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This is a simple read to make you remember the beautiful truth about life. A quick “Pick me up” when your day is flat, or things have gone sour.

Remember these beautiful truths about life before you give up.


1. You get one shot

There’s no restart button. You can’t undo the past. All you can do is keep trying because the one single shot you get at life doesn’t last forever.

This is why you shouldn’t worry when you get rejected or fail. All of us are only getting one shot at this life so we may as well try something different.

The moment you realize that life doesn’t last forever, you’ll quit feeling sorry for yourself and get on with the show.


2. The answers are right in front of you.

Most of the time people fall for the delusion that they’re missing some knowledge or some hack or some strategy. You’re not.

The answers you need come through experience and you already know most of the solutions to your problems. The challenge is that while you know the solutions, you haven’t consciously accepted them

The solutions are sitting stored away in your head and until you do some deep reflection, take a break and chill out, the answers won’t come to you.

Rest assured you do have the answers inside of you already whether you’ve begun to realize that or not.


3. Video is not the answer. Words are.

Words can be spoken, written or said in front of a live audience. The medium doesn’t matter — only the words you deliver do.

Words can do most of the talking for you. What you achieve, who you fall in love with and the company you work for are all results that come from your words.

Respect words.
Learn words.
Use words.

Most of all, don’t underestimate the written word.


4. Your career doesn’t define you.

We’re more than our careers. Anyone who judges you solely because of the work you do is missing the point.

Who you are and how you treat people will always matter more than your career.

It’s tempting to judge someone because of the work they do or how much money they make. When you’re dead, no one remembers that. Peopleremember who you are and how you make them feel.


5. We can all become our favorite hero.

Please don’t spend your whole life worshipping heroes. Whatever your favorite hero did, you can do as well. There’s nothing you’re missing that will stop you from achieving anything.

Most of your heroes have come from the darkest places and endured the toughest of challenges — that’s probably why they’re your hero!


6. One single person (like you) can change the world.

Change always starts with a single person.

You have a voice and that’s all you need to start change. Change takes times though. If you bunker down and dedicate yourself to change for a few years, you too can change the world.

It took me around three years to start making an impact and it happened a lot quicker than I expected.

Most people that change the world never start out thinking that they will do exactly that.

Seek out change and use your voice.


7. There’s no one else like you.

That’s why you can quit comparing yourself to everyone else. You’re uniquely you and that’s what we all love about you.

Life’s not about living the same exact dream as our favorite influencer.

Life is about living on your own terms.

Maybe it takes you seven tries to get that job.
Maybe you don’t start a business until you’re 63
.
Maybe you decide to wear the same outfit every day because you hate choice.

These are all decisions you get to make and that’s the fun part. When you realize everything is your choice, you see a beauty about life that has been previously hidden from you.


8. There’s nothing wrong with simple.

Sometimes the simple life is looked down upon. Having simplicity in your life means that you can find meaning a lot easier.

The options are less. The focus is laser sharp.

The difference is nothing but effort and a simple meaning gives you the motivation. Don’t underestimate the simple life.

Complexity brings problems.

Simplicity brings clarity.


9. Today’s a celebration.

You woke up. Not everyone did — some people died overnight.

You can breathe, walk and hug your partner. You’re healthy and not sitting in a hospital dying of a terminal illness like cancer. Life isn’t that bad.

Celebrate life otherwise you’ll take it for granted.


10. The answer is usually sorry.

Most big problems start out when one side refuses to admit they were wrong or messed up. It harms your ego when you say sorry but it allows you to overcome problems that require this one word to be solved.

You can either live with problems, or you can learn to say sorry.

Choose sorry.


11. A simple text matters.

We’re all living with problems that most of us know nothing about. A text message to someone you know or love could be the difference.

A tiny amount of kindness can stop someone who is having the darkest of days from doing something they’ll regret.


12. You can always start again.

If things don’t work out, it’s okay. You always get a second chance. There’s always more time.

There’s no need to get hung up on a failure. Start again, learn the lesson andtry to do 1% better than you did last time. If you follow that process enough times, you’ll eventually achieve your goal.

False starts are a sign you’re making progress.

“No one wins an Oscar for their first movie”

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Trauma caused during specific stages of a child’s development, known as attachment trauma, can have lasting effects on a person’s sense of safety, security, predictability, and trust. This type of trauma is often the result of abuse, neglect, or inconsistent care from a primary caregiver.

Individuals who have not fully processed attachment trauma may display similar patterns of behavior and physical or psychological symptoms that negatively impact their adult lives, including the choices they make in relationships and business.

Unfortunately, many people may not even be aware that they are struggling with trauma. Research estimates that 6% of the population will experience PTSD in their lifetime, with a majority of males and females having experienced significant trauma.

Unresolved attachment trauma can significantly impair the overall quality of a person’s life, including their ability to form healthy relationships and make positive choices for themselves. One well-known effect of unhealed attachment trauma is the compulsion to repeat past wounds by unconsciously selecting romantic partners who trigger their developmental trauma.

However, there are other less recognized but equally detrimental signs of unprocessed developmental trauma.

 

Five possible indications of unresolved attachment trauma are:

 

1.  Unconscious Sabotage

Self-sabotage is a common pattern among individuals with unprocessed attachment trauma. This cycle often begins with hurting others, which is then followed by hurting oneself. It is also common for those with attachment trauma to have heightened emotional sensitivity, which can trigger this cycle.

This pattern can manifest in lashing out, shutting down, or impulsive behavior that leads to feelings of guilt, shame, and self-loathing.

Many people with attachment trauma are not aware of their wounds and operate on survival mode, unconsciously testing or challenging the emotional investment of those around them, and pushing them away out of self-preservation and fear of abandonment.

This can lead to a pattern of making poor choices for themselves based on impulsivity.

 

2. Persistent Pain

 
Chronic pain is a common symptom that can stem from early trauma. Studies have shown a connection between physical conditions such as fibromyalgia, headaches, gastrointestinal issues, insomnia, muscle aches, back pain, chest pain, and chronic fatigue with the aftermath of chronic developmental trauma, particularly physical abuse.
 
Research has found that individuals with insecure attachment styles, such as anxious, avoidant, or disorganized, have a higher incidence of somatic symptoms and a history of physical and emotional abuse in childhood compared to those with a secure attachment style.
 
 

3. Behaviors That Block Out Trauma

 
Trauma blocking practises are used to avoid the pain and memories connected with traumatic events.
 
Emotional numbing, avoidance, and escape via briefly pleasurable activities that distract from terrible memories or suffering are common examples. Unfortunately, this escape habit stops people from successfully processing and recovering from their trauma.
 
Furthermore, when the pain resurfaces, more and more diversions are necessary to continue ignoring it. This can be seen in compulsive behaviours such as drug or alcohol addiction, emotional eating, numbing oneself through relationships, workaholism, excessive or dangerous exercise routines, compulsive internet or technology use, or any other compulsive behaviour used to distract yoursef from intrusive thoughts and emotions.
 
These actions have the potential to prolong a cycle of avoidance and repression, preventing persons from healing and progressing.
 

4. A strong need for control

 
It’s understandable that some people may struggle with control issues in their adult lives, especially if they felt helpless or vulnerable during their childhood.
 
This can happen if someone had an overbearing caregiver who didn’t let them make their own choices, expected too much from them, or didn’t take care of them properly. As adults, they might try to control everything in their life to feel more in control and less anxious or scared. This might be because they didn’t feel like they had control over their life when they were a child.
 
It’s important to remember that everyone’s experiences are different and it’s okay to seek help if you’re struggling with control issues.
 
 

5. Psychological Symptoms That Are Not Explained

 
Individuals with a history of developmental trauma may experience a range of psychological symptoms, including obsessive-compulsive behavior, intense mood swings, irritability, anger, depression, emotional numbing, or severe anxiety.
 
These symptoms can vary in intensity and may occur intermittently throughout the day. People with this type of trauma may attempt to “distract” themselves from these symptoms by denying or rationalizing them, or may resort to substance abuse or behavioral addictions as coping mechanisms. This can be a maladaptive way of trying to numb their symptoms.
 
 

What to do next if you’re suffering from emotional attachment trauma?

 
Everyone’s experience of healing from trauma is unique. It’s important to be aware of whether you have experienced childhood developmental trauma and how it may be affecting your relationships as an adult. Sometimes, the effects of trauma can be overwhelming and we may try to push them away or avoid them.
 
If you notice that you’re engaging in these behaviors, it’s important to seek help from a trauma therapist who can support you on your healing journey. Remember, you’re not alone and it’s never too late to start healing.
 

There are several ways that people can work to overcome emotional attachment trauma:

  1. Therapy: One of the most effective ways to overcome emotional attachment trauma is through therapy. A therapist can help you process your experiences, understand the impact of your trauma on your life, and develop coping strategies to manage symptoms.
  2. Support groups: Joining a support group of people who have had similar experiences can be a great way to find validation, empathy, and a sense of community.
  3. Mindfulness practices: Mindfulness practices such as meditation, pilates, prayer time with God or journaling can help you become more aware of your thoughts, emotions, and physical sensations, and develop a sense of spiritual connection and self-regulation.
  4. Trauma-focused cognitive-behavioral therapy (TF-CBT): This is a type of therapy that is specifically designed to help individuals process and recover from traumatic events.
  5. Building a safety net: Building a support system of people you trust, who are there for you when you need them, can help you feel more secure and safe in your life.

It’s important to remember that healing from emotional attachment trauma is a process and it may take time. It’s also important to find a therapist who is experienced in treating trauma, who you feel comfortable talking with, and who can help you develop a personalized treatment plan.

 
 
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