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How to Lose a Team in 10 Days: Are You a True Leader?

The dichotomy between good leadership and poor leadership is that you are either showing up for your people or expecting your people to show up for you.

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“If you don’t like working here, I’m not going to force any of you to stay. Put in your transfer or resignation papers and I will sign them today and you can go work someplace else.”

My former administrative head to a room full of his peace officers arriving to work.

Spoken like the true toxic leader he was. Whether he was flexing the authority he possessed to move staff around the agency like chess pieces or inflating his ego by reminding his subordinates what an honor it was to work for him by comparing the privileged position we were all in to the millions of people who were putting in a hard and honest day’s work in the food service or retail industries, or any other professions he looked down his nose at, his approach always seemed adversarial and arrogant. To no surprise, staff turnover was high, staff retention was low, and staff morale had plummeted to all new lows under his lead.

But working for him was a learning experience, nonetheless.

Driving the workplace culture into the ground and obliterating your team’s morale should not be a point of pride. We all know or have worked with a manager like this before.

This was bureaucratic flexing, not leading.

So, to help identify the differences between a leader and a bureaucrat, please have a look at this list:

Leaders engage in leading.

Bureaucrats engage in politicking.

Leaders lead regardless of rank, position, title, or pedigree.

Bureaucrats chase title, position, and power.

Leaders strive to improve the workplace culture for their people.

Bureaucrats advance personal agendas at the expense of the workplace culture.

Leaders are people driven.

Bureaucrats are personally driven.

“A leader is one who knows the way, goes the way, and shows the way.” —John Maxwell

Leaders care about their people.

Bureaucrats care about how their people make them look.

Leaders sacrifice for their people.

Bureaucrats sacrifice their people.

Leaders service their peoples’ growth and success.

Bureaucrats service the bottom line.

Leaders make new leaders.

Bureaucrats collect followers.

Leaders create teams and value their people.

Bureaucrats flex their position and power and make people feel small.

Leaders are proactive.

Bureaucrats are reactive.

Leaders build relationships.

Bureaucrats build connections.

Leaders inspire people.

Bureaucrats leverage people.

Leaders inspire trust.

Bureaucrats keep their people in the dark and never show their full hand.

Leaders work with their people.

Bureaucrats compete with their people.

Leaders unify.

Bureaucrats are divisive.

Leaders cultivate innovation, talent, and creative thinking to improve the team’s output and success.

Bureaucrats harvest malleable, compliant, and subservient people who don’t threaten their authority.

Leaders help their people win.

Bureaucrats use their people to help them win.

Leaders retain their people and promote their advancement.

Bureaucrats inspire their people to look for opportunities elsewhere.

Leaders lead organically.

Bureaucrats manage through regulations and predesignated strictures.

Leaders attract high-value teammates because of how they treat their people.

Bureaucrats cycle low-value candidates using the organization’s surplus or reserve candidate pool.

Leaders hold themselves to a high standard and coach their people when mistakes are made.

Bureaucrats hold their people to a high standard and impose strict consequence when a regulation is broken. Their personal conduct is a matter of their own private business.

Leaders value people.

Bureaucrats value procedure.

Leaders are approachable.

Bureaucrats are unavailable.

Leaders are a part of the team.

Bureaucrats are above the team.

Leaders are adaptable.

Bureaucrats have little to no flexibility.

Leaders earn respect and show respect to their people.

Bureaucrats demand respect with written policy.

The dichotomy between good leadership and poor leadership is that you are either showing up for your people or expecting your people to show up for you.

“If you don’t like working here, I’m not going to force any of you to stay. Put in your transfer or resignation papers and I will sign them today and you can go work someplace else.”

Good leaders have one thing in common with this statement and one thing only:

They don’t force people to work with them, either. They inspire them to want to.

Brian Parsons is a leader, teacher, author, philanthropist, and CEO of Just Keep Playing Media, LLC with over twenty years of experience in diverse leadership roles. He is a veteran of the United States Marine Corps, a former peace officer for the state of Colorado, a former non-profit manager, and the author of the Don’t Bee a Prick leadership book series.

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Struggling to keep your team engaged? Here’s how leaders can turn frustrated employees into loyal advocates.

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In workplaces around the world, there’s a growing gap between employers and employees and between superiors and their teams. It’s a common refrain: “People don’t leave companies, they leave bad bosses.”

While there are, of course, cases where management could do better, this isn’t just a “bad boss” problem. The relationship between leaders and employees is complex. Instead of assigning blame, we should explore practical solutions to build stronger, healthier workplaces where everyone thrives.

Why This Gap Exists

Every workplace needs someone to guide, supervise, and provide feedback. That’s essential for productivity and performance. But because there are usually far more employees than managers, dissatisfaction, fair or not, spreads quickly.

What if, instead of focusing on blame, we focused on building trust, empathy, and communication? This is where modern leadership and human-centered management can make a difference.

Tools and Techniques to Bridge the Gap

Here are proven strategies leaders and employees can use to foster stronger relationships and create a workplace where people actually want to stay.

1. Practice Mutual Empathy

Both managers and employees need to recognize they are ultimately on the same team. Leaders have to balance people and performance, and often face intense pressure to hit targets. Employees who understand this reality are more likely to cooperate and problem-solve collaboratively.

2. Maintain Professional Boundaries

Superiors should separate personal issues from professional decision-making. Consistency, fairness, and integrity build trust, and trust is the foundation of a motivated team.

3. Follow the Golden Rule

Treat people how you would like to be treated. This simple principle encourages compassion and respect, two qualities every effective leader must demonstrate.

4. Avoid Micromanagement

Micromanaging stifles creativity and damages morale. Great leaders see themselves as partners, not just bosses, and treat their teams as collaborators working toward a shared goal.

5. Empower Employees to Grow

Empowerment means giving employees responsibility that matches their capacity, and then trusting them to deliver. Encourage them to take calculated risks, learn from mistakes, and problem-solve independently. If something goes wrong, turn it into a learning opportunity, not a reprimand.

6. Communicate in All Directions

Communication shouldn’t just be top-down. Invite feedback, create open channels for suggestions, and genuinely listen to what your people have to say. Healthy upward communication closes gaps before they become conflicts.

7. Overcome Insecurities

Many leaders secretly fear being outshone by younger, more tech-savvy employees. Instead of resisting, embrace the chance to learn from them. Humility earns respect and helps the team innovate faster.

8. Invest in Coaching and Mentorship

True leaders grow other leaders. Provide mentorship, career guidance, and stretch opportunities so employees can develop new skills. Leadership is learned through experience, but guided experience is even more powerful.

9. Eliminate Favoritism

Avoid cliques and office politics. Decisions should be based on facts and fairness, not gossip. Objective, transparent decision-making builds credibility.

10. Recognize Efforts Promptly

Recognition often matters more than rewards. Publicly appreciate employees’ contributions and do so consistently and fairly. A timely “thank you” can be more motivating than a quarterly bonus.

11. Conduct Thoughtful Exit Interviews

When employees leave, treat it as an opportunity to learn. Keep interviews confidential and use the insights to improve management practices and culture.

12. Provide Leadership Development

Train managers to lead, not just supervise. Leadership development programs help shift mindsets from “command and control” to “coach and empower.” This transformation has a direct impact on morale and retention.

13. Adopt Soft Leadership Principles

Today’s workforce, largely millennials and Gen Z, value collaboration over hierarchy. Soft leadership focuses on partnership, mutual respect, and shared purpose, rather than rigid top-down control.

The Bigger Picture: HR’s Role

Mercer’s global research highlights five key priorities for organizations:

  • Build diverse talent pipelines

  • Embrace flexible work models

  • Design compelling career paths

  • Simplify HR processes

  • Redefine the value HR brings

The challenge? Employers and employees often view these priorities differently. Bridging that perception gap is just as important as bridging the relational gap between leaders and staff.

Treat Employees Like Associates, Not Just Staff

When you treat employees like partners, they bring their best selves to work. HR leaders must develop strategies to keep talent engaged, empowered, and prepared for the future.

Organizational success starts with people, always. Build the relationship with your team first, and the results will follow.

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