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Happiness Is Not a Myth – Here’s How You Can Create It

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If you’ve watched a video, read a blog post, or follow personal development blog posts, you’ve come to understand that true happiness and fulfillment are an internal job. No other human being can make you feel happy — at least not sustainable happiness. 

There are moments when others in your life help you to feel good, but happiness starts and blooms from inside of you. Happiness comes when you make and witness progress towards your goals. Happiness is real when you’re authentically living your life’s purpose. 

If you’re struggling with how to build happiness habits consistently, here are four strategies to incorporate. You can live out happiness in an abundant way.

1. Make getting enough sleep a significant goal

Sleep is one of those life areas that we know we need more of it, but it often gets pushed aside because other things feel as if they’re more of a priority. One key to sustained success is having enough energy to accomplish your goals. You won’t have enough energy if you’re not consistently getting enough sleep. 

One of the primary reasons people feel the way they do can be traced back to not getting enough sleep. A lack of sleep drains your energy, slows you down, and puts you in an irritable mood. Successful leaders do their best to get enough sleep as a part of incorporating healthy habits. Now, what is enough sleep? That will be different for each person and what their body dictates. It’s up to you to study yourself and give your body and mind the sleep it needs.

“It isn’t what you have or who you are or where you are or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about it.” – Dale Carnegie

2. Move your body and change your state

I’m not going to give you a rant about the need to exercise. There is more than enough material talking about the importance of being physically active. What you should understand is that every time you move your body, you change your state. Physical movement has an immediate effect on our feelings. If you’re mad, go for a short jog. If you’re feeling off, turn on some music and dance it out. If you’re sleepy, stand up, stretch, and breathe. 

Moving your body is one of the purest ways to ensure proper energy management. It’s also essential to living a long life. Exercise and physical movement, along with giving your body the fuel (nutrition) it needs, helps you take on the hard work of becoming the best version of yourself.

Happiness happens with the right mindset, being in control of your feelings and emotions, and knowing how to get into a better state when something upsets you. Moving your body is a great way to practice happiness.

3. Create your ideal form of work

We spend so much time doing something to pay our bills and help us live a life free of financial stress. That may be a job or a business, but one way or another, it does have a tremendous effect on your life. 

If you’re going to create happiness in your life, you have to create your ideal “earn a living” situation. If it’s going after a better job, use the Internet to learn where that job is, what it will take to secure it, and get to work. If it’s creating a business, take advantage of all the tools and technology at our disposal. Get clear on who you want to help and what you want to help them do. Put the pieces together. 

Life is too short to spend a significant chunk of your week miserable and feeling financial stress. The path to a better working situation is not easy, but those that came before us have shown it’s possible. Find or create work that fulfills you, and you will be on the path to creating happiness because one of the most challenging areas of your life will be fulling your purpose.

“Happiness is a constant work-in-progress, because solving problems is a constant work-in-progress – the solutions to today’s problems will lay the foundation for tomorrow’s problems, and so on. True happiness occurs only when you find the problems you enjoy having and enjoy solving.” – Mark Manson

4. Get out of living the comparison loop

Social media and the open access we have to others has created a culture that feeds into comparison syndrome. We continuously see others’ success, and it can make us feel punny when our mind spirals. We see others win, and it fuels our bitterness, envy, and irritation. We are frustrated that it seems to be taking so long for us. The comparison bruises our ego. 

If you’re going to live a happy life through healthy habits, you have to start living out your personal journey. This has to be about you vs. you every day, and that’s the only comparison you’ll allow. 

You compete to do better than you did the day before. You vow to give each day your best, and the only companion you make is against the effort you make. This becomes about you becoming better and not worrying about being better than someone else.

It’s not a fantasy or myth that you can be happy every day, even when life is not going as planned. Happiness is a learned habit like anything else. You can train your mind, body, and spirit to do whatever it takes to live fulfilled. 

Look at these four areas of your life and see how they’re lining up. The happiness you seek lies in the habits you’re practicing and building. You can be happy every day if you choose to be. 

Gwen Lane started her first business in elementary school selling Airheads on a school bus. These days, she's built one of the premier online learning communities, The Spark School. She helps entrepreneurs and businesses increase their influence and revenue through modern growth strategies. She has 12+ years of experience. A few of the organizations she's worked with include Sony Pictures, Proctor and Gamble, AwesomenessTV, YouTube, Google, Facebook, Disney, Nike and more. She's been published and featured in The HuffPost, CBS LA, The Spark Show and many more. Join her at gwenlane.com.

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How Learning the Skill of Hope Can Change Everything

Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life

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Hope isn’t wishful thinking. It’s a state of being and a skill that has profound evidence of helping people achieve success in life.

Wishful thinking, on the other hand, is like having dreams in the sky without a ladder to climb, having a destination without a map, or trying to operate a jet-engine airplane without instructions. It sounds nice but is impossible to realize. You don’t have what you need to make it happen!

What Real Hope Is

Real hope is actionable, practical, and realistic. Better yet, it’s feasible and can be learned.

One popular approach is Hope Theory. This concept is used by colleges to study how hope impacts students’ academic performance. Researchers found that students with high levels of hope achieve better grades and are more likely to graduate compared to those with less hope.

Hope can be broken down into two components:

  1. Pathways – The “how to” of hope. This is where people think of and establish plans for achieving their goals.
  2. Agency – The “I can” of hope. This is the belief that the person can accomplish their goals.

Does Hope Really Work?

According to Webster’s Dictionary, hope as a noun is defined as: “desire accompanied by expectation of or belief in fulfillment.”

As humans, we are wired to crave fulfillment. We have the ability to envision it and, through hope, make it a reality.

My Experience with Hope

For 13 years, I was a hopeless human. During my time working at a luxury hotel as a front desk agent earning $11.42 per hour, I felt the sting of hopelessness the most.

The regret of feeling my time was being stolen from me lingered every time I clocked in. Eventually, I decided to do something about it.

I gave myself permission to hope for something better. I began establishing pathways to success and regained agency by learning from self-help books and seeking mentorship.

Because I took action toward something I desired, I now feel more hope and joy than I ever felt hopelessness. Hope changed me.

Hope Actually Improves Your Life

Wishful thinking doesn’t work, and false hope is equally ineffective. Real hope, however, is directly tied to success in all areas of life.

Studies show that hopeful people tend to:

  • Demonstrate better problem-solving skills
  • Cultivate healthier relationships
  • Maintain stronger motivation to achieve goals
  • Exhibit better work ethic
  • Have a positive outlook on life

These benefits can impact work life, family life, habit-building, mental health, physical health, and spiritual practice. Imagine how much better your life could be by applying real hope to all these areas.

How to Develop the Skill to Hope

As acclaimed French writer Jean Giono wrote in The Man Who Planted Trees:
“There are also times in life when a person has to rush off in pursuit of hopefulness.”

If you are at one of those times, here are ways to develop the skill to hope:

1. Dream Again

To cultivate hope, you need to believe in its possibility. Start by:

  • Reflecting on what you’re passionate about, your values, and what you want to achieve.
  • Writing your dreams down, sharing them with someone encouraging, or saying them out loud.
  • Creating a vision board to make your dreams feel more tangible.

Dreams are the foundation of hope—they give you something meaningful to aspire toward.

2. Create an Environment of Hope

  • Set Goals: Write down your goals and create a plan to achieve them.
  • Visualize Success: Use inspirational quotes, photos, or tools like dumbbells or canvases to remind yourself of your goals.
  • Build a Resource Library: Collect books, eBooks, or audiobooks about hope and success to inspire you.

An environment that fosters hope will keep you motivated, resilient, and focused.

3. Face the Challenges

Don’t avoid challenges—overcoming them builds confidence. Participating in challenging activities, like strategic games, can enhance your problem-solving skills and reinforce hope.

4. Commit to Wisdom

Seek wisdom from those who have achieved what you aspire to. Whether through books, blogs, or social media platforms, learn from their journeys. Wisdom provides the foundation for real, actionable hope.

5. Take Note of Small Wins

Reflecting on past victories can fuel your hope for the future. Ask yourself:

  • What challenges have I already overcome?
  • How did I feel when I succeeded?

By remembering those feelings of happiness, relief, or satisfaction, your brain will naturally adopt a more hopeful mindset.

Conclusion

Hope is more than wishful thinking—it’s a powerful skill that can transform your life. By dreaming again, creating a hopeful environment, facing challenges, seeking wisdom, and celebrating small wins, you can develop the real hope necessary for success in all aspects of life.

Let hope guide you toward a brighter, more fulfilling future.

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The 5 Stages of a Quarter-Life Crisis & What You Can Do

A quarter-life crisis isn’t a sign you’ve lost your way; it’s a sign you’re fighting for a life that’s truly yours.

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The quarter-life crisis is a well-defined set of stages—Trapped, Checking Out, Separation, Exploration, Rebuilding—one goes through in breaking free from feelings of meaninglessness, lack of fulfillment, and misalignment with purpose. I detail the stages and interweave my story below. (more…)

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Here’s The Thing About Learning, Unlearning, and Relearning

Stop hoarding and start sharing your knowledge and wealth for the benefit of humankind

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Few people have the habit of hoarding their wealth without spending.  However, it limits their motivation as they tend to get into their comfort zones.  When people start spending money, then there will be depletion in their coffers. (more…)

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3 Steps That’ll Help You Take Back Control of Your Life Immediately

The key to finding “enough” is recognizing that the root of the problem is a question of self-esteem and deservedness

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