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10 Ridiculous Beliefs That Are Killing Your Success

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You have big dreams!

But there are too many obstacles in your path, aren’t there?

You aren’t as ‘lucky‘ as those who have made it big.

Do you really believe that?

What if the only things holding you back from success are your limiting beliefs?

What if these ‘limitations‘ are only in your mind?

Our reality is defined by what we believe.

Some of these beliefs are useful, but others are simply shackles that hold us back.

Many of these beliefs are nothing short of ridiculous!

After all, haven’t thousands of people faced the same ‘problems‘, had the same ‘limitations‘, and yet attained outstanding success and built fortunes?

 

Here are 10 ridiculous beliefs that are killing your success…

 

1. “I don’t have enough time”

You are really busy aren’t you?

We all are!

Yet people like Sabeer Bhatia (founder Hotmail), Noah Kagan (founder AppSumo) and many others built startups while holding full time jobs.

Look closely – can’t you find time anywhere?

What activities in your life you can eliminate, outsource, or delegate?

Get rid of TV, movies, social networks, social outings, etc.

What’s more important – your dream or watching reruns of ‘Friends’?

 

2. “I need to wait for the perfect moment”

Someday…

Every 3 out of 10 people I meet want to become an entrepreneur…someday.

Most of the time, someday never comes!

Because there is no perfect moment. You will always face challenges.

But why are you waiting for the perfect moment?

Often, it’s because of the next belief…

 

3. “I only have one chance”

Ever heard of a company called Traf-O-Data?

I guess not. After all, it was a failure.

But everyone has heard of Microsoft!

Here’s the surprise: Traf-O-Data was actually the first company founded by Bill Gates and Paul Allen!

Numerous people have failed several times before finally attaining success.

You have multiple chances to get it right.

Never give up, even if you are like 99 years old!

 

4. “I don’t have enough money”

Of course you don’t! Who does?

Is the business idea you have in mind impossible without a large investment?

Just ask yourself “What business can I start with the limited money that I do have?

An easy way to make revenues with little investment is to offer services like consulting, website maintenance or maybe even ghost-write!

If you have a ‘dream business‘ in mind, you can start that after you have made enough money with your first venture.

Elon Musk, Paypal founder, now has a company that develops spacecraft – SpaceX. He didn’t have the money to build SpaceX 25 years ago.

That didn’t stop him!

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5. “I don’t have an Ivy League education”

Seriously, do you think that will stop you?

An Ivy League degree helps, but is it essential?

Richard Branson was dyslexic, Bill Gates and Steve Jobs were dropouts.

You don’t need a fancy education. You just need the right skills.

 

6. “I don’t have the right skills”

Are planning to build the next rocket to mars or develop a cure for cancer?

If not, how is this a drawback?

Most skills that you need to become a CEO or build a successful company can be learned.

Jeff Walker, one of the titans of internet marketing knew nothing about the field when he started out!

If you don’t have time to learn, team up with a co-founder or just hire people with the right skills.

 

7. “I don’t have connections”

If you don’t have them, what’s stopping you from going out there and building them?

Attend industry events, startup events, join a networking group or simply use Twitter or LinkedIn to build your network.

Is that really difficult in today’s digital world?

 

8. “I have responsibilities”

Yes, you do.

Leo Babauta, founder of Zen Habits, has six kids and he also had a full time job. That didn’t stop him from building one of the biggest blogs in the world!

Remember, ‘The Pursuit of Happyness’? It’s based on a true story. What drove Chris Gardner to succeed and make millions began with the basic need to put a roof over his son’s head.

If you have a family to take care of, isn’t that a bigger reason to work towards greater success?

 

9. “I don’t have enough experience”

Nearly every person you meet will tell you that you don’t have enough experience.

Richard Branson started his first venture when he was 16. If corporate experience was a key factor would his 400 companies exist today?

If you have a great idea and have the means to execute it, how is experience a limitation?

 

10. “I need to be perfect”

I was guilty of this myself!

I spent 6 months developing my first product, which a shamefully low number of companies bought.

Eric Ries, made a similar mistake with his first company IMVU, which inspired him to write ‘The Lean Startup’.

In this bestseller, he advises us to create a ‘minimum viable product‘ for your target customers. Develop the product further based on their feedback rather than on your assumptions.

We want things to be perfect because we are afraid of failure.

Ironically, our quest for perfection is what often causes us to fail!

 Believe that you can!

“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t – you’re right.” –Henry Ford

If you want to realize your dreams, take a good look at what you believe your limitations are. Question your beliefs and you will discover a whole new world of possibilities!

 

What other beliefs are holding you back from success?

Peter Banerjea is co-founder of SuccessIsWhat, a success coaching firm that helps people achieve their goals faster, by becoming productivity ninjas and building life changing habits. Get his latest free e-book "Productivity Secrets of 7 Billionaires You can put into Action Right Now" here.

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    Rohit sharma

    Oct 2, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    Amazing post peter:/
    this beliefs are bad thing which holding us back from being Happy
    and from now i will try to avoid such “limiting belief”/
    thnx bro

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      Peter Banerjea

      Oct 28, 2015 at 5:45 am

      Hey Rohit,
      Yes, its crucial to be mindful of our beliefs. Its not simple to be cognizant of them, but this post might help in identifying the most common ones. Thanks for reading!
      Peter

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    Alberto

    Aug 3, 2015 at 4:15 pm

    In my case, it was somehow forced upon. I switched from a full-time job to freelancing due to some unacceptable situations at work, and yes, there is that awkward moment before jumping into the open waters, when all your fears come to meet you. For example, I was afraid of not being able to win enough customers for my consulting business. What happened was exactly the opposite: I couldn’t keep up with demand and had to turn down a number of projects. So the next logical step was to be more selective and to raise the rates, and now I’m thinking of hiring more people in order to tackle bigger projects – which is yet another fear that must be overcome. It’s not easy, of course. But the only regret I have is not having taken this step some years ago!

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      Peter Banerjea

      Aug 4, 2015 at 9:24 am

      Great to hear that Alberto!
      Yup – each stage has its challenges and fears and we don’t really know what’s around the corner! But anything which is worth fighting for is tough. It’s great to see that you are meeting your fears head on and pushing your limits. You are an inspiration!
      Cheers,
      Peter

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    henry kanyike

    Jun 15, 2015 at 5:08 pm

    Thanks peter for such an inspiring article, i call those ”defence mechanisms” people give to justify their weakness, some times i find myself a culprit of giving them too, but with the help of such articles, and books. I kick that inner self conforter and move ahead.
    Thanks peter once again

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      Peter Banerjea

      Jun 16, 2015 at 12:25 pm

      Happens to all of us Henry! All of us need reminders every now and then that our ‘limitations’ are in our head. As the old saying goes, where there is a will, there is a way! Sounds cliche but its true.
      Peter

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    Susan Suehr

    Jun 10, 2015 at 11:51 am

    Peter what a great article. I think mine is not having the right connections. I love what you said at the end there, is it that difficult in the digital world? Boy, we have really come a long way and making connections is so much easier these days.

    What I really like about your post is how easily you debunk these beliefs.

    What a great list for people to work through. I ignored your pop-up, so now I’ll have to open a new browser so I can sign up for your blog.

    Susan

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      Peter Banerjea

      Jun 11, 2015 at 12:18 pm

      Hi Susan,
      Great to see you here! Yes – having a network is a lot easier than it was 10 years back. We just need to put in some work and keep expanding our networks.
      Cheers!
      Peter

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    Tor Refsland

    Apr 16, 2015 at 2:44 pm

    Great post, Peter.

    I like your tips, especially #10.

    Perfection is more of a curse than a blessing.

    I know, because I used to be a perfectionist.

    Then I realized that all you do don`t actually have to be perfect, it`s okay if it`s very good 😉

    My tips is to know the acceptable performance, and then give the little extra.

    Example:

    You need to deliver a report to your boss. Acceptable is level 4/10.

    This means that it will be a total overkill to spend 2 extra hours delivering a report that is level 10.

    You should give the little extra to make the report stand out.

    Give the extra 10 minutes delivering the little extra.

    The result? The report has a level 5, still above average and making you stick out from the crowd.

    Spending more time than necessary is a waste of time.

    It`s all about working smart and spending your time in the best way possible.

    Tor

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 17, 2015 at 1:57 am

      Well said Tor! That’s the balance that we need to learn to strike. Having seen you for the past 3 months, I think you are doing a great job of doing that.
      Cheers,
      Peter

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    Euan

    Apr 15, 2015 at 1:51 pm

    Hey Peter,
    I really enjoyed reading this article. It astounds me that some people continue to find excuses as to why they can’t do or achieve something. I really think one of the biggest contributors is a lack of confidence. Most people are too worried about what others think about them, and lack the will to stand out from the crowd. In order to counteract this problem, I really believe the only solution is to completely disregard what anyone thinks or has to say about you.
    I’d be interested to hear what you think…
    Cheers!

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 18, 2015 at 9:24 am

      Hi Euan,
      You are perfectly right! Most of us are worried about what people might think. Since human beings are driven by social proof, that’s hardwired into our DNA.
      However, we need to move beyond our natural tendency to simply follow the herd!
      Yes, it’s crucial to take risks, form independent opinions and take actions on those opinions.

      Having said that, there are people that we should listen to. Listening to our mentors and customers is crucial for success.
      For example, before writing a blog post, I ask myself – what do people want to read about?

      It’s about listening to the right people at the right time.
      It’s not an easy thing to do, but people who can do it well are usually the more successful ones.

      What do you think?
      Cheers!
      Peter

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    Peggy Nolan

    Apr 13, 2015 at 6:13 pm

    Awesome post Peter and I couldn’t agree more. Our thoughts are what limit us!

    Peggy

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 14, 2015 at 2:49 am

      Thanks Peggy! As someone once said, we need to ‘think different’!

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    Heather Sanders

    Apr 13, 2015 at 3:52 pm

    Peter, these are “on point”, thank you.

    I gave up TV. Well, we don’t have TV, but I gave up shows I downloaded and watched. It was hard at first, but I committed to 30 days of it, and then, I noticed I didn’t miss them.

    Great article!

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 14, 2015 at 2:52 am

      Hi Heather, that’s very commendable!
      I watch very little TV. I prefer to read instead. Maybe I should try out what you did and dump it altogether!

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    H RAVI KUMAR

    Apr 13, 2015 at 9:50 am

    What to do ? is perhaps a question in the mind of many remain unanswered
    Dream will probably answer this question. How, when, where will follow
    Success is not in waelth accumulation. It is in satisfaction you derive from your performance

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    Pat

    Apr 12, 2015 at 8:59 am

    Really enjoyed this post Peter! In my opinion, I think all your examples in your post shows all the excuses many of us give, including myself, to make ourselves feel better when we don’t succeed. It’s always easier to blame something else rather than taking personal responsibility for our own success. I was waiting for that perfect moment to leave a comment but in success the perfect moment is always.

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:05 am

      Hey Pat, thanks for your thoughts!
      Yes, its easy to blame our circumstances and our limited resources for our shortcomings, but there are thousands of examples of people who have had far less and done so much more. Once we realize that, an entirely new world of opportunities opens up!
      Peter

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    abhijit

    Apr 12, 2015 at 1:41 am

    Such a great post..
    Everyone face those problems, examples &
    solutions are also awsome!

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:06 am

      Hi Abhijit,
      Glad you liked the examples!
      Cheers,
      Peter

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    Wayne Caswell

    Apr 11, 2015 at 2:08 pm

    Ridiculous Belief #11 — Sleeping Less leaves more time to get stuff done. This is a very dangerous myth, because sleeping less can actually make your wakeful hours far less productive. It also affects your health and safety (e.g. drowsy driving) and can result in early death. Our bodies have evolved over millions of years to synchronize with the day-night cycle, but artificial lights and personal electronics have disrupted this, and our DNA has not caught up

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 13, 2015 at 6:03 am

      Hi Wayne,
      Thanks for adding this! Yes – this is really one of the most common misconceptions I have come across.
      I was guilty of sleeping less than 6 hours when I first started working. No wonder my productivity used to be far less than ideal during those days. Now, this is one of the most important things that I recommend to my clients – get a good nights sleep and see the difference yourself!
      Peter

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    Anthony Metivier

    Apr 11, 2015 at 11:25 am

    Great post, Peter.

    In a world where so many successful entrepreneurs barely got through high school, education hasn’t got much of a competitive edge. 🙂

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 11, 2015 at 12:24 pm

      Great point Anthony! Now that I look back, I wonder how useful my MBA really is!

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    Linda

    Apr 11, 2015 at 10:30 am

    Great post Peter! I really like all the examples you have given about Richard Branson, Elon Musk, Bill Gates and even Traf o data. If we examine carefully, the only thing holding us back are our own beliefs.

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      Peter Banerjea

      Apr 11, 2015 at 1:28 pm

      Thanks Linda! Yes – our beliefs determine what actions we take and consequently what we achieve.
      BTW – the traf o data bit is an interesting fact. I got to know about it quite recently.

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        Stephanie Taylor

        Aug 22, 2015 at 3:19 am

        I totally believe in this! Except for #1 – sometimes you have to let your brain rest with mindless TV or whatever…Many people get overwhelmed, and not taking time out for #1, or getting enough sleep can be success killers. Some of our greatest leaders in business have mental disorders, ADHD, ADD, or whatever. You must take care of yourself first and foremost or nothing else can be accomplished completely.
        Otherwise, a great read! Thanks!

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          Peter Banerjea

          Oct 28, 2015 at 5:43 am

          Hi Stephanie,
          Completely agree that it’s important to get enough sleep and have ‘me time’ too! The point I am trying to make is that everyone has time. If someone really has a dream, he/she has to make sacrifices and find time.
          Thanks for reading!
          Cheers! Peter

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