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6 Ways Your Brain Attempts To Sabotage Your Goals & Dreams
Now we know that you should never make excuses for not sticking to your goals, and we understand that from time to time you will have your valid reasons, but what if it is not really you to blame for your failures and that your brain is actually out to sabotage your hopeful plans?
Well this article here explains the 6 ways that your brain plays tricks on you to sabotage your goals and dreams.
1.) Your brain can hurt your goals by fantasizing too much
Would you believe that fantasizing is the #1 way your brain can unintentionally ruin your goals?
It seems unlikely, right?
The thing is, the proof is in the pudding (or in this case, the research): psychologists have found that while positive thinking about the future is broadly beneficial, too much fantasy can have disastrous results on achieving goals.
Researchers tracked the progress of how people cope with four different types of challenges.
As an example, in one of those challenges (trying to find a fulfilling job), those who had spent the most time fantasizing performed the worst in a variety of critical data points:
- they had applied for fewer jobs
- they had been offered fewer jobs
- if they were able to find work, they had lower salaries.
Why?
Why could fantasizing about a positive end take a turn for the worse?
Jeremy Dean, a psychological researcher at UCL London and the owner of PsyBlog had this to say about the researcher’s conclusions:
The problem with positive fantasies is that they allow us to anticipate success in the here and now. However, they don’t alert us to the problems we are likely to face along the way and can leave us with less motivation—after all, it feels like we’ve already reached our goal.
It’s one way in which our minds own brilliance lets us down. Because it’s so amazing at simulating our achievement of future events, it can actually undermine our attempts to achieve those goals in reality.
Our poor brain is thus a victim of itself.
Again, this is not to say that visualizing goals is necessarily a haphazard strategy for achieving them, it’s just that we need to be aware of the dangers of excessive fantasy.
Instead of being entranced with what the future may bring, we need to learn to love the work here and now.
Enjoying our day by day progress and realistic ‘checkpoints’ is a much more practical way to create our future; getting lost in grandiose dreams that focus on the ultimate end is not.
As they say, don’t give up on your dreams, but don’t fall under their spell either.
2.) Your brain procrastinates on big projects by visualizing the worst parts
Procrastination, of all of the things on this list, is likely the most recognizable: everybody realizes that they procrastinate from time to time, and it’s something we are forced to battle with every day.
How can we fight this persistent opponent?
Interesting research from Russian psychologist Bluma Zeigarnik (of whom the Zeigarnik Effect is named after) reveals to us an interesting tidbit about the human mind: we are better at remember things that are partially done.
Ms. Zeigarnik came to this conclusion by testing the memory of folks doing simple “brain” tasks like puzzles or crafts.
She then interrupted them and asked them to recall (with specific detail) the tasks that they were doing or had completed.
She found that people were twice as likely to recall more detail about the tasks they had been interrupted in than in the tasks they had completed.
What does this have to do with procrastination?
Before we get to that, know this: in a study by Kenneth McGraw, participants were given a very tricky puzzle to solve with an “unlimited” amount of time.
The thing is, all of the participants were interrupted before they could finish, and then told that the study was over.
Guess what happened next…
Despite being told they were done, nearly 90% of participants continued working on the puzzle anyway.
What both of these studies teach us is that when people finally manage to start something, they are much more inclined to remember the task and finish it.
The Zeigarnik Effect and the subsequent McGraw study assure us that the best way to beat procrastination is to start somewhere… anywhere.
Our brain has the habit of envisioning the impending huge workload of an upcoming task.
It also tends to focus on the most difficult parts or sections, and this is where procrastination begins to set in: as we try to avoid the “hard work”, we find ways to skate around it and trick ourselves into thinking that we’re busy.
Just starting though, triggers our brain in a different way.
It’s the same way that cliffhangers are utilized to keep us coming back to our favorite TV shows; we’re primed to remember the last episode because the story was interrupted, and our brain wants a conclusion.
It’s the same with your tasks: start, and your brain will overcome the first hurdle.
This seemingly small milestone appears to be the most important one to overcome if you wish to defeat procrastination.
After starting a task, your brain will be more enticed to finish it to it’s “conclusion.”
You also tend to see that it’s not as big a mountain as you initially imagined, and that the work involved in completing this task won’t be so terrifying after all.
3.) Your brain will “abandon ship” at the first sign of distress
Anyone who’s fought the good fight with dieting will likely recognize this phenomenon.
Envision this:
You’re on a diet, and have been doing well for about 2 1/2 weeks, but you know your defenses are at risk.
To make matters work, you’re having dinner with friends tonight.
Instead of the healthy meal you could have made at home, you’re forced to use a restaurant menu.
The problem is this: At the bar before dinner, you had a little “cheat” moment by ordering snacks and drinks, after all, you’re with your pals tonight, right?
You know that those drinks and snacks, combined with the bread you had before dinner, leave you with one option to stay a bit over your caloric intake goals: you must eat a salad.
The thing is, your brain is yelling out “BURGER!”.
Instead of finishing the day a tad over your 2000 calorie goal, you order the burger with fries and don’t look back.
The crazy thing about this scenario?
It’s much more than a momentary act of weakness: psychologists have observed that this is much more likely to happen as a result of you missing a previously set goal.
Specifically, in research by Janet Polivy and her colleagues, people who were actually on diets were tested with pizza and cookies.
In the study, two groups of participants (those on diets and those not dieting) were told not to eat beforehand and then served exactly the same slice of pizza when they arrived to the lab.
Afterwards, they were then asked to taste and rate some cookies (I’m getting hungry already : )).
The thing was, the experimenters didn’t really care about the cookie’s rating, they just wanted to see how many people ate.
This is because they tricked some of the participants into thinking that they had received a larger slice than the others (using framing and false information). This was to make them believe that they had most certainly “ruined” their diet goals for the day.
The result?
When the cookies were weighed, it turned out that those who were on a diet and thought they’d blown their limit ate more of the cookies than those who weren’t on a diet.
This doesn’t paint the true picture though: they ate over 50% more!
On the flip side, the dieters that did think that they were in their caloric limit ate the same amount of cookies as those who weren’t on a diet at all.
Truly, our brain is geared towards a call of “Abandon ship!”, whenever we come short of our goals.
Don’t let this happen to you!
The best way to combat your brain from signaling ‘Mission Abort!’ after you’ve missed a short-term goal is to re-frame what just happened.
Yes, you did fall short or maybe mess up this time, but remember the progress that you’ve made.
With the diet example, you could look at all of the “good days” you’ve accumulated thus far: even if you fell after only a few days of starting your new diet, it’s still an accomplishment to have started one and to have set long-term goals for yourself.
Short-term lapses in your end-goal is not like a bad apple spoiling the bunch: you have gotten things accomplished so far and you need to stay focused on the long-term, not become distraught by a single mishap.
Research tells us that this is the best mindset to take for misfortune and failure in general: your progress and achievements go so much farther than that slip-up; don’t let your brain convince you that all is lost!
4.) Your brain loves mindless busywork disguised as progress
How fitting that this should be posted on a site that relates to social media!
One of the ways in which your brain continues it’s trickery is through busy work: work that gets “something” done, but not something that produces any measurable results.
In fact, research by John Bargh and colleagues reveals that our brain just loves to become robotic and to even mimic people out of habit.
I shouldn’t have to tell you that this is disastrous to achieving long-term goals!
This busy work is often a mechanism our brain uses in cohesion with avoiding big projects (mentioned above): instead of diving into the difficult tasks we KNOW we should get done, we’ll instead float around doing semi-related (read: barely related) menial tasks to make ourselves feelproductive without actually getting anything done.
Here’s the thing: you’re not going to build a thriving business or a successful blog with that kind of busy work.
It takes doing the hard work and it takes deliberate practice, there’s no way around it.
The thing is, your brain knows this, that’s why you have to remind it remind yourself that the challenging stuff is often the stuff that produces the results you desire.
Also remember that you can fight that procrastination by just getting started.
When you look back at what you’ve gotten done by the end of the day, make sure you’re proud of what you got accomplished, don’t let your brain ruin your goals by diverting you from what needs to be done!
5.) Your brain gives you a false sense of time.
Your brain says: “Relax, you’ve got plenty of time for this project.”
The reality: You are straight-up terrible at estimating how long it will take you to finish tasks. You’ll almost assuredly underestimate the time you’ll need.
When they started building the Sydney Opera House, the blokes in charge were all like, “No worries, mate. She’ll be done by 1963 and this $7 million budget should cover things nicely. Throw another shrimp on the barbie.” (Note: I am paraphrasing here.) Then they proceeded to tear through the $7 million faster than a kangaroo chasing a boomerang (fun with stereotypes!). The iconic building finally opened in 1973—ten years late and $95 million over budget.
You tend to underestimate how much time projects will take for you to complete. It’s called Planning Fallacy, and it’s why Afternoon-You looks at the to-do list made by Morning-You and says, “Were you under the impression that I am some sort of goddamn superhero or what?”
Psychologists think your overly optimistic planning is caused by a combination of wishful thinking and how you view similar projects you’ve done in the past, which is to say you subconsciously take credit for the progress that was made but blame outside forces for delays. The last article took so long to write because your computer crashed, your neighbor was playing “Rhythm Is A Dancer” on his damned guitar again, and you got stuck in traffic on the way to an interview. Those things weren’t your fault and won’t happen again, you say. But they might. And if they don’t, other time-sucks will show up to take their place.
Solutions:
- Your brain isn’t as bad at determining how long it will take someone else to complete a task. You’ll overestimate in most cases, but it’s nothing compared to the wildly overoptimistic standards you’ll set for yourself. When you need to determine a time frame for a project, imagine someone else will be completing the task and your guess will be closer to the truth.
- Planning Fallacy is going to tell you that writing your book will take, oh, maybe two weeks if you stop for meals. As always, it lies. For a goal as complex as that, the only way to get a remotely accurate estimate is to break it into the individual steps it will take to achieve it. Besides, it’s scary as hell to see “write novel” on today’s to-do list, but breaking it down into steps like “research alpaca breeding standards for book” or “write chapter seven” turns it into something that’s finite, specific, and easier to wrap your head around. Make a list. Write down how long each step will take. Add ’em up.
- Make a note of how long similar tasks have taken, but don’t adjust for distractions or problems caused by outside sources.
- Identify potential snags. Assume they’ll happen.
6.) Your brain is not good at “winging it” when it comes to planning… ever!
Every night before I go to sleep, I like to write a simple “to-do” list that I group into two categories.
I put some in category ‘A’ (must be done tomorrow) and some in category ‘B’ (must be worked on or done in 2-3 days).
I do this because when I sit down at the computer to do work without a plan, I tend to fall flat on my face.
My so-called “work time” turns into the not-so-productive “check email time” or “browse Reddit” time; nothing of any importance gets done.
It seems that I’m not alone!
In research by Gollwitzer and colleagues, the subject of “if-then” plans was discussed in relation to how we set and stay consistent with out goals, and the results are not surprising but reveal a lot of insight into how our brain reacts to planning (and even some great tips).
The thing is, researchers found that not only do well laid plans seem to get accomplished more often, but planning for failures along the way (“In case of emergency…”) helps people stay on task under duress.
Let’s continue our diet example from above.
Say you did have that lapse and go over your calories for the day.
Instead of “winging it” and letting your brain crumble to it’s likely response (discussed above), you should have a backup plan ready to know what to do when failure strikes.
This could be something like: “If I go over 2000 calories in a day, I’ll finish the day as close to 2000 as I can, and then the next morning, I’ll go for a 15 minute run as a ‘penance’, make sure I eat an extra healthy breakfast, and then continue the rest of my day as normal.”
You are likely no stranger to feeling ashamed about getting off track, we’ve all been there.
Having those “In case of emergency…” plans help us to have a game plan in case we do falter, and including a small ‘penance’ like I discussed above can help us get over it quicker.
If you failed on your diet for a day and then ‘punish’ (again, just with a quick run) yourself by running in the morning, you can go about your day knowing that you got what you deserved, instead of sliding down the slippery slope of guilt through the rest of the day.
So remember to include an “If-Then” plan for your next big goal, you’ll be able to beat back your brain’s guilt over slipping up now and then and you won’t have to ever “wing it” in case something goes wrong!
And here is a bonus little meme from the good fellas over at Runt Of The Web that I am sure we can all relate to:

This is an article by Gregory Ciotti, founder of Sparring Mind.
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You Bought Braze. Now What? The 7 Gaps That Keep Brands From Realizing Its Full ROI
Buying Braze is a significant investment. The harder part is making sure the investment compounds. For companies that have already implemented Braze, the conversation has moved well beyond platform selection. The questions are more operational and commercial:
Are we using the data we have effectively? Are our journeys actually influencing customer behavior? Are we measuring revenue and retention, or just engagement? Can the team scale personalization without creating more operational complexity?
These questions matter because the potential upside is substantial. A 2026 Forrester Total Economic Impact™ study commissioned by Braze found a 457% three-year ROI and less than a six-month payback for a composite organization using Braze and BrazeAI Decisioning Studio. The study also identified gains from improved conversion and retention, operational efficiency, and personalization.
But those numbers should not be interpreted as an automatic return from installing the platform. The real lesson is that technology creates potential; operating discipline turns that potential into value. For organizations already using Braze, there are seven common gaps worth examining.
1. Your Data Is Connected, but Is It Actionable?
Most mature marketing teams have no shortage of customer data. The problem is turning that data into reliable signals that can influence a customer experience in real time.
A customer may have a purchase history, product activity, browsing behavior, engagement history, preferences, and demographic information spread across multiple systems. Braze can use many of these signals, but only if the underlying data architecture is designed properly.
That means asking questions beyond whether a CRM or CDP is connected:
- Are the right customer events being captured?
- Is the event taxonomy consistent?
- Are attributes updated at the right frequency?
- Can customer identity be resolved reliably?
- Which system owns the source of truth?
- Are teams using behavioral signals to trigger action?
This is increasingly important as customer engagement moves from scheduled campaigns toward real-time, signal-based experiences. Braze’s 2026 research identifies real-time data activation as one of the characteristics separating higher-performing engagement programs.
2. You’re Optimizing Campaigns Instead of Customer Outcomes
Open rates, clicks, conversions, and engagement rates are useful diagnostic metrics. They are not necessarily business outcomes. A campaign can produce an impressive click-through rate and still have little impact on retention, revenue, product adoption, or customer lifetime value. This is where organizations need to change the way they evaluate Braze.
Instead of asking: “How did the campaign perform?” Ask: “What changed in customer behavior because we ran it?”
For a subscription business, that might mean retention or renewal. For ecommerce, it could be repeat purchase or customer lifetime value. For an app, it might be activation, feature adoption, or frequency of use.
This shift also changes how journeys are designed. The KPI should influence the journey architecture, audience strategy, experimentation plan, and ultimately the decision about whether the journey deserves more investment. The 2026 Forrester study illustrates the distinction. Its composite organization attributed substantial financial impact to improved conversion and retention.
3. Your Journeys Are Multiplying Faster Than Your Operating Model
One of the easiest ways to create problems in Braze is to keep adding journeys. Individually, each journey may make sense. Collectively, they can create a confusing customer experience. Customers don’t experience your campaigns as separate projects. They experience one brand.
That creates the risk of:
- Overlapping journeys
- Conflicting messages
- Duplicate audiences
- Poor suppression logic
- Excessive frequency
- Unclear ownership
- Difficult-to-maintain Canvas logic
As a Braze environment grows, governance becomes less of an administrative exercise and more of a customer experience requirement. Teams should periodically review their journey ecosystem and ask:
Which journeys still have a clear business purpose?
Where are customers entering multiple experiences simultaneously?
Which journeys can be consolidated?
Where are we creating operational complexity without creating incremental customer value?
Scaling the number of journeys is easy. Scaling the quality and coherence of those journeys is harder.
4. Personalization Is Still Mostly Segmentation
Many organizations describe their marketing as personalized when what they are really doing is advanced segmentation. There is an important difference.
“Customers who purchased running shoes in the last 90 days” is a segment. Understanding that a particular customer has recently browsed running products, has high engagement, is approaching their typical repurchase window, and is currently interacting through mobile creates a much richer decision context.
The future of personalization lies in moving from static audience definitions toward contextual decisioning. That does not mean every interaction needs AI. It means the organization needs to use the signals available to determine what is most relevant for that customer at that moment. Braze’s recent research reflects this shift, highlighting embedded decisioning and continuous optimization as characteristics of more advanced customer engagement programs.
5. You Have Multiple Channels, but Not Orchestration
Having email, push, SMS, in-app messaging, and other channels available does not automatically create an omnichannel experience. In fact, adding channels without orchestration can make the experience worse. A customer could receive a promotional email, a push notification, and an SMS about essentially the same offer because three different teams or journeys are operating independently.
True orchestration requires the channels to operate around a shared understanding of the customer. That means considering:
- Which channel should be used?
- When should it be used?
- What has the customer already received?
- What action has the customer taken?
- Should another message be suppressed?
- Has the customer already converted?
6. You’re Adding AI Before Fixing the Fundamentals
AI is becoming increasingly prominent in customer engagement. But there is a temptation to treat AI as the next layer to add to an existing marketing stack. That can be backwards.
AI decisioning cannot compensate for poor event architecture. It cannot fix fragmented customer identities. It cannot make an unclear business objective clearer. And it cannot turn poorly designed journeys into a coherent customer experience.
The foundation still matters. Braze’s 2026 research points to the combination of real-time data activation, embedded decisioning, operational simplicity, and continuous optimization as the more important pattern.
In other words, AI works best when it sits inside a well-designed operating model rather than alongside a fragmented one. The question shouldn’t be: “Where can we add AI?”
It should be: “Which customer decisions could be improved with better intelligence, and do we have the data and operating model to support those decisions?”
7. You Don’t Have a Continuous Optimization Model
Perhaps the biggest gap is organizational. Many teams treat Braze implementation as a project with a defined start and finish, but customer engagement is an ongoing process. Once the platform is live, teams need to continuously evaluate which journeys are working, how audience behavior is changing, where customers are dropping off, whether messages are losing effectiveness, which channels are driving incremental value, and which experiments or journeys should be scaled or retired. That requires more than campaign production; it requires an ongoing operating rhythm across strategy, data, CRM, creative, analytics, technology, and experimentation.
Mavlers’ POV: The Opportunity Is More Value From the Braze You Already Have.
At Mavlers, our experience across 100+ Braze clients and more than 2,000 Braze campaigns managed has reinforced a simple observation: the biggest opportunity for many brands isn’t launching more campaigns. It’s getting more value from the infrastructure they have already invested in. That starts with understanding where the friction actually exists.
Our approach begins with an audit of data architecture, journeys, integrations, and performance gaps. From there, the focus moves into lifecycle strategy, technical implementation, testing, launch, optimization, and continuous experimentation.
The sequence matters. You can’t optimize what you haven’t structured correctly. And you can’t create meaningful personalization if the underlying customer signals are incomplete, inconsistent, or difficult to activate.
We also see Braze as part of a broader customer engagement ecosystem, not an isolated platform. CRM, CDP, product data, analytics, content, and other technologies all influence how effectively Braze can respond to customer behavior.
A Practical Braze ROI Audit
For marketing leaders evaluating their current Braze program, five questions are a good place to start.
1. Can we trace customer behavior to business outcomes?
If you cannot connect a journey to activation, retention, revenue, or another meaningful outcome, it may be time to revisit its purpose.
2. Are our customer signals reliable enough for real-time engagement?
Review your event taxonomy, customer attributes, integrations, identity resolution, and data freshness.
3. How much journey complexity have we accumulated?
Look for overlapping journeys, redundant segments, conflicting messages, and unnecessary operational dependencies.
4. Is personalization actually contextual?
Move beyond demographic and behavioral segments toward decisioning based on current customer context.
5. How quickly can we learn and act?
Measure more than campaign performance. Look at how quickly teams can identify an insight, build an experiment, launch it, evaluate it, and apply the learning elsewhere.
That last metric is often overlooked.
But in a fast-changing customer environment, the speed of learning can become a competitive advantage.
The Bottom Line
The biggest Braze opportunity may not be another journey, another channel, or another AI capability. It may be getting more out of the capabilities already sitting inside the platform.
Braze’s potential is substantial. The 2026 Forrester study provides one indication of that, reporting a 457% ROI for its composite organization and significant benefits from conversion, retention, efficiency, and AI-powered decisioning. But the lesson for existing Braze customers isn’t to chase a benchmark. It’s to examine the gap between what the platform can do and what the organization is actually getting from it.
That gap is where the next wave of Braze value will be created. Through better data, better decisions, better orchestration, stronger operating discipline, and continuous optimization.
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Stop Waiting to Become the Person Your Purpose Needs
I ran a workshop in Bali on living out your purpose, and the same thing kept coming up.
People could talk about impact all day. They could talk about who they wanted to become. Then you asked them what they were actually doing this week, and the room got quiet.
That is usually the whole problem.
We act like the next season of our life is going to arrive once we feel ready. It does not work like that. You become the person first. Then the life has somewhere to go.
I do not mean that in a mystical way. I mean it the way Scripture talks about it. Put off the old self. Put on the new. Renew your mind. Then live like it.
Most of us already know why we are stuck
It is not because the market is full.
It is because last year’s version of you is still making this year’s decisions.
That guy was useful. He got you here. He also has a habit of hiding, delaying, and calling it strategy. You say you want the company, the marriage, the platform, the stronger body. Then you wait for a better week. You wait for confidence. You wait for someone to tap you on the shoulder and tell you it is time.
If you keep that up for another decade, you do not get a new life. You get a longer version of this one.
So the first honest move is pretty simple. That old way of operating does not get to keep running the show. Thank God for what it taught you. Then stop letting it set the standard.
Purpose is more practical than people make it
In that workshop I gave four questions. They sound basic. They are not, if you answer them without performing.
What do you love? Not what sounds impressive. What would you suffer for.
What are you good at right now? You can learn more later. If you aim so high that you never feel any progress, you will quit.
What problem can you actually help with? Teaching counts. Building counts. Leading counts. It does not have to save the whole planet. It does have to serve someone.
How does this make money? People at purpose events hate that question. I still ask it. If nothing is coming in, the thing dies. Sales is not unspiritual. It is how the work stays alive. If you cannot sell, hire someone who can.
Where those four answers overlap, you are getting close to purpose. Not a brand statement. A direction you can walk.
And you probably will not have one purpose for life. You will have seasons. You work with what you know now. That is enough to start.
Write it down like a real week, not a quote
“More freedom” is not a plan.
Write what the next season actually looks like. What you are building. What a normal month feels like. What you will not do anymore. Who you are responsible for. What Tuesday looks like when nobody is watching.
If you want a team, say team. If you want dinner at home, say dinner. If you want to publish, say publish.
Vague goals let the old self hide. Specific ones make it obvious where you are lying to yourself.
This is stewardship. You aim. Then you take the next clear step. Your current bank account does not get to veto the assignment.
You do not need the finished version. You need the one who will start.
This is where years disappear.
People stand outside the thing and try to become impressive enough to deserve it. They watch videos. They design the logo. They wait until they feel like the person who should be doing this.
You need the person who will record the first video. Make the offer. Have the conversation. Lead one person. Send the thing before it is pretty.
Faith without works is dead. A lot of us use that verse on other people and then sit on our own calling until we feel anointed.
Clarity usually shows up after you move. You will not see step four while you are still arguing with step one.
Look at the gap and do not dress it up
There is you today.
Then there is the person for whom this next season is normal. Not famous. Faithful.
What does that person finish? What will they not put up with? How fast do they decide? How do they talk when they are tired? What do they do after a win? What do they do after they blow it?
Now write what you actually do.
That part is uncomfortable. It should be. If you will not tell the truth there, you will keep buying courses so you do not have to.
The issue is usually not talent. It is the lowest standard you still allow when nobody is looking.
Practice the new standard in the life you already have
You do not get a new life and then start acting different.
You act different while the room still looks the same. Same bills. Same calendar. Same unfinished text. Different follow-through.
That stretch is the work. Most people cannot handle being faithful in an unfinished situation, so they go back to matching the old life. Then they say the vision was unrealistic.
Keep one promise. Decide faster. Tell the truth sooner. Publish the imperfect thing. Stop writing essays about why you cannot begin.
If you want to know whether something works, do not spend three months decorating the plan. Ask how you could find out in a week. An offer. Three conversations. One ugly version shipped.
The person polishing the first draft for half a year loses to the person who shipped ten rough ones and learned.
If it takes five minutes, do it now. Sometimes what we call discernment is just stalling with better language.
And if it starts working, do not get soft. Comfort is how good men drift. When it feels easy, raise the standard.
Doubt is not automatically God closing the door
You decide, and then the old habits show up. You want to research instead of send it. You get foggy. You pick a fight. You feel behind.
That does not always mean you missed it. Sometimes it just means the old way is losing its job.
Take the fear to God. Then do the next right thing anyway. You do not have to feel like that man to obey like him.
There will also be seasons where you outgrow something that used to fit. The offer. The role. The way you have been showing up. It still gets applause, and it still feels tight. Staying there because it once worked is how you get successful and restless at the same time.
What to do with this
Answer the four questions on paper.
Write the season in real-life detail.
Write who you would have to be for that season to be normal.
Tell the truth about the gap.
Then do the smallest thing that puts you in the work, even if the evidence still looks like last year.
Six months from now those days are gone either way. I would rather you spend them becoming the person your purpose actually requires than waiting for a feeling that never comes.
This is a LIVE recording from a workshop I held in Bali speaking into living out your purpose
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Books Like Think and Grow Rich: 10 That Actually Earn the Comparison
Napoleon Hill’s book has outsold almost everything in its category for ninety years. These next ten are the ones worth reading next — starting with the one that answers the question Hill never asked.
Think and Grow Rich came out in 1937, in the middle of the Depression, and it has never really gone away. Thirteen principles. Definiteness of purpose. The Master Mind. A burning desire backed by a plan and a refusal to quit. Whole industries of motivational speaking have been built out of that structure, and most of the success books published since are variations on it.
One thing is worth knowing before you go looking for more of the same. Hill’s authority rests on a story: that Andrew Carnegie commissioned him in 1908 to spend twenty years studying five hundred successful men. Hill started telling that story after Carnegie died in 1919, and Carnegie’s biographer, David Nasaw, has said he found no evidence the two ever met. Hill’s own authorized biographers acknowledged that an earlier Carnegie book of his was “largely fiction.”
The advice is still powerful. Persistence and clarity of aim do not stop working because the pedigree was invented. But it is a useful frame for what follows, because the honest question underneath Think and Grow Rich is not “how do I get more” — it is “what actually produces a life that works.” Several of the books below answer that better than Hill did.
The first one answers a question Hill never got around to asking.
1. GRP The Golden Rule Paradox — The Real Secret to Success, Happiness, and a Better World
Ross Fischer · Why it’s first
Hill’s book tells you how to get what you want. It is almost entirely silent on what happens once you have it, and on whether the thing you were chasing does what you expected.
GRP The Golden Rule Paradox opens exactly there. Its first pages describe a well known NFL quarterback, who won the biggest game of his career, yet found himself thinking, in the middle of the celebration, is that all there is? GRP shows that this is not an outlier. It is a repeating pattern, based on 3,000 years of human history.
GRP inverts the success genre’s core assumption. Look after yourself first and the returns shrink. Point the same energy outward and they arrive, from directions you were not watching. He calls it a paradox because it is the precise reverse of what modern culture teaches today: “To be happy, you need x”. If that were the case then once we got what we want we would all be content! But as we well know… our minds work the opposite.
However what truly makes us happy, is when we do for others first!
What makes GRP more than an assertion is the range of the evidence — nine years of it, moving through psychology, medicine, history and more; Adam Grant’s data on why generous professionals cluster at both the bottom and the top of performance rankings; how GRP affects our health and longevity. In later chapters, GRP changes the paradigm from personal growth, to the effects on institutions: financial markets, social media, politics and more. Fischer is also a working entrepreneur with more than thirty years building companies and training sales people, and he writes about his own failures with a candor Hill never attempted: a business that collapsed, two houses lost in 2008, a month where he spent unable to get out of bed. In fact, how he was able to rebound out of that darkest period, is the foundation of GRP. In the end, the book makes a claim that is powerful—and readers have agreed:
“An idea so simple it feels like common sense. Yet so profound, it has the power to change the way you see everything”
Read it if: you enjoy the success canon, with two added ingredients: How you achieve that success is more important than the achievement itself , and how that success applies to the world around you is what truly makes us content.
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2. The Richest Man in Babylon
George S. Clason, 1926 · The one that changed the most behavior
Clason wrote these as pamphlets for banks and insurance companies, and they were later collected into a book. They are parables set in ancient Babylon, and the setting is entirely invented, and none of that matters.
What matters is that the advice is concrete in a way Hill’s rarely is. Pay yourself first: a tenth of everything you earn, before anything else. Control your expenditures. Make your gold work. Guard it against loss by taking advice only from people competent in the matter at hand.
If Think and Grow Rich is about the state of mind, this is about the mechanics, and it is the one on this list most likely to change what you actually do on payday.
Read it if: you want a rule you can follow on Friday rather than a philosophy.
3. How to Win Friends and Influence People
Dale Carnegie, 1936 · The exact contemporary
Published one year before Hill’s book, and still the better one. Carnegie’s material is about the part of success that happens between people: remembering names, arguing less, letting the other person feel the idea was theirs.
The reason it has outlasted almost everything from its era is that Carnegie noticed something Hill did not. Most of what people call ambition is actually a hunger to feel important, and the fastest route to any outcome that involves other human beings is to satisfy that hunger in them rather than demanding it for yourself.
Read closely, it is a book about attention — where you point it and what happens when you do. Which makes it the closest ancestor on this list to the argument at number one.
Read it if: you only read one book from the 1930s, make it this one.
4. The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People
Stephen R. Covey, 1989 · The modern rewrite of the whole genre
Covey’s opening move is the most important thing in the book. He went back through two hundred years of American success literature and found a break: the older material was about character — integrity, humility, industry — and the newer material was about personality, technique and image. He argued the field had gone shallow, and set out to put it back.
The seven habits themselves are well known. Be proactive. Begin with the end in mind. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. What is easy to miss is the sequence: private victory before public victory, and no shortcut through it.
It is the most demanding book on this list and the most rewarding, and its diagnosis — that success writing drifted from character to appearance — has only become more obviously right.
Read it if: you want the version of this material that treats you as an adult.
5. The Science of Getting Rich
Wallace D. Wattles, 1910 · Where Hill’s tradition starts
A hundred pages, written twenty-seven years before Think and Grow Rich, and the direct ancestor of most of it. Wattles claims there is a “certain way” of thinking and acting that produces wealth, available to anyone who applies it.
The surprise for modern readers is how insistent he is on action. Do, today, everything that can be done today, in the place where you already are — the visualization is supposed to point the work, not replace it. It is a much less passive book than its descendants.
Public domain, so it costs nothing.
Read it if: you want to see the headwater of the whole river.
6. As a Man Thinketh
James Allen, 1903 · Thirty pages, no filler
Allen was an English clerk who left his job to write and died four years later. His argument is that a man is literally what he thinks, that character is the sum of thought, and that circumstance grows from thought the way a plant grows from seed.
He offers no technique and makes no promises about money. It is closer to a moral treatise than a manual, and it is the least commercial thing in this entire genre.
Read it if: you want the idea before anyone worked out how to sell it.
7. The Millionaire Next Door
Thomas J. Stanley & William D. Danko, 1996 · The research answer
Stanley and Danko went and looked. They surveyed people with real net worth and found that the American millionaire, in the aggregate, was not the person on the magazine cover. He drove a used vehicle, lived in a house he had been in for years, and had never earned a spectacular income.
The finding that sticks is the distinction between income and wealth. Plenty of high earners are broke, because consumption scales with pay. The accumulators were the ones who kept the gap open.
Two caveats worth keeping. The data is a 1990s snapshot, and the methodology has been criticized for selection effects. The core observation about spending and accumulation has held up anyway.
Read it if: you want the empirical version of Clason’s rule.
8. The Psychology of Money
Morgan Housel, 2020 · The best modern entry
Nineteen short chapters on why intelligent people make terrible financial decisions. Housel’s central claim is that doing well with money has almost nothing to do with what you know and almost everything to do with how you behave, and that behavior is not teachable through spreadsheets.
He is very good on the things the older books ignore entirely: luck and risk as the same thing viewed from different sides, the enormous role of the era you happened to be born into, and the fact that the highest return money buys is control over your own time.
That last idea is the one that quietly dismantles the premise of half this list.
Read it if: you want one book from the last decade and you want it to be the smartest one.
9. Atomic Habits
James Clear, 2018 · What Hill’s “persistence” chapter should have been
Hill devotes a chapter to persistence and essentially tells you to have more of it. Clear’s book is the operational version: how the behavior actually gets installed.
Make it obvious, attractive, easy and satisfying. Change the environment rather than relying on willpower. And the reframe that does the most work — decide who you are trying to become, and let each small action be a vote for that identity, rather than chasing an outcome and hoping the habit follows.
It is the most practically useful book on this list by a distance.
Read it if: you know what to do and cannot get yourself to do it consistently.
10. Rich Dad Poor Dad
Robert Kiyosaki with Sharon Lechter, 1997 · Included with reservations
It belongs here because it is the book most often bought alongside Think and Grow Rich, and because one idea in it genuinely reframes things for a lot of readers: the distinction between assets that put money in your pocket and liabilities that take it out, and the observation that most people acquire the second while believing they are acquiring the first.
Read it with the same skepticism you should bring to Hill. Kiyosaki declined for years to identify the “rich dad” whose advice frames the book, journalists who tried to verify the man’s existence could not, and the specific investment advice has been sharply criticized by financial writers. The conceptual frame is the value. The particulars are not.
Note that Sharon Lechter is the co-author and is routinely left off the cover conversation.
Read it if: you want the asset-versus-liability idea, and you can take the rest with salt.
Where to start
For the mechanics of money, read Clason then Housel. That pairing will do more for your finances than the rest of the list combined.
For the mechanics of behavior, read Clear.
For the part Think and Grow Rich left out entirely — what the pursuit costs, and what happens when you get there — start with GRP The Golden Rule Paradox. Hill wrote a book about how to acquire. Fischer wrote the one about what it actually pays.
Frequently asked questions
Is Think and Grow Rich still worth reading?
Yes, as the foundational text of the genre, provided you know that Hill’s Carnegie story has never been substantiated and that his case studies should be treated as illustrative rather than documentary.
What should I read after Think and Grow Rich?
Carnegie’s How to Win Friends and Influence People for the interpersonal half, Clason for the financial mechanics, and GRP for the question of whether the goal itself was the right one.
Which book is most like Think and Grow Rich?
Wattles’s The Science of Getting Rich is the closest in spirit and predates it by twenty-seven years. Hill’s structure and much of his framing come directly out of that tradition.
Success Advice
The Blueprint to Greatness: 6 Success Lessons from Drake
When we talk about modern success, it is hard to ignore the astronomical rise of Drake. Beyond the Grammy awards, the record-breaking Billboard hits, and the sold-out stadium tours, there is a masterclass in mindset, manifestation, and relentless work ethic.
For entrepreneurs, creators, and visionaries looking to leave a mark, Drake’s approach to his craft offers invaluable lessons.
Here are six core principles extracted from Drake’s journey that you can apply to your own pursuit of greatness.
1. Cherish the “Who Is This?” Moment
When you are first starting out, it is easy to become impatient. You want the accolades, the recognition, and the massive audience right out of the gate. But skipping the struggle means missing out on the most vital part of the journey.
“Don’t ever not be present in your ‘who is this’ moment, because you’re going to be chasing that moment for the rest of your career—trying to keep people as interested as they were when they felt like they were one of the only people listening to you.”
The Takeaway: If you are a new artist or a budding entrepreneur, embrace the grind of obscurity. The hunger and innovation you possess when you are trying to get noticed are the exact tools that will build your empire. Be present.
2. Aim to Be the “First You”
Society often measures success by comparison. We try to become the “next” Steve Jobs, the “next” Jay-Z, or the “next” big disruptor. True success, however, requires unparalleled authenticity and an unwavering desire to be at the top of your own category.
Drake’s mentality was never about following in someone else’s exact footsteps. He didn’t want to be the next Kanye West or Lil Wayne; he wanted to be the first Drake.
- Refuse to settle: Never aim for second place.
- Build your own lane: If you see someone else achieving greatness, use it as proof of concept. If they can do it, you can do it—but do it your way.
3. Obsessive Manifestation
Success is rarely accidental. It is the result of holding a clear, almost obsessive vision of the future in your mind until it becomes reality.
Before the fame, Drake used to drive his uncle’s drop-top Audi through the exact same three streets where he wanted to buy a house, bringing people along to physically show them the life he was going to build.
The Takeaway: You have to see it before you can hold it. Speak your goals into existence, visualize your destination daily, and align your actions with that specific future.
4. Master Your Craft and Take Your Time
In a world that celebrates “hustle culture” and the sheer volume of output, it is easy to forget that quality is the ultimate differentiator. You don’t have to crank out 50 projects a week to prove your worth.
“I can do two verses, not finish the song, and feel proud… It’s an individual creative process. There is no standard.”
Know your strengths. For Drake, it has always been his writing. He takes his time, researches, writes on his phone, and refuses to sacrifice the quality of his work just to meet an arbitrary deadline. Discover what your greatest talent is—whether it’s coding, writing, speaking, or strategizing—and take the time required to make it undeniably great.
5. Disconnect From the End Goal
This might sound counterintuitive to goal-setting, but becoming too attached to a final destination can be self-destructive. If your only focus is hitting a massive financial number or a specific milestone, what happens when you get there? You risk stalling out.
The Strategy for Continuous Growth:
- Set the target, but focus on the daily steps. 2. Live in the “right now.” Do the absolute best you can in the present moment.
- Celebrate the learning, not just the wins. Mistakes are necessary for growth. If you are always right, you can never learn.
6. Let the Product Speak
Many creators complain about not getting noticed or blame the algorithms for their lack of traction. The hard truth? If your product is potent enough, the world will let you know.
You no longer need to move to New York or Los Angeles to “make it.” You can build an empire from your laptop, in your hometown, using the internet as your stage.
“If you have the music, that’s all it takes. Present it to the world, and the world will tell you if it’s worth their time or not… There are people who scour the internet every day looking for the next big thing, and I promise you if that product you have is potent enough, you will be the next big thing.”
Final Thoughts
Success is an addiction to growth. It requires sacrificing immediate gratification, tuning out the critics, and focusing solely on the quality of what you are putting out into the world. You don’t have to be a loud, loose cannon to make an impact. You just have to be relentless, competitive, and completely dedicated to your craft. Keep your head down, do the work, and let your results make the noise.
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