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The 3 Step Formula for Living In The Moment

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Live In The Moment

Have you ever heard someone talking about how entrepreneurship can be a bit of an emotional roller coaster?

I have too, a lot. It seems that more and more often entrepreneurs are berated with this painful paradigm around the lifestyle that says it’s going be hard and it’s going be suffering, but it will all be worth it one day.

I have a bit of problem with the one day philosophy. The truth of the matter is one day is today. That special day you have been waiting for to let yourself feel good has come today. It was here yesterday as well and maybe you grasped it or maybe you didn’t, but today I am here to let you know that you made it. You made it to that day where you can be truly happy about where you are. That doesn’t mean you give up your ambition and goals for the future. It just means you’re finding joy today, right now, where you are. Allow yourself to feel into that.

How does it feel to know you made it?

I’m sure it’s incredibly freeing. It’s like an enormous pressure has been lifted off your shoulders. You’re still going to crush it in the business world going forward, but you’re going to do it from a place of freedom instead of anxiety.

If you were able to make that leap into truly feeling at peace with where you are right now over the past few paragraphs, then you may have felt a beautiful smile spread across your face. If you weren’t able to make that leap it’s probably because it’s much easier said than done.

Everyone always says “live in and enjoy the moment”, but how do we do this?

I’m about to show you how with my 3 step formula for living in the moment.

 

1. Identify what in your life that is stealing your present moment (causing you pain)

Most people make the mistake of ignoring or avoiding issues in their business or personal lives. That is the worst thing you can do, because even when you are not thinking about it you will still have it swirling around in your unconscious mind potentially sabotaging you.

Instead of avoiding the issue, identify exactly what it is that is bothering you.

 

2. Feel into the pain

Now that you have identified what it is that is stealing your present moment, feel into where that pain is located in your physical body and feel into it all the way. Imagine the worse case scenario plays out with this thing that is causing you anxiety.

Close your eyes and feel into this pain all the way until you feel like you just can’t take it anymore. When you get to that point the pain disappears and freedom takes it’s place.

It may take 10 seconds or 5 minutes, but eventually that feeling plays out and all that stored negative energy disappears. It’s damn near the most relieving feeling you’ll ever feel.

 

3. Create a new truth

Once you find this feeling of freedom replace your current state with one that empowers you. State to yourself an affirmation of truth. Something that is most likely the opposite of what it was that was stealing your present moment.

You can say something like “I am free” or “I am whole and complete” or “I am more than enough”. I’ll let you choose the exact wording, but have fun with it and choose the exact truth that feels right for you.

If this was a powerful tool for you then why not use it every time you have a hard time living in the moment?

You have the power now. Live it up!

I’ll leave you with a quote from the one and only Alan Watts about why it’s so important to develop the emotional fitness to live in the now.

“For unless one is able to fully live in the present, the future is a hoax. There is no point whatever in making plans for a future which you will never be able to enjoy.” – Alan Watts

Brandon runs the Entrepreneur Fitness Podcast where he interviews entrepreneurs, neuroscientists, psychologists, nutritionists and other experts in peak performance to reveal the tactics and inspiration that you need to excel.

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5 Comments

5 Comments

  1. Steve Kobrin

    Mar 2, 2015 at 9:38 pm

    I appreciate what you are saying, Brandon. I would not want the physical practice to serve as a Band-Aid. However, if it is an internal style, then you have the possibility of getting to the root of the problem. One of the senior students at my martial arts school actually had a cathartic emotional experience simply by meditating!

    • Brandon Epstein

      Mar 4, 2015 at 9:57 pm

      Awesome Steve! Incredible things are possible through meditation and other internal styles. In the same way one diet does not fit all people, I believe the same goes for this type of work. It’s about taking all the wonderful tools we have available to us and engaging in self experimentation and introspection.

      • Steve Kobrin

        Mar 4, 2015 at 10:19 pm

        Makes sense to me, Brandon. Through trial and error we find what works for us.

  2. Brandon Epstein

    Mar 2, 2015 at 7:24 pm

    Hey Steve, awesome question. Those are all very helpful modalities that I believe can be very effective, but the protocol I listed seems to be a technique that works best for myself and my clients. It’s more of a feeling and exploration into your own pain than imagination of something that is not there. The key to making this effective is feeling into it all the way until you feel the expansiveness of freedom which should feel like a huge relief. Other things like yoga can definitely do the trick, but if the feeling hasn’t been explored all the way to a point of freedom the yoga may just be a band aid. I do want to be clear I am only speaking from personal experiences and the experiences of my clients, so I invite anyone sharing their own experiences to give a new perspective.

  3. Steve Kobrin

    Feb 27, 2015 at 4:25 pm

    These are really interesting tips. Thank you for posting.

    I have a question on number two: when you talk about feeling into it, it sounds like you are stressing using your imagination to see what the worst-case scenario would be, and then seeing that it is not all that bad.

    What do you think about simply using a physical meditative practice (kung fu, yoga, qi gong, etc) to get rid of the feeling without using your imagination. Would that accomplish the same thing?

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