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7 Motivation Killers That Are Dragging You Down

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I find that motivation can be a tricky thing.

We all want it. We set our goals. We have our dreams. And then we try to fill the gap by pouring in motivation.

But of course, it isn’t as easy as one might think. Being motivated can be hard. So ultimately, you’ve got to make sure you’re doing it right!

So here I will highlight the 7 motivation killers that are dragging you down. This should help you weed out the things that have been leaching on your motivation all this time.

 

 

What May Be Killing Your Motivation

 

1. People who put you down

Straight up. Avoid these people. They’re simply insecure to the point that they’ve to take it out on the world as they’re afraid of other people’s success.

Eliminate these people in your life and create a healthy environment for yourself.

 

2. Negative news

It’s a sad thing that most of the news we read today are just bad or sad. We’ve natural disasters, corrupted politicians and a random innocent victim who got robbed. It’s a small wonder people lose their confidence or even get depressed.

Do yourself a favour and stay away from the news. You may be “wired” to be attracted to bad news or drama, but why upset yourself further by reading up on such things? You don’t need a clear visual on what you already know is going on out there.

 

3. Friends who are way too comfortable

Sometimes, your close friends could be dragging you down. Sure, they’re there for you and provide you a comfortable relationship.

But that could be the problem. Too much comfort may be holding you back as you feel you need not push yourself since everyone around you is the same.

Remember: comfort and stability is overrated. Find people from other walks of life who can motivate you.

 

4. The past

Whatever that happened has happened. The past and its people stays there. It does not exist.

Don’t let time you’ve lived already lived through get you down. Stop thinking about it.

If anything, everything that was meant to happen was perfectly made to prepare you for the life you’re meant to live. So be present.

 

5. The future

And conversely, the future can be a big motivation killer.

Some of us tend to think too much and over analyze everything. As such, our expectations get out of hand.

You can’t ever predict the future. Even the most assured person in the world looks both ways when he crosses the road. So embrace uncertainty and just keep doing your best. The rest will take care of itself.

 

6. Thinking that trying is not enough

I personally disagree when people say something like, “Don’t try. Just do.”

First, it doesn’t make sense because everything starts from trying.

And secondly, there’s nothing wrong with trying. It’s certainly better than when you don’t at all.

So take it one step at a time. Try first, for failure only comes when you stop trying. Pretty soon, you’d have done many great things.

 

7. The chase

We often go awry when our eyes are on the prize, so much so we’re blind to everything else.

Be it money, love, status or whatever, we need to realize that there’s a fine line between having an aim and having an obsession. The latter is what a lot of us slide into.

Know this: Success doesn’t bring happiness, but happiness always brings success.

 

Once in a while, remember to instead enjoy the process, have some fun and not take life so seriously.

What has been a major motivation killer for you? I’d love to hear about your experiences in the comment section below.

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8 Comments

  1. max

    Oct 10, 2014 at 6:50 pm

    Hey,

    nice article!

    Just one comment on your 6th point. I think you didn’t quite understand the sentence “Don’t try. Just do.”

    Because this sentence does make a lot of sense when you understand it correctly. The following is meant:

    When you “try” something you already think about failure. Using the verb “to try” implies failure, implies insecurity. So when you know you want to get a professional basketball player or whatever then you are not gonna just “try” it , instead you are gonna do it. When people say “I am gonna try it” it’s an indicator that they didn’t make a decision for themselves yet. They are either not sure if this is the thing they want to do or they are not sure if this is something they can do. The first point is actually very understandable and the key point since the 2nd point is mostly a consequence from the first point.

    So when you aren’t sure if you want this or that , then it’s okay to simply “try” it. But when you are sure that you want to achieve a particular goal then you simply don’t just try.

    • Cindy

      Nov 24, 2014 at 3:04 pm

      Great points!! Thank you!
      I like your perspective on #6 as far as ‘at least they’re moving toward something’, but i do agree with Max. I feel that when people say, “I’m TRYING!” they still don’t have the belief in themselves to achieve the outcome they want. I view this as a back-door escape option where they’re not fully committed to keep climbing toward their goals; an excuse or justification for sitting safely in the middle. And really, that all stems from fear of failure. Once people realize that failure is just feedback, they’ll see that it’s not the goal, but the growth experienced getting there. An opportunity to reflect, do-over, do-better. You don’t TRY to pick up a pencil. You don’t TRY to drive a car. You either do it or you don’t. An amazing shift happens when you make the decision of “I AM”. It’s that cerebral, non-negotiable forward motion that turns into the physical actions of going for it.

  2. Seye Emmanuel

    Sep 4, 2014 at 1:09 am

    The difference between a winner and a failure is dependent on their desire to succeed and attitude to handle failure. Remember that quitters never win and winners never quit. Don’t give up but rather persist. All the best.

  3. Fay

    May 10, 2014 at 7:54 pm

    People. Especially people that are close to you (relatives). I know that they think that they mean well but sometimes they can kill your dreams. One way is by telling you to take a safer path of travel because it is comfortable for them. They don’t want to see you fail or they may feel that they may be left behind if you succeed. Either way I believe that you must seek out your own path and step out on faith.

  4. Karthik Vijay

    May 9, 2014 at 3:10 am

    Yes, I agree being in the comfort zone is a serious motivation killer. We don’t try something out of that zone which we might be capable of because we tend to convince ourselves that we already have is a great achievement by being in the so called “Comfort Zone”.
    To realize our true potential one should always self-challenge. By challenging ourselves we are not going to lose anything, either we might earn or learn something as a part of the process which is so called “Experience”.

  5. Juliana Ormsby

    May 8, 2014 at 5:09 pm

    Self-loathing has always brought me down. No matter what I have accomplished…raised my wonderful son alone; studied Zen Buddhism in Japan and Hawaii; worked full time as a teacher while pursuing my doctorate part-time; have had so many men attracted to me; published a book…I always feel like a loser. My self-fulfilling prophecy has come true. I’m now 66, have no partner, am not that healthy, and am trying to live on a pension of $1,200 a month. I did own a lovely home for 17 years but lost it. Is there any way I can ever recover from such a failure of a life?

    • Fay

      May 10, 2014 at 8:00 pm

      Juliana please stop thinking of yourself as a failure; you are not a failure. Yes you may feel that way especially if things are going in the wrong direction. However the Creator does not make failures. Take a look at your failures and ask yourself what you could have done differently and more importantly speak to your Creator (pray). What you think about yourself is what you tend to become.

    • NecessaryChats

      Jul 21, 2014 at 7:45 pm

      You are not a failure, Juliana. You’ve done things (look at that ridiculous list of accomplishments!), and now it’s time to go out and do some more.

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