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10 Ridiculous Beliefs That Are Killing Your Success

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You have big dreams!

But there are too many obstacles in your path, aren’t there?

You aren’t as ‘lucky‘ as those who have made it big.

Do you really believe that?

What if the only things holding you back from success are your limiting beliefs?

What if these ‘limitations‘ are only in your mind?

Our reality is defined by what we believe.

Some of these beliefs are useful, but others are simply shackles that hold us back.

Many of these beliefs are nothing short of ridiculous!

After all, haven’t thousands of people faced the same ‘problems‘, had the same ‘limitations‘, and yet attained outstanding success and built fortunes?

 

Here are 10 ridiculous beliefs that are killing your success…

 

1. “I don’t have enough time”

You are really busy aren’t you?

We all are!

Yet people like Sabeer Bhatia (founder Hotmail), Noah Kagan (founder AppSumo) and many others built startups while holding full time jobs.

Look closely – can’t you find time anywhere?

What activities in your life you can eliminate, outsource, or delegate?

Get rid of TV, movies, social networks, social outings, etc.

What’s more important – your dream or watching reruns of ‘Friends’?

 

2. “I need to wait for the perfect moment”

Someday…

Every 3 out of 10 people I meet want to become an entrepreneur…someday.

Most of the time, someday never comes!

Because there is no perfect moment. You will always face challenges.

But why are you waiting for the perfect moment?

Often, it’s because of the next belief…

 

3. “I only have one chance”

Ever heard of a company called Traf-O-Data?

I guess not. After all, it was a failure.

But everyone has heard of Microsoft!

Here’s the surprise: Traf-O-Data was actually the first company founded by Bill Gates and Paul Allen!

Numerous people have failed several times before finally attaining success.

You have multiple chances to get it right.

Never give up, even if you are like 99 years old!

 

4. “I don’t have enough money”

Of course you don’t! Who does?

Is the business idea you have in mind impossible without a large investment?

Just ask yourself “What business can I start with the limited money that I do have?

An easy way to make revenues with little investment is to offer services like consulting, website maintenance or maybe even ghost-write!

If you have a ‘dream business‘ in mind, you can start that after you have made enough money with your first venture.

Elon Musk, Paypal founder, now has a company that develops spacecraft – SpaceX. He didn’t have the money to build SpaceX 25 years ago.

That didn’t stop him!

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5. “I don’t have an Ivy League education”

Seriously, do you think that will stop you?

An Ivy League degree helps, but is it essential?

Richard Branson was dyslexic, Bill Gates and Steve Jobs were dropouts.

You don’t need a fancy education. You just need the right skills.

 

6. “I don’t have the right skills”

Are planning to build the next rocket to mars or develop a cure for cancer?

If not, how is this a drawback?

Most skills that you need to become a CEO or build a successful company can be learned.

Jeff Walker, one of the titans of internet marketing knew nothing about the field when he started out!

If you don’t have time to learn, team up with a co-founder or just hire people with the right skills.

 

7. “I don’t have connections”

If you don’t have them, what’s stopping you from going out there and building them?

Attend industry events, startup events, join a networking group or simply use Twitter or LinkedIn to build your network.

Is that really difficult in today’s digital world?

 

8. “I have responsibilities”

Yes, you do.

Leo Babauta, founder of Zen Habits, has six kids and he also had a full time job. That didn’t stop him from building one of the biggest blogs in the world!

Remember, ‘The Pursuit of Happyness’? It’s based on a true story. What drove Chris Gardner to succeed and make millions began with the basic need to put a roof over his son’s head.

If you have a family to take care of, isn’t that a bigger reason to work towards greater success?

 

9. “I don’t have enough experience”

Nearly every person you meet will tell you that you don’t have enough experience.

Richard Branson started his first venture when he was 16. If corporate experience was a key factor would his 400 companies exist today?

If you have a great idea and have the means to execute it, how is experience a limitation?

 

10. “I need to be perfect”

I was guilty of this myself!

I spent 6 months developing my first product, which a shamefully low number of companies bought.

Eric Ries, made a similar mistake with his first company IMVU, which inspired him to write ‘The Lean Startup’.

In this bestseller, he advises us to create a ‘minimum viable product‘ for your target customers. Develop the product further based on their feedback rather than on your assumptions.

We want things to be perfect because we are afraid of failure.

Ironically, our quest for perfection is what often causes us to fail!

 Believe that you can!

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” –Henry Ford

If you want to realize your dreams, take a good look at what you believe your limitations are. Question your beliefs and you will discover a whole new world of possibilities!

 

What other beliefs are holding you back from success?

Peter Banerjea is co-founder of SuccessIsWhat, a success coaching firm that helps people achieve their goals faster, by becoming productivity ninjas and building life changing habits. Get his latest free e-book "Productivity Secrets of 7 Billionaires You can put into Action Right Now" here.

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29 Comments

  1. Rohit sharma

    Oct 2, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    Amazing post peter:/
    this beliefs are bad thing which holding us back from being Happy
    and from now i will try to avoid such “limiting belief”/
    thnx bro

    • Peter Banerjea

      Oct 28, 2015 at 5:45 am

      Hey Rohit,
      Yes, its crucial to be mindful of our beliefs. Its not simple to be cognizant of them, but this post might help in identifying the most common ones. Thanks for reading!
      Peter

  2. Alberto

    Aug 3, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    In my case, it was somehow forced upon. I switched from a full-time job to freelancing due to some unacceptable situations at work, and yes, there is that awkward moment before jumping into the open waters, when all your fears come to meet you. For example, I was afraid of not being able to win enough customers for my consulting business. What happened was exactly the opposite: I couldn’t keep up with demand and had to turn down a number of projects. So the next logical step was to be more selective and to raise the rates, and now I’m thinking of hiring more people in order to tackle bigger projects – which is yet another fear that must be overcome. It’s not easy, of course. But the only regret I have is not having taken this step some years ago!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Aug 4, 2015 at 9:24 am

      Great to hear that Alberto!
      Yup – each stage has its challenges and fears and we don’t really know what’s around the corner! But anything which is worth fighting for is tough. It’s great to see that you are meeting your fears head on and pushing your limits. You are an inspiration!
      Cheers,
      Peter

  3. henry kanyike

    Jun 15, 2015 at 5:08 pm

    Thanks peter for such an inspiring article, i call those ”defence mechanisms” people give to justify their weakness, some times i find myself a culprit of giving them too, but with the help of such articles, and books. I kick that inner self conforter and move ahead.
    Thanks peter once again

    • Peter Banerjea

      Jun 16, 2015 at 12:25 pm

      Happens to all of us Henry! All of us need reminders every now and then that our ‘limitations’ are in our head. As the old saying goes, where there is a will, there is a way! Sounds cliche but its true.
      Peter

  4. Susan Suehr

    Jun 10, 2015 at 11:51 am

    Peter what a great article. I think mine is not having the right connections. I love what you said at the end there, is it that difficult in the digital world? Boy, we have really come a long way and making connections is so much easier these days.

    What I really like about your post is how easily you debunk these beliefs.

    What a great list for people to work through. I ignored your pop-up, so now I’ll have to open a new browser so I can sign up for your blog.

    Susan

    • Peter Banerjea

      Jun 11, 2015 at 12:18 pm

      Hi Susan,
      Great to see you here! Yes – having a network is a lot easier than it was 10 years back. We just need to put in some work and keep expanding our networks.
      Cheers!
      Peter

  5. Tor Refsland

    Apr 16, 2015 at 2:44 pm

    Great post, Peter.

    I like your tips, especially #10.

    Perfection is more of a curse than a blessing.

    I know, because I used to be a perfectionist.

    Then I realized that all you do don`t actually have to be perfect, it`s okay if it`s very good 😉

    My tips is to know the acceptable performance, and then give the little extra.

    Example:

    You need to deliver a report to your boss. Acceptable is level 4/10.

    This means that it will be a total overkill to spend 2 extra hours delivering a report that is level 10.

    You should give the little extra to make the report stand out.

    Give the extra 10 minutes delivering the little extra.

    The result? The report has a level 5, still above average and making you stick out from the crowd.

    Spending more time than necessary is a waste of time.

    It`s all about working smart and spending your time in the best way possible.

    Tor

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 17, 2015 at 1:57 am

      Well said Tor! That’s the balance that we need to learn to strike. Having seen you for the past 3 months, I think you are doing a great job of doing that.
      Cheers,
      Peter

  6. Euan

    Apr 15, 2015 at 1:51 pm

    Hey Peter,
    I really enjoyed reading this article. It astounds me that some people continue to find excuses as to why they can’t do or achieve something. I really think one of the biggest contributors is a lack of confidence. Most people are too worried about what others think about them, and lack the will to stand out from the crowd. In order to counteract this problem, I really believe the only solution is to completely disregard what anyone thinks or has to say about you.
    I’d be interested to hear what you think…
    Cheers!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 18, 2015 at 9:24 am

      Hi Euan,
      You are perfectly right! Most of us are worried about what people might think. Since human beings are driven by social proof, that’s hardwired into our DNA.
      However, we need to move beyond our natural tendency to simply follow the herd!
      Yes, it’s crucial to take risks, form independent opinions and take actions on those opinions.

      Having said that, there are people that we should listen to. Listening to our mentors and customers is crucial for success.
      For example, before writing a blog post, I ask myself – what do people want to read about?

      It’s about listening to the right people at the right time.
      It’s not an easy thing to do, but people who can do it well are usually the more successful ones.

      What do you think?
      Cheers!
      Peter

  7. Peggy Nolan

    Apr 13, 2015 at 6:13 pm

    Awesome post Peter and I couldn’t agree more. Our thoughts are what limit us!

    Peggy

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 14, 2015 at 2:49 am

      Thanks Peggy! As someone once said, we need to ‘think different’!

  8. Heather Sanders

    Apr 13, 2015 at 3:52 pm

    Peter, these are “on point”, thank you.

    I gave up TV. Well, we don’t have TV, but I gave up shows I downloaded and watched. It was hard at first, but I committed to 30 days of it, and then, I noticed I didn’t miss them.

    Great article!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 14, 2015 at 2:52 am

      Hi Heather, that’s very commendable!
      I watch very little TV. I prefer to read instead. Maybe I should try out what you did and dump it altogether!

  9. H RAVI KUMAR

    Apr 13, 2015 at 9:50 am

    What to do ? is perhaps a question in the mind of many remain unanswered
    Dream will probably answer this question. How, when, where will follow
    Success is not in waelth accumulation. It is in satisfaction you derive from your performance

  10. Pat

    Apr 12, 2015 at 8:59 am

    Really enjoyed this post Peter! In my opinion, I think all your examples in your post shows all the excuses many of us give, including myself, to make ourselves feel better when we don’t succeed. It’s always easier to blame something else rather than taking personal responsibility for our own success. I was waiting for that perfect moment to leave a comment but in success the perfect moment is always.

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:05 am

      Hey Pat, thanks for your thoughts!
      Yes, its easy to blame our circumstances and our limited resources for our shortcomings, but there are thousands of examples of people who have had far less and done so much more. Once we realize that, an entirely new world of opportunities opens up!
      Peter

  11. abhijit

    Apr 12, 2015 at 1:41 am

    Such a great post..
    Everyone face those problems, examples &
    solutions are also awsome!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:06 am

      Hi Abhijit,
      Glad you liked the examples!
      Cheers,
      Peter

  12. Wayne Caswell

    Apr 11, 2015 at 2:08 pm

    Ridiculous Belief #11 — Sleeping Less leaves more time to get stuff done. This is a very dangerous myth, because sleeping less can actually make your wakeful hours far less productive. It also affects your health and safety (e.g. drowsy driving) and can result in early death. Our bodies have evolved over millions of years to synchronize with the day-night cycle, but artificial lights and personal electronics have disrupted this, and our DNA has not caught up

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:03 am

      Hi Wayne,
      Thanks for adding this! Yes – this is really one of the most common misconceptions I have come across.
      I was guilty of sleeping less than 6 hours when I first started working. No wonder my productivity used to be far less than ideal during those days. Now, this is one of the most important things that I recommend to my clients – get a good nights sleep and see the difference yourself!
      Peter

  13. Anthony Metivier

    Apr 11, 2015 at 11:25 am

    Great post, Peter.

    In a world where so many successful entrepreneurs barely got through high school, education hasn’t got much of a competitive edge. 🙂

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 11, 2015 at 12:24 pm

      Great point Anthony! Now that I look back, I wonder how useful my MBA really is!

  14. Linda

    Apr 11, 2015 at 10:30 am

    Great post Peter! I really like all the examples you have given about Richard Branson, Elon Musk, Bill Gates and even Traf o data. If we examine carefully, the only thing holding us back are our own beliefs.

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 11, 2015 at 1:28 pm

      Thanks Linda! Yes – our beliefs determine what actions we take and consequently what we achieve.
      BTW – the traf o data bit is an interesting fact. I got to know about it quite recently.

      • Stephanie Taylor

        Aug 22, 2015 at 3:19 am

        I totally believe in this! Except for #1 – sometimes you have to let your brain rest with mindless TV or whatever…Many people get overwhelmed, and not taking time out for #1, or getting enough sleep can be success killers. Some of our greatest leaders in business have mental disorders, ADHD, ADD, or whatever. You must take care of yourself first and foremost or nothing else can be accomplished completely.
        Otherwise, a great read! Thanks!

        • Peter Banerjea

          Oct 28, 2015 at 5:43 am

          Hi Stephanie,
          Completely agree that it’s important to get enough sleep and have ‘me time’ too! The point I am trying to make is that everyone has time. If someone really has a dream, he/she has to make sacrifices and find time.
          Thanks for reading!
          Cheers! Peter

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5 Ways You Can Utilize Information Properly and Think More Efficiently

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The mind is a complex system of facets, of which some have yet to be discovered. Still, in spite of all this, there has been enough information to help us gain a rudimentary understanding of it. Thinking is what we all do, although what differs is the efficiency and levels at which we do it.

A lot of things influence the way you think, and most of these factors vary from person to person. However, there are some foundations and basic laws that can help you move from just filtering information and utilizing it to think efficiently.

Below are a few ways you can utilize information properly and think more efficiently:

1. Be quiet and listen

We’re constantly bombarded with information, and the nature of this information determines how we respond. Are you the type of person who doesn’t handle bad or even good news well? If so, learn to take a step back, evaluate things, and look for the way forward. It’s something that stock market traders do all the time, and it works like a charm with practice.

2. Never neglect what your emotions tell you

While a lot of people might not know this, it is true that the conscious thoughts we have only represent a small fraction of the events going on in our heads. At any given point in time, you have the unconscious aspect taking in massive amounts of information, most of which we don’t even know are being processed.

Your brain makes conclusions, good or bad, and starts to generate feelings that rule our emotions in the long-run. So, whenever you have a subtle feeling that points you to a certain course of action or thought, don’t ignore it. At the end of the day, that feeling gets its way somehow, and it’s better you come face-to-face with it and understand its nudges better.

“When you react, you let others control you. When you respond, you are in control.” – Bohdi Sanders

3. Never think while under pressure

Pressure can be good, but a lot of the time, it tends to yield counter-productive results. Regardless of what you’re doing, there are times when you feel pressure. What this pressure does is force you to rely less on the part of your unconsciousness that functions like a trained autopilot system (from all of the training and experiences that you’ve had in the past). Essentially, it forces you to overthink things.

You begin to analyze every aspect of what you’re doing, and you end up using parts of your brain that have no business with the specific activity. So, whenever you take the time out to develop a certain skill, make sure you learn to have faith in your instincts as well.

4. Never focus on one viewpoint

Bluffing is something that professional poker players do almost every time. It’s become an art. However, instead of just bluffing on a whim (which also works at times, by the way), most of them employ a simple trick while playing; they think about how the opposing players would act if they weren’t actually bluffing.

In most cases, the brain tends to search the world for filters in order to confirm the beliefs that it holds. However, the problem with this is that it tends to limit you. At the end of the day, you could be dealing with facts that are just not wrong.

“What’s true of the poker game is true of life. Most people are suckers and don’t realise it.” – Michael Faust

5. What do you love doing?

According to studies, a lot of people tend to have moments of insight and solutions to problems when they’re not even aware of the fact that the problem is being analyzed by the brain. These are usually moments when you take a stroll, listen to your favorite track, brew your favorite coffee, take showers, and read blogs; when you feel relaxed and comfortable.

This is because insightful thoughts are usually generated by an influx of neural activities that occur in the right hemisphere of the brain. The best time to plug into the mind is when you’re stress-free, so make sure that you engage in activities that relax you more often.

How do you go about maneuvering around and making decisions in a world constantly bombarding you with information? Let us know your thoughts and advice below!

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10 Simple Yet Effective Ways to Bring Out the Successful YouTuber in You

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YouTube is a social media platform that has turned many a normal person into a celebrity. With over 1.9 billion logged-in users visiting YouTube every month, it is a hugely popular platform that is being actively used by people who are leveraging its reach and popularity for reputation building, increasing visibility, creating and driving brand reach and last but not the least, earning money.

We keep hearing success stories of YouTube influencers who were nobodies when they started out and today run some of the most popular channels on YouTube and are considered reputed influencers in their niche.

There is absolutely no doubt that if done right, a presence on YouTube can be a massive boost for your brand (if you are a business) and ensure visibility of stratospheric proportions (if you are an individual).

But, at the end of it all, most people want to get onboard YouTube for the money. If your channel is popular enough, it can be a regular source of income for you. So, how do you become a successful YouTuber and establish a popular YouTube channel?

Here are ten great tips to help you on your way:

1. Identify your YouTube Goals

What do you want to achieve out of YouTube? Straight off the block, this is the question you must answer. YouTube can help build your brand, both business and personal, if that’s your goal. It will help improve your reputation and differentiate yourself from the competition. It could also become a revenue generation medium for you.

There are many reasons you might want to start a YouTube channel, and you need to zero in on the right one. Identifying your core goal or set of goals will help you plan your YouTube journey effectively.

2. Identify the Right Niche for Your Channel

Making videos is a resource-intensive activity. It also needs a rare degree of passion to make videos because you are going to put a truckload of effort into it. So, make sure to zero in on the right niche for your channel, meaning the kind of video content you are going to post. If you are an individual, the content must align with your interest, preferences, skill sets and knowledge.

If you are a business, it must align with your business’s services or domain. Think very carefully whether you will be able to keep making videos about a specific topic, subject or domain regularly. This will help you choose the right ‘content type’ for your channel.

3. Trust Yourself

There are some YouTubers who give up because they think they are not cut out to be successful YouTubers. There is absolutely no doubt, you will be wracked by self-doubt when you start, especially if your videos aren’t finding enough traction. The key here is to have confidence in your ability and pursuing your end goal indefatigably.

Don’t give up because of setbacks; some of the top YouTubers started off slowly and built their audience steadily. When it comes to YouTube, it is important to understand that success won’t come easily or quickly.

4. Be Prepared for Criticism

As a YouTuber, you have the ability to showcase your knowledge and skillsets to the world, but this also sets you up for criticism. There are people who are going to like your videos and there are those who won’t and will go a step further and criticize it through the comments section.

And very often, this criticism isn’t constructive and its only aim is to make fun of you and your video. Can you handle this criticism? You must if you want to be a successful YouTuber. Try developing a thick skin and don’t allow even the most virulent criticism to affect you.

5. Respond to Comments

Make it a habit to respond to comments, irrespective of whether these appreciate or criticize your video. Your response tells your viewer that you care and are prepared to listen to their views. This helps you build a relationship with your viewers who can then turn into channel subscribers. Don’t think YouTube videos are one-way traffic wherein you make a video, a viewer sees it and forgets about it. A video is a means of driving interaction and engagement.

6. Follow other YouTubers

You might have some great content ideas for your channel, but you must also keep track of what other YouTubers are doing. There is always a chance that you will get some inspiration from their videos as to how to make a video more interesting, get the lowdown on audience engagement tactics and find technical aspects as well including camera work, audio etc.

7. Attend Meetups

There are plenty of YouTube meetups, conventions and conferences happening all over the world; it is imperative that you attend YouTube events happening in your region. This way you will be able to meet fellow YouTubers in the region, and who knows, you might also meet YouTubers, you follow and want to emulate. If you get the opportunity to discuss notes or get tips, do so. This will help refine your channel content

8. Keep Measuring Your Performance

Start measuring your YouTube performance from the word go. You need to keep track of various performance metrics to know how well you have done. A metric like ‘views’ is super important but so is ‘watch time’. ouTube judges the performance of your channel on various metrics and uses these to rank your videos in search results. There are plenty of tools that can help you track and measure YouTube performance based on various parameters.

9. Don’t Judge Yourself Too Harshly

Don’t set impossible standards for yourself. You are going to make mistakes and learn from them. No video is perfect and don’t think you can start making amazingly successful videos from day one. So, judge yourself, but don’t go overboard. Don’t compare your work with people who have many years of YouTube experience behind them; this would be counterproductive and play havoc with your confidence levels.

10. Keep at It

If you want to bring out the successful YouTuber in you, you must keep at it. Plan a video publishing schedule and stick to it, irrespective of whether your videos are doing well or not. Remember, once you set cadence, you will get better at your videos, and this will drive more engagement.

A successful YouTuber is no different from a successful person. You need to work hard, learn from mistakes, and more importantly learn from others. And you must make use of all this learning to create better and more more engaging videos.

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Why You Should Prefer Emails to Phone Calls if You Want to Be More Productive

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“Email” and “productivity” rarely go together in a sentence. Emails have been declared as one of our largest time wasters. A McKinsey report stated that people spend around 2.6 hours each day responding to emails. That’s 13 hours a week, 52 hours a month and over 60 days a year! Imagine what you could’ve achieved in 60 days!

Emails also negatively affect our cognitive resources. When we think of responding to them while doing other important tasks, it takes up to 23 minutes and 15 seconds after being disrupted to return to full attention to a current task. Imagine how much our cognition and productivity gets fractured when we get distracted over and over again.

Constant emailing also drains us mentally. And at the end of a day, we realize that we’ve achieved nothing worth mentioning. With a phone call, you can sort issues and solve problems quickly, right? In theory, you’re right. But we live in a practical world where many variables come into play.

Below are three variables that make phone calls adversely affect our productivity, and why emails are a better alternative:

1. Wasting Time

Most “five-minute conversations” can quickly turn into 35-minute calls because people ramble about irrelevant aspects. This derailment, several times a day, severely limits the limited time and energy you have for important tasks.

Emails, on the other hand, force writers to streamline their thoughts and stick to the point. Emails can save you plenty of time and energy because you avoid lengthy phone calls. The constant strife to keep your own emails short and crisp also makes you a clearer thinker, which rewards you in other aspects of your life.

“It’s better to waste money, than it is to waste time. You can always get more money.” – Hal Sparks

2. Inaccurate Responses

An unexpected phone call can catch me caught off guard on a topic. I might respond emotionally or give an answer that doesn’t do justice to what I want to share. In a world dominated by panic buttons and fire-fighting, these don’t just stress me out but the caller as well.

Emails give me flexibility to prepare a coherent response and share it when I’m satisfied. If I feel a surge of emotion, I can sleep over the thought and share a better (more rational) response the next day. Many page-long email responses to emails that upset me have turned into a simple “thank you for your email” the next day.

3. Constant Back-and-Forth

Phone calls often are ineffective to solve business problems. Accounting for multiple people, their views, their timelines… One phone call can quickly turn into three.

Emails are quicker and more effective than even conference calls. They let you communicate with multiple people at the same time. You can share information, assign tasks and give status updates while being as specific as possible.

You must be wondering, “What about back-and-forth emails then? Why do we waste precious time on them?” Yes, email has earned a bad rap. But it’s not because of the medium; it’s because we handle it ineffectively.

A Better Approach to Emailing

For most people, constantly refreshing the inbox is part of the daily to-do list. It keeps them busy and gives them a kick of dopamine – the feel-good chemical.

Ironically, this quest to remain busy makes people compromise on taking action that can move them forward. Using emails prudently, rewards you with plenty of energy and mind space to focus on tasks that truly matter.

Here are three steps that benefited me without succumbing to the side effects of email:

1. Checking Them Less

I check emails just 3 times a day – at 9:30 AM, 12:00 PM, and 4:30 PM. If you don’t have the luxury to do the same, you can start by checking your emails for ten minutes at the end of each hour. Most senders expect a response in a little over an hour. So they won’t mind a slightly delayed response. This gives you 45 undisturbed minutes each hour to work on your core tasks.

2. Responding Quickly

People delay responding to emails at least 37% of the time, which turns finding emails and responding to them into additional tasks that cost time and lead to attention residue. Most emails take under two minutes to respond. When you can respond to an email, do so instead of putting it off. This won’t just put your mind at peace, it’ll also reduce the number of “did-you-see-this” follow-up emails in your inbox.

“I do love email. Wherever possible I try to communicate asynchronously. I’m really good at email.” – Elon Musk

3. The If-Then Technique

The If-Then technique helps you address multiple scenarios at once. For instance, an email that says, “Can we meet at 3:00 PM?” becomes, “Can we meet at 3:00 PM? If not, please advise three other times that work for you.”

This technique is also effective when you want to suggest ideas or provide instructions on alternative steps. For example, “Here’s Plan A. If it doesn’t work, connect with [name] and ask for [specific information]. If you don’t get what you need, inform me.”

I’ll admit. This sounds like more work in the current moment, but it drastically cuts down the number of trail mails, confused correspondences, and fire-fighting instances that occur due to miscommunication.

The If-Then formula is the single most effective technique I’ve learned from The 4-Hour Workweek. All of this doesn’t mean that you abandon phone calls, In fact, it’s better to use the phone for sensitive topics or if an email conversation gets dragged. But remain mindful to not let phone calls waste your time.

If you want to pursue a meaningful life, place a premium on your time. Do things that create time for you to pursue meaningful actions and avoid doing what pulls you away from them. In the knowledge economy, this is the key to success.

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4 Questions You Need to Answer Before You Reach the Level of Success You So Desperately Crave

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It’s normal that every person in the world wants to reach success and happiness. Yet, everyone defines both of these things differently. For some, success is making a whole bunch of money while for others this can be to become a good parent. Happiness is defined differently as well. Some people need to own a jet, boat and 3 cars to be truly happy, while others are happy just to be able to wake up in the morning.

It doesn’t matter how you define success and happiness, the truth is, you want to achieve them both. But, to be able to reach success and happiness, you need to answer 4 questions for yourself.

Here are the 4 questions you need to answer before you can achieve success and happiness:

1. Where Are You?

No, not geographically. It doesn’t matter where you live. What matters is where are you in life. Where are you in your way to success and happiness. Let’s say you are lost in the woods. You know exactly where you want to go, but you don’t know where you are. Even a map doesn’t help you with that.

The same is true in life. You may have a goal, but until you truly define where you are in the moment, you can’t move toward this goal. So, step 1 on your way to success and happiness is to define where you are right now.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

2. Where Do You Want to Go?

When you define where you are in life, then you can think of where you want to be.

There’s this saying:  When you don´t know your final destination, you´ll end up somewhere you didn’t want to be. Until you don’t know clearly where you want to be in life and who you want to become, your life doesn’t have a true purpose.

Without purpose, there´s no motivation. Without motivation, there´s no energy. And without energy, you´re not living, you´re just existing. I am sure you know someone who looks like a walking corpse everytime you see them. Do you think this person lives a successful and happy life? Most likely not.

So, step 2 on your way to success and happiness is to clearly define your goal. What do you want to accomplish and who do you want to become?

3. Why Do You Want It?

Okay, you know the basics. You know where you are and where you want to be. But, as Rocky Balboa said, “The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows.” And as you already know, life usually doesn’t go according to your plan. There will be hard times and to overcome those and not give up, you need to know WHY you do what you do.

You need to know WHY you want to accomplish your goals. When you answer this for yourself, you don’t struggle so much to motivate yourself. You will be motivated every minute of every day.

So, as a step 3, sit down and think of WHY you want to accomplish your goals. What’s the big purpose?

“We can change our lives. We can do, have, and be exactly what we wish.” – Tony Robbins

4. How Are You Going to Get There?

And finally, how are you going to get there? What’s your plan? You may know where you are, where you want to be and why you want to do it, but until you truly understand how you are going to get there, there won’t be much success and happiness in your life.

For example, you want to become a bodybuilder. You want to do it because you want to have big muscles and you want to look fit. But, you have no idea how to work out, how to build muscle and how to lose fat. Do you think, you´re going to be happy? No. As Tony Robbins says, “true happiness comes from progress.”

To make progress, you need to have a specific plan; how to get from point A (where you are) to point B (where you want to be). So, as a step 4, sit down and make a specific plan for how you’re going to get what you want in life.

In order to reach success and happiness, there are 4 questions you need to answer for yourself. Without answering them, you´re not going to  get ahead in life, you´re just bouncing around. Success and happiness never come from just bouncing around in life.

Good news is, that these questions are really simple. It won’t take much time to answer them. Just be aware of where you are and where you want to be. Don´t forget to understand why you are pursuing your dream and finally, how are you going to get what you want.

Answer these 4 simple questions today and you won’t struggle with finding success and happiness in life anymore.

Which one of the above 4 questions resonated most with you and why? Share your thoughts and ideas below!

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