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4 Outstanding Qualities That All Winners Possess



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Winners are able to develop their utmost potential. Winners are able to accomplish results that are of great value to others. Examples can be seen in winners such as:

  • Elon Musk is protecting our world and environment through electric cars and reducing the burning of fossil fuels and carbon dioxide
  • Tai Lopez is increasing the IQ of human beings through encouraging reading, growth and development on a global scale
  • Steph Curry and the Golden State Warriors are breaking records and drilling 3’s to inspire future athletes.

Winners make the most of their lives, talents, and potential. Sharing it with others helps them win in their own lives.

Here are the 4 most important qualities all winners possess:

1. Positive self-image for positive results

Having a positive paradigm and perspective starts with self-image. Self-image is where your actions, thought processes, and reasoning/rationale come into play. Before making any decisions, you unconsciously go into yourself and ask “is this something that I would do?”. So to start changing your life, you have to start with your self-image.

Your self-image is what dictates the actions and behaviours you’re in alignment with. You want yourself to clearly visualize your best self and establish what values your best self would embody – dictating all future behaviours and actions off of that self-image. It’ll take discipline, but using the tool of visualization can greatly help you embed your goals, desires and ambitions deep into your consciousness as a constant reminder.


2. Visualization actualizes our self-image

Visualization gives us the tools and resources through our imagination and creativity to imagine a life we would want to live. We can override our current thoughts and emotions through relentless repetition to improve our subconscious mechanisms and self-image.

Our subconscious is unable to tell the difference between something that is real and something that is vividly, deeply imagined. Memorize what it is and who it is you want to be. To get and become what you want out of life, you need to clearly understand what it is you want.

Oprah Winfrey, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Will Smith are a few examples of successful people who use visualization to achieve their goals.

“No wind blows in favour of a ship without a destination.”

3. Work smart by being resourceful

Visualization is a major key to having positive self-direction, but so is knowing what the landscape looks like in the field that we want to achieve our goals. We need to have an awareness of what it is we want to create, where we want to go, and how to get there. Execute properly through the help of experts who have succeeded in the endeavours that we want to take on.

Great resources are available – from books, the Internet, school, mentors, role models, and seminars – that allow us to learn about our fields of interest. Experts sharing their knowledge allows you to be able to navigate the terrain with more awareness and direction in knowing what to do and where to go. The knowledge of others helping us along our journey, it helps us to be able to realize our dreams.


4. Develop support through positive relationships

What do all Oscar, Emmy, and Golden Globe winners have in common? They thank the people who supported them & their goals that help get them where they are today.

People who positively encourage us and accept us for who we are, are vital to developing a healthy self-esteem and self-image. One of the most important qualities of a parent or leader is positive encouragement of their children and employees towards the development of self-worth.

Through having a positive self-image and self-esteem, we are able to be positively self-directed in this world, having the tools, resources and wherewithal to rely on ourselves and our support system to navigate through difficult terrain.

Winners review and reflect with other winners, so it’s important to find positive ambitious people to surround yourself with. By surrounding yourself with winners who you admire and respect, you’re able to get you feedback on your issues and limiting beliefs that you’re blind to and that’s hindering your success. Through creating positive, authentic, loving relationships, you will get the energy and belief to raise your self-image & self-esteem to achieve your goals.

“Whether it’s a friendship or relationship, all bonds are built on trust. Without it, you have nothing.”

If you incorporate these four qualities into your life, it will give you the tools needed to achieve self-actualization and be your best self. When you look back at your life on your deathbed, by embedding these qualities into your life, you will truly feel that you have done your best to make your dreams into a reality.

What qualities would you add to this list? Please leave your thoughts in the comment section below!

Travis is a lifestyle development blogger, passionate about self-growth, actualization and enjoyment. He helps individuals work through their issues & limiting beliefs to help achieve higher levels of success in their lives. His interests include podcasting, writing, psychedelics, competitive sports, and becoming the best version of himself. Travis seeks to positively influence the world through social media, showcasing his charisma, knowledge and expertise in psychology, communications, and lifestyle. Follow him on Instagram @traviscr0ss, or check out his website at

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Failing is More Important Than Succeeding

Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures.



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People often consider failure a stigma.  Society often doesn’t respect the people who failed and avoids and criticizes their actions. Failure is an integral part of life as life is incomplete without failures. Not to have endeavored is worse than failing in life as at some stage of your life you regret not having tried in your life.  (more…)

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5 Indicators of Unresolved Attachment Trauma



Emotional Attachment Trauma

Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.


Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:


1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.


2. Persistent Pain

Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.

4. A strong need for control

It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

If you desire to work with me on healing your wounds and unlocking the aspects of you that were never realized so you can achieve more success in your life then head over to and join my weekly LIVE online mentorship calls.
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3 Simple Steps to Cultivate Courage and Create a Life of Meaning

we cultivate meaning in our lives when we pursue our calling



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Our deepest human desire is to cultivate meaning in our lives. Our deepest human need is to survive. (more…)

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Grit: The Key to Your Ultimate Greatness

Grit is an overlooked aspect of success, but it plays a critical role.



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A grit mindset is an essential key to your greatness. It’s what separates those who achieve their goals from those who give up and never reach their potential. It’s also the difference between success and failure, happiness and misery. If you want to be great and achieve your dreams, then you need grit. Luckily, it’s something that can be learned. Please keep reading to learn more about grit and discover four ways to develop it. (more…)

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