.

Regardless, you will have something to learn from each success or mistake and this will help you move your business even further. When you have the courage to follow a path which is not very familiar to you, this is going to be the moment when you will widen your horizons and exceed your limits to achieve success.

4. Creativity and imagination

If you already implemented your idea and you see that it works, you most probably think that you don’t need to change anything to achieve more success. You need to keep in mind that customers’ preferences change and your competition is waiting for your mistakes to “steal” your clients.

Therefore, you need to use your creativity and imagination to improve your products and services to meet your customers’ expectations. What is more, creativity can also mean that you are open to talk to new people and use their experience to improve something in your business.

“Get closer than ever to your customers. So close that you tell them what they need well before they realize it themselves.” – Steve Jobs

5. Continuous learning

If you want to drive success in every niche you will need to show a willingness to learn. You need to stay updated with what happens in your niche and what your customers expect from you.

Education is not only something for school. It is a lifelong process, and you should be open to seek knowledge and improve your skills with every opportunity. An efficient trick is to stay close to people who are already successful in your industry, ask their opinions on various subjects and learn from their experience.

The above five essential skills will help you build a successful business in every niche. A true leader is ambitious, knows to listen to the people around him, and is always open to learning from others.

No matter the size of your business, you will need to be creative and use your imagination to improve your products and services. These skills will help any leader develop new skills, stand out of the crowd, and strengthen his position on the market.

What skill do you think is most important to be successful in life? Let us know below!

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5 Key Investment Principles from Warren Buffett



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Warren Buffett is a mentor for a lot of traders. Why shouldn’t he be? After all, his investing principles have earned him the title of the world’s greatest investor. His way of working is a little contradictory to many others in the arena of online trading. He doesn’t invest the way it’s depicted in the popular media. He is the kind of investor who likes buying and holding.

Buffett has taught us that once you buy a stock, hold it no matter what. Forget that there is a recession in the economy or it is at its boom. Whether it’s good times or bad, you’re supposed to hold onto the stock.

Buffett doesn’t just buy stocks for the sake of holding them. He buys them for a specific reason. When those reasons no longer exist, he sells the stocks. He not only looks for good prices but sound management and a competitive advantage. He shared his opinion that companies such as IBM, Sears, and GM are great but they cannot stay competitive for long. Therefore, these companies shouldn’t be a part of your portfolio.

Why not learn from the pro himself and invest the right way? Here are 5 key principles to begin with:

1. Invest In What You Know

Before investing in a stock, it is very important to understand what a company does and how it makes its money. Ever wondered why Buffett has always avoided investing in tech stocks? It’s because he does not completely understand their business model. He sticks to what he knows.

This also explains why he prefers investing in Berkshire’s stocks. It represents a diverse mix of stocks such as utilities, banking, and insurance and consumer products. All of these are businesses that Buffett understands very well. No wonder he has invested a significant amount of money here.

“Beware the investment activity that produces applause; the great moves are usually greeted by yawns.”  – Warren Buffett

2. Before Buying a Stock, List the Criteria

It makes sense to buy stocks on the basis of criteria, right? After all, you’re ensuring that you don’t end up investing in something unfavorable. You could be searching for stocks in a certain industry with a set price to earnings ratio.

Buffett never makes the price of the stock the sole criteria of his buying decision. Sometimes, great companies end up taking a price dip because of the market situation. However, holding onto these stocks could still turn out to be favorable.

3. Be Aggressive During Tough Times

Generally, it’s not recommended to time the market. But if you’re a long-term investor, you’ll be fine no matter when you buy. This means that even during the tough economic times, you shouldn’t settle down. Keep on looking for opportunities. This is what Warren Buffett does because he knows that things will eventually turn around.

Buffett is known for capitalizing on opportunities during and after the great recession. Bank of America investment is one of the best examples of this. In his latest annual letter, Buffett said that “dark clouds will fill the sky almost after every decade. But it certainly will rain gold.” So don’t despair, keep on investing.

4. Don’t Worry About the Day to Day Market Movements

Along with other tips, Buffett also said that you must only buy a stock if you are comfortable holding on to it in case the stock market shuts down for a decade. Since you are holding onto the stocks for 10 or more years, there is no point in losing sleep over the minor swings.

Ignore the headlines about the trade wars, the government shutdown, and other chaotic news. Instead, you focus on learning the potential growth of your company over the course of time. The fact is, stock prices keep on changing, but it’s not significant if the company’s business still has a bright future.

“Only buy something that you’d be perfectly happy to hold if the market shut down for 10 years.” – Warren Buffett

5. Buy Buffett’s Stocks

Buffett keeps everything simple when it comes to investing. If you don’t want to do the guesswork and research to figure out which stocks to buy, simply invest in the stocks Buffett already owns. But, make sure you understand the business. Buffett discloses his holdings publically each quarter. He has capital in companies such as Wells Fargo, Apple, and Bank of America. To keep things simple, you can buy the shares of Berkshire Hathaway itself.

Warren Buffett hasn’t been successful all by himself. He has a team of investors who help him do legal work and give him investment tips. He’s also a part of an advisor network because he understands that an investor needs all the help he can get. It’s amazing that a billionaire like him still listens to others.

Now that you know how to invest like Buffett, it’s time you prepare your investment strategy. These principles are not hard and fast criteria, they are simply a discipline strategy all investors should stick to. Along with these, you can use math, technical analysis, fundamental analysis, and even stock charts to make a decision. You may not end up a billionaire, but you will avoid losses and make more profits than your fellows.

Which one of the 5 key investment principles from above resonated with you most? Let us know below!

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