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7 Things You Must Do If You Want To Accomplish Anything In Life

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The journey towards success is wrought with enough challenges and obstacles as it is already; anyone who has ever managed to accomplish anything great would be wise in telling you that they had to ignore countless internal and external factors to get to where they are today that would have otherwise jeopardized their efforts or been detrimental to their overall success had they chosen to direct their attention towards them.

One of the things you will discover on your own journey towards making anything happen is just how extremely easy it is to lose focus and get derailed if we take our eyes off our pursuits or give audience to negative things or people.

In order for us to make our way to the finish line as far as our goals and dreams are concerned, we must be prepared to do the following:

1. Stop comparing ourselves to others

One of the most detrimental things we can ever do that would jeopardize our chances for success in anything, is to compare ourselves with others. In order for us to accomplish our goals and dreams, we will need to take our eyes and focus off others, direct all our attention towards our pursuits and embrace the fact that we are all on separate journeys — leading to different destinations. We all have different strengths and limitations, gifts and talents, skills and abilities that enable us to do what we were born and have been called to do in life.

Don’t waste time comparing yourself with others, being envious of or attempting to keep up with those around you that are living the life you aspire to live someday as you don’t know what sacrifices they had to make to get to where they are or what means some of them used to attain their success. Stick to your lane and focus on the things you need to focus on to move your own life in the direction you want it to go.

2. Don’t focus on what our competition is doing

We shouldn’t waste time worrying about what our competition is doing or trying to gauge our progress against theirs’ but should instead direct our focus towards our own vision, and become our own competition by setting bigger goals and benchmarks for ourselves each time we check one off our list.

Although we live in a dog-eat-dog world where most people feel the need to protect their “turf” or believe that they have to step on others in order to get ahead, truly successful people understand that the universe is limitless and that there is enough for everyone. They also don’t concern themselves much with what their competitors are doing but instead focus on the things they can do to set themselves apart.

“Double down on what you’re good at.” – Gary Vaynerchuk

3. Be a doer, not a talker

Actions definitely speak louder than words; we need to learn how to DO more and SPEAK less. If we want people to take us and our goals and dreams seriously, we have to demonstrate through our actions what we’re all about rather than explain with mere words as talking about our aspirations benefits us in absolutely no way if we can’t translate our words into action and often results in inertia.

4. Let results speak for themselves

People recognize quality products, service or work when they encounter them or see it. If we want to be successful in our endeavors, we have to demonstrate to others what you can do for them and the kind of value we can add to their lives via the results they can expect to receive based on our services, products and work as opposed to just merely trying to convince them through our words.

5. Don’t over-share your aspirations

If there’s one thing you will most likely discover rather early on in your journey towards success is that not everyone will support you or be on board with you as far as your goals and dreams are concerned. Reasons for their lack of support might include them not understanding your vision or believing that you have what it takes to bring it to pass. You will really need to exercise your discretion to determine who to share your aspirations with and who to keep in the dark to avoid opening yourself up to other people’s negative influence and limiting beliefs.

“It has long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. they went out and happened to things.” – Leonardo Da Vinci

6. Pay attention to what and who you listen to

The things and people we listen to on a regular basis directly and indirectly influence how we perceive ourselves as well as some of our choices and actions. We need to pay particular attention to our inner dialogue. The things we say about ourselves and how we talk to ourselves as it greatly impacts how we view ourselves and in turn influences our ability or disability to make things happen.

We also need to be careful who we allow into our lives and should choose to only surround ourselves with people who speak positively about us, celebrate us and empower us with their words and support because we often become like those with whom we closely associate, open ourselves up to their influence and at times, unknowingly begin to view ourselves through their eyes.

7. Don’t indulge naysayers, critics or detractors

You better believe you will encounter plenty of them when you attempt to do something significant with your life. In fact, you should be worried if you don’t as that most likely means that you aren’t making as big of an impact as you would like.

Plug your ears and refuse to give audience to people that try to undermine you and your abilities, discredit you or dissuade you from following your goals and dreams because of their own limiting beliefs or past failures.

The journey towards making things happen can at times be lonely. Don’t allow anyone or anything to distract you and cause you give up on your goals and dreams. Keep your eyes closed, your lips zipped and ears plugged as you focus on making your way to the finish line.

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9 Harsh Truths Every Young Man Must Face to Succeed in the Modern World

Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.

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Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.

Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”

But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.

Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.

Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.

1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse

As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.

Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.

Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:

  • Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.

  • Read quality literature in your free time.

  • Nurture a strong relationship with your family.

  • Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.

  • Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.

The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.

2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay

You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.

If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.

3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome

Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.

You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.

The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.

4. Rejection Is Never Personal

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.

Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.

5. Women Value Comfort and Security

Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.

Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.

Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.

6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons

A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.

Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.

Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.

7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form

Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.

If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.

8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise

Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.

Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.

Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.

9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams

One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.

That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.

Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.

Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.

Final Thoughts

The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.

Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.

Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.

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The Four Types of Happiness: Which One Are You Living In?

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The Secret Daily Routines Behind History’s Most Brilliant Thinkers

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Every great achiever has one thing in common: discipline. Behind the novels, inventions, discoveries, and masterpieces are small, consistent habits repeated daily. (more…)

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From Debt to Financial Independence: A Practical Roadmap Anyone Can Follow

It’s about having control over your money and not letting money control you.

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