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6 Success Secrets Of The Super Motivated

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6 Success Secrets Of The Super Motivated

As an author and motivational speaker and coach, I often get into discussions about what it takes for someone to get and stay motivated. What is their secret?

After talking to many people across the country I realize there is one discernible difference between someone who is motivated and someone who is not. It is in the way that they think. I call these people the super motivated. They realize the impact their own daily thinking has on their life.

Here are 6 tools the super motivated people use in order to get and stay motivated:

 

1. Exposure

The super motivated realize that the old concept of “garbage in garbage out” is very true. So rather than exposing themselves to negative news (like the evening blues cast) or negative television or even negative stories on the Internet, they avoid negativity and instead choose to focus on positive upbeat and inspiring information. They focus on good news, not the bad. They are not ostriches with their head in the sand- they know there is bad news in the world, they just choose not to spend time and energy on it. It’s a “waste of mind”.

 

2. Their goals are in writing

There is absolutely no question that one of the ways to improve your thought process is to write down your goals; short-term, midterm, and long-term. Writing them down and the action of actually looking at them on a regular and consistent basis will reinforce the direction which you are heading. This is sending a short reminder note to your brain consciously and subconsciously- telling it “hey this is what we’re doing.”

“You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream.” – C.S. Lewis

3. Networking with positive people

Super motivated people realize that the quality of their life is in equal correlation to the quality of the people that they associate with. If you associate with negative people or toxic people, the people who are discouraging and negative, then you will be negative as well. I refer to these people as ESV’s, which stands for energy sucking vampires. So be very careful about who you associate with. If you have friends or family members who are negative or toxic you must limit your contact.

 

4. Keep a journal

Keeping a journal is another way to reinforce positive thinking and positive thoughts on a daily basis. Carve out a little time in the morning to write down positive affirmations and goals and dreams in your journal in order to get your day off on the right track. Hal Elrod referred to this practice in his book The Morning Miracle. If you start your day off by writing down positive thoughts goals and aspirations, you start your morning off on the sunny side of the street. I have tried this technique and I learned it can be a very powerful way to start your day. Try it, you will like it.

 

5. Modify what you say

What is interesting about people who are super motivated is they realize that what they say and how they say it affects their thinking. It’s almost like the chicken and the egg;  what you say it affects how you think what you think affects how you say it. The key is to catch yourself when you say something negative. If you’re giving a presentation at work don’t say “boy I sure hope it goes okay”. Instead say, “I am going to knock it out of the park and it’s going to be great.” Positive self- expectation and positive statements can change the way you think and believe it or not, your brain believes exactly what you tell it. If you verbally or mentally tell it something is bad, it believes it.

 

6. Think about how you think

As far as we know, we are the only species that have the ability to think about how we think. I don’t think turtles sitting on a log in the sun think about their life and how their thinking is affecting their life. You however, have the ability to think about how you think. I have found that once my thinking changed, my life changed dramatically both personally and professionally. Don’t underestimate the impact of your thinking both on a positive or negative level. It is the ultimate power tool.

“The only person you are destined to become is the person you decide to be.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

So do you really want to have a great life and be extraordinary and not just average? Do you want to be fired up and achieve your dreams? Then you can decide to be that person- it’s all just a choice. I am now going to throw down the gauntlet. I am going to ask you to take some time today to pick 1-2 of the items from this article and commit to doing them this week. I guarantee it can change your life personally and professionally.

Which items are you choosing from the list to do this week and why?

Hi I’m Shawn Doyle CSP. It’s nice to meet you!  I am a certified professional speaker, author and an Executive and Life Coach. I am the author of 18 books and a few have been Amazon #1 bestsellers. My life passion is to make a positive difference in people’s lives by helping them live to their full potential both at work and at home as people go through something called life. I live in the scenic rolling hills of southwestern Pennsylvania made famous by Andrew Wyeth paintings. I share my life with an amazing wonderful wife and three crazy cats. Check out my website here: www.shawndoylemotivates.com

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How to Stay Motivated to Achieve Your Goals

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Time is the raw material of our lives. How we choose to spend it, shapes our life accordingly. So having the motivation to spend it on achieving goals is crucial to creating a life we want.

What is Motivation?

The Oxford dictionary defines motivation as the desire or willingness to do something – our drive to take action.

Scientifically, motivation has its roots in the dopamine pathways of our brains. When we do something that feels good, that’s dopamine kicking in. Our actions are driven by the desire for that reward (the good feeling).

Author Steven Pressfield describes motivation more practically. He says we hit a point where the pain of not doing something becomes greater than the pain of doing it. He sees motivation as crossing the threshold where it’s easier to take action than it is to be idle. Like choosing to feel awkward while making sales calls over feeling disappointed about a diminishing bank account.

However you choose to think about it, we all want to harness motivation to achieve our goals. 

How to Get Motivated

James Clear, the author of Atomic Habits, says that most people misunderstand motivation. They think that motivation is what gets us to take action. In reality, motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. Once we start a task, it’s easier to continue making progress. Like Isaac Newton’s first law: objects in motion stay in motion.

This means most of the resistance when working on your goals comes right before we start. Since motivation naturally occurs after we start, we need to focus on making starting easier.

4 Ways to Make Starting Easier

1. Schedule it

One reason people can’t get started on things is that they haven’t planned when to do it. 

When things aren’t scheduled it’s easier for them to fall by the wayside. You’ll end up hoping motivation falls in your lap or hoping that you’ll muster enough willpower to get it done.

An article in the Guardian said, “If you waste resources trying to decide when or where to work, you’ll impede your capacity to do the work.”

2. Measure something

It’s easy to feel uninspired when you don’t know if you’re making progress or what you’re even working towards. That’s why you need to make your success measurable in some way. Starting is easy when you know exactly how much closer your current actions will bring you to achieving your goal.

3. Extrinsic motivation

This type of motivation is from external factors. It can be either positive or negative. Positive motivation consists of incentives like money, prizes, and grades. Negative motivation consists of deterrents like being fired, having a fight, or being fined. Extrinsic motivation doesn’t work effectively long-term, but it can work well in the short term to get you started on something.

4. Make it public

Keep yourself accountable by telling friends and family your goals, or even sharing them on social media. This makes it easier to start something because you’re pressured to not let others down.

“People often say that motivation doesn’t last. Well, neither does bathing – that’s why we recommend it daily.” – Zig Ziglar

How to Stay Motivated Long Term

When we say we want to feel motivated to do something, we don’t want to be pushed or guilted into doing a task. We want to be so attracted and drawn to the idea that we can’t resist not taking action. That’s why it’s important to build a foundation that will set you up for consistency.

These are 5 techniques that will help you do just that:

1. Stay in your goldilocks zone

The goldilocks zone is when a task is the perfect level of difficulty—not too hard and not too easy. In this zone, we reach peak motivation and focus.

For example, let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against a 4-year-old. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become bored and not want to play. Now let’s say you’re playing a serious tennis match against Serena Williams. On this level of difficulty, you’ll quickly become demotivated because the match is too challenging. 

The Goldilocks zone is in the middle of that spectrum. You want to face someone with equal skill as you. That way you have a chance to win, but you have to focus and try for it. Adjusting your workload and goals over time to stay within your Goldilocks zone keeps you engaged and motivated long-term.

2. Pursue intrinsically motivated goals

Being intrinsically motivated to achieve a goal is when you want to achieve it for what it is. There are no external factors like a reward or the risk of being fired. The drive behind your actions is coming from within. 

For most intrinsic goals we pursue them because they will enrich our lives or bring us closer to fulfillment. That makes these goals extremely sustainable long-term because they directly affect our quality of life and the things we care about.

3. Use “chunking”

Chunking is the technique of breaking down a goal into smaller short-term targets. By doing this you achieve multiple successes in your pursuit of the main goal. This triggers the brain’s reward system and drives you to keep going.

Traditionally, you may set a goal that you expect to achieve in one year. That’s a long time to commit without seeing any results along the way. By chunking your goals into monthly or quarterly targets, you get the consistent positive reinforcement you need to stay motivated long-term.

For example, instead of trying to lose 50 pounds in one year, try to lose 4 pounds every month for 12 months.

4. Be flexible

We’re all victims of circumstance. Things happen along our journey that we can either adjust to or quit because of. That’s why it’s important to have leeway and flexibility when you’re pursuing a goal. If you expect everything to go perfectly, the inevitable failure can make you disengaged and desireless. When you plan for things to go wrong, you make sure you can keep up for the long haul.

5. Pursue your goals in a sustainable fashion

Don’t lose hope when you’re not an overnight success. Overnight successes are the 1%—for the most part, they don’t exist. What we see as an “overnight success” is actually countless hours of work behind the scenes finally hitting a tipping point. Pursuing goals is a story of patience, persistence, and unseen effort.

Don’t compare yourself to others. Comparison is a recipe for a drop in self-confidence and satisfaction. It also cultivates a mindset where you think you haven’t done enough. As a result, you may raise your expectations and put more pressure on yourself.

This is pointless because things worth achieving take time. So we obviously won’t compare to the things around us when starting.

Mastering motivation is a superpower. With that ability at your fingertips, you can accomplish your goals and shape a life you want to live in.

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