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How Leaning Into Your Discomfort Can Create the Comfortable Life That You Envision



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Have you ever heard the phrase “If you do what’s hard now, your life will become easy—but if you do what’s easy now, your life will always be hard?” Whether you have or haven’t, there’s quite a bit of truth in the saying. However, the real question is how can a person truly make sense of the message that’s being conveyed, unless they know where they’re headed in life.

Most people struggle with the idea of following their dreams, not because they don’t want to, or they don’t believe that their dreams can actually come true—but typically because they just don’t know where to start. No market research is needed at all, because we all know that the discomfort in someone knowing that they could fail, usually is the determining factor that prevents them from even taking the first step.

The discomfort felt when someone begins to compare themselves to others on various social media platforms or even those around them, who are supposedly “successful”—is what commonly stifles a person from reading a helpful book or even Google searching the steps necessary for them to begin their journey.

Whatever the case—the grocery-list of reasons why most people shy away from their discomfort can be justified in a plethora of ways—because the reasons truly are valid. Conversely, the excuses don’t matter, and this is what we must all remember when it comes to taking back control of our happiness.

Here are 3 ways to lean into your discomfort, so that you can create a comfortable life that you envision:

1. Face The Person In The Mirror & Tell Him or Her How Special They Are

Self-motivation is important, but internal inspiration outweighs all metrics of scalability! And just know that this cryptic like energy doesn’t come from the outside world. It comes from infinite space of creativity within you—once you’ve programmed your subconscious mind to believe that your voice matters. 

I mean think about it, embracing the idea that your message could be heard by hundreds, even thousands, or better yet—millions, is quite intimidating and overwhelming. However, as daunting as becoming a public figure may be—because most people shy away from the limelight, the focus should be solely on the lives that your message had a hand in impacting.

Imagine how rewarding it would be to receive snail-mail, emails, or comments on your Instagram and Facebook page—from people just like you, expressing how your personal story or tips on self-development saved their life, and gave them the hope that they needed to carry on through their tough times.

That—is what it’s about, but you’ll never be able to experience this level of service and gratitude if you fail to empower, nurture, and support the man or woman in the mirror. 

Do whatever you feel that you need to do, in order to embrace and lean into the discomfort that comes with letting go of your fears, with the intent to wrap your arms around the belief that what you have to say truly can change and save lives.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

2. Tell The World About What You’re Planning To Do and/or Create

“Accountability” is one of the most frightening words known in any language or culture. Reason being, once you say that you’re going to do something—you pretty much just pinky-promised that statement and others are going to be looking forward to you delivering on your word. This pressure is normally manipulated to be counter-intuitive, but on the contrary—accountability is also quite empowering.

Yes, empowering once you lean into the discomfort of knowing that YOU put an expectation in place and only YOU can deliver on the promise that YOU made, whether it be big or small—to the masses or to just one person. Embracing the feels of knowing that others are depending on you to follow through with your word is a liberating feeling, because not only are you proving that you can do more, be more, and accomplish more—others begin to see that you’re evolving, not only as a man or woman of their word, but as a human being with something to offer to the world.

And who knows, your evolution into the next chapter of your life, could be the starting point for someone else who was watching you, in hopes that you would stay true to your promises—which ultimately ends up inspiring them.

3. Look To Solve A Problem, Versus Adding Complexity To The Equation

In my opinion, the best way to lean into your discomfort, is to tackle a social problem head-on and look to find ways to solve it for the greater market. Think about it, the best business opportunities are created by those who seek to solve social problems that most people just sit around and complain about.

Travis Kalanick—modernized convenience for the average traveler who doesn’t own a vehicle and/or who wants to be chauffeured. Jeff Bezos—literally brought the convenience of shopping for anything in the world to the tip of your thumb, at the touch of an Add to Cart button… and the list goes on.

Embrace the discomfort in knowing that if you seek to solve a social problem that needs attention, you don’t have to have all of the answers on how to rectify the issue. Reason being, perfection doesn’t exist and people don’t mind that understanding, as long as you’re being efficient in providing resolve to the overall problem—with the product or solution that you’re offering.

“Every once in a while you need to challenge yourself and learn new things.” – Amit Ray

Happy to say, that’s the beauty of most social problems in today’s times, People aren’t looking for perfection; most are looking for a real-time fix on how to improve something that’s causing a real-time inconvenience in their current lives. 

You just have to remember that we’re living in a time of convenience, and society will be sure to remind you that you’re behind the ball, if you fail to sharpen your skills on the daily. So, lean into the discomfort of your life’s challenges, because the reward will always be worth it.

What’s the most uncomfortable challenge or problem you’ve overcome lately, and how did that make your life better? Share your stories with us below!

Outside of being the father to the two most beautiful girls in the world, Ryleigh and Ryann Thomas, I'm the author of the beautiful book titled, "The Power of Thinking Inside The Box". Outside of that, I'm just a man who was born to be a servant to those who are looking to better their lives by finding and living in their Life's Purpose, helping them take control of every minute of the hour.

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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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