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3 Things Keeping You From Being Successful And How To Change Them

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3 Things Keeping You From Being Successful And How To Change Them

We all define success differently. Maybe you feel satisfied when you excel in your career or have financial stability. Or maybe you base success solely on the people you are surrounded by, or a combination of both.Becoming successful doesn’t just happen, it’s a series of choices that ultimately leads to having what we choose to define as success. It doesn’t matter how much you know, or how much mentoring you invest in, or how much you spend on other parts of your growth.

However you define being successful, at the end of the day we all need some basic building blocks to allow us to enjoy that path of success and ultimately happiness. Otherwise, even with the best people surrounding us, and all the money in the world, it will only ever be temporary.

Here are 3 things that are keeping you from being successful and how to change them:

 

Problem #1: Your finances dictate your emotions

How much of your emotional state is tied directly to how much money you have available to you in a single moment? When your bank account feels abundant and full, or you just got paid, what are some of the thoughts that go through your mind? Stability, comfort, or excitement?

What about when it’s the opposite? When you have less than you would like or even need. Fear, anxiety, or insecurity?

 

Solution: Start seeing money as a tool, instead of letting it define your worth.

It can seem difficult not to be on an emotional rollercoaster when it comes to looking at your finances, especially if you are struggling to make ends meet. It can even follow the cycle of an abusive relationship in some cases.

When money becomes a tool, you can start to view your finances or your bank account as a resource to be used and leveraged for growth. What ends up happening is you go from spending money for the sake of spending money to spending money for a return. And that return doesn’t always have to be more money.

“A wise man should have money in his head, but not in his heart.” – Jonathan Swift

Problem #2: You’re focused on the potential hurdles and pitfalls

It’s only natural to want to anticipate potential problems and hardship. In fact, being able to anticipate and move past difficult situations is something that is frequently found in many great stories of success.

But when those hurdles become your focus or what you use to define yourself, that’s when it starts to hold you back. Psychologically speaking, hardships can start to feel as if they are permanent fixtures when they become your primary focus.

 

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Solution: Create an end goal, and focus on what needs to happen to achieve that goal

John Carmack once said, “Focused, hard work is the real key to success. Keep your eyes on the goal, and just keep taking the next step towards completing it. If you aren’t sure which way to do something, do it both ways and see which works better.”

The problem with focusing on the hurdles in front of you is, you aren’t actively thinking of or working on whatever it is you want to accomplish. What this does is, takes away your ability to see the bigger picture of any one situation. By keeping what you want to accomplish as your focus, the hurdles you experience become something to be worked around, instead of something to be solved.

 

Problem #3: You allow failure to define a situation

Failure is one of those tricky things; we all experience it, but the first natural instinct is to run away from it. Failure is one of those painfully subjective things that we have a tendency to internalize. When looking at failure we see something that is done wrong or that is otherwise harmful.

So it would be natural to see a failure and deem related efforts not worth it and to quit after one attempt, or to maybe not even start in anticipation of failure.

 

Solution: Start treating failure as if it was an experiment, not a result

Failure is the result of having tried, meaning something was done to get a result, even if it was a negative one.

When failure becomes a result based on a series of events, you can then take a moment to see what caused things to happen as they did and change them for the better. The best part, you can go through that process as many times as you like.

“I’ve had great success and I’ve had catastrophic failure. It’s really how you handle the rough stuff that defines you.” – Peter Berg

For me, success is defined by having incredible experiences with those who matter most. And the reality is it takes a combination of time, understanding, and sometimes money to make that happen.

Allow yourself to try to change destructive habits, fail at them, and then try again. Give yourself the opportunity for success.

Thank you for reading my article! On or off this list, what is the biggest obstacle that is stopping you from being successful?

After getting laid off from her IT job in Corporate America in 2009, she ventured out into the online world and started her own business as a single mother of two. Now she is the CEO of a successful American-based Virtual Assistant company My Virtual Little Helper that employs people across America to help business owners and online entrepreneurs get more done. She is on a mission to help others do what she has done; build a career that helps others accomplish more while still having time for those that matter most. Join her at her website: Amanda Mock

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The Secret Daily Routines Behind History’s Most Brilliant Thinkers

Uncover the daily rituals and hidden habits that powered history’s most brilliant minds to success.

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These 11 Habits Will Make You More Productive, Successful, and Confident

Boost your focus, confidence, and results with 11 powerful habits successful people use every day.

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Successful people love to help beginners. They have an incredible work ethic and rarely complain. As a result, others naturally look up to them and want to follow in their footsteps.

But here’s the truth: there’s no success without sacrifice. You’ll need to give up comfort, excuses, and sometimes even social approval to accomplish your goals.

Value comes from solving problems, and these 11 powerful tips will help you become more productive, successful, and confident, starting today.

1. Take Short Breaks After Finishing a Task

Psychology shows it’s important to reward positive behaviour.

After completing a big task or finishing a book, take five minutes to walk, stretch, or simply breathe. This quick reset helps your brain recharge and strengthens focus.

Many great writers swear by morning walks, solitude, and reflection can unlock creativity.

But if you refuse to take breaks, don’t be surprised when burnout hits. Your brain needs recovery time just as much as your body does.

2. Schedule Your Most Important Tasks First

Multitasking kills productivity. If you want to get more done, try time blocking, a method where you dedicate set periods for specific tasks.

Productivity expert Caitlin Hughes explains, “Time blocking involves scheduling blocks of time for your tasks throughout the day.”

For example, if you’re a writer:

  • Research your topic at night.

  • Write your first draft in the morning (don’t worry if it’s rough).

  • Edit in the afternoon, great writing comes from rewriting.

You can’t buy more time. Use it intentionally and without regret.

3. Eliminate Distractions from Your Workspace

Focus is the foundation of success.

According to Inc. Magazine, it takes an average of 23 minutes to recover from a distraction. That’s nearly half an hour of lost productivity every time you check your phone.

Put your phone away. Close unnecessary tabs. And yes, limit your Netflix binges.

Meeting deadlines consistently is one of the fastest ways to stand out and earn respect.

4. Take Full Responsibility for Your Life

Entrepreneur Derek Sivers once said, “Everything is my fault.”

This mindset doesn’t mean self-blame; it means self-ownership. Stop pointing fingers, making excuses, or waiting for others to change.

If your habits (like smoking or drinking too much) hold you back, it’s time to make better choices. Your friends can’t live your dreams for you; only you can.

5. Invest an Hour a Day in Learning New Skills

Knowledge compounds over time.

Whether you read books, take online courses, or practise a craft, consistent learning gives you a competitive edge.

I used to struggle with academic writing, but I improved by studying the work of great authors and applying what I learned.

Your past doesn’t define you; your actions do. Every new skill adds another tool to your arsenal and makes you more unstoppable.

6. Develop a Growth Mindset

Psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck introduced the concept of fixed vs. growth mindset.

  • A fixed mindset believes success is based on natural talent.

  • A growth mindset believes success comes from effort and learning.

Choose the growth mindset. Embrace challenges. See failures as feedback. In today’s fast-moving digital world, adaptability is your biggest advantage.

7. Learn Marketing to Reach People Who Need You

I once believed marketing was manipulative, until I realised it’s about helping people solve problems.

If your work provides genuine value, marketing is how you let others know it exists. Even Apple spends billions on it.

Don’t be ashamed to promote your skills or business. Without visibility, your ideas will never reach the people who need them most.

Creative professionals who understand marketing and sales have an unfair advantage.

8. Ask Your Mentor the Right Questions

Good mentors can fast-track your growth.

While mentorship often costs money, it’s one of the best investments you can make. Great mentors don’t care about titles; they care about your progress.

If you don’t have access to a mentor yet, books are your silent mentors. Read the best in your field, take notes, and apply what resonates.

9. Build Confidence Through Action, Not Affirmations

Author Ryan Holiday once said, “I don’t believe in myself. I have evidence.”

Confidence doesn’t come from shouting affirmations into the mirror; it comes from proof. Doing hard things, keeping promises to yourself, and following through.

When you consistently take action, your brain gathers evidence that you can handle whatever comes next. That’s real confidence, grounded, earned, and unshakable.

10. Focus on Your Strengths

Your strengths reveal where your greatest impact lies.

If people compliment you on something often, it’s a clue. Lean into it.

A former professor once told me I was creative, and that simple comment gave me the confidence to go all in. I studied creativity, applied it daily, and turned it into my career advantage.

Double down on your strengths. That’s how you build momentum and mastery.

11. Identify and Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs

Your beliefs shape your reality.

For years, I believed I couldn’t be a great writer because of my chronic tinnitus and astigmatism, sensory challenges that made concentration difficult. But over time, I realised those struggles made me more disciplined, observant, and empathetic.

Your limitations can become your greatest motivators if you let them.

Avoid shortcuts. Growth takes time, but it’s always worth it.

Final Thoughts

Becoming productive, successful, and confident isn’t about working harder than everyone else. It’s about working smarter, consistently, and intentionally.

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Start small: take a break after your next task, schedule your priorities, or spend one hour learning something new.

Every habit you change compounds into long-term success. Remember, true change comes from practising new behaviours.

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The surprising truth about leadership styles that can make or break your team’s success.

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