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Mark Dhamma Long Lasting Motivation Principles

Motivation isn’t something I think about on a daily basis because I know that motivation isn’t everything, ACTION IS EVERYTHING.

Any ‘extra motivation’ is unnecessary because I follow a set of 5 proven effective strategies that people either don’t know about or don’t actually do. Furthermore, the most successful people I know do these 5 strategies either consciously or unconsciously.

The fact is, most people, are not using these strategies on a daily basis.

Unbeknownst to most, motivation didn’t come naturally for me, I had to consciously change my mindset to become a successful High Performance Health & Mindset Coach to celebrities and entrepreneurs in the Hollywood Hills. Now, my team and I teach these techniques and strategies to young aspiring entrepreneurs all over the world who want to be at their optimal health, both physically & mentally, while making an impact through WarriorTransformations.com

So what are the strategic steps?

Remember, reading these 5 strategies is not enough, YOU MUST DO THEM TO GET RESULTS!

“Within you right now is the power to do things you never dreamed possible….” – Maxwell Maltz

1. Visualize Your Wins

You can ask anyone from a personal development guru to an elite athlete, and each will tell you that visualizing your performance is the key to motivation and success.

Conscious Visualisation is underutilized to say the least. As popularized by Maxwell Maltz’s book, Psycho-Cybernetics, Maltz describes how visualizing what you want to achieve literally re-programs your ‘Reticular Activating System” (RAS) otherwise known as your subconscious mind to seek out opportunities to take you in that direction.

‘This power becomes available to you just as you can change your beliefs.” – Maxwell Maltz

Every human feat started out with an idea, a vision. It was the relentless pursuit of the vision that brought it forth on to existence. Everything begins with the vision, the dream, and the goal.

Getting clear on what you want and then visualizing it – DAILY – builds belief and certainty that you can achieve the goal. This belief not only provides motivation, but aligns your actions towards the goal as well.

Sports psychologists have known this for a long time. The first time I was introduced to visualization was in college while pursuing my degree in Sports Science and Physiology. My professor explained why athletes are advised to visualize a successful performance before they begin because it leads to a more successful outcome.

This visual preparation proves true, and a multitude of research evidence attests to the role of psychological factors as determinants of elite performance. Orlick and Partington (1998), for example, identified that psychological “success factors” such as visualisation as a hallmark of successful athletes. Additionally, Olympic athletes engage in more visualization than less successful performers (Gould, Diffenbach, & Moffett, 2002).

Olympic and World champions have high self-confidence and motivation because they employ visualization and self-talk to both prepare for competition and to remain focused during high-level performances (Durand-Bush & Salmela, 2002).

You too can use visualization to keep motivated and perform at your best. When visualizing, you’re re-confirming to your own mind that you are capable, you are willing, and are motivated to achieve success. Daily visualization of your goals builds clarity and certainty.

When you become certain that you will achieve such a goal, motivation becomes you. You no longer feel like you need motivation because you are motivated – you are unstoppable.

For successful visualization, set time aside at least  5-10 minutes each day to really visualize what you want and imagine yourself achieving it over and over again.

Attach positive emotions to the actions needed to achieve. This has helped me immensely in my efforts to achieve financial, physical, and goals as a mentor many times.

 

2. Mentors Are a Must

Most people realize the importance of mentors but do they actually go out and get one?

I have many mentors in my life. Three of my biggest personal mentors have kept me motivated and molded who I am today. Dr. John Berardi in health & fitness, Dr. Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi in Positive Psychology and Tai Lopez in business.

Tai lopez is a major proponent of mentors and credits almost all of his success to them.

Find a mentor and spend as much time with them as possible. You must find someone who is where you want to be in life or has a particular skill you desire. For example, if you want to have a terrific athletic looking body, find someone who has that and learn from them. If you want a successful restaurant, find someone who owns a chain of successful restaurants and learn from them. I wanted to know how to reach millions of people and influence them positively so I found Tai Lopez and Joel Brown to mentor me.

A good mentor is someone who you truly look up to and respect.

A good mentor is somebody who you don’t want to let down.

 

Mentors help with motivation in 3 ways:

1) You get to see what they do and become motivated as you practice your own version.

2) You don’t want to disappoint your mentor so you’re motivated to get results.

3) A good mentor may challenge you to step up and be your best – which can be extremely motivating.

Do you have a quality mentor?

If not, get one ASAP.

 

3. Track your progress

Tracking your progress is a fantastic way to stay motivated. Most people already know this, but are you currently doing it?

17 years ago when I first started working out I used to write down every exercise I did: how many repetitions and the number of sets. Each time I would work out I would compare my progress with what I did the week before. If I could progress 1 or 2 reps each week it was deeply satisfying and helped me to stay motivated over the long run.

I remember people would often ask me how I stayed motivated. It was an awkward question for me to answer because I didn’t feel like it took any effort to stay motivated. I was in competition with myself and I could always check in on how I was doing. Seeing observable progress is motivating in whatever you do.

Give yourself specific dates to stop and monitor progress. Daily, weekly, monthly & yearly check in dates are all useful. Find out what works best for you and keep yourself accountable.

A trick I use as a trainer is to cut new clients carbohydrates immediately so that they lose a lot of water weight in the first week. This allows them to see rapid progress and provides them with a boost of motivation to continue.

Tracking your results whether it is in fitness, business, or relationships is crucial for motivation. It makes the goal or challenge a game. Set yourself up for success by tracking and defining how you will see progress early on. Look for progress and make it easy on yourself.

What you focus on grows!

What you track improves!

In order to stay motivated by tracking progress first get clear on your goal and then identify your Key Performance Indicators (KPI’s), the items that if you focus on will take you towards your goal.

When I started working out, my KPI’s were how much weight I lifted, how many reps and sets I did, how many workouts per week I performed and how much water I drank per day.

What are the most important things for you to track?

What are the best progress indicators you could track in your health, mindset and business?

Dr. Berardi would encourage me to set outcome goals, like put on 10lbs of muscle, but focus on the behavioural goals like eating every 2-3 hours. The outcome goal is the result you want but you get there by focusing on the daily actions that will take you to your goals.

Figure out your outcome and bag your goals and then…….TAKE ACTION NOW!

 

4. Celebrate small wins

High achievers like you and I have big ambitions, which is great but you know what, it can also hold us back IF we allow it to cause frustration.

“Frustration can lead to stagnation!” – Mark Dhamma

If things are not coming as fast as we like we may lose patience, give up, or distract ourselves with other things. In order to keep momentum place a high value on celebrating small wins.

When you accomplish mini goals or small achievements celebrate and savour the moment. We know from positive psychology research that accomplishments are a pillar of wellbeing. Robbing ourselves of accomplishment by not celebrating the small wins can rob you of momentum.

Dr. Fred Bryant is the lead positive psychology researcher on savoring. Savoring is the use of thoughts and actions to increase the intensity, duration, and appreciation of positive experiences and emotions. The concept of savoring can be used as a way to maximize the potential benefits that positive experiences and emotions can have on your life.

Savoring small wins and allowing yourself to feel good about them helps to build positive emotions and momentum. When you reward yourself with positive emotions for completing a task my research shows that you’re more likely to feel motivated to complete another task.

We also know from positive psychology studies that positive emotions build psychological assets like creativity and allow you to spot more opportunities in your environment. Savoring produces positive emotions, reinforces positive actions and can give you the emotional juice to keep you motivated on achieving your goal.

 

5. Spend more time around people who are more successful than you

Most people understand this one too but, again, do they actually do it?

From reading over 300 books about success and personal development I thought I knew the importance of spending time with people more successful than yourself.

Jim Rohn is famous for saying:

“Show me the 5 people you hang around with and I will show you your future.”

I have known about this phenomenon for many years. Being a trainer for celebrities and entrepreneurs, I’m very familiar with the study of Framingham, MA by Christakis and Fowler that show what happens to a Framingham resident when they became obese – his or her friends were 57 percent more likely to become obese too.

I’ve told my clients for years that if they want a quick shortcut to getting the body and health they want, then hang out with people who already have it and reduce the time spent with their unhealthy friends.

One of my mentors, Bill Walsh, the famous business speaker told me:

“If you hang around with your 4 poor friends Mark, you will be the 5th.”

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Likewise, if you hang around with 4 successful friends, you’ll be the 5th.

Christakis and Fowler also found that a Framingham resident was roughly 20 percent more likely to become obese if the friend of a friend became obese.

“People are connected, and so their health is connected”, Christakis and Fowler concluded when they summarized their findings in a July 2007 article in The New England Journal of Medicine.

Drinking and smoking, they discovered, also appeared to spread socially — in fact, a friend taking up smoking increases your chance of smoking by 36 percent.

From studying high performance I knew of the 2,000 study of dorm mates at Dartmouth College by economist Bruce Sacerdote. He found that they appeared to influence each other with good and bad study habits — such that a roommate with a high grade-point average would drag upward the G.P.A. of his lower-scoring roommate, and vice versa.

One thing’s for sure, your friends have a huge influence over you, so you can choose to hang around with unmotivated, unsuccessful people and become unsuccessful yourself or you can spend time with motivated successful people and become successful yourself.

I only really grasped the importance of this when I moved to Hollywood and started hanging around with people like Tai Lopez, James Swanwick, Eli Wilhide, RSD Tyler, Brandon Carter, Michael Morelli Jr and all of the celebrities and entrepreneurs I train. It completely changed my reality and motivation.

When you’re the most successful person in your peer group it’s difficult to get motivated, because you’re already King of the Hill. That’s why they say in athletics that it’s easy to get to the top but difficult to stay there. When you know you’re number 1, how do you stay motivated?

However, if you’re the runt of the litter and all of your friends are way more successful than you thats an UNCOMFORTABLE place to be. And what motivated humans even more than pleasure? PAIN!

You will be more motivated to move away from pain than you will be to move toward pleasure. Being the least successful person in your network is painful, it motivates you, but also it inspires you because you know if your friends can do it you can do it too.

It’s funny, the incident that really proved to me the effects of the people you spend time with and motivation happened when I was working for Tai Lopez as part of my mentorship. He asked me to call all of his business coaching clients, because I’m a qualified Executive Performance Coach, to check up on them to see how they’re doing. I spoke to hundreds of Tai’s clients and very quickly I started to notice a pattern.

It got to the point that within 3 minutes of the call I knew if the person I was speaking to took the 5 people rule seriously. It was laughably easy. If the person answered and I asked them if they completed their tasks and I could hear energy, motivation and determination in their voice I would simply ask, who are the people you spend the most time with? 9 out of 10 times it was people more successful than they. If the person was noncommittal in their answers, wishy washy, hadn’t really got anything done I knew that they spent the most time with people who are at their level of success or less successful people. They were too comfortable.

The Enemy Of SUCCESS Is COMFORT! – Mark Dhamma

P.S. Work like crazy to get into a more successful social circle. Find a mastermind group of winners, or go to events and network like crazy with like minded people.

Remember, motivation is just the starting point, it’s habits and the right environment that carry you through.

The above 5 secrets are excellent habits to have that will keep you focused and motivated.

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Mark Dhamma is an ex-Men’s Fitness model who now coaches celebrities and entrepreneurs around optimal health, fitness & mindset. Mark has a Bachelors degree in Sports Science & Physiology and a masters Degree in Positive Psychology and is the Founder of Warrior Transformations, an online and in person mind and body transformation program for entrepreneurially minded men who want to be at their best in every area of their lives.

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  1. Ramesh Sawant

    Oct 25, 2015 at 11:59 am

    It is happy to read article on motivation on this site. It is a bare fact of life everything is possible with motivation from within. Lack of motivation will take you nowhere . Great article.

  2. Esther Mellar

    Sep 22, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    Hi Mark,

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge. It is very inspiring. It was clear for me the kind of impact the peer group has on a teenager, but that it is true for us adults I was not conscious about. Finding your purpose, why you want to achieve something would be a further point I would ad to your list. What those wins would really mean at a deeper level.
    When it comes to launching a business, what is the best way track your progress? Thank you in advance for the advice.

  3. Theodore Nwangene

    Sep 21, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    Hello Mark.
    You’re so correct on all the points you made you and i agree with you. Motivation without action is entirely meaningless because, that motivation will still leave you exactly the same way it met you.

    Great success lies in taken action towards that which you desire. If you keep on looking to be motivated before you start acting on your goals then, you might never start after all.

    Also, finding a good mentor and also associating with like minded people is equally necessary for success.

  4. Shailendra Zade

    Sep 20, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    Hey Mark,
    Thank you for the article. Motivation is need now these days.

  5. Ross

    Sep 17, 2015 at 4:45 pm

    AWESOME article Mark!

    Keep them coming bro! 🙂

  6. rachel akito

    Sep 16, 2015 at 10:16 pm

    Mark
    This article is really made to perfection. Thank you for sharing this. You’re right strategies aren’t enough unless you do it. I really appreciate that you put up the importance of mentors. Mentors can and will definitely provide guidance and inspiration. I also like the idea of celebrating small wins. Appreciating the little things can give us a positive outlook in life.
    Rachel

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7 Powerful and Inspiring Words of Encouragement to Help Lift You Up

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When you’re going through tough times, all you need is sympathy. You just need someone to tell you how strong you are and how you can cope with the situation. Essentially, you’re waiting for a soothing voice that can calm your inner storm and genuinely help with your troubles.

If you’re in a situation like this, then know that you’re not alone. You might be feeling low due to a reason like failing at something, breaking up with someone you dearly loved, losing your loved one, not getting a good job, or being betrayed by the person you trusted the most or anything along those lines.

Remember this; there is hope for everyone including you. You are going to come back from all of this no matter what. That’s why there is a saying, “Every dark cloud has a silver lining.”

Here are 7 powerful quotes to help lift you up in your time of need:

1. “There are only TWO days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday, and the other one is called tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live.” – Dalai Lama

This quote said by his holy highness Dalai Lama is so compelling about life. You live in the present, neither in the past nor the future. Think about it this way, can you change what is already done or can you change what is going to be done? The answer is, no, you can’t because nobody can. It’s wise to forget the bad things from the past and do something in the present that will help improve your future.

2. “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” – Albert Einstein

Have you ever thought of these beautiful words of encouragement from Sir Albert Einstein? It is so profound and practical. Sometimes we are miserable because people try to fit us into a mold where we don’t belong, and thus we too start feeling that we are useless. However, that’s not the case. We all are gifted with abilities that we overlook only because of the fear of being rejected or neglected. You are not supposed to rely on people’s perspective about you if you know what your real potential is.

3. “Every time you state what you want or believe, you’re the first to hear it. It’s a message to both you and others about what you think is possible. Don’t put a ceiling on yourself.” – Oprah Winfrey

These words of encouragement from Oprah Winfrey gave me so much strength that I couldn’t resist to quote it here. Many times we give up on our dreams and wishes only because we think it is impossible. We must believe in ourselves and tell ourselves that we CAN do it and it is possible. You shouldn’t be afraid of failures and setbacks but instead welcome them.

4. “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” – Will Rogers

Think about this, still water is stagnant water. Even the water has to keep flowing to remain useful. If you want to become successful, you must keep lifting yourself up and keep moving. Do not let the hardships hold you down and wait for a miracle to happen. You’re already on the right track so nothing should stop you from going further in your life.

5. “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” – Mahatma Gandhi

All our activities, throughout this life, are controlled by our mind. Believe it or not, it’s true. It is correctly said that what you think you become. People around us are not always going to pull you up, and you might meet people who are going to supply negativity to your mind. However, it is up to you whom to let in your mind and whom you should never. When you are in control of your thoughts and mind, nothing and nobody can distract you.

6. “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.” – Oscar Wilde

Difficult times are very tricky. It makes you believe that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. We don’t realize that today’s struggles are for a better tomorrow. They’re not permanent, and they’re not going to last forever. Once you are determined to change your situation then even God will help you with that. Just remember the saying, “God helps those who help themselves.”

7. “In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.”  – Deepak Chopra

This quote is too profound and subtle that summarizes this whole article. It might change the way you look at your problems right now. There are circumstances to knock you down, there are issues you are not able to solve, and they seem completely out of your control. It is not at all easy to keep calm at this point, however, if you learn how to be still in the midst of all the chaos, you are a winner. You have won half the battle just by doing this.

Winning and losing is just a part of life. No matter in which phase of your life you are, remember that there is a purpose behind it and you will know what that purpose is at the right time. Moreover, one day you will be grateful for all the struggles and mistakes because they will make you a stronger, better and a more beautiful human being.

Which one of these quotes inspired you the most and why? Let us know in the comments below!

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Sometimes We Have To Eat Garbage For A While Before We Can Rise Up Again.

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A month ago, I received an email titled “I am giving up” from a young woman. She was an aspiring life coach and had a huge money problem she was dealing with.

The young lady tried everything to get out of the situation and was even prepared to sleep in her car. There was one problem though: she had a daughter.

Things got so bad that she was even considering becoming a stripper to make some money fast but it was eating away at her on the inside because this very idea went against her ethics and values.

She felt she could never be a life coach again if she became a stripper, because the thought of helping other women after she had put her ass in lots of guys’ faces (this is what she actually said) was far too painful for her.

Becoming a stripper to fix her money problem would simultaneously kill her dream of becoming a life coach.

After she told me this story, she wanted my advice. ‘What should I do Tim?” she said to me in the email.

I really wanted to help her.

I gave her this advice even though it sounds brutal and somewhat harsh:

I told her “Sometimes We Have To Eat Garbage For A While Before We Can Rise Up Again.”

Here’s how to eat garbage for a while so that you can rise up again:


Take a job you may not love.

Life is not all rainbows and butterflies (forgot who said that but it’s true). There will be times when your life goes off track and you could lose your job, all your money or even your partner. It’s messed up and we all go through it.

The answer is not to go against all of your values, so you feel even more worthless. The advice I gave though goes against every self-help book and motivational quote you’ve ever read including #LoveYourWork

If you fall down, sometimes you have to eat garbage for a while and if it’s a financial crisis, then that could mean doing a job or work you hate.

When my business dreams collapsed in 2011, I took a call center job that I hated with every bone in my body. I took the job because it rebuilt my confidence and taught me how to sell again.

I learned how the big bad corporate world worked and I became incredibly disciplined. I even learned how to love a woman again which sounds corny, but it’s true.

I ate the worst kind of garbage you could possibly eat and I tried to enjoy every moment of it. I then saved up enough money to attend a Tony Robbins event and that was the catalyst for my transformation.

Superman didn’t come and save me like you see in the movies. I had to save myself and that involved doing something I didn’t like. There are more lessons in the stuff you hate than you may realize. Embrace it.


Work on a side hustle at the same time.

The first point is horribly wrong unless you couple it with a side hustle. Eating garbage and having no way out of it is putting yourself through unnecessary torture that you may not recover from.

The rope marks could scar you for life without a side hustle.

My side hustle started out as personal development which eventually led me to begin blogging. Without this side hustle, the time where I had to eat garbage would have been unbearable.

Every day while I worked a job I hated, I looked forward to the small amounts of spare time I had so that I could work on my side hustle. In the first week of this difficult job, I outsold the other staff and hit 200% of my sales target.

“I achieved 200% of my sales target because I was determined to outperform so I could gain the privileges that came with it — more time and more freedom”

Instead of being micromanaged, I got the chance to watch Ted Talks with my people leader and strategize about the future of the business.

The side hustle then became much bigger later on and now it fuels everything I do. I’m obsessed with everyone finding a side hustle, so they have something to motivate them at least some of the time.


Eating garbage is where GRIT is built.

I never used to have an “anything is possible” mindset. The grit I have was built from having to eat garbage for a while.

“I knew that if I could make it through the muddy waters of not following my passion, I could do anything”

The harsh part of life taught me how to fend for myself and overcome my own demons, so I could rise up again out of the ashes. Grit does not come from your comfort zone.

Grit is found in the biggest and boldest of challenges where you have to use every ounce of your strength to come out alive.

The young woman that emailed me is working on developing the same personality trait. This work is what will make her an exceptional life coach.


You’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do.

Eating garbage is short term and if you have a financial problem or something that just won’t go away, you’ve got to tackle it head on. Complaining about your situation and telling yourself the odds are stacked against you won’t help.

When you see eating garbage as short term, you develop the mindset that will help you break through.

There’s no magic cure.

I told the young lady that emailed me to eat garbage for a while (I was nicer than that, don’t worry) and do what she has to do to earn some money (without breaking her values). This battle is short-term and that’s how we all have to see it.


Think about a situation that is worse than yours.

Speaking of eating garbage, one of my mentors reached out to me and told me they had been demoted. They no longer had people underneath them and they were forced into something they didn’t love as much.

I told my mentor the same thing: we all have to eat garbage sometimes.

That advice was then followed up with my story of going from business owner to a call center operator. I then told him the story of a mutual friend who had gone from a high flying job to a nobody that was ignored.

He put up with that for three years and then eventually someone saw what I saw in him, and he was given a very senior role in another company.

Your situation may suck big time but getting some perspective and hearing about others who’ve had to eat garbage is a refreshing way (refreshing and brown stuff in the same sentence?) to overcome the negativity you’ll experience .


Understand that no one stays at the top of anything forever.

You could be the richest person in the world today. Eventually, you’ll be knocked off the top spot.

You could be the fastest 100m sprinter in the world. Tomorrow, or eventually, someone will be faster than you. The simple fact is that no one is permanently at the top of their game.

“All of us will fall from grace at some point”

What I’ve learned is that falling from grace and eating garbage for a while is how you rise up again. You can’t rise up if you haven’t fallen down before.

The deep, dark problem you think you’re facing will pass- it always does eventually. This is not the time to make a dumb decision, ask for sympathy or complain.

It’s time to eat garbage for a while and put in the work. Earn the right to get what you want by starting again at the bottom. That’s how you rise up again.

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5 Daily Habits to Remain Highly Motivated

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While some of us can naturally maintain a relatively high constant level of motivation, others find it more difficult. This is actually a normal fact of life. After all, the beauty and richness of life is in our attempt to reconcile and manage our different states.

Here are a few simple things you can use to motivate yourself on a daily basis:

1. The habit of accomplishing one single task once you get out of bed

This may sound trivial but it can have tremendous impact on your energy level. Right when you wake up, one simple task such as making your bed, exercising or cooking breakfast can get you energized for the rest of the day.

Getting something done first thing in the morning will give you a sense of achievement which will, in turn impact the rest of your day. The little things do count. How will you ever find the motivation to accomplish a big task when you can’t even finish a small one? A journey of a thousand miles begin with a single step…in the right direction!

2. Connect your small tasks to your values

In the first step, you may get something done, but if it is not in alignment with your values or beliefs you are less likely to feel empowered. Whatever the task you get done, frame it in relation to something that is important to you. You can apply this in your personal life, professional or spiritual life. Doing a task you know relates to something meaningful to you will give you the required energy to carry it until completion.

People who engage in routine jobs may find it very hard to remain motivated. Frame your job into something greater than yourself. For instance, a bus driver may say: “I am glad I can contribute to the future of our society by bringing children to school.” Framing the routine job that way will give you a sense of contribution. Knowing that you are making a difference will give you a sense of pride that will in return motivate you.

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” – Steve Jobs

3. The habit of crossing out tasks on your to-do list

You will feel more energized if you put your tasks on a sheet of paper because nothing is more motivating than crossing tasks off your to-do lists. This is a clear signal to your brain that you have been able to accomplish a particular task. That will generate a snowball effect since a single task accomplished and crossed out can have widespread effect on other tasks. Due to this, take up the habit of crossing out tasks on your to-do list.

4. The habit of being self-compassionate

We tend to be nice to other people. It is amazing to see how someone can be so empathetic and motivate another even when they are feeling down themselves. Paradoxically, instead of giving themselves a positive pep talk, they will go on a guilt trip. We are not trying to achieve perfection here, we are simply trying to do what we were born to do grow!

It is okay if you did not finish a specific task today. Instead of complaining or blaming, make the decision right now, that you will complete this task tomorrow. Talk to yourself as you would to a good friend. Give yourself a second chance. Don’t engage in self-deprecating talk. Remember, no one or nothing can motivate you if you are not willing to give yourself a chance.

“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” – Dalai Lama

5. The habit of taking responsibility

It is amazing how much taking responsibility for our results can change our perspective. I have had the chance to work with small teams, and in my experience, I’ve learned that people get more motivated when they know they are responsible for the outcome of their tasks. Don’t wait for the situation to be agreeable to get motivated. Take responsibility for your task and see how much energy you will put into it. While hygiene factors can help motivate you, only when you know you are really responsible for the results of a particular task will you build motivation that lasts.

As humans we have unlimited psychic power. Just as you would pay more for natural and organic food and beverages, you need to harness your natural source of motivation rather than expecting outside factors to motivate you. May that same motivation level that attracted you to this article keep you motivated in a more consistent manner.

How do you stay motivated from day to day? Let us know your thoughts in the comments below!

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5 Ways You Can Develop Unbreakable Mental Resilience

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Building unbreakable mental strength was my ultimate goal for many years. Even as a girl, I knew that with emotional toughness in place, nothing can permanently break me. I set myself up for a task. My mission was to find ways and tools which I can use to become mentally and emotionally strong, in control and ready to face anything. If you think that’s easier said than done, that’s two of us.

In the beginning, I experienced lots of failures and errors since I didn’t understand that being tough or looking tough are two different powers. I was trying to build this image of a “street fighter” which wasn’t working because it didn’t come from within. My second task was to share my experience with anyone I met. I understood that with proper tools and perspective, we all could build ourselves into resilient and strong individuals.

That’s why I want to share with you 5 ways you can develop unbreakable mental resilience and gain control of your life:

1. Increase your tolerance for pain

If you want to effectively train your mind in becoming resilient, you need to increase your tolerance for pain. You do it by letting go of how things should be and accept what is. No expectations, no feeling of entitlement.

It’s a perspective matter. When you feel entitled to something better or easier in life, you are putting yourself in a position where your expectations don’t have to be met. This situation causes hurt and loss of control.

When you are at peace with the ups and downs of life, knowing that some fights are involved, you are gaining more control over how you feel and think. Your tolerance for adversity increases since you are focused more on a solution than on the presence of your pain.

“You can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them.” – Shonda Rhimes

2. Create a powerful support system

Most of my life, I believed that I can handle everything on my own. I wanted to become the strongest among all my friends and family, always independent, never needing help. Soon, I found out that this was a terrible idea while trying to develop emotional resilience. The truth is that we need each other, we need our support network

Part of developing mental resilience is knowing when to ask for help and bury the ego. There is strength in admitting that you feel vulnerable and need someone’s hand. Feeling love and support is the best medicine while dealing with hardships. Your role is to choose who you let close to you and who you can trust. Based on my experience, it isn’t hard to figure it out.

3. Take responsibility for your feelings

You and I know that blaming is easy. It takes a weight off your shoulders, it eases the pain and it creates excuses. But it doesn’t build mental resilience. You need to learn how to take responsibility for your feelings when someone else hurts them.

There is a difference between those who are at fault and those who are responsible. Let’s say that your partner cheated on you which broke your heart and caused you pain. It’s your partner’s fault, but it’s your responsibility to deal with it. I know, it may sound unfair, but this is the only way you can build your emotional toughness on a feeling which scares you the most and that’s pain.

4. Learn to be alone

Some of us are pretty scared of being alone. That’s why we keep the TV on even when we don’t watch it, scroll through our feed 45 times a day or always seek some company just to maintain the noise. Spending some time alone allows you to think clearly, without distractions and on a much deeper level.

I am not suggesting that you isolate yourself from others, but time alone, combined with only 5 minutes of meditation, will help you in gaining better control of your feelings and overall mental state. Schedule your alone time. Reserve 1 hour, twice a week just for yourself, your thoughts and feelings. If you haven’t tried meditation, there are tons of videos online which will teach you the basics.  

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.” – Vince Lombardi

5. Love those who hurt you

Two weeks ago, I read an article about letting go. According to Buddha’s teachings, the best way to let go is by loving those who hurt us. At first, it pissed me off. I thought to myself, “This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read in my entire life.” Then I took a deep breath, stepped out of my ego and admitted that it made sense.

Think about it this way, when you truly let go, when you forgive, you are gaining more control over your feelings and mindset. And that’s one of the most important things in building mental resilience. You take away the power of someone else who gained it through hurting you. Once you overcome the feeling of anger and the need for retaliation, the action of the other person won’t control you.

Conclusion

Having the right perspective on pain, surrounding yourself with people you can trust and taking responsibilities for your feelings are basic components of your inner toughness. The best thing about it is that even when you fail, you will manage to recover pretty quickly because you are built this way.

Don’t focus on your ego, it’s one of the most common reasons which stops you from growing. Have faith and accept the fact the everything in your life has a purpose. It’s how you choose to use it which defines who you are.

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7 Powerful and Inspiring Words of Encouragement to Help Lift You Up

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When you’re going through tough times, all you need is sympathy. You just need someone to tell you how strong you are and how you can cope with the situation. Essentially, you’re waiting for a soothing voice that can calm your inner storm and genuinely help with your troubles. (more…)

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  1. Ramesh Sawant

    Oct 25, 2015 at 11:59 am

    It is happy to read article on motivation on this site. It is a bare fact of life everything is possible with motivation from within. Lack of motivation will take you nowhere . Great article.

  2. Esther Mellar

    Sep 22, 2015 at 1:06 pm

    Hi Mark,

    Thank you for sharing your knowledge. It is very inspiring. It was clear for me the kind of impact the peer group has on a teenager, but that it is true for us adults I was not conscious about. Finding your purpose, why you want to achieve something would be a further point I would ad to your list. What those wins would really mean at a deeper level.
    When it comes to launching a business, what is the best way track your progress? Thank you in advance for the advice.

  3. Theodore Nwangene

    Sep 21, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    Hello Mark.
    You’re so correct on all the points you made you and i agree with you. Motivation without action is entirely meaningless because, that motivation will still leave you exactly the same way it met you.

    Great success lies in taken action towards that which you desire. If you keep on looking to be motivated before you start acting on your goals then, you might never start after all.

    Also, finding a good mentor and also associating with like minded people is equally necessary for success.

  4. Shailendra Zade

    Sep 20, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    Hey Mark,
    Thank you for the article. Motivation is need now these days.

  5. Ross

    Sep 17, 2015 at 4:45 pm

    AWESOME article Mark!

    Keep them coming bro! 🙂

  6. rachel akito

    Sep 16, 2015 at 10:16 pm

    Mark
    This article is really made to perfection. Thank you for sharing this. You’re right strategies aren’t enough unless you do it. I really appreciate that you put up the importance of mentors. Mentors can and will definitely provide guidance and inspiration. I also like the idea of celebrating small wins. Appreciating the little things can give us a positive outlook in life.
    Rachel

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7 Powerful and Inspiring Words of Encouragement to Help Lift You Up

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When you’re going through tough times, all you need is sympathy. You just need someone to tell you how strong you are and how you can cope with the situation. Essentially, you’re waiting for a soothing voice that can calm your inner storm and genuinely help with your troubles.

If you’re in a situation like this, then know that you’re not alone. You might be feeling low due to a reason like failing at something, breaking up with someone you dearly loved, losing your loved one, not getting a good job, or being betrayed by the person you trusted the most or anything along those lines.

Remember this; there is hope for everyone including you. You are going to come back from all of this no matter what. That’s why there is a saying, “Every dark cloud has a silver lining.”

Here are 7 powerful quotes to help lift you up in your time of need:

1. “There are only TWO days in the year that nothing can be done. One is called yesterday, and the other one is called tomorrow. Today is the right day to Love, Believe, Do and mostly Live.” – Dalai Lama

This quote said by his holy highness Dalai Lama is so compelling about life. You live in the present, neither in the past nor the future. Think about it this way, can you change what is already done or can you change what is going to be done? The answer is, no, you can’t because nobody can. It’s wise to forget the bad things from the past and do something in the present that will help improve your future.

2. “Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.” – Albert Einstein

Have you ever thought of these beautiful words of encouragement from Sir Albert Einstein? It is so profound and practical. Sometimes we are miserable because people try to fit us into a mold where we don’t belong, and thus we too start feeling that we are useless. However, that’s not the case. We all are gifted with abilities that we overlook only because of the fear of being rejected or neglected. You are not supposed to rely on people’s perspective about you if you know what your real potential is.

3. “Every time you state what you want or believe, you’re the first to hear it. It’s a message to both you and others about what you think is possible. Don’t put a ceiling on yourself.” – Oprah Winfrey

These words of encouragement from Oprah Winfrey gave me so much strength that I couldn’t resist to quote it here. Many times we give up on our dreams and wishes only because we think it is impossible. We must believe in ourselves and tell ourselves that we CAN do it and it is possible. You shouldn’t be afraid of failures and setbacks but instead welcome them.

4. “Even if you’re on the right track, you’ll get run over if you just sit there.” – Will Rogers

Think about this, still water is stagnant water. Even the water has to keep flowing to remain useful. If you want to become successful, you must keep lifting yourself up and keep moving. Do not let the hardships hold you down and wait for a miracle to happen. You’re already on the right track so nothing should stop you from going further in your life.

5. “I will not let anyone walk through my mind with their dirty feet.” – Mahatma Gandhi

All our activities, throughout this life, are controlled by our mind. Believe it or not, it’s true. It is correctly said that what you think you become. People around us are not always going to pull you up, and you might meet people who are going to supply negativity to your mind. However, it is up to you whom to let in your mind and whom you should never. When you are in control of your thoughts and mind, nothing and nobody can distract you.

6. “What seems to us as bitter trials are often blessings in disguise.” – Oscar Wilde

Difficult times are very tricky. It makes you believe that there is no light at the end of the tunnel. We don’t realize that today’s struggles are for a better tomorrow. They’re not permanent, and they’re not going to last forever. Once you are determined to change your situation then even God will help you with that. Just remember the saying, “God helps those who help themselves.”

7. “In the midst of movement and chaos, keep stillness inside of you.”  – Deepak Chopra

This quote is too profound and subtle that summarizes this whole article. It might change the way you look at your problems right now. There are circumstances to knock you down, there are issues you are not able to solve, and they seem completely out of your control. It is not at all easy to keep calm at this point, however, if you learn how to be still in the midst of all the chaos, you are a winner. You have won half the battle just by doing this.

Winning and losing is just a part of life. No matter in which phase of your life you are, remember that there is a purpose behind it and you will know what that purpose is at the right time. Moreover, one day you will be grateful for all the struggles and mistakes because they will make you a stronger, better and a more beautiful human being.

Which one of these quotes inspired you the most and why? Let us know in the comments below!

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Sometimes We Have To Eat Garbage For A While Before We Can Rise Up Again.

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A month ago, I received an email titled “I am giving up” from a young woman. She was an aspiring life coach and had a huge money problem she was dealing with.

The young lady tried everything to get out of the situation and was even prepared to sleep in her car. There was one problem though: she had a daughter.

Things got so bad that she was even considering becoming a stripper to make some money fast but it was eating away at her on the inside because this very idea went against her ethics and values.

She felt she could never be a life coach again if she became a stripper, because the thought of helping other women after she had put her ass in lots of guys’ faces (this is what she actually said) was far too painful for her.

Becoming a stripper to fix her money problem would simultaneously kill her dream of becoming a life coach.

After she told me this story, she wanted my advice. ‘What should I do Tim?” she said to me in the email.

I really wanted to help her.

I gave her this advice even though it sounds brutal and somewhat harsh:

I told her “Sometimes We Have To Eat Garbage For A While Before We Can Rise Up Again.”

Here’s how to eat garbage for a while so that you can rise up again:


Take a job you may not love.

Life is not all rainbows and butterflies (forgot who said that but it’s true). There will be times when your life goes off track and you could lose your job, all your money or even your partner. It’s messed up and we all go through it.

The answer is not to go against all of your values, so you feel even more worthless. The advice I gave though goes against every self-help book and motivational quote you’ve ever read including #LoveYourWork

If you fall down, sometimes you have to eat garbage for a while and if it’s a financial crisis, then that could mean doing a job or work you hate.

When my business dreams collapsed in 2011, I took a call center job that I hated with every bone in my body. I took the job because it rebuilt my confidence and taught me how to sell again.

I learned how the big bad corporate world worked and I became incredibly disciplined. I even learned how to love a woman again which sounds corny, but it’s true.

I ate the worst kind of garbage you could possibly eat and I tried to enjoy every moment of it. I then saved up enough money to attend a Tony Robbins event and that was the catalyst for my transformation.

Superman didn’t come and save me like you see in the movies. I had to save myself and that involved doing something I didn’t like. There are more lessons in the stuff you hate than you may realize. Embrace it.


Work on a side hustle at the same time.

The first point is horribly wrong unless you couple it with a side hustle. Eating garbage and having no way out of it is putting yourself through unnecessary torture that you may not recover from.

The rope marks could scar you for life without a side hustle.

My side hustle started out as personal development which eventually led me to begin blogging. Without this side hustle, the time where I had to eat garbage would have been unbearable.

Every day while I worked a job I hated, I looked forward to the small amounts of spare time I had so that I could work on my side hustle. In the first week of this difficult job, I outsold the other staff and hit 200% of my sales target.

“I achieved 200% of my sales target because I was determined to outperform so I could gain the privileges that came with it — more time and more freedom”

Instead of being micromanaged, I got the chance to watch Ted Talks with my people leader and strategize about the future of the business.

The side hustle then became much bigger later on and now it fuels everything I do. I’m obsessed with everyone finding a side hustle, so they have something to motivate them at least some of the time.


Eating garbage is where GRIT is built.

I never used to have an “anything is possible” mindset. The grit I have was built from having to eat garbage for a while.

“I knew that if I could make it through the muddy waters of not following my passion, I could do anything”

The harsh part of life taught me how to fend for myself and overcome my own demons, so I could rise up again out of the ashes. Grit does not come from your comfort zone.

Grit is found in the biggest and boldest of challenges where you have to use every ounce of your strength to come out alive.

The young woman that emailed me is working on developing the same personality trait. This work is what will make her an exceptional life coach.


You’ve gotta do what you’ve gotta do.

Eating garbage is short term and if you have a financial problem or something that just won’t go away, you’ve got to tackle it head on. Complaining about your situation and telling yourself the odds are stacked against you won’t help.

When you see eating garbage as short term, you develop the mindset that will help you break through.

There’s no magic cure.

I told the young lady that emailed me to eat garbage for a while (I was nicer than that, don’t worry) and do what she has to do to earn some money (without breaking her values). This battle is short-term and that’s how we all have to see it.


Think about a situation that is worse than yours.

Speaking of eating garbage, one of my mentors reached out to me and told me they had been demoted. They no longer had people underneath them and they were forced into something they didn’t love as much.

I told my mentor the same thing: we all have to eat garbage sometimes.

That advice was then followed up with my story of going from business owner to a call center operator. I then told him the story of a mutual friend who had gone from a high flying job to a nobody that was ignored.

He put up with that for three years and then eventually someone saw what I saw in him, and he was given a very senior role in another company.

Your situation may suck big time but getting some perspective and hearing about others who’ve had to eat garbage is a refreshing way (refreshing and brown stuff in the same sentence?) to overcome the negativity you’ll experience .


Understand that no one stays at the top of anything forever.

You could be the richest person in the world today. Eventually, you’ll be knocked off the top spot.

You could be the fastest 100m sprinter in the world. Tomorrow, or eventually, someone will be faster than you. The simple fact is that no one is permanently at the top of their game.

“All of us will fall from grace at some point”

What I’ve learned is that falling from grace and eating garbage for a while is how you rise up again. You can’t rise up if you haven’t fallen down before.

The deep, dark problem you think you’re facing will pass- it always does eventually. This is not the time to make a dumb decision, ask for sympathy or complain.

It’s time to eat garbage for a while and put in the work. Earn the right to get what you want by starting again at the bottom. That’s how you rise up again.

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5 Daily Habits to Remain Highly Motivated

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While some of us can naturally maintain a relatively high constant level of motivation, others find it more difficult. This is actually a normal fact of life. After all, the beauty and richness of life is in our attempt to reconcile and manage our different states.

Here are a few simple things you can use to motivate yourself on a daily basis:

1. The habit of accomplishing one single task once you get out of bed

This may sound trivial but it can have tremendous impact on your energy level. Right when you wake up, one simple task such as making your bed, exercising or cooking breakfast can get you energized for the rest of the day.

Getting something done first thing in the morning will give you a sense of achievement which will, in turn impact the rest of your day. The little things do count. How will you ever find the motivation to accomplish a big task when you can’t even finish a small one? A journey of a thousand miles begin with a single step…in the right direction!

2. Connect your small tasks to your values

In the first step, you may get something done, but if it is not in alignment with your values or beliefs you are less likely to feel empowered. Whatever the task you get done, frame it in relation to something that is important to you. You can apply this in your personal life, professional or spiritual life. Doing a task you know relates to something meaningful to you will give you the required energy to carry it until completion.

People who engage in routine jobs may find it very hard to remain motivated. Frame your job into something greater than yourself. For instance, a bus driver may say: “I am glad I can contribute to the future of our society by bringing children to school.” Framing the routine job that way will give you a sense of contribution. Knowing that you are making a difference will give you a sense of pride that will in return motivate you.

“Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.” – Steve Jobs

3. The habit of crossing out tasks on your to-do list

You will feel more energized if you put your tasks on a sheet of paper because nothing is more motivating than crossing tasks off your to-do lists. This is a clear signal to your brain that you have been able to accomplish a particular task. That will generate a snowball effect since a single task accomplished and crossed out can have widespread effect on other tasks. Due to this, take up the habit of crossing out tasks on your to-do list.

4. The habit of being self-compassionate

We tend to be nice to other people. It is amazing to see how someone can be so empathetic and motivate another even when they are feeling down themselves. Paradoxically, instead of giving themselves a positive pep talk, they will go on a guilt trip. We are not trying to achieve perfection here, we are simply trying to do what we were born to do grow!

It is okay if you did not finish a specific task today. Instead of complaining or blaming, make the decision right now, that you will complete this task tomorrow. Talk to yourself as you would to a good friend. Give yourself a second chance. Don’t engage in self-deprecating talk. Remember, no one or nothing can motivate you if you are not willing to give yourself a chance.

“Be kind whenever possible. It is always possible.” – Dalai Lama

5. The habit of taking responsibility

It is amazing how much taking responsibility for our results can change our perspective. I have had the chance to work with small teams, and in my experience, I’ve learned that people get more motivated when they know they are responsible for the outcome of their tasks. Don’t wait for the situation to be agreeable to get motivated. Take responsibility for your task and see how much energy you will put into it. While hygiene factors can help motivate you, only when you know you are really responsible for the results of a particular task will you build motivation that lasts.

As humans we have unlimited psychic power. Just as you would pay more for natural and organic food and beverages, you need to harness your natural source of motivation rather than expecting outside factors to motivate you. May that same motivation level that attracted you to this article keep you motivated in a more consistent manner.

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5 Ways You Can Develop Unbreakable Mental Resilience

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Building unbreakable mental strength was my ultimate goal for many years. Even as a girl, I knew that with emotional toughness in place, nothing can permanently break me. I set myself up for a task. My mission was to find ways and tools which I can use to become mentally and emotionally strong, in control and ready to face anything. If you think that’s easier said than done, that’s two of us.

In the beginning, I experienced lots of failures and errors since I didn’t understand that being tough or looking tough are two different powers. I was trying to build this image of a “street fighter” which wasn’t working because it didn’t come from within. My second task was to share my experience with anyone I met. I understood that with proper tools and perspective, we all could build ourselves into resilient and strong individuals.

That’s why I want to share with you 5 ways you can develop unbreakable mental resilience and gain control of your life:

1. Increase your tolerance for pain

If you want to effectively train your mind in becoming resilient, you need to increase your tolerance for pain. You do it by letting go of how things should be and accept what is. No expectations, no feeling of entitlement.

It’s a perspective matter. When you feel entitled to something better or easier in life, you are putting yourself in a position where your expectations don’t have to be met. This situation causes hurt and loss of control.

When you are at peace with the ups and downs of life, knowing that some fights are involved, you are gaining more control over how you feel and think. Your tolerance for adversity increases since you are focused more on a solution than on the presence of your pain.

“You can waste your lives drawing lines. Or you can live your life crossing them.” – Shonda Rhimes

2. Create a powerful support system

Most of my life, I believed that I can handle everything on my own. I wanted to become the strongest among all my friends and family, always independent, never needing help. Soon, I found out that this was a terrible idea while trying to develop emotional resilience. The truth is that we need each other, we need our support network

Part of developing mental resilience is knowing when to ask for help and bury the ego. There is strength in admitting that you feel vulnerable and need someone’s hand. Feeling love and support is the best medicine while dealing with hardships. Your role is to choose who you let close to you and who you can trust. Based on my experience, it isn’t hard to figure it out.

3. Take responsibility for your feelings

You and I know that blaming is easy. It takes a weight off your shoulders, it eases the pain and it creates excuses. But it doesn’t build mental resilience. You need to learn how to take responsibility for your feelings when someone else hurts them.

There is a difference between those who are at fault and those who are responsible. Let’s say that your partner cheated on you which broke your heart and caused you pain. It’s your partner’s fault, but it’s your responsibility to deal with it. I know, it may sound unfair, but this is the only way you can build your emotional toughness on a feeling which scares you the most and that’s pain.

4. Learn to be alone

Some of us are pretty scared of being alone. That’s why we keep the TV on even when we don’t watch it, scroll through our feed 45 times a day or always seek some company just to maintain the noise. Spending some time alone allows you to think clearly, without distractions and on a much deeper level.

I am not suggesting that you isolate yourself from others, but time alone, combined with only 5 minutes of meditation, will help you in gaining better control of your feelings and overall mental state. Schedule your alone time. Reserve 1 hour, twice a week just for yourself, your thoughts and feelings. If you haven’t tried meditation, there are tons of videos online which will teach you the basics.  

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will.” – Vince Lombardi

5. Love those who hurt you

Two weeks ago, I read an article about letting go. According to Buddha’s teachings, the best way to let go is by loving those who hurt us. At first, it pissed me off. I thought to myself, “This is the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever read in my entire life.” Then I took a deep breath, stepped out of my ego and admitted that it made sense.

Think about it this way, when you truly let go, when you forgive, you are gaining more control over your feelings and mindset. And that’s one of the most important things in building mental resilience. You take away the power of someone else who gained it through hurting you. Once you overcome the feeling of anger and the need for retaliation, the action of the other person won’t control you.

Conclusion

Having the right perspective on pain, surrounding yourself with people you can trust and taking responsibilities for your feelings are basic components of your inner toughness. The best thing about it is that even when you fail, you will manage to recover pretty quickly because you are built this way.

Don’t focus on your ego, it’s one of the most common reasons which stops you from growing. Have faith and accept the fact the everything in your life has a purpose. It’s how you choose to use it which defines who you are.

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