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The 6 Key Traits of Those Who Live a Dream Life

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Super Successful individuals live what others would deem ‘a dream life’. These individuals have very different personalities to those who live ‘ordinary lives’. Ordinary people who are content to cruise through life often without direction or goals and whom appear completely oblivious to new opportunities.

Successful people operate on a completely different playing field to others which is how they create the wealth, power and rewards that others are so keen to emulate and enjoy.

Super successful, wealthy individuals are often alluring, they know exactly what they want, and are laser focused on their goals despite any challenges they experience in other areas of their life. These individuals have high standards for others and are determined to get what they want at any cost, never allowing their emotions to dictate their behaviour.

In order for you to play a different game and achieve serious life changing results, you need to change the way you behave on a daily basis.

Here are the 6 key traits of the Super Successful who live a life others only dream of:

1. They’re Ruthless

They are massively determined to achieve their goals and no one or nothing stands in their way. Their laser focus ensures their goals will be achieved despite any obstacles that arise. These individuals understand how to read people like a book as they understand human behaviour and body language like nobody else.

Successful individuals surround themselves with those individuals who can help them achieve their goals and introduce them to other people in their network who can do the same.

“Success always necessitates a degree of ruthlessness. Given the choice of friendship or success, I’d probably choose success.” – Sting

2. They Research People Carefully

For any dealing you have with a super successful person, be prepared to be investigated. As they deal with all walks of life from shady to professional individuals. They have their guard up continually and research everyone they become involved with, irrespective of whether they are a client, business associate or a potential partner. They will do google searches and look to obtain as much information as possible about the person without their knowledge.

3. They Live In Their Own Universe

The super successful refuse to live in any one else’s world and love to control every aspect of their life. Those closest to them fit into their life not the other way around. Although, very trusting and generous, you will quickly learn that compromise and emotions rarely exist and they can cut you out of their life just as quickly as you came into their life.

They often have difficulty empathising as their overall preference is to avoid situations where emotions are spoken about or dealt with. Generating wealth and getting what they want is all that matters, people are viewed simply as resources to help them achieve a goal.

4. They’re Avid Problem-Solvers

Most people view these individuals with rose coloured glasses as they act like everyone’s best friend, solving everyone’s problems is what they love to do and others feel indebted to them for listening to their problems and helping them resolve their issues or act as a sounding board.

They thrive on challenges and spend everyday solving business and personal problems for others. That said, they are brilliant at remaining ‘detached’ from all situations.

5. They’re Addicted to Busyness

These individuals speed through life and live life to the full. They are addicted to busyness and despise down time or feeling any ‘feelings’ whatsoever. As an example, a friend of mine had more energy than a 20 year old and did not stop except to sleep. They have a zest for life that is unparalleled.

They truly believe they are invincible, living their life like they drive their cars. Literally speeding through life in their car driving at speeds of 160 to 180 kilometres per hour. It is as though the rules within society don’t exist for them. People admire and adore these individuals for they produce results and are serious over achievers.

“Success usually comes to those who are too busy to be looking for it.” – Henry David Thoreau

6. They have an Attitude of Superiority

As they live in their own world and have significant power and wealth, they have an air of superiority. They set high standards for themselves and refuse to accept anything less. As an example: One place you will never find these individuals is travelling on public transport. as they consider this an option for ‘ordinary’ people. Their public persona is exceptionally important, they aim to look ‘good’ in the eyes of others; by doing and saying the ‘right’ things.

In order for you to become a super successful individual, you must be prepared to make significant changes to the way you think and behave right now to transform into a different person. To lift your game and play at a different level, there are massive changes an individual has to be committed to producing, which includes the above 6 traits along with learning the art of detachment and not allowing your emotions to dictate your behaviour in order to live your dream life.

What can you do today to create your best life? Comment below!

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Angelina Zimmerman is a Head Coach & Trainer who specialises in mindset coaching and workshops to help people shift their mindset from a fixed to a growth mindset in order to promote exponential growth to achieve personal and professional goals.

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to awebliss.com and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
 
 
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