How To Confirm A Life Changing Decision Is The Right One

How To Confirm A Life Changing Decision Is The Right One

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Making Life Changing Decisions
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There are times in our life where we are required to make a life changing decision that will determine our future in a big way. How do you know you have made the right decision? For me, I’ve recently had to make multiple life-changing decisions all at once, and it can sometimes seem overwhelming.

The process is far from easy and it takes every bit of energy and emotion you have to make a life-changing decision. You can become surrounded by the fear associated with your various options, although what I’ve found is that you must embrace this fear.

Use the fear to show yourself the enormity of what you’re about to commit too. Usually, fear means you’re on the right path and it’s just a matter of understanding precisely what you want and then taking action. At the same time, over thinking decisions can force you never to take action and grow unhappier by the day.

Below are the four ways you’ll know you’re making the right life-changing decision:

 

1. Your intuition tells you

Faced with a big decision, you’re best chance of making the right call is to listen to what your intuition tells you. Run the scenarios through your head and see which one your heart guides you towards the most.

Even try placing your hand on your heart as you do this exercise and feeling your heart beat. We are emotional beings, and our success is more reliant on our intuition than we think. Use this powerful tool to take your life on a different path.

In my own life, my intuition says to keep inspiring people even though there is no clear path to greatness just yet. The faith I have in my intuition and the results I have achieved this far are directly linked.

 

2. You feel it

Making a decision that changes your destiny will make you feel a certain way. You’ll find that you become more emotional, and you may even get a little teary-eyed with situations that normally have no effect on you.

Your body knows when you are about to make a big decision, and it’s up to you, to use what you feel to your advantage. Feeling is the ultimate thing we are all chasing. Our feelings are why we buy a new car, or a new house, or go on holiday; we’re chasing the feeling these things give us.

Image Credit: Hidehiko Sakashita
Image Credit: Hidehiko Sakashita

The feeling I had with my two major decisions recently caused me to have to make tough choices that would take away my so-called comfort. These decisions required me to be vulnerable and live out in the stormy weather for a bit while I regroup and get back on track towards success.

A feeling of uncertainty in these life-changing moments is fine, and it’s perfectly normal. You generally feel a tidal wave of feelings building up right before an important decision arises. When you finally make your decision, you will feel a sense of relief, but maybe not straight away.

 

3. Think about up until now and the future

You’ll know that you’ve made the right decision when you think back to all the events that have transpired up until now. If these events are mostly negative and don’t link up to your ideal vision for your life, then chances are you’ve made the right decision.

Then, think about the future if you don’t make this decision and take note of what you see. While going through this exercise, I saw more of the same pain that I had seen in the past. I realised that the only way to get beyond that pain was to make a very tough decision.

“The results of your life are not going to change unless you make a life-changing decision”

Of course, like any level of success, making the decision will be tough, and that’s cool bananas. Know that the present way you feel right after making a decision won’t last forever.

 

4. Ask yourself what the best case looks like

To tap into whether you’re making the right decision, ask yourself “what does the best case look like if I don’t make this decision?” The image you get in your mind will give you a good indication as to what the right decision is.

If the image makes you feel unfulfilled, or your not excited about it, then there’s a good chance that you are settling for second best. Life is too short to settle for second best.

 

Some points to remember once you’ve made your decision

So let’s assume you’ve made the tough decision- what next? Well, it’s now time to look beyond the decision and remember a few basic truths.

New Beginnings
Image Credit: Jack Wassell

1. Remember that hard times don’t last forever 

It’s not difficult for your mind to make you think that hard times will last forever. This idea is rubbish, and you have to tell yourself that on a regular basis. Winter doesn’t last forever, and before you know it, summer will be back, and you’ll be back at your best again.

The only way we grow is to experience some significant pain once in a while. Think of your tough decision as another layer of muscle for your emotional intelligence that you can draw upon whenever you need to.

2. Look forward to a new beginning

I’ve found that rather than focus on the past, the best way to move forward is to visualise what your new beginning might look like. Maybe it’s the fresh air in the country that you move to or the new partner that makes you happier than everyone before them.

Focus your attention away from events that have already occurred, and onto more positive thoughts around the new outstanding life that you have guaranteed yourself by being vulnerable, and embracing your fear.

Many people avoid fear like the plague, but by making this bold decision, you have the opportunity to be one of the few that can use it for your own benefit, and for the benefit of those you touch.

3. Look forward to new people, friends, and mentors

Making a challenging decision gives you the gift of new situations. Along with these new situations comes the chance to meet many new people who could become your friends, lover, mentor, etc. Without making a tough decision, you may never have met these new people who could change the course of your life’s journey for the better.

“Think about all the people that inspire you and then use your tough decision to bring you closer to these people. Become relentless at being around people that lift you up and inspire you”

Know that you deserve these people in your life just as much as the next person. Remember though that these people can only show up if you are bold, and take action.

 

***Final thought***

In the end, the only person that knows if a tough decision is right is you. I’ve really battled with this whole process for a while, and I’ve only recently found clarity by embracing the points I’ve raised in this post.

You can become anything you want; you just have to get out of your own way, stand up tall, and be prepared to face into the hardest decisions that society tends to avoid. I have faith in you, and I’m sure you’ll make the right decision if you use what I’ve talked about as part of your strategy to conquer any obstacle that shows up.

What’s the hardest decision you’ve ever made and what did you learn from it? Let me know on my website timdenning.net and my Facebook.
Tim Denning is a former entrepreneur turned intrapreneur, working daily with fast-moving tech companies. He is passionate about what makes startups successful and is a thought leader/ game changer via the use of social media. Tim uses personal development and success as a platform for greatness. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net or through his Facebook and Twitter.

7 COMMENTS

  1. Hey Tim, I can understand your feeling.
    It happened to me early this year when I decided to go full-time into the world of internet marketing.
    Even though I’m not making much money right now, but I’m glad I made that decision.
    It has been 8 months and I’m still working hard for my dreams.
    Well, I do hope that I can accomplish more and achieve my targets faster.
    Thanks for sharing. 🙂

  2. Hey Tim,

    Another great post! Here you outline two major points in the beginning about intuition and feeling. These points also help when selling things to people that they’d value. I think it’s a really important thing for most people to go through, although some others are very logical and intellectually weigh out their decisions. It all depends on the person, and some are simply not “feelers”

    I know I’m more on the feeling side of things, being and ENFJ, but I know it’s also important to weigh the logical side. When I read the 4HWW for the first time, Tim Ferriss said something very important. I was about to drop out of college and fly across the world to build online businesses and his advice was to weigh the WORST possible case scenario and if you could get your way out of it. I know you outlined the best case, and either one could be helpful depending on the situation.

    Great work again man!

    – Evan

    • Evan thanks for taking the time to comment. Your own personal story is very interesting and Tim Ferris is definitely a great mentor to have. I agree that knowing the worst case scenario is quite important. At least for you, it all worked out and you got to do what you love in the end which matters more than anything. Speak soon my friend.

  3. Dude

    It’s like the universe sent you to write this post for me (-: lol

    Strangely but magically on spot for me! I appreciate you and your writing my friend I love your content.

    Keep inspiring the world.
    Cheers legend

  4. Wow Tim. the timing of this article is as perfect, as pictures you brought in 🙂 I needed this as I am too facing some uncertainty and at the same time, new perspective to change my life. As we embrace synchronicity we tend to stumble upon some events in a similar path, which is cool.

    I like your view on pain and I also think is the catalyst for many goodies in our life because of the core experience of so-called ‘bad’ we can understand the meaning of ‘good’ (basically there’re no good/bad things, everything is naturally neutral, but I have to use it).

    Recently I come to realize many things, while I’m practicing my awareness or meditating, so yesterday while cleaning my house I realized one very important thing that been chasing be for my I would say entire life. For the last good part of my being, I tend to think I am a perfectionist, who like to crave for every single detail and be extremely unsatisfied when things don’t go the path I want. Even though, some of that may be true, however, it was not the case. Most of my life I refused the inner essence of change. I believed some things will stay the same forever and I attached my thoughts to those believe so strong nothing could shatter it. I had strong association thus it’s whether I got my OCD ‘illness’ in the past and basically what was the core reason for it to show me I need to change this.

    It’s amazing how persistent and hard I worked in order to rock those beliefs. And how hard I have to work now to change them 😀 Those theory of mini-born after waking up, each of us is a new person every day, as we start a new path, some little, some big, nothing will stay the same, and it is ever changing living and breathing world that smiles upon us while we are struggling to see the whole awesomeness of it 😀

    You always moving, whether it’s forward or backward, even when you do nothing you still going somewhere. Your bravery is an example of your strength Tim, and discomfort, little pain or doubt won’t stop I am pretty sure about it. It’s usually quite hard at the beginning and the most important thing is do not quit. I started to see changes in my consciousness as I feel better after adopting a new lifestyle. I began to embrace positivity, motivation and self-belief no matter what and my mind and body slowly getting used to it. Sure some day I feel like quit, turn on the TV I haven’t watched since last year and indulge in my weaknesses, but what good will it do? My mind has been conditioned to fit that rat race, wage slavery and matrix lifestyle, but once I woke up I turned all the crap off and now I’m a new man, every day with a new sense and purpose of life. You are the same, my friend, no matter what, you here to inspire and lead an example of greatness, happiness, and clarity. You’ll succeed I believe it, I know it and you know it as well. Basically, you already won 🙂

    It was much-needed article Tim and I am grateful for that! Stay strong on your journey, we are all together here for each other. Have a great day, much love!

    • Toño I’m glad you liked the photos. Its amazing how things happen in our life just as we need them to happen although a lot of that thinking comes down to the mindset you have created. I agree with you that everything is neutral and we give everything it’s meaning and pop a label on it. You have some very empowering beliefs but changing the ones that don’t serve you can be hard. It’s not impossible though.

      Keep focusing on where you can improve and don’t give up on your goals. Remember that the software of our minds is millions of years old and we are not designed to be happy. We need to put in hours of work to upgrade our software to one that allows us to be fulfilled and the mind is tricky to change.

      Thanks for reading Toño and stay healthy mate!

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