The journey of life is amazing. The one who gets success is always praised by saying that he is lucky and the one who faces failures in life and is disappointed is considered to be unlucky in life.
This is all we can know about both. But do you ever wonder the reason why that successful person reached the top of the ladder of success and why the other one is still disappointed because of failure and always remains to be. The reason behind both of them is a single world “DESIRE“.
Have you ever tried to search out what this desire is all about? How it is developed and how it functions? Well, today I am going to enrich you all with this knowledge.
Desire can be termed as an inner power that makes us do whatever is possible in this world to fulfill the aim. Actually most of the time we misinterpret our needs with desire. So, lets find out the different things you can adopt in your daily life to sow the seed of desire and achieve whatever you want in your life.
“The starting point of all achievement is desire.” – Napoleon Hill
1. Think positive
Most people focus on what bad can happen with them instead of getting concerned about what the positive aspect is. Every task/activity has two results: positive results or negative results. So in any case, just focus on what’s positive in the experience and how it can be utilized for a better tomorrow.
This is not a one day task. So, you need to maintain patience and need to mold your mind such that it always takes into consideration only the positive aspect of the happenings. As soon as you make this activity a habit, you will start visualizing positive results from yourself.
2. Exercise daily
A healthy mind nourishes a healthy body which results in strong willpower to conquer the world. So, always
supplement your daily routine with at-least half an hour of Yoga or physical exercise which keeps your mind healthy and active all day.
If you are within an age group of 40 plus or somehow you are not able to add physical exercise within your daily routine, then it is advised to replace the physical exercise with yoga which includes pranayam, meditation, etc. However, yoga and meditation can do amazing things for all age groups.
3. Work on small victories
Keep this point in mind that small victories lead to bigger ones. So set your milestones at small
distance. The formula is that with every small success, you will get more energy in reaching a milestone and with that energy, you can move-on to another and then another and so on. At last success will be yours.
Actually this is human psychology that when human beings set bigger milestones, and work hard to achieve them, they start finding it difficult to go through the tough times. In the case of setting small milestones, they tend to set a mentality that pushes them through to complete this milestone as soon as possible. With that energy and charm on their faces, the milestone is completed successfully which in return energizes them even more and ignites them to work even more harder to reach the second milestone.
4. Always be inspired
You can go through any source of media, every successful person has an inspirational person within their life. So from that we draw this point that we all must have a role model or mentor that you can emulate. Your idol can always inspire you to work hard and achieve the desired goal. Mahatma Gandhi, Swami Vivekananda, Rabindranath Tagore, Nelson Mandela are a few of the inspirational role models which can be selected. It’s up to you to choose your role model based on the field you want to succeed into.
“Desire! That’s the one secret of every man’s career. Not education. Not being born with hidden talents. Desire.” – Bobby Unser
5. Repeat success mantras
Do you know that if you repeat a dialogue continuously throughout a single day, the next day you will find that you are getting personality somewhat similar related to that dialogue. Science has proved that if you repeat a line for a whole day, your mind and heart takes it into consideration and starts acting on those words.
So I suggest you to repeat a simple mantra for nearly 30-40 times in a day. It will drastically change the way you see your life and will start acting accordingly. The mantra is “Yes I can Do It. I have the WILLPOWER to achieve my GOAL.”
With these simple steps, you can makeover your mind and change it to a machine which is ready to face any sort of failure and achieve the goal.
So, Finally are you ready to conquer this world?
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When I hear someone using my name once in a while throughout the conversation we are having, I cannot stop myself thinking “this person must have read Dale Carnegie’s books or must have been influenced by someone who read them…” Have you just recalled a similar moment and it felt nice?
As Dale Carnegie famously said, “Remember that a person’s name is, to that person, the sweetest and the most important sound in any language”. Why did Dale Carnegie highlight the importance of an individual’s name to that person in his “How to Win Friends and Influence People” book published in 1936?
Each and every one of us wants to feel special and unique. I guess he recommends using the person’s name in the conversation because that is one of the easiest ways to grab that person’s attention so that we can enhance the chances of getting our point across. However, I am more interested in this from the other side; hearing our names directly addresses our individuality, our need or desire to feel special and unique.
Let’s park this one for now and we will come back.
Categorization is essential to our survival
There is countless scientific research telling us about how our brains recognize similarities and put things into categories, which has been crucial to our survival in evolution and still helps us with a lot of things from learning new things to coping with the continuous influx of massive amounts of information through our senses.
The continuous influx of information is mostly handled by our subconscious mind rather than conscious. It is estimated that our brains receive about 11 million bits of information every second through our senses, of which only 40-50 bits can be processed by our conscious mind. We process more information than we are aware of. The magic here is the subconscious mind.
An example is when you are at a very loud party where you hear a lot of words flying around without you recognizing each one of them, then suddenly, you immediately catch it when you hear your name. Your subconscious had been processing all of those words, without your awareness, but informed your conscious mind when your name was out there because it was relevant to you.
In order to most effectively process this much information and inform the conscious mind with only the relevant ones, our subconscious employs categorization as one of its strategies.
When our ancestors encountered some deadly predators in the African savanna, their subconscious prompted their conscious mind to immediately fight or flight by categorizing the information gathered through their senses into “predator / life threat / take action”. Most probably we are not descendants of the ones that were frozen rather than fighting or flighting!
Although it is a completely different situation, the same strategy applied in remembering lists. Let’s look at the below two lists.
- lion, eagle, shark, leopard, hawk, whale, panther, falcon and dolphin
- lion, leopard, panther, eagle, hawk, falcon, shark, whale and dolphin
The second list is easy to remember because it is reordered into relevant groups even though the content of the both lists are identical.
Subconsciousness is the magic and categorization is one of its key strategies. It is essential to our survival, learning new skills and processing information as well as bringing back the information we had processed and stored.
This amazing skill has its drawbacks
As a result of our brains’ categorization strategy, we also categorize people, especially if we don’t know them as well as our closest ones.
Imagine I am sitting at the table next to yours while you are having your favorite coffee and working on your computer or reading your novel at your neighborhood coffee shop. I stand up, very calmly grab your bag, and start walking away. Your reaction might be quite different depending on my outfit. It could be much more vocal and harsh if I have a dirty T-Shirt and a pair of torn jeans on. However, if I have some navy colored, 3-piece suit and well-pressed white button up shirt on, you might even say something like “Excuse me, you might have picked up my bag by mistake”. (There is an experiment done by social psychologists which reported similar results)
Similarly, I would not be surprised to hear that my co-worker’s spouse is very skilled and knowledgeable in English grammar and literature because he is an English teacher. However, I would not expect it from my co-worker herself because she is an outstanding chemical engineer.
This is defined as unconscious bias or stereotyping, as a result of our subconscious brain’s categorization strategy. The outfit I have at the coffee shop impacts your response to my action, because it puts me into a different category in your mind depending on my outfit. My co-worker’s and her spouse’s backgrounds make me put them into different categories, which might mislead me sometimes.
Just like we categorize things, it is very natural that we categorize people.
The key question here for me is; how do we truly treat people as individuals so that they feel unique, just like as they would want, while we know that our brains categorize people?
We can overcome unconscious bias
Leonard Mlodinow, in his enlightening book “Subliminal”, suggests that “if we are aware of our bias and motivated to overcome it, we can.” That doesn’t mean that we need to fight our brain’s categorization strategy. We just need to employ our conscious mind more when we are working or dealing with individuals.
Our unconscious bias might tell us scientists are bunch of technical nerds who cannot understand abstract concepts that marketers are talking about or it might say that marketers are some daydreamers who need to be grounded by scientists to the real world all the time. I am an engineer and I love thinking in abstract terms and I worked with quite a lot of marketers who thought primarily in factual and concrete terms.
Spending some effort to learn more about individuals will help overcome unconscious bias. Gathering more information and qualities about them will make it easier for us to treat them as individuals rather than a member of the category we put them in our minds.
The moral of the story here is to recognize the fact that our brains do categorize, and it is essential; but also, to recognize that every individual wants to feel unique. When we appreciate these two and keep reminding them to ourselves, we are one step closer to figuring out our own way to overcome unconscious bias and treat people more like individuals.
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