Life
5 Ways To Change Your Life If You’re Not Where You Want To Be

Life is short. Some people die at 25, but aren’t buried until they’re 75. If you find yourself staring in the mirror, but not happy with what you see, it’s not too late to change.
Here are 5 ways to make change in your life today:
1. Get clear on your goals
First and foremost, you need to get clear on where you’re at and where you want to be. Fail to plan, plan to fail. As you get clear on your journey, it is important to write things down. It has been said that people who write their goals down are 60% more likely to achieve their goals. Also, another great piece of advice is to create a “not to do list”, doing the things that are norms in your life is what got you to where you are today.
Like anything, the first step in turning it around is accepting and recognizing where you went wrong. Write down all the things you should not to do. This will help you more than the “To Do’ list on your journey to a better life.
“We are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.” – Viktor E. Frankl
2. Believe in yourself
Believing in yourself is key to becoming better. If you want to change your life, don’t be bitter, learn to be better. If you do not believe in yourself, it doesn’t matter the ideas that you have or even the opportunities that will present themselves to you. Believing in yourself entails a determination to make a situation work for you, rather than playing victim.
Believing in yourself is moving forward and trusting that you will figure it out along the way. Don’t fret, because there will be times that you want to quit, but just continue to push forward knowing that the most successful people have made mistakes along their way.
3. Don’t let setbacks de-rail you
Many times, the biggest failures in life have led to the biggest breakthroughs. Ask Thomas Edison. If you are in business, losses and setbacks are inevitable. You however should not allow setbacks to kill your dreams or make you quit. Instead of getting stuck and looking at the glass half empty, focus on the positives and the glass half full.
Find the good. One way to do this is to keep a gratitude journal. Here, you will capture your wins every day, weekly, or even monthly. You will have a sense of joy and you will remind yourself of some of the incredible things that you have accomplished in the past. Adopting an attitude of gratitude will let you see that you can do more in the future and let your little wins keep you going for the bigger ones.
4. Be mindful
Being mindful involves being aware of your thoughts, sensations, environment and feelings in the here and now. More importantly, you need to accept them, believing that there is no wrong or right way to think or feel in a particular moment. You need to be present, not thinking about the past or dreaming about the future.
How does being mindful help you change the direction of your life? It helps to increase positive emotions, which are associated with resilience. You also learn faster, have a sharper memory, regulate your emotions better, and become empathetic. You are able to keep distractions at bay, and improve your attention skills. Being mindful allows you to have closer, and more intimate relationships. Becoming more conscious of your mindset will help you become a better person in many aspects. It is a vital part of the journey to changing the direction of your life.
“Once we accept our limits, we go beyond them.” – Albert Einstein
5. Reward yourself
Rewarding yourself even after achieving one small goal keeps you motivated, and avoids burnout as you try to steer your life in a different direction. The reward needs to be proportional to the goal achieved. If the goal is big, and achieving it has a large impact on your life or goals, then the reward should be big.
Smaller goals should be rewarded once achieved too. They keep us motivated as we try to reach the milestones of success. For instance, if your goal was to lose 10 pounds, and you have achieved it, buy a smaller shirt that you couldn’t fit in before. Take a photo and hang it somewhere where you can admire. This way, you will motivate yourself to stay in shape. After you achieve the bigger goal, such as closing that large account or finally starting your business, the reward could be larger such as taking a trip or buying a new computer for yourself.
As you can see, it is never too late to change your life for the better. All you need is the desire to succeed. As you embark on your path of change, be mindful that everything takes time. Always remember change for the better is a journey not a destination. Always keep on pushing on and never give up.
Which one of these are you having the toughest time with?
Life
Failing is More Important Than Succeeding
Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.

People often consider failure a stigma. Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life. (more…)
Life
5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.
Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.
Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.
Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.
However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.
Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:
1. Unconscious Sabotage
Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.
This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.
Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.
This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.
3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma
4. A strong need for control
5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained
What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?
There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:
- Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
- Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
- Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
- Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
- Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.
It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.
Life
3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning
we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness
Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.

A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)
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