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How Building Muscle Taught A Homeless Guy To Drive Forward And Succeed In Life

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I wanted to be successful. I had known about it since I was a child. I was an artist from a young age, creating and performing music for the local neighborhood. Surprisingly I was shy. But something changed when I opened up my vocal chords, my confidence suddenly started to skyrocket. But life just wasn’t going in that direction anymore. Not because I screwed up, or wasn’t trying.

Events just fell out of place.

 

November 2007

Snow trickled off the rooftops and onto the ground outside. My breath was shallow and my skin was shivering off my scrawny frame.

A few months had passed since my 2-bedroom house was taken away from me. I was now broke and owned an empty wallet and the small space I had to my name at the hostel.

My mother, during this time had been incredible. She was always providing me with food so I didn’t go hungry, and desperately filling the air with positive vibes. I don’t know how she did it, after all she had her own problems – My dad had left us, and we had very few possessions to our name. But, she still smiled and it’s something that happened daily. I sat down upon my mattress, it was placed upon the wooden floors, the springs occasionally poked through and digging into my back. It kept me awake in discomfort. That’s when the thoughts started to travel, and most nights they ran for hours. I was 112lbs and although it should have been the last thing on my mind, it was.

My body image was something that tore me apart. I rarely went on dates, I didn’t have an endless amount of friends, and life was not going in the direction I wanted it to. After all, I wasn’t living my life like a boss yet. My confidence and happiness were both at an all time low.

I needed some kind of escape.

 

A Constant Struggle With Control

 

The one idea that passed through my head daily was “What if I had done things differently?

Then it slowly flowed into “I could never have control over this. After all I’m just a kid.” – I was entering my late teens, what an excuse. Everything thought I had was dripped through a negative filter. “What could I do?  Maybe I should sell my old CDs and games…” I still had them boxed away at a friend’s house, and maybe I would get some money for them, maybe it would be just enough to take my mum and me for a meal. She needed a break.

Stay positive. You can do it Dean,” I muttered hoping no one would class we as a certified crazy guy.

 

This vibe didn’t last very long

 There was one thing that always seemed to bring me down, the mirror, and It reflected my scrawny frame.

I spent minutes just staring at my body, clocking every fault that crept in my head and I didn’t like the destructive thoughts that ran their course. I had heard of self-sabotaging thoughts before, but this kind of damage was in another realm of lame.

 

Framing – The Key To Moving Our Mind’s Boulders 

I had been told for a while that I was skinny. That I could eat and eat and not gain any weight. “There’s nothing on him” – Said every average Joe. There’s no doubt I would have agreed with them if they had seen my stomach.

But they hadn’t.

I was a skinny fat and no one knew it – The cheerio wrists, narrow shoulders and spaghetti like arms distracted everyone from the fat that was stored around my stomach that represented a pillow, there was no sign of a six pack anywhere. It was my forth year of breathing in.

Life had dealt me a bad hand and it was a deck of cruel genetics. There was only way to change it.

 

Sculpt A Master Plan And Get My Head On Straight

Before I accepted the body of mediocrity, I remembered something; a life lesson that was passed on to me:

“You are the architect of your life…”

If sorrow was raining down on me and I was the architect of this situation, then why didn’t I jump up, do an anti-rain dance and hope things would improve instantly. The words of wisdom stood for change. They meant I could build my own life around a vision – To me this meant a happiness, a place to call home and a muscular body that represented the GQ look.

Would my life dramatically improve the next day? No. I was a man with no home, a scrawny frame and so much baggage (metaphorically speaking). It would be a lie to say yes.

It did help me pick up some momentum.
After gaining my first 15lb of muscle (I went on to gain over 60lbs) I had clarity on something. My mindset could change, and it was down to the not-so-secret power of what I call ‘framing’. Before this I hadn’t realized what I could control (and what I couldn’t.)

Most skinny guys (and my past self included) have the constant need to over analyze and over think everything – it’s one of the reasons they are still skinny.

This alone kept me back from realizing what changing my body really meant to me.

Confidence.

The confidence and structural habits I got from my muscle-building journey led me to becoming a happier man. They were the building blocks for victory. It was all down to that one thing. My framing was now viewed under a set of different lenses – A brawny guys.

The concept of vainness and only transforming our bodies for one purpose is overlooked.

The under looked benefits are that when we do it, we are open to having control over the direction and the realization that follows the result. – It let’s us know we can change something in our lives.

The body is a vehicle to change.

We are free to make the transformation – no one else makes us.

Do you have the right framing that is going to help you?

That is something all us skinny guys need to question time to time. I know when I did; it was the start of my journey.

Take your framing, twist it, architect it, and create a success.

Building muscle is just part of the equation and it’s a huge one.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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