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4 Ways You Can Build Up Your Belief While Hitting Rock Bottom




Happiness is a beautiful thing, but I guess you already found out, that everything worth having comes with some level of struggle and sacrifice. I bet you know those days when even a simple step can take up all your energy. Days where challenges predominate and moments when you feel your life is testing you on how much you can endure and face. How can you handle it and manage to win?

In the past, I thought that life was a win or lose game, depending on how lucky you are.  Since I came from a very humble environment where riches are only in movies, I partly believed that I am destined to lose.

As I was growing up, I couldn’t stand the fact that there are only chosen ones. And they weren’t. Life is a mind game and the best time you can test your strength and belief is when things hit the fan, and you have only two choices. You either give in or learn from those life lessons and move on.

Since many of us often wonder how to handle hardships and challenges better, I have listed 4 ways which can help you to stay still and have faith when all the odds are against you:

1. Change your perspective

I recently read a very short, but concise post which says that most of the pain we experience in life is created by our thoughts and what we think. How true is that? The size of your problems and difficulties is often determined by how you actually see them. Sometimes things aren’t that bad, but because of your interpretation and thoughts, you make it twice as serious.

Next time, before you diagnose your life as worst and hardest ever, check your thinking and make sure that it isn’t your mind tricking you. I am not trying to minimize your problems because some situations are truly challenging and we can’t overcome them with a blink of an eye, but sometimes panic and stress get us, and we tend to exaggerate.

2. Surround yourself with tons of love

Whether it is your loving family, your closest friends or your pet, go where love is. It may sound corny to many people since we hear it often, but love is the best and fastest healing power.

Think about it. When you get weak, and you stress out because of some tough times, you need some safe and positive place to recharge. When you surround yourself with people or other attributes of love which fulfills you, it will be easier for you to get up and clear the fog which caused you to lose sight of hope and belief.

“You are who you surround yourself with. I know that’s such a cliche quote, but it’s true.” – Selena Gomez

3. Make a decision and pass the test

At some point in life, you will face a situation where you must decide, right on the spot, how you are going to handle it. We call them challenges because they are supposed to challenge us, right? How would you know how far you can go if you never pass the test if you never fight? Life is about taking punches and giving punches in the form of overcoming difficulties with a winning attitude.

The next time, when you are faced with such a challenge, ask yourself one question: “What is this going to teach me and how can I use it to make my life better?” Keep in my mind that there are given situations which will test you and make you better. There is something in life you need to learn in order to grow. Nothing just happens. Take it as a benefit and keep going.

4. Your mind is your friend

No person or circumstances can destroy you as much as your mind if you don’t train it well. Any time or energy you put into building a healthy mindset will always come back with even bigger power to help you when you are falling. I bet you know from personal experience that your mind can either drive you crazy or make you the happiest person on Earth.

Since this article is about challenges, knowing what empowers you is key. The challenge is a feeling so find things that make you feel good, things that give you a better perspective on life. In my case, such thing is a good book. Books on personal development from Tony Robbins, Bob Proctor, Napoleon Hill, you name them. Any of these guys can always lift up my spirit and not just inspire me, but also give me practical tips on how to improve the situation I am in.

“You are confined only by the walls you build yourself.” – Andrew Murphy

Look, one bad day or a week or a month doesn’t mean your life is over. For you to learn, you need to be tested from time to time. Your mind, your spirit and overall attitude will decide what quality of life you are going to build. So, if life is trying to bully you, stand your ground and show who the boss is.

What ways do you build up your belief system? Leave your thoughts below!

Silvia committed her life to many things but one of them is helping people in turning their pain into power and teach them how to find benefits in the most difficult events of their lives. She is a motivational speaker and founder of CourageWithinYou platform.  She has written well over 200 articles oriented on personal development, success, and healthy mental growth. You can connect with her on Facebook or on her personal website



  1. Thea Dunlap

    Jan 11, 2017 at 1:01 am

    Great article. This quite helpful since I am still young and keep growing 😀

  2. Silvia Turonova

    Jan 2, 2017 at 7:43 pm

    Hello, Ricardo. I totally agree with you. Meditation or any other “mind-game” is very powerful for personal growth or changing our perspective on a given situation. We can definitely add it to this list. Thank you for your kind generous words. It makes me very happy to know that you find this article useful.

  3. Ricardo Mirville

    Jan 2, 2017 at 2:10 am

    Silvia this was a great post! All 4 of these are so simple but have deep powerful meaning backed up behind them.
    maybe suggesting a 5th like giving yourself an interview or giving yourself about an hour a day with your mind. or maybe even meditating!

    I found that these are extremely helpful by just sitting down with yourself can really get you out of rock bottom!

    Awesome Post!

  4. Silvia Turonova

    Jan 1, 2017 at 4:10 am

    Thank you, Ewen. I am glad you enjoyed it. Definitely. Personal growth is one of the most important attributes for success.

  5. Ewen Munro

    Jan 1, 2017 at 12:46 am

    Great list, Silvia! I put my focus on growing and enjoying the journey, to get me the results I want. 😉 #keepgrowing #keepcreating

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It’s pretty annoying isn’t it? All those great and accomplished people telling you that FAILURE is a necessity on your way to success. Yeah, that’s easy for them to say; they’re already ‘on the other side’! You on the other hand, are still struggling all day everyday to get your business lifted off the ground and are really not that sure if you’re indeed going to make it.

There’s that little voice in your head that keeps telling you that you don’t have the stuff to make it all happen. Not now and not ever. You feel like a failure…it’s holding you back and you don’t know how to deal with it. Well you could do yourself a favor and start dealing with it by doing the following things:

1. Stop Denying You Feel Like A Failure

Telling yourself things are going great when they’re not is one of the biggest, though most useless, coping mechanisms human beings deploy in rough times. Common denial signals among entrepreneurs: trying to regain more control by working even more hours and on the other side compensating this by letting go of all this control by partying and drinking way too hard.

What you’re doing is denying yourself the opportunity to actually feel what’s going on and acknowledge the problem; that both you and your business are in a bad place. Without acknowledging it, it’ll be pretty difficult to actually STOP feeling it. And remember, just because you feel like a failure, this does not mean that you indeed ARE a failure!

2. Stop Making It Bigger Than it Really Is

This is one of those other ‘fun’ things human beings do; we blow things way out of proportion in our heads! In business, when you lose that big client you’ve been working on for weeks, it feels like it’s the end of the world. You start doubting yourself, your strategy, your entire business model right up to the point where you barely sleep because you’re working on pivoting the whole thing.

But what if that customer simply didn’t have the money to go for your service anyway? Or what if they just decided to go for someone who is cheaper but who offers less quality? Does that mean there’s something wrong with YOU? Or that this was the ONLY customer out there and that you’re now doomed forever?

Of course not, it simply means that THIS CUSTOMER wasn’t a match. It’s a bit like dating actually…So if you take this into consideration, could it be that you just feel like a failure instead of really not succeeding in that what you want to at this point in time?

3. Stop Thinking You’re The Only One Who Feels Like This

You’re not! With the possible exception of the true sociopaths, that feeling you’re feeling is very normal to EVERYONE. It might not seem like it on the outside – because people don’t like to acknowledge this remember – but I can guarantee you that it’s true. But unlike 99% of the world’s population, YOU’RE not going to let this feeling stop you in your tracks. Are you?

4. Stop Thinking You’re Supposed To Be Superhuman

In fact, it’s very likely that you’re already doing, learning and succeeding at WAY more than most other people are. But for entrepreneurs, somehow, that never seems to be enough. You don’t just want to be successful after a few years of hard work (which is normal). You want to be successful after only a few months. Because you’re special…or at least you think you are…

Well, here’s the truth: you ARE special! But…it’s just not very likely that you’re one of those – very very rare – entrepreneurial superstars that – seemingly – just added some hot water and got instant business success as a result.

5. Stop Being So Incredibly Stubborn

Entrepreneurs are stubborn…almost by default. It’s what makes them push forward in the hardest of times. But…if you’re not doing the right things right you might just be hammering a square peg through a round hole. Which will only add to that frustrated feeling you’re already having. So why not stop being so stubborn for a moment, stop hammering away on that what obviously is not working and ask for help?

No matter who you ask – a business mentor or coach, a befriended entrepreneur – someone with a neutral perspective on you and our business will be very likely to see what’s going on with a lot more clarity than you can and can guide you to a place that will feel a whole lot more comfortable.

6. Stop Being Afraid Of Failure

I know, I know, you’ve heard this a million times before and you wouldn’t be in this pickle if you could do this. Right? I’m right there with ya!

But, if you get really rational about it, what’s the worst that could happen?

  • You might have to get a ‘real’ job for a while and start over on the side;
  • You might not be able to afford your rent anymore…but with Airbnb on the 1 hand and couchsurfing on the other, you should be able to work it out somehow;
  • You’ll have all the more experience to start over a whole lot faster;
  • You’ll be no less respected by anyone because it’s clear you gave it your all;
  • In a few years, when you’re an established and supersuccessful entrepreneur you’ll also have a cool failure story to tell;
  • None of your limbs will fall off;

Now that’s not too bad for a plan B is it? Failure is such a negative word. And the associated feeling is terrible and numbing. But really…how is giving it your all and not succeeding really the same as failing? Shouldn’t the definition of failure not be along the lines of ‘not even trying’ or ‘giving up when it gets hard’?

In other words: stop beating yourself up over this!

There’s really no need to feel like a failure at all because you’re sticking your neck out, you’re trying to make a difference and you’re still moving upward on that treacherous entrepreneurial mountain.

And that…is what success REALLY is.

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Quotes To Live By:

“Only those who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” – Robert F. Kennedy

“If you don’t try at anything, you can’t fail… it takes back bone to lead the life you want” – Richard Yates

“I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” – Thomas A. Edison

“We are all failures – at least the best of us are.” – J.M. Barrie

“Success is stumbling form failure to failure with no loss of enthusiasm” – Winston Churchill

“Don’t let success go to your head and failure to your heart” – Will Smith

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