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Hate Your Job? 8 Steps to the Career of Your Dreams

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At one point or another, everyone has found themselves wanting to quit their crappy job.  Whether it’s the long hours, mundane work, or the manager who doesn’t treat you like a human being- we’ve all been there!

Here are 8 steps you can take to free your mind and nail your dream job:

1. Leave your job happier than you found it

In many of the “crappy job” scenarios, you’re not the only person at your job who doesn’t like it. It can be very tempting to engage co-workers in gossip and negativity, especially if you know you’re about to quit. Even if your job is beyond reconciliation for you, it’s always a good thing to leave a place happier than you found it.  People will remember how you made them feel, and this could make a difference at a later time in your career.

2. Go with the flow

Yes, your boss’s demands are ridiculous. Yes, you are underpaid and overworked, but what you resist, persists. When your work becomes more of a chore than a passion, let it! By resisting what you don’t like, you are focusing on what you don’t want and you are ultimately aligning yourself with more of that reality.

If someone on your job is crossing a boundary with you (i.e. workplace bullying, harassment etc.), that’s different, and you should definitely speak up to the appropriate authority figure and/or remove yourself from the situation as quickly as possible.

However, in the case of non-human rights violations, by taking the path of least resistance, you will preserve your energy for focusing on the things you are excited about when searching for your dream job!  Life is all about perception, so take tough moments as an opportunity to remind yourself of how excited you are to look for a new and more aligned opportunity.

3. Why do you really not like your job?

This step is important! If you know why your current situation is problematic for you, you can decide more clearly what you actually ARE looking for in your next position. I’ve witnessed friends and co-workers over and over who look for a new job out of desperation, thinking anything will be better than this!  Unfortunately, they hadn’t actually decided on what they were looking for so they ended up taking the first offer that came along and 6 months later…same boat.

Take your time, and choose wisely! Jobs are not band-aids, and can drastically affect your quality of life. Ask yourself: Did you outgrow the work? The position? Maybe you need more of a work-life balance? Whatever the case, vow to make your next job, and not let your next job make you!

“You always have two choices: your commitment versus your fear.” – Sammy Davis, Jr.

4. Make friends with the unknown.

Searching for a job can be scary in a world that will constantly tell you how hard it is. But the truth is, even though there are infinite ways the unknown can challenge you, there are also infinite ways it can bring you exactly what you desire.

Stay focused on the vision you have for yourself, as your ability to do this will determine the manifestations that come forth. Watch videos about folks who landed their dream job. Read about people that leaped headfirst into their dreams! Do everything you feel inspired to, and know that the universe is conspiring with you!

5. Get excited about life.

The workplace can become a bit of a fishbowl, and it’s easy to forget that there’s a whole wide world out there. While you are job hunting, challenge yourself to think outside of the cubicle you’ve been sitting in. You will begin to open up your perception to potentially fulfilling opportunities that you may not have noticed otherwise. This moment is just another junction on the road of life, and you now have the chance to realize much more of your potential.

6. Have FUN with your job hunt.

If you are a funny person, and you don’t get hired because you made a joke in your interview- you will likely not enjoy working there anyway. Take it as a positive and keep pushing! Remember, you are interviewing your potential employer as much as they are interviewing you. By being yourself and interviewing for a position you believe is a true fit for your skill set and personality, you have a greater chance of feeling confident when presenting yourself.

7. Rejection is a good thing.

If a potential employer doesn’t think you are “the right fit for us at this time,” there are still countless opportunities for you to get a job that’s equal or better. Next time someone turns you down, remember this: it’s impossible to take something away from you that is in alignment with you.

So really, it’s not the “no” that determines how far you get, it’s how you perceive the “no”.  If you hold on and look at rejection as a reflection of your self-worth, you are likely to carry that vibration to your next interview, or even (God forbid) decide to stay where you are.

“Most fears of rejection rest on the desire for approval from other people. Don’t base your self-esteem on their opinions.” – Harvey Mackay

8. Stay positive.

Before I tell you why being positive is so important, let me first tell you what being positive actually means. For many, being positive means pushing their sadness down and holding onto the appearance of happiness such as telling themselves it’ll be ok, even if they don’t really feel that way.

What being positive actually means: face the perspectives that are holding you back.  Empower yourself to become aware of the thoughts you are thinking most often. Only then can you begin to tell yourself a new story.  

Choose a new job and a new perspective that excites you. You will be of the most service to yourself and to the world when you are emitting joy and passion!

What is the career of your dreams? Let us know in the comments below so we can find ways to help!

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Chloë DeChelle is an Empowerment Coach based in the San Francisco Bay Area.  She teaches concepts based in Eastern philosophy, Quantum physics, and law of attraction with a heavy emphasis on empowered and conscious creation.  Her philosophy is simple "By being aware, we are always adding momentum to experiences. Why not choose what experiences we add momentum to?" To find out more about Chloë, visit her website or follow her on Facebook.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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