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Let Your Feet Do The Talking

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The message ‘let your feet do the talking’ takes me back to my younger days as it was something my dad would say before a particularly big football match. I never quite realised up until recently how that message has impacted me in all areas of my life. Predominantly, it is about life position and knowing your worth, which is important for all of us.

In our football changing room before a match, we had lots of different personalities – those players who would make others laugh, start the banter or tell the coach how good they were. They might question the coaches’ decision on why they were substituted and so on. 

Personally, I was the captain for most of the teams I played for but was also one of the quietest in the changing room. Perhaps a different way of leading by example – making sure my shirt was tucked in and sleeves rolled up. Then, when we crossed the white line, it was like a switch turned on and I turned into a different animal.

Whilst I was quietly confident and trusted myself for the talent to come through, I can’t deny that I did sometimes look at those players and think, ‘I wish I had the confidence to stand up and say ‘look, I’m good’ or ‘I’m the best.’

I can certainly see how having that personality to be in people’s faces – metaphorically speaking now, can put people on the front foot initially and leave you feeling like they are better than you. Psychologically, if you are coming back from injury or experiencing trials and tribulations on a new team, those people who were able to give it the big ‘I AM’ would very likely be slightly ahead, be listened to more, get more opportunities – even if there was no substance to their claims.

Then, the doubt can start to kick in – ‘am I really as good as what I believe to be the case…why don’t I trust myself as much as I used to?’ Perhaps you can relate to this in an area of your life?

The Different Changing Rooms

So, moving away from football now, what if we applied the concept of Changing Rooms to our general lives? We could call it a ‘life changing room, business changing room, relationship  changing room, or social media changing room. We could call it whatever we like!

In our Business Changing Room – what if we have a product that we know will be so useful, is better than others products, and will have so much impact on people?

In our Social Media Changing Room – what if others have more ‘friends’ who are willing to share their stories, their ideas or their progress more and have so many more followers or people liking and sharing things related to their posts compared to ours?

In a Career Changing Room – what if we’re producing the goods behind the scenes and have been working so hard to please the boss so we can work towards that promotion? Our colleague, however, is the one that is always jumping up and down saying, ‘look how hard I’ve been working’ and gets noticed more with praise as a result.

This is where the meaning of ‘let your feet do the talking’ takes on a whole new meaning and becomes really impactful – and it certainly has for me. 

In truth, there will always be times when we see people being more confident and drumming up their abilities more than we do. We will see others are telling the world they can do this or that. We will see others wishing to showcase their information or their products. We even see someone who is wanting to impress in a manner that you would only cringe at doing.

There is absolutely no judgment on people doing that by the way – that is completely OK. I have also needed to do that at times in my life and certainly in my business. However, if that does not feel like the most natural way to approach things, it’s also okay too!

In my opinion, ‘Letting your feet do the talking’ encompasses:

  • A solid foundation – just knowing yourself and where you’re coming from and you’re happy with that
  • Knowing your position – not that you’re better than the next person, rather that you’re equal to all those around you
  • Confidence, self-reliance, knowing your worth, and trusting yourself
  • Having faith in your ability, despite what others tell you or what you hear others say about themselves
  • Having knowledge that whatever you are and whoever you are will shine through in the end

There is so much more to ‘letting your feet do the talking.’ Perhaps though it is worth considering that those encompassing aspects I’ve just mentioned are things that we are all born with. We’re inherently confident, we inherently have faith in our ability, we inherently trust ourselves. They are our homebase starting positions. They are our natural state and believing otherwise may indicate we’ve moved away from our natural well-being for some reason.

For example, we’re comparing ourselves against others; we’re coming back from injury and are doubting ourselves to perform at the same level that we know we can; we haven’t achieved our pressurised goals; or someone has told us we can’t do this or that.

If that happens, we can always remember that we’ve got this far, we must have been successful in our own way, we have made it to this point and we’ve always got ourselves. Coming back to homebase and knowing ourselves as we do, we can always just get back to ‘letting our feet do the talking.’

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Dave Knight helps to change lives through a conversation that guides people back towards their innate health and wellbeing. With a background in mental health, addictions, business and sport, his time is being dedicated to educating people through Articles, his Bulletproof Yourself products, 1:1 work with clients; small groups, as well as articles. The focus of the work is to help people feel bulletproof against any area of challenge in their lives.

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How to Stay Motivated to Achieve Your Goals

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Time is the raw material of our lives. How we choose to spend it, shapes our life accordingly. So having the motivation to spend it on achieving goals is crucial to creating a life we want.

What is Motivation?

The Oxford dictionary defines motivation as the desire or willingness to do something – our drive to take action.

Scientifically, motivation has its roots in the dopamine pathways of our brains. When we do something that feels good, that’s dopamine kicking in. Our actions are driven by the desire for that reward (the good feeling).

Author Steven Pressfield describes motivation more practically. He says we hit a point where the pain of not doing something becomes greater than the pain of doing it. He sees motivation as crossing the threshold where it’s easier to take action than it is to be idle. Like choosing to feel awkward while making sales calls over feeling disappointed about a diminishing bank account.

However you choose to think about it, we all want to harness motivation to achieve our goals. 

How to Get Motivated

James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, says that most people misunderstand motivation. They think that motivation is what gets us to take action. In reality, motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. Once we start a task, it’s easier to continue making progress. Like Isaac Newton’s first law: objects in motion stay in motion.

This means most of the resistance when working on your goals comes right before we start. Since motivation naturally occurs after we start, we need to focus on making starting easier.

4 Ways to Make Starting Easier

1. Schedule it

One reason people can’t get started on things is that they haven’t planned when to do it. 

When things aren’t scheduled it’s easier for them to fall by the wayside. You’ll end up hoping motivation falls in your lap or hoping that you’ll muster enough willpower to get it done.

An article in the Guardian said, “If you waste resources trying to decide when or where to work, you’ll impede your capacity to do the work.”

2. Measure something

It’s easy to feel uninspired when you don’t know if you’re making progress or what you’re even working towards. That’s why you need to make your success measurable in some way. Starting is easy when you know exactly how much closer your current actions will bring you to achieving your goal.

3. Extrinsic motivation

This type of motivation is from external factors. It can be either positive or negative. Positive motivation consists of incentives like money, prizes, and grades. Negative motivation consists of deterrents like being fired, having a fight, or being fined. Extrinsic motivation doesn’t work effectively long-term, but it can work well in the short term to get you started on something.

4. Make it public

Keep yourself accountable by telling friends and family your goals, or even sharing them on social media. This makes it easier to start something because you’re pressured to not let others down.

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar

How to Stay Motivated Long Term

When we say we want to feel motivated to do something, we don’t want to be pushed or guilted into doing a task. We want to be so attracted and drawn to the idea that we can’t resist not taking action. That’s why it’s important to build a foundation that will set you up for consistency.

These are 5 techniques that will help you do just that:

1. Stay in your goldilocks zone

The goldilocks zone is when a task is the perfect level of difficulty—not too hard and not too easy. In this zone, we reach peak motivation and focus.

For example, let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against a 4-year-old. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become bored and not want to play. Now let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against Serena Williams. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become demotivated because the match is too challenging. 

The Goldilocks zone is in the middle of that spectrum. You want to face someone with equal skill as you. That way you have a chance to win, but you have to focus and try for it. Adjusting your workload and goals over time to stay within your Goldilocks zone keeps you engaged and motivated long-term.

2. Pursue intrinsically motivated goals

Being intrinsically motivated to achieve a goal is when you want to achieve it for what it is. There are no external factors like a reward or the risk of being fired. The drive behind your actions is coming from within. 

For most intrinsic goals we pursue them because they will enrich our lives or bring us closer to fulfillment. That makes these goals extremely sustainable long-term because they directly affect our quality of life and the things we care about.

3. Use “chunking”

Chunking is the technique of breaking down a goal into smaller short-term targets. By doing this you achieve multiple successes in your pursuit of the main goal. This triggers the brain’s reward system and drives you to keep going.

Traditionally, you may set a goal that you expect to achieve in one year. That’s a long time to commit without seeing any results along the way. By chunking your goals into monthly or quarterly targets, you get the consistent positive reinforcement you need to stay motivated long-term.

For example, instead of trying to lose 50 pounds in one year, try to lose 4 pounds every month for 12 months.

4. Be flexible

We’re all victims of circumstance. Things happen along our journey that we can either adjust to or quit because of. That’s why it’s important to have leeway and flexibility when you’re pursuing a goal. If you expect everything to go perfectly, the inevitable failure can make you disengaged and desireless. When you plan for things to go wrong, you make sure you can keep up for the long haul.

5. Pursue your goals in a sustainable fashion

Don’t lose hope when you’re not an overnight success. Overnight successes are the 1%—for the most part, they don’t exist. What we see as an “overnight success” is actually countless hours of work behind the scenes finally hitting a tipping point. Pursuing goals is a story of patience, persistence, and unseen effort.

Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison is a recipe for a drop in self-confidence and satisfaction. It also cultivates a mindset where you think you haven’t done enough. As a result, you may raise your expectations and put more pressure on yourself.

This is pointless because things worth achieving take time. So we obviously won’t compare to the things around us when starting.

Mastering motivation is a superpower. With that ability at your fingertips, you can accomplish your goals and shape a life you want to live in.

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