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5 Steps to Instantly Turn Your Boring Life Into an Epic Adventure

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So lately, you’ve been spending your 9 to 5 most likely in an office chair, receiving orders like an errand boy from your boss and co-workers alike, anxiously waiting for the ever-slow ticking clock to ring 5 O’clock so you can finally take a deep breathe in relief.

Does this sound familiar? And yes, that’s not all — while trying to catch a little fun with the remaining hours of the day, you suddenly remember you’ve got to return home and take a rest to prepare for the next day’s misery — by reading this, no doubt you can relate to the above scenario in a way or two.

Well, you’re not alone. Yes, I’ve been there too. However, being quite aware of the fact that I’m never down for just working and paying bills till my last breathe, I rolled up my sleeves and followed the exact same tips below. Guess what, I’m presently living an adventure!

Below are 5 practical tips on how I turned my life from a boring sad story to an epic adventure, and how you can instantly do the same:

1. Decide what you want

Do you want freedom? I mean, do you really want freedom? How bad do you want it? Perhaps you once tried to make things happen in the past but later reached a bridge that seemed impossible to cross so you decided to suck it up and wait patiently for a miracle to happen. Well, it doesn’t happen! Ever!

If living the ideal life is an easy peasy or a miracle, who will be leading a boring life the first place? It’s going to be hard, yeah, sometimes all odds will be so in your disfavor that you might think “The heck, I might as well just live my boring life.”

At that point in my journey, you know what I did? Instead of throwing in the towel, I paused to reflect and asked myself diverse questions like:

  • How bad do you want it?
  • How much can you sacrifice?
  • Is this really all you can offer?
  • What if you’re just an inch away from hitting it real big?
  • If you give up, then what?

After providing the appropriate answer to the above questions and lots of others, I came to an instant conclusion: This is what I want and I’ll give it all takes, period! Hence, escaping your boring life depends solely on you. You either decide to suck it up or to give it all it takes to escape it.

“In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.” – Bill Cosby

2. Seek for ways to make ends meet

No one ever runs out of opportunities, except you personally decide to shut yourself off from the world and put up with whatever comes your way. Exceed your low-paying job and seek for a side fix. Discover what you’re good at and capitalize on it.

You want good income and freedom? Search for jobs that satisfies your needs. Or better still, create one. Begin a startup on any field you have even the littlest experience in and be committed. Everything big starts small (The Coca-Cola industry sold just 25 drinks in its first year). Remember that!

3. Throw away that sheep skin

To live that life, to have all that luxury, to attend all the classy banquets, you definitely have to be prepared to act rashly sometimes, if not most times. Nothing ever happens when you’re acting all gentle and obediently following instructions.

You have to courageously take on whatever comes your way, whenever it comes and however it comes — like a hungry wolf in pursuit of his prey. Don’t aspire for a better life like a shy little girl, man up and fiercely stand up for what you believe in. Make a confident affirmation like “This is not my ideal life and I’ll never live it.”

4. Explore

Don’t wait until you become a “millionaire” or until you join the HNWI class before you create time for what matters to you. Use the little resources around you. A leave, a shift or a day-off? Request it from your employer and make it clear that you’re a human not a robot. You know what? Waiting to hit a jackpot before you live your ideal life will only make you seek unending riches with no freedom.

Don’t just follow the laid down rules and wait patiently for a miracle to happen. Become the exception. Go out and become the miracle. Go to shows that lifts your spirit. Go to places, meet new people and try out new things. Don’t follow the same old path. Take adventures. Take risks. New and exciting things happen only when you leave your comfort zone and try out new things.

5. Embrace the lifestyle when it comes

Lastly, once your startups become productive or when you get a better job, use your free time to engage in activities you love. Don’t put on the “busyness” attitude or ignore your ideal life to chase the dollars. Make your happiness priority. Learn to properly blend work and play. Find fun at work and always celebrate every little accomplishment.

“I want to have an epic life. I want to tell my life with big adjectives.” – Isabel Allende

Living that ideal life is traced back to your job and its working condition. You spend a ratio of your time there day in and day out. To live that ideal lifestyle, you must start by redefining your job. If your current job is nowhere near your ideal job, your freedom and happiness are bound to be compromised.

Hence, follow the above tips and exercise them in your life and career in any way applicable. Create a startup if there be a need. Living the life of your dreams is the ideal life and the ideal life is the best life.

How were you able to take your life from boring to an adventure? Please leave your thoughts below!

Joseph Chukwube is an Entrepreneur, Digital Marketer and Blogger. He's the Founder and CEO at Digitage, a digital marketing agency that provides premium content marketing and SEO services to help businesses improve their online visibility and growth.

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
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