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10 Ridiculous Beliefs That Are Killing Your Success

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You have big dreams!

But there are too many obstacles in your path, aren’t there?

You aren’t as ‘lucky‘ as those who have made it big.

Do you really believe that?

What if the only things holding you back from success are your limiting beliefs?

What if these ‘limitations‘ are only in your mind?

Our reality is defined by what we believe.

Some of these beliefs are useful, but others are simply shackles that hold us back.

Many of these beliefs are nothing short of ridiculous!

After all, haven’t thousands of people faced the same ‘problems‘, had the same ‘limitations‘, and yet attained outstanding success and built fortunes?

 

Here are 10 ridiculous beliefs that are killing your success…

 

1. “I don’t have enough time”

You are really busy aren’t you?

We all are!

Yet people like Sabeer Bhatia (founder Hotmail), Noah Kagan (founder AppSumo) and many others built startups while holding full time jobs.

Look closely – can’t you find time anywhere?

What activities in your life you can eliminate, outsource, or delegate?

Get rid of TV, movies, social networks, social outings, etc.

What’s more important – your dream or watching reruns of ‘Friends’?

 

2. “I need to wait for the perfect moment”

Someday…

Every 3 out of 10 people I meet want to become an entrepreneur…someday.

Most of the time, someday never comes!

Because there is no perfect moment. You will always face challenges.

But why are you waiting for the perfect moment?

Often, it’s because of the next belief…

 

3. “I only have one chance”

Ever heard of a company called Traf-O-Data?

I guess not. After all, it was a failure.

But everyone has heard of Microsoft!

Here’s the surprise: Traf-O-Data was actually the first company founded by Bill Gates and Paul Allen!

Numerous people have failed several times before finally attaining success.

You have multiple chances to get it right.

Never give up, even if you are like 99 years old!

 

4. “I don’t have enough money”

Of course you don’t! Who does?

Is the business idea you have in mind impossible without a large investment?

Just ask yourself “What business can I start with the limited money that I do have?

An easy way to make revenues with little investment is to offer services like consulting, website maintenance or maybe even ghost-write!

If you have a ‘dream business‘ in mind, you can start that after you have made enough money with your first venture.

Elon Musk, Paypal founder, now has a company that develops spacecraft – SpaceX. He didn’t have the money to build SpaceX 25 years ago.

That didn’t stop him!

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5. “I don’t have an Ivy League education”

Seriously, do you think that will stop you?

An Ivy League degree helps, but is it essential?

Richard Branson was dyslexic, Bill Gates and Steve Jobs were dropouts.

You don’t need a fancy education. You just need the right skills.

 

6. “I don’t have the right skills”

Are planning to build the next rocket to mars or develop a cure for cancer?

If not, how is this a drawback?

Most skills that you need to become a CEO or build a successful company can be learned.

Jeff Walker, one of the titans of internet marketing knew nothing about the field when he started out!

If you don’t have time to learn, team up with a co-founder or just hire people with the right skills.

 

7. “I don’t have connections”

If you don’t have them, what’s stopping you from going out there and building them?

Attend industry events, startup events, join a networking group or simply use Twitter or LinkedIn to build your network.

Is that really difficult in today’s digital world?

 

8. “I have responsibilities”

Yes, you do.

Leo Babauta, founder of Zen Habits, has six kids and he also had a full time job. That didn’t stop him from building one of the biggest blogs in the world!

Remember, ‘The Pursuit of Happyness’? It’s based on a true story. What drove Chris Gardner to succeed and make millions began with the basic need to put a roof over his son’s head.

If you have a family to take care of, isn’t that a bigger reason to work towards greater success?

 

9. “I don’t have enough experience”

Nearly every person you meet will tell you that you don’t have enough experience.

Richard Branson started his first venture when he was 16. If corporate experience was a key factor would his 400 companies exist today?

If you have a great idea and have the means to execute it, how is experience a limitation?

 

10. “I need to be perfect”

I was guilty of this myself!

I spent 6 months developing my first product, which a shamefully low number of companies bought.

Eric Ries, made a similar mistake with his first company IMVU, which inspired him to write ‘The Lean Startup’.

In this bestseller, he advises us to create a ‘minimum viable product‘ for your target customers. Develop the product further based on their feedback rather than on your assumptions.

We want things to be perfect because we are afraid of failure.

Ironically, our quest for perfection is what often causes us to fail!

 Believe that you can!

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” –Henry Ford

If you want to realize your dreams, take a good look at what you believe your limitations are. Question your beliefs and you will discover a whole new world of possibilities!

 

What other beliefs are holding you back from success?

Peter Banerjea is co-founder of SuccessIsWhat, a success coaching firm that helps people achieve their goals faster, by becoming productivity ninjas and building life changing habits. Get his latest free e-book "Productivity Secrets of 7 Billionaires You can put into Action Right Now" here.

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29 Comments

29 Comments

  1. Rohit sharma

    Oct 2, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    Amazing post peter:/
    this beliefs are bad thing which holding us back from being Happy
    and from now i will try to avoid such “limiting belief”/
    thnx bro

    • Peter Banerjea

      Oct 28, 2015 at 5:45 am

      Hey Rohit,
      Yes, its crucial to be mindful of our beliefs. Its not simple to be cognizant of them, but this post might help in identifying the most common ones. Thanks for reading!
      Peter

  2. Alberto

    Aug 3, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    In my case, it was somehow forced upon. I switched from a full-time job to freelancing due to some unacceptable situations at work, and yes, there is that awkward moment before jumping into the open waters, when all your fears come to meet you. For example, I was afraid of not being able to win enough customers for my consulting business. What happened was exactly the opposite: I couldn’t keep up with demand and had to turn down a number of projects. So the next logical step was to be more selective and to raise the rates, and now I’m thinking of hiring more people in order to tackle bigger projects – which is yet another fear that must be overcome. It’s not easy, of course. But the only regret I have is not having taken this step some years ago!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Aug 4, 2015 at 9:24 am

      Great to hear that Alberto!
      Yup – each stage has its challenges and fears and we don’t really know what’s around the corner! But anything which is worth fighting for is tough. It’s great to see that you are meeting your fears head on and pushing your limits. You are an inspiration!
      Cheers,
      Peter

  3. henry kanyike

    Jun 15, 2015 at 5:08 pm

    Thanks peter for such an inspiring article, i call those ”defence mechanisms” people give to justify their weakness, some times i find myself a culprit of giving them too, but with the help of such articles, and books. I kick that inner self conforter and move ahead.
    Thanks peter once again

    • Peter Banerjea

      Jun 16, 2015 at 12:25 pm

      Happens to all of us Henry! All of us need reminders every now and then that our ‘limitations’ are in our head. As the old saying goes, where there is a will, there is a way! Sounds cliche but its true.
      Peter

  4. Susan Suehr

    Jun 10, 2015 at 11:51 am

    Peter what a great article. I think mine is not having the right connections. I love what you said at the end there, is it that difficult in the digital world? Boy, we have really come a long way and making connections is so much easier these days.

    What I really like about your post is how easily you debunk these beliefs.

    What a great list for people to work through. I ignored your pop-up, so now I’ll have to open a new browser so I can sign up for your blog.

    Susan

    • Peter Banerjea

      Jun 11, 2015 at 12:18 pm

      Hi Susan,
      Great to see you here! Yes – having a network is a lot easier than it was 10 years back. We just need to put in some work and keep expanding our networks.
      Cheers!
      Peter

  5. Tor Refsland

    Apr 16, 2015 at 2:44 pm

    Great post, Peter.

    I like your tips, especially #10.

    Perfection is more of a curse than a blessing.

    I know, because I used to be a perfectionist.

    Then I realized that all you do don`t actually have to be perfect, it`s okay if it`s very good 😉

    My tips is to know the acceptable performance, and then give the little extra.

    Example:

    You need to deliver a report to your boss. Acceptable is level 4/10.

    This means that it will be a total overkill to spend 2 extra hours delivering a report that is level 10.

    You should give the little extra to make the report stand out.

    Give the extra 10 minutes delivering the little extra.

    The result? The report has a level 5, still above average and making you stick out from the crowd.

    Spending more time than necessary is a waste of time.

    It`s all about working smart and spending your time in the best way possible.

    Tor

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 17, 2015 at 1:57 am

      Well said Tor! That’s the balance that we need to learn to strike. Having seen you for the past 3 months, I think you are doing a great job of doing that.
      Cheers,
      Peter

  6. Euan

    Apr 15, 2015 at 1:51 pm

    Hey Peter,
    I really enjoyed reading this article. It astounds me that some people continue to find excuses as to why they can’t do or achieve something. I really think one of the biggest contributors is a lack of confidence. Most people are too worried about what others think about them, and lack the will to stand out from the crowd. In order to counteract this problem, I really believe the only solution is to completely disregard what anyone thinks or has to say about you.
    I’d be interested to hear what you think…
    Cheers!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 18, 2015 at 9:24 am

      Hi Euan,
      You are perfectly right! Most of us are worried about what people might think. Since human beings are driven by social proof, that’s hardwired into our DNA.
      However, we need to move beyond our natural tendency to simply follow the herd!
      Yes, it’s crucial to take risks, form independent opinions and take actions on those opinions.

      Having said that, there are people that we should listen to. Listening to our mentors and customers is crucial for success.
      For example, before writing a blog post, I ask myself – what do people want to read about?

      It’s about listening to the right people at the right time.
      It’s not an easy thing to do, but people who can do it well are usually the more successful ones.

      What do you think?
      Cheers!
      Peter

  7. Peggy Nolan

    Apr 13, 2015 at 6:13 pm

    Awesome post Peter and I couldn’t agree more. Our thoughts are what limit us!

    Peggy

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 14, 2015 at 2:49 am

      Thanks Peggy! As someone once said, we need to ‘think different’!

  8. Heather Sanders

    Apr 13, 2015 at 3:52 pm

    Peter, these are “on point”, thank you.

    I gave up TV. Well, we don’t have TV, but I gave up shows I downloaded and watched. It was hard at first, but I committed to 30 days of it, and then, I noticed I didn’t miss them.

    Great article!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 14, 2015 at 2:52 am

      Hi Heather, that’s very commendable!
      I watch very little TV. I prefer to read instead. Maybe I should try out what you did and dump it altogether!

  9. H RAVI KUMAR

    Apr 13, 2015 at 9:50 am

    What to do ? is perhaps a question in the mind of many remain unanswered
    Dream will probably answer this question. How, when, where will follow
    Success is not in waelth accumulation. It is in satisfaction you derive from your performance

  10. Pat

    Apr 12, 2015 at 8:59 am

    Really enjoyed this post Peter! In my opinion, I think all your examples in your post shows all the excuses many of us give, including myself, to make ourselves feel better when we don’t succeed. It’s always easier to blame something else rather than taking personal responsibility for our own success. I was waiting for that perfect moment to leave a comment but in success the perfect moment is always.

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:05 am

      Hey Pat, thanks for your thoughts!
      Yes, its easy to blame our circumstances and our limited resources for our shortcomings, but there are thousands of examples of people who have had far less and done so much more. Once we realize that, an entirely new world of opportunities opens up!
      Peter

  11. abhijit

    Apr 12, 2015 at 1:41 am

    Such a great post..
    Everyone face those problems, examples &
    solutions are also awsome!

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:06 am

      Hi Abhijit,
      Glad you liked the examples!
      Cheers,
      Peter

  12. Wayne Caswell

    Apr 11, 2015 at 2:08 pm

    Ridiculous Belief #11 — Sleeping Less leaves more time to get stuff done. This is a very dangerous myth, because sleeping less can actually make your wakeful hours far less productive. It also affects your health and safety (e.g. drowsy driving) and can result in early death. Our bodies have evolved over millions of years to synchronize with the day-night cycle, but artificial lights and personal electronics have disrupted this, and our DNA has not caught up

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:03 am

      Hi Wayne,
      Thanks for adding this! Yes – this is really one of the most common misconceptions I have come across.
      I was guilty of sleeping less than 6 hours when I first started working. No wonder my productivity used to be far less than ideal during those days. Now, this is one of the most important things that I recommend to my clients – get a good nights sleep and see the difference yourself!
      Peter

  13. Anthony Metivier

    Apr 11, 2015 at 11:25 am

    Great post, Peter.

    In a world where so many successful entrepreneurs barely got through high school, education hasn’t got much of a competitive edge. 🙂

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 11, 2015 at 12:24 pm

      Great point Anthony! Now that I look back, I wonder how useful my MBA really is!

  14. Linda

    Apr 11, 2015 at 10:30 am

    Great post Peter! I really like all the examples you have given about Richard Branson, Elon Musk, Bill Gates and even Traf o data. If we examine carefully, the only thing holding us back are our own beliefs.

    • Peter Banerjea

      Apr 11, 2015 at 1:28 pm

      Thanks Linda! Yes – our beliefs determine what actions we take and consequently what we achieve.
      BTW – the traf o data bit is an interesting fact. I got to know about it quite recently.

      • Stephanie Taylor

        Aug 22, 2015 at 3:19 am

        I totally believe in this! Except for #1 – sometimes you have to let your brain rest with mindless TV or whatever…Many people get overwhelmed, and not taking time out for #1, or getting enough sleep can be success killers. Some of our greatest leaders in business have mental disorders, ADHD, ADD, or whatever. You must take care of yourself first and foremost or nothing else can be accomplished completely.
        Otherwise, a great read! Thanks!

        • Peter Banerjea

          Oct 28, 2015 at 5:43 am

          Hi Stephanie,
          Completely agree that it’s important to get enough sleep and have ‘me time’ too! The point I am trying to make is that everyone has time. If someone really has a dream, he/she has to make sacrifices and find time.
          Thanks for reading!
          Cheers! Peter

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3 Ways to Optimize Your Life for Success

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Welcome to the 21st Century! The era of the Internet and computers, lack of focus and superficiality. I know it sounds scary, maybe a little more exaggerated, but it’s true. We live in a world of short posts and 3-minute videos. We barely engage in deep learning, deep thinking, and deep focus to produce iPhone-level products or services. So, the majority of us are actually a failure, thousands of miles away from achieving our life goals and business visions. How do we turn things around? We need to optimize our lives.

Here are 3 tried and tested tips that will help optimize your life for success:

1. Upgrade your sleep

When I started my freelance writing career—about seven years ago—I was passionate and excited at the beginning. I’d fill my To-Do list with 6-10 items, worked until 12 am, set my alarm to go off at 3 am, and had my running shoes close to my bed before I went to sleep. However, I barely accomplished anything. I usually became weak and bored before noon.

I noticed that I was putting a huge strain on myself. I was sleep deprived, which is the primary reason why I didn’t have the energy and the drive to accomplish my tasks. Many studies have shown that sleep-deprivation affects productivity.

As soon as I began increasing my sleeping time from 4 hours to 7 hours, my whole life changed. I started producing a lot and earning a lot more than before while also improving my health. With more sleep, I get the emotional energy and willpower I need to read, learn, and optimize my career.

“By helping us keep the world in perspective, sleep gives us a chance to refocus on the essence of who we are. And in that place of connection, it is easier for the fears and concerns of the world to drop away.” – Arianna Huffington

2. Read every day

I get it. You’re in the middle-class struggling to survive. You simply have enough to deal with. Reading? That’s not included on your to-do list. Well, if that’s you, then you’re not alone. The global literacy rates are at an all-time high at 84 percent, which means people don’t read as much anymore.

We already have enough on our plates. In fact, a study by the National Endowment for the Arts has found that the reading culture among American adults has drastically declined. That’s a big issue in our world.

Nothing can prevent you from reading, not even your plate that’s chock-full of other life’s priorities. If you want to produce more and impact the world around you, you’ve got to read more and learn more.

Take a look at the visionaries and business titans in our world. All of them are avid readers and avid learners. Bill Gates is a bibliophile and Phil Knight, the founder of Nike, reveres books. In fact, Knight customized his library to the extent that, before you enter into his library, you have to take off your shoes and bow.

So, what would you do next? Take Roald Dahl’s advice, captured in this beautiful line of the poem: “So please, oh please, we beg, we pray / go throw your TV set away / and in its place, you can install / a lovely bookshelf on the wall.”

3. Use Pomodoro to time yourself

You can’t go far in life if you can’t stay totally focused on a task. If you want to achieve your goals, you have got to stay laser-focused on a single task before jumping on to another. Why? Because goals are not achieved in one session, they’re achieved in a series of tasks, one after the other.

To install the focus habit in your system; therefore, you need to use a time-management kind of “system” that will keep you firm and attentive on a specific project. Pomodoro is that time-management tool that will help you stay focused.

It’s an excellent app that lets you set a timer for a particular task. You can set it for 30, 60, or 90 minutes and stop working when it goes off. I use it all the time, and I can’t imagine my work life without it.

“I know when I stay focused, good things will undoubtedly happen.” – Marc Trestman

Optimizing your life for more power, passion, and productivity is not about working hard late at night or running multiple projects at a time. It’s about maintaining your health and recharging your energy (having a deep, quality sleep), updating your knowledge (by reading every day), and staying focused on a project—until you accomplished it (by using Pomodoro technique to boost your concentration).

Of course, developing these sets of habits is not easy. You’ll fail and get frustrated, but as the productivity guru Robin Sharma beautifully puts it, “all changes are hard at first, messy at the middle, and beautiful at the end.”

Which one of these three ways to optimize your life resonated most with you and why? Share your thoughts below!

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If You Want Your Business to Grow, You Need to Increase Your Capacity in the Following 4 Areas

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Every entrepreneur must come face to face with the reality that there is only a limited amount of time, money, and people that you can use within your current position. The question is how do we increase or maximize the things that we find limiting?

As we walk through our hectic and often over packed ten, twelve, or fourteen hour work days, one of the questions that we should be asking is “What can I do to get more, to do more?” Instead, we just put our heads down and plow through the ever growing mountain of work. We are limited by capacity.

Webster’s dictionary defines capacity as “the maximum amount that something can contain.” As an entrepreneur, we have to be a little more creative than the average person and find ways to increase our capacity.

Below, we’ll identify the four areas where we need more capacity and ways to get more with less:

1. Time

Every human on this planet is granted twenty-four hours a day. That is it. Your capacity is a total of twenty-four hours. Within that amount of time you must manage several different demands. Our goal is to buy back our time, when we can, and operate at peak performance when we are accomplishing our daily task list.

First, without staying in performance shape, you will lose the ability to stay at optimal performance levels. Our bodies are truly a machine with an amazing capacity, but when it is abused by lack of sleep, improper nutrition, and lack of exercise, you are reducing the capacity at which you are able to work and function. The closer you are to peak performance, the more you are able to accomplish in a shorter amount of time.

Second is our mental condition. Here is what my experience has taught me. If I am mentally rested, I can think and make decisions faster because I can reason more quickly in addition to understanding the circumstances and information at an extremely fast pace. 

When your brain is healthy, it becomes easier to absorb and process information at a lightning fast rate. Taking the time to allow your brain to rest will give it the ability to function at peak performance.

Third is our ability to train and delegate. So often, entrepreneurs are control freaks. No one can do it as good, as fast, or with the same passion as they can. While that may be true in most cases, you are only one person with twenty-four hours in a day. 

You’ve got to delegate and accept people’s help. If you add one person that’s willing to give you eight hours of work a day, you have now bought back hours in your day to focus on activities that will generate more income and grow your business. Why wouldn’t you want to add more hours to your day by delegating out the appropriate task to qualified individuals?

“Lack of direction, not lack of time, is the problem. We all have twenty-four hour days.” – Zig Ziglar

2. Money

Money tends to be a sensitive topic. We all have beliefs that were formed through our childhood on the concept of money. With many different views and beliefs on this topic, let’s just focus on the fact that money is a tool that will either help grow the company or a tool that limits a company’s growth.

It is always amazing that the faster a company grows, the greater the challenge of money becomes, and this could potentially cause the company to implode on its own success. How do we then increase the capacity and have more money available to keep the company healthy?

Here are a couple of things to watch out for: 

  • Keep an eye on your budget and get accurate figures. 
  • Look at your Accounts Receivables. If they get too long, they could cause significant cash flow issues. 
  • Find investment opportunities. There are many private investors that are often willing to invest in companies that have true growth with solid foundations. 
  • Look at additional profit generators, products, or services that fit within your current business model. 

Each of these are ways to increase the capacity that money contributes to the growth of your business.

3. Space and Supply

I will never forget exactly where I was standing when I had a manufacture call and tell me they were unable to supply anymore products. They had sold us everything they had, and they weren’t going to have anything available to sell for at least another six months. At that time, we were selling customer printed t-shirts and had tens of thousands of orders that we needed to fulfill within the next thirty days.

Space and Supply are tied closely together. Space is often associated with the production. Do you have a space large enough to meet the demands of the supply? If production can only create 1,000 products a day and buyers need 5,000 a day, there is a conflict. 

A business needs to understand that challenge, and there are only 3 solutions to this problem: The business figures out how to increase production within the current workable hours, adds more workable hours with the equipment and space, or adds more equipment and space to increase production.

Space and supplies are assets that can be used towards the business advantage. Here are a few questions to ask when making decisions based on space and supply. 

  • Evaluate your supply channel. Are they able to maintain a solid supply of your raw product materials to match your growth as a company? 
  • Are there back up supply manufactures that can create a safety net for your raw products? 
  • Evaluate the amount of space you have available along with the time the space is usable. Can you run a second or third shift with the current space and equipment?

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

4. People

Your employees are likely going to be the most important way to create more capacity. We talked briefly about delegating to qualified individuals to increase capacity around your own personal time. The next phase is to create more capacity by adding additional, trained people. 

You need to create leaders of leaders instead of you being the leader of followers. Don’t miss this because the greatest of all companies focuses on increasing their capacity by training leaders of leaders and not just a loyal following.

Entrepreneurs tend to be a lonely bunch of souls. Too often, we are misunderstood and looked at with slight amount of annoyance. Others just don’t always know how to take someone that is passionately thinking outside the box. 

People skills are a must in order to have more than just yourself work to achieve that dream. As an entrepreneur, develop the social skills to work with individuals that are different than yourself.  

Here is a 3 step plan to have great capacity with people as your allies:

  1. Start by learning how to delegate your own tasks to buy back your time. Identify the tasks that are easiest to delegate and document how you do them. This will give you a specific job description, set achievable goals, and create a daily action plan that is now something that is teachable. 
  2. Use this system and apply it to the other things you are currently doing. I would suggest building out an organization chart and dividing the different tasks you do within the company. Then create a plan that will allow you to hire the right person and move you onto the next area in the organization that you will systematize. 
  3. Finally, create the culture. Culture is like a child, it will grow whether or not you pay attention to it. So be intentional. Learn what it takes to build a culture that attracts the employees that want to be there and grow with the company. 

Each of these four areas has an incredible amount of potential to increase your capacity, and allow your business to grow. Don’t attempt to tackle everything at once. Identify just one area that you will commit to grow within the next three to six months. Take action and implement. 

What is your next step? Share with us below!

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The Importance of Failure: Why We Should Fail Forward

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What Is failing forward? Will Smith said it best in a viral Instagram video that engaged the world. “You’ve gotta take a shot, you have to live at the edge of your capabilities. You gotta live where you’re almost certain you’re going to fail. Failure actually helps you to recognize the areas where you need to evolve. So fail early, fail often, fail forward.”

Failing forward is about using leverage on your mistakes and making a realistic assessment of the risks involved. It’s your ability to live with the downside, control your emotions and experiment with new approaches. When we fail forward, we need to look at the reason why we fail and understand that it’s all part of the process of achievement.

Here are 4 Reasons Why We Fail:

1. We Are Too Distracted

Distractions are everywhere. They can take us off course and could make it impossible to keep our mind on our goal or purpose. It’s important to be selective, strategic and supportive in our distractions. We all control certain aspects of our day, so be selective and prioritise tasks that are in line with your goals.

We should be strategic by understanding when we work best. Personally, I write more efficiently in the early mornings and late evenings. So that’s what I stick to. Try different things and see when you are least distracted. You’ll then be able to be supportive and generous with your time. Being supportive of others costs us little and drives our own success whilst boosting our health and happiness.

2. Lack of Self Belief

Lack of self belief runs differently from person to person. Our experiences, childhood history, genes, culture and life circumstances play a part in our self confidence. The truth is, we can’t alter the experiences that our past has given us. What we can do though, is change our thoughts to gain more belief in ourselves. Ways to increase our self-belief is to find out more about ourselves. We can do this by taking care of ourselves physically and emotionally. Giving ourselves a healthy support system and understanding our emotions are just a couple of ways to practice self-belief.

3. Fear of Failure

Failure often induces fear. When we fear failure, we allow ourselves to stop doing the things that can help us achieve our goals, help us move forward and open up possibilities we never thought were possible. We should have faith in ourselves and start to shift our inner dialogue from ‘not good enough’ to ‘more than enough’. If our inner critic takes the lead on self talk, then it’s more than likely we aren’t feeling good enough. It’s important to surround ourselves with positive people and positive thoughts.

4. Procrastination

Procrastination is a common reason for failure. It’s delaying or putting off a task or action to attend to at a later time. Procrastination is essentially giving in, to feel good. We prefer avoiding negative emotions and stressful tasks, which are the very things we procrastinate about. The first step to overcoming procrastination is recognising we do it.

We then need to understand why we do it and use appropriate strategies to prevent it from happening. We may not know that we are procrastinating and this can be damaging to reaching our full potential. With a solid understanding, we can get to the core of our reasons and make positive changes to fail forward.

Now that you know why we fail, here are the 3 ways you can fail forward:

1. Take Risks

When risks are taken, we generally overestimate the chances of something going wrong. What we focus on tends to magnify in our imagination and in return, causes us to misjudge an outcome of a situation. The reality is, the likelihood is often a far better return than we imagine it out to be. To take risks, we should not be afraid of failure.

2. Understanding Failure Should Be Your Motivation

It may sound comical but, be happy when you fail. We’ve been taught to believe that when we fail it’s because of bad attempts, bad judgment and bad luck at improving our lives. For example, we link failure with the colour red (to stop) and success with the colour green (to keep going). In reality, we are stronger and more courageous when we fail. It’s a sign of improvement, so we should recognise that failure is growth and if we’re not making mistakes, we are not really trying. Use failure as motivation and keep going.

3. Perseverance

Perseverance is the ability to recover from failure. Your chances of success is also dependent on your persistence and your willingness to persevere. You have two options when you fail: Become self-defeated or become resilient and encouraged. Perseverance requires a goal, a passion and patience. It’s important to set your own pace when persevering and not comparing your failures to others. In doing this, when we fail forward, we are more in tune with ourselves and more controlled with new approaches.

“Recognize that you will spend much of your life making mistakes. If you can take action and keep making mistakes, you gain experience.” – John C. Maxwell

Think of it this way. When we’re at the gym pushing ourselves in the weight room, the trainer would yell “One more rep!”. Our trainer wants us to succeed, but also wants us to fail. They want us to be uncomfortable to the point where our muscles fatigue. Why? Because of muscle adaptation. That’s where our muscle growth comes from. It’s the ability to learn how to get comfortable being uncomfortable. This concept doesn’t just apply physically within our muscles, it applies mentally and in our minds. In understanding this perspective, we can fail forward with more awareness and are in a better position to achieve success.

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The Most Overlooked Element of Success (Spoiler Alert – It’s Not Mindset Nor Strategy)

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It’s always important to have someone show you “the ropes” in the beginning stages in your business. When I started my own business venture two years ago, I hired numerous coaches and mentors across MULTIPLE disciplines to work on getting my business off the ground. Every coach with a different strategy and mindset technique to share, leaving me feeling like there’s no end to chasing for the “next best thing.”

Someone is always trying to give you their “Magic Pill”

You know the moment when you are desperate to start making money (and stop your savings from bleeding)? You click on a link that leads you to a sales page, that tells you the coach has “the best kept secret” or “the exact 7-step formula to start your business” – those of you who’ve been there know what I’m talking about.

You see, I had a weakness for that kind of copywriting. My heart would scream “Take my money and share your secret already!” Through pushing my own boundaries, implementing different strategies, and months after months of falling left, right and sideways – I realised strategy and mindset alone is not enough to get your career or business off the ground. You need the right conditions.

You can’t copy and paste success or failure. You need to have the right environment in order to gain traction and take things to the next level. I’m not referring to external conditions – because  the best conditions that cannot be “ctrl+copy+pasted” from someone else’s success formula are allowing yourself to fail so many times that you become thick-skinned, so you no longer feel self conscious.

“Dreams don’t work unless you do.”– John C. Maxwell

Imagine you’re trying to grow a beautiful garden of flowers. You’ve got all the items: landscaping tools, the instructions, the commitment and all the love and attention you can give to your garden. But wait a minute – you need the right conditions to be met. That’s when you need to look into temperature, amount of water, sunlight, pH of the soil, and pest control to make sure your flowers can flourish and blossom.

The same goes with your career and business. You need to have the right conditions in place, and create the perfect environment for yourself and your work to thrive. That’s why we need to take things one step further to close the gap that acts as a bridge from where you are to where you need to be.

We need to open up the dialogue to talk about how we can get more support as entrepreneurs, because it’s not written in the “Rulebook of Success.” We need to talk about the areas we may have overlooked that are just as important as Mindset & Strategy.

It’s Time To Fill In The Gaps

I’m telling you, just the realisation itself blew my mind. Because having a thriving business is no longer just about following someone else’s “7-Step Formula” or a “blueprint” and hope that it works for you. It always makes me chuckle when people use that word, no one’s business is identical in my personal opinion. Neither is it about journaling your butt off.

In more practical terms, building your business upon the right conditions is about these following things, and so much more. It’s about not needing validation from other people but yourself. It’s about finding the right support community. It’s about going through the process of deep, inner work. It’s about fitting your life and business and fun and family into your schedule.

It’s about confronting all of your fears and having difficult conversations that you’ve put aside. It’s about cultivating experience and building thick skin from your failures (so, you can not fail even if you used someone else’s fool-proof method). Building a successful business is shedding your old identity and building a new one – all the while finding new people along the way that support your vision.

“There is no elevator to success, you have to take the stairs.” – Zig Ziglar

Shower Love Onto Every Part of Your Business

Your success is built upon all the other things that happen in between and along the journey for every self-made person that no one told you about. Every element of non-business related strategy is a piece of the puzzle that shouldn’t be overlooked. That’s why I’m calling the intentional business owners and entrepreneurs forward – to focus your energy on plowing through every inch of your soil and give attention to things that are also “behind the scenes” – so that you can build a thriving empire upon a rich, fertilized foundation.

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