How To Think, To Get What You Want

How To Think, To Get What You Want

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You’ve probably experienced this at least one time in your life already.

You meet someone who is incredibly successful and then discover they are the same age as you… (or younger!)

Or you bump into an old school friend and they have everything you’ve ever wanted. Or maybe you’ve been reading something in the media and learn about ANOTHER successful entrepreneur hitting the jackpot with an idea you’ve kicked around in the past – and you wish that it could have been you.

And it’s not like you’re short of ideas.

It’s not like you’re not driven and inspired.

It also not as if you don’t work hard, either.

So what is it?

What is it that makes the difference between those people who thrive and ALWAYS seem to get what they want, and those who struggle forever, never quite making the big time?

Well the answer is pretty straight forward really. But don’t be fooled by its simplicity. This is what takes us out of the game…

The truth about creating what you want in your world all comes down to your thoughts.

 

Successful People Think Only About What They Want

Think about it: when you have something important coming up where you want everything to go perfectly, you’ve probably also had the tendency to go through all the things that could possibly go wrong in your head. And without realising it, this very act isn’t giving you scope for a contingency plan, as you may assume… It’s actually increasing the chances of it all going wrong.

And if you do have a tendency to do this on some level – you are not alone.

Often in introductory coaching sessions I ask people what they want, and often they’ll spend a lot of time and energy telling me what they *don’t* want.

We all spend a huge amount of time, thinking about what could go wrong, pushing against it to try to will it not to happen, and fighting the outcomes that we don’t want…

And sure, we don’t want to have bad stuff happen to us, so it’s good to take reasonable precautions. But always thinking the thoughts of what we don’t want, actually pulls them into our experience.

Let me say that again… because this is important:

Thinking about what we don’t want actually makes it more likely to happen! ReTweet This

 

And then there are your subconscious thoughts too, i.e. all the thoughts that you’re not looking at! These also count towards what is created in reality.

Most of the time what we’re creating, we’re not doing it consciously… so whatever is in our subconscious is what shows up in our world… namely our fears and frustrations. Have you ever noticed how once one bad thing happens, and you dwell on those negative thoughts, something else bad happens?

And if you have a mixture of thoughts, what you end up creating is a hotch-potch  of the sum total of them.

But it’s not your fault.

 

We’re Not In Control Of Our Thinking

The root cause of the problem is that most of us, most of the time, are not in control of our own thinking. We are at the mercy of programmes (the thinking habits) we’ve been running since childhood… And what is worse, we’re completely unaware of them.

Sure, maybe we’re aware on some intellectual level that we create and re-create the same situations again and again. If we have problems with our work colleagues, then moving jobs probably isn’t going to solve the problem, because we’ll still take all our programmes about victimization with us…

Maybe you’ve seen this with your relationships too?

People tend to date the same person again and again, only each time it’s a difference face with a different name. At the very least you may have noticed it with someone close to you, if not yourself. ;)

And these programmes also keep us believing we are small.

They keep us thinking that we are at the mercy of our own internal baggage.

We believe that because we are the way we are we can’t change our internal wiring. Or any change we do eventually manage to make has to be slow and hard work.

We think thoughts habitually that keep us doubting. In fact, most of us are on a loop about what we think is possible – we have an idea of something we want to do, but we then have a number of reasons why we can’t do it, and then each time we think the thought about the thing we’d like to do, we practice the reasons why we can’t again and again, until we have boxed ourselves in with our own limiting ideas.

But there is a way out of this.

There is a way of taking control of your thinking so that you can unpick these limitations and live a bigger life.

 

The Hard Pill: You Are Creating All The Time

You mind is a creative machine – whatever thought you think, at some point will show up in your material world… unless you undo the thought or immediately think the opposite.

And this is a scary concept what with all the myriad of thoughts that slosh around our heads every second of every single day! To take on board that they are having a direct effect on our live in a tangible way is really quite a bitter pill to swallow at first.

But the only way we are going to be able to rock out this success that we lust after is if we are able to take complete and total responsibility for everything we are creating in our world – the good, the bad and the ugly.

If you like what you’re creating, then great. Keep thinking those thoughts that are creating it.

But if there are things you would rather have differently, think only the thoughts of what you want to have, and take complete responsibility for having made it like that in the first place.

Now, sometimes this cause and effect relationship between our thoughts and our experience is hard to see…

It takes a smart, aware individual to be open to the possibility… and if this is the first time you’re reading something like this, you’ll probably have to read it many more times in other places to truly be able to live it and see the Truth in it.

But that’s ok…

All learning at this level is experiential – and it’s ok to take your time to experience this for yourself and prove it to yourself rather than just accept this concept as an intellectual “theory”.

Theory does nothing to change a life.

Theory means nothing until you can apply it in practice.

So let’s talk about how you can actually use these insights to make real change in the degree of success you create…

 

How To Create What You *Actually* Want

…and not what you don’t want.

 

Step 1: You’re On The Hook!

Now that you know this, you will find yourself automatically stepping up and becoming more powerful in what you can produce. You’re now on the hook for everything that happens in your world now

But this is great news. Because it puts you back in the driving seat.

If you created something (good or bad) you have the control over it to either create it again, or completely un-create it. It’s a good place to be. But you get there by taking responsibility for everything that shows up in your world.

 

Step 2: Get Sensitive To The Mind

Realise that every thought you think is going to manifest if not cancelled out with the opposite thought. So watch out for the thought you dwell on… Drop the ones that don’t serve you.

Dwell on the things you want to create.

 

Step 3: Know That You Are Powerful

This isn’t about wishing, hoping or daydreaming… That is what keeps us stuck.

This is about embracing the fact that what you hold in mind is what you create – so hold it in mind and expect that it will happen.

 

Gold Nugget Activator

Keep quiet – when we have to find words to explain what we want, we end up muddling things up and justifying… and doubting.

Just hold in mind what you want, and forget about convincing anyone else of what you are doing.

 

And If You Succeed?

If you can do this – not only will you master your goals, you will become massively more productive – because you’re not battling against your own thoughts and doubts all the time.

You’ll feel freer, because you’re taking control of your own mind. It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.

Imagine that person you think you might be if you didn’t have all the mind chatter and doubts, right now.

That could be you, in actuality, in a surprisingly short space of time.

 

Over To You… Try This Now

So right now, leave me a comment, and tell me exactly what you choose to produce in your business or work…

If you didn’t have the limitations that have up until now been holding you back, what would your life be like right now?

 

To Your Inevitable Success,

Laura Leigh Clarke

a.k.a. the Whole Heart, Whole Brain Business Mentor

Wire Yourself for Wealth

 

178 COMMENTS

  1. Read a very important article for my life . Thanks to Laura Leigh Clarke . I packed up with lot of negative thoughts in my mind which should not suppose to happen . But it did happen!!! I know I have to stop thinking those thoughts but my mind doesnt listen to it. I just want to get rid of it. I have to place WHAT I WANT in my life as the highest priority in my mind. And your article did open that thought in my mind. I will take this article as a start-up and will practise it.

    Expecting your next article :)

    Picked up a important quote from your article .

    “It isn’t situations that limit us. It is our thinking about our situations which keep us trapped and unable to push ahead.”

    Well said.

    But how much time it will take to control our mind is my question. How hard I have to practise.

    Answers for your question :

    1. I would want to quit my software job and start a good business. I keep on thinking of it.

    2. would be a good business man

  2. Hi,
    I believe in this concept, and I have been successful to a point with it, but I always run into this sort of dead-end: How does one even begin to think about something they want when that thing is totally foreign to them? For example, a business owner, or entrepreneur…. If we have never been exposed to or surrounded by people whom have successfully achieved this, and we have never ourselves – how do we know what it is we want when we tell ourselves “to be a business owner”? Something like that is so vague, that there are no specifics to focus on. It’s just a pie in the sky way of thinking and so vague that all the other things that are stereotypically associated with it (wealth, travel, whatever) may actually be subliminally distracting us from what the true definition is, while at the same time we will never understand what that true definition is!? Isn’t this a bit of a paradox? I’m sure once the first hurdle is overcome, this type of thinking becomes exponentially easier but…. for now… how can I tell myself that I want something when I have no clue what that even means? Hope that makes sense….

  3. Hello ,
    I really don’t know how it works but most of the time whatever positive we think it always happens the opposite. I have always been a firm believer in positive things but it seems whatever has to happen willl happen.Definitely few things can be corrected by your thinking process. but still a question to me …how ?

    • Hi Varsha – from what you’re describing it sounds like when you’re trying to think of the positive you’re actually worrying about what you don’t want. It’s tricky to do straight off the bat, but you need to re-orientate your focus onto what you actually want. Have a look at this webinar

      http://www.wireyourselfforwealth.com/mentoring-group/

      and you’ll see what you can do about weeding out the unwanted thoughts, worries and doubts.

      Let me know how you get on…

      L :)

  4. Hi I’m Daniel 28 years old from Denmark

    This is a fantastic article.

    I know all of this stuff, and yet I don’t seem to do the things :) Don’t know if i’m stupid or blind.. What I do know is that I WANT my thoughts to be different from what they have been up until now.
    So I’m really glad that I got reminded once again through this article, that I’m only limited to the limit of my own thoughts/belief.

    If it wasn’t for my internal stop, chatter, doubts, and disbelief, I would have been a millionare by now, living the lifestyle that I want, have the time and money to do the things that I love when I want it, live where I want, drive what I want, eat what I want, and most importantly It wouldnt matter what others think of me, because I would know that all I did was the right thing and the things that made me happy.

    I’ve had alot of NOT believing in and distrusting my self, and ALOT of the “wrong” thoughts about what I’m truly capable of, I KNOW that it’s all about the programming that I’ve adopted from the people around me and from my childhood.
    At the same time I firmly believe that I was put into this world for a reason, and when I leave this earth I will have made myself proud by achieving all that my heart desires, and helped 1000′s of people to do the same, and for that to happen I need to change.
    I feel like I just need to make a tiny small change to really break out of where I am and toward all dreams goals and achievements.

    Maybe this is what I need I think it is :)

    What I will produce is alot of wealth for me and MANY others. I will reach the highest paid position in my network marketing company within the next 4 years, and that means, I have to help AT LEAST 6 other people to massive success, which ofcourse will lead to others having significant success and so fourth down to the individuals having small successes, and I’m looking forward to that journey.

    Thank you

    Laura

    My very best
    Daniel Noergaard

    • Hey Daniel – great to hear from you!

      It’s tricky when we first get going, and it just takes practice – firstly to be always aware of how our thoughts create our reality, and then to intervene so we consciously create what we want. If you head over to my website there are some resources to help you to let go of the “wrong” thoughts you mention… Leaving it easier to choose the thoughts you want to think.

      Love the new thought goals you’ve chosen. Keep us posted on how you get on!

      warmest
      Laura :)

      • Hey , I am going through a strange thing wherein i am totally unhappy and dissatisfied with my job, its my first job and its been only a month but i dont feel i can do this because i dont like the work i am doing, i feel stuck and helpless.

        Palak

        • Hey Palak,

          I was in your exact situation at my first real job. You probably feel like you deserve so much more…and you definitely do deserve more. From experience, I did eventually move up the totem pole. But, as my job title got a little more important, and my paycheck got bigger and bigger, I would find new problems to complain about. For instance, this executive is an a-hole, or, the office politics, or the corporate policy that says you can have an excused absence for only “immediate” family members that die.

          My advice to you is to make peace with your current working situation and trust that your future is full of abundance and potential. With in this peace, also begin searching for your passion. Forget about all of the superficial illusions of success like, money and power, and focus on what will ultimately bring you fulfillment. From there I have faith that you will find freedom.

          Set your intentions and make it happen!

          Love,
          Mike

    • Thank you for being open minded. Am looking forward to working in partnership with such like minded people like you.

  5. To build a family business that my kids can walk in do that they dont have to work for some one else traveling around the world creating life time memories with my 7 kids to leave a legacy behind for my kids and their children to talk about a millionaire helping more people

  6. Laura,

    This was a very well written article, and like many of the people who read this or any other business success book Thinking Positive is a huge contributor to success. Ever since I was little I’ve enjoyed building things and have wanted to be a real estate developer. When I graduated college the market crashed and I got into real estate sales to make a living. Throughout the last two years I have been battling with myself and the mindset of “There is no way I can get into development,” but over the last few months I have been working with a client on a parcel of land they are trying to get rezoned to sell to a developer. Being part of this process, my mindset has slowly been changing to YES I can do this. I AM going to do this, and I AM going to be successful at it. I’ve hit a ton of road blocks and I’m sure there will be a lot more, but I know I am going to succeed at this. This whole mind shift, even though it’s been small and gradual has changed everything about me. I’m happy, motivated, and focused again instead of just going through the motions.

  7. I want a career as an inspirational speaker that enables me to have an organization for young unwed mothers and survivors of sexual abuse. I want to empower these women with positive thinking so they can change their life.

  8. This article really hit home for me, I have come a long way as a person in the past few years and it was all in how I thought. I am a firm believer in self – improvement. If you try to be a better you every single day then you will achieve anything and everything you want out of life. I was a frail, skinny pale kid all through school and I was picked on and I let it get to me. I began to distance myself from people and suddenly my biggest fear was people in general. Then one day I changed the way I thought. It took a lot of time and practice but I have so much motivation that I know I am going to do great things. A quote I made myself, or maybe someone else has said it before.. I am not sure. But it really reflects what I have learned from life. “Your greatest FEAR, just might be your greatest PASSION.” I feared other people, but my passion is helping and inspiring other people. I love reading things like this! So thank you so much for the article. :)

      • I have difficulty in believing in the merits of positive thoughts. Every time in my life that ive failed,I beleived and expected I was going to succeed.So the positive thoughts clearly didn’t work.
        Mostly i’ve come to conclusion that succesfull people usually dont work even half as hard, or persist anywhere near as long as less successful people.In my life Ive worked extraordinarily long and hard, taken advice from the best of the best, and persisted much longer than the other people I see around who have succeeded in a similar endeavour, only to come up with dismal results.Even after exhausting every avenue there often seems to be not even a trace of progressing in the right direction, no glimmer of promise to be seen.
        What can explain that persisting in all the right ways, doing all the things that worked for other people, yet never even getting a faint trace of the outcomes that they get?
        It seems other people get good outcomes without question or fail in every thing that they do,no matter how much or little they work at it.People say that successfull people had to persist to overcome failure, yet if you really examine other peoples works, you find successfull people invariably have good results right from the very earliest of their attempts.I see little evidence of the persistence of successfull people.Nothing they ever do has particularly bad outcomes,regardless of how much or little effort they put in.
        And if you can never do well at things, how do you convince yourself that you are capable,assuming that this belief can actually make any difference?

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