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5 Reasons Why Criticism Is the Key to Your Success

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When you are criticized by your boss, it is not always to admit your faults. You will probably insist that you are right. Or, you will ignore the criticism. However, taking note of the criticisms that you receive may be your key to success. While it is hard to set aside your pride, don’t expect to improve if you don’t. After all, how can you change without admitting that you need to change?

Here are five reasons why criticism is the key to success:

1. Criticism is the key to improvement

Sure, it is a lot more comfortable if you never knew what you did wrong. After all, a bit of criticism can hurt your ego. However, if you receive no feedback, then how can you improve? How can you change for the better?  Criticism might sting but learning to accept it and acting on it, will help you evolve into a better version of yourself.

According to a research conducted by Heaphy and Losada, that analyzed data from leadership teams to determine the ideal praise-to-criticism ratio, they found out that the leaders who received the most negative comments were the ones who improved the most. Plus, the researchers also found that the people who got the most negative feedback had the most room to grow.

Interestingly, this isn’t surprising when you consider the fact the more constructive criticism you receive, the more effort you will exert to be better. After all, criticism helps you take a step back and evaluate your current performance. This way, you are always thinking about the journey to improvement.

“Criticism, like rain, should be gentle enough to nourish a man’s growth without destroying his roots.” – Frank A. Clark

2. Criticism helps you avoid complacency

When everything’s going right, it is easy to fall into complacency. You do not have a sense of urgency when it comes to the job. You even stop trying to improve yourself. After all, when life is smooth sailing, why not just relax? Why should you even exert an effort in the first place?

Long periods of complacency will cause you to stray from the path of success. Just imagine not caring about improvement, or not even trying to stay ahead of the game. You might be successful now, but it will not always be that way.


3. Criticism teaches you to listen

Imagine a boss who never listens. In his world, he is always right. People who thought otherwise were wrong, to the point that he openly fought with those who criticized him. Eventually, his team came to accept that there was no room for dissent. He ruled after all. If he made unreasonable demands, then they would just have to accept how things were. They hated their jobs and eventually tried to get away from work as much as they could.  How do you think this story will end?

It is very easy to insist you are right after your boss has criticized your performance. After all, you believe he does not have a clear grasp of the whole story. However, if you want to learn to succeed, should you continuously believe that you are right and just ignore the criticism? I believe you know the answer.

The moment that you learn to listen is the first step towards your future success. Not only will you understand the other side’s point of view, but it is also an opportunity to listen to advice and to ask for more.  This way, you can build positive working relationships.


4. Criticism helps you overcome weaknesses

Let’s say, you know your weakness. You know that you don’t deliver when it comes to presentations. You know that you are not convincing enough. You know that you don’t always pitch the right ideas. However, you don’t have the sense of urgency to overcome it. No one’s complaining about it anyway. So, what’s the rush?

To solve this, it may be important to receive criticism. One of the reasons why this works is because negative criticism can grab your attention. Think of it as a wakeup call. You suck at public speaking. No one wants to listen to you. Even your boss is criticizing you. When faced with this scenario, your frustration with your current performance will motivate you to try harder.

Plus, constant criticism increases your sense of urgency to make an effort to overcome your weaknesses every single day. So, the next time you deliver a pitch and presentation, what they’ll notice is your overwhelming improvement.

“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time. ” – Thomas A. Edison

5. Criticism helps you stay grounded

When you only receive praise and compliments for a very long period of time, it is easy to get disillusioned. You think your performance is perfect. Then, you start believing that you are better than everyone else. One day, you receive negative feedback from a colleague. However, you think you are too good and great, so you fight with your colleague and you highlight your ascendancy.

If you want to be successful, then this is the wrong path to take. It is very easy to let your ego get to your head. However, if you want to succeed then you have to use your brain and ignore your ego. This way, you can understand your own faults and you can learn to accept the viewpoints of others.

Learning to accept criticism is hard. After all, it’s difficult to accept your faults. However, you cannot be successful if you do not learn from criticism.

Are you having a hard time accepting criticism? Do you always admit that you’re right? Leave your thoughts below!

Monique Danao is a freelance writer, content creator and copywriter with an expertise in tech, food and digital marketing. When she's not creating her next big article, you'll find her enjoying funky food, listening to music, stalking startups and researching updates on tech. You may contact her through her website or follow her on Twitter @monique_pd.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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