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How To Make The Most Of Your Life

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I thought I’d be single, unhappy and poor forever.

Music always seemed like what I was destined to do, yet it never happened. I tried, but something didn’t work. I liked the end result. I hated the work it required due to my lack of natural talent.

What I loved most was:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

I then dropped out of a business with my brother. I had it all: money, clothes, cars and a barbie doll girlfriend. Isn’t that the dream life? Absolutely no way. People thought I had lost the plot. I had.

I then joined a large organization and did the corporate thing. I took a massive pay cut and got forty-five minutes for lunch. Why would I do that? So I could find my sales personality that had been buried by all the failure and pain of not living a fulfilling life.

My corporate people leader showed me this thing called “Ted Talks.” I made a decision on that day that at some point I would be that motivational guy that inspired the pants off everyone watching. It took five years, but now I’m well on the path.

Every day, working that tough job, you couldn’t wipe the smile off my face.

All I did was to make that happen was:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

My next job was an intrapreneur role within the same organization which is what I do now. There are no hard and fast rules. Sign up partnerships and help tech companies come to Australia. Sounds simple enough.

This time, I compounded the results. If people do business with people then how could I do something cool? How could I be remembered ahead of everyone else so that I could give even more value? Blogging seemed to be the answer.

It took guts because it required me to be vulnerable and get out of my comfort zone. It’s hard to lay down your entire life in front of everyone you work with and know that they are going to judge you critically. “So what” I said. It’s now or never.

The blogging allowed me to do the following:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

How can you make the most of your life?

The little anecdotes above from my career show the power of these three tools. These tools can be applied to any pursuit. These tools are the secret sauce that you need to make the most of your life. Whatever is missing for you can be discovered through these three tools.

The tools allow you to go outside of yourself. I’ve found that by using these three tools, I can attract the right people in my life to help me to achieve any goal I put my mind to.

At first, my anecdotes look like stories of failure. The point of them is that nothing in your life is wasted. While I failed at a few endeavors, I learned the three driving forces in life which continued to show up in every passion I had.

Each of us will do something different in our lives, but what will always stay the same is the three tools you need to stop wasting time, and start achieving your dreams. Every time I feel like I want to grow more as a person or have more success I remember that I need to do the following:

1. To inspire people
2. To bring out emotion in people
3. To teach people something

Why couldn’t you start now?

Most of us are not doing these three things. There’s no need to throw a tantrum.

“Becoming conscious of what’s missing in your life is the first step”

Add these three tools to your current passion. If you don’t have a passion then start experimenting. You can begin to love something without even intending to. The key is to try, fail, and then try again. Eventually, like I have with blogging, you’ll find a way to use these three tools.

Small steps are the best way to start using these tools. Setting some big goal with loads of complexity will stop you from moving into action. Commit to do one small thing for each of the three tools, every fortnight. Try them out and test your results.

I forgot to mention…..

These three tools only work if you do them for more than twelve months. If you do one inspiring speech, get no reaction and then quit, you’ll never see the results. Overnight success is for the dreamers who hope to be successful one day.

Hope won’t get you there pal. Working hard using these three tools will. Put every ounce of energy you have into showing people who you are with these tools. Leave nothing on the table. Let the emotion poor out of you.

Put opinions to one side. Forget the past for a moment. Act as if you were already successful because of these tools. Tell yourself regularly that you only get one shot. You’ll never get this breath right now back again. What have you got to lose?

The influencers and leaders you idolise are just like you. They’re using these three tools and laughing at how much success they can get because of them. These three tools will allow you to soar to new heights and come from a place of love. With love, we can achieve anything.

We can inspire a nation, bring down walls and create peace for everybody who lives on planet Earth. I believe these three tools can hep you make the most of your life. Do you believe?

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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