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We Don’t Need More Self Improvement: We Need Creators.

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Countries all across the planet have created this huge self-improvement movement in the last few decades. It’s at an all-time high.

Everyone’s high fiving each other.

We’re reading more books about transforming our lives. We’re trying new habits. We’re listening to self-improvement podcasts. Live events with the likes of Tim Ferriss and Tony Robbins are selling out everywhere. Anyone who preaches self-improvement is becoming “Internet Famous.”

There’s one challenge though everybody:

“If we all try to improve ourselves and not each other, we’re screwed”

That’s why we need more creators.

Passive consumption does nothing for no one.

Creators are people who want to build things instead of passively consuming. If all you do is focus on improving yourself and you never actually do anything, then there’s no point. Getting all fired up to go to work and then just get money so you can live in a bigger castle, thanks to the drug that is self-improvement, is scary.

If you’re going to consume lots of self-improvement content and go to all these rah-rah stand on one-foot events, then you need to remember one thing:

Self-improvement is meaningless if you don’t create something that’s designed to help somebody other than yourself.

There’s no joy or fulfillment in improving yourself. Take a look at all those Wall Street folk who supposedly have it all. Do they look happy to you? Mostly not.

Let me stop you for a second.

Thus far, you might be falling for the lie that I’m against self-improvement. I’m not. I consume more of it than is humanly possible. The challenge was that after a while, likes, comments, money and internet fame got boring.

What’s funny is that it all got boring far quicker than I expected. As soon as I got 100 likes per post, I then wanted one thousand. Then I wanted hundreds of thousands and then of course millions.

So, I thought to myself there has to be a better way. As I begun reading books about people who had achieved great things I saw a pattern: it was what they created for all of us that became the cornerstone of their life not the achievement of goals.

Creating cool stuff that helps people is the goal.

“Stuffing your face with positive content so you can then stuff your face with the riches of life is not the end game”

Self-improvement never stops. It’s what you do with it that’s crucial.

How’d you like to play a game where you never win? That’s what self-improvement is. It’s a game you play by yourself (how lonely?) that never feels like you got anywhere. You keep on improving and then move further away from the person you used to be.

The danger is that when you go so far down the self-improvement path, you can fall into the trap of thinking you’re better than everybody else. You can fall for the delusion that everybody else is stupid and you’re so smart because you know the 101 life hacks to success.

Again, what has worked for me is finding a way to channel your self-improvement into a cause, goal, vision – whatever you want to call it – that ends up in you creating something of value for all of us.

For me, I found that the self-improvement content, events, books and podcasts led me to create my own content. I then used this content to reach more people and find ways to solve their problems (or at least bring certain addictions and ideas to the surface).

That’s what version 1.0 looks like in my journey. The next phase will be bigger than that. I want to create something that can bring even more value. So, it’s not the fact that I’m a different person to five years ago; it’s the fact that I’m creating now, whereas five years ago I was consuming only.

Self-improvement makes us think we’re getting somewhere.

The reason why self-improvement has become so addictive is that it leads us to the conclusion that we’re making progress. Just like when you play games on your phone, as you reach the next level and you crank up the difficulty, the progress you’re experiencing feels really good.

Your brain tells you that you must be getting progressing and so you do more of what feels good. After a while, self-improvement gets boring. It’s at this point that we often hijack our own success. To paint a picture of what this looks like it’s based on one human issue: ego.

Too much self-improvement leads to feelings of being bored. To make yourself feel better, you get your rocks off by telling us all how phenomenal you are. What can be even worse is when this problem leads to you having to put others down for not being on the same level as you.

“You don’t always need to be going somewhere. Where you are right now is beautiful. That’s the hack”

An overdose of self-improvement can lead to perfectionism.

So, if there’s no end goal, then what can this daily self-improvement obsession cause you to do? The answer I’ve found is it can lead to perfectionism.

You end up trying to be good at everything. You over-analyse your time, you become obsessed with productivity, you say no too much because every book you read tells you the benefits of a decline, you workout more than you need to, you never have fun and eat something that is not healthy, you force those around you to be like you, you delete too many people from your network because they’re somehow too toxic for your perfect new life.

Need I go on? Nobody is perfect including you. Self-improvement will not lead to mastery in everything you touch. You don’t have the Midas Touch because of self-improvement.

Spend less time being succumbed to endless self-improvement and get back to creating again.

Execution is the key, not the pump up that is self-improvement.

The harsh reality is you’ll only be remembered when you’re dead for what you created, not how much self-improvement you did. The aim of life is to execute on something, anything. The word execution is a close relative of the word creation.

You execute so you can create.
You create so you can serve others and solve meaningful problems.
The reward for this creation is fulfillment, meaning and a life well-lived.

That’s the formula right there for mastery. Self-improvement is the picture frame that holds these pieces of the puzzle together, but it’s not an actual piece of the puzzle itself. Without these three keys, you end up with a picture frame and no picture inside of it. The picture inside is what you create.

We can all become self-improvement junkies and be the same as each other. What makes us different though is what we create. Creation gives us our unique abilities, personalities and defining attributes.

Just seeing the world through others is not enough.

One of the core concepts of self-improvement is modeling others through, podcasts, books, events, etc. The challenge with this is that if you never get in the car and drive it yourself, then all you have is an idea of what life is like rather than real-world experience.

You need the experience that comes from creation otherwise you’ll start driving the car of life and hit a brick wall in the car park before you’ve even got on the highway because you don’t know how to solve problems.

The creation process is filled with problems, challenges, people who don’t believe in you and detours you’ll never predict. The fun part is not continually learning the self-improvement models of success; the fun part is creating a fusion of success through your own models, and the models you learn from self-improvement.

***Final Thought***

I hope I’ve managed to shed some light on the myth that too much self-improvement brings. Too much focus on yourself will lead to more pain. Concentrate on executing, creating and doing things that are not only good for “yourself.”

Self-improvement is at its best when it’s overshadowed by creating and executing.

The world needs more creators. Why can’t you be a creator?

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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