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4 Ways Successful People Use Grit to Achieve Success

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Passion and Persistence equals GRIT

Why is it that some people seem to be destined to succeed at whatever they do, where others are prone to underachievement and failure?

How is it that some people are able to plough through the challenges of life, where for others the same barriers are unsurmountable?

Can the factors of greatness be learned, or are they something you’re either born with or not?

These, my friends, are the important questions in life. Within those questions lie the keys to unlocking a person’s potential and living an exceptional life. And the answer is all about MINDSET.

 

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Many psychologists and behaviourists have been studying and searching for answers to those questions seemingly since the dawn of time. For many years, their work concluded that the fundamental factors of success lie in intelligence and talent. This conclusion is reflected not only in our reliance on intelligence and aptitude testing as the primary means of distinguishing the best candidates for various jobs or roles, but also in the commonly held expectation that success will naturally come to those who are smarter and more gifted than the rest of us.

However, many studies of extraordinary people throughout time, be it inventors, business owners, self-made billionaires, or leaders in their field, draw contradictory conclusions.

Research initiated by a Psychologist named Lewis Terman in the 1920’s followed the lives of children with exceptional intelligence, and found that while many went on to become doctors, lawyers, and specialists in various fields earning well in excess of the average wage, not all did so. Approximately one third of those subjects achieved no greater success or prosperity than the average Joe. So how come they did so poorly in life if they were so smart?

Then there is the fact that many of the world’s richest and most successful people were high school and college drop-outs with, frankly, underwhelming aptitude for education.

Take, for instance, Sir Richard Branson. If you had met him in his teens, you wouldn’t have bet on his later success. Richard Branson had poor reading and math skills, dropped out of high-school and is proud to admit he’s been dyslexic all his life. Not really your first choice for a billionaire philanthropist knight and worldwide media icon.

How about Henry Ford, who was born in abject poverty. He never saw the four walls of school but he went on to build Ford Motor Company and become one of the richest men that ever lived. Then consider Thomas Edison, Warren Buffett, Oprah Winfrey, John D. Rockefeller, Martha Stewart, Bill Gates, and so many more.

So how come they did so well in life if they were no more intelligent or talented than the rest of us?

 

Why the GRIT factor may be the answer

Those questions have been the research focus of Professor Angela Duckworth, who has been investigating the factors beyond intelligence and talent that predict success. She has found conclusive evidence that the strongest predictor of success is a factor she named GRIT. Grit, in her words, is passion and perseverance for very long term goals. Grit is essentially about stamina, and how consistently you work in a certain direction over time.

To use a simple analogy, the measure of a good car is not so much about how new and shiny it is or what it’s top speed is (although those features are nice!), but that it starts every time and gets you reliably and efficiently from point A to point B. Similarly, Duckworth’s research concurs that while intelligence and talent are certainly favourable assets, anyone can be successful if they apply hard work and tenacious, dogged perseverance toward their goal.

Gritty people tend to persevere, self-regulate and push themselves toward success. Drs. Angela Duckworth and Martin Seligman (2006) found that the correlation between self-discipline and achievement was twice as large as the correlation between IQ and achievement.

So the GRIT factor is a critical ingredient to know and learn because the number one reason people don’t succeed at any given pursuit, whether that be career success, health and fitness, or skill mastery etc, is because they GIVE UP.

The most common reason we give up is because we make the premature assumption that our effort isn’t working. Compounding the problem is that in this day of modern technology, the ever increasing speed of information and feedback, and the rapidly reducing span of our attention and interest, we are becoming more and more fixated on instant gratification. And this need to HAVE IT NOW is working directly against grit.

Consider this. Achieving any goal is a lot like following a recipe. Of course you need that recipe to be designed in a way that it will produce good results, but in order to get those results you have to follow the recipe!

When people typically throw their arms in the air and say ‘It’s not working!’, it’s like they’ve beaten the butter and sugar and added the eggs, then complained that the recipe doesn’t work because it’s not a cake yet. The thing is, you may be giving up just moments before you would have started to succeed. So here’s my advice.

Stop dabbling.

Make it serious.

Make a commitment and stick it out until you reach the destination.

 

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4 Ways to get more GRIT

1. Prove to yourself that you can do this

I want you to think of an experience in your life that was really hard at the time, but that you got through.

For instance, I have two things that I recall. One was finishing my three year Doctorate. There were so many times I was in tears ready to quit and feeling that I’d never make it, but eventually it was finished and I graduated. Another was childbirth. At the time you feel that you just can’t endure any more and won’t survive it, but you just do, then eventually it’s over and you’ve made it.

Think of your own experience of making it through an arduous journey. That is your proof that by making a commitment and sticking it out, you can get there.

 

2. Apply the passion

Passion is a part of the grit equation because if you want to be able to work hard and long at something, you have to really want it. There has to be a deep intrinsic motivator, a fire inside you, that makes this thing worth doing. Otherwise you’re setting yourself up to flake out at the first sign of hardship.

Why is this important to me?

How will this achievement/end result impact me, my life, and those around me?

How can I remind myself of what makes this journey worth taking?

 

3. Apply the persistence

This is the ‘time to knuckle down’ bit. Dr Duckworth emphasises that it is the consistency rather than intensity of work that counts and represents grit. That means that rather than engaging in a once-off or short term behaviour binge (think of someone pulling an all-nighter of study or consuming nothing but juices for a day), we need to embed consistent, regular, maintainable behaviours that will move us in the direction of our target. That might be one hour of study every night, or a well-balanced healthy diet that fits in with your lifestyle.

Here are a few tips on building persistence:

  • Start with something small that you can definitely do on a regular basis (i.e., walking at least once around the block every day rather than aiming for 10km).
  • Make it a ‘NOT Negotiable’ in your mind. Regardless how unmotivated you feel, just get it done. Live by this rule – it has to become part of your regular routine.
  • Track your progress, and remind yourself what you’re working towards.

 

4. Repeat

Keep reinforcing your passion, and keep working on your persistence. You can apply this same formula to any other behaviour or outcome you want to manifest.

Remember: you can do it, if you want it bad enough and you keep working hard until you get it.

 

The fact of the matter is most of the extraordinary people throughout history and most of the people you see in Forbes’ list of richest people in the world had to take enormous risks to get there. That almost always means a lot of failing, and bucket-loads of grit.

I know it’s easy to assume that successful people had something the rest of us didn’t: They had it easy. It’s their parents. They were lucky. They had a better education. They were gifted. But perhaps it’s time we man up and face the music.

The reality is 73 out of the first 100 billionaires in the world are self-made. That’s a Bloomberg fact. Many famous people throughout history had limited education, and possessed average intelligence and talent. There’s no conspiracy going on. They just work harder than you did.

Those self-made billionaires and extraordinary people simply found their passion, applied perseverance, and pushed through obstacle after obstacle until they realised their goal. And the good news is, there’s absolutely no reason you can’t do that too.

Many years ago I made up a quote that I still stand by today:

“If life was meant to be EASY, EVERYONE would be good at it!”.

So let that be a lesson that the universe presents us with challenges so we have the opportunity to overcome them, and to grow from that experience. You don’t get to be one of ‘those successful people’ for nothing. There’s not room for everybody at the top. If you want to rise above, to reach the peak of that mountain and reap the glory that goes with it, then climb.

And don’t stop climbing til you get there.

 

Angela Lee Duckworth: The key to success? Grit

Dr Vanessa Thiele is a coaching psychologist and corporate trainer at Action Potential Group. Driven by a burning desire to enable people to realize their full potential, she has dedicated herself to studying and training facilitation in the areas of self-development, success and leadership. She is a mum of two, a writer, speaker, and a former personal trainer and martial arts instructor, who would probably like to be a stand-up comedian in her next life. - Check out her site.

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9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World

Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.

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Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.

Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”

But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.

Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.

Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.

1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse

As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.

Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.

Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:

  • Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.

  • Read quality literature in your free time.

  • Nurture a strong relationship with your family.

  • Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.

  • Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.

The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.

2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay

You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.

If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.

3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome

Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.

You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.

The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.

4. Rejection Is Never Personal

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.

Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.

5. Women Value Comfort and Security

Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.

Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.

Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.

6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons

A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.

Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.

Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.

7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form

Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.

If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.

8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise

Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.

Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.

Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.

9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams

One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.

That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.

Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.

Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.

Final Thoughts

The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.

Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.

Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.

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