Motivation
10 Reasons Why CrossFit Is Kick Ass!
Sweat, Puke, Rinse, Repeat! Simply put, our bodies are amazing, our hard work is awesome, and winning is a sensational feeling. With a triple victory, what else could you ask for? CrossFit was created by Greg Glassman. It is a strength and conditioning program which many tactical teams, police academies, martial artists, and military special ops units use to create the perfect application for anyone who is committed, regardless of their experience. From cage fighters to elderly individuals with heart disease, this program is an impressive movement provides a strong propensity for hard work.
CrossFit aims to constantly vary functional movement, which is performed at a high intensity. The actual definition is ‘an increased work-capacity across modal domains and broad time’, which means the ability to do a ass-load of work in various ways in various amounts of time. Whoever does the most wins because they are the most fit.
Here is a rope.Here is a weight.Here is a box.
Now climb, lift, and jump.
Who will accomplish the most in a fifteen minute period? Whoever does the most, wins. It is that simple. But what is it about CrossFit that makes it super kick ass? With regular exercise, you will raise endorphins, provide an outlet for your stress, and lower cortisol, which makes for a way less-stressed you. This can be great for you at in general, but also in at home and in the office as well. Yes, yes, and more yes! Not only does CrossFit change your mental attitude, but it helps generate a more happy, healthy, you–and isn’t that every one’s major goal in life?
Here are 10 reasons why CrossFit is awesome:
1. Get Sick Less Often–WAY Less Often!
CrossFitters make for a healthy, resilient bunch! By maintaining a healthy diet (more than likely with Paleo Lean), you are increasing your energy levels and increasing your immunity as well. Exercising regularly helps strengthen your physical strength, immune system, and makes us less susceptible to injuries and nasty viruses.
Have you ever noticed that when everyone seems to be sick, you might feel a bit drowsier than usual, but as a whole you just keep on truckin’ through the cloud of sickness? Yeah, sure, some may snicker as you steadily munch down on some kale-chips, tuna-everything, and protein enriched nut mixes, but you know that one day, the sickness will come again, and it won’t be after you! Ultimately, this rule applies to anyone who is dedicated to exercising regularly, and maintaining a healthy diet.
Besides, CrossFit makes you awesome, and who doesn’t want to be awesome?!
2. CrossFitters Connect
I am sure you have heard the joke: “How can you tell if someone is doing CrossFit?”, And someone replied, “Well, to be honest and truthful, I even have it on my CV!”. Well, even if you have not heard that one–discovering others who share the same connections and hobbies as you (especially someone you work with) can be grounds for easy conversation and great connections. You will ultimately be regarded as a better person (and feel better about yourself too), when you feel like you are part of a team. A bad ass CrossFit team!
3. A Positive Change In Productivity Throughout Your Day
A Healthy lifestyles means a less need for supplements. By supplements, we are talking about energy-boosters, such as energy drinks, coffee and tea, and those cute little 5 hour energy bottles. Why would you need them when your days of 2:30-funks are left in the dust thanks to CrossFit and its bad ass ability to provide us a well fuelled every level throughout the day?
Regular meals are your main source of energy, so instead of heading straight to the gas station for a quicker-picker-upper, you will still be pumped and feeling great–able to plow right on through your day leaving your colleagues in your dust! Um, AMAZING.
4. You Don’t Just Want Physical Strength–You Want Mental Strength, Too!
CrossFit athletes who make progress are dedicated to hard work. You get out what you put in. Not everyone has the strength to drudge through endless sessions of killer workout and exercise routines, such as wall balls, sumo-dead lifts, toes to bar, and thrusters! When faced with a challenge–busy shifts or complicated matters to resolve generally speaking–CrossFitters know how to approach issues by breaking them down and turning them into manageable sections, because you are able to preserve much of your energy, as well as maintain and apply outstanding self-control!
5. Slackers Lose!
Slackers may as well put a big-red-X through their daily agendas, but not you! As a CrossFit athlete, you maintain progress by increasing endurance, strength, and stamina. (Not to mention every other aspect of physical performance!) All of these require dedication, and hard work on your end, but you are willing to do this to achieve the euphoric-high you receive by pushing through, and reaching your goals. You know that by performing shallow air-squats, or not getting your chest to deck during a push-up, you are only cheating yourself! To a CrossFitter, that seems like a waste of perfectly good chance to increase your abilities. You take these values seriously, and imply them to your everyday life–to every aspect of your life.
You are a 100-percent-er, you carry these values with you to work, give 110% on all of your daily tasks, and you are efficient and organized in displaying these qualities because you are a go-getter, you go and get it, and you bring it back! A true CrossFitter have the ability to ‘role model’ these techniques throughout the course of their day.
6. Bad Ass Time Management Skills
As a CrossFitter, you have mastered the skill of using time wisely. With your hectic schedule, it is not always easy to make it to the gym 3-5 times per week–not to mention any personal extra curricular activities you enjoy after work! You must plan your routine around family, social commitments, kids, and work! What a headache! CrossFitters usually plan their week out ahead of time, around their CrossFit sessions. You will find yourself very aware of everything that you have going on, and be able to manage it all–which is key. Any CrossFitter who can pull this off as a long-term commitment will be able to easily sort through their calendars, making time management a breeze.
7. Productivity
Let us take a poll–how many lazy CrossFitters have you met? Oh, none? Not sure anyone has heard of one! Slackers are not particularly able to last any length of time in an environment that requires your keen decision-making on how hard you are able to work. There are thinkers, and then there are doers. CrossFitters are by all means the true definition of ‘doers’. Setting goals and working hard to attain these goals–if you need to do something, you get up and do it! No questions asked, no lolly-gagging or wandering aimlessly trying your damnedest to procrastinate, not you!
CrossFitters understand time is precious. Why would you waste your time if you can easily manage and attain your goals in a timely manner? You wouldn’t! More than likely, if you see others around you need anything after you have completed the tasks you have set out to do. You are proactive. You have no problem going out of your way to find something else to do. It all goes back to this: A body which is in motion, stays in motion. A body in rest, tends to stay in rest. You have heard that one before, we all have. CrossFitters just do it better!
8. Ability To Maintain Your Stress
CrossFitters maintain lower stress levels generally speaking. You possess the remarkable ability to prioritize your time during the day to get to the gym by changing your thought process. Instead of stressing over your hectic day of meetings, crying children and terrible weather, you head to the gym and feel great knowing what makes you stronger not only makes you happier, but healthier, too. You just feel great after a good workout session! Regular exercise is known to raise endorphins, provide us with an outlet for stress, and lower cortisol–the makings for a less stressed you–which is great for everyone who surrounds you! (Especially the guy next to you!)
9. Passion Shines Though Your Every Sweat-Drenched Pore
A CrossFit lifestyle comes with challenge, which is fine, because you enjoy it. Many CrossFitters have had their lifestyle choices challenged by others. Some say it is a cult, some fear injury–others insist it is just a fad, that there is no science behind it. I know you have heard this one: “Bread is full of great nutritional values and important nutrients, our bodies have adapted to the needs which bread provides.” Well, you have got some news for them–you are going to take a deep breath, and methodically prove them wrong with your structured argumentative abilities, and take their criticism on head-first.
You won’t necessarily turn blue-in-the-face trying to convince others of all the benefits of your lifestyle, but you will display your skills-to-pay-the-bills with confidence, and know that the right information will land you logical, constructed arguments in which to counter anyone who wants to argue about your personal choices. Some will come to see through the eyes of CrossFitters, others will remain uneducated and ignorant to the greatness you provide yourself on a daily basis.
10. The CrossFit Games
CrossFit initially set out to increase work-capacities over a long period of time–and since then, the entire spectrum has evolved into a sport. Whoever produces the greatest amount of work under the provided circumstances is crowned champion. Two renowned CrossFitters are Chris Spealler, and Kristan Cleaver.
Chris Spealler began CrossFit without a coach in 2006, and has now as a completed certificate in the course CrossFit Level One. He has attended more than one specialty course, and has experienced a life-changing journey because of CrossFit. He trains others, and speaks out about how lucky he finds himself to be a part of some of the earliest years of CrossFit, as he enjoys seeing new growth and how it benefits so many different people.
Kristan Clever is another popular name you have more than likely heard of. She believes that there is more to this lifestyle, and thanks to The CrossFit games, now has the opportunity to prove this to her family. She also believes that everything should be gone into with a strategy behind it so every outcome has a better chance of becoming a successful, or great outcome. She has been participating in The Games since 2010.
So you see, while CrossFit is challenging as hell, its tough-as-nails nature attacks competitive types, and everyone works their ass off. From fitness programs to Games, new enthusiasts have emerged. Check out any CrossFit box, and you are sure to find a group of welcoming and friendly fitness-freaks. It is exciting to be so ‘amped up’ about getting fit, and CrossFitters love to share their passion. Anytime you bring a butt-load of people together to work incredibly hard, good things will come. That is why team mates are tight-knit, successful, and extremely loyal. Everything they do is extreme–how awesome is that?! The most magical aspect of CrossFit, is that it is a great community, an awesome community, a movement.
Faster, Longer, Harder. CrossFit!
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Motivation
Why Your Morning Routine is Destroying Your Flow State (And How to Fix It)
You wake up with massive goals. You have a project to finish, a presentation to prep, and high-priority work that needs your absolute best energy. But before you can touch any of it, your morning gets hijacked by logistics.
Picking out clothes, figuring out what to eat for breakfast, checking emails, and answering texts—these activities silently transform your morning from a work block into a coordination block. And according to peak performance experts, this is the biggest disaster imaginable for your productivity.
Rian Doris, founder and CEO of Flow Research Collective—who has trained teams at Audi, Accenture, and the US Air Force—argues that those first few hours of the day are capable of producing more output than the rest of your day combined. But only if you know how to leverage your biology.
Here is the neuroscience behind why your current morning routine is killing your productivity, and the radical protocol you need to adopt instead.
The Neuroscience of the First 90 Seconds
Flow state is that elusive zone of total absorption. It is the state where your inner critic goes quiet, hours feel like minutes, and you produce your most creative, high-leverage work.
The absolute best time to drop into a flow state is 60 to 90 seconds after you wake up. There are two neurological reasons for this:
- Your Cognitive Load is at Absolute Zero
Cognitive load refers to the amount of information you are holding in your working memory. Think of it like your computer’s RAM. To access a flow state, you need maximum RAM available. When you first wake up, your cognitive load is naturally empty. You haven’t had any conversations, checked any emails, or learned about any new problems.
- You Are in the “Hypnopompic Window”
When you sleep, your brain waves oscillate between deep delta and theta states. Research suggests that the brain waves of a flow state hover right on the borderline between alpha and theta—which is incredibly close to the brain waves of sleep.
In sleep research, the first 1 to 5 minutes upon waking is called the hypnopompic window. During this tiny window, your brain waves are perfectly primed for flow, and your “flow proneness” (your ability to access and sustain the zone) is at its absolute peak.
The Coordination Trap
So, what destroys this sacred biological window? Coordination.
The moment you start wondering what to make for breakfast, doing quick admin tasks, or checking Slack, you instantly spike your cognitive load. Worse, these logistical decisions drive your brain waves into a high-frequency beta state, pulling you further and further away from flow.
You wake up perfectly primed for genius-level deep work, and you ruin it by deciding what color shirt to wear.
| The Coordination Block (Average) | The Flow Block (Elite) |
| Action: Checking emails, planning breakfast, coordinating kids. | Action: Sliding instantly into a pre-planned, high-leverage task. |
| Brain Waves: Forced quickly into stressful Beta waves. | Brain Waves: Seamless transition from Theta sleep to Alpha/Theta flow. |
| Cognitive Load: High (RAM is maxed out immediately). | Cognitive Load: Low (100% of RAM dedicated to deep work). |
| Result: Distracted, reactive, playing catch-up all day. | Result: 3 hours of output that beats a normal 12-hour workday. |
The “Wake Up and Flow” Protocol
If you want to get three times more done in your first three hours than you currently do in a 12-hour day, you have to adopt the “Wake Up and Flow” protocol. Here is how to redesign your life for it.
Step 1: Ruthlessly Eliminate Morning Coordination
This might take you 6, 12, or even 18 months to achieve, but it requires a radical redesign of your life. Negotiate with your spouse to handle the morning school run while you do the afternoon pickups. Tell your team you will not be available online or in the office until 11:00 AM. Do whatever it takes to recapture your morning and turn it back into a pure work block.
Step 2: Prep the Night Before
“Wake up and flow” does not mean waking up and figuring out what to do. You must identify your most sacred, high-priority work the night before. Set everything up so that when you wake up, your laptop is open, the specific document is loaded, and your water bottle is full. The goal is to slide directly into the task within 60 seconds of opening your eyes, without breaking the hypnopompic window.
Step 3: Move Your “Morning Routine” to Later
Delay the standard morning routine. Do not meditate, exercise, or shower first thing. Drop straight into your flow block for two to four hours. Then, use your meditation, workout, and shower as a tool to reset your brain and boost your flow proneness back up for the second half of the day.
Save all coordination—email checking, admin, logistics, and trivial decision-making—for the late afternoon. Those tasks do not benefit from flow, so they should never be allowed to steal your most valuable cognitive window.
Protect the first 90 seconds of your day, and it will completely change your life
Checkout this great video by Rian Doris on how to tap into your flow state
Motivation
Why Motivation Fails Students During Exam Season (And What Actually Works)
Exam season has a way of revealing something most students only realize when it’s already too late: motivation is unreliable when you actually need it. At the start of a semester, everything feels under control. There’s energy, clear intentions, and the belief that this time will be different. Studying feels manageable because there’s no pressure yet, and it’s easy to imagine staying consistent.
But as exams approach, that changes. Stress builds, time feels tighter, and the motivation that once felt natural starts to fade. Students begin relying on willpower, then guilt, and eventually last-minute panic just to get through everything. The pattern is familiar, yet it keeps repeating.
The problem isn’t that students are lazy or incapable. It’s that most people try to build consistency on something that was never meant to last. Motivation is emotional, and exam season is stressful by nature. Those two rarely coexist for long.
That’s why high-performing students don’t depend on motivation. They rely on structure instead.
The illusion of “I’ll study when I feel like it”
Most students fall into the same trap without even realizing it. They tell themselves they’ll start when they feel ready, or when they’re in the right mood, or when they’re a bit more focused later in the day. It sounds reasonable in the moment because waiting for the “right mindset” feels natural.
The problem is that this thinking slowly breaks consistency. You wait for motivation, it doesn’t show up, so you delay studying. Pressure builds, then you cram at the last minute, feel guilty afterward, and promise to do better next time. Then the cycle repeats.
What makes this so difficult to notice is that it still feels like effort is happening. You’re thinking about studying, planning it, and stressing about not doing it. But none of that translates into actual progress. When studying depends on how you feel, it will always be inconsistent because emotions are not stable under pressure.
High performers approach this differently. They remove emotion from the decision entirely. Instead of asking whether they feel like studying, they decide in advance when studying will happen and treat it as non-negotiable. That shift alone changes the entire dynamic.
Systems always outperform willpower
There’s a point most students only understand after struggling for a while: you don’t rise to the level of your motivation, you fall to the level of your systems.
A system is anything that makes the right behavior easier to repeat than the wrong one. It reduces friction, removes unnecessary decisions, and eliminates the need to rely on willpower throughout the day.
For example, studying for a set block of time with a clear plan will always outperform waiting for motivation and then rushing through material under stress. Consistency isn’t a personality trait; it’s the result of design.
When systems are in place, performance becomes predictable instead of emotional. You stop depending on how you feel in the moment and start relying on a structure that carries you through.
This idea also shows up outside academics. In real life, people often struggle with long-term decisions because everything feels overwhelming when there’s no structure behind it. For instance, when managing education-related debt, people often look into options like private student loan consolidation as a way to simplify repayment and create more clarity around their financial situation. The goal isn’t just financial relief but reducing decision complexity so it becomes easier to stay consistent over time. The same principle applies everywhere: structure reduces pressure, while emotion increases confusion.
Why motivation breaks under pressure
Motivation works well when life is light and flexible, but it tends to collapse under pressure. During exam season, the mind is already dealing with overload. Multiple deadlines and responsibilities make it harder to think clearly, and everything starts to feel heavier than it actually is.
On top of that, pressure creates emotional resistance. The more important something becomes, the more overwhelming it feels, and the more likely you are to avoid it. It’s not a lack of care; it’s a natural response to stress.
Then there’s decision fatigue. Even small choices like what to study or where to start slowly drain mental energy. By the time students finally sit down to work, they’re already mentally exhausted from deciding how to begin.
This combination is why even motivated students struggle. The issue isn’t effort, it’s the absence of a system that removes these mental barriers.
What actually works instead
Students who perform consistently don’t wait for motivation to show up. They build routines that function regardless of how they feel.
One of the simplest changes is setting fixed study times. Instead of deciding every day when to start, the time is already defined. When that time arrives, studying begins automatically. There’s no negotiation and no delay because the decision has already been made.
Another important shift is lowering the pressure for every session to be perfect. On days when energy is low, the goal isn’t to push harder; it’s to stay consistent. Even a short focused session is enough to maintain the habit. What matters more than intensity is continuity.
Environment also plays a bigger role than most students realize. When distractions are everywhere, every study session becomes a battle. But when the environment is structured in advance, same place, fewer distractions, everything ready, starting becomes significantly easier.
Planning ahead removes another major obstacle. When students decide what they’ll study before sitting down, they eliminate the hesitation that often leads to procrastination. The work becomes execution instead of decision-making.
The identity shift that changes everything
At a deeper level, consistency stops being about habits and becomes about identity. Struggling students often think they need to try harder, but high performers think differently. For them, studying isn’t something they negotiate with every day; it’s simply part of who they are.
That shift changes behavior in a powerful way. When something becomes part of your identity, you stop debating whether to do it. It becomes automatic.
And once that happens, motivation is no longer necessary.
Final thoughts
Motivation feels important, but it was never designed to handle pressure. During exam season, it rises and falls constantly, which makes performance unpredictable if you depend on it.
Systems don’t behave that way. They don’t depend on mood or energy. They simply run in the background and keep you consistent even when things get difficult.
The students who perform best aren’t the ones who feel the most motivated. They’re the ones who no longer rely on it.
Because in the end, success in exams isn’t about studying when you feel ready. It’s about making sure it happens even when you don’t.
Motivation
How to Armor Your Mind and Build Unbreakable Belief: Lessons from David Goggins
David Goggins is not interested in sugarcoating the truth. He is not interested in giving you cookie-cutter motivation, and he is certainly not interested in resting on his laurels. After retiring from the military, setting records in ultra-endurance racing, and releasing a massive bestselling book, most people would enjoy their success.
Goggins decided to become a smokejumper.
For the past few years, he has been jumping out of airplanes into the remote Canadian wilderness—places inaccessible by vehicles—to fight wildfires for $15 an hour. Why? Because the life we live is the ultimate competitor. It will find your weakness and hammer you. To survive and thrive, you cannot afford to get soft.
In a powerful conversation, David Goggins laid out exactly why he continues to seek out suffering, how he processes his childhood trauma, and the specific strategies he uses to armor his mind. Here is how you can build the kind of belief that makes you unstoppable.
Checkout this great interview with David Goggins:
The Danger of Success (And Why You Must Cap It)
Success is dangerous. More money, more fame, and more comfort can easily make you soft. Goggins believes that if you want to continue evolving, you must learn to “cap” your success.
“I have to continue to reinvent the wheel of the mind and figure out more ways for people to pull from,” Goggins explains. “To do that, I can’t just say ‘I have this resume, I’m good.’ I must cap myself so I can come back with better, more unique knowledge.”
When the noise of success gets too loud, Goggins forces himself back into the “mental lab”—which, for him, means digging holes in the ground, waking up at 5:00 AM, and freezing in the wilderness fighting fires. Growth does not happen on a podcast or during a corporate speaking gig. Growth happens at scratch.
The One-Second Decision
When you are doing something incredibly difficult—whether it is Navy SEAL Hell Week, a 240-mile ultra-marathon, or launching a difficult business—your brain will inevitably try to force you to quit. Goggins calls this the “one-second decision.”
During Hell Week, recruits are subjected to “surf torture”—sitting linked-arms in the freezing Pacific Ocean. In that environment, the brain shifts into fight-or-flight mode.
“You forget every reason why you wanted to be there,” Goggins says. “You don’t care about SEALs, you don’t care about your country, you don’t care about that gold Trident. All you want to do is go home and be warm. In that one second, most people fail.”
How do you survive that second? You have to separate your physical body from your mental state.
While his body was freezing in the water, Goggins would mentally place himself on the beach next to the instructors holding warm coffee. From that mentally “warm” place, he would think logically: Where am I going to end up if I quit? How am I going to feel tomorrow when I am warm, but I have to live with the shame of giving up?
You have to project yourself forward. You are trying to optimize for right now to stop the discomfort, but you will pay for it with decades of regret. If you can gain control of your mind for that single second, you can survive the ordeal.
Why Motivation is Useless Without a “Clean Garage”
Most people treat motivation as a permanent fix. They think that if they just watch the right video or read the right quote, they will finally have the drive to change their lives. But motivation is fleeting. You have to learn to perform at your highest level when you are the least motivated.
Many experts preach the value of discipline, but Goggins points out a massive flaw: You cannot put discipline into a cluttered mind.
Think of your mind like a garage. If your life is disorganized—full of drama, stress, and unresolved issues—your “garage” is a mess. You cannot just throw “discipline” into a messy garage and expect to find it when you need it.
“You have to be able to find all these different things in your mind,” Goggins says. “I meditate two hours every single night because I refresh and reorganize the garage… so then discipline is in there, organization is in there, and when I wake up, I’m ready to go.”
How to Build Real Confidence (Stop Pounding Your Chest)
There is a trend in the self-help world of standing in front of a mirror, pounding your chest, and shouting affirmations to build confidence. Goggins laughs at this.
True confidence is not delusional; it requires undeniable proof.
“You must build belief,” Goggins insists. “It comes from the everyday resume, the things I know I’ve accomplished, the real hard work, the real calluses on my mind.”
If you want to stop feeling sorry for yourself and build real self-esteem, you have to do the work. You build belief through the daunting tasks you put yourself through. When things get difficult, you don’t rely on a hollow affirmation; you look back at the actual suffering you have endured and say, “I have survived worse. I can knock this out.”
The Power of the Live Autopsy
To write his latest book, Never Finished, Goggins had to do something incredibly difficult: he had to return to Buffalo, New York, to confront his abusive father.
He didn’t go back looking for an apology. An apology would have just validated his trauma and given him an excuse to be a loser. He went back to understand the “Beast” that had terrorized his childhood. He learned that his father had been brutally abused by his own father.
Instead of feeling sorry for himself, Goggins performed a “live autopsy.”
“When people die, they figure out why you died in the autopsy,” he explains. “But we never do live autopsies to figure out why we’re dying while we are alive.”
By facing his past, understanding the generational trauma, and unpacking his deepest shame, Goggins was able to be reborn. If you are struggling, you must go into the archives of your life, study the things that broke you, and use that knowledge to forge yourself into something stronger.
Conclusion: Be the Standard
The world is tough, and it will try to break you. You cannot shelter yourself or your children from it indefinitely. Instead of hoping for an easy life, you must build a person who can withstand the pressure.
You have to have pride in yourself. Write your own mission statement. Decide exactly who you want to be, and hold yourself accountable to that standard every single morning. Face your demons, organize your mind, and never, ever stop fighting the one-second decision.
Entrepreneurs
Peak Performance Psychology: Secrets from the Real-Life “Wendy Rhoades”
If you have watched the hit TV show Billions, you know the character Dr. Wendy Rhoades. She is the brilliant in-house performance psychologist who helps ultra-wealthy hedge fund managers and cutthroat founders unlock extreme performance, navigate crises, and destroy their mental blocks.
But Wendy Rhoades isn’t just a fictional character trope. The Wall Street Journal recently compared the fictional Wendy to a very real person: Dr. Julie Gurner.
Dr. Gurner is one of the most sought-after executive performance coaches in the country. With a background in adult psychopathology and forensics—including a stint working in a Supermax prison—she now spends her days in the trenches with CEOs, billionaire founders, and elite operators. She helps the top 0.01% reach the next level psychologically.
In a recent interview, Dr. Gurner shared the exact traits, mindsets, and peak performance psychology strategies that separate the ultra-successful from everyone else. Here is how you can apply them to your own life.
1. The Defining Trait of the Top 0.01%: Audacity
When looking at the ultra-successful, one trait stands out above the rest: Audacity.
Audacity is the refusal to follow the “imaginary rules” that govern most people’s lives. Society teaches us certain boundaries: you cannot apply for that job unless you have exactly five years of experience, a small startup cannot pitch a major bank, or you do not belong in certain rooms because of your background.
According to Dr. Gurner, the top 0.01% operate with an almost complete unawareness of these artificial limits.
“They don’t follow the rules that everyone else seems to follow that are actually very artificial,” Gurner explains. “That audacity to go for these larger things… is really how they skip steps that everyone else is still trudging through. We’re all going on the crowded path, and they just find this little dirt road to get to outcomes we are eight years away from.”
How to Apply It: Adopt the disposition of “What if it goes right?” instead of “What if it goes wrong?” We chronically overestimate the true risk of failure. In reality, most failures are temporary and quickly forgotten by the public. Take the side path. Shoot the uncomfortably large shot.
2. The Repetitive Reflex: Stop Trying to Fix Your Weaknesses
There is a common misconception (the halo effect) that high performers are exceptional at everything. In reality, they are usually only great at one or two things—but they lean into those strengths relentlessly.
Dr. Gurner points to Elon Musk as a public example. Musk is a visionary company builder and resource gatherer, but he famously relies on operators like Gwynne Shotwell at SpaceX to handle the granular day-to-day operations, NASA contracts, and internal management.
“If you start as above-average on something and put force behind it, the separation between you and everyone else is dramatic,” Gurner notes. “But if you focus all your time on the things you are below average at, maybe you’ll bring them up to average. That’s not where you get escape velocity.”
How to Apply It: Identify your unique, outlier strengths. Double down on them. Stop judging yourself for the things you are bad at, and either delegate them, outsource them, or partner with someone who thrives in those areas (the “spreadsheet person”).
3. Stop Suppressing Negative Emotion: Use It as Fuel
The modern wellness world is currently obsessed with stoicism—the idea that you should remain perfectly tempered, suppress extreme emotions, and remain unaffected by the world.
Dr. Gurner pushes back hard against this, arguing that suppressing intense emotion is a massive waste of energy.
“If you have anger or rage, why would you suppress that?” she asks. “You are killing a source of energy that you could channel into something absolutely phenomenal. There are so many wonderful companies and careers built on spite, anger, and ‘I’m going to show you’ energy.”
Humans are meant to experience a full spectrum of emotions. If you have been wronged, you can choose to let that anger destroy you, or you can use it to work 80-hour weeks, build an empire, and make your life phenomenal.
How to Apply It: Do not let negative emotions turn you into a toxic person to those around you, but absolutely use the internal fire of a perceived slight or past failure to fuel your daily actions.
4. Be Quirky, Not Humble
If you want to reach the highest levels of success, “be humble” is often terrible advice.
Humility is frequently confused with modesty or self-deprecation. If you constantly devalue your contributions, the people who desperately need your specific skills will never find you. Knowing what you are great at, and proudly sharing it with the world, does not make you arrogant—it makes you useful.
Furthermore, do not sand down your edges to fit into a corporate mold.
“Everyone is pushing toward conformity, and it is the wrong path,” Gurner says. “If you push to fit in with everyone else, and then you’re mad that your outcomes aren’t different, there’s a reason for that. We remember people because of their quirks.”
How to Apply It: Own what you are great at loudly. Lean into your strange hobbies and unique personality traits. The friction of your “weirdness” is exactly what makes you memorable and separates you from the conformist pack.
5. Reframe Obstacles as Challenges
At the end of the day, Dr. Gurner says her main job as a psychologist is simply to help high-achievers get out of their own way. We all know what the optimal decisions in our lives are, but we invent excuses and barriers to avoid doing the hard work.
The simplest, most scalable tool to fix this is reframing.
“How you frame everything is how you approach it,” Gurner explains. “When you see an obstacle or a problem, reframe it into a challenge. Think, ‘How could I productively think about this that is equally true?’ We get so tunneled in that we don’t see other ways of thinking about the same challenge that could get us amped up to tackle it.”
The Bottom Line: Don’t Ignore the Haunting Agitation
Many people walk around with “haunting agitation”—a nagging voice whispering that they could be doing more, living bigger, and fulfilling a dream they abandoned long ago.
Do not let that whisper become a scream of regret later in life.
The difference between those who achieve outlier success and those who don’t is simply a willingness to make sacrifices. Map out the life you want, figure out exactly what it costs (both financially and in terms of effort), and have the audacity to go get it.
Checkout this incredible interview with Dr Julie Gurner
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