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If You Want to Avoid Failure Once and for All, Ask Yourself These 4 Questions

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You just invested in yourself and in your business. You are taking massive action but the results are just not clicking yet. While everyone is making 10X, 20X, and even 100X ROI on their initial investment, you have made $0 return. Failure is starting to overcast your bright shining positive attitude and you are feeling the pain and shame of it.

You could ugly cry, hide under the covers, make excuses for yourself while eating ice cream and watching reruns of Gilmore Girls or, you can fight back and conquer failure once and for all. Failure would love to creep in and hold you down but you are born to be successful. With that mindset means you have to learn how to kick failures butt.

Here are 4 questions you need to ask yourself in order to keep failure behind you:

1. Why am I failing? 

Asking why allows you to go deep into finding the problem that caused you to fail. If you just accept that you fail and are not willing to look for the solution or a way to improve, then my friend, you are a failure. Every time you fail you are able to learn something to take away and apply in your life. If you are not looking for the learning moments then you have given up and that is worse than failing. Many times you may find that it was you who caused yourself to fail all along.

2. What am I able to learn even though I am failing?

Falling in love with learning from your failures is easier said than done but probably the most overlooked at the moment when you are riding the wave of success. And even more, when you are literally trying to drag your lifeless soul from the pits of failure.

I hate failing and I bet you do too. But reframing failure as a key learning tool is a must if you are seeking to climb the mountain of massive success. Each time you fail, if you are able to extract just one new powerful experience and or lesson, you are able to grow quicker and bounce back faster. Thomas Edison failed 1000 times before creating the light blub. Imagine if he would have stopped at the 1st sight of failure?

3. How could this be worse?

I know you have heard comparison is the enemy of success. Well, in this case, it is the opposite. Now, this is a deadly game to play but I know you can handle it. Unless your failure caused you to die, then you are able to bounce back. There is no ethical business failure you can go through that you are not able to bounce back from.

Since being in the military and having a greater understanding of sacrifice, you learn that failure is going to happen but regardless, you have a mission to accomplish. After each mission, not everyone comes home. Think of a 19-year-old young man that will never see his family again or even get to experience the pain of having a business that is struggling. Your failure is a luxury when you ask this question.

4. How can I evolve to avoid this failure again next time?

You have heard insanity is doing the same thing again and again and expecting a different result. Well, my friend, you and I are freaking evolved insanity and all the entrepreneurs before us. We are built on your failures and remembered by our successes. So the best way to learn from your failures is to get back into the game and start building your business without making the same mistakes that caused you to fail before.

Failure is a normal part of entrepreneurship and life. The faster you start to view failure as a learning tool, the further ahead you will be than your competition. So bookmark this article and when you fail again, revisit this article and let me know how it helped you jump start back into the game and start kicking butt again.

Bertrang Ngampa is a High-Performance Coach that has helped many business owners turn into high performers and achieve levels of success they never dreamt of before. He has an amazing community on facebook geared towards helping high performers have it all in life. Join here: https://www.facebook.com/groups/467396397350794/.

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Knowing Your Message vs Delivering Your Message

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Have you ever sent a text message only to have it misinterpreted by the person reading it? Happens all the time. Have you ever given a presentation that you were totally prepared for only to have it fall flat? Happens all the time. Have you ever had someone ask you something like, “Why are you mad?” when you were not at all mad? Happens all the time. (more…)

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The 3 Most Important Things I Learned About Personal Growth

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When you look back on your life, what do you want to think about? Do you plan to reminisce on all of the good things that have happened and how they shaped who you are today? Or would you rather remember all of the bad decisions, challenging experiences, and mistakes made that hurt or wasted a portion of your life?

In my opinion, I think it is important to reflect on both. While it’s important to remember the hardships we’ve been through in our lives – without them we wouldn’t be where we are now. There are 3 very specific areas that I feel have helped me grow in a personal sense more than anything else in my life so far. 

These aren’t simple lessons in a book or a lecture that you can just absorb and apply to your life. These are things that I’ve learned through experience and reflection, and I’m still learning and growing today.

1. We determine how much we’re worth by what we think about ourselves, others, and life in general.

This might seem like a pretty obvious lesson in life but it’s actually one of the most important because we can determine our own worth by how we think about ourselves and the world around us. If you’re looking for success in any kind of business or social setting (dating), then I’ll tell you right now that it doesn’t matter if you have 10 billion dollars or not – people are still going to judge you based on your thoughts and beliefs alone.

What determines our value isn’t necessarily what we do with our lives (which is often based on luck) but whether or not we believe that ‘our work’ is worthy or not in some sort of grand scheme or universe. We may not always be able to control what happens in our lives, but we can always control how we value ourselves and others.

“Do the best you can until you know better. Then when you know better, do better.” – Maya Angelou

2. You don’t have to change your habits or personality just because someone else doesn’t like it – their opinions are THEIRS alone.

This is another one of those lessons that people tend to pick up on a little bit late in life, but if anything that makes its importance even worse! Basically, there’s going to come a time when you’re going to meet someone who has certain expectations of you as a person…but these expectations might not be realistic due to their motivations and personal beliefs. For example, sometimes parents might expect you to be a lawyer or doctor because that’s what they believe is best for their child.

However, this isn’t the case for everyone and so maybe your passion lies in music or writing novels. In this example, if you were also pressured into becoming a doctor – then there would obviously be some kind of conflict going on within yourself as a person. You should never have to give up something that you want to do just because someone else doesn’t like it! The reason why we’re put onto this Earth is to make our own choices and go after our OWN dreams instead of letting others determine what we can and cannot do with our lives .

3. You can’t change your life until you accept that you need to make a change.

When I was younger, I thought that this lesson would be pretty obvious – but as I got older, it really made me appreciate the fact that there are always different ways of perceiving our lives. For example, if someone wants to become rich and famous one day – their mind might simply overshadow any other possibility in their head because they feel like this is what they NEED to do right now.

However, this isn’t always true within our own lives because we think about things too literally instead of having an open mind. If you want to achieve success in any kind of business or social setting (dating) then you should be willing to try out different things instead of staying in your comfort zone. If you want something, then it’s up to YOU to actually go after it – nobody else is going to give it to you!

The three lessons above are some of the main things I want to pass on to everyone because they’ve come at an important time in my life where I need to start thinking about others instead of only myself. It’s great if we can learn to love ourselves first before anything else, but that doesn’t mean you should neglect everyone around you even though they might be your friends and family members!

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​​4 Boss Level Growth Strategies That Create an Optimized Life

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Building a business is about more than sales, marketing, and flexing on social media. While those things tend to draw attention, they attract the wrong type of clients and are not how you build a sustainable and freedom-focused business. (more…)

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Practicing Self-Devotion: 3 Ways Towards a More Mindful and Compassionate You

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I can still hear the voices of my older relatives and my elementary school teachers telling me “be disciplined”, “keep at it”, to give time and energy towards what we want. As a young, impressionable child, I believed all those things because well, they made sense. They worked. And honestly, I felt like it’s the only way to flourish. (more…)

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