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24 Lessons I Have Learnt In The Past 24 Years Of My Life

Joel Brown (Founder of



Joel Brown

Hi Guys, I’m Joel Brown, the owner of and I have been working on this article for some time now. I have had a lot of people asking me for advice, what have I learned so far, pointers for running a blog and how I find my Inspiration. So I decided to create this article – 24 Lessons I Have Learnt In The Past 24 Years Of My Life. I try my hardest to live by these, I hope you can take on some of these pointers for guidance in your life. Thanks!


Life Lessons

1. Everybody wants something. Almost everyone acts out of self interest (especially when they claim they don’t.) In fact, the people most eager to volunteer advice or help tend to want the most in return. Assume all career or business assistance is part of an expected exchange, either now or in the future. Then you won’t be disappointed. But keep in mind that occasionally…

2. What a few people want is just to feel good about helping others. Rarely, but it does happen, someone likes to help simply because it makes them feel good. Those people are hard to find, though, because their names aren’t listed as sponsors on event programs or plastered on the sides of b-school buildings. When you find one, make them a permanent part of your life.

3. Your mind will not change unless you exercise it. It wasn’t too long ago I remember you could not pay me to read a book. Reading a book for me was this painful task which I considered a waste of time and boring. I don’t know why, maybe I was at the point in my life where the light came on and I became this knowledge hungry human, like my mind decided “okay it’s time to mature now Joel, you will never know enough, now learn, learn, learn” so I make it my mission now to read everyday, and I swear by it. I read website articles, magazines,  watch Videos, I discuss subjects with my girl and  my friends and I can say that my overall knowledge in the past 2 years has expanded ten fold all because of reading and wanting to learn more. If reading a paper back book is a little  too old school for you then do what I do and save some bookmarks of your Top 5 websites in different areas of interest and make it  a “must do” to read a new article each and every day of the working week. A week or so In you will understand why reading is so important.

4. Don’t have a Plan B. Having a fallback plan means accepting beforehand that your plan will fail. Having a Plan B is telling the universe that the failure of your plan is a solid possibility. Don’t do that! Stick with your plan. Don’t focus on the possibility of failure even for a moment. If you fail, you’ll know in the end what next step to take or find out the right thing to do. Having a single plan gives your work a smarter edge. From the wise words of Jordan Belfort – “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”

5. Everything before “but” is bullsh!t. “I don’t meant to be critical, but…” “I’m not trying to tell you what to do, but…” “Please don’t take this the wrong way, but…” Yes you do, yes you are, and yes I will. Disclaimers are anything but, indicating the true meaning behind what is said.

6. Boring people win. The people who achieve the most do a lot more of the boring stuff. Routine, rigor, attention to detail, churning away day after day… that is how you will succeed. Every elite athlete, entertainer, and successful business person you will someday know has put in thousands of hours of practice and effort. They are successful mainly because they are willing to do what other people won’t. Learn to enjoy the mundane and you will quickly outdistance the pack. The poor, the unsuccessful, the unhappy, the unhealthy are the ones who use the word tomorrow the most!

7. Stop brainstorming and start borrowing. Most people try to be original — and want to be perceived as original — primarily out of ego. Results are all that matter. Stop trying to think of something new. Why try and re-invent the wheel? All you really need to be planning for is adaptations. The world is forever changing and so are peoples interests, use your time and energy to focus on how you are going to carry your business or ideas to an establishment of longevity. The store, the restaurant, the factory, the school… ideas you can borrow — ideas that you can see actually work — are everywhere. Borrow freely and often, just don’t forget to grow and make it a thing to always improve. That way you and your ideas will never be left behind.

8. The women you really want to meet don’t care about the kind of car you drive. Plain and simple, a bus pass will do, just don’t be bumming off her for lifts. Something that will get your from A-B should suffice.

9. Learn to say ‘no’ even at the risk of being labeled as arrogant, selfish or mean. Say ‘no’ when you feel you want to say ‘no’. Say it!

10. People aren’t always going to be there for you. This is why it is good to learn to fend for yourself, travel the world, put your self in high risk situations, go for a job interview that will make you shit your pants. These are the things that make you confident and ready for the hard knocks in life.

11. Training is great; advice is not. Advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer but wish you didn’t. Always ask, “How do I…?” because “how” leads to training and knowledge. Ask, “Should I…” and you get opinions often colored by individual perspectives. Always ask to be shown or taught. When you know how you can decide for yourself whether youshould.

12. Spend most of your time on your priorities. Don’t keep talking about them without taking action. Stop making one list after another. Just spend more time working on them. Literally. Every single day.

13. Visibility is everything. The people who get promotions and opportunities are the people who are seen and noticed. Spend the majority of your time doing great things, but spend at least 10% of your time getting the attention of the people who matter. Customers, partners, media… no one will discover you on their own.  You absolutely must help them find you.

14. Always take out something. Initiatives, projects, decisions… you’ll constantly be tempted to add one more thing to make them even better. Addition almost always results in subtraction. The more you eliminate the more you can focus on what remains, so the stuff you leave out is as important as the stuff you leave in.

15. Shit happens. Learn to stay cool. Learn breathing techniques to calm down fast. Learn how to deal with panic, fear and anxiety. Like Ari Gold from Entourage says “When shit happens, just wipe, flush and move on”.

16. The people who say the least have the most to say. Bragging is a mask for insecurity. Truly confident people are quiet and unassuming. Hang around the humble ones. When they do speak you’ll be glad you were listening.

17. Your parents are a lot smarter than you think. And they only want the best for you. And they’ll always be there for you. And they won’t be around forever. So will it hurt you to call once in a while?

18. Always learn on the fly. Waiting until you’re ready means waiting forever. When you’re “preparing” there are millions of reasons to delay a little longer. Trust yourself. Learn a little and then jump in. Make mistakes, adjust, adapt, and develop greater skill by doing. You’ll save time and achieve more.

19. Hang on to the people you click with. Let go of the emotional leachers who feed on your energy. Point them down the safest road and move on from their complaints and tortures of me me me’s and keep in mind that your true family is not always connected through blood. Let as much positive energy come from you that if negative people, places or things show up.. They’ll get lost like a needle in a hay stack.

20. Don’t expect to get back what you give. Most of the time favors will not be returned. Sacrifices you make for others will not be rewarded. All the people you mentor, develop, promote, and work with will not call to see how you’re doing when you are suddenly let go years from now. When you give, give because you want to give; then you’ll never be disappointed.

21. You will only regret what you decide not do. You won’t regret broken bones from motorcycle racing; you will regret not taking a shot at a higher level of the sport. You won’t regret taking a particularly crappy job; you will regret turning down what was probably a great job. When you look back you will only regret a few of the things you did. (The rest, even if they were mistakes, will help make you the person you become.) What you will regret are things you decide not to do due to lack of confidence or fear of the unknown — like the businesses you should have started and the joint venture you turned down. Safe, in your life, will almost always equal sorry. Take intelligent business risks and trust you will be able to work through any challenges. If nothing else, you’ll have more fun.

 22. Problems aren’t always bad.

“On the other side of fear lies success”. That quote is and always will be one of my favorites. I have learnt that as frustrating as problems can be, they are really just another hurdle that you need to get over to reach your goal. Problems are just challenges really. When you change your frame of mind and look at problems as just another hurdle, you will reap the benefits for holding out and going that extra mile. Each hurdle you overcome will take you one step ahead of the man that decided that there is no way over and it’s all too hard. This is an advantage for you and your ventures.

23. Underpromise, overprepare, overdeliver. Not just in business, but in every portion of your life. Not just for others but for yourself, too.

24. Develop a strong handshake, look people in the eye, and smile when answering the phone. Body Language is everything, in life and in business. This one needs no further explanation.


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I am the the Founder of and I am so grateful you're here to be part of this awesome community. I love connecting with people who have a passion for Entrepreneurship, Self Development & Achieving Success. I started this website with the intention of educating and inspiring likeminded people to always strive for success no matter what their circumstances.I'm proud to say through my podcast and through this website we have impacted over 200 million lives in the last 10 years.



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    May 23, 2013 at 7:21 am

    Loved this article, so true!

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    Shawn Shashidharan

    Apr 17, 2013 at 4:22 pm

    wow.. reading this was great. learnt many things.

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    Jan 23, 2013 at 3:55 pm

    Lot of words…. Not too long ago, I used to hate them, after I started to fill up my mind with positive articles, now i cant stop reading them.

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    May 26, 2012 at 7:24 pm

    Wow! I did not know that you are only 24 years old. Very powerful thoughts 🙂

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    Jan 14, 2012 at 11:39 pm

    Thank you for sharing these amazing, encouraging, and insightful lessons. I’m so glad to have found you on Twitter! God bless!

    • Joel


      Jan 15, 2012 at 12:50 am

      Thank you Doreen.

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    Dec 26, 2011 at 10:40 pm

    Nice inspiration

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    Nov 22, 2011 at 3:57 pm

    Good article. BOOKMARKED! And I will always keep it on top of the bookmark list

    • Joel


      Nov 23, 2011 at 5:26 am

      Thank You Paul!

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    Nov 17, 2011 at 1:08 pm

    Great article man, glad to see you watch entourage too :). Reading your posts always gets me pumped to get sh!t done.

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    Nov 1, 2011 at 7:41 am

    Great Article Joel! i enjoyed read it, some of them make me laugh.i am agree with you, keep the good inside of you GBU 🙂

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    Nov 1, 2011 at 7:40 am

    Great Artilcle Joel! i enjoyed read the article, some of them make me laugh.i am agree with you, keep the good inside of you GBU 🙂

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    Oct 5, 2011 at 4:27 pm

    I glanced at this article at first, then when I actually read the title i opened it up immediately. I m in the middle of trying to make major decisions in my life and find that half to 3/4 of your article has helped me completely in what I feel like is my transition to woman hood from a male perspective. I would love to see what things you will add on as you get older and have children of your own. I have to thank you from one 24 year old to another.

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    Devine Evans

    Sep 14, 2011 at 10:45 am

    Joel…truly amazing writing my friend….a lot to learn from the messages in your lessons….

    hope we can catch up soon


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    Sep 12, 2011 at 8:28 pm

    Thanks for sharing your lessons! Very inspiring and I can relate to alot of the things you wrote about. Time to make things happen 😉

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    Dino "The Latino"

    Sep 12, 2011 at 3:40 pm

    Fantastic article! I cannot agree more with all of the 24 statements and especially when it comes to the words of Jordan Belfort (number 4) – “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”

    It is also very rewarding when you learn to cut ties with the emotional leaches in your life and associate yourself with people who have a high dose of positive outlooks in life.

    My man, awesome work! Keep it coming!

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    Sep 8, 2011 at 5:05 pm

    Am really impressed by your achievements. Keep it up

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    Bridget Greenwood

    Sep 7, 2011 at 7:07 am

    Absolutely my favourite post I have ever read. I’m going to print it out and have it on my wall to look at every day.

    Cracking work Joel, and thanks for sharing


    • Joel


      Sep 7, 2011 at 9:03 am

      Great to hear you Love it Bridget. Thank You!!!!

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    Lawrence Lawas

    Sep 7, 2011 at 5:32 am

    RESPECT! Thanks for this great article. I’m 30 yrs old and I didn’t expect I would be learning a lot from a 24… Good job Sir! Can’t wait for the 25th. =)

    • Joel


      Sep 7, 2011 at 6:24 am

      Thanks Lawrence! I wanted to write soo much more but had to limit it to 24. Will update when I turn 25. Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment mate. All the best with your life and direction =)

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    Sep 7, 2011 at 4:59 am

    This article is what I need to move forward in my 30something life. I’m at a complete dead end. Who knows, I might even read a book.

    • Joel


      Sep 7, 2011 at 6:23 am

      Yes read everyday, open your mind, you will open more doors =) Thanks for taking the time out to read my article Margaret!

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    Sep 7, 2011 at 4:46 am

    Good Lessons man I agree with a lot of them 🙂

    • Joel


      Sep 7, 2011 at 6:22 am

      Thank You Louie!

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    Sep 7, 2011 at 12:02 am

    Great article! I’ve got this site bookmarked and I’ve been reading an article everyday from addicted2success for the past 8 months. No sh*t. I myself am working on an enterprise in New Zealand, that I reckon is viable. I come to this website for motivation/inspiration and inside business tips and advice. This site is brilliant and thanks for putting this together. It gives me 5 minutes of pleasant reading everyday, a break from my busy schedule. Good on ya mate.

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