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The Only 7 Step Process You Need to Follow to Go After What You Want in Life

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8 years ago

Mar 4, 2017

Everything you want in life can be yours. You might not believe this. Most people believe that what they see in their lives today is their current and future reality. The truth is, it doesn’t have to be.

You can envision a magical life for yourself and make it happen. You have the ability to bring your ideal love life, work life, spiritual life and emotionally healthy life into your reality. You can materialize people, experiences and everything your heart desires. Remember, whatever it is your heart desires is also wanting you. All you must do is believe in your vision and follow the steps below.

Follow this 7-step process to go after what you want in life:

1. Ignore the reality of present circumstances

What’s happening today does not dictate your future. No matter how bad things are now, you’ll acknowledge it and ignore it. The present circumstances are temporary and fleeting. Imagine you’re in an elevator and want to get to the top floor. Your present circumstances are on the first floor.

The fact that you’re on the first floor doesn’t mean your elevator isn’t about to shoot up. Your life is about to change very quickly but you must not let the present circumstances trick you into believing your life is in a dismal condition.

2. Get clear on what you want

You won’t know what floor you want the elevator to take you to until you press the floor you want. Similarly, you won’t know how to get there if you don’t know where you want to go in the first place.

Without direction and guidance, it will take you where it wants to take you but life always waits for your direction. You must dream it and see it in your mind and visualize it. Let life know what you want. Let life know what you want your future to look like.

“The only thing worse than being blind is having sight but no vision.” – Helen Keller

3. Imagine you are already there

Regardless of the present circumstances, change your life to start reflecting your future reality. You may not have the love of your life, be living in your dream city or doing the work you love but you can cultivate those feelings you desire. Do you desire love, freedom, adventure, companionship, friendship, personal growth and more?

You can achieve those feelings today! Go out with a friend you haven’t met up with in some time. Take a day trip to a famous spot around town. Sightsee in your own city. Take a staycation. Visit beauty and nature where you are.

4. Cultivate joyful vibrations

Every day you can choose how you feel and how you view the world. You can actively change the way you feel by focusing on the good things. You can change the way you feel by experiencing gratitude. You can change the way you feel by listening to inspiring music, reading positive books and listening to inspiring podcasts. You can also take proactive actions to kill the negativity in your life.

Stop doing stuff that tears your soul. Reduce the time you spend with intolerable people. Seek a different workplace if you’re not in good energy at work. As far as viewing the world, you must believe you have the power of perception. You can’t change the circumstances of your life but you can change your view of those circumstances.

You can see your life through the lens of negativity or you can see your life through the lens of growth, inspiration, adventure, change, and transformation. However you see your life, your life will respond accordingly.

5. Take steps to get to the place you envision

From knowing your vision and cultivating positive vibrations, and from a place of possibility, take steps every day towards your dreams. Create habits so you have a systematic way to move towards your dream life every day.

If you’re an artist, create art every day. If you’re an entrepreneur, work on your business every day. If you’re a writer, write every day. If you’re an athlete, work out every day. Your dream life doesn’t happen if you simply envision it. It requires inspired action.

Work backwards from your dream life to the one thing you can do today to move towards that life. What one small step can you take each and every day that will move you closer to the life you want? You can create your future life one day at a time, starting today.

“A real decision is measured by the fact that you’ve taken a new action. If there’s no action, you haven’t truly decided.” – Tony Robbins

6. Surrender

Work on the parts of your dreams you can but surrender on the results. Don’t fixate on the results themselves or on your dream life. This will happen naturally if you focus on the journey.

Work on creating your dream life every day and before you know it, you’ll materialize it. Know where you want to go, work on getting there, take inspired action every day but surrender to the universe on the time and place.

Life will get you there in due time. If you do your part, life will do its part. You don’t have to control, force or manipulate the universe. You don’t have to fear, worry or doubt. If you trust the journey, your destination will appear soon enough.

7. Believe every event is moving you closer to your vision

Every setback, every challenge and every obstacle is preparing you for your dream. Life is simply testing you to see if you believe strongly enough in your vision. Most people give up quickly and think they must live the difficult life they’ve received.

Challenges and obstacles are tests. Will you see them for what they are? Will you see them and find a way to work past them? See, your ability to overcome the challenges in your path will give you the skills to achieve your dreams. You only have to learn and grow from the obstacles in front of you, not taking your eyes away from the prize.

Most people let obstacles discourage them and believe life wants them to choose a different direction. Don’t mistake a test that will strengthen you for a challenge that will doom you. Your vision for your life is divinely inspired and universally supported. You must bring your resilience, persistence and faith.

What part of this process are you having the most trouble with? Leave your thoughts below!

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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2 weeks ago

Jan 6, 2025

Daniel Bell

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
Cultivate healthier relationships
Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
Exhibit better work ethic
Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

What challenges have I already overcome?
How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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