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Here’s Why You’re Not Living the Life of Your Dreams

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Imagine jumping out of your bed in the morning with a smile on your face, feeling happy and energetic. You can’t wait for the day to start. But such mornings are very rare for you, aren’t they? What’s not so rare for you is waking up every day with the same boring feeling. Not feeling so energetic for your day to start. Thinking “Oh, I have to go to the office again”. And then the whole day you don’t feel very good.

This is something that a lot of people suffer with. Moreover, it is also something that should be avoided because it’s these feelings that put a person in a state of depression and anxiety. It is something that should be dealt with immediately.

To not feel bad, you have to completely brainwash yourself. You have to let go of all the past thoughts and install new thoughts. It could be done through a specific mindfulness session, every day in the morning.

Why do you feel bad?

The reason why you feel bad every day is because of your thought process. Every morning, when you wake up, your mind is in the past. You are thinking about past problems, meaning you are thinking of a memory. How does something become a memory?

A memory is something that happened in the past, something that generated emotions. Emotions are generated due to past experiences. The moment you recall that memory of a problem, you suddenly feel sad.

It is something that becomes your habit and you are unconscious of it. So when you do it again and again, your past becomes your predictable future.

If you want to feel good every day, if you don’t want to think of the past but the future, then you should be practicing the six steps routine given below every morning when you wake up.

1. Disconnect from the world

When you get out of your bed in the morning, the first thing you need to do is sit straight on a chair, sofa, or the floor and get comfortable. Next, get rid of everything that you think will disturb you during your session. Create a completely quiet and peaceful environment.

Remember, this should be the first activity you do in the morning. Don’t check on your phone for emails or messages. Just turn it off and after the session, you can check your messages.

Take some deep breaths, feel the peace and disconnect yourself completely from the world.

“Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma – which is living with the results of other people’s thinking.” – Steve Jobs

2. Centre your attention

The next step is to start the breath awareness meditation. Start to focus on your breathing. Focus on how the air gets into your nostrils. Fell how the air gets out of your nose when you exhale. Repeat the process for at least 5 minutes.

During the process, your mind might wander to the past or future thoughts but it is okay, you don’t need to get frustrated about it. Just get aware of them and divert your focus back on your inhaling and exhaling.

Repeat the process for at least 5 minutes.

3. Practice Gratitude

Think of great things around you and thank God for them. Ask yourself the question “what are the things that I am grateful for?” and really dive into that question.

As you start to realize the great things that God has gifted you with, feel it emotionally.

Practicing gratitude is going to make huge changes in you. It will completely change the way how you look at things. You will be happy more than ever.

4. Visualize your future self

The third thing you need to do is ask yourself these questions, “Can I be defined by a future vision rather than the memories of the past?”, “What do I want to do in Life?”

When you start to think about the answer to these questions your mind will automatically start to change. Your brain will start to fire in new combinations and patterns. That’s the beginning of changing your mind.

Next, decide on the emotions you want to feel. As you are thinking of the future, feel it emotionally. Don’t get up until you feel those emotions. As you do this, you have already started to live in the future.

5. Let go of your past

You cannot have a great future without letting go of your past. Decide on what habits and thoughts you can’t bring to the future. Write them down. Thoughts like, I am not sure, I am not confident enough, I am afraid if, I can’t, etc. Furthermore, decide on what thoughts and habits to bring into the future.

Forget about the past memories, behaviors, and emotions and start to create new memories, behaviors, and emotions that would resonate with your future personality.

Conclusion

Our Habits are a set of repeated thoughts and behaviors of which we become unaware. So, if you think about problems every day you are going to be sad and frustrated every time and you won’t even know why. This makes your mind take control of your body.

In order to be in control of your mind, you need to be aware of your thoughts. Moreover, To be happy you need to think about the future, not the past.

Practice this routine every day to create a better future for yourself. Take the time to do it. For some people, this routine takes as short as 15 minutes for others it takes up to two hours. It all depends upon you.

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Mindful Productivity: How Top Achievers Combine Focus and Balance

By being aware of your emotions, thoughts, and surroundings, you can work with your internal and external environments

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Your big-dream goals matter … but not at the expense of your health. (more…)

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The Art of Convincing: 10 Persuasion Techniques That Really Work

The knack for persuading others can act as a catalyst for change, open doors, forge alliances, and effect positive change

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Persuasion is not as complicated as it may sound. In fact, it is something that we have been practicing since childhood. Do you remember convincing your parents to let you skip school, asking your teacher not to assign homework, or persuading your boss to give you a day off? Well, these are just small examples of what persuasion looks like. (more…)

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5 Steps to Leveraging Industry Speaker Events for Career Advancement

Jumping into industry events is a smart move for your career, but there’s a knack to it

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Jumping into industry events is a smart move for your career, but there’s a knack to it. It’s not just about sitting in a room full of people. You’ve got to find the ones that fit your career puzzle, dive in while you’re there, and then make the most of what you’ve learned afterward. (more…)

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Overcoming Plateaus: 6 Powerful Strategies for Breakthrough Success

A plateau is not a full stop; it’s a comma that allows you to pause, reflect, and shift gears

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In the pursuit of personal and professional growth, plateaus are inevitable. They appear when progress seems to halt, despite your continuous efforts. But remember, a plateau is not a full stop; it’s a comma that allows you to pause, reflect, and shift gears. This article provides six powerful strategies to overcome plateaus and achieve breakthrough success.

1. Find Out the Root Cause

When facing a plateau, there is likely something causing you to sabotage your progress. Identify the root cause. What is sabotaging your progress? Examine your daily routine and how you spend your time. Are you wasting time on unnecessary activities? Or are you taking on too many tasks that you can’t handle?

Often, adding more tasks overloads your already tight routine and distracts you from focusing on the most important tasks. Therefore, often eliminating unnecessary activity will work to overcome plateaus. However, be cautious of not doing things right, such as tasks you have not yet undertaken or missing something. What actions do you need to take or improve to achieve your goal? Are you avoiding them, or have you not started yet?

2. Never Tolerate Problems

Once you’ve identified the root cause, never tolerate problems. If you tolerate them, you’ll end up staying stuck. You get what you tolerate. Once you recognize the problem you’re facing, never tolerate it. Instead, address and improve the situation.

3. Focus on a 100% Solution and 0% Problems

To overcome a challenge, it’s essential to plan how to get through it. Yet, people often find themselves asking, ‘Why is it bad?’ or ‘What is wrong with it?’ Questions of this nature limit our thinking, leading our brains to generate responses like ‘Because you’re not good enough’ or ‘Everything is wrong with you.’ These limited answers tend to resonate with the situation and drag you down further.

Instead, ask empowering questions without limits, such as ‘What is not perfect yet, and how can I turn things around while making a more positive impact?’ By asking unlimited empowering questions, you’ll shift your focus from the problem to the solution. Additionally, you will also notice that asking empowering questions can expand available options and allow you to see from an angle you couldn’t see before.

Focusing on problems rarely yields positive outcomes. The key to positive results lies in concentrating on the solution. The next time you face adversity and notice getting caught by unresourceful thoughts, snap out of it and direct your focus to a 100% solution and 0% problems.

“Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” – Henry Ford

4. Cultivate Success-Driven Traits

Identify the traits you need to have and get rid of to become the person you aspire to be. Consider your specific goals – for instance, attracting positive relationships. To achieve this, note down the traits you need to embrace, such as being open-minded, gentle, healthy, and treating others the way you want to be treated.

Cultivate a positive mindset. Simultaneously, get rid of traits like criticizing others, having a short temper, and engaging in unhealthy habits like taking drugs.

Learn from individuals who have achieved similar goals. Study their traits, both the ones they have and those they’ve consciously avoided. Implement these traits to align with the person you want to become.

Once you have your lists of traits to embrace and eliminate, diligently follow them. Place the list on your desk or the door of your room, ensuring you read it at least once a day to reinforce your commitment to these traits.

5. Track Your Habits

Carry a notepad to track your habits throughout the day, especially those contributing to plateaus, as well as your new habits or traits aligned with achieving your goals. For instance, if your root cause is excessive internet use, record instances of mindless scrolling on social media. Note when you engage, the emotional state prompting it, and the approximate duration.

Calculate the total minutes wasted at the end of the day. This habit tracking makes you aware of the emotions triggering these behaviors (stress, boredom, and frustration) and the time wasted.

Additionally, track positive new habits, like reading good books and exercising. Document what you’ve learned from the book and the time spent exercising. This practice helps you build new positive habits by enabling you to compare today’s results with those from yesterday or a week ago. 

Moreover, consistently sticking to new habits for around 18 months transforms them into lifelong habits. Even if you take breaks, you will find yourself naturally returning to those habits.

6. See Obstacles as Opportunities

Every obstacle can be an opportunity to turn things around. If the economy is in a downturn, it’s time to recognize it as an opportunity to thrive while everyone else is struggling and focused on the problem. If someone makes fun of you or causes you trouble, ask yourself, ‘What can I learn from this experience?’

Alternatively, consider that the person underrating you is setting low expectations, which are easier to exceed. If your business receives a bad review from a customer, see it as free feedback that guides you on how to improve and take your business to the next level.

Always try to see different angles that others may overlook. This perspective can reveal aspects you might be missing. When you view a problem as an opportunity, it has the potential to foster growth.

In the journey toward success, plateaus are just temporary pauses, not dead ends. So, keep moving, keep growing, and make your breakthrough.

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