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14 Ways I Completely Changed My Life And So Can You

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A few years ago my entire life changed, and it was one of the best experiences of my life. I decided that I had reached a point in my life where I wasn’t happy and needed to make massive changes. I began a long process of understanding what it would take to experience massive success and become a magnet for all things good in life. Addicted2Success was part of that journey, and so were a number of other great resources.

Below are my fourteen quick tips for turning your life around

 

1. Do a clean out of all your friends

I went through all my friends and asked myself one question, is this person helping me to succeed or bringing me down. If the answer was the later, I deleted them from my social media and my address book, and moved on. This might seem drastic but sometimes it’s the tough decisions that will help you achieve massive success. The only exception to this was that if someone proved that they were going to change, then I allowed them back in again. Doing this made me feel like I had control over my life again.

 

2. Listen to audiobooks every single day

The one habit that started this whole transformation for me was listening to my very first audiobook, which happened to be “Tony Robbins Get The Edge.” I started by deciding that I needed to do some exercise and that walking around my neighbourhood would be a good start. I could often be seen walking on the main roads of Melbourne, in the middle of the night, listening to these audiobooks and looking very animated because they were literally addictive. These tapes taught me the information that school did not, they taught me the basic success principles that I was now going to live my life by.

 

3. Start a LinkedIn page

For a long time, I avoided LinkedIn because I thought that people might bother me or that my privacy would be breeched. I have now learnt that if you are authentic and genuine online and have nothing to hide, tools like LinkedIn can become very powerful – read why here.

“LinkedIn is for your network what venture capital is for startups, it allows you to scale at a rate that you never thought was possible”

 

4. Remove negative media from your life

One of the best things I did was get back time in my day by not watching anymore TV and ditching the habit of watching or consuming any mainstream news. I replaced this wasted time with my new favourite hobby, reading Kindle books on my iPad. For many years, I was unable to read a lot of books because my eyes got tired from reading. Then I started reading on an iPad screen, which was much brighter and easier on my eyes. It was like discovering reading for the first time, and I begun to read anything from “Think and Grow Rich,” to amazing entrepreneur books like Lisa Messengers “Daring & Disruptive,” to books about Wall Street.

Tim Denning - Read Lisa Messenger's Book Daring And Disruptive

Replace negative media with amazing books like Lisa Messenger’s “Daring and Disruptive.”

 

5. Start juicing and rebounding now

Green Juice - Vegie Girl - Urban Projuice Tim DenningAfter attending a Tony Robbins seminar, I learned about the alkaline diet and took up drinking cold press, green, juice every morning. Never have I felt so good and I now have all the energy to get me through the day. Gone are the headaches and rumbling stomachs because my body is finally nourished and alive again. If I suggest that you do one thing to turn your life around, it would be to take up the habit of juicing.

I also started using my net time (no extra time) by combining important mobile phone conversations with walks in the park. I found this to be very relaxing, and it made me very productive. I then added watching my favourite “Ted Talks” while rebounding on a mini trampoline. This practice helps clear my lymphatic system and is a great way to get me started in the morning.

 

6. Walk away from conversations that involve negative people

When I decided to go and work for a corporate organisation, I started my career in a very negative team. I would often come to work and hear my fellow teammates talking about how much they hated life and the company we all worked for. They could often be seen planning coups and talking about various conspiracies. This was the best lesson of my life! I got to see exactly how I didn’t want to be and why I would never settle for less again. Even now, if I am part of a conversation and it goes down a road that is not congruent with my beliefs, I remove myself. Doing this is such a blessing in disguise because I feel like I am in control and not like life is in control of me, or worse yet, somebody else.

 

7. Don’t worry about the outcome of everything

Before I underwent this change is psychology, I used to try and worry about the outcome of everything. I use to think that I could always control the outcome. When I learnt that it was better just to have faith and know that every outcome happens for a reason, I had completely transformed for the better. When things that most people would consider to be major failures in life occurred to me, I would just shake it off and learn the lesson from it, knowing that every lesson was making me stronger and stronger – I adopted the phrase, “Fail Fast.”

 

8. Have faith in yourself

Something that rejuvenated me was learning to have faith in myself. I began to play a game with myself and tried to be in situations where I had completely no idea. I remember being asked to look after a billion dollar relationship with a client and having absolutely no idea. I said yes because I knew this was a chance to learn. From there, I always said yes to things that I thought I was not ready for. I knew that when I wasn’t ready, it was time to grow. Tony Robbins seminar taught me that my strongest human need was growth, so I tried to feed this need as much as possible. Sure enough, the more growth I experienced, the more confidence I gained. This confidence led me to have faith in myself even when nobody else did.

 

9. Travel the world more

For a long time, I believed that working myself to death was what was required to achieve massive success. While hard work is definitely required, working yourself to the bone will not do you any favours. I began to start travelling more and before I knew it, I had flown to more than eight destinations in the space of 6 months. I found that this travelling helped put my life in perspective and gave me new ideas. Whenever a new thought occurred about something I should be doing in business, I realised that it had come from when I was travelling. It’s easy to get lost in your own community, so get out there and see the world because one day you might not be around to see it.

Tim Denning in New Zealand - Success Travel
 

 

10. Change your career

Most people fear change and the thought of trying another career is daunting to them. I began studying people’s LinkedIn profiles and looking at their various career paths. I saw one common pattern; almost none of the people I studied had actually done the same thing for their whole life. In fact, the ones that had reached the most success had usually taken a massive change in direction at some point in their life. I started to do the same with my own career and try new things out. I discovered that my network grew, and my inner circle of influence became stronger and stronger. Don’t be afraid of change ever!!!

I later started to play a game with job interviews. I purposely went and interviewed for jobs that were way out of my league that my education wouldn’t normally qualify me for. To my surprise, all the personal development and change of character became like a magnet. Everyone was offering me jobs that I could only dream of. When I asked them why the offered me the opportunity they told me that it was the confidence, attitude and way I went about things – who knew this was the most important thing.

Want to know something even more strange? One of the jobs I applied for I was unsuccessful at getting. About 12 months later one of my work colleagues was successful at getting the same role. I asked her to ask the manager why I didn’t get it, and she did. The answer they gave, we thought you were overqualified and would get bored easily. I was convinced that the reason I didn’t get it was experience, yet I was totally wrong. Always back yourself 1000% !

 

11. Reach out to successful people

As a joke, one of my closest friends dared me to try and contact people within my organisation that most would consider to be unreachable. I began ringing CEO’s, Heads of, General Managers; anyone that I thought would see me as the lowest person in the organisation. To my surprise, I was able to get a meeting with every single one of them and talk to them about whatever I wanted. Never underestimate how much other people want to help you and share their advice. The act of doing this taught me about my beliefs and about people, which changed my perception of life.

 

12. Give as much as you can

Giving was something that I was always told was important but I didn’t really know the power of. In the early days of business, I thought it was all about protecting your intellectual property and not telling anyone about your ideas. What I now know is that ideas are not worth anything unless you do something with them. Even if you have a great idea, most people are too lazy or too negative to bother trying to steal it from you. I now tell everybody about all my ideas, and I often find that it opens doors I never knew existed. People now see me as an ideas man because I share everything I know. You will never have all the information about a particular subject no matter how hard you try.

Information is so easy to find thanks to the Internet so share away. I even share my address book because everyone is searchable thanks to LinkedIn and Facebook.

 

13. Attend more networking events

An easy way to expand your influence is to expand your network. I remember hearing a few weeks ago “your network equals your net worth.” A lot of people ask me where I get all my opportunities, my answer, they come from my network. I hear about things before anyone else because my network tells me about them. I do the same so now I have a mini “Pay It Forward,” game occurring within my network. Some of the best people I have connected with in the last few years I have met at networking events. No matter how exhausted I might be after work, I always try and attend events because it lifts my energy and opens my mind to ideas I haven’t thought of before.

 

14. Give everybody a second chance

Last but not least, I learnt to give everybody a second chance no matter what they had done. This forgiveness allowed me to see people’s weaknesses and understand that nobody is perfect. Giving in to accepting that no one is perfect has made others not expect me to be perfect. Nobody does anything to upset you on purpose; it’s how you’re interpreting it that is the issue.

 

So there, you have it, my top tips on how I turned my life around. So many people have asked me, and now you have all the knowledge that I had to do the same. Even if you only do 3 of these tips, I promise you, you will experience a change in your life for the good.

GET OUT THERE, GET AMONGST IT AND GET EXCITED!

 

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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38 Comments

  1. Philip Verghese Ariel

    Mar 2, 2018 at 7:10 am

    Hi Tim,
    What a joy to be here today.
    I am here via Linkedin.
    Happy to read these 14 amazing ways or tips you shared here.
    It is indeed a great joy to know that some of them I am already following, and as you said: I could experience a change in my life.
    I too have a slight hesitation at the beginning with Linkedin, but later I found that it is indeed a wonderful platform. Thanks for sharing it.
    And Ha, the last but not the least is really a rocking one! One need to follow this very diligently. I am sure that attitude will make a great impact on others.
    Keep sharing.
    Best Regards,
    ~ Philip

  2. Suraj

    Jun 20, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    Sir I don’t understand about the network part
    All the above it was good and motivational
    Thanks

  3. George Azide

    Apr 23, 2017 at 9:59 pm

    Mr. Denning,

    I’m literally in awe at the quality of your writing.

    Here’s how I came across you – I recently have been stuck in starting my business and wasn’t sure about the next step to take. (I live in Dallas, Tx we’re an entrepreneurial bunch down here.) I signed up for a curated content last year and NEVER read one single email.

    Well today, for some reason, I opened up that inbox and read the email at the top of the list and in was an article titled, “What I Learned From the World’s Greatest Venture Capitalist”.

    As someone who has never even said the phrase “venture capitalist”, I honestly can’t tell you what compelled me to open the article.

    I didn’t just read it, I was absorbed by it. Your content is rich, my man.

    I instantly knew I needed to be on your list to learn more about you. Your article (indirectly) showed me a path for my business that I had NEVER previously considered. So for that I thank you.

    I’m not sure what to call it, but I feel you are filling the exact role you are supposed to be filling in life. And that’s rare to come across randomly.

    I’ve downloaded your Game Changing Influencer eBook and have read most of your work on Addicted2Success. Oddly enough, I don’t see a place where you offer a product. So, this may sound weird, but…can I buy anything from you?

    You’ve blown my mind and I had no idea who you were an hour ago. Ha! As someone who truly embraces the power of the internet, I am very pleased at the moment.

    Thank you again, Mr. Denning. To your continued success.

  4. Glenn

    Jan 3, 2016 at 12:06 am

    Nice post Tim.

    Some really valuable insights.

    The more you grow and learn, the more opportunities open up.

    • Tim Denning

      Jan 23, 2016 at 12:27 am

      Cheers Glenn I am glad you learnt a thing or two.

  5. Indika

    Jul 5, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    Hey Tim,
    This is great practical motivational article I ever seen. thanx a lot Tim. I appriciate ur concern about green meals,friends and giving second chance. who ever wants to stay tune I belive this is the article for them.thank you very much again for the ideas.ideas.keep inspiring people. all the best Tim.

    • Tim Denning

      Jul 11, 2015 at 1:43 pm

      Thanks Indika for the kind words and I wish you all the success you deserve.

  6. Nina

    Jun 8, 2015 at 9:41 pm

    I’ve done all of these suggestions and am SO HAPPY! It just all came natural to me over time and now I’m investing in myself and my health. I quit an unhealthy job, chopped out unhealthy people and situations and am learning to like myself. All of these suggestions are absolutely a part of enlightenment. I love seeing someone else encouraging others to push on and give suggestions like yours. Great read for anyone who needs a different direction.

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 11, 2015 at 11:11 am

      Thanks Nina and congrats on making the change. Over the next few months you will see some rapid changes and find that your happiness increases. Don’t forget to try the green juices.

  7. Nkuli

    Jun 3, 2015 at 10:24 am

    Hi Tim

    This ia a great read….I have been in the coporate world for almost 5 years and in different compaines and I have realised that I always find something that makes me unhappy hence the jumping from one job to another. so I want to pursue my business idea that I have had for a good 6 months now and the fear of leaving the safety of having a job is over powering me however I feel the need to start my business and find hapiness in what I do and love.
    What is your advise in quiting my current job to pursue my business?

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 6, 2015 at 10:30 am

      Nkuli, I have known quite a few people over the years who have gone through the same thing. Changing from job to job won’t fix anything, the two things that will help is personal development and entrepreneurship.

      If you have that entrepreneur bug then it’s time to pursue it as your only on this planet once and regrets are the worse thing that you can suffer from. I wish you all the success with your new business and go out there and crush it.

  8. sunanda

    May 1, 2015 at 3:44 am

    i so appriciate this post as inspired me fr to take my stand nw .spend sm years as a emotional fool n stuck .as very appropriate to delete negative ppl ,thoughts from life n nvr gv a second chance to thm .thanks again.

    • Tim Denning

      May 5, 2015 at 11:19 pm

      Not a problem at all Sunanda.

  9. jack

    Apr 21, 2015 at 3:56 pm

    latter

  10. Sakib

    Apr 18, 2015 at 7:37 am

    Hey Tim .. I am really motivated after reading this .. thing is I am in a the middle of medical school course and I am not even interested in this field. All I did was fool thing I know. But now I am 23 do you think that I should change my career ? Im so afraid because people of my age started earning money and I am here like stuck in situation its like life is stopped at a point.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 19, 2015 at 9:13 am

      Sakib, glad you got some motivation from this article, but its purpose would be completely useless if you didn’t go and take some action. If you’re studying something you are not interested in and can’t see yourself doing it for the rest of your life then maybe it’s time to look for another opportunity. 23 years old is still very young and most people change their career lots of times in their life, so don’t feel like its too late because it’s not. Earning money is good but it’s nothing to be proud of. What you should be proud of is finding your passion and making a living from that. It’s going to take some time to find that one thing but unless you admit where you’re at and start looking, things will never change and you won’t get the happiness that I believe you deserve.

  11. Marko

    Apr 17, 2015 at 9:40 pm

    What is success?

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 19, 2015 at 9:08 am

      Marko, success is the outcome you get, from changing things in your life, so you will grow and do what you are passionate about. Only you can define what success is in your life and it’s not necessarily monetary related.

  12. Janet

    Apr 16, 2015 at 2:21 am

    I so appreciate this post. It takes work to achieve success and sometimes lots of old things do have to be done away with.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 19, 2015 at 9:06 am

      Thanks Janet. You hit the nail on the head, you have to do away with old habits and replace them with new empowring ones.

  13. Katrina

    Apr 13, 2015 at 8:19 pm

    Love it, thanks for sharing!!! A great read for someone who wakes up at 4.30am most mornings in frustration of their current situation. This really helps.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 15, 2015 at 8:35 am

      Your certainly better than me Katrina I wake up at 5am so you’re getting 30 mins of extra reading time than me. Don;t be frustrated with your current situation. This situation is temporary and you will soon be out of Winter back into Summer.

  14. Erick Ramirez

    Apr 13, 2015 at 2:07 am

    Thank you for this, it was a very inspiring morning read. I read a lot of articles but yours was very sincere and really spoke to me. I’m planning on a career and life change at the end of this year, moving from Japan to Hawaii. So I’m looking to start enriching my life. Do you have a blog? I would love to read more of your articles.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 13, 2015 at 11:33 am

      Thanks for commenting Erick. Best of luck with the change in country. I write exclusively for Addicted2Success but you can view all my articles I post on the site via facebook.com/timdenning

      • Erick Ramirez

        Apr 13, 2015 at 12:56 pm

        Good stuff on your Facebook page, liked it. Thanks for the reply. Good luck with reaching the masses.

  15. Cristi Vlad

    Apr 10, 2015 at 11:26 am

    You really hit the nail on the head with #12. thanks! 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 12, 2015 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Cristi. I think giving is a common law of success and that’s why it is mentioned so much in the world of personal development.

  16. Raymond Foo

    Apr 9, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    Hey, I’m 20 now. I live in Malaysia. I’m deciding whether to further study or go to work. Some major that cross my mind is Civil Engineering(don’t know if I will like it, but I’m considering it because I could work in an office while still going outside),Marketing(fear that I would get a lowpay). If work, I will work as a Salesperson to get many money and start a business. My goal is to get my dream car. And Travel. What is your advice? Your article ia great and that’s all the thing I’m working towards.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 12, 2015 at 1:30 am

      Hi Raymond, thanks for your comment. Do what makes you really happy. If you’re not sure which option will make you happy then try a secondment or a 4 week trial. Consider taking someone out for coffee who already has the job that you want. If none of these options work then there is a chance you might be destined for the entrepreneur world. Don’t fear about low pay. You can make lots of money doing pretty much anything as long as you’re passionate about it. I have seen people clean toilets and drains and make plenty from doing this. Getting your dream car will only be short lived joy and then you will get complacent again. I have been through this already and no dream car will ever satisfy. What you are really chasing in the feeling that you get my driving your dream car. Try and get that feeling through doing something that may not involve money. Hope those tips give you some clarity. Feel free to connect via http://www.facebook.com/tim.denning to keep in touch

  17. Michele

    Apr 8, 2015 at 3:57 pm

    Thanks Tim, this is really useful. I am on a journey to redesign my life as well. I have done many of these things and am working on a few others- like not worrying about the outcome. It is a process!

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 12, 2015 at 1:30 am

      That’s really good to hear Michele and I hope you get where you want to go.

  18. Susan

    Apr 8, 2015 at 3:08 am

    This is amazing!! Thank you!!

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 8, 2015 at 7:40 pm

      Not a problem Susan!

  19. Bala

    Apr 7, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    Great Tips. My Favorite ‘ Dont worry about the outcome of Everything’ . I am working on it. Patience and persistence is key. Today we are used to seeing ‘instant’ results when we have just started putting in the effort.

    Thanks Tim

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 8, 2015 at 7:38 pm

      Agree Bala and thanks for sharing your opinion.

  20. James Dunn

    Apr 7, 2015 at 9:43 am

    Great article!! I can see myself in so many of the steps you’ve mentioned, and I can see that the others are the ones I need to take.

    I attended UPW in San Jose, CA last year and it was a life changing event for me as well. Tony Robbins is such an amazing guy.

    Thanks for the great tips!

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 8, 2015 at 7:40 pm

      I can totally relate James. I went to UPW a few years back in Sydney and it was phenomenal. I think the walking on fire part was the most fun, although day 4 on health was a bit of a shake up.

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The Three P’s You Need to Master to Become a Better Leader

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I have been a fan and a student of Steve Jobs, Ray Kroc and Jack Welsh for many years. It is very valuable to find similar traits in these great leaders and aggregate them, basically come up with some common denominators of their leadership success. By doing so, we can then begin to reflect their great skills into our own leadership profile. My goal here is to give you some very quick and applicable tools to modify your behavior for greater leadership skills.

Here are the 3 P’s for you to develop greater leadership skills based upon my findings:

1. Passion

If there is one thing that I found in most leaders, it is passion. They love what they do, they love talking about what they do and they love getting others involved in what they do. Passion has different ways of emoting. Some people move very quickly on stage with arms flaying, voice pitching from a diminuendo to a crescendo with 100 giant television screens behind them.

Remember Steve Jobs when the iPhone was being introduced? I’ve seen other people standing behind the podium speaking from written notes but the emotional intensity in the room grew thick and reaching the level of static discharge. I’ve seen everything in between. There is an old saying that we have a leadership theory and that is, “if you think you’re leading and you turn around and no one is following, you’re just taking a walk!” It is passion that prevents that from happening.

“Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” – John D. Rockefeller

You may be asking yourself how you can develop more passion in your life and in your leadership repertoire. The answer to that is fairly simple but the application can be somewhat deceptive in its apparent simplicity. If you wait to feel passionate before you act passionate, you’re allowing outside circumstance to control your emotions. However, if you begin to act passionate even if, by chance you don’t feel it, you will begin to. Thus, it is better for us to act our way into a new set of feelings than it is for us to feel our way into a new set of actions.

2. Planning

All leaders are planners; it’s a requirement of the job. By virtue of leading it means that you must be planning for the future. Planning can in fact be learned and is not that difficult of a process. If you want to become a better planner study chess. Notice I did not say play chess, although that will be the natural outcome of your studying. Study chess and notice how the minds of the great masters develop a strategy and implant tactics around that strategy. Chess is an amazing process to develop planning skills.

Another thing you can do is think about how you planned your last vacation, or even a weekend getaway. Think about the steps you took, the research you did based on those steps and their outcomes. Both the study of chess and personal planning will assist you in developing planning for your leadership skills.

3. Persistence

Leaders never give up! If there is something they want, they find a way around, over, or through the obstacle. Too many people never develop their full leadership birthright because of the mental script running through their minds saying, “It’s too tough for me. I Should just go home and get a good nights sleep.” Leaders know that the only possibility of failure is in giving up. If you fall down 10 times but get up on the 11th, you have not failed 10 times – you have succeeded. Period!

You may be wondering how to develop that no nonsense, I will not be denied attitude of persistence. The real question is not how do I develop persistence, but how do I develop the courage to go after what I want? Persistence is a by-product of courage! When there is something that should be yours, developing the impassioned desire to obtain that through raw courage will develop sheer persistence.

“There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” – Colin Powell

Maybe I should’ve included a 4th P with this article. That of POWER! The best thing I can say about power is that if you want a more powerful leadership dynamic, develop a repertoire that contains passion, planning and persistence. The three of them combined will be a powerful leadership punch that should lead you to getting what you want and assisting others in believing that they should follow you because there is great value in you leading them.

How do you define a leader? Comment below!

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The Secret Power of Storytelling That You Need to Know

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What does the power of storytelling mean to you? Do you visualize your mom or dad telling you a bedtime story, or do you think about an enjoyable summer read? Every single conversation that we have with an individual or group is us sharing a story about the past, present and future. If we have a product or service that we offer to others, we tell a story about it when we do a pitch or a presentation.

The reason why we tell stories is because we know the power of stories. We know how being able to tell a captivating story can affect and change the lives of the people for better or worse. Hitler used stories about the Jews in the 1930’s which caused Germany to rally the youth and the German people to go to war, and in England, the British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, used the power of stories to rally the British in a movement of never surrendering to the Germans.

Not everyone knows how to tell stories

Our abilities to tell captivating stories is one of the greatest assets we possess. However the problem is that not everyone has the skills to be a good storyteller, and the ability to be a good storyteller is critical in our success whether it’s in our personal or business life.

The power of storytelling goes way beyond just our everyday conversations, it goes far beyond simply giving facts and data. Stories emotionalize information. They bring life and depth to otherwise bland material, and they allow people to connect with the message in a deeper, more meaningful way.

Tony Robbins, the world famous motivational speaker and strategist interviewed Peter Guber, the Chairman and CEO of Mandalay Entertainment whose films has earned more than $3 billion and over 50 Academy Awards nomination. Guber stated “emotion combined with information becomes memorable and actionable.  Where were you on 9/11? Chances are that you can remember exactly where you were when you learned about the tragic events that transpired that day. But if you had to think where you were the day before that – that memory is probably hazier. Because information attached to pain or pleasure creates an emotional connection that resonates within you.”

He goes on to also say “Keeping in mind that a story is not a monologue, but a dialogue, helps you to give your audience proprietorship. They become emotional owners of the story you are telling. Then they become advtes –oca of your product, your service, your business, your brand.”

The power of storytelling can transform lives when useful and relevant information is combined with emotions. The next time you speak to another person regardless of the situation, remember you are being a storyteller, because you are in the process of transferring information to that person or group.

“Stories are a communal currency of humanity.” –Tahir Shah

Our most powerful tool

Our ability to communicate effectively is the most powerful tool we have, and when we strategically use our communication skills to transfer bland information into masterful stories we also have the power to transform lives.

If done correctly, our stories will have a massive effect on our listening audience. It will inspire and influence them. It will move them to act. So never underestimate the power of storytelling. Make it relevant–connect emotionally, create a dialogue, and you will see why the power of storytelling is the most powerful tool you have.

Don’t just take my word on for it, Look at some of the greatest leaders throughout history

You will see that they all had the ability to tell stories and bring people together through their words. The greatest motivational speakers in the world use the power of storytelling to emotionalize their audience, because there is no quicker or more effective way to get your audience engaged.

Les Brown who has been one of my mentors and one of the greatest motivational speakers that has ever lived, uses stories masterfully. He shares stories about his upbringing in Miami, and how he and his twin brother were adopted at birth and he is somehow able to transition those stories into whatever relevant topic needs to be heard by his audience, but he first draws them in with his stories.

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown

Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Earl Nightingale, Tony Robbins, the list is endless, but one thing they all have in common is their ability to tell stories masterfully. Some of the greatest philosophers have told us that there is a blueprint for success, and obviously storytelling is part of that blue print.

There is no greater power that we possess than the ability to transform regular words into captivating stories that can take your audience on whatever journey you want to take them on.

Being a great storyteller is like being a puppet master, because when you can draw people in to your stories you will have your audience on a string taking them on any emotional roller coaster. The secret power of storytelling is to be treated with respect, because with great power comes great responsibility, and this power should only be used for good.

Do you enjoy storytelling? If so, do you have any techniques or advice to share? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Signs You’re on the Right Path to Success

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Every successful person had his own moment(s) of doubt. The road to success is full of obstacles and sweet hardships that will frequently make you stop and ask, ‘Am I on the right track?’ Even legends and billionaires had moments like that. Just imagine how 62 year old Colonel Sanders felt when he was rejected time and time again trying to franchise his famous chicken recipe.

It felt harsh and I bet he stopped, at least for a moment, to question his entire existence, not just the success of his business idea. But I also bet that there were probably some signs that told Sanders —and any other successful person— ‘You`re going to make it, just hang in there.”

Here are the 5 signs that will tell you whether you`re going to be successful or not:

1. You’re good at the consistency game

I don`t like the fable of the Tortoise and the Hare, and I believe that a restless hare would smash them both, but there`s a reason why that slow tortoise crossed the finish line; It`s called consistency.

Success eventually favors the most consistent, and if you`re not disciplined with the things that make you successful, then your chances to succeed are slimmer than Marlon Brando`s chances of winning the lottery (Marlon Brando is dead, and one of every 175 million tickets wins the lotto).  

Systems and routines (i.e., consistency), predict success, so take a look at your habits. Are they positive? Do you practice them regularly? If the answer to both questions is “Yes,” then sooner or later you`re going to be successful.

“The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same.” – Colin R. Davis

2. You stopped having a toxic relationship with money

Success is no longer a zero-sum game to you; opportunities are everywhere, and there`s room for everybody to make money, including you. When you check the news, the success of other people no longer makes you envious. A celebrity buying a new mansion or a $150 million contract for a LeBron or Federer-like athlete, doesn`t bother you but instead makes you believe there`s plenty of money out there for ambitious, hard-working people like you. When you switch from worrying about not having enough money to having faith that you will make the money you want, then you know you`re on the way to success.

3. You know the right people

Another sign is having a big social network. I read it somewhere that business owners prefer to hire those they know over those who are skilled. Sounds skewed, I know, but it helps a lot if you combine your technical skills with excellent people skills. To want success is more like wishing to enter a nightclub on a busy Friday night. If you know the bouncers or have enough skills to befriend them, you won`t stay long in the line. The same thing happens in business, the more people you know, the easier it will be to find the right job, get proper funding and save time waiting in the line.

Social skills will help you more than you can ever imagine. There`s a guy I used to work with, he`s not that good looking, but he`s the slickest I`ve ever seen. When that guy hit rock bottom, he dropped out of school, bought a one-way ticket to Dubai, became a real estate agent and made his first million before reaching 30. I`ve also read about Michael Bloomberg who used to come to work at six in the morning to distribute coffee and tea to CEOs who come to work early when others are sleeping. For $.99 each, Bloomberg befriended at least a dozen bigwigs who later helped him launch a billion dollar business after he quit Wall Street.

4. You know what makes you tick

The successful people are better than most people at understanding themselves and overcoming —to a greater extent—the five foundations of poverty: sleep, fear, anger, laziness, and procrastination. They have worked on themselves so deeply and have made so many mistakes that they now know their soft spots as well as what motivates them.

Do you know what makes you sad, angry or excited? Do you know when you`re more likely to cheat on a diet or skip a workout? What are your strengths? Can you motivate yourself at will? And how? Having answers to most or, preferably, all of these questions will help you tap into your full potential and sets you on the path to massive success.

“All progress takes place outside the comfort zone.” – Michael John Bobak

5. You have faith

Faith in the yet to be seen, is a huge sign of success. When you think about the future, there should be a positive energy around you that says “I`m gonna make it.” You may not know exactly when you`re going to succeed, but you`re sure it’s a matter of time. This faith, or certainty, comes from having a solid plan – It`s when you know your goal, how you`ll achieve it, and how you`re going to react if things go south and deciding to believe in the unknown

If you think about it, hard work doesn`t always come as the first cause of success. It`s the faith that you`ll achieve the goal that makes you work hard, and thus, achieve the goal. I was reading a book on Michael Jordan by Roland Lazenby —who also wrote Kobe Bryant`s biography— and it stopped me that part of Jordan`s extraordinary success goes to expectations.

He expected every single ball he shot to go in. Jordan used that mindset over and over and didn`t stop when one of his shots was missed. He merely understood that even though nobody wins all the time, believing you`ll win every single time makes you win most of the time, which is enough to get a career like his. The most prominent success sign is the certainty. To believe, and act, as if you`re going to succeed, and then let that belief lead manifest into actions.

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Instead of Always Trying to Be Right, Do This Instead

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A colleague of mine was obnoxious, over eager, and completely out of line. Yet, all of this was overshadowed by the fact he was just plain wrong. If he were to go through with it, it would derail the company by at least 6 months. Yet, arguing with him when he was in this state was of no use. While hitting him over the head with the laptop seemed appealing for a second, it was probably not a great long-term strategy for the business or my laptop.

Galileo once said, “You cannot teach a man anything, you can only help him find it within himself.” This is especially true when it comes to emotionally charged matters and negotiations.

When you are right, you become attached to that idea. It’s so clear, how can they not see it? Yet, your meticulously clear logic might as well be written in braille as your focus intensifies on proving yourself right, instead of reaching an agreement.

Below are 3 ways you can step out of your emotions and help someone find the right answer when money and time are on the line:

1. Separate the Person From the Issue

Imagine if a four-year-old child was adamant about something. You wouldn’t try to reason logically for hours in such a case. When trying to speak through a person’s emotions, often you might have better luck with the four year old.

In order to break this barrier you must stop seeing them as the problem and see the issue at hand. Instead of seeing the other person as stupid or obnoxious, try viewing them as simply lost or misguided. The job now becomes not to prove them wrong, but to guide them to the truth. Adopting this mindset changes your entire approach as you get out of your own emotions and take control of the situation.

“Each of us guard a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside.” – Stephen Covey

2. Show Them A Mirror

Somewhere in between trying to hammer a point, both sides usually forget to listen. No matter the situation, you must make sure that person is never you. Instead, shift the focus from “me vs you” and make it completely about the other person. Really listen and validate their emotions, creating enough trust and safety to begin a real exchange. Make sure they feel heard and slow the conversation down. When you slow the process down, you also calm down.

Remember, it’s not what you say, but how you say it. About 93% of communication is nonverbal, thus maintaining your body language immediately provides an edge. A playful (not childlike or mocking) voice puts someone in a positive frame of mind, where they are more likely to collaborate and problem solve.

Always remember to repeat back the most important three words from their sentence and make them elaborate on whatever they said. The more a person is allowed to speak, the more they feel heard. The more they feel heard, the more open they are to receive new information.

3. Lead With Empathy, Not Sympathy

Taking the time to make sure the other side feels heard and understood does not mean you bend to their will. It does not mean you give up, agree, feel sorry for, or even compromise. Empathy is the ability to recognize another’s perspective and the vocalization of that recognition. This is the difference between empathy and sympathy.

When you can label a person’s emotions in an argument, you seize the chance to discover what is behind those feelings. As you begin to drill down, you gain leverage. This should be done very gracefully. Instead of saying, I think you’re angry and being stubborn, trying saying, It seems like you are feeling frustrated because you really care about this and wish it was moving along quicker.

“Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear; all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.” – Roy T. Bennett

Using labels, you mold their feelings into words, moving information from the emotional part of the brain to the rational. Whatever behavior a person may be presenting, there is always an underlying feeling triggering it. Your job is to make the person aware of that feeling. The faster you do this, the faster you eliminate the risk of a complete breakdown in communication.

After their emotions are labeled, asking how or why calibrated questions allow them to solve their problems for you. In order to do this effectively you don’t need to study every type of calibrated question there is, but rather adopt a specific mindset. You are not their opponent, but a guide, leading the lost to the truth. Your truth.

In my case, the presenting behavior of my colleague was an obnoxious know-it-all attitude. However, the underlying emotion was fear of falling behind. Once I was able to stop asking the question, “Why is he doing this to me?” and focus on looking deeper, the conversation took a turn. The conversation was no longer about my ideas versus his, but about him and his fear.

Instead of arguing with me, he spent the rest of the time, essentially, arguing with himself. After helping him dissect his fear in the rational part of the brain, he realized that many of the worst case scenarios were highly improbable and acting hasty might exacerbate things. Most importantly, at the end of the conversation, he said, “I think I made the right choice.”

He believed that the decision was entirely his. He never acknowledged the fact that I was right and announced to everyone the sudden spark of genius that hit him. Yet, at the end of the day you need to ask yourself what is more important to you; being right or doing whatever it takes to win.  

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The Three P’s You Need to Master to Become a Better Leader

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I have been a fan and a student of Steve Jobs, Ray Kroc and Jack Welsh for many years. It is very valuable to find similar traits in these great leaders and aggregate them, basically come up with some common denominators of their leadership success. By doing so, we can then begin to reflect their great skills into our own leadership profile. My goal here is to give you some very quick and applicable tools to modify your behavior for greater leadership skills. (more…)

Biagio Sciacca, known to his friends as Bill, was a lifelong resident of Pittston, PA. He is the owner of Intelligent Motivation, Inc. a global consulting and training firm specializing in management and leadership training as well as psychological assessment for hiring and staff development. He is the author of several books relating to goal setting, and his third book, Provocative Leadership, is publishing soon. Now residing in Tamarindo, Costa Rica, he divides his time between his international coaching and training clients, writing his next book and wandering aimlessly on the beach. Feel free to contact Bill at bill@intelligentmotivationinc.com or schedule a call with him by going to www.intelligentmotivationinc.com and clicking on the “set up a call” tab.

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  1. Philip Verghese Ariel

    Mar 2, 2018 at 7:10 am

    Hi Tim,
    What a joy to be here today.
    I am here via Linkedin.
    Happy to read these 14 amazing ways or tips you shared here.
    It is indeed a great joy to know that some of them I am already following, and as you said: I could experience a change in my life.
    I too have a slight hesitation at the beginning with Linkedin, but later I found that it is indeed a wonderful platform. Thanks for sharing it.
    And Ha, the last but not the least is really a rocking one! One need to follow this very diligently. I am sure that attitude will make a great impact on others.
    Keep sharing.
    Best Regards,
    ~ Philip

  2. Suraj

    Jun 20, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    Sir I don’t understand about the network part
    All the above it was good and motivational
    Thanks

  3. George Azide

    Apr 23, 2017 at 9:59 pm

    Mr. Denning,

    I’m literally in awe at the quality of your writing.

    Here’s how I came across you – I recently have been stuck in starting my business and wasn’t sure about the next step to take. (I live in Dallas, Tx we’re an entrepreneurial bunch down here.) I signed up for a curated content last year and NEVER read one single email.

    Well today, for some reason, I opened up that inbox and read the email at the top of the list and in was an article titled, “What I Learned From the World’s Greatest Venture Capitalist”.

    As someone who has never even said the phrase “venture capitalist”, I honestly can’t tell you what compelled me to open the article.

    I didn’t just read it, I was absorbed by it. Your content is rich, my man.

    I instantly knew I needed to be on your list to learn more about you. Your article (indirectly) showed me a path for my business that I had NEVER previously considered. So for that I thank you.

    I’m not sure what to call it, but I feel you are filling the exact role you are supposed to be filling in life. And that’s rare to come across randomly.

    I’ve downloaded your Game Changing Influencer eBook and have read most of your work on Addicted2Success. Oddly enough, I don’t see a place where you offer a product. So, this may sound weird, but…can I buy anything from you?

    You’ve blown my mind and I had no idea who you were an hour ago. Ha! As someone who truly embraces the power of the internet, I am very pleased at the moment.

    Thank you again, Mr. Denning. To your continued success.

  4. Glenn

    Jan 3, 2016 at 12:06 am

    Nice post Tim.

    Some really valuable insights.

    The more you grow and learn, the more opportunities open up.

    • Tim Denning

      Jan 23, 2016 at 12:27 am

      Cheers Glenn I am glad you learnt a thing or two.

  5. Indika

    Jul 5, 2015 at 3:53 pm

    Hey Tim,
    This is great practical motivational article I ever seen. thanx a lot Tim. I appriciate ur concern about green meals,friends and giving second chance. who ever wants to stay tune I belive this is the article for them.thank you very much again for the ideas.ideas.keep inspiring people. all the best Tim.

    • Tim Denning

      Jul 11, 2015 at 1:43 pm

      Thanks Indika for the kind words and I wish you all the success you deserve.

  6. Nina

    Jun 8, 2015 at 9:41 pm

    I’ve done all of these suggestions and am SO HAPPY! It just all came natural to me over time and now I’m investing in myself and my health. I quit an unhealthy job, chopped out unhealthy people and situations and am learning to like myself. All of these suggestions are absolutely a part of enlightenment. I love seeing someone else encouraging others to push on and give suggestions like yours. Great read for anyone who needs a different direction.

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 11, 2015 at 11:11 am

      Thanks Nina and congrats on making the change. Over the next few months you will see some rapid changes and find that your happiness increases. Don’t forget to try the green juices.

  7. Nkuli

    Jun 3, 2015 at 10:24 am

    Hi Tim

    This ia a great read….I have been in the coporate world for almost 5 years and in different compaines and I have realised that I always find something that makes me unhappy hence the jumping from one job to another. so I want to pursue my business idea that I have had for a good 6 months now and the fear of leaving the safety of having a job is over powering me however I feel the need to start my business and find hapiness in what I do and love.
    What is your advise in quiting my current job to pursue my business?

    • Tim Denning

      Jun 6, 2015 at 10:30 am

      Nkuli, I have known quite a few people over the years who have gone through the same thing. Changing from job to job won’t fix anything, the two things that will help is personal development and entrepreneurship.

      If you have that entrepreneur bug then it’s time to pursue it as your only on this planet once and regrets are the worse thing that you can suffer from. I wish you all the success with your new business and go out there and crush it.

  8. sunanda

    May 1, 2015 at 3:44 am

    i so appriciate this post as inspired me fr to take my stand nw .spend sm years as a emotional fool n stuck .as very appropriate to delete negative ppl ,thoughts from life n nvr gv a second chance to thm .thanks again.

    • Tim Denning

      May 5, 2015 at 11:19 pm

      Not a problem at all Sunanda.

  9. jack

    Apr 21, 2015 at 3:56 pm

    latter

  10. Sakib

    Apr 18, 2015 at 7:37 am

    Hey Tim .. I am really motivated after reading this .. thing is I am in a the middle of medical school course and I am not even interested in this field. All I did was fool thing I know. But now I am 23 do you think that I should change my career ? Im so afraid because people of my age started earning money and I am here like stuck in situation its like life is stopped at a point.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 19, 2015 at 9:13 am

      Sakib, glad you got some motivation from this article, but its purpose would be completely useless if you didn’t go and take some action. If you’re studying something you are not interested in and can’t see yourself doing it for the rest of your life then maybe it’s time to look for another opportunity. 23 years old is still very young and most people change their career lots of times in their life, so don’t feel like its too late because it’s not. Earning money is good but it’s nothing to be proud of. What you should be proud of is finding your passion and making a living from that. It’s going to take some time to find that one thing but unless you admit where you’re at and start looking, things will never change and you won’t get the happiness that I believe you deserve.

  11. Marko

    Apr 17, 2015 at 9:40 pm

    What is success?

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 19, 2015 at 9:08 am

      Marko, success is the outcome you get, from changing things in your life, so you will grow and do what you are passionate about. Only you can define what success is in your life and it’s not necessarily monetary related.

  12. Janet

    Apr 16, 2015 at 2:21 am

    I so appreciate this post. It takes work to achieve success and sometimes lots of old things do have to be done away with.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 19, 2015 at 9:06 am

      Thanks Janet. You hit the nail on the head, you have to do away with old habits and replace them with new empowring ones.

  13. Katrina

    Apr 13, 2015 at 8:19 pm

    Love it, thanks for sharing!!! A great read for someone who wakes up at 4.30am most mornings in frustration of their current situation. This really helps.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 15, 2015 at 8:35 am

      Your certainly better than me Katrina I wake up at 5am so you’re getting 30 mins of extra reading time than me. Don;t be frustrated with your current situation. This situation is temporary and you will soon be out of Winter back into Summer.

  14. Erick Ramirez

    Apr 13, 2015 at 2:07 am

    Thank you for this, it was a very inspiring morning read. I read a lot of articles but yours was very sincere and really spoke to me. I’m planning on a career and life change at the end of this year, moving from Japan to Hawaii. So I’m looking to start enriching my life. Do you have a blog? I would love to read more of your articles.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 13, 2015 at 11:33 am

      Thanks for commenting Erick. Best of luck with the change in country. I write exclusively for Addicted2Success but you can view all my articles I post on the site via facebook.com/timdenning

      • Erick Ramirez

        Apr 13, 2015 at 12:56 pm

        Good stuff on your Facebook page, liked it. Thanks for the reply. Good luck with reaching the masses.

  15. Cristi Vlad

    Apr 10, 2015 at 11:26 am

    You really hit the nail on the head with #12. thanks! 🙂

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 12, 2015 at 1:24 am

      Thanks Cristi. I think giving is a common law of success and that’s why it is mentioned so much in the world of personal development.

  16. Raymond Foo

    Apr 9, 2015 at 3:05 pm

    Hey, I’m 20 now. I live in Malaysia. I’m deciding whether to further study or go to work. Some major that cross my mind is Civil Engineering(don’t know if I will like it, but I’m considering it because I could work in an office while still going outside),Marketing(fear that I would get a lowpay). If work, I will work as a Salesperson to get many money and start a business. My goal is to get my dream car. And Travel. What is your advice? Your article ia great and that’s all the thing I’m working towards.

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 12, 2015 at 1:30 am

      Hi Raymond, thanks for your comment. Do what makes you really happy. If you’re not sure which option will make you happy then try a secondment or a 4 week trial. Consider taking someone out for coffee who already has the job that you want. If none of these options work then there is a chance you might be destined for the entrepreneur world. Don’t fear about low pay. You can make lots of money doing pretty much anything as long as you’re passionate about it. I have seen people clean toilets and drains and make plenty from doing this. Getting your dream car will only be short lived joy and then you will get complacent again. I have been through this already and no dream car will ever satisfy. What you are really chasing in the feeling that you get my driving your dream car. Try and get that feeling through doing something that may not involve money. Hope those tips give you some clarity. Feel free to connect via http://www.facebook.com/tim.denning to keep in touch

  17. Michele

    Apr 8, 2015 at 3:57 pm

    Thanks Tim, this is really useful. I am on a journey to redesign my life as well. I have done many of these things and am working on a few others- like not worrying about the outcome. It is a process!

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 12, 2015 at 1:30 am

      That’s really good to hear Michele and I hope you get where you want to go.

  18. Susan

    Apr 8, 2015 at 3:08 am

    This is amazing!! Thank you!!

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 8, 2015 at 7:40 pm

      Not a problem Susan!

  19. Bala

    Apr 7, 2015 at 9:08 pm

    Great Tips. My Favorite ‘ Dont worry about the outcome of Everything’ . I am working on it. Patience and persistence is key. Today we are used to seeing ‘instant’ results when we have just started putting in the effort.

    Thanks Tim

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 8, 2015 at 7:38 pm

      Agree Bala and thanks for sharing your opinion.

  20. James Dunn

    Apr 7, 2015 at 9:43 am

    Great article!! I can see myself in so many of the steps you’ve mentioned, and I can see that the others are the ones I need to take.

    I attended UPW in San Jose, CA last year and it was a life changing event for me as well. Tony Robbins is such an amazing guy.

    Thanks for the great tips!

    • Tim Denning

      Apr 8, 2015 at 7:40 pm

      I can totally relate James. I went to UPW a few years back in Sydney and it was phenomenal. I think the walking on fire part was the most fun, although day 4 on health was a bit of a shake up.

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The Three P’s You Need to Master to Become a Better Leader

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I have been a fan and a student of Steve Jobs, Ray Kroc and Jack Welsh for many years. It is very valuable to find similar traits in these great leaders and aggregate them, basically come up with some common denominators of their leadership success. By doing so, we can then begin to reflect their great skills into our own leadership profile. My goal here is to give you some very quick and applicable tools to modify your behavior for greater leadership skills.

Here are the 3 P’s for you to develop greater leadership skills based upon my findings:

1. Passion

If there is one thing that I found in most leaders, it is passion. They love what they do, they love talking about what they do and they love getting others involved in what they do. Passion has different ways of emoting. Some people move very quickly on stage with arms flaying, voice pitching from a diminuendo to a crescendo with 100 giant television screens behind them.

Remember Steve Jobs when the iPhone was being introduced? I’ve seen other people standing behind the podium speaking from written notes but the emotional intensity in the room grew thick and reaching the level of static discharge. I’ve seen everything in between. There is an old saying that we have a leadership theory and that is, “if you think you’re leading and you turn around and no one is following, you’re just taking a walk!” It is passion that prevents that from happening.

“Don’t be afraid to give up the good to go for the great.” – John D. Rockefeller

You may be asking yourself how you can develop more passion in your life and in your leadership repertoire. The answer to that is fairly simple but the application can be somewhat deceptive in its apparent simplicity. If you wait to feel passionate before you act passionate, you’re allowing outside circumstance to control your emotions. However, if you begin to act passionate even if, by chance you don’t feel it, you will begin to. Thus, it is better for us to act our way into a new set of feelings than it is for us to feel our way into a new set of actions.

2. Planning

All leaders are planners; it’s a requirement of the job. By virtue of leading it means that you must be planning for the future. Planning can in fact be learned and is not that difficult of a process. If you want to become a better planner study chess. Notice I did not say play chess, although that will be the natural outcome of your studying. Study chess and notice how the minds of the great masters develop a strategy and implant tactics around that strategy. Chess is an amazing process to develop planning skills.

Another thing you can do is think about how you planned your last vacation, or even a weekend getaway. Think about the steps you took, the research you did based on those steps and their outcomes. Both the study of chess and personal planning will assist you in developing planning for your leadership skills.

3. Persistence

Leaders never give up! If there is something they want, they find a way around, over, or through the obstacle. Too many people never develop their full leadership birthright because of the mental script running through their minds saying, “It’s too tough for me. I Should just go home and get a good nights sleep.” Leaders know that the only possibility of failure is in giving up. If you fall down 10 times but get up on the 11th, you have not failed 10 times – you have succeeded. Period!

You may be wondering how to develop that no nonsense, I will not be denied attitude of persistence. The real question is not how do I develop persistence, but how do I develop the courage to go after what I want? Persistence is a by-product of courage! When there is something that should be yours, developing the impassioned desire to obtain that through raw courage will develop sheer persistence.

“There are no secrets to success. It is the result of preparation, hard work, and learning from failure.” – Colin Powell

Maybe I should’ve included a 4th P with this article. That of POWER! The best thing I can say about power is that if you want a more powerful leadership dynamic, develop a repertoire that contains passion, planning and persistence. The three of them combined will be a powerful leadership punch that should lead you to getting what you want and assisting others in believing that they should follow you because there is great value in you leading them.

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The Secret Power of Storytelling That You Need to Know

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What does the power of storytelling mean to you? Do you visualize your mom or dad telling you a bedtime story, or do you think about an enjoyable summer read? Every single conversation that we have with an individual or group is us sharing a story about the past, present and future. If we have a product or service that we offer to others, we tell a story about it when we do a pitch or a presentation.

The reason why we tell stories is because we know the power of stories. We know how being able to tell a captivating story can affect and change the lives of the people for better or worse. Hitler used stories about the Jews in the 1930’s which caused Germany to rally the youth and the German people to go to war, and in England, the British Prime Minister Winston Churchill, used the power of stories to rally the British in a movement of never surrendering to the Germans.

Not everyone knows how to tell stories

Our abilities to tell captivating stories is one of the greatest assets we possess. However the problem is that not everyone has the skills to be a good storyteller, and the ability to be a good storyteller is critical in our success whether it’s in our personal or business life.

The power of storytelling goes way beyond just our everyday conversations, it goes far beyond simply giving facts and data. Stories emotionalize information. They bring life and depth to otherwise bland material, and they allow people to connect with the message in a deeper, more meaningful way.

Tony Robbins, the world famous motivational speaker and strategist interviewed Peter Guber, the Chairman and CEO of Mandalay Entertainment whose films has earned more than $3 billion and over 50 Academy Awards nomination. Guber stated “emotion combined with information becomes memorable and actionable.  Where were you on 9/11? Chances are that you can remember exactly where you were when you learned about the tragic events that transpired that day. But if you had to think where you were the day before that – that memory is probably hazier. Because information attached to pain or pleasure creates an emotional connection that resonates within you.”

He goes on to also say “Keeping in mind that a story is not a monologue, but a dialogue, helps you to give your audience proprietorship. They become emotional owners of the story you are telling. Then they become advtes –oca of your product, your service, your business, your brand.”

The power of storytelling can transform lives when useful and relevant information is combined with emotions. The next time you speak to another person regardless of the situation, remember you are being a storyteller, because you are in the process of transferring information to that person or group.

“Stories are a communal currency of humanity.” –Tahir Shah

Our most powerful tool

Our ability to communicate effectively is the most powerful tool we have, and when we strategically use our communication skills to transfer bland information into masterful stories we also have the power to transform lives.

If done correctly, our stories will have a massive effect on our listening audience. It will inspire and influence them. It will move them to act. So never underestimate the power of storytelling. Make it relevant–connect emotionally, create a dialogue, and you will see why the power of storytelling is the most powerful tool you have.

Don’t just take my word on for it, Look at some of the greatest leaders throughout history

You will see that they all had the ability to tell stories and bring people together through their words. The greatest motivational speakers in the world use the power of storytelling to emotionalize their audience, because there is no quicker or more effective way to get your audience engaged.

Les Brown who has been one of my mentors and one of the greatest motivational speakers that has ever lived, uses stories masterfully. He shares stories about his upbringing in Miami, and how he and his twin brother were adopted at birth and he is somehow able to transition those stories into whatever relevant topic needs to be heard by his audience, but he first draws them in with his stories.

“Too many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears.” – Les Brown

Jim Rohn, Zig Ziglar, Earl Nightingale, Tony Robbins, the list is endless, but one thing they all have in common is their ability to tell stories masterfully. Some of the greatest philosophers have told us that there is a blueprint for success, and obviously storytelling is part of that blue print.

There is no greater power that we possess than the ability to transform regular words into captivating stories that can take your audience on whatever journey you want to take them on.

Being a great storyteller is like being a puppet master, because when you can draw people in to your stories you will have your audience on a string taking them on any emotional roller coaster. The secret power of storytelling is to be treated with respect, because with great power comes great responsibility, and this power should only be used for good.

Do you enjoy storytelling? If so, do you have any techniques or advice to share? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Signs You’re on the Right Path to Success

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Every successful person had his own moment(s) of doubt. The road to success is full of obstacles and sweet hardships that will frequently make you stop and ask, ‘Am I on the right track?’ Even legends and billionaires had moments like that. Just imagine how 62 year old Colonel Sanders felt when he was rejected time and time again trying to franchise his famous chicken recipe.

It felt harsh and I bet he stopped, at least for a moment, to question his entire existence, not just the success of his business idea. But I also bet that there were probably some signs that told Sanders —and any other successful person— ‘You`re going to make it, just hang in there.”

Here are the 5 signs that will tell you whether you`re going to be successful or not:

1. You’re good at the consistency game

I don`t like the fable of the Tortoise and the Hare, and I believe that a restless hare would smash them both, but there`s a reason why that slow tortoise crossed the finish line; It`s called consistency.

Success eventually favors the most consistent, and if you`re not disciplined with the things that make you successful, then your chances to succeed are slimmer than Marlon Brando`s chances of winning the lottery (Marlon Brando is dead, and one of every 175 million tickets wins the lotto).  

Systems and routines (i.e., consistency), predict success, so take a look at your habits. Are they positive? Do you practice them regularly? If the answer to both questions is “Yes,” then sooner or later you`re going to be successful.

“The road to success and the road to failure are almost exactly the same.” – Colin R. Davis

2. You stopped having a toxic relationship with money

Success is no longer a zero-sum game to you; opportunities are everywhere, and there`s room for everybody to make money, including you. When you check the news, the success of other people no longer makes you envious. A celebrity buying a new mansion or a $150 million contract for a LeBron or Federer-like athlete, doesn`t bother you but instead makes you believe there`s plenty of money out there for ambitious, hard-working people like you. When you switch from worrying about not having enough money to having faith that you will make the money you want, then you know you`re on the way to success.

3. You know the right people

Another sign is having a big social network. I read it somewhere that business owners prefer to hire those they know over those who are skilled. Sounds skewed, I know, but it helps a lot if you combine your technical skills with excellent people skills. To want success is more like wishing to enter a nightclub on a busy Friday night. If you know the bouncers or have enough skills to befriend them, you won`t stay long in the line. The same thing happens in business, the more people you know, the easier it will be to find the right job, get proper funding and save time waiting in the line.

Social skills will help you more than you can ever imagine. There`s a guy I used to work with, he`s not that good looking, but he`s the slickest I`ve ever seen. When that guy hit rock bottom, he dropped out of school, bought a one-way ticket to Dubai, became a real estate agent and made his first million before reaching 30. I`ve also read about Michael Bloomberg who used to come to work at six in the morning to distribute coffee and tea to CEOs who come to work early when others are sleeping. For $.99 each, Bloomberg befriended at least a dozen bigwigs who later helped him launch a billion dollar business after he quit Wall Street.

4. You know what makes you tick

The successful people are better than most people at understanding themselves and overcoming —to a greater extent—the five foundations of poverty: sleep, fear, anger, laziness, and procrastination. They have worked on themselves so deeply and have made so many mistakes that they now know their soft spots as well as what motivates them.

Do you know what makes you sad, angry or excited? Do you know when you`re more likely to cheat on a diet or skip a workout? What are your strengths? Can you motivate yourself at will? And how? Having answers to most or, preferably, all of these questions will help you tap into your full potential and sets you on the path to massive success.

“All progress takes place outside the comfort zone.” – Michael John Bobak

5. You have faith

Faith in the yet to be seen, is a huge sign of success. When you think about the future, there should be a positive energy around you that says “I`m gonna make it.” You may not know exactly when you`re going to succeed, but you`re sure it’s a matter of time. This faith, or certainty, comes from having a solid plan – It`s when you know your goal, how you`ll achieve it, and how you`re going to react if things go south and deciding to believe in the unknown

If you think about it, hard work doesn`t always come as the first cause of success. It`s the faith that you`ll achieve the goal that makes you work hard, and thus, achieve the goal. I was reading a book on Michael Jordan by Roland Lazenby —who also wrote Kobe Bryant`s biography— and it stopped me that part of Jordan`s extraordinary success goes to expectations.

He expected every single ball he shot to go in. Jordan used that mindset over and over and didn`t stop when one of his shots was missed. He merely understood that even though nobody wins all the time, believing you`ll win every single time makes you win most of the time, which is enough to get a career like his. The most prominent success sign is the certainty. To believe, and act, as if you`re going to succeed, and then let that belief lead manifest into actions.

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Instead of Always Trying to Be Right, Do This Instead

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A colleague of mine was obnoxious, over eager, and completely out of line. Yet, all of this was overshadowed by the fact he was just plain wrong. If he were to go through with it, it would derail the company by at least 6 months. Yet, arguing with him when he was in this state was of no use. While hitting him over the head with the laptop seemed appealing for a second, it was probably not a great long-term strategy for the business or my laptop.

Galileo once said, “You cannot teach a man anything, you can only help him find it within himself.” This is especially true when it comes to emotionally charged matters and negotiations.

When you are right, you become attached to that idea. It’s so clear, how can they not see it? Yet, your meticulously clear logic might as well be written in braille as your focus intensifies on proving yourself right, instead of reaching an agreement.

Below are 3 ways you can step out of your emotions and help someone find the right answer when money and time are on the line:

1. Separate the Person From the Issue

Imagine if a four-year-old child was adamant about something. You wouldn’t try to reason logically for hours in such a case. When trying to speak through a person’s emotions, often you might have better luck with the four year old.

In order to break this barrier you must stop seeing them as the problem and see the issue at hand. Instead of seeing the other person as stupid or obnoxious, try viewing them as simply lost or misguided. The job now becomes not to prove them wrong, but to guide them to the truth. Adopting this mindset changes your entire approach as you get out of your own emotions and take control of the situation.

“Each of us guard a gate of change that can only be opened from the inside.” – Stephen Covey

2. Show Them A Mirror

Somewhere in between trying to hammer a point, both sides usually forget to listen. No matter the situation, you must make sure that person is never you. Instead, shift the focus from “me vs you” and make it completely about the other person. Really listen and validate their emotions, creating enough trust and safety to begin a real exchange. Make sure they feel heard and slow the conversation down. When you slow the process down, you also calm down.

Remember, it’s not what you say, but how you say it. About 93% of communication is nonverbal, thus maintaining your body language immediately provides an edge. A playful (not childlike or mocking) voice puts someone in a positive frame of mind, where they are more likely to collaborate and problem solve.

Always remember to repeat back the most important three words from their sentence and make them elaborate on whatever they said. The more a person is allowed to speak, the more they feel heard. The more they feel heard, the more open they are to receive new information.

3. Lead With Empathy, Not Sympathy

Taking the time to make sure the other side feels heard and understood does not mean you bend to their will. It does not mean you give up, agree, feel sorry for, or even compromise. Empathy is the ability to recognize another’s perspective and the vocalization of that recognition. This is the difference between empathy and sympathy.

When you can label a person’s emotions in an argument, you seize the chance to discover what is behind those feelings. As you begin to drill down, you gain leverage. This should be done very gracefully. Instead of saying, I think you’re angry and being stubborn, trying saying, It seems like you are feeling frustrated because you really care about this and wish it was moving along quicker.

“Sometimes all a person wants is an empathetic ear; all he or she needs is to talk it out. Just offering a listening ear and an understanding heart for his or her suffering can be a big comfort.” – Roy T. Bennett

Using labels, you mold their feelings into words, moving information from the emotional part of the brain to the rational. Whatever behavior a person may be presenting, there is always an underlying feeling triggering it. Your job is to make the person aware of that feeling. The faster you do this, the faster you eliminate the risk of a complete breakdown in communication.

After their emotions are labeled, asking how or why calibrated questions allow them to solve their problems for you. In order to do this effectively you don’t need to study every type of calibrated question there is, but rather adopt a specific mindset. You are not their opponent, but a guide, leading the lost to the truth. Your truth.

In my case, the presenting behavior of my colleague was an obnoxious know-it-all attitude. However, the underlying emotion was fear of falling behind. Once I was able to stop asking the question, “Why is he doing this to me?” and focus on looking deeper, the conversation took a turn. The conversation was no longer about my ideas versus his, but about him and his fear.

Instead of arguing with me, he spent the rest of the time, essentially, arguing with himself. After helping him dissect his fear in the rational part of the brain, he realized that many of the worst case scenarios were highly improbable and acting hasty might exacerbate things. Most importantly, at the end of the conversation, he said, “I think I made the right choice.”

He believed that the decision was entirely his. He never acknowledged the fact that I was right and announced to everyone the sudden spark of genius that hit him. Yet, at the end of the day you need to ask yourself what is more important to you; being right or doing whatever it takes to win.  

How do you handle conflict? Let us know your tips and advice in the comments below!

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