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Let Your Feet Do The Talking

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The message ‘let your feet do the talking’ takes me back to my younger days as it was something my dad would say before a particularly big football match. I never quite realised up until recently how that message has impacted me in all areas of my life. Predominantly, it is about life position and knowing your worth, which is important for all of us.

In our football changing room before a match, we had lots of different personalities – those players who would make others laugh, start the banter or tell the coach how good they were. They might question the coaches’ decision on why they were substituted and so on. 

Personally, I was the captain for most of the teams I played for but was also one of the quietest in the changing room. Perhaps a different way of leading by example – making sure my shirt was tucked in and sleeves rolled up. Then, when we crossed the white line, it was like a switch turned on and I turned into a different animal.

Whilst I was quietly confident and trusted myself for the talent to come through, I can’t deny that I did sometimes look at those players and think, ‘I wish I had the confidence to stand up and say ‘look, I’m good’ or ‘I’m the best.’

I can certainly see how having that personality to be in people’s faces – metaphorically speaking now, can put people on the front foot initially and leave you feeling like they are better than you. Psychologically, if you are coming back from injury or experiencing trials and tribulations on a new team, those people who were able to give it the big ‘I AM’ would very likely be slightly ahead, be listened to more, get more opportunities – even if there was no substance to their claims.

Then, the doubt can start to kick in – ‘am I really as good as what I believe to be the case…why don’t I trust myself as much as I used to?’ Perhaps you can relate to this in an area of your life?

The Different Changing Rooms

So, moving away from football now, what if we applied the concept of Changing Rooms to our general lives? We could call it a ‘life changing room, business changing room, relationship  changing room, or social media changing room. We could call it whatever we like!

In our Business Changing Room – what if we have a product that we know will be so useful, is better than others products, and will have so much impact on people?

In our Social Media Changing Room – what if others have more ‘friends’ who are willing to share their stories, their ideas or their progress more and have so many more followers or people liking and sharing things related to their posts compared to ours?

In a Career Changing Room – what if we’re producing the goods behind the scenes and have been working so hard to please the boss so we can work towards that promotion? Our colleague, however, is the one that is always jumping up and down saying, ‘look how hard I’ve been working’ and gets noticed more with praise as a result.

This is where the meaning of ‘let your feet do the talking’ takes on a whole new meaning and becomes really impactful – and it certainly has for me. 

In truth, there will always be times when we see people being more confident and drumming up their abilities more than we do. We will see others are telling the world they can do this or that. We will see others wishing to showcase their information or their products. We even see someone who is wanting to impress in a manner that you would only cringe at doing.

There is absolutely no judgment on people doing that by the way – that is completely OK. I have also needed to do that at times in my life and certainly in my business. However, if that does not feel like the most natural way to approach things, it’s also okay too!

In my opinion, ‘Letting your feet do the talking’ encompasses:

  • A solid foundation – just knowing yourself and where you’re coming from and you’re happy with that
  • Knowing your position – not that you’re better than the next person, rather that you’re equal to all those around you
  • Confidence, self-reliance, knowing your worth, and trusting yourself
  • Having faith in your ability, despite what others tell you or what you hear others say about themselves
  • Having knowledge that whatever you are and whoever you are will shine through in the end

There is so much more to ‘letting your feet do the talking.’ Perhaps though it is worth considering that those encompassing aspects I’ve just mentioned are things that we are all born with. We’re inherently confident, we inherently have faith in our ability, we inherently trust ourselves. They are our homebase starting positions. They are our natural state and believing otherwise may indicate we’ve moved away from our natural well-being for some reason.

For example, we’re comparing ourselves against others; we’re coming back from injury and are doubting ourselves to perform at the same level that we know we can; we haven’t achieved our pressurised goals; or someone has told us we can’t do this or that.

If that happens, we can always remember that we’ve got this far, we must have been successful in our own way, we have made it to this point and we’ve always got ourselves. Coming back to homebase and knowing ourselves as we do, we can always just get back to ‘letting our feet do the talking.’

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Dave Knight helps to change lives through a conversation that guides people back towards their innate health and wellbeing. With a background in mental health, addictions, business and sport, his time is being dedicated to educating people through Articles, his Bulletproof Yourself products, 1:1 work with clients; small groups, as well as articles. The focus of the work is to help people feel bulletproof against any area of challenge in their lives.

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The Brutal Truth About Entrepreneurship with ADHD (And Why Most Advice Is Making It Worse)

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You’re not lazy. You’re not undisciplined… and you’re definitely not broken.

You’re an entrepreneur with ADHD, and right now you’re probably sitting on 19 unfinished projects, 47 open tabs, and a brain that feels like it’s running on 12 different radio stations at once.

You’ve read the books. You’ve tried the planners, the Pomodoro timers, the accountability groups. You’ve even hired coaches who promised to “fix” your focus. Yet here you are — brilliant ideas, massive potential, and a business that still feels like it’s one step away from collapsing under the weight of your own mind.

Here’s what almost nobody in the entrepreneurial space will admit:

The real struggle isn’t your ADHD. It’s that you’ve been trying to run a neurodivergent brain inside a neurotypical business model — and then beating yourself up when it doesn’t work.

Most advice for entrepreneurs was written by people whose brains work differently. They preach consistency, routines, long-term planning, and steady execution like those things are universal truths. For the ADHD entrepreneur, those “truths” feel like trying to swim upstream in cement. You can force it for a while (and you have), but eventually your brain rebels, the burnout hits, and you’re left feeling like a failure who just needs to “try harder.”

That cycle is quietly destroying more talented founders than cash flow problems or bad hires ever could.

The deeper layer most people never reach is this: your ADHD isn’t a bug in the system. It’s a different operating system entirely. And when you stop trying to install Windows on a Mac and start building everything around macOS, the game changes completely.

The Hidden Addiction That Keeps ADHD Entrepreneurs Stuck

You already know the surface symptoms — time blindness, rejection sensitivity, starting strong and fading fast, shiny object syndrome.

But the real trap is more insidious.

It’s the addiction to chaos and novelty.

Your brain is wired for dopamine. New ideas, big visions, last-minute sprints, high-stakes pressure — these things light you up like nothing else. The boring, repetitive, systems-building work that actually scales a business? It feels like torture.

So unconsciously, you keep your business in a state of controlled chaos. You say yes to too many things. You chase the next exciting opportunity. You avoid building the boring infrastructure because “I work better under pressure anyway.”

And every time the pressure gets too high, you crash, swear you’ll get organized next quarter, and repeat the cycle.

Meanwhile, the neurotypical advice keeps telling you to “just build better habits.” As if your brain is a poorly trained dog that needs more discipline instead of a high-performance race car that needs the right fuel and track.

This isn’t a character flaw. It’s neurology.

And until you stop treating your wiring as something to overcome and start treating it as your greatest strategic advantage, you’ll stay stuck in the same exhausting loop.

The Identity Shift That Changes Everything

The entrepreneurs with ADHD who finally break through don’t “fix” their brains.

They redesign their entire business to work with their brains.

They stop trying to become the consistent, routine-loving founder the gurus talk about. Instead, they become the architect of a system that leverages their natural strengths — hyperfocus, pattern recognition, creative problem-solving, relentless drive under pressure — while outsourcing or automating everything that drains them.

This is the layer most ADHD entrepreneurs never reach because it requires something terrifying: accepting that you are never going to be “normal” at entrepreneurship… and that’s exactly why you can win bigger than most.

Your ability to see connections others miss. Your tolerance for uncertainty. Your capacity to go all-in when something lights you up. These aren’t liabilities. They’re unfair advantages in a world that rewards speed, creativity, and bold moves.

The shift is simple but brutal:

Stop trying to manage your ADHD. Start designing your business around it.

How to Actually Build a Business That Works With Your Brain

  1. Stop fighting your energy cycles — weaponize them. Most ADHD entrepreneurs try to force 8-hour focused days. That’s insane. Instead, track when your brain actually works best (for many it’s 10pm-2am or random 4-hour hyperfocus bursts). Build your schedule around those windows. Protect them like gold. Do the deep, high-leverage work then. Use the low-energy periods for admin, calls, or recovery.
  2. Build “chaos containers,” not rigid systems. Traditional project management tools feel like cages. Create loose but effective structures that give your brain freedom. Use tools like Notion with massive flexibility, or body-doubling (working alongside someone virtually), or even hiring a “chaos wrangler” — an assistant who thrives on turning your scattered ideas into executable plans.
  3. Turn your rejection sensitivity into rocket fuel. That intense fear of letting people down or looking stupid? Channel it into creating ridiculously high standards for your customer experience or product quality. Use it as fuel instead of letting it paralyze you.
  4. Outsource the parts that make you want to die. The execution, follow-through, and maintenance phases are where most ADHD entrepreneurs lose. Hire or partner with people who love the details. Your job is vision, strategy, and big swings. Let someone else own the spreadsheets.
  5. Create external pressure on your own terms. Deadlines and public commitments work wonders for the ADHD brain. Use them strategically — announce launches, create beta groups, or work with coaches who understand neurodivergence instead of fighting it.

The entrepreneurs with ADHD who are quietly crushing it right now aren’t the ones who finally became “disciplined.” They’re the ones who stopped apologizing for how their brain works and started building empires that are specifically engineered for it.

They have teams that handle the boring stuff. They have systems that flex with their energy instead of fighting it. They’ve turned their “flaws” into the exact reasons their businesses stand out.

Your ADHD brain is not the enemy. The enemy was trying to play the game by rules that were never designed for you.

The moment you accept that and start designing everything… your calendar, your team, your offers, your processes — around how you actually operate, the struggle doesn’t disappear… but it becomes manageable, even exhilarating.

You were never meant to fit the mold. You were meant to break it and build something better.

The world doesn’t need another cookie-cutter entrepreneur. It needs the chaotic, brilliant, all-in, slightly unhinged visionaries who can only operate at full power when the game is built for them.

That’s you.

Stop trying to fix yourself. Start building the business that was always meant to be run by a mind like yours.

Your next breakthrough isn’t going to come from working harder or being more consistent. It’s going to come from finally giving yourself permission to work differently.

And when you do that? Watch what happens.

The same brain that once felt like a curse becomes the exact reason your business becomes unstoppable.

You’ve got this. Not despite the ADHD. Because of it.

If you want to learn more from me or send me a personal message I’ll respond to you on Instagram at https://instagram.com/iamjoelbrown speak soon!

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