How To Think, To Get What You Want

By on June 28, 2013
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You’ve probably experienced this at least one time in your life already.

You meet someone who is incredibly successful and then discover they are the same age as you… (or younger!)

Or you bump into an old school friend and they have everything you’ve ever wanted. Or maybe you’ve been reading something in the media and learn about ANOTHER successful entrepreneur hitting the jackpot with an idea you’ve kicked around in the past – and you wish that it could have been you.

And it’s not like you’re short of ideas.

It’s not like you’re not driven and inspired.

It also not as if you don’t work hard, either.

So what is it?

What is it that makes the difference between those people who thrive and ALWAYS seem to get what they want, and those who struggle forever, never quite making the big time?

Well the answer is pretty straight forward really. But don’t be fooled by its simplicity. This is what takes us out of the game…

The truth about creating what you want in your world all comes down to your thoughts.


Successful People Think Only About What They Want

Think about it: when you have something important coming up where you want everything to go perfectly, you’ve probably also had the tendency to go through all the things that could possibly go wrong in your head. And without realising it, this very act isn’t giving you scope for a contingency plan, as you may assume… It’s actually increasing the chances of it all going wrong.

And if you do have a tendency to do this on some level – you are not alone.

Often in introductory coaching sessions I ask people what they want, and often they’ll spend a lot of time and energy telling me what they *don’t* want.

We all spend a huge amount of time, thinking about what could go wrong, pushing against it to try to will it not to happen, and fighting the outcomes that we don’t want…

And sure, we don’t want to have bad stuff happen to us, so it’s good to take reasonable precautions. But always thinking the thoughts of what we don’t want, actually pulls them into our experience.

Let me say that again… because this is important:

Thinking about what we don’t want actually makes it more likely to happen! ReTweet This


And then there are your subconscious thoughts too, i.e. all the thoughts that you’re not looking at! These also count towards what is created in reality.

Most of the time what we’re creating, we’re not doing it consciously… so whatever is in our subconscious is what shows up in our world… namely our fears and frustrations. Have you ever noticed how once one bad thing happens, and you dwell on those negative thoughts, something else bad happens?

And if you have a mixture of thoughts, what you end up creating is a hotch-potch  of the sum total of them.

But it’s not your fault.


We’re Not In Control Of Our Thinking

The root cause of the problem is that most of us, most of the time, are not in control of our own thinking. We are at the mercy of programmes (the thinking habits) we’ve been running since childhood… And what is worse, we’re completely unaware of them.

Sure, maybe we’re aware on some intellectual level that we create and re-create the same situations again and again. If we have problems with our work colleagues, then moving jobs probably isn’t going to solve the problem, because we’ll still take all our programmes about victimization with us…

Maybe you’ve seen this with your relationships too?

People tend to date the same person again and again, only each time it’s a difference face with a different name. At the very least you may have noticed it with someone close to you, if not yourself. ;)

And these programmes also keep us believing we are small.

They keep us thinking that we are at the mercy of our own internal baggage.

We believe that because we are the way we are we can’t change our internal wiring. Or any change we do eventually manage to make has to be slow and hard work.

We think thoughts habitually that keep us doubting. In fact, most of us are on a loop about what we think is possible – we have an idea of something we want to do, but we then have a number of reasons why we can’t do it, and then each time we think the thought about the thing we’d like to do, we practice the reasons why we can’t again and again, until we have boxed ourselves in with our own limiting ideas.

But there is a way out of this.

There is a way of taking control of your thinking so that you can unpick these limitations and live a bigger life.


The Hard Pill: You Are Creating All The Time

You mind is a creative machine – whatever thought you think, at some point will show up in your material world… unless you undo the thought or immediately think the opposite.

And this is a scary concept what with all the myriad of thoughts that slosh around our heads every second of every single day! To take on board that they are having a direct effect on our live in a tangible way is really quite a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But the only way we are going to be able to rock out this success that we lust after is if we are able to take complete and total responsibility for everything we are creating in our world – the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you like what you’re creating, then great. Keep thinking those thoughts that are creating it.

But if there are things you would rather have differently, think only the thoughts of what you want to have, and take complete responsibility for having made it like that in the first place.

Now, sometimes this cause and effect relationship between our thoughts and our experience is hard to see…

It takes a smart, aware individual to be open to the possibility… and if this is the first time you’re reading something like this, you’ll probably have to read it many more times in other places to truly be able to live it and see the Truth in it.

But that’s ok…

All learning at this level is experiential – and it’s ok to take your time to experience this for yourself and prove it to yourself rather than just accept this concept as an intellectual “theory”.

Theory does nothing to change a life.

Theory means nothing until you can apply it in practice.

So let’s talk about how you can actually use these insights to make real change in the degree of success you create…


How To Create What You *Actually* Want

…and not what you don’t want.


Step 1: You’re On The Hook!

Now that you know this, you will find yourself automatically stepping up and becoming more powerful in what you can produce. You’re now on the hook for everything that happens in your world now

But this is great news. Because it puts you back in the driving seat.

If you created something (good or bad) you have the control over it to either create it again, or completely un-create it. It’s a good place to be. But you get there by taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your world.


Step 2: Get Sensitive To The Mind

Realise that every thought you think is going to manifest if not cancelled out with the opposite thought. So watch out for the thought you dwell on… Drop the ones that don’t serve you.

Dwell on the things you want to create.


Step 3: Know That You Are Powerful

This isn’t about wishing, hoping or daydreaming… That is what keeps us stuck.

This is about embracing the fact that what you hold in mind is what you create – so hold it in mind and expect that it will happen.


Gold Nugget Activator

Keep quiet – when we have to find words to explain what we want, we end up muddling things up and justifying… and doubting.

Just hold in mind what you want, and forget about convincing anyone else of what you are doing.


And If You Succeed?

If you can do this – not only will you master your goals, you will become massively more productive – because you’re not battling against your own thoughts and doubts all the time.

You’ll feel freer, because you’re taking control of your own mind. It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.

Imagine that person you think you might be if you didn’t have all the mind chatter and doubts, right now.

That could be you, in actuality, in a surprisingly short space of time.


Over To You… Try This Now

So right now, leave me a comment, and tell me exactly what you choose to produce in your business or work…

If you didn’t have the limitations that have up until now been holding you back, what would your life be like right now?


To Your Inevitable Success,

Laura Leigh Clarke

a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor

Wire Yourself for Wealth


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About The Author: Laua Leigh Clarke

Laura Leigh Clarke (@EnlightenLaura) is the business coach to the heroes of the entrepreneurial revolution. She works with Movers and Shakers who want to transition (profitably) out of “working to pay the bills” and into doing what lights them up! Feel free to download her “From Idea to Profitable Business” Process Map she uses with her Red-Carpet business coaching clients.


  1. Caesar

    September 23, 2013 at 5:09 am

    This is a great article… it’s a Philosophy many people has subconsciously mentioned, but I paid no attention. Having a positive mindset in a third world country is very hard, but I will definitely start doing it. I really need a good job, and I know I will get it! No more thinking on the unemployment statistics and lack of opportunities. Nothing but positiveness and success will lead my way.

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      September 24, 2013 at 9:23 am

      Brilliant – glad you’re using this Caesar. You can make the change :)

  2. Mike

    October 3, 2013 at 7:08 pm

    Great post, Laura! And so true. For many years, my subconscious thinking and endless mind chatter held me back from doing what I wanted to do, from making the money I wanted to make, from living a happy life the way I wanted to live it. I spent 5 years studying psychology in college and several more practicing techniques similar to those you wrote about here. Today, I do what I want to do, make the money I want to make and live life with happiness and zest! And, I have a nice coaching practice to help others achieve the same….and we both know what a wonderful feeling it is to do that! Thanks again for a great post- hope this resonates with others and inspires change!!

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      October 7, 2013 at 11:09 am

      Great to see you over here Mike. Thanks for sharing your experience… :)

  3. meh ernest

    October 9, 2013 at 4:44 am

    Thanks for taking your time to post this wonderfull stuff, it realy helps to keep someone on the track to success,

  4. Michael

    October 23, 2013 at 3:27 pm

    Hi Laura, great post I’m in that place @ the moment where I’m having limiting beliefs about the way my business life/life is going and real glad I’v come across you’re article/post every thing you have said is so true, after reading you’re post I’m going to take action on my thoughts/thinking from today and I will keep reading/referring back to you’re post cause after reading it today has helped, thank you

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      October 24, 2013 at 10:42 am

      Hey – that’s great to hear Michael. Good luck with it and do let me know how you get on! L ;)

  5. Dinesh Acharekar

    November 8, 2013 at 7:17 am

    Hi Laura, really it is a great post and we are thankful to you for sharing this such wonderful theory of thinking…No doubt this article will create great impact in everyone’s life…even from today i m going to follow your rules to heal my life…..:)

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      November 8, 2013 at 4:21 pm

      Ah, thanks you so much for your kind words Dinesh. I’m really touched, and really glad that I can be of service. :)

  6. Davis

    November 21, 2013 at 3:40 pm


    I have always believed in this thinking, but in practice I have never used it! I am challenging myself and others who read this post-Lets use this lesson for the duration of the year! I just opened a tax preparation business and I am studying for the bar exam to become an attorney. This mindset has to be applied right now in order for my life to change! Thank You and I will report back :) Blessings everyone! Lets Get It!!

    • Laura Leigh Clarke

      November 21, 2013 at 8:42 pm

      Brilliant, Davis. I’ll look forward to hearing from you! Rock on! :)

  7. Mohamad

    December 2, 2013 at 5:46 pm

    Excellent! Thank you for writing this, Laura. I will open my business… :)
    All the best,

  8. james simwanza

    March 28, 2014 at 3:21 pm

    great,great,great post,indeed thoughts are either building brocks to success or breakers of the bridge to success,chossing want we think,positive or negative,it will show by what we achieve.Therefore,focusing on the positive side,we become energised and look for a way to achieve success.I for one,a 100% agree with you on this matter Laura.THANKS FOR THE GREAT POST.Am wiring myself for wealth.

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