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11 Career Mistakes You Didn’t Know You Were Making

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Have you ever woken up in a cold sweat wondering what you’re going to do with your life? Desperately wishing you could just abandon your problems and fulfill your life’s ultimate dream?

“Oh, if only life were as simple as it is on TV. I’d be sipping on banana daiquiris in the Bahamas by now!” If only. Banana daiquiris are delicious, but they’re sweeter if well-earned.

Life isn’t cruel or full of contempt. It isn’t this angry, malevolent force. It isn’t on a mission to destroy you before you’ve achieved your dreams. No, life is neutral to our struggles. There are those who proclaim that, “Life is too hard,” or that, “It’s unfair,” or that, “I’m better than them, they’re just…” Which is really just code for, “I don’t know how to win yet, so I’m going to blame it on something.” Excuses.

You aren’t born to make excuses. You’re born to make your dreams come true. That’s what your parents intended for you. That’s what you should intend for yourself.

In the next 11 points, I’m going to show you the most defeating lies, mistakes and excuses that we all make and how you can avoid them. Grab a drink and let’s continue.

Here are the 11 career mistakes you didn’t know you were making:

 

Mistake #1: Always focusing on the plans and never on the people

This is almost the “anti-roadmap” for self-proclaimed introverts. Being an introvert myself and knowing scores of this type, I promise that you love being around people. All humans (yes, all) have a deep craving for emotional connection, each one of us.

Matt Pocius, my friend and the youngest, highest paid Internet marketing consultant in the world, says to make sales he would be on the phone every single day. That’s the fastest way to make $1,000/day, according to him. If you’re not speaking to people, you’re not selling.

I’ll tell you a secret… If you’re going to make it anywhere, you need friends. Nobody has ever become successful on their own. They always have friends and a team who helped them. That’s a million times better than having “connections.” If all you do is practice, you’ll never make any friends.

“There is zero correlation between IQ and emotional intelligence… They’re controlled by different parts of the brain.” – Daniel Goleman

Mistake #2: Assuming that all debt is bad debt

I stole this secret from Robert Kiyosaki. He talks about it in real estate. There is good debt and bad debt. good debt gives to you and bad debt takes from you. In real estate a good property will make you money. That’s good debt. But a nasty credit card will lose you money, or at best, leave you at neutral. That’s bad debt.

I’m not expecting you to buy a house, I’m expecting you to buy yourself more time. Everything you do should save you time or give you more. You do this by giving to people. Give until it hurts.

Take a fraction of that value back by just asking for something in return. Borrow from people when you know it’ll help you progress. Stop borrowing just trying to survive.

 

Mistake #3: Dipping your toes in to see if it’s “right” for you

I’ve never understood why people “try” to do things. I’ve always been a very driven, intense individual. I’ve had moments doing this, for sure, but I’ve always had an “all-in” mentality. Instead of “trying” to win, just win.

Winners are OBSESSED with their goals – they don’t sleep, they don’t eat, they barely even blink or else they might miss something. And if something inside you says, “I’m not that motivated,” then let me tell you that you just haven’t found something to be motivated about yet. Everybody is motivated. People just don’t see value in their passions ie. skateboarding, dancing, baking pies.

I promise if you view it even slightly entrepreneurially, you’ll find a way to make money. You just have to own it. Make it your beautiful obsession instead of wasting precious time.

 

Mistake #4: Proactively avoiding the important work

STOP THINKING. Overthinking is death. It’s like hot lava. If you touch the lava, you die. What other ways do you cleverly avoid work? Do you take hour-long breaks? Check email 10x a day? Facebook? Watch viral videos? Stop it and just do the important stuff. That’s the secret to productivity.

“Emotional intelligence is a much stronger predictor of who will be the most successful, because it is how we handle ourselves in our relationships that determines how well we do once we are in a given job.” – Daniel Goleman

Mistake #5: Neglecting your health, integrity and relationships

I sleep for 4 hours a night sometimes. When income wasn’t great, I’d eat ramen noodles and survive off of $1/day. I wouldn’t shower so that I could focus more on getting clients (online). And sometimes, I wouldn’t keep my word to others. I broke my integrity.

But listen… If you’re always a day late and a dollar short, get angry and frustrated when bad things happen, if you think family gets in the way, you start to create a host of negative beliefs that I can’t even begin to list. That’s an entire blog post on its own. My aunt, a famous jazz singer, was like this and gave herself cancer. She sat me down and told me how she cured it: she became happy.

She knows that I’m a loving, open person, but I’d become angry and negative. Shortly after I became sick. It scared the crap out of me, so I decided to perk up and drink more water. It wasn’t 100% the cause of my sickness, but it didn’t help. And in the end, I’d rather be happy and successful instead of a miserable success.

 

Mistake #6: Numbing yourself to problems

I’m good at turning off my emotions. Some people eat their problems away. Some people drink, smoke, do drugs, watch TV, whatever. I implore you to experience your emotions.

Emotional intelligence is the #1 underrated tool in business, and nobody knows how to use it. You use it by screaming, crying, being joyful, angry. Fully experience your emotions. Feel it without holding back and it doesn’t get trapped. Your body remembers emotional trauma. Don’t let your body become your cage.

You’re kidding yourself if you think, “I don’t feel emotions” You’re not a robot. I was the robot. Robots feel more deeply than anybody, we just hide it. When you look into people’s eyes, people should see into your heart, not your mind. Empathy creates breakthroughs with people, and that means career success.

 

Mistake #7: Only setting work goals, not life goals

I got this feedback when I was interviewing Guillermo Ulysses (an actor from Grey’s Anatomy) for my podcast. He has 12 degrees from universities, he’s been on TV, in movies, commercials, PSA’s, theatre, and did it in record time. It took him 3 weeks to get an agent. He’s a very smart guy.

He said to me that I couldn’t just focus on being Young Money’s choreographer by June 3, 2016 (I’m a dancer/choreographer by the way) or hitting 1 million views for my dance videos by June 21, 2016 at 11:50 pm. That’s not enough. I need to have other goals. Something with more substance. In his words, “you need to ride an elephant” or “pet a tiger.”

You put these things on a list, you make copies of it, and constantly cross things out. It’ll be in your hallways, doorways, bedroom, mirrors, notebooks, screensaver, on your hands. Literally everywhere you go.

Set goals for every area of your life: health, wealth, love and happiness. When you only have work goals, you get wound too tightly. You know you’re in trouble when you don’t have 5 minutes to enjoy a cup of coffee or a weekend to spend with your wife and kids. And when appropriate, relax and go to the beach. Forget the list and just enjoy the day.

 

Mistake #8: Spending too much time in your brain and your body

You might’ve guessed by now, but I’m a big advocate of emotional intelligence. It helps you stop kidding yourself, be genuine towards others, and be a strong leader.

Sense things in others; pause, reflect, acknowledge what they said, and respond appropriately. I’ve seen people yell and push agendas. They don’t last very long. People hate them.

You’ll actually know when you want to do something. The person who makes frequent decisions and takes too long to make them ends up losing.

Bruce Lee

Mistake #9: Using willpower in unnecessary situations

When people use their willpower, it’s to resist chocolate instead of eating a carrot. They waste their limited willpower on what to wear, what to eat, which watch they should buy, or whether they should rearrange the luggage in the trunk before going to the airport.

Yes, they’re important, but they aren’t life-changing decisions. Replace any daily tasks like what to wear or what to eat with habits.

Learn to prioritize larger goals and create habits. You only have a couple drops of willpower every day. Use willpower like spice, not steak. Steak is action. Spice is direction.

 

Mistake #10: Believing you’re unworthy of success

You might think I’m exaggerating, but I’m pretty sure 99.999% of the planet has self-esteem issues. It’s just a human tendency. They fear failure, rejection or success. They don’t speak up when they see a child getting hit by their parent because it’s “none of their business.” They don’t take charge in an argument because they don’t believe in themselves as a leader.

They don’t jump off a zipline because they think they’re afraid of heights. Many people won’t even eat healthy because they don’t believe they’ll get skinny. It’s a LIE. You’ve been telling yourself lies for decades. I told myself I wasn’t capable of becoming a dancer. “It’s an impractical career, dancers make no money, I’m not a good enough dancer, there are no dance agents in my city, I have no money for lessons, I don’t have a good enough camera, I have to buy editing software.” Blah blah blah. Full of excuses.

Now I’m sponsored by Cadillac, I’ve been in music videos, toured all over Canada and living in Los Angeles. It took me one month. Now I get to build my brand. Listen… If you’re not successful, it’s not because you don’t want success, it’s because you’re telling yourself lies. If you’re unhappy with your career, it’s because you abandoned your dreams.

Your “long shot”, your destiny, your dreams… Suppressed by lies. If you’re suffering, then rescue yourself. You deserve it. Hiding will do you no good. You are the one person you can’t hide from; at the end of the day, you know if you did the right thing.

 

Mistake #11: Being glued to your smartphone

I know, I know, you’re hustling. Or playing games. Or Instagramming. Maybe it’s advancing your career, maybe it’s not, but the larger point I’m trying to make is that you’re disconnecting and numbing yourself. Being in front of screens gradually robs you of your humanity if you aren’t careful.

Most people don’t talk to anybody. They just sit in their chairs, hide behind their laptops, and eat with their phones in one hand while sloppily eating their spinach steak salad. When I’ve been the most successful in life it’s been when I was out every single day for 30 minutes just trying to talk to people.

Do I do this because I’m an extrovert and love to be around people? Well, that helps, but it’s not the point I’m trying to make. What I’m talking about is bigger, I’m surprised that nobody talks about it. When you aren’t glued to your phone, you aren’t hiding from anybody. You’re forced to be in the present and  to look people in the eyes. People feel you.

You wanna make an impact? You wanna make a million dollars? Start with looking people in the eyes. Look at yourself in the eyes. Smile when you talk. No crossed arms or blank stares. Just pure joy. Presence.

 

Now, go out and earn yourself a good life filled with lots of money, friends and banana daiquiris. You deserve it!

Kris Roxas is a writer, dancer and media personality. He has worked with Android and Toyota to develop marketing campaigns and is currently sponsored by Cadillac as a dancer. After suffering a brain hemorrhage, Kris re-taught himself how to walk, read, speak without a lisp and think clearly. He now shows no signs of brain trauma and has made it his mission to help others become overachievers and build self-confidence. You can find him at his website krisroxas.com or on Twitter @krisroxas.

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22 Comments

22 Comments

  1. Richelle

    Jan 5, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    SO good. Thank you.

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  3. Tim Denning

    Aug 7, 2015 at 10:18 am

    Kris this is one of the best articles I have read on Addicted2Success. I love how you’re so raw, and your advice is killer. Thank you so much for sharing this article. I think a lot of people underestimate the value of friends and their own network. People ask me all the time where I get work opportunities from. I tell them that I get all of them from my network. Every entrepreneurial thing I have ever done has been referred to me. A referral from someone influential creates leverage with a prospect because no one wants to ignore someone influential. If I emailed you right now, you might not respond. If your best friend introduced me and said for you to chat with me you would because you don;t want to let your best friend down.

    Thanks again Kris for sharing your wisdom!!!

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  5. Tracie

    Jul 20, 2015 at 6:15 pm

    Interesting and motivating. But at the beginning of the article, you say you’re an introvert, then at the end, you say you’re an extrovert. Which are you? Because while the information in the article seems viable and doable, the credibility is hard to accept when you say you are two things.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 20, 2015 at 11:08 pm

      Hey Tracie,

      Great question! I was hoping someone would bring this up. I thought it would be awkward bringing this up on my own. During editing I had to trim it down from about 4,000 words to 1990. I cut out the sentences that weren’t essential and when I submitted the draft that was one of my oversights. It originally said:

      “Do I do this because I’m an extrovert, or I think everyone needs to party and joke around constantly, or I’m a touchy-feely guy who thinks that speaking to people makes life better and you need to speak to people in order to be in touch with your feelings? Well, that helps, but it’s nowhere near the point I’m trying to make. ”

      I do think that people should speak to others, party once in a while, and be more in touch.

      As a sidenote, I also see myself as a 50/50 introvert/extrovert split. It’s a long story, but here’s the “short” version. I was born in a household with extreme versions of both. I was raised by my mom, but have my dad’s genes, so I have both personality traits. My mom is a bookworm doctor who rarely meets with friends, whereas my dad is a walking music festival. Nature vs nurture in the most literal sense.

      I seem to have the ability to carry both at once. It all depends on mood, momentum, environment, and if I consciously “flip the switch” (which I taught myself to do). My siblings don’t have this ability, they’re either an introvert or extrovert. That’s the case for most people.

      I also don’t think there’s a fine line between them. I think there are situations where we feel socially comfortable and situations where we don’t. Most people are somewhere in-between, and there are very few outliers at the extremes. If I did believe that, I wouldn’t encourage introverts to be around people. I also think more extroverts should be alone to focus. It’s healthy. It all depends. You need to do both. But introversion is the bigger problem – most people don’t go far enough to speak to others, whereas someone who can talk can usually shut up given the right incentives.

  6. Ethan Bridges

    Jul 16, 2015 at 5:56 am

    Hah! This has become like 1.5 posts.

    That’s a really great article, Kris. I’d say some of those ideas are quite fresh. (Or I simply didn’t know about them yet?)

    I’m guilty of this mistake–“dipping my toes in to see if it’s ‘right’ for me.” This is actually an excuse, I realize. You don’t dip your toes when you’re deciding, planning, executing–perhaps even when an idea simply “crosses your mind.” You have to have the desire. Yes, even on the ugliest tasks, you must burn with desire.

    Very nice, Kris. Honestly, this is one of the best posts I’ve read this week! Hey, I signed up on your blog. 😉

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:55 pm

      Hey Ethan,

      Haha, it pretty much has. I feel like I just gave a speech and now I’m doing Q&A.

      So far you seem like you’re on the right track! You’ve got your own blog, posting a lot of content, and it looks like it’s been up for a while. I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a “dipping your toes in” problem, it’s more of a tactical distribution problem.

      You need to take one or two of those posts, promote the hell out of them, and you’ll start to get a lot more traction. And on your Facebook page (which I like by the way) just take $10 and promote the page to get some likes. If you do it right, you’ll get 1-200. And invite all your current Facebook friends to like it.

      Then what you do is write really good posts with viral headlines, promote those posts on Facebook, capture emails, and monetize with AdSense or your own products, then suddenly you have a thriving blog that makes money. You have the content, you just need to distribute and monetize it.

      In your everyday life, though, if you’re taking it too easy that could be rough. Just keep saying, “One more, one more, one more…” And realize that putting your whole heart into the task is the most important thing you can do. When you do that long enough, you’ll be in the top 10% of your field (self-help blogs) and that’s where the money is.

      Thanks for signing up for the blog! Very much appreciated! Can’t wait to see what you create, and hope that you enjoy all the stuff I put out on my own blog 🙂

      Kris

  7. Charly

    Jul 16, 2015 at 2:30 am

    Kris,

    This article really speaks to me. I am in a place of feeling stuck and your advice about putting down my phone and talking to people really resonates with me. It is great to be reminded that I need I put myself out there more and be more present. Also looking at how I spend my time is super important to drive my productivity. I want to achieve big things but I’m playing a small game, that needs to change!

    Congratulations on all your success!! 🙂

    Thank you for all this amazing advice.

    -Charly 🙂

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      Hey Charly,

      Really sorry to hear you’re in a place of feeling stuck. It’s not a fun place to be (I know first-hand). Right now I’m not in that place, but you never know, it can sneak up on you when you least expect it.

      I’m not in your exact situation, so I wouldn’t know the details, but if you want to play big then you need to stop thinking of yourself as small. It’s easy to be charismatic and free and hard-working when you see yourself as those things.

      In my mind (I used to be a nerd, by the way) I’m Goku and a Korean pop-star and a lot of other strong or charismatic characters all put together. I reprogrammed my brain to change the roles that I play in every situation. Instead of a spectator, I’m a player. And instead of a wall flower, I’m the life of the party. I’m X, not Y. I’m the cause, not the effect. And the way I write is the way I think, I literally think happy thoughts or think well of myself 95% of the time. And the 5% is when I’m being critical of my own skills or being a perfectionist. On bad days, it switches lol. But, just keep doing the same things, and I’m back on my feet.

      So become the person who does those things, and then the results follow. That would be my only feedback for you.

      You’re doing great! Keep it up!

      Kris

  8. Leeann Froese

    Jul 16, 2015 at 2:02 am

    What a great post – some insights here and good reminders too.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:21 pm

      Hey Leeann,

      Glad you liked the post 🙂 hope some of the insights really help you in your life and in your career!

      Kris

  9. Lawrence Berry

    Jul 16, 2015 at 12:40 am

    This some wonderful advice! I really like reading things that can enhance my life and I agree with everything you have said here. Correcting mistakes like neglecting health and relationships and thinking you are not worthy of success will not only make you more successful, but happier as well. A lot of also dont understand the power of who you know. You have to reach out to people and understand them in a way if you want to be more successful. Like you said, you need friends. I cannot tell you how many people I know who got the right job because of some connection they had. Great post!

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:17 pm

      Hey Lawrence,

      I agree 1,000%. Some people have mixed opinions about who you know. I’m of the opinion that you DEFINITELY need to know people, but more importantly, you need to be the type of person others want to know. Knowing people isn’t everything, but it’s a huge missing piece that some people don’t seem to get. Or they think that by partying that they’re networking. It can be, but a lot of the time it’s not.

      Glad you liked the post! I saw you commented on a lot of the other posts. Keep up the hustle! You’re doing good work.

      Kris

  10. Bethany Scott

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    This is one of the most original ‘career mistakes’ articles I’ve read lately – and I’ve read LOTS lately. All these points resonated with me. (Must – stop – overthinking…!!) Thankyou Kris!

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      Hey Bethany,

      Haha thank you very much! It must’ve taken me 15-20 hours of editing to make everything succinct and unique. The original draft was somewhere around 4,000 words, then I spliced it down to 3,000, then to 2,000. So I had to be very intense with which points I kept in. I’m glad you enjoyed it! 😀

  11. Kristian

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:32 pm

    Nice job man,

    I found myself in these mistakes, but now I realized what I was doing wrong all the time…
    Thank you very much, Keep going…

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 15, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      Hey Kristian,

      Haha, a fellow Kris. I know what you mean. I’ve found myself in basically all of these at one point or another.

      You’ll be fine, though. These are problems with definite solutions.

      Thanks for the comment! 😀 It means a lot to me

      Kris

  12. Bogdan

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:14 pm

    Fantastic article. It seems you’ve gone through your own journey and I could feel your passion through the words you used and the way you set out your thoughts. It personally gave me inspiration, thank you for that.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 15, 2015 at 10:53 pm

      Hey Bogdan,

      Wow, thank you very much 🙂 yeah, I get really hyped when I write articles about success. I’ve found that my self-talk is very similar to how I write, so I’m glad you were inspired haha!

      Good luck on your journey,
      Kris

  13. Timothy Mosely

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:12 pm

    Hello Kris,

    I’m from Freelance Domination 2.0 Gold and I have to say I LOVE this article, its exceptionally well written and very motivating very well done good sir !

    it speaks to me in so many ways, seeing what you’ve gone through aand where you are heading it is an amazing thing.

    I am most assuredly guilty of more than one of these mistakes im not too humble to admit it, I am launching a IT company but i fear I have been making these mistakes and delaying it I just need to Fully commit to winning.

    If you have any advice for a young man who’s dream is to be a successful freelancer then fire away !

    Thanks,

    Tim.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 15, 2015 at 11:19 pm

      Hey Timothy,

      Thank you, very, very much! I put a lot of effort and passion into it. I mean, I wish I were a little more perfectionist with it because I notice a couple things that could be tweaked, but part of fully committing it is just giving them the article to publish so I can continue my journey.

      For you, as a freelancer and (if separate) as an IT company founder, to commit is a weak sentence. It’s about commitment, but it’s about COMMITMENT. Yell the word. COMMIT! There’s a difference. Not just being obnoxious about it, but in meaning.

      There’s nothing inspiring about an obligation. In the end, if you don’t do it, nobody is going to die. So everything you do is never a need, it’s a burning desire. That’s why you need to be obsessed with your goal. You feel so in love with it, it’s your sweetheart, your mistress. You just want to give her all your heart.

      So barring the need for drive and realizing you need to develop a focus similar to being in love, here are the important things you need to know to committing long-term:

      – send status reports every night to a friend or partner (I send 3: my bae, an accountability coach, and a business expert). Include 1. Done, 2. To-Do, 3. Problems/Solution, 4. Comments/Questions
      – use thehabitsheet.com
      – anything within your control, say it in definite language. No “maybe’s” or “try’s.” Only yes or no. You can’t do half a rep and expect to have gains in the gym.
      – the way you talk to yourself will determine your confidence levels and whether you’ll get things done. Be nice to yourself and motivating.
      – use small wins to make yourself happy. Small goals like drinking water, getting out of bed on time, or flossing. When you see yourself accomplishing things like this everyday, psychologically you start to see yourself as somebody who gets stuff done, then you get bigger tasks done.
      – get big, ugly tasks done every single day – they’re your priority (one a day is fine, if it’s time-consuming)
      – take less breaks. The only time you should stop focusing is if you’re in physical pain, if you’re on a schedule, or if you need to politely tell someone you’re working.

      Those are the big ones. Anyways, thanks for the question, it was a good one!

      Kris

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3 Practical Ways Successful People Attract Money

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It takes more than just hard work, grinding and strategies to become successful. Do you actually know what subtle changes to make in order to reach the level of success and financial wealth you desire?

In our constantly changing world, those who are getting ahead in the game are individuals who are learning to raise their standards both personally and professionally. The age of the Internet has certainly brought a new dawn for the average person dialing up that inner craving for more freedom and a higher quality of life.

The opportunities and technological advancements are here, but one thing seems to be lagging: Our ability to produce and maintain the money we actually need to enjoy all that is currently available.

Everywhere you turn there is a new, sleeker, more advanced version of your favorite gizmo. Whether it’s your dream phone, car, computer, or designer clothes, they keep getting better and who doesn’t enjoy having the best of the best?

However, how can we have the best of the best when increasing income continues to be a struggle? As traditional methods of working and doing business radically transform, certain confusion arises especially amongst entrepreneurs.

This is why a recent conversation with my friend and owner of Walletisland, Adrian Brown, challenged me to reassess how I am approaching some of the things we tend to consider unimportant in the entrepreneurial space. I realised there are simple everyday shifts that are often overlooked by entrepreneurs which could be the key to increasing success and income.

For the majority of aspiring and budding entrepreneurs, the backstory is pretty much the same. We all grew up in less than abundant conditions. Our approach is for the most part pretty old fashioned when it comes to personal grooming and our relationship with money. But if there’s one thing I have come to realize when it comes to producing extraordinary results, it is this: Success and attracting money is all about mindset and the attitude one carries.

“Your mindset matters. It affects everything – from the business and investment decisions you make, to the way you raise your children, to your stress levels and overall well-being.” – Peter Diamandis

This is a law based truth I am proving more and more as I interact, connect with and learn from other successful entrepreneurs. In my most recent mastermind with a like-minded individuals, we were able to uncover a few blind spots that continue to hinder many hard working entrepreneurs.

More specifically, we came to a consensus when it comes to attracting more wealth that most individuals hit these three blind spots which hopefully after today, you will no longer fall victim to.

  • Too many success seekers are neglecting their personal appearance and self-grooming. As entrepreneurs, we think only our skillsets should matter, but that’s never the case.
  • Most people are neglecting their everyday personal interaction with money. In other words, aside from the big general numbers they have to deal with in business, most men aren’t deliberately working on improving how they handle, carry and interact with money. Part of this might be old negative paradigms around money running the show.
  • Many business owners are struggling with unattractiveness and low confidence, which certainly hinders their ability to shine, stand out and magnetize success.

If any or all of these resonate, here’s what you can do about it today:

1. Polish your self-image and outer appearance

This doesn’t have to take up too much time. With a little more deliberate thought on the shoes you wear, the wallet you carry, the combination of your clothing, hair, body language and attitude you will not only raise your professional appearance but there is much research proving your earnings will increase too.  Keep it clean, simple, clutter free and corresponding to your business role.

2. Prep yourself for a “money shift”

Is there a psychological relationship between a someones’s wallet and their money? Absolutely. In fact when Adrian got into men’s fashion it was because he experienced firsthand “the money shift”. This happened when he stopped carrying around cheap, worn-out wallets and started carefully choosing the kind that made him feel most opulent.

I’m passionate about helping men strengthen their connection and interaction with money because I realize it’s not about fashion trends. A man’s wallet is something he interacts with daily. It should be a symbol of prosperity and help him de-clutter. It should also be a demonstration of his modern take on money because in our digital society, money is transforming and it’s in our best interest to catch up lest we suffer the consequences of holding on to limiting beliefs around money.”

I couldn’t agree more. Most of us will need to shed limiting beliefs, heal money wounds and learn to handle, carry and interact with money in ways that promote its presence. What money story is your wallet telling right now?

3. Work on your self-confidence and attractiveness

Those struggling with low self-confidence and feelings of unattractiveness need to make drastic changes. Why? According to research by Payscale, over the course of a lifetime, an “attractive person will end up making about 230,000 more than an unattractive person.”

That’s ridiculous especially since being attractive and confident isn’t just for the chosen few. Now that you are in business for yourself, you can’t afford to be bullied by invisible limiting beliefs that question how capable, attractive and confident you are.

If it naturally doesn’t come to you, there are various exercises you can do and small changes you can make in order to build yourself up and make up for any disadvantages you may have had in your upbringing.

“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” – Dalai Lama

As entrepreneurs, we are inclined to focus more on strategies and tactics which will help us close the sale sometimes at the expense of our personal health and grooming. Let us refrain from assuming appearances do not count just because we are no longer climbing the corporate ladder.

If the vision is to enjoy a more opulent and enriching lifestyle, take time to align every aspect of your life with this new self-made, inspiring, influential leader you are aspiring to be. All successful people go into the game prepared for that win.

What personal changes will you make to prepare you for more wealth?

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5 Ways to Improve Your Audience Engagement

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When you first thought of your business idea and created your business, you were probably thinking about how much people needed what you had to offer and all of the people you were going to be able to help. Even though none of that has changed, it can be really discouraging to continue to post on social media, do Facebook lives, and try to make any kind of a call to action when all there is are crickets when you do.

Instead of banging your head against the wall, and trying to figure out what is wrong with your idea, let me give you 5 ways to improve your audience engagement:

1. Increase the amount of content you are putting out

Sometimes, the main reason why you are not seeing the engagement you are looking for is because people are not seeing your posts. Each social media platform has its own algorithm.

Even if you posted once or even twice that day, some of those algorithms can still make it possible for your people NOT to see even one of your posts. Posting a few to several times a day will increase the number of people seeing your posts which should, in turn, increase your engagement.

2. Ask the right questions

Remember when I said that posting a few to several times a day will increase the number of people seeing your posts which should, in turn, increase your engagement? The reason it should but may not increase your engagement is because you are not asking enough of the right questions.

You can post content that you like or are interested in, but you have to remember YOU are not the one buying your products and services. You need to learn what your target audience wants to see and talk about. Learn what gets them engaged and what keeps them engaged by asking the right questions.

“We thought that we had the answers, it was the questions we had wrong.” Bono

3. Switch it up a little

Have you ever had a routine that was so dry and bland it made you dread doing it? That is exactly what your audience feels like when you post the same kind of content all the time. Everyone doesn’t like meatloaf every day. No matter what you are selling, your audience craves interesting, informative, and encouraging content. If you can give this to them consistently, they will fall in love with you and keep on coming back for more.

4. Analyze your data

When you increase the content you put out, you will have a lot more data to analyze so you can understand the people who you are trying to reach. This will help you to understand which kind of content is consumed more by your audience, what platform has better engagement, and what your audience is trying to tell you they want and need.

“It’s difficult to imagine the power that you’re going to have when so many different sorts of data are available.”- Tim Berners-Lee

5. Calls to action are key

The last thing you want to do is to give your audience some amazing content and not have a place for them to go to learn or get more. Inviting yourself somewhere can be very awkward, so why would you want your audience to do that? They may want to connect with you but they don’t know where to go and how to connect. Invite them in and make them feel wanted and welcomed. This will cut out the awkwardness and also the confusion of how they can better connect with you.

Increasing your engagement can be done easily if you are willing to follow these 5 ways to improve your audience engagement. Once you have done that, the engagement will come and the sales are bound to follow.

How are you staying connected to your audience? Make sure to comment below and let us know!

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A Tim Ferriss Like Japan Trip Rebuilt Me – Here’s Why

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“Art imitates life so you must experience life to create art” – Unknown (possibly Tim Ferriss)

This quote is the reason why I recently took a holiday to Japan and why from now on I will travel more. All of us have a dream, a vision, a goal, a business which is another word for our own “art.”

Anything worth doing has an element of creativity attached to it which in essence is art. While on the way to Japan listening to the Tim Ferriss podcast, I heard this quote above. I realized that my life’s work had fizzled out somewhat because I needed to experience life more.

This whole blogging thing only works when I experience life – travel is the best way to do that. Second to that, I have been listening to Tim Ferriss’s podcast for years, and he talks a lot about Japan and how the culture can really positively impact your life.

Hearing this advice second hand just wasn’t good enough for me. That’s why, in Timmy style, I booked an unplanned trip to Japan with only two days notice. It was what I called a Tim Ferriss like trip to Japan. I wanted to transcend my current circumstances and boy did I do that!

Things before Japan had become a bit stale. I wasn’t quite me and I needed rebuilding again. It was time to self-disrupt and grow more as a person. I’d stopped growing and that’s why I felt off. Japan changed all of that.

Here’s how this Japan trip rebuilt me:

 

We’re all the same: we’re all loved.

Sitting at the airport in Australia I saw everyone saying goodbye to their loved ones. I did the same and said goodbye to my family and girlfriend. I sat there for around ten minutes and realized that we’re all loved by someone.

We all have someone who would be sad or miss us if we didn’t return home. All of us want to come home safe and see our loved ones again. While tragedy can strike, these trips to places like Japan are a must – they’re part of our journey in life.

These journeys we take are how we find ourselves. Without travel, we become lost and can’t understand how we fit into this world.

Knowing I’m loved and knowing the importance of these journeys helped rebuild me.

 

Japan can show you what is wrong too.

So far I’ve made Japan sound like it’s all roses – it’s not. I saw people working ridiculous hours. I saw Japanese people who had become obsessed with meaningless westernized brands. I saw women who still appeared to be second class compared with men.

Japan didn’t show me perfection; it showed me reality and that means that there are always going to be things that need to change. Each of us can form part of that change.

 

Objectification of women has changed men in a bad way.

For some reason, Japan gave me immense clarity. I noticed that me (and all other men) have become hardwired to look at women’s bodies. Even the nicest most loyal men who treat women well have been affected. I noticed this unconscious behavior in myself while in Australia and began questioning it.

Do we need to look at women in such a physical way? Is it really necessary? Is this addiction taking up so much of our creative genius and potential?

The answer to all of these questions, after Japan, was that a problem exists and this addiction is not serving as well. I’m not proud of this fact and I for one plan on not only being aware of it but also changing it. This idea helped rebuild me.

 

The Samurai showed the benefits of discipline.

While being an Aussie tourist walking through the grounds of the Imperial Palace, I saw some of the emperors Samurai training. The facility was surrounded by fences but being a tall guy, I could still see over the fence.

I found these Samurai to be cool because they were laser-focused on what they were doing. The Samurai had purpose and precision accuracy. Their discipline taught them patience and you could see the courage in their actions. Everything was thought through and nothing was left to chance.

The Samurai helped me rebuild my life by reminding me of what discipline can do when we embrace it. A disorganized mind combined with actions that are all over the place results in a lot of nothingness. Start with being a master at one thing instead of trying to be mediocre at lots of things.

 

Concrete Jungle vs. Nature

Before Japan, I was obsessed with visiting places like San Fran and New York to see big concrete cities and skyscrapers. Now that I’ve been to Japan I’ve realized that I’m completely bored of that. Going to My Fuji and some of the mountains in Kyoto is far more impactful.

Concrete jungles are all the same once you’ve seen a few. They all have lots of box’s – some tall, some wide, some full of lights and some full of views. When you see enough of these, you no longer become impressed by them.

Nature is impossible to top though. No matter how many lakes, mountains, beaches or forests I visit, I never get sick of them. That’s because it’s in our human DNA to feel a connection with nature. Nature is a place we can relax and recharge the batteries.

Japan taught me that for the rest of my travel adventures I am going to focus on beautiful places that encompass nature instead of man-made structures and fake tourist attractions like theme parks. Knowing what nature means to me has helped me to rebuild myself.

 

See as many places as you can.

This trip to Japan made me see that I get bored after around five days in one country. I’ve discovered that it’s ideal to see as many places as you can. The more of this Earth you experience, the more your life changes.

 

Don’t forget attention to detail.

Japanese people, I learned, are obsessed with attention to detail. Everything from the signage at train stations to the way they present food has been thought of.

“It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being purposeful”

It’s the little things that the Japanese people do that make you fall in love with them by the end of your stay in their country.

 

Manners feel good.

I quickly saw that Japanese people are very kind and have amazing manners. They say thank you so many times. As you walk out of a restaurant, the whole team say thank you like a giant choir. Being grateful and acknowledging each other is at the heart of their culture.

You can’t help but smile when you witness this way of treating one another. Not every stranger you meet in a foreign country is trying to commit a terrorist attack.

All I can say is manners just feel good and it put’s you in a positive mood. Plus, you walk around with a big fat smile on your face and that feels refreshing.

 

Connection through transport.

Japanese culture feels very connected and that’s partly to do with their very efficient transport system. There’s a subway station on practically every corner that’s affordable. Trains run every few minutes, so there’s never any need to run to the subway station to catch a train.

The bullet trains allow you to skip between states or regions in a very short amount of time. No need to board a plane or go through the razzle-dazzle of airport bureaucracy gone mad (thanks to perceived terrorism and the news).

While sitting on the Shinkansen (bullet train) to Kyoto, I saw families that were on their way to visit one another. They looked so relaxed and sat there enjoying the countryside of Japan as I did. It was a regular occurrence made possible by a fantastic transport system that is orderly and well thought out.

 

Technology is exhausting.

The negative side of technology is prominent in Japan. There are cities that are littered with giant LED screens, bright lights and technology on every corner. In these places, I felt unable to think clearly and the bright lights made me feel like I suffered from Attention Deficit Disorder.

There was technology within the toilet seat, on the plane, at restaurants and ugly vending machines selling fat causing sugar water on every corner.

On the flip side, what I loved about Japan was that talking loudly on a not so smart phone was prohibited in most places and there were locations where phones were non-existent. Japanese people seem to know how to balance life between being “ON” and being “OFF” when it comes to their phone.

“Instead of wasting your life away on your phone, Japan teaches you to become present and appreciate the here and now”

You notice things that you normally wouldn’t where I’m from in the Western World. With so much empty space, Japan is a great place to rebuild yourself. The rebuilding process needs thinking time away from phones.

 

Minimalism and being space conscious is beautiful.

The Japanese people are obsessed with being space conscious. They have double-decker car spaces, cube-shaped cars, cars made for people who must be three-foot tall, hotel rooms where you can barely open the door and space-saving retail shops like you’ve never seen.

 

Time is money in Japan.

My plane was on time to the second. Every train was on time. The tour guide at Mt Fuji was on time. The hotel cleaning was to the minute and so was the checkout. Time is money and it’s one resource we should take more seriously. Time gives you the opportunity to rebuild and grow.

 

Low energy states can be healed by travel.

More than a year since my last break, my energy levels in my career were at an all-time low. I had headaches every day and felt uninspired to a degree. It turns out all I needed was a holiday to rebuild.

Your body guides you.
Your heart guides you.
Your mind guides you.

This Japan trip taught me to take time to relax and recharge. Don’t ignore your body ever!

 

Climbing Japanese mountains is a metaphor for life.

I climbed this mountain in Kyoto. Halfway up I wanted to quit. I thought to myself “I’ve seen enough. Why go to the summit?”

That’s the problem right there. When we’re working on our goals, we give up too soon. We settle for okay instead of amazing. If this mountain were your life, would you give up when it got a bit hard? I’m telling you not to.

All the growth and everything you ever wanted comes from pushing that extra 2% to reach the top of the mountain. The feeling at the top is indescribable. Only those who are prepared to go the extra mile will know what it feels like to look down from the top.

Two more things to remember:

1. Once you reach the top, there’s always another mountain.

2. You must also help someone else climb the mountain to reach your full potential. Living is giving.

This mountain I climbed in Japan taught me so much about rebuilding my life (and yes I love mountain analogies).

 

There’s no place like a hot spring to contemplate life and rebuild your life.

While lying in a hot spring (Onsen) in Northern Tokyo, I sat there and thought I was going to be enjoying a relaxing time in a hot spring. What no one told me is that my entire life would replay before me. The onsen became a place to contemplate everything that had transpired thus far.

The hot water from the springs has a certain effect on your mind. I often find that my best thinking and ideas come from a shower and I’ve heard other people talk about this same experience.

“The hot spring sent my mind into deep thinking that I’ll never forget”

 

To enter a Japanese hot spring, you must be fully naked. You can’t bring clothes, material possessions, technology or a corporate mask. There’s nowhere to hide and no phone to look at. You sit there naked and bare your soul. It’s the one time where people can see you for exactly who you are.

Before contemplating my own life, I observed the men around me. Many of them seemed to be contemplating their life. Some looked tired and worn out from years of slaving away and doing hard labor.

Many of them looked like they were wasting away from years of working too hard and not remembering what truly matters. It was as if they had finally discovered what matters but that it was now too late. Then I saw the exact opposite – young men who had their whole lives ahead of them.

They too would sit there and weigh up their options. Should they follow their dream or fall for the Western myth that is collecting useless objects of little value? There were times where I wanted to answer this question for them.

I realized after a lot of thought that these young men had to come to that realization themselves. When you discover these truths of life yourself, everything changes and the principles stick.

I saw these young men by the end of my time in the hot spring for who they were and what they could become (their potential). I finally understood that they too could change the world in some impactful way if they chose too. We all have that choice and it’s ours to make.

“This stark comparison between the older men and the younger men was one of the most profound lessons of my Japan trip”

Both generations of men also looked up at the sky while doing this deep thinking. I found that quite bizarre and all of them did it.

What’s strange is that I also looked up at the sky without consciously being aware. Once I’d finished observing the men in the hot spring, I turned my thinking over to my own life. I had truth bomb after truth bomb as I sat there. I found myself running to the change room every 30 minutes to write stuff down.

What I had achieved so far and what I needed to do next became so clear. I sat in the hot spring proud of who I’ve become. For the first time in my life, I got to sit there and appreciate everything I’d put out into the world. I hadn’t stopped to see how far I’d come before this moment.

I was so focused on the present and trying to gain future success that I didn’t even know how proud I could be of myself. This fact has become the foundation of me going through the rebuilding phase yet again after five years since my last major self-renovation.

 

In summary….

Everyone reading this blog post has the opportunity to rebuild their life and consistently self-disrupt themselves. Going to places like Japan gives you the opportunity to experience life and see how far you’ve come. You can’t be ON 24/7 like those picture quotes tell you to be.

Once in a while, you need to be proud of who you are and think about who you can become.

Japan is a perfect place to do this and rebuild your life. Stay true to yourself and inspire others.

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The Six Point Marketing Makeover That Will Score You An Endless Stream of Business

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Every business has room to improve, but marketing is a habitually ignored facet. We spend so much time posting on social media and money on ad buys that we forget to evaluate the overall efficacy of our marketing efforts. Our efforts eventually become outdated, and we are left wondering why. With a little effort, you can transform your marketing to generate a consistent stream of ongoing business. It won’t break the bank, and it is doable – if you allow yourself to establish a game plan and stick to it.

Here are the six pieces of a true marketing makeover that will forever change the playing field for you:

1. Define Who You Are

If you polled your customers, who would they say you are? I’m not talking about what you do, but who you are. What do you stand for? What are your values? What are the (business) issues making you want to write a manifesto? While none of the answers completely define you, they all speak to some important aspect of your overall brand.

Customers need to know who you are. Thankfully, we’ve seen some great examples of this. Nordstrom is defined by how it handles returns. Zappos is renowned for its customer service. Toms (shoes) is the “One for One” company. Your product face may be public, but what about you? The better you define your brand and the people behind it, the more the right customers are attracted to it.

2. Explain What You Do

“We employ the highest levels of craftsmanship in our products,” or “your satisfaction is our highest value” – these are wasted space. If you want to establish a brand that attracts customers in like moths to a light, you need to run away from ambiguous, gratuitous statements and embrace specificity. “We teach people how to podcast using the latest low-cost technology,” or “we make shoes that will last ten times longer and are ten times more comfortable than any competitor in the space.” These are statements telling customers exactly what you do.

In communicating what you do, it’s important to reinforce the value system you claim to have (i.e., who you are). This gives your customers a framework to develop trust and see the authenticity of your brand. Explaining what you do, however, is about making it easy for customers to recognize why they need you. If you explain what you do well enough, your customers will often realize they have a problem they didn’t know they had – and you can fix it for them.

“Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success.” – Paul J. Meyer

3. Identify Who You Help

You’ve probably heard that the “riches are in the niches,” and regardless of whether you agree with the statement, there’s a gold nugget hidden in it. A well-defined target market will help you structure custom-tailored messaging that will hit every time.

The most effective marketing efforts target identifiable characteristics of your customers that link a specific need with a specific solution. The characteristics may include gender, age, nationality, domicile, language, relationship status, or similar personal traits, but should also include past engagement behavior, third-party engagement behavior, and other market-driven information. You don’t help “people,” you help one person at a time.

4. Give First, Receive Later

It seems that everywhere you look, someone is trying to sell you something. What if instead of selling, you were giving? You can be a real estate agent who delivers free weekly reports on home sales in a region, or even a health coach who offers a free webinar on food choices and without selling anything specific during the presentation. Believe it or not, generosity is marketing.

When it comes to your marketing makeover, one of the easiest things you can do is give something to your customers. Maybe it’s a 10% discount or maybe it’s a free one-on-one session. Whatever it is, understand that when you approach your marketing with a mind to attract people, you should always begin by giving. There is also a very practical online reality to this component: The vast majority of people attempt to block ads served up to them. Giving, however, isn’t blocked; it’s embraced.

5. Have Something To Sell

This may shock the socks off a few of you, but many businesses forget to have something to sell. The marketing wheels are turning and consumers are being attracted, but once converted, they have nothing to purchase. This might seem so obvious you can’t think I’m serious, but I am. Time and time again, I’ve consulted for businesses that are devoid of meaningful products or services.

In the process of creating a new marketing paradigm, you can’t forget to connect the dots from a marketing effort to the product or service being marketed. If your marketing works, you’ll have hot customers ready to spend money. They need something to spend it on, so reverse-engineer the experience, identify the product or service, then ensure your campaign is appropriately linked to it.

“The more you engage with customers the clearer things become and the easier it is to determine what you should be doing.” – John Russell

6. Do it All Over

There’s no easier way to walk back towards irrelevancy than believing you can put your marketing on autopilot. To be sure, you can automate certain actions and triggers, but you can never automate the creativity that goes into designing a timely and meaningful connection with your customer. Once you walk through all the steps above, do it again six months later. You’ll be surprised at how things evolve.

Which one of these steps is most important to you in your career? Let us know by commenting below!

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  1. Richelle

    Jan 5, 2017 at 6:25 pm

    SO good. Thank you.

  2. Karolin

    Aug 28, 2015 at 10:00 am

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  3. Tim Denning

    Aug 7, 2015 at 10:18 am

    Kris this is one of the best articles I have read on Addicted2Success. I love how you’re so raw, and your advice is killer. Thank you so much for sharing this article. I think a lot of people underestimate the value of friends and their own network. People ask me all the time where I get work opportunities from. I tell them that I get all of them from my network. Every entrepreneurial thing I have ever done has been referred to me. A referral from someone influential creates leverage with a prospect because no one wants to ignore someone influential. If I emailed you right now, you might not respond. If your best friend introduced me and said for you to chat with me you would because you don;t want to let your best friend down.

    Thanks again Kris for sharing your wisdom!!!

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  5. Tracie

    Jul 20, 2015 at 6:15 pm

    Interesting and motivating. But at the beginning of the article, you say you’re an introvert, then at the end, you say you’re an extrovert. Which are you? Because while the information in the article seems viable and doable, the credibility is hard to accept when you say you are two things.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 20, 2015 at 11:08 pm

      Hey Tracie,

      Great question! I was hoping someone would bring this up. I thought it would be awkward bringing this up on my own. During editing I had to trim it down from about 4,000 words to 1990. I cut out the sentences that weren’t essential and when I submitted the draft that was one of my oversights. It originally said:

      “Do I do this because I’m an extrovert, or I think everyone needs to party and joke around constantly, or I’m a touchy-feely guy who thinks that speaking to people makes life better and you need to speak to people in order to be in touch with your feelings? Well, that helps, but it’s nowhere near the point I’m trying to make. ”

      I do think that people should speak to others, party once in a while, and be more in touch.

      As a sidenote, I also see myself as a 50/50 introvert/extrovert split. It’s a long story, but here’s the “short” version. I was born in a household with extreme versions of both. I was raised by my mom, but have my dad’s genes, so I have both personality traits. My mom is a bookworm doctor who rarely meets with friends, whereas my dad is a walking music festival. Nature vs nurture in the most literal sense.

      I seem to have the ability to carry both at once. It all depends on mood, momentum, environment, and if I consciously “flip the switch” (which I taught myself to do). My siblings don’t have this ability, they’re either an introvert or extrovert. That’s the case for most people.

      I also don’t think there’s a fine line between them. I think there are situations where we feel socially comfortable and situations where we don’t. Most people are somewhere in-between, and there are very few outliers at the extremes. If I did believe that, I wouldn’t encourage introverts to be around people. I also think more extroverts should be alone to focus. It’s healthy. It all depends. You need to do both. But introversion is the bigger problem – most people don’t go far enough to speak to others, whereas someone who can talk can usually shut up given the right incentives.

  6. Ethan Bridges

    Jul 16, 2015 at 5:56 am

    Hah! This has become like 1.5 posts.

    That’s a really great article, Kris. I’d say some of those ideas are quite fresh. (Or I simply didn’t know about them yet?)

    I’m guilty of this mistake–“dipping my toes in to see if it’s ‘right’ for me.” This is actually an excuse, I realize. You don’t dip your toes when you’re deciding, planning, executing–perhaps even when an idea simply “crosses your mind.” You have to have the desire. Yes, even on the ugliest tasks, you must burn with desire.

    Very nice, Kris. Honestly, this is one of the best posts I’ve read this week! Hey, I signed up on your blog. 😉

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:55 pm

      Hey Ethan,

      Haha, it pretty much has. I feel like I just gave a speech and now I’m doing Q&A.

      So far you seem like you’re on the right track! You’ve got your own blog, posting a lot of content, and it looks like it’s been up for a while. I wouldn’t say it’s necessarily a “dipping your toes in” problem, it’s more of a tactical distribution problem.

      You need to take one or two of those posts, promote the hell out of them, and you’ll start to get a lot more traction. And on your Facebook page (which I like by the way) just take $10 and promote the page to get some likes. If you do it right, you’ll get 1-200. And invite all your current Facebook friends to like it.

      Then what you do is write really good posts with viral headlines, promote those posts on Facebook, capture emails, and monetize with AdSense or your own products, then suddenly you have a thriving blog that makes money. You have the content, you just need to distribute and monetize it.

      In your everyday life, though, if you’re taking it too easy that could be rough. Just keep saying, “One more, one more, one more…” And realize that putting your whole heart into the task is the most important thing you can do. When you do that long enough, you’ll be in the top 10% of your field (self-help blogs) and that’s where the money is.

      Thanks for signing up for the blog! Very much appreciated! Can’t wait to see what you create, and hope that you enjoy all the stuff I put out on my own blog 🙂

      Kris

  7. Charly

    Jul 16, 2015 at 2:30 am

    Kris,

    This article really speaks to me. I am in a place of feeling stuck and your advice about putting down my phone and talking to people really resonates with me. It is great to be reminded that I need I put myself out there more and be more present. Also looking at how I spend my time is super important to drive my productivity. I want to achieve big things but I’m playing a small game, that needs to change!

    Congratulations on all your success!! 🙂

    Thank you for all this amazing advice.

    -Charly 🙂

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:31 pm

      Hey Charly,

      Really sorry to hear you’re in a place of feeling stuck. It’s not a fun place to be (I know first-hand). Right now I’m not in that place, but you never know, it can sneak up on you when you least expect it.

      I’m not in your exact situation, so I wouldn’t know the details, but if you want to play big then you need to stop thinking of yourself as small. It’s easy to be charismatic and free and hard-working when you see yourself as those things.

      In my mind (I used to be a nerd, by the way) I’m Goku and a Korean pop-star and a lot of other strong or charismatic characters all put together. I reprogrammed my brain to change the roles that I play in every situation. Instead of a spectator, I’m a player. And instead of a wall flower, I’m the life of the party. I’m X, not Y. I’m the cause, not the effect. And the way I write is the way I think, I literally think happy thoughts or think well of myself 95% of the time. And the 5% is when I’m being critical of my own skills or being a perfectionist. On bad days, it switches lol. But, just keep doing the same things, and I’m back on my feet.

      So become the person who does those things, and then the results follow. That would be my only feedback for you.

      You’re doing great! Keep it up!

      Kris

  8. Leeann Froese

    Jul 16, 2015 at 2:02 am

    What a great post – some insights here and good reminders too.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:21 pm

      Hey Leeann,

      Glad you liked the post 🙂 hope some of the insights really help you in your life and in your career!

      Kris

  9. Lawrence Berry

    Jul 16, 2015 at 12:40 am

    This some wonderful advice! I really like reading things that can enhance my life and I agree with everything you have said here. Correcting mistakes like neglecting health and relationships and thinking you are not worthy of success will not only make you more successful, but happier as well. A lot of also dont understand the power of who you know. You have to reach out to people and understand them in a way if you want to be more successful. Like you said, you need friends. I cannot tell you how many people I know who got the right job because of some connection they had. Great post!

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:17 pm

      Hey Lawrence,

      I agree 1,000%. Some people have mixed opinions about who you know. I’m of the opinion that you DEFINITELY need to know people, but more importantly, you need to be the type of person others want to know. Knowing people isn’t everything, but it’s a huge missing piece that some people don’t seem to get. Or they think that by partying that they’re networking. It can be, but a lot of the time it’s not.

      Glad you liked the post! I saw you commented on a lot of the other posts. Keep up the hustle! You’re doing good work.

      Kris

  10. Bethany Scott

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:54 pm

    This is one of the most original ‘career mistakes’ articles I’ve read lately – and I’ve read LOTS lately. All these points resonated with me. (Must – stop – overthinking…!!) Thankyou Kris!

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 16, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      Hey Bethany,

      Haha thank you very much! It must’ve taken me 15-20 hours of editing to make everything succinct and unique. The original draft was somewhere around 4,000 words, then I spliced it down to 3,000, then to 2,000. So I had to be very intense with which points I kept in. I’m glad you enjoyed it! 😀

  11. Kristian

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:32 pm

    Nice job man,

    I found myself in these mistakes, but now I realized what I was doing wrong all the time…
    Thank you very much, Keep going…

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 15, 2015 at 11:51 pm

      Hey Kristian,

      Haha, a fellow Kris. I know what you mean. I’ve found myself in basically all of these at one point or another.

      You’ll be fine, though. These are problems with definite solutions.

      Thanks for the comment! 😀 It means a lot to me

      Kris

  12. Bogdan

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:14 pm

    Fantastic article. It seems you’ve gone through your own journey and I could feel your passion through the words you used and the way you set out your thoughts. It personally gave me inspiration, thank you for that.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 15, 2015 at 10:53 pm

      Hey Bogdan,

      Wow, thank you very much 🙂 yeah, I get really hyped when I write articles about success. I’ve found that my self-talk is very similar to how I write, so I’m glad you were inspired haha!

      Good luck on your journey,
      Kris

  13. Timothy Mosely

    Jul 15, 2015 at 10:12 pm

    Hello Kris,

    I’m from Freelance Domination 2.0 Gold and I have to say I LOVE this article, its exceptionally well written and very motivating very well done good sir !

    it speaks to me in so many ways, seeing what you’ve gone through aand where you are heading it is an amazing thing.

    I am most assuredly guilty of more than one of these mistakes im not too humble to admit it, I am launching a IT company but i fear I have been making these mistakes and delaying it I just need to Fully commit to winning.

    If you have any advice for a young man who’s dream is to be a successful freelancer then fire away !

    Thanks,

    Tim.

    • Kris Roxas

      Jul 15, 2015 at 11:19 pm

      Hey Timothy,

      Thank you, very, very much! I put a lot of effort and passion into it. I mean, I wish I were a little more perfectionist with it because I notice a couple things that could be tweaked, but part of fully committing it is just giving them the article to publish so I can continue my journey.

      For you, as a freelancer and (if separate) as an IT company founder, to commit is a weak sentence. It’s about commitment, but it’s about COMMITMENT. Yell the word. COMMIT! There’s a difference. Not just being obnoxious about it, but in meaning.

      There’s nothing inspiring about an obligation. In the end, if you don’t do it, nobody is going to die. So everything you do is never a need, it’s a burning desire. That’s why you need to be obsessed with your goal. You feel so in love with it, it’s your sweetheart, your mistress. You just want to give her all your heart.

      So barring the need for drive and realizing you need to develop a focus similar to being in love, here are the important things you need to know to committing long-term:

      – send status reports every night to a friend or partner (I send 3: my bae, an accountability coach, and a business expert). Include 1. Done, 2. To-Do, 3. Problems/Solution, 4. Comments/Questions
      – use thehabitsheet.com
      – anything within your control, say it in definite language. No “maybe’s” or “try’s.” Only yes or no. You can’t do half a rep and expect to have gains in the gym.
      – the way you talk to yourself will determine your confidence levels and whether you’ll get things done. Be nice to yourself and motivating.
      – use small wins to make yourself happy. Small goals like drinking water, getting out of bed on time, or flossing. When you see yourself accomplishing things like this everyday, psychologically you start to see yourself as somebody who gets stuff done, then you get bigger tasks done.
      – get big, ugly tasks done every single day – they’re your priority (one a day is fine, if it’s time-consuming)
      – take less breaks. The only time you should stop focusing is if you’re in physical pain, if you’re on a schedule, or if you need to politely tell someone you’re working.

      Those are the big ones. Anyways, thanks for the question, it was a good one!

      Kris

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3 Practical Ways Successful People Attract Money

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It takes more than just hard work, grinding and strategies to become successful. Do you actually know what subtle changes to make in order to reach the level of success and financial wealth you desire?

In our constantly changing world, those who are getting ahead in the game are individuals who are learning to raise their standards both personally and professionally. The age of the Internet has certainly brought a new dawn for the average person dialing up that inner craving for more freedom and a higher quality of life.

The opportunities and technological advancements are here, but one thing seems to be lagging: Our ability to produce and maintain the money we actually need to enjoy all that is currently available.

Everywhere you turn there is a new, sleeker, more advanced version of your favorite gizmo. Whether it’s your dream phone, car, computer, or designer clothes, they keep getting better and who doesn’t enjoy having the best of the best?

However, how can we have the best of the best when increasing income continues to be a struggle? As traditional methods of working and doing business radically transform, certain confusion arises especially amongst entrepreneurs.

This is why a recent conversation with my friend and owner of Walletisland, Adrian Brown, challenged me to reassess how I am approaching some of the things we tend to consider unimportant in the entrepreneurial space. I realised there are simple everyday shifts that are often overlooked by entrepreneurs which could be the key to increasing success and income.

For the majority of aspiring and budding entrepreneurs, the backstory is pretty much the same. We all grew up in less than abundant conditions. Our approach is for the most part pretty old fashioned when it comes to personal grooming and our relationship with money. But if there’s one thing I have come to realize when it comes to producing extraordinary results, it is this: Success and attracting money is all about mindset and the attitude one carries.

“Your mindset matters. It affects everything – from the business and investment decisions you make, to the way you raise your children, to your stress levels and overall well-being.” – Peter Diamandis

This is a law based truth I am proving more and more as I interact, connect with and learn from other successful entrepreneurs. In my most recent mastermind with a like-minded individuals, we were able to uncover a few blind spots that continue to hinder many hard working entrepreneurs.

More specifically, we came to a consensus when it comes to attracting more wealth that most individuals hit these three blind spots which hopefully after today, you will no longer fall victim to.

  • Too many success seekers are neglecting their personal appearance and self-grooming. As entrepreneurs, we think only our skillsets should matter, but that’s never the case.
  • Most people are neglecting their everyday personal interaction with money. In other words, aside from the big general numbers they have to deal with in business, most men aren’t deliberately working on improving how they handle, carry and interact with money. Part of this might be old negative paradigms around money running the show.
  • Many business owners are struggling with unattractiveness and low confidence, which certainly hinders their ability to shine, stand out and magnetize success.

If any or all of these resonate, here’s what you can do about it today:

1. Polish your self-image and outer appearance

This doesn’t have to take up too much time. With a little more deliberate thought on the shoes you wear, the wallet you carry, the combination of your clothing, hair, body language and attitude you will not only raise your professional appearance but there is much research proving your earnings will increase too.  Keep it clean, simple, clutter free and corresponding to your business role.

2. Prep yourself for a “money shift”

Is there a psychological relationship between a someones’s wallet and their money? Absolutely. In fact when Adrian got into men’s fashion it was because he experienced firsthand “the money shift”. This happened when he stopped carrying around cheap, worn-out wallets and started carefully choosing the kind that made him feel most opulent.

I’m passionate about helping men strengthen their connection and interaction with money because I realize it’s not about fashion trends. A man’s wallet is something he interacts with daily. It should be a symbol of prosperity and help him de-clutter. It should also be a demonstration of his modern take on money because in our digital society, money is transforming and it’s in our best interest to catch up lest we suffer the consequences of holding on to limiting beliefs around money.”

I couldn’t agree more. Most of us will need to shed limiting beliefs, heal money wounds and learn to handle, carry and interact with money in ways that promote its presence. What money story is your wallet telling right now?

3. Work on your self-confidence and attractiveness

Those struggling with low self-confidence and feelings of unattractiveness need to make drastic changes. Why? According to research by Payscale, over the course of a lifetime, an “attractive person will end up making about 230,000 more than an unattractive person.”

That’s ridiculous especially since being attractive and confident isn’t just for the chosen few. Now that you are in business for yourself, you can’t afford to be bullied by invisible limiting beliefs that question how capable, attractive and confident you are.

If it naturally doesn’t come to you, there are various exercises you can do and small changes you can make in order to build yourself up and make up for any disadvantages you may have had in your upbringing.

“With realization of one’s own potential and self-confidence in one’s ability, one can build a better world.” – Dalai Lama

As entrepreneurs, we are inclined to focus more on strategies and tactics which will help us close the sale sometimes at the expense of our personal health and grooming. Let us refrain from assuming appearances do not count just because we are no longer climbing the corporate ladder.

If the vision is to enjoy a more opulent and enriching lifestyle, take time to align every aspect of your life with this new self-made, inspiring, influential leader you are aspiring to be. All successful people go into the game prepared for that win.

What personal changes will you make to prepare you for more wealth?

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5 Ways to Improve Your Audience Engagement

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When you first thought of your business idea and created your business, you were probably thinking about how much people needed what you had to offer and all of the people you were going to be able to help. Even though none of that has changed, it can be really discouraging to continue to post on social media, do Facebook lives, and try to make any kind of a call to action when all there is are crickets when you do.

Instead of banging your head against the wall, and trying to figure out what is wrong with your idea, let me give you 5 ways to improve your audience engagement:

1. Increase the amount of content you are putting out

Sometimes, the main reason why you are not seeing the engagement you are looking for is because people are not seeing your posts. Each social media platform has its own algorithm.

Even if you posted once or even twice that day, some of those algorithms can still make it possible for your people NOT to see even one of your posts. Posting a few to several times a day will increase the number of people seeing your posts which should, in turn, increase your engagement.

2. Ask the right questions

Remember when I said that posting a few to several times a day will increase the number of people seeing your posts which should, in turn, increase your engagement? The reason it should but may not increase your engagement is because you are not asking enough of the right questions.

You can post content that you like or are interested in, but you have to remember YOU are not the one buying your products and services. You need to learn what your target audience wants to see and talk about. Learn what gets them engaged and what keeps them engaged by asking the right questions.

“We thought that we had the answers, it was the questions we had wrong.” Bono

3. Switch it up a little

Have you ever had a routine that was so dry and bland it made you dread doing it? That is exactly what your audience feels like when you post the same kind of content all the time. Everyone doesn’t like meatloaf every day. No matter what you are selling, your audience craves interesting, informative, and encouraging content. If you can give this to them consistently, they will fall in love with you and keep on coming back for more.

4. Analyze your data

When you increase the content you put out, you will have a lot more data to analyze so you can understand the people who you are trying to reach. This will help you to understand which kind of content is consumed more by your audience, what platform has better engagement, and what your audience is trying to tell you they want and need.

“It’s difficult to imagine the power that you’re going to have when so many different sorts of data are available.”- Tim Berners-Lee

5. Calls to action are key

The last thing you want to do is to give your audience some amazing content and not have a place for them to go to learn or get more. Inviting yourself somewhere can be very awkward, so why would you want your audience to do that? They may want to connect with you but they don’t know where to go and how to connect. Invite them in and make them feel wanted and welcomed. This will cut out the awkwardness and also the confusion of how they can better connect with you.

Increasing your engagement can be done easily if you are willing to follow these 5 ways to improve your audience engagement. Once you have done that, the engagement will come and the sales are bound to follow.

How are you staying connected to your audience? Make sure to comment below and let us know!

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A Tim Ferriss Like Japan Trip Rebuilt Me – Here’s Why

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“Art imitates life so you must experience life to create art” – Unknown (possibly Tim Ferriss)

This quote is the reason why I recently took a holiday to Japan and why from now on I will travel more. All of us have a dream, a vision, a goal, a business which is another word for our own “art.”

Anything worth doing has an element of creativity attached to it which in essence is art. While on the way to Japan listening to the Tim Ferriss podcast, I heard this quote above. I realized that my life’s work had fizzled out somewhat because I needed to experience life more.

This whole blogging thing only works when I experience life – travel is the best way to do that. Second to that, I have been listening to Tim Ferriss’s podcast for years, and he talks a lot about Japan and how the culture can really positively impact your life.

Hearing this advice second hand just wasn’t good enough for me. That’s why, in Timmy style, I booked an unplanned trip to Japan with only two days notice. It was what I called a Tim Ferriss like trip to Japan. I wanted to transcend my current circumstances and boy did I do that!

Things before Japan had become a bit stale. I wasn’t quite me and I needed rebuilding again. It was time to self-disrupt and grow more as a person. I’d stopped growing and that’s why I felt off. Japan changed all of that.

Here’s how this Japan trip rebuilt me:

 

We’re all the same: we’re all loved.

Sitting at the airport in Australia I saw everyone saying goodbye to their loved ones. I did the same and said goodbye to my family and girlfriend. I sat there for around ten minutes and realized that we’re all loved by someone.

We all have someone who would be sad or miss us if we didn’t return home. All of us want to come home safe and see our loved ones again. While tragedy can strike, these trips to places like Japan are a must – they’re part of our journey in life.

These journeys we take are how we find ourselves. Without travel, we become lost and can’t understand how we fit into this world.

Knowing I’m loved and knowing the importance of these journeys helped rebuild me.

 

Japan can show you what is wrong too.

So far I’ve made Japan sound like it’s all roses – it’s not. I saw people working ridiculous hours. I saw Japanese people who had become obsessed with meaningless westernized brands. I saw women who still appeared to be second class compared with men.

Japan didn’t show me perfection; it showed me reality and that means that there are always going to be things that need to change. Each of us can form part of that change.

 

Objectification of women has changed men in a bad way.

For some reason, Japan gave me immense clarity. I noticed that me (and all other men) have become hardwired to look at women’s bodies. Even the nicest most loyal men who treat women well have been affected. I noticed this unconscious behavior in myself while in Australia and began questioning it.

Do we need to look at women in such a physical way? Is it really necessary? Is this addiction taking up so much of our creative genius and potential?

The answer to all of these questions, after Japan, was that a problem exists and this addiction is not serving as well. I’m not proud of this fact and I for one plan on not only being aware of it but also changing it. This idea helped rebuild me.

 

The Samurai showed the benefits of discipline.

While being an Aussie tourist walking through the grounds of the Imperial Palace, I saw some of the emperors Samurai training. The facility was surrounded by fences but being a tall guy, I could still see over the fence.

I found these Samurai to be cool because they were laser-focused on what they were doing. The Samurai had purpose and precision accuracy. Their discipline taught them patience and you could see the courage in their actions. Everything was thought through and nothing was left to chance.

The Samurai helped me rebuild my life by reminding me of what discipline can do when we embrace it. A disorganized mind combined with actions that are all over the place results in a lot of nothingness. Start with being a master at one thing instead of trying to be mediocre at lots of things.

 

Concrete Jungle vs. Nature

Before Japan, I was obsessed with visiting places like San Fran and New York to see big concrete cities and skyscrapers. Now that I’ve been to Japan I’ve realized that I’m completely bored of that. Going to My Fuji and some of the mountains in Kyoto is far more impactful.

Concrete jungles are all the same once you’ve seen a few. They all have lots of box’s – some tall, some wide, some full of lights and some full of views. When you see enough of these, you no longer become impressed by them.

Nature is impossible to top though. No matter how many lakes, mountains, beaches or forests I visit, I never get sick of them. That’s because it’s in our human DNA to feel a connection with nature. Nature is a place we can relax and recharge the batteries.

Japan taught me that for the rest of my travel adventures I am going to focus on beautiful places that encompass nature instead of man-made structures and fake tourist attractions like theme parks. Knowing what nature means to me has helped me to rebuild myself.

 

See as many places as you can.

This trip to Japan made me see that I get bored after around five days in one country. I’ve discovered that it’s ideal to see as many places as you can. The more of this Earth you experience, the more your life changes.

 

Don’t forget attention to detail.

Japanese people, I learned, are obsessed with attention to detail. Everything from the signage at train stations to the way they present food has been thought of.

“It’s not about being perfect; it’s about being purposeful”

It’s the little things that the Japanese people do that make you fall in love with them by the end of your stay in their country.

 

Manners feel good.

I quickly saw that Japanese people are very kind and have amazing manners. They say thank you so many times. As you walk out of a restaurant, the whole team say thank you like a giant choir. Being grateful and acknowledging each other is at the heart of their culture.

You can’t help but smile when you witness this way of treating one another. Not every stranger you meet in a foreign country is trying to commit a terrorist attack.

All I can say is manners just feel good and it put’s you in a positive mood. Plus, you walk around with a big fat smile on your face and that feels refreshing.

 

Connection through transport.

Japanese culture feels very connected and that’s partly to do with their very efficient transport system. There’s a subway station on practically every corner that’s affordable. Trains run every few minutes, so there’s never any need to run to the subway station to catch a train.

The bullet trains allow you to skip between states or regions in a very short amount of time. No need to board a plane or go through the razzle-dazzle of airport bureaucracy gone mad (thanks to perceived terrorism and the news).

While sitting on the Shinkansen (bullet train) to Kyoto, I saw families that were on their way to visit one another. They looked so relaxed and sat there enjoying the countryside of Japan as I did. It was a regular occurrence made possible by a fantastic transport system that is orderly and well thought out.

 

Technology is exhausting.

The negative side of technology is prominent in Japan. There are cities that are littered with giant LED screens, bright lights and technology on every corner. In these places, I felt unable to think clearly and the bright lights made me feel like I suffered from Attention Deficit Disorder.

There was technology within the toilet seat, on the plane, at restaurants and ugly vending machines selling fat causing sugar water on every corner.

On the flip side, what I loved about Japan was that talking loudly on a not so smart phone was prohibited in most places and there were locations where phones were non-existent. Japanese people seem to know how to balance life between being “ON” and being “OFF” when it comes to their phone.

“Instead of wasting your life away on your phone, Japan teaches you to become present and appreciate the here and now”

You notice things that you normally wouldn’t where I’m from in the Western World. With so much empty space, Japan is a great place to rebuild yourself. The rebuilding process needs thinking time away from phones.

 

Minimalism and being space conscious is beautiful.

The Japanese people are obsessed with being space conscious. They have double-decker car spaces, cube-shaped cars, cars made for people who must be three-foot tall, hotel rooms where you can barely open the door and space-saving retail shops like you’ve never seen.

 

Time is money in Japan.

My plane was on time to the second. Every train was on time. The tour guide at Mt Fuji was on time. The hotel cleaning was to the minute and so was the checkout. Time is money and it’s one resource we should take more seriously. Time gives you the opportunity to rebuild and grow.

 

Low energy states can be healed by travel.

More than a year since my last break, my energy levels in my career were at an all-time low. I had headaches every day and felt uninspired to a degree. It turns out all I needed was a holiday to rebuild.

Your body guides you.
Your heart guides you.
Your mind guides you.

This Japan trip taught me to take time to relax and recharge. Don’t ignore your body ever!

 

Climbing Japanese mountains is a metaphor for life.

I climbed this mountain in Kyoto. Halfway up I wanted to quit. I thought to myself “I’ve seen enough. Why go to the summit?”

That’s the problem right there. When we’re working on our goals, we give up too soon. We settle for okay instead of amazing. If this mountain were your life, would you give up when it got a bit hard? I’m telling you not to.

All the growth and everything you ever wanted comes from pushing that extra 2% to reach the top of the mountain. The feeling at the top is indescribable. Only those who are prepared to go the extra mile will know what it feels like to look down from the top.

Two more things to remember:

1. Once you reach the top, there’s always another mountain.

2. You must also help someone else climb the mountain to reach your full potential. Living is giving.

This mountain I climbed in Japan taught me so much about rebuilding my life (and yes I love mountain analogies).

 

There’s no place like a hot spring to contemplate life and rebuild your life.

While lying in a hot spring (Onsen) in Northern Tokyo, I sat there and thought I was going to be enjoying a relaxing time in a hot spring. What no one told me is that my entire life would replay before me. The onsen became a place to contemplate everything that had transpired thus far.

The hot water from the springs has a certain effect on your mind. I often find that my best thinking and ideas come from a shower and I’ve heard other people talk about this same experience.

“The hot spring sent my mind into deep thinking that I’ll never forget”

 

To enter a Japanese hot spring, you must be fully naked. You can’t bring clothes, material possessions, technology or a corporate mask. There’s nowhere to hide and no phone to look at. You sit there naked and bare your soul. It’s the one time where people can see you for exactly who you are.

Before contemplating my own life, I observed the men around me. Many of them seemed to be contemplating their life. Some looked tired and worn out from years of slaving away and doing hard labor.

Many of them looked like they were wasting away from years of working too hard and not remembering what truly matters. It was as if they had finally discovered what matters but that it was now too late. Then I saw the exact opposite – young men who had their whole lives ahead of them.

They too would sit there and weigh up their options. Should they follow their dream or fall for the Western myth that is collecting useless objects of little value? There were times where I wanted to answer this question for them.

I realized after a lot of thought that these young men had to come to that realization themselves. When you discover these truths of life yourself, everything changes and the principles stick.

I saw these young men by the end of my time in the hot spring for who they were and what they could become (their potential). I finally understood that they too could change the world in some impactful way if they chose too. We all have that choice and it’s ours to make.

“This stark comparison between the older men and the younger men was one of the most profound lessons of my Japan trip”

Both generations of men also looked up at the sky while doing this deep thinking. I found that quite bizarre and all of them did it.

What’s strange is that I also looked up at the sky without consciously being aware. Once I’d finished observing the men in the hot spring, I turned my thinking over to my own life. I had truth bomb after truth bomb as I sat there. I found myself running to the change room every 30 minutes to write stuff down.

What I had achieved so far and what I needed to do next became so clear. I sat in the hot spring proud of who I’ve become. For the first time in my life, I got to sit there and appreciate everything I’d put out into the world. I hadn’t stopped to see how far I’d come before this moment.

I was so focused on the present and trying to gain future success that I didn’t even know how proud I could be of myself. This fact has become the foundation of me going through the rebuilding phase yet again after five years since my last major self-renovation.

 

In summary….

Everyone reading this blog post has the opportunity to rebuild their life and consistently self-disrupt themselves. Going to places like Japan gives you the opportunity to experience life and see how far you’ve come. You can’t be ON 24/7 like those picture quotes tell you to be.

Once in a while, you need to be proud of who you are and think about who you can become.

Japan is a perfect place to do this and rebuild your life. Stay true to yourself and inspire others.

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The Six Point Marketing Makeover That Will Score You An Endless Stream of Business

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Every business has room to improve, but marketing is a habitually ignored facet. We spend so much time posting on social media and money on ad buys that we forget to evaluate the overall efficacy of our marketing efforts. Our efforts eventually become outdated, and we are left wondering why. With a little effort, you can transform your marketing to generate a consistent stream of ongoing business. It won’t break the bank, and it is doable – if you allow yourself to establish a game plan and stick to it.

Here are the six pieces of a true marketing makeover that will forever change the playing field for you:

1. Define Who You Are

If you polled your customers, who would they say you are? I’m not talking about what you do, but who you are. What do you stand for? What are your values? What are the (business) issues making you want to write a manifesto? While none of the answers completely define you, they all speak to some important aspect of your overall brand.

Customers need to know who you are. Thankfully, we’ve seen some great examples of this. Nordstrom is defined by how it handles returns. Zappos is renowned for its customer service. Toms (shoes) is the “One for One” company. Your product face may be public, but what about you? The better you define your brand and the people behind it, the more the right customers are attracted to it.

2. Explain What You Do

“We employ the highest levels of craftsmanship in our products,” or “your satisfaction is our highest value” – these are wasted space. If you want to establish a brand that attracts customers in like moths to a light, you need to run away from ambiguous, gratuitous statements and embrace specificity. “We teach people how to podcast using the latest low-cost technology,” or “we make shoes that will last ten times longer and are ten times more comfortable than any competitor in the space.” These are statements telling customers exactly what you do.

In communicating what you do, it’s important to reinforce the value system you claim to have (i.e., who you are). This gives your customers a framework to develop trust and see the authenticity of your brand. Explaining what you do, however, is about making it easy for customers to recognize why they need you. If you explain what you do well enough, your customers will often realize they have a problem they didn’t know they had – and you can fix it for them.

“Communication – the human connection – is the key to personal and career success.” – Paul J. Meyer

3. Identify Who You Help

You’ve probably heard that the “riches are in the niches,” and regardless of whether you agree with the statement, there’s a gold nugget hidden in it. A well-defined target market will help you structure custom-tailored messaging that will hit every time.

The most effective marketing efforts target identifiable characteristics of your customers that link a specific need with a specific solution. The characteristics may include gender, age, nationality, domicile, language, relationship status, or similar personal traits, but should also include past engagement behavior, third-party engagement behavior, and other market-driven information. You don’t help “people,” you help one person at a time.

4. Give First, Receive Later

It seems that everywhere you look, someone is trying to sell you something. What if instead of selling, you were giving? You can be a real estate agent who delivers free weekly reports on home sales in a region, or even a health coach who offers a free webinar on food choices and without selling anything specific during the presentation. Believe it or not, generosity is marketing.

When it comes to your marketing makeover, one of the easiest things you can do is give something to your customers. Maybe it’s a 10% discount or maybe it’s a free one-on-one session. Whatever it is, understand that when you approach your marketing with a mind to attract people, you should always begin by giving. There is also a very practical online reality to this component: The vast majority of people attempt to block ads served up to them. Giving, however, isn’t blocked; it’s embraced.

5. Have Something To Sell

This may shock the socks off a few of you, but many businesses forget to have something to sell. The marketing wheels are turning and consumers are being attracted, but once converted, they have nothing to purchase. This might seem so obvious you can’t think I’m serious, but I am. Time and time again, I’ve consulted for businesses that are devoid of meaningful products or services.

In the process of creating a new marketing paradigm, you can’t forget to connect the dots from a marketing effort to the product or service being marketed. If your marketing works, you’ll have hot customers ready to spend money. They need something to spend it on, so reverse-engineer the experience, identify the product or service, then ensure your campaign is appropriately linked to it.

“The more you engage with customers the clearer things become and the easier it is to determine what you should be doing.” – John Russell

6. Do it All Over

There’s no easier way to walk back towards irrelevancy than believing you can put your marketing on autopilot. To be sure, you can automate certain actions and triggers, but you can never automate the creativity that goes into designing a timely and meaningful connection with your customer. Once you walk through all the steps above, do it again six months later. You’ll be surprised at how things evolve.

Which one of these steps is most important to you in your career? Let us know by commenting below!

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