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My Real Life Addiction To LinkedIn.

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My LinkedIn account has exploded over the last year.

That’s where the addiction all started.

“With every sexy, bright red, notification came a form of validation that made me feel worthy like I was somebody.”

What’s wrong with checking LinkedIn every 30 minutes?

That was the big question I asked myself. The answer was that I had become dependant on it. If people didn’t like what I was doing on LinkedIn, I’d have a bad day. LinkedIn was making me lose touch with the real world and all its glory.

I’d forgotten about travel.
I’d forgotten about nature.
I’d forgotten about love.

One bad comment from a former colleague made me lose prospective.

Generally, I deal with the Internet Trolls pretty well. That was until a former colleague I used to work with, who messed up badly at work, posted on one of my articles. I thought we were friends before the comment and then afterwards I had second thoughts.

She accused me of all sorts of things. I didn’t think they were true, but it made me mad.

I was mad, and I didn’t know why. I’d become addicted to LinkedIn, and I didn’t know why.

I think I was in denial at this stage.

Then the viral LinkedIn post happened.

Having millions read my blog post on LinkedIn sent the addiction into overdrive.

I became obsessed with responding to every comment in real-time because I knew that was a secret hack to gaming the LinkedIn newsfeed algorithm.

I knew live engagement mattered yet again, I’d lost perspective.

During work meetings, I’d check on the latest comments.
While on the phone to loved ones I’d check the comments.
While on the toilet I’d check the comments (okay probably too much information).

The challenge with all social media is that the more success you have in the form of engagement, the more addicted to the attention you become. The viral post I wrote on LinkedIn was part of that.

Video came next.

If the written blog post attention I was getting was not enough already, then LinkedIn introduced video. This sent my brain into a frenzy. I’d learned from Facebook that new features like video were rewarded by social platforms in the form of showing your content to more users.

This made me quickly figure out how to start posting video on LinkedIn. The trouble was that I had to find content that mattered to me and that took hours. I also became addicted to watching other people’s LinkedIn video’s for ideas, and again, I felt something was not quite right.

Instead of creating content, I had become a consumer all over again. My addiction grew further too.

Influencers then started rejoining LinkedIn.

Yes, for those that didn’t know, many people had forgotten about LinkedIn until many began rejoining or using their accounts again this year. Why? They came back wanting the free organic reach that their content would be given on LinkedIn.

I’d begun to crave this same organic reach because no other social media platform was giving me this drug I wanted so badly.

I spent days and nights reading the posts of these LinkedIn influencers and learning what they did. I’d become lost and had forgotten why I joined LinkedIn in the first place.

What was I doing trying to get all this stupid attention?

I all of a sudden woke up from this nightmare.

Learning about stoicism and becoming more aware made me wake up from this nightmare. I reflected on what I was doing and started going back to my why.

I went on LinkedIn to inspire the world through entrepreneurship and personal development. I did not join LinkedIn to become an influencer, rack up meaningless stats or build a personal brand.

The game that is social media nearly dragged me in headfirst.

What’s the answer? How do we not become addicted?

What worked for me was focusing on purpose and inspiring others. You can have all the engagement, fans and numbers of shares in the world but without a decent why, you become lost.

Digital addiction is taking over and we must fight back!

By no means am I saying social media or LinkedIn is bad: what I’m saying is that you need to know why you’re on it and keep it under control.

You need to timebox your social media participation. If you can’t control your social media usage, then try quitting for a while.

There’s more to life than social media and instant gratification.

Becoming a beautiful human being and having real-world interactions should be the goal. I feel gullible in a way because yet again, I let social media distract me.

Well, not anymore ladies and gentlemen. I’m sticking to what Jon Westenberg said on Medium.com. I’m focusing on the long road. I’m never going to give up on my dream and I’m going to keep doing what I do regardless of social media metrics.

I’m going to choose my goal in life above all else. That’s what I have to give to the world.

I want the same for you.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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