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How Leaning Into Your Discomfort Can Create the Comfortable Life That You Envision




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Have you ever heard the phrase “If you do what’s hard now, your life will become easy—but if you do what’s easy now, your life will always be hard?” Whether you have or haven’t, there’s quite a bit of truth in the saying. However, the real question is how can a person truly make sense of the message that’s being conveyed, unless they know where they’re headed in life.

Most people struggle with the idea of following their dreams, not because they don’t want to, or they don’t believe that their dreams can actually come true—but typically because they just don’t know where to start. No market research is needed at all, because we all know that the discomfort in someone knowing that they could fail, usually is the determining factor that prevents them from even taking the first step.

The discomfort felt when someone begins to compare themselves to others on various social media platforms or even those around them, who are supposedly “successful”—is what commonly stifles a person from reading a helpful book or even Google searching the steps necessary for them to begin their journey.

Whatever the case—the grocery-list of reasons why most people shy away from their discomfort can be justified in a plethora of ways—because the reasons truly are valid. Conversely, the excuses don’t matter, and this is what we must all remember when it comes to taking back control of our happiness.

Here are 3 ways to lean into your discomfort, so that you can create a comfortable life that you envision:

1. Face The Person In The Mirror & Tell Him or Her How Special They Are

Self-motivation is important, but internal inspiration outweighs all metrics of scalability! And just know that this cryptic like energy doesn’t come from the outside world. It comes from infinite space of creativity within you—once you’ve programmed your subconscious mind to believe that your voice matters. 

I mean think about it, embracing the idea that your message could be heard by hundreds, even thousands, or better yet—millions, is quite intimidating and overwhelming. However, as daunting as becoming a public figure may be—because most people shy away from the limelight, the focus should be solely on the lives that your message had a hand in impacting.

Imagine how rewarding it would be to receive snail-mail, emails, or comments on your Instagram and Facebook page—from people just like you, expressing how your personal story or tips on self-development saved their life, and gave them the hope that they needed to carry on through their tough times.

That—is what it’s about, but you’ll never be able to experience this level of service and gratitude if you fail to empower, nurture, and support the man or woman in the mirror. 

Do whatever you feel that you need to do, in order to embrace and lean into the discomfort that comes with letting go of your fears, with the intent to wrap your arms around the belief that what you have to say truly can change and save lives.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

2. Tell The World About What You’re Planning To Do and/or Create

“Accountability” is one of the most frightening words known in any language or culture. Reason being, once you say that you’re going to do something—you pretty much just pinky-promised that statement and others are going to be looking forward to you delivering on your word. This pressure is normally manipulated to be counter-intuitive, but on the contrary—accountability is also quite empowering.

Yes, empowering once you lean into the discomfort of knowing that YOU put an expectation in place and only YOU can deliver on the promise that YOU made, whether it be big or small—to the masses or to just one person. Embracing the feels of knowing that others are depending on you to follow through with your word is a liberating feeling, because not only are you proving that you can do more, be more, and accomplish more—others begin to see that you’re evolving, not only as a man or woman of their word, but as a human being with something to offer to the world.

And who knows, your evolution into the next chapter of your life, could be the starting point for someone else who was watching you, in hopes that you would stay true to your promises—which ultimately ends up inspiring them.

3. Look To Solve A Problem, Versus Adding Complexity To The Equation

In my opinion, the best way to lean into your discomfort, is to tackle a social problem head-on and look to find ways to solve it for the greater market. Think about it, the best business opportunities are created by those who seek to solve social problems that most people just sit around and complain about.

Travis Kalanick—modernized convenience for the average traveler who doesn’t own a vehicle and/or who wants to be chauffeured. Jeff Bezos—literally brought the convenience of shopping for anything in the world to the tip of your thumb, at the touch of an Add to Cart button… and the list goes on.

Embrace the discomfort in knowing that if you seek to solve a social problem that needs attention, you don’t have to have all of the answers on how to rectify the issue. Reason being, perfection doesn’t exist and people don’t mind that understanding, as long as you’re being efficient in providing resolve to the overall problem—with the product or solution that you’re offering.

“Every once in a while you need to challenge yourself and learn new things.” – Amit Ray

Happy to say, that’s the beauty of most social problems in today’s times, People aren’t looking for perfection; most are looking for a real-time fix on how to improve something that’s causing a real-time inconvenience in their current lives. 

You just have to remember that we’re living in a time of convenience, and society will be sure to remind you that you’re behind the ball, if you fail to sharpen your skills on the daily. So, lean into the discomfort of your life’s challenges, because the reward will always be worth it.

What’s the most uncomfortable challenge or problem you’ve overcome lately, and how did that make your life better? Share your stories with us below!

Outside of being the father to the two most beautiful girls in the world, Ryleigh and Ryann Thomas, I'm the author of the beautiful book titled, "The Power of Thinking Inside The Box". Outside of that, I'm just a man who was born to be a servant to those who are looking to better their lives by finding and living in their Life's Purpose, helping them take control of every minute of the hour.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not




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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch




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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance




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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show




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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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