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The Next Level: Answering the Call to Change History

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As we all know, the last two years have been very interesting. As someone that consults and advises leaders around the world, to say that I have been busy is an understatement. When the global pandemic started, I was getting contacted by leaders from all over the world as they faced great uncertainty about the future. I felt it was important to give them the space to share their concerns and trepidations. However, I also made sure to shift the narrative and remind them that this is still a moment of great possibility and opportunity in the world. I’ve seen into the next twenty years and the world will never truly be the same. I want to share some insights with you for embracing and thriving at the next level. Remarkable leaders never get stuck in the past. Revolutionary leaders engineer the possibilities of tomorrow!

Fear is the greatest enemy of the future. As you just heard me share, many leaders were anxious, fearful, and uncertain about the future. While some people consider me an anomaly, I just believe that I am an optimist. As a respected thought leader and prophetic voice, I do not allow the future or uncertainty to rattle me. While I will admit that the last two years have been anything but normal, I refuse to allow cultural events or social constructs to frame my narrative. In other words, you may not be able to control what is happening in the world. However, you always have the power to control what is happening within you. So I challenge you to silence the fear. Why is this so important? Fear is the greatest enemy of your future. Furthermore, fear is a currency just like faith is a currency. Whatever you are rooted in will determine your reality. Refuse to allow fear to rule you or to write the narrative of what is possible for your life. Fear wants to paralyze you and cripple your potential. 

Faith is a muscle that must be developed. When you mention faith to some people, you start to get cynical looks and blank stares. However, what most people do not understand is that faith is both a currency and a spiritual force. Everything that you attract into your life will be the result of faith or fear. With that said, faith is a magnet just like fear is a magnet. In order for fear to be silenced in your life, you have to starve it. Notice that I did not say that you have to ignore it. What we ignore often imprisons us to cycles of frustration, failure, and defeat. On the other hand, what we confront we are empowered to conquer. Decades ago I made an incredible discovery about faith that changed my life.

Faith is a spiritual principle and a spiritual law. The power of a principle is that it provides a proven path to results and success. In other words, I can apply a principle repeatedly and see results in my life. Then one day I came to the awareness that faith is a muscle. The strength of your faith is determined by the investments you make in feeding it. The reality is that we are all feeding something. We only have two responses to life. We can either respond in faith or respond in fear. Fear will always send your life in reverse and create cycles of regret. 

Faith will always move your life forward and become the catalyst for embracing your prophetic future. If you will develop the muscle of faith, then you can starve doubt in your life and you can seize your destiny. The strength of any muscle is developed by resistance. Challenges are opportunities to build resistance and break into new realms of living.

“A vision is not just a picture of what could be; it is an appeal to our better selves, a call to become something more.” – Rosabeth Moss Kanter

You cannot embrace the next realm in your life without crisis. As the global pandemic rocked the world, I reminded leaders of a message that I have been speaking for years. I believe that crisis is a precious treasure. Most people have a negative connotation of crisis. I have discovered that most people see a crisis as a disruption, disturbance, or detriment to their lives. 

Personally, I see a crisis as a developmental tool that ushers you into realms of greatness ad unlimited possibilities. Your perception of crisis will determine the progress and change that you see manifest in your life. I talk to so many people that say that they want to go to the next level. However, the moment that adversity shows up in their lives they start to shrink back to mediocrity. 

In order to embrace the next realm in your life, you are going to have to experience a crisis. A crisis is simply an opportunity to develop and to press into the next dimension. A crisis is never sent into your life to cripple you. A crisis shows up as the catalyst ushering you into growth, transformation, and mastery. Your perception of crisis will ultimately determine your promotion and the unlocking of your true capacity. 

Living at the next level will require vision. As we head into the final days of 2021, we look back on the last two years as a time of great turbulence, uncertainty, and change in the world. In fact, I have been telling my clients globally that we just lived through one of the greatest shifts and pivots in history. Everything about the world has changed. 

When I had this vision of the next twenty years, I saw the total transformation of industries, systems, institutions, and nations. One of the most important skills that we must possess in this new era is vision. While we have understood vision to a certain degree, most people are not living their lives with a real sense of vision. I have discovered that when you live without vision you live a life without boundaries and clearly defined priorities. 

Unfortunately, living without vision will always make you a casualty to someone else’s vision. As we head into 2022 and beyond, I want to challenge you to get a clear vision for your life. Vision brings focus to our lives, clarity to our days, and intention to our moments. Most importantly, vision empowers us to give every day of our lives an assignment. Vision is one of the most powerful forms of currency on the planet. Vision empowers you to see, partner with, and give birth to a tomorrow that is not yet born to time.

 The world is desperately in need of visionary leadership. Visionary leaders inspire hope, awaken dreamers, and activate those that will champion change.

Jamelle Sanders is the CEO of Jamelle Sanders International. Jamelle is committed to empowering leaders and entrepreneurs around the world to live up to their true potential and to profit wildly in their businesses. Jamelle is a life coach, business strategist, author, leading empowerment specialist and highly respected thought leader. Jamelle has been featured on CBS, NBC, Huff Post Live and contributed to numerous media outlets such as Thrive, Inspiyr, Young Upstarts, Elite Daily and numerous others.

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The Imbalanced Problem with Work/Life Balance

Balancing is for your checkbook, gymnastics, and nutrition; not for your people’s work/life ratio.

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How to Find the Courage to Start New

Change is scary, but it’s a normal part of life.

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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