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How to Write a Personal Destiny Statement in 3 Steps

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We all have a God-given destiny to fulfill that we were each born with. I personally believe it is buried deep down within us. The number one secret to success is to let it emerge out of you and release it to the world. What is my destiny you may ask? It is the thing you would regret not doing before leaving Planet Earth.

In the book, Five Regrets of the Dying, Bonnie Ware states one of the top five regrets is, “I wish I had the courage to live a life that was true to myself, not the life others expected of me.” We each have a purposeful, powerful and passionate dream we were born with. Sometimes it gets shoved aside out of fear or resistance to ourselves.

You can’t be afraid to own it and declare it to the world. Sometimes you feel you’re not worthy or that you could never manifest it. Resistance to our inner greatness is debilitating. It keeps you safe and comfortable with your dreams stuffed down inside you.

Nothing helps more than writing out your personal life mission in one intentional statement. Make the vision plain and write it on the wall so you can run with it. An example of a famous person’s mission statement is Oprah Winfrey. 

Years before she was famous, she wrote the following vision statement. “To be a teacher. And to be known for inspiring my students to be more than they thought they could be.” When she first wrote this, she never dreamed it would be on TV. Sometimes your vision forces you to step out and up into something greater than your very being.

Once you have your destiny statement in front of you, it clarifies your vision. It defines what you will give your time and attention to. Nothing is as empowering and impactful as a personal destiny statement.

Here are three steps to getting started today:

1. Define your top talents and strengths

Make a list of your top traits and see if those might become part of your destiny statement. What does everyone say about you? What have you loved doing since you were 5 years old? What are you naturally good at doing? What do people say about you over and over? What have you been denying about yourself for years?

“Focus on your work. Do what you’re great at. Don’t compare yourself to others and or waste time criticizing the lives and work of others. Do what matters most to you and make a difference doing that.” – Germany Kent

2. Write out what you want to accomplish in one statement

Ask yourself what you want to be remembered for? What do you most dream of accomplishing in your lifetime? If you had no limits, restraints, and nothing holding you back, what would you go for? If money weren’t a factor, what would you ultimately pursue?

You will only live a lesser version of your life, full of story and why you couldn’t have your one true dream if you don’t get this real with yourself. Dig deep inside your core to reveal your one authentic truth. 

You must have a respect for your calling. You were born with it after all and it is a talent given to you as an investment. What will you do with your investment? If you sow a seed, you will reap a great harvest. Great world leaders invested in themselves, took huge risks and became who they were born to be even after suffering much adversity.

Let me share with you my destiny statement written in three different ways. I have always wanted to be a motivational speaker on a huge level. When I am totally authentic with myself it is my highest dream.

“To use my gifts of courage, motivation and words to inspire the masses to transform their lives, take back their worst fears and fail forward.”

“To use my talents of talk, encouragement and my life story of overcoming fear to empower others to lead the best life they can ever imagine, championing their destiny and overcoming the worst in life to create the best most beautiful outcomes.”

“To create connections, conversations that release a chain reaction in others, an explosion of growth where they completely fall in love with their lives and are compelled to fulfill their destiny.”

3. Once you have your vision secured, then you need to post it on the wall

Your subconscious brain will actually think of ways to manifest your vision. Once you put it out there, then you can begin to manifest it. Recognize that fulfilling your destiny will cost you everything you have in life. On the flip side you must ask yourself what will it cost you to not fulfill your destiny?

“You must decide if you are going to rob the world or bless it with the rich, valuable, potent, untapped resources locked away within you.” – Myles Munroe 

We all were born with richness in our soul; often untapped potential locked away. Release it, activate it and set it free. The gifts and talents you were born with were never for you but for everyone around you in life. When you give them away, life and all its glory will come back to you in its highest measure.

What’s your personal destiny statement? Share it with us! We’d love to hear it.

I am an author, speaker and Mindset Coach. I love to help empower others to transform any area of their life they feel limited by into total access to freedom. I am the author of The Freak Series. I write about a series of problems that I have and how I solve them using my intuition. My books are about sleep, dating and the gluten free lifestyle.

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What Les Misérables Taught Me About Our Values

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Who am I? The ultimate question many of us try to answer. When I think of values, I think of Victor Hugo’s 1862 book, “Les’ Miserables”. In Hugo’s book, Jean Valjean, is used as a protagonist to highlight the power in redemptive love and compassion. Valjean goes into prison for stealing a loaf of bread, entering as a simple and decent man. His time in jail seems to have an unrepairable effect, where he emerges from the chain gang as a tough, bitter criminal who hates society for what it has done to him. (more…)

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7 Ways You Can Increase Your Concentration Right Away

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In today’s world, an overabundance of information and a large number of distractions is making it increasingly difficult to concentrate on performing the necessary tasks. In this article, I propose 7 simple methods that will train your ability to concentrate, while not taking you from your usual activities. (more…)

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5 Simple Hacks to Help You Develop the Habit That Will Transform Your Life

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It’s excruciating when we know what’s killing us but we can’t do anything about it because as you know, it is not easy to pull the brake on a high way. According to Napoleon Hill, “remember this always – the best (and one might say the only) way in which old habits may be removed is to form new habits to counteract and replace the undesirable ones”. (more…)

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Why Do We Have An Unconscious Bias and How Can We Manage It?

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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?

As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?

Each and every one of us wants to feel special and unique. I guess he recommends using the person’s name in the conversation because that is one of the easiest ways to grab that person’s attention so that we can enhance the chances of getting our point across. However, I am more interested in this from the other side; hearing our names directly addresses our individuality, our need or desire to feel special and unique.  

Let’s park this one for now and we will come back. 

Categorization is essential to our survival

There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses. 

The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.

An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.

In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.

When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting! 

Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.

  1. lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin 
  2. lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin

The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.

Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored. 

This amazing skill has its drawbacks

As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.

Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)

Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.  

This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.

Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.  

The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people

We can overcome unconscious bias 

Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals. 

Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms. 

Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds. 

The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals. 

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