Success Advice
7 Signs It’s Time To Break Up With Your Mentor
There are many reasons why you might want to ditch your mentor. Maybe the relationship ran its course, maybe the mentor wasn’t a good fit, perhaps the relationship has been outgrown. Your needs may have shifted since the relationship was established or maybe your mentor was an emotional vampire who literally sucked the life out of you.
Relationships can be hard and break ups can suck. Same applies to mentorship. As there is a beginning to the relationship, there is an end. While in a professional mentoring capacity there is a process that both parties follow in bringing closure to ensure a finality to the relationship.
What tends to happen in the less formal mentoring relationships is that some tend to avoid any conversation as they may be uncomfortable with saying goodbye whilst others drift over time without any real explanation as to why. Unresolved closure can stain the fabric of the relationship unnecessarily.
When the relationship has gone off course and needs are not being met, it’s time to consider ending the relationship with class and grace.
Here are 7 signs that it’s time to break up with your mentor:
1. You’re no longer learning
When the gut feeling kicks in, the uneasiness is starting to filter, it’s time to put on the self-reflective hat. Ask yourself what value you have gained from your mentor and what you feel that you are not getting to be able to move forward. Delve deeper and take an internal exploration to identify what’s missing and if there is a possibility to reshape the relationship.
When you are clear on what you want it to look like, then it will position you to decide as to whether your mentor has the mindset, heartset and skill set to facilitate the growth experience. When you hit the pause button you begin to unveil your needs and the future pathway. If you are no longer learning or chemistry is not there, don’t prolong the inevitable. Staying in the relationship is a disservice to both parties. It’s time to move on.
“The best way a mentor can prepare another leader is to expose him or her to other great people.” – John C. Maxwell
2. You’re no longer doing what’s required
Every so often one or the other party fails to show up or completely abandons the relationship. When a mentor is assigned or imposed, mentees fail to take it seriously and often leave or do the required minimum with no desire to continue. Phase things out gradually and don’t burn the boats by abandoning the relationship. You may need them in the future to take you to dry land.
3. You have unproductive meetings
A series of unproductive meetings may be a signal that a mentoring relationship has run its course. You shouldn’t be afraid to explicitly dial down the frequency of meetings or stop them entirely. End the relationship by simply letting them know that you have grown through the experience, provide specific examples and you will be in contact with them if a specific issue arises in the future.
4. Too many cancellations or reschedules
Too many cancellations or reschedules should ring alarms bells. As a good beginning is important, so is a good ending. Be prepared to end those relationships that are unproductive and lack commitment. Invest in the ones that will take you to the next level.
Be as truthful as why the relationship is ending and tie up loose ends. No need for anyone or any details to be left hanging. Honor the relationship for the growth opportunity and remain respectful beyond the conversation. You never know when paths will cross.
“A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you.” – Bob Proctor
5. They keep giving you the same advice over and over again
Most mentor relationships begin with the purest of intentions. Mentors provide guidance based on their experience and sage advice. The mentee role is critical in listening to the content that is being provided and how this advice is crafted to suit a situation. The literal application rarely works as the parameters in its application would be different.
It is necessary to craft individual solutions to challenges. If your mentor offers the same advice to you in multiple situations or insists that the way they proceeded was the only pathway to consider, then warning bells should start to ring.
6. Your mentor isn’t letting you fail
Mentors can provide sound advice, guidance and direction when needed to transcend limitations, finding solutions or trying to keep your head above water in a sinking ship. Even though the mentor can play the savior role, it’s not helpful or healthy.
If you invest too much time relying on the advice of others to solve problems, you run the risk of never failing and experiencing one of the most valuable ways to become a better professional human being. Learning experiences are not always positive yet lead to contemplation and new possibilities.
Always doing the right thing breeds complacency and stagnant thinking. The growth is in the learning and failure is just feedback. The ones who truly succeed are not afraid of taking risks and expanding their unfamiliar zones.
7. Mentor is experiencing separation anxiety
As most parents experience their children leaving home, same principle applies to the mentee wanting to distance themselves from mentors. Mentors who are not ready for the separation can feel abandoned, angry or resentful and even impede the mentee’s opportunities for progression stalled.
When breaking up the relationship, delicate and respectful handling is required. Do not attempt to give feedback while emotions are running high. Invest in maintaining a good rapport within the professional network around the mentor.
What is your experience with breaking up with your mentor? Comment below!
Success Advice
Most People Want the Photo of Entrepreneurship. Not the Job.
I used to raise my hand when someone asked who in the room was an entrepreneur.
Then I started watching what people meant by the word.
They meant the photo. Own your time. Work for yourself. Build a life you do not need a holiday from. Those are the perception questions. Everybody says yes.
The reality questions are less popular. Are you willing to work when nobody is watching? Are you willing to put money you cannot easily replace on the line? Are you willing to look average in public while the thing is still ugly?
If you only want the first list, you do not want entrepreneurship. You want a costume.
I got confused because the word got cool
When I started Addicted2Success, entrepreneurship was not a personality. It was a slightly embarrassing choice. Now it sits next to being an athlete or a rapper. Cool. Visible. Easy to claim in a bio.
That timing helped a lot of us. The internet made it cheaper to start. It also made it easier to perform the job without doing the job.
I still believe you can get better at the craft. Sales. Copy. Funnels. Ops. You can sit in rooms with people who have done it. You can be mentored. What I do not believe is that a workshop can install the part that gets out of bed with no manager and no applause.
That part is closer to a talent you either feed or you do not. I could practice basketball every day and get better. I was never going to the league. Plenty of people can run a useful business. Fewer people should bet the house on becoming a founder.
That is not an insult. It is self-awareness. The operators who last double down on what they are actually good at and hire around the rest. The ones who stall spend years trying to become someone they admire.
I wasted years treating titles like a personality
Corporate was not evil. It was the wrong container for how I am wired.
I would start a role excited. A few months in I was a worse version of myself. Sunday already felt like Monday. Wednesday I was writing the resignation in my head. Friday I was just making an appearance.
I thought I needed a better job. I needed a different scoreboard.
A pastor said something that stuck, and it was not complicated. When the life you can see in your head and the life you are living stay too far apart, you get heavy. Not because you are ungrateful. Because you keep saying yes to a room that cannot hold what you are trying to build.
I ignored that sign and looked for another job that would make me happy. Same pattern. Different logo.
Leaving was not cinematic. It was a decision to stop renting my week to people who did not need the version of me that wanted to build.
Success got defined by people who were selling a jet
This is the part I care about more than another “hustle” speech.
A business that pays you well enough to live under your means, doing work you can stand, is a win. We do not talk about it that way. We talk about islands and exits.
If you make a living you can keep, on something you actually like, that is not a participation trophy. That is rare. The bottom of the top one percent in a rich country is still not the picture most people start with. They start at a million and a plane.
I do not want kids growing up thinking they failed because they built a good company instead of a fundraising machine.
A lot of what gets called a startup now is a finance game on the back end. CAC. LTV. The next round. The consumer is a metric. That can work as a sport. It is a terrible way to build a life. When the money gets tighter, the costume comes off. Some people will not have a self left under it.
Freedom is not what you make. It is what you do not have to spend to look free.
How I know it was not just a phase
Every real operator I know was selling something early. Candy. Labor. A service nobody asked them to start. They liked the feeling of money they made themselves.
They also do not stay satisfied. Finish one thing and the room gets quiet until the next problem shows up. That can look ungrateful from the outside. Inside it is just how the engine runs.
They would rather work a long day on their own hook than a clean eight hours on someone else’s calendar. That is not always healthy. It is honest.
I did not get a lightning bolt. I got enough signs that staying put cost more than leaving. Then I had to try it without a guarantee. Fear is usually the thing dressed up as research.
Trying is still the cleanest test. Not a personality quiz. Not a course. You put something in front of a real person and ask if they will pay.
What I watch for now
Attitude and effort. You control both. There is no law against working the problem except the clock.
Put the next step on the calendar. Call someone and ask if they want the thing. Ask if they will pay. A year from now you do not want the same conversation about being stuck.
Do not fall in love with the idea. Collide it with a customer before you write the ten-page plan. A piece of paper on a door beats a pitch deck if nobody knocks.
Protect the hours that actually move the number. Signal over noise. Three things that matter today. Everything else is interruption with a story.
Hire people better than you when you can. If someone cannot keep the standard and you keep them anyway, you just lowered it.
Know what you do not know. That is a strength. Pretending you have every hat is how founders drown.
And if you have a job that still pays the bills, you do not have to light it on fire for a caption. Build the new thing to a point where it is real. Then jump. Discipline is what makes that jump less theatrical.
The voices
People who have never carried the risk will have a lot to say. Some of them love you. That does not make them right about this.
If the people closest to you only feel safe when you stay small, you have to limit how much of their fear you swallow. Misery likes company. So does courage. Pick the room.
Authenticity is not a brand setting. It is not posting what you do not believe because it gets the like. MySpace Top 8 used to feel like life or death. It was not. Neither is this week’s vanity metric.
Work with family only if you love them more than the money. In a family business, respect the dirt that got the thing this far. Hit singles until you have earned the room to swing harder.
What I would tell myself earlier
You do not have to be the next platform.
You do have to be honest about whether you want the job or the photo.
Stay narrow long enough to get good. Attach a real offer to a name people can trust. Move faster than the version of you that wants another month to think. A rough version in the market beats a perfect version in your notes.
If it works, you get a life you do not have to perform.
If it does not, at least you lost on your own sword. Losing twice is worse. Once on the business, and once on the life somebody else talked you into.
Success Advice
What Makes Online Learning Engaging for Adults: Lessons That Earn Attention
An online lesson opened after dinner competes with unfinished work, household chores, and the temptation to close the laptop. Adult students may arrive motivated, but motivation does not create extra hours. A course needs to make those available minutes worthwhile. Engagement begins when the purpose is clear, the workload feels manageable, and progress involves more than watching another video.
Practical context gives unfamiliar material a reason to matter. In a data course, a web scraping API could become part of an exercise about gathering information from permitted sources. The lesson becomes more meaningful when the assignment answers a concrete question, such as comparing product descriptions, instead of introducing a tool without explaining its place in the work.
Give Each Lesson a Clear Destination
A title such as “Introduction to Communication” leaves plenty of room for uncertainty. “Writing a Clear Project Update” establishes a recognisable outcome. Adult students can judge the relevance immediately and connect the lesson with an existing responsibility. That connection gives the exercises a purpose beyond completing a module.
Clear outcomes also help course designers remove distractions. An interesting example may still be unnecessary if it adds complexity before the central idea makes sense. A focused lesson introduces enough background to support practice, then gives the student something to attempt. Extra reading can remain available without interrupting the main route.
Technical obstacles deserve similar attention. If an exercise introduces a web unblocker, the explanation should establish its intended role, access boundaries, and any required setup. A prepared alternative should allow learning to continue when the tool is unavailable. Troubleshooting can support a technical objective, but an unrelated access problem should not consume the entire study session.
Build Flexibility Around Real Schedules
Flexible learning requires more than recordings available at any hour. A student needs to know whether an activity requires ten quiet minutes, a longer concentration period, or attendance at a particular time. Without that information, even a short assignment becomes difficult to fit around other commitments.
Course Details That Make Planning Easier
- Time estimates: Indicate the likely commitment for reading, practice, and revision.
- Clear stopping points: Divide material into sections that end meaningfully.
- Written alternatives: Provide transcripts or instructions alongside spoken explanations.
- Visible deadlines: Keep submission dates and attendance requirements easy to locate.
Short sections are useful when each section completes a thought. Splitting a complex explanation into tiny fragments can create more navigation without improving understanding. The appropriate length depends on the task: a quick demonstration may need minutes, while a thoughtful case study deserves uninterrupted space.
Make Practice Worth the Effort
Clicking through slides gives little opportunity to discover a misunderstanding. A useful activity asks for a decision, an explanation, or a result. In a management course, that might involve responding to a difficult scheduling request. In language learning, a short message can put recently introduced vocabulary to work.
Experience should have a place in those assignments. Adult students bring established habits, professional knowledge, and examples of situations that did not follow the textbook. Allowing a choice of scenarios makes room for that background while keeping the learning objective consistent.
Feedback then needs to address the actual attempt. “Good work” offers encouragement but little direction. Identifying an unclear argument or explaining why a calculation failed gives the next revision somewhere to begin. An opportunity to try again makes the feedback usable.
Create Contact Without Constant Demands
An online course can feel surprisingly empty when questions disappear into an inactive forum. A dependable response process matters more than an abundance of communication channels. Students need a clear place to ask for help and a realistic expectation of when an answer will arrive.
Support That Keeps Learning Moving
- Offer focused discussion prompts connected to current assignments.
- Explain when tutor replies can normally be expected.
- Allow questions without requiring public personal disclosure.
- Provide a clear route back after a missed week.
Progress should become visible through growing capability. Comparing an early attempt with a later revision can reveal improvement more clearly than a completion badge alone.
Engaging adult education respects limited time while leaving room for difficulty. Meaningful tasks, accessible materials, and specific feedback make persistence worthwhile. The reward is the ability to do something useful with greater confidence after the lesson ends.
Success Advice
You Bought Braze. Now What? The 7 Gaps That Keep Brands From Realizing Its Full ROI
Buying Braze is a significant investment. The harder part is making sure the investment compounds. For companies that have already implemented Braze, the conversation has moved well beyond platform selection. The questions are more operational and commercial:
Are we using the data we have effectively? Are our journeys actually influencing customer behavior? Are we measuring revenue and retention, or just engagement? Can the team scale personalization without creating more operational complexity?
These questions matter because the potential upside is substantial. A 2026 Forrester Total Economic Impact™ study commissioned by Braze found a 457% three-year ROI and less than a six-month payback for a composite organization using Braze and BrazeAI Decisioning Studio. The study also identified gains from improved conversion and retention, operational efficiency, and personalization.
But those numbers should not be interpreted as an automatic return from installing the platform. The real lesson is that technology creates potential; operating discipline turns that potential into value. For organizations already using Braze, there are seven common gaps worth examining.
1. Your Data Is Connected, but Is It Actionable?
Most mature marketing teams have no shortage of customer data. The problem is turning that data into reliable signals that can influence a customer experience in real time.
A customer may have a purchase history, product activity, browsing behavior, engagement history, preferences, and demographic information spread across multiple systems. Braze can use many of these signals, but only if the underlying data architecture is designed properly.
That means asking questions beyond whether a CRM or CDP is connected:
- Are the right customer events being captured?
- Is the event taxonomy consistent?
- Are attributes updated at the right frequency?
- Can customer identity be resolved reliably?
- Which system owns the source of truth?
- Are teams using behavioral signals to trigger action?
This is increasingly important as customer engagement moves from scheduled campaigns toward real-time, signal-based experiences. Braze’s 2026 research identifies real-time data activation as one of the characteristics separating higher-performing engagement programs.
2. You’re Optimizing Campaigns Instead of Customer Outcomes
Open rates, clicks, conversions, and engagement rates are useful diagnostic metrics. They are not necessarily business outcomes. A campaign can produce an impressive click-through rate and still have little impact on retention, revenue, product adoption, or customer lifetime value. This is where organizations need to change the way they evaluate Braze.
Instead of asking: “How did the campaign perform?” Ask: “What changed in customer behavior because we ran it?”
For a subscription business, that might mean retention or renewal. For ecommerce, it could be repeat purchase or customer lifetime value. For an app, it might be activation, feature adoption, or frequency of use.
This shift also changes how journeys are designed. The KPI should influence the journey architecture, audience strategy, experimentation plan, and ultimately the decision about whether the journey deserves more investment. The 2026 Forrester study illustrates the distinction. Its composite organization attributed substantial financial impact to improved conversion and retention.
3. Your Journeys Are Multiplying Faster Than Your Operating Model
One of the easiest ways to create problems in Braze is to keep adding journeys. Individually, each journey may make sense. Collectively, they can create a confusing customer experience. Customers don’t experience your campaigns as separate projects. They experience one brand.
That creates the risk of:
- Overlapping journeys
- Conflicting messages
- Duplicate audiences
- Poor suppression logic
- Excessive frequency
- Unclear ownership
- Difficult-to-maintain Canvas logic
As a Braze environment grows, governance becomes less of an administrative exercise and more of a customer experience requirement. Teams should periodically review their journey ecosystem and ask:
Which journeys still have a clear business purpose?
Where are customers entering multiple experiences simultaneously?
Which journeys can be consolidated?
Where are we creating operational complexity without creating incremental customer value?
Scaling the number of journeys is easy. Scaling the quality and coherence of those journeys is harder.
4. Personalization Is Still Mostly Segmentation
Many organizations describe their marketing as personalized when what they are really doing is advanced segmentation. There is an important difference.
“Customers who purchased running shoes in the last 90 days” is a segment. Understanding that a particular customer has recently browsed running products, has high engagement, is approaching their typical repurchase window, and is currently interacting through mobile creates a much richer decision context.
The future of personalization lies in moving from static audience definitions toward contextual decisioning. That does not mean every interaction needs AI. It means the organization needs to use the signals available to determine what is most relevant for that customer at that moment. Braze’s recent research reflects this shift, highlighting embedded decisioning and continuous optimization as characteristics of more advanced customer engagement programs.
5. You Have Multiple Channels, but Not Orchestration
Having email, push, SMS, in-app messaging, and other channels available does not automatically create an omnichannel experience. In fact, adding channels without orchestration can make the experience worse. A customer could receive a promotional email, a push notification, and an SMS about essentially the same offer because three different teams or journeys are operating independently.
True orchestration requires the channels to operate around a shared understanding of the customer. That means considering:
- Which channel should be used?
- When should it be used?
- What has the customer already received?
- What action has the customer taken?
- Should another message be suppressed?
- Has the customer already converted?
6. You’re Adding AI Before Fixing the Fundamentals
AI is becoming increasingly prominent in customer engagement. But there is a temptation to treat AI as the next layer to add to an existing marketing stack. That can be backwards.
AI decisioning cannot compensate for poor event architecture. It cannot fix fragmented customer identities. It cannot make an unclear business objective clearer. And it cannot turn poorly designed journeys into a coherent customer experience.
The foundation still matters. Braze’s 2026 research points to the combination of real-time data activation, embedded decisioning, operational simplicity, and continuous optimization as the more important pattern.
In other words, AI works best when it sits inside a well-designed operating model rather than alongside a fragmented one. The question shouldn’t be: “Where can we add AI?”
It should be: “Which customer decisions could be improved with better intelligence, and do we have the data and operating model to support those decisions?”
7. You Don’t Have a Continuous Optimization Model
Perhaps the biggest gap is organizational. Many teams treat Braze implementation as a project with a defined start and finish, but customer engagement is an ongoing process. Once the platform is live, teams need to continuously evaluate which journeys are working, how audience behavior is changing, where customers are dropping off, whether messages are losing effectiveness, which channels are driving incremental value, and which experiments or journeys should be scaled or retired. That requires more than campaign production; it requires an ongoing operating rhythm across strategy, data, CRM, creative, analytics, technology, and experimentation.
Mavlers’ POV: The Opportunity Is More Value From the Braze You Already Have.
At Mavlers, our experience across 100+ Braze clients and more than 2,000 Braze campaigns managed has reinforced a simple observation: the biggest opportunity for many brands isn’t launching more campaigns. It’s getting more value from the infrastructure they have already invested in. That starts with understanding where the friction actually exists.
Our approach begins with an audit of data architecture, journeys, integrations, and performance gaps. From there, the focus moves into lifecycle strategy, technical implementation, testing, launch, optimization, and continuous experimentation.
The sequence matters. You can’t optimize what you haven’t structured correctly. And you can’t create meaningful personalization if the underlying customer signals are incomplete, inconsistent, or difficult to activate.
We also see Braze as part of a broader customer engagement ecosystem, not an isolated platform. CRM, CDP, product data, analytics, content, and other technologies all influence how effectively Braze can respond to customer behavior.
A Practical Braze ROI Audit
For marketing leaders evaluating their current Braze program, five questions are a good place to start.
1. Can we trace customer behavior to business outcomes?
If you cannot connect a journey to activation, retention, revenue, or another meaningful outcome, it may be time to revisit its purpose.
2. Are our customer signals reliable enough for real-time engagement?
Review your event taxonomy, customer attributes, integrations, identity resolution, and data freshness.
3. How much journey complexity have we accumulated?
Look for overlapping journeys, redundant segments, conflicting messages, and unnecessary operational dependencies.
4. Is personalization actually contextual?
Move beyond demographic and behavioral segments toward decisioning based on current customer context.
5. How quickly can we learn and act?
Measure more than campaign performance. Look at how quickly teams can identify an insight, build an experiment, launch it, evaluate it, and apply the learning elsewhere.
That last metric is often overlooked.
But in a fast-changing customer environment, the speed of learning can become a competitive advantage.
The Bottom Line
The biggest Braze opportunity may not be another journey, another channel, or another AI capability. It may be getting more out of the capabilities already sitting inside the platform.
Braze’s potential is substantial. The 2026 Forrester study provides one indication of that, reporting a 457% ROI for its composite organization and significant benefits from conversion, retention, efficiency, and AI-powered decisioning. But the lesson for existing Braze customers isn’t to chase a benchmark. It’s to examine the gap between what the platform can do and what the organization is actually getting from it.
That gap is where the next wave of Braze value will be created. Through better data, better decisions, better orchestration, stronger operating discipline, and continuous optimization.
Success Advice
Stop Waiting to Become the Person Your Purpose Needs
I ran a workshop in Bali on living out your purpose, and the same thing kept coming up.
People could talk about impact all day. They could talk about who they wanted to become. Then you asked them what they were actually doing this week, and the room got quiet.
That is usually the whole problem.
We act like the next season of our life is going to arrive once we feel ready. It does not work like that. You become the person first. Then the life has somewhere to go.
I do not mean that in a mystical way. I mean it the way Scripture talks about it. Put off the old self. Put on the new. Renew your mind. Then live like it.
Most of us already know why we are stuck
It is not because the market is full.
It is because last year’s version of you is still making this year’s decisions.
That guy was useful. He got you here. He also has a habit of hiding, delaying, and calling it strategy. You say you want the company, the marriage, the platform, the stronger body. Then you wait for a better week. You wait for confidence. You wait for someone to tap you on the shoulder and tell you it is time.
If you keep that up for another decade, you do not get a new life. You get a longer version of this one.
So the first honest move is pretty simple. That old way of operating does not get to keep running the show. Thank God for what it taught you. Then stop letting it set the standard.
Purpose is more practical than people make it
In that workshop I gave four questions. They sound basic. They are not, if you answer them without performing.
What do you love? Not what sounds impressive. What would you suffer for.
What are you good at right now? You can learn more later. If you aim so high that you never feel any progress, you will quit.
What problem can you actually help with? Teaching counts. Building counts. Leading counts. It does not have to save the whole planet. It does have to serve someone.
How does this make money? People at purpose events hate that question. I still ask it. If nothing is coming in, the thing dies. Sales is not unspiritual. It is how the work stays alive. If you cannot sell, hire someone who can.
Where those four answers overlap, you are getting close to purpose. Not a brand statement. A direction you can walk.
And you probably will not have one purpose for life. You will have seasons. You work with what you know now. That is enough to start.
Write it down like a real week, not a quote
“More freedom” is not a plan.
Write what the next season actually looks like. What you are building. What a normal month feels like. What you will not do anymore. Who you are responsible for. What Tuesday looks like when nobody is watching.
If you want a team, say team. If you want dinner at home, say dinner. If you want to publish, say publish.
Vague goals let the old self hide. Specific ones make it obvious where you are lying to yourself.
This is stewardship. You aim. Then you take the next clear step. Your current bank account does not get to veto the assignment.
You do not need the finished version. You need the one who will start.
This is where years disappear.
People stand outside the thing and try to become impressive enough to deserve it. They watch videos. They design the logo. They wait until they feel like the person who should be doing this.
You need the person who will record the first video. Make the offer. Have the conversation. Lead one person. Send the thing before it is pretty.
Faith without works is dead. A lot of us use that verse on other people and then sit on our own calling until we feel anointed.
Clarity usually shows up after you move. You will not see step four while you are still arguing with step one.
Look at the gap and do not dress it up
There is you today.
Then there is the person for whom this next season is normal. Not famous. Faithful.
What does that person finish? What will they not put up with? How fast do they decide? How do they talk when they are tired? What do they do after a win? What do they do after they blow it?
Now write what you actually do.
That part is uncomfortable. It should be. If you will not tell the truth there, you will keep buying courses so you do not have to.
The issue is usually not talent. It is the lowest standard you still allow when nobody is looking.
Practice the new standard in the life you already have
You do not get a new life and then start acting different.
You act different while the room still looks the same. Same bills. Same calendar. Same unfinished text. Different follow-through.
That stretch is the work. Most people cannot handle being faithful in an unfinished situation, so they go back to matching the old life. Then they say the vision was unrealistic.
Keep one promise. Decide faster. Tell the truth sooner. Publish the imperfect thing. Stop writing essays about why you cannot begin.
If you want to know whether something works, do not spend three months decorating the plan. Ask how you could find out in a week. An offer. Three conversations. One ugly version shipped.
The person polishing the first draft for half a year loses to the person who shipped ten rough ones and learned.
If it takes five minutes, do it now. Sometimes what we call discernment is just stalling with better language.
And if it starts working, do not get soft. Comfort is how good men drift. When it feels easy, raise the standard.
Doubt is not automatically God closing the door
You decide, and then the old habits show up. You want to research instead of send it. You get foggy. You pick a fight. You feel behind.
That does not always mean you missed it. Sometimes it just means the old way is losing its job.
Take the fear to God. Then do the next right thing anyway. You do not have to feel like that man to obey like him.
There will also be seasons where you outgrow something that used to fit. The offer. The role. The way you have been showing up. It still gets applause, and it still feels tight. Staying there because it once worked is how you get successful and restless at the same time.
What to do with this
Answer the four questions on paper.
Write the season in real-life detail.
Write who you would have to be for that season to be normal.
Tell the truth about the gap.
Then do the smallest thing that puts you in the work, even if the evidence still looks like last year.
Six months from now those days are gone either way. I would rather you spend them becoming the person your purpose actually requires than waiting for a feeling that never comes.
This is a LIVE recording from a workshop I held in Bali speaking into living out your purpose
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