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Why People Don’t Understand Success And Drop Out Of Life

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Understanding Success

It’s so easy to get stuck on the hamster wheel of life and never get anywhere near being successful. Until you start viewing success as a fundamental part of your life, you will continue to be blinded by failure.

Success is not hard to grasp when you take the time to understand what those who have it do to attract success in their life. Promise me you won’t drop out from life and at least spend a few minutes to understand what you need to be successful.

Below are the 9 things people don’t understand about success:

 

1. It takes over your life

When you have carved out a path for success, it takes over your life. There is nothing else in the world you want to do, and you shoot distractions down with sniper rifle precision. If success is not taking over your life, then you haven’t discovered what your dream is just yet.

For me, now that I have discovered what success is, I won’t let anything get in my way. No person, no business, no roadblock, and no amount of failure. I will spend morning, noon, and night trying to find ways to inspire the world through entrepreneurship and personal development.

The path to success fills your mind with nothing but thoughts of what it’s going to be like when you achieve your dream. Having said that, you have to learn to enjoy the journey in the meantime otherwise you may never feel successful.

 

2. You’ll learn more about success through failure

Stop being afraid of failure. Failure is the best thing that can happen to you, and if you don’t understand it, then you’re screwed. Successful people are best friends with their failure, and they embrace what they can learn from it.

entrepreneur-failThere is no failure really, only lessons to be learned. If all you ever have is success then you’re kidding yourself; you’re not really successful, and you’re just pretending you are. Your mind can only be tricked by something you don’t believe in for so long.

Eventually, your mind will reveal you as a fraud, and you will be left holding a dream that means nothing to you and makes you feel lifeless.

 

3. Move on from failure quickly

When failure happens – and it will – teach yourself to move on quickly and not stay on a downward spiral. Failure can keep you pinned to the ground for a long time if you let it. As you encounter failure, acknowledge it and then divert your attention back to your dream.

“The better you get at shifting your attention away from negative experiences in your life, the quicker you will reach success”

 

4. Stop procrastinating

The fastest way to drop out of life is to procrastinate. The most precious resource you have is time, and if you waste it, no amount of money can bring it back. Forget about the shopping mall; the shops are not going anywhere.

They will always be there to sell you things you don’t need that take you away from gratitude and make you feel like you need more when you don’t. The one thing that is standing between you and your success is action. Take action consistently and eventually, something will stick.

The amount of people I meet that have an excuse for everything in their life and business blows my mind.

“Excuses kill your success if you allow your mind to create them. Use your excuse making creativity to do something remarkable in the world instead”

 

5. Sell and sell hard

its_about_sellingThe point that everyone misses except sales people is this; we’re all sales people whether we like it or not. To be successful, you have to be able to sell ideas and dreams to other people. Stop ignoring this fact and concentrate on implementing it into your life.

Whenever you get the chance to sell, do it, and do it as hard as you can. Put all of your passion and body behind the pitch and don’t worry about the outcome. The more you sell, the better you will get at it.

We all sucked at selling initially until we mastered our minds ability to deliver through our limitless amounts of energy. Creating positive energy through sales is what attracts everything to you that will make you successful.

 

6. Dream big

It frustrates me how small our dreams have become. Why can’t you achieve worldwide success? Tell me. I believe you can if your dream and vision are big enough. Think of the craziest dream you can, and then start work on it today. Block out the noise of people’s opinions and focus on the belief you have about your ability to achieve it.Dream Big Gym Workout

Small dreams will get you nowhere and make you mediocre. By being mediocre, you automatically disqualify yourself from being successful. I want to be a worldwide game changer and inspire the world through personal development and entrepreneurship.

I want to have a best-selling book and spend every day I have hanging around world leaders. I want to build a team of people who are obsessed with helping others. All of this is possible because I have wrapped these achievements in a big dream. Even if I don’t achieve each mini goal it doesn’t matter because by default, I will at least get a few of them which is better than getting none.

 

7. Add value no matter what

Standing around waiting for the world to give you something will not make you successful. You must become obsessed with adding value in everything you do. Get better at adding value as much as you can.

The greater the value is that you can add to people’s lives, the more value you get towards your dream. There are too many people waiting to receive handouts. Don’t be one of them and become a master at adding value in some useful form.

 

8. Stop being scared

I have bad news for you. Somewhere in the world right now as you are reading this, there is something horrible happening. A murder is being committed, a war is being started, and someone is losing a loved one.

You can’t stop these horrible things from happening, as they are part of our human existence. What you can do is stop being scared and not let fear take over your life. Channel the energy you put into your fear towards carving out your own path to success.

As long as you are scared, it’s unlikely you will take the calculated risks needed to get what you want. We all get scared. Those of us who can be scared and then can quickly change our physiology into confidence, are the ones who achieve unstoppable success.

 

9. Try 1000 things

Get good at trying 1000 different things until you find what works. I have tried everything from djing, to sport, to business, and failed a hundred different ways. The only way I found success was when I became relentless at trying everything.

Eventually, if you trial enough opportunities, you will find the one or two that form the basis of your dream. As you pursue these few activities, you will need to try many different ways to reach your goal. It’s not a matter of skill but a matter of trying lots of strategies to succeed.

Too many people don’t try enough paths in life and then wonder why they fail. There is always a solution to every problem as long as you get good at being prepared to keep having a go and changing your approach.

What are you going to do to be successful? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Charlene Rhinehart

    Aug 16, 2016 at 5:35 am

    The power of the words used in your first point confirmed that I was reading an original Tim Denning article! You always provide the right article at the right time. It’s amazing how that happens. I’m in the experimentation phase of my new adventure which means that failure is inevitable but I’m so grateful for the feedback that will allow me to be 10X better than the person I was yesterday. Failure is a disguised opportunity that most people don’t take advantage of. Thanks for sharing your wonderful insights!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 17, 2016 at 2:32 am

      Thanks Charlene for the very nice comment. It’s great to see you increasing your failure rate so that you can become more successful. Keep me updated with your progress.

  2. Bryan Oliver

    Aug 14, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Love the Try 1000 Things approach. This is a great perspective. To your other points, so many are scared to fail to the point where they don’t even try anymore. Appreciate the great insight.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:07 pm

      Bryan we all suffer from fear of what might happen. What I encourage people to do is challenge that fear and understand the pain that will occur if you don’t stop being afraid. Thanks for your feedback!

  3. Laikha Aziz

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    The hardest one is the first step you take to seperate yourself from the crowd.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Laikha leaving the crowd behind is always hard but you have to have the courage to do so.

  4. Toño

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    Beautiful morning and beautiful food for my mind in the form of your article 🙂 Felt a little bit out of my theme but you got me back! It’s funny when sometimes you just feel unsettled even though everything seems to be working fine yet still you are not quite there yet and some little detail can get you high in no time. I’m glad you posted your article just in the right moment for me. Happiness 😀

    I like your view on failure as I started to dig into this topic very deep. I’m working on the mindset that failure is the only way to success and that you most likely will fail your path forward, in a positive, learning, full of experience way! I also begin to understand the concept we cannot destroy the energy but we can transform it. We can channel it whatever it works for us, that’s what alchemists do, right?

    I also adore your Dream Big statement, and wholeheartedly agree on that! Aim ridiculously high, set up dreams that will inspire you and wake up at night with pulsing heart and smile on your face. I love it and was dreaming since my early childhood. Kinda forgot that habit since then but now I am getting back at it, with pleasure should I add!

    Your last point on trying 1000 things makes me think. How can we possibly discover what our purpose is if don’t try different things instead of doing one routine over and over again? It’s wonderful how easy this idea is yet it is not so common. I will try it out, as I was stuck with sales for years, and even though, we always sell something to someone, as you mentioned above, I realized it is highly important to sell things/ideas/products only when you believe they will do good for others and bring high value to them (yep, another point of yours, spot on).

    I find it very healthy to change your environment, daily routine and your thing you do daily so you never get tired or boring and so you can motivate not only yourself but others on your amazing journey 🙂

    I’m going to nature again today, just about to pack my things after finishing reply and enjoy the life. Was visiting my grandmother last weekend, spent time outside the city, and enjoyed it so very much! So will do the same today, as mountains are calling and I should go haha.

    Have a wonderful weekend, Tim, thank you so very much for the top read and my motivation, was needed it! Stay well and healthy, much love and appreciation, my friend!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:59 pm

      Toño you got the message perfectly. There is no success without failure period. You don’t just stumble upon success because you are lucky. You find success by becoming more of who you are and developing every single day. You’re right when you say your dreams should wake you up. You must be so in love with your dream that it becomes part of you and for this to happen it has to be gigantic.

      The other advice I have for you Toño is that if you are going to sell anything, it must be not only something you believe in, but something you are passionate about. If you don’t link your sales ability to your passion then people won’t be influenced to buy from you and they will stick with the old way of doing things.

      Speak soon Toño

  5. Lawrence Berry

    Aug 13, 2016 at 2:55 am

    There is one thing that you are right about, if you want more success in your life, you have to become obsessed with it. It has to be a part of your life. Not just a one time thing, but an everyday dream that you grasp like your last breathe. A lot of people don’t have the mindset to become successful but these tips can sure help someone achieve that right kind of mindset.

    • Toño

      Aug 13, 2016 at 3:27 am

      Good comment, Lawrence, I like it! Obsession with success should follow all day long, through all your life. You have to literally breathe and live it till the very end. And you should enjoy it as well, so if you won’t get what you wanted at least you had big fun!

      Thank you.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      Lawrence thanks for sharing your wisdom. You are spot on when you say that focusing on success is crucial. What you focus on is what will become present in your life. Success takes dedication and hard work to achieve and you need to want it for the right reasons. It all starts with mindset.

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Are You Really a Leader? 3 Questions That Will Help You Find the Answer

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Being a leader is a lot of responsibility. People look to you to make decisions, direct them, provide support, and get results. A true leader is an amazing presence: a humble yet confident person who inspires those around them.

Unfortunately, a lot of people think they’re leaders, but really aren’t. In fact, according to talent scientist Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, 80% of people believe they are better-than-average leaders, which is objectively impossible. I see people claiming to be leaders all the time, but they’re all talk and no substance.

What is Leadership?

A lot of the people I talk to seem to think that you become a leader just by having a job managing people. That’s simply not true. Leadership is a balancing act that would make a master juggler impressed.

True leadership involves making sure that there is a happy balance between employees’ needs and the company’s needs. If only the employees’ needs are prioritized, the company won’t be profitable. Likewise, if only the company’s needs are considered, employees will leave.

True leaders have the self-awareness and strategic skills to understand this delicate balance and understand their role in creating those key compromises.

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.” – Ken Blanchard

Can You Be a True Leader?

Although there are a number of different leadership styles and theories out there, leadership boils down to a few essentials. Leaders need the emotional intelligence to navigate difficult and uncomfortable situations while being able to inspire others to take action. There’s a big difference between saying you’re a leader and acting like one.

If you want to increase your self-awareness and find out if you’re a leader others can rely on, start by asking yourself these three questions:

1. Do you want to be a leader?

It may seem unfair, but in my experience, the people who make the best leaders don’t necessarily want to be. You only want what you don’t have, and same rings true here. If you want to be a leader then you probably aren’t focusing on the right aspects of leadership.

True leaders are natural trail-blazers, but they don’t set out to lead anyone. People just happen to take note of their talents and confidence and look to the person for advice and guidance.

2. Do you have an original vision, or are you just power-hungry?

Why do you want to be a leader? Is it so you have the final say, or do you have actual goals you want to accomplish with a team? True leaders don’t feel threatened by others—they’re too busy getting stuff done. Leaders typically don’t need to test or confirm their power.

If you think good leaders give directions and just want others to listen, you’ve got it wrong. The best leaders often don’t need to speak a whole lot—they listen and observe, they think deeply, and when they do speak, it’s meaningful.

A true leader acts and others follow those actions because they trust and respect the leader. It isn’t about a power battle or an ego trip. Leaders have a true vision.  

3. Are you willing to do the dirty work?

You don’t get to be a leader if all you do is sit around, give orders, and let other people do the dirty work. Real leaders are humble, and no work is “beneath” them.

They want to know what’s going on at the ground level, and they want to help their people when they’re struggling. If you’re not willing to talk to a customer or back your employee up in a bad situation, you don’t get to call yourself a leader.

“Leadership is a choice, not a position.” – Stephen Covey

Becoming a Self-Aware Leader

How did you do? Maybe you’re not cut out to be a leader. Maybe you are. Maybe you need to work on a few things first.

Real talk: being a good leader isn’t easy. However, becoming a true leader benefits everyone around you and can be extremely fulfilling. If you’re more determined than ever to become the best, most self-aware leader you can be, that’s great news: we need more leaders out there.

What are the characteristics of a great leader in your opinion? Share with us below!

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Capitalize on the 80% of Business That You Are Missing Out on Right Now With This Method

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Most of us are aware of Pareto’s Principle, the 80/20 rule. This principle states that 20% of the input gives us 80% of the output. The top 20% of your salespeople account for 80% of your business. The top 20% skills you have, account for 80% of your success. The top 20% of our customers will give us 80% of business. When we use this principle it allows us to narrow in and focus on the most important clients who are in our target market.

You’ll find that most people tell you to focus on your top 20%. Here’s the big question: What do you do with the other 80% of people who you do not work with?

Most of us let this 80% of potential business fall to the wayside because they are not our target market and we have no system set up to still do some form of business with them. However, this is not the case for Tim Johnson.

Just last year, he generated $11 million dollars from REFERRALS! He is the master of building a referral based business. By sending clients that he cannot work with to his friends and referral partners, he is able to receive commission for the introduction and new business.

Imagine having the potential to make money from EVERY business conversation! Tim speaks to about 3,000 people per year, and if he cannot help them personally, he knows someone in his Global Renegade network who can.

The thing is, we can all do this if we are intentional about it. As Tim puts it, “We need to date our referral partners. We put so much time and effort into people that do nothing for our business, yet we do not build strong relationships and invest time into our referral partners.”

Tim is a speaker, author, real estate developer, and business coach who is well known around the world. He starts each business conversation by saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during this conversation I realize that I am not the right fit for you, I introduce you to someone in my network who is?”

Each time he is met with a resounding YES! Who would say no to this offer? This strong referral network has built Tim a net worth of over $4 million dollars. Tim uses a framework called SOLD and if you use this framework you can build a strong referral network as well.

Below, is the exact SOLD framework Tim uses:

Strategy

According to Tim, everything is mathematical. He approaches each conversation looking to learn and serve. When you approach conversations in this way, you focus on relationship building instead of feeling like you have an agenda to do business.

Ask great questions here and give the person you’re speaking with an opportunity to share their situation and what they are going through. Tim always asks, “What do you need and how can I serve you?” This is a powerful question that most people neglect and it’s the reason they are not experiencing as much sales success as Tim.

“Here is a powerful yet simple rule. Always give people more than they expect to get.” – Nelson Boswell

Objections = Opportunities

As the old wise quote states, “We were given two ears and one mouth for a reason.” This means we need to speak less and listen more.

Too often, people pitch and become salesy instead of being human and having a conversation where they are listening to the person they are sitting with. When you are listening, you give yourself the opportunity to learn their problems, obstacles, and needs in order to identify new opportunities.

Leverage referral partners

As you are gathering information you will identify if you are able to provide the solution that your prospect needs. If you cannot, it is time to leverage your referral partners and make the introduction.

By starting out the conversation saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during our conversation I realize that I am not the right fit that I introduce you to someone who is?” you have already pre-framed yourself appropriately to leverage your referral network if you cannot provide a solution that is needed.

Your prospect will be very appreciative for your honesty and will trust your judgement. You get a lot of brownie points when you have the integrity to say that you are not the right fit, but let me introduce you to someone who is.

“People influence people. Nothing influences people more than a recommendation from a trusted friend. A trusted referral influences people more than the best broadcast message. A trusted referral is the Holy Grail of advertising.” – Mark Zuckerberg

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Rinse and repeat this process. Having conversations in this way will enable you to work with the top 20% of people you speak with, and still provide value to the other 80%. In this way, every conversation opens up the opportunity for new business.

SOLD is business growth through asking great questions, active listening, and leveraging referral partners. Start to capitalize on the 80% of business that you are missing out on by referring these people to other service providers in your network.

If you think about providing value in service of others first, then you can leverage the SOLD framework for increased revenue in your business by simply being a connector and receiving commissions of 10%-25%.

Do you have referral partners in your business? Would love to hear your experience in the comment section below!

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A 5 Step Morning Routine That Leads to Explosive Growth and Success

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Have you ever noticed that how your day starts can dictate how the rest of your day goes? If you start your day on a positive and productive note, you feel a sense of excitement, pride, and accomplishment. And then those feelings power you through the rest of your day. You knock things off your to do list and find yourself in a great mood. Yet, when you wake up later than you were planning on, it can throw your entire day off. So make a decision to take control of your mornings and come up with a routine that will set you up for success.

When trying to construct a morning routine that fits your life, one thing to take into consideration is how important the night before is. Most people with winning morning routines, also take nighttime rituals into consideration. Before going to bed each night, plan your next day out in a journal, so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Nothing is worse than going into a day without a plan, and that’s a great way to lose control of the day.

Here’s a list of some of the most important things you can start each morning with to get off to a good start:

Step 1: Hydration: The elixir of life

One of the most important things you can do each morning is start your day off by drinking at least one glass of water. After 6-8 hours without any water, it’s essential to hydrate your body when you wake up and get it ready for the day. Your body is composed of mostly water and a lot of times, the importance of water is overlooked. Dehydration can lead to fatigue and headaches, so starting the day with water can help prevent dehydration. Because of that, staying hydrated means more energy and a lot of times, clearer thinking. There are a lot of health benefits to staying hydrated.

“Your day is pretty much formed by how you spend your first hour. Check your thoughts, attitude and heart.”

Step 2: Priming: The key to self transformation

Anthony (Tony) Robbins, one of the biggest motivational speakers, always talks about the importance of starting your day with priming. His priming exercise combines two important elements; gratitude and visualization. The priming exercise is about 15 minutes and the purpose is to get you into a good mental and physical state before you start your day. First, Tony asks you to think about 3 things that you are grateful for, and to step into those memories like you are there.

Next, he asks you to think of three things that you want to accomplish (short or long term). The purpose of these exercises is simple; start your day with gratitude and visualizing yourself accomplishing what you want to accomplish, whether it’s a short term goal or a long term goal.

If you don’t want to do that exact exercise, you can also do a combination of meditation and visualization. There are a lot of guided audios that you can use to help you get the most out of meditation and visualization.

Step 3: Exercise/Movement – Jumpstart your brain and your body

Exercise has massive benefits, both physical and mental. Starting your day with even 30 minutes of movement can give you increased energy and endorphins. It’s also a great way to start your day on a positive note. Think of how amazing you feel after you finish a good workout.

Step 4: Journaling – Create your future and write your goals into existence

Everyone has their own way of journaling; you need to find what works best for you. Some things you can do while journaling are making a list of 3-5 things you are grateful for, writing your goals down (daily or long term goals), or setting your intention for the day. Journaling can make you more productive as well as remind you what your goals/ targets are so that you stay focused on what you need to get done.

“Your morning routine generates a 10x return for good or for bad. Make it good.” – Todd Stocker

Step 5: Attack the day- conquer your biggest task that you have to do first thing

A lot of people tend to procrastinate on their most important task of the day. They’ll find any excuse to push it off. “Later” becomes “tomorrow.” And then somehow, the end of the week rolls around and the task still isn’t complete. However, if you prioritize your most important task and get it accomplished first thing in the morning, it gives you a sense of discipline and accomplishment.

Starting your morning with a routine can help transform your day. It can help you build new habits but even if you start with 2 or 3 of these, you will begin to see a big difference in how your days go. If you already have a morning routine but you are missing some of these steps, test them out and see what kind of an impact they have on your days.

What is your morning routine like? Comment below!

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Here’s Why Goals Are for Losers

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If you enter the word “goals” into your browser, more than 1.6 BILLION search results pop up. Safe to say, there’s no shortage of goal setting advice as a stepping-stone on your path to success. Yet, there’s a contrarian willing to risk criticism, challenge the status quo, and debunk goals at face value.

In his book “How To Fail At Almost Everything And Still Win Big,” Scott Adams is an author, cartoonist and Periscope streamer, who sees goals differently than most everyone else. Adams observes that if you study people who succeed, you’ll see most of them follow systems, not goals.

Goals vs. Systems

Adams defines goals as “reach it and be done objectives.” Whereas systems, is what you do on a regular basis with an expectation that you’ll build on and improve your chances of success.

In Adams book, he says he didn’t have a goal to write it by a specific date. He had a “process” that included blogging daily (for practice) believing this consistency would lead him down a path to where he wanted to be.

Other examples:

  • dieting to lose 10 lbs. is a goal. Learning to eat right, and doing so on a regular basis, is a system.
  • making a million dollars is a goal. Being a serial entrepreneur, is system.
  • running a marathon in under 3 hours is a goal. Exercising daily, is a system (forming a habit).

Could goals create tunnel vision? The problem with goals, says Adams, is that they’re laser-focused and could block awareness of other opportunities around you. If you have your head down pursuing a goal, you may miss better opportunities that could potentially advance you, perhaps even faster.

In contrast, says Adams, systems are flexible, leaving you wide open for new and better ways of doing things. “A system, performed daily, is moving you from a place with low odds to a place with better odds.”

Adams concedes, goals aren’t completely off the table. Goals are useful in “simple” situations that are “narrow, simplistic and have predictable pursuits.” They’re ok for short tasks with a clear purpose.

Two examples of different goals would be an “ok goal,” which would be entering a contest, while a “great goal” is to win. “It’s simple, it’s near term, it’s manageable.” Nonetheless, for success, goals are terrible for long-term endeavors like personal health and career success goals.

So are goals for losers? Adams says goals are psychological. If you haven’t reached your goal, you could be in a perpetual state of frustration and disappointment, possibly feeling like a failure.

Goals proceed with blinders on, expecting certain results at the end of weeks, months or years. Then once you’ve achieved that goal, what are you prepared for? Whereas systems are skill-based that add up, and can serve you on future projects.

“Never settle for average.” – Steve Jobs

Talent Stacking for Success

Talent stacking is the process of increasing your personal value by “layering together several mediocre skills” until you have something unique.

Although Adams says most of his undertakings can be considered failures from the standpoint of goals, they’re actually successes from the standpoint of systems. Gaining transferable skills has allowed him to achieve success in the long run.

In a Wall Street Journal interview, Adams shares how he stacked his talents of “mediocre artist, an ok writer, somewhat humorous, and some business knowledge” to create the wildly successful comic strip Dilbert (seen online in 2,000 newspapers, 65 countries in 25 languages) and substantial economic value.

Previously we outlined the four principles of success. Here, we add talent stacking, allowing you to capitalize on the array of opportunities that come your way. Adams recommends choosing to acquire ‘talents’ that build assets you can apply to future projects.

The assets you build will lead you down the path of eventual success over time. In today’s fast-paced world, Adams feels we’d all benefit from adding t­he following skills to your main talent:

  • public speaking
  • persuasion (to understand psychology)
  • some business sense
  • some technology sense

Adams recommends to not worry about the end result. Focus on daily execution and over time, there will be a payday.

Passion will follow

Ask a billionaire what’s the most important element to success and he’ll likely say “passion.” Adams disagrees. He says someone’s passion may not be realistic. In addition, he feels you can develop passion with success.

Adams’ observation is that people who have a good business plan probably do well. As things start working, and you start making money, suddenly passion appears!

The crossroads of luck

Adams believes the flexibility of systems increases your odds of luck finding you. By adding to your talent stack, more opportunities cross your path, with success following close behind.

There are many kids today with better programming skills than Bill Gates had. Yet, Gates was born in a time in history where he had access to computers when other people didn’t, and that luck has made him billions and billions of dollars. Adams says go where the luck is, tune yourself into the vibration of luck and increase the chances you’ll get it.

“Success is luck multiplied by the skills you obtain” – Scott Adams

So there you have it, systems are better if you have a complicated situation and a long time frame. Goals are fine if you have a simple situation and a short time frame.

The thread that ties this highly recommended book together is that if you develop good systems and follow them daily, then your efforts eventually overlap with luck.

What do you think about goals now? Looking forward to hearing from you in the comments area below.

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How You Can Effectively Achieve Your Goals by Using the Puzzle Analogy

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I was building a 500 piece puzzle the other day with many tiny little pieces. When I opened the box, I was completely overwhelmed. There were so many pieces and many of them were very similar in color. I took a breath and thought “just do one piece at a time”. I knew that I had to come up with a plan and organize the pieces into groups before I got started. This helped me to focus and take away some of the overwhelming feelings that were coming up. I came up with a plan and executed that plan. (more…)

Meghan Olsgard is the creator and writer of www.infinitesoulblueprint.com where she writes articles about self-empowerment and creating a fulfilling life. She shares her personal experiences and the obstacles she has overcame to help and inspire others to do the same. You can get more information at her website or follow her on Facebook.

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  1. Charlene Rhinehart

    Aug 16, 2016 at 5:35 am

    The power of the words used in your first point confirmed that I was reading an original Tim Denning article! You always provide the right article at the right time. It’s amazing how that happens. I’m in the experimentation phase of my new adventure which means that failure is inevitable but I’m so grateful for the feedback that will allow me to be 10X better than the person I was yesterday. Failure is a disguised opportunity that most people don’t take advantage of. Thanks for sharing your wonderful insights!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 17, 2016 at 2:32 am

      Thanks Charlene for the very nice comment. It’s great to see you increasing your failure rate so that you can become more successful. Keep me updated with your progress.

  2. Bryan Oliver

    Aug 14, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Love the Try 1000 Things approach. This is a great perspective. To your other points, so many are scared to fail to the point where they don’t even try anymore. Appreciate the great insight.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:07 pm

      Bryan we all suffer from fear of what might happen. What I encourage people to do is challenge that fear and understand the pain that will occur if you don’t stop being afraid. Thanks for your feedback!

  3. Laikha Aziz

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    The hardest one is the first step you take to seperate yourself from the crowd.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Laikha leaving the crowd behind is always hard but you have to have the courage to do so.

  4. Toño

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    Beautiful morning and beautiful food for my mind in the form of your article 🙂 Felt a little bit out of my theme but you got me back! It’s funny when sometimes you just feel unsettled even though everything seems to be working fine yet still you are not quite there yet and some little detail can get you high in no time. I’m glad you posted your article just in the right moment for me. Happiness 😀

    I like your view on failure as I started to dig into this topic very deep. I’m working on the mindset that failure is the only way to success and that you most likely will fail your path forward, in a positive, learning, full of experience way! I also begin to understand the concept we cannot destroy the energy but we can transform it. We can channel it whatever it works for us, that’s what alchemists do, right?

    I also adore your Dream Big statement, and wholeheartedly agree on that! Aim ridiculously high, set up dreams that will inspire you and wake up at night with pulsing heart and smile on your face. I love it and was dreaming since my early childhood. Kinda forgot that habit since then but now I am getting back at it, with pleasure should I add!

    Your last point on trying 1000 things makes me think. How can we possibly discover what our purpose is if don’t try different things instead of doing one routine over and over again? It’s wonderful how easy this idea is yet it is not so common. I will try it out, as I was stuck with sales for years, and even though, we always sell something to someone, as you mentioned above, I realized it is highly important to sell things/ideas/products only when you believe they will do good for others and bring high value to them (yep, another point of yours, spot on).

    I find it very healthy to change your environment, daily routine and your thing you do daily so you never get tired or boring and so you can motivate not only yourself but others on your amazing journey 🙂

    I’m going to nature again today, just about to pack my things after finishing reply and enjoy the life. Was visiting my grandmother last weekend, spent time outside the city, and enjoyed it so very much! So will do the same today, as mountains are calling and I should go haha.

    Have a wonderful weekend, Tim, thank you so very much for the top read and my motivation, was needed it! Stay well and healthy, much love and appreciation, my friend!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:59 pm

      Toño you got the message perfectly. There is no success without failure period. You don’t just stumble upon success because you are lucky. You find success by becoming more of who you are and developing every single day. You’re right when you say your dreams should wake you up. You must be so in love with your dream that it becomes part of you and for this to happen it has to be gigantic.

      The other advice I have for you Toño is that if you are going to sell anything, it must be not only something you believe in, but something you are passionate about. If you don’t link your sales ability to your passion then people won’t be influenced to buy from you and they will stick with the old way of doing things.

      Speak soon Toño

  5. Lawrence Berry

    Aug 13, 2016 at 2:55 am

    There is one thing that you are right about, if you want more success in your life, you have to become obsessed with it. It has to be a part of your life. Not just a one time thing, but an everyday dream that you grasp like your last breathe. A lot of people don’t have the mindset to become successful but these tips can sure help someone achieve that right kind of mindset.

    • Toño

      Aug 13, 2016 at 3:27 am

      Good comment, Lawrence, I like it! Obsession with success should follow all day long, through all your life. You have to literally breathe and live it till the very end. And you should enjoy it as well, so if you won’t get what you wanted at least you had big fun!

      Thank you.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      Lawrence thanks for sharing your wisdom. You are spot on when you say that focusing on success is crucial. What you focus on is what will become present in your life. Success takes dedication and hard work to achieve and you need to want it for the right reasons. It all starts with mindset.

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Are You Really a Leader? 3 Questions That Will Help You Find the Answer

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Being a leader is a lot of responsibility. People look to you to make decisions, direct them, provide support, and get results. A true leader is an amazing presence: a humble yet confident person who inspires those around them.

Unfortunately, a lot of people think they’re leaders, but really aren’t. In fact, according to talent scientist Tomas Chamorro-Premuzic, 80% of people believe they are better-than-average leaders, which is objectively impossible. I see people claiming to be leaders all the time, but they’re all talk and no substance.

What is Leadership?

A lot of the people I talk to seem to think that you become a leader just by having a job managing people. That’s simply not true. Leadership is a balancing act that would make a master juggler impressed.

True leadership involves making sure that there is a happy balance between employees’ needs and the company’s needs. If only the employees’ needs are prioritized, the company won’t be profitable. Likewise, if only the company’s needs are considered, employees will leave.

True leaders have the self-awareness and strategic skills to understand this delicate balance and understand their role in creating those key compromises.

“The key to successful leadership today is influence, not authority.” – Ken Blanchard

Can You Be a True Leader?

Although there are a number of different leadership styles and theories out there, leadership boils down to a few essentials. Leaders need the emotional intelligence to navigate difficult and uncomfortable situations while being able to inspire others to take action. There’s a big difference between saying you’re a leader and acting like one.

If you want to increase your self-awareness and find out if you’re a leader others can rely on, start by asking yourself these three questions:

1. Do you want to be a leader?

It may seem unfair, but in my experience, the people who make the best leaders don’t necessarily want to be. You only want what you don’t have, and same rings true here. If you want to be a leader then you probably aren’t focusing on the right aspects of leadership.

True leaders are natural trail-blazers, but they don’t set out to lead anyone. People just happen to take note of their talents and confidence and look to the person for advice and guidance.

2. Do you have an original vision, or are you just power-hungry?

Why do you want to be a leader? Is it so you have the final say, or do you have actual goals you want to accomplish with a team? True leaders don’t feel threatened by others—they’re too busy getting stuff done. Leaders typically don’t need to test or confirm their power.

If you think good leaders give directions and just want others to listen, you’ve got it wrong. The best leaders often don’t need to speak a whole lot—they listen and observe, they think deeply, and when they do speak, it’s meaningful.

A true leader acts and others follow those actions because they trust and respect the leader. It isn’t about a power battle or an ego trip. Leaders have a true vision.  

3. Are you willing to do the dirty work?

You don’t get to be a leader if all you do is sit around, give orders, and let other people do the dirty work. Real leaders are humble, and no work is “beneath” them.

They want to know what’s going on at the ground level, and they want to help their people when they’re struggling. If you’re not willing to talk to a customer or back your employee up in a bad situation, you don’t get to call yourself a leader.

“Leadership is a choice, not a position.” – Stephen Covey

Becoming a Self-Aware Leader

How did you do? Maybe you’re not cut out to be a leader. Maybe you are. Maybe you need to work on a few things first.

Real talk: being a good leader isn’t easy. However, becoming a true leader benefits everyone around you and can be extremely fulfilling. If you’re more determined than ever to become the best, most self-aware leader you can be, that’s great news: we need more leaders out there.

What are the characteristics of a great leader in your opinion? Share with us below!

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Capitalize on the 80% of Business That You Are Missing Out on Right Now With This Method

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Most of us are aware of Pareto’s Principle, the 80/20 rule. This principle states that 20% of the input gives us 80% of the output. The top 20% of your salespeople account for 80% of your business. The top 20% skills you have, account for 80% of your success. The top 20% of our customers will give us 80% of business. When we use this principle it allows us to narrow in and focus on the most important clients who are in our target market.

You’ll find that most people tell you to focus on your top 20%. Here’s the big question: What do you do with the other 80% of people who you do not work with?

Most of us let this 80% of potential business fall to the wayside because they are not our target market and we have no system set up to still do some form of business with them. However, this is not the case for Tim Johnson.

Just last year, he generated $11 million dollars from REFERRALS! He is the master of building a referral based business. By sending clients that he cannot work with to his friends and referral partners, he is able to receive commission for the introduction and new business.

Imagine having the potential to make money from EVERY business conversation! Tim speaks to about 3,000 people per year, and if he cannot help them personally, he knows someone in his Global Renegade network who can.

The thing is, we can all do this if we are intentional about it. As Tim puts it, “We need to date our referral partners. We put so much time and effort into people that do nothing for our business, yet we do not build strong relationships and invest time into our referral partners.”

Tim is a speaker, author, real estate developer, and business coach who is well known around the world. He starts each business conversation by saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during this conversation I realize that I am not the right fit for you, I introduce you to someone in my network who is?”

Each time he is met with a resounding YES! Who would say no to this offer? This strong referral network has built Tim a net worth of over $4 million dollars. Tim uses a framework called SOLD and if you use this framework you can build a strong referral network as well.

Below, is the exact SOLD framework Tim uses:

Strategy

According to Tim, everything is mathematical. He approaches each conversation looking to learn and serve. When you approach conversations in this way, you focus on relationship building instead of feeling like you have an agenda to do business.

Ask great questions here and give the person you’re speaking with an opportunity to share their situation and what they are going through. Tim always asks, “What do you need and how can I serve you?” This is a powerful question that most people neglect and it’s the reason they are not experiencing as much sales success as Tim.

“Here is a powerful yet simple rule. Always give people more than they expect to get.” – Nelson Boswell

Objections = Opportunities

As the old wise quote states, “We were given two ears and one mouth for a reason.” This means we need to speak less and listen more.

Too often, people pitch and become salesy instead of being human and having a conversation where they are listening to the person they are sitting with. When you are listening, you give yourself the opportunity to learn their problems, obstacles, and needs in order to identify new opportunities.

Leverage referral partners

As you are gathering information you will identify if you are able to provide the solution that your prospect needs. If you cannot, it is time to leverage your referral partners and make the introduction.

By starting out the conversation saying, “Is it okay with you that if at anytime during our conversation I realize that I am not the right fit that I introduce you to someone who is?” you have already pre-framed yourself appropriately to leverage your referral network if you cannot provide a solution that is needed.

Your prospect will be very appreciative for your honesty and will trust your judgement. You get a lot of brownie points when you have the integrity to say that you are not the right fit, but let me introduce you to someone who is.

“People influence people. Nothing influences people more than a recommendation from a trusted friend. A trusted referral influences people more than the best broadcast message. A trusted referral is the Holy Grail of advertising.” – Mark Zuckerberg

Duplicate

Rinse and repeat this process. Having conversations in this way will enable you to work with the top 20% of people you speak with, and still provide value to the other 80%. In this way, every conversation opens up the opportunity for new business.

SOLD is business growth through asking great questions, active listening, and leveraging referral partners. Start to capitalize on the 80% of business that you are missing out on by referring these people to other service providers in your network.

If you think about providing value in service of others first, then you can leverage the SOLD framework for increased revenue in your business by simply being a connector and receiving commissions of 10%-25%.

Do you have referral partners in your business? Would love to hear your experience in the comment section below!

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A 5 Step Morning Routine That Leads to Explosive Growth and Success

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Have you ever noticed that how your day starts can dictate how the rest of your day goes? If you start your day on a positive and productive note, you feel a sense of excitement, pride, and accomplishment. And then those feelings power you through the rest of your day. You knock things off your to do list and find yourself in a great mood. Yet, when you wake up later than you were planning on, it can throw your entire day off. So make a decision to take control of your mornings and come up with a routine that will set you up for success.

When trying to construct a morning routine that fits your life, one thing to take into consideration is how important the night before is. Most people with winning morning routines, also take nighttime rituals into consideration. Before going to bed each night, plan your next day out in a journal, so you know exactly what you’re getting into. Nothing is worse than going into a day without a plan, and that’s a great way to lose control of the day.

Here’s a list of some of the most important things you can start each morning with to get off to a good start:

Step 1: Hydration: The elixir of life

One of the most important things you can do each morning is start your day off by drinking at least one glass of water. After 6-8 hours without any water, it’s essential to hydrate your body when you wake up and get it ready for the day. Your body is composed of mostly water and a lot of times, the importance of water is overlooked. Dehydration can lead to fatigue and headaches, so starting the day with water can help prevent dehydration. Because of that, staying hydrated means more energy and a lot of times, clearer thinking. There are a lot of health benefits to staying hydrated.

“Your day is pretty much formed by how you spend your first hour. Check your thoughts, attitude and heart.”

Step 2: Priming: The key to self transformation

Anthony (Tony) Robbins, one of the biggest motivational speakers, always talks about the importance of starting your day with priming. His priming exercise combines two important elements; gratitude and visualization. The priming exercise is about 15 minutes and the purpose is to get you into a good mental and physical state before you start your day. First, Tony asks you to think about 3 things that you are grateful for, and to step into those memories like you are there.

Next, he asks you to think of three things that you want to accomplish (short or long term). The purpose of these exercises is simple; start your day with gratitude and visualizing yourself accomplishing what you want to accomplish, whether it’s a short term goal or a long term goal.

If you don’t want to do that exact exercise, you can also do a combination of meditation and visualization. There are a lot of guided audios that you can use to help you get the most out of meditation and visualization.

Step 3: Exercise/Movement – Jumpstart your brain and your body

Exercise has massive benefits, both physical and mental. Starting your day with even 30 minutes of movement can give you increased energy and endorphins. It’s also a great way to start your day on a positive note. Think of how amazing you feel after you finish a good workout.

Step 4: Journaling – Create your future and write your goals into existence

Everyone has their own way of journaling; you need to find what works best for you. Some things you can do while journaling are making a list of 3-5 things you are grateful for, writing your goals down (daily or long term goals), or setting your intention for the day. Journaling can make you more productive as well as remind you what your goals/ targets are so that you stay focused on what you need to get done.

“Your morning routine generates a 10x return for good or for bad. Make it good.” – Todd Stocker

Step 5: Attack the day- conquer your biggest task that you have to do first thing

A lot of people tend to procrastinate on their most important task of the day. They’ll find any excuse to push it off. “Later” becomes “tomorrow.” And then somehow, the end of the week rolls around and the task still isn’t complete. However, if you prioritize your most important task and get it accomplished first thing in the morning, it gives you a sense of discipline and accomplishment.

Starting your morning with a routine can help transform your day. It can help you build new habits but even if you start with 2 or 3 of these, you will begin to see a big difference in how your days go. If you already have a morning routine but you are missing some of these steps, test them out and see what kind of an impact they have on your days.

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Here’s Why Goals Are for Losers

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If you enter the word “goals” into your browser, more than 1.6 BILLION search results pop up. Safe to say, there’s no shortage of goal setting advice as a stepping-stone on your path to success. Yet, there’s a contrarian willing to risk criticism, challenge the status quo, and debunk goals at face value.

In his book “How To Fail At Almost Everything And Still Win Big,” Scott Adams is an author, cartoonist and Periscope streamer, who sees goals differently than most everyone else. Adams observes that if you study people who succeed, you’ll see most of them follow systems, not goals.

Goals vs. Systems

Adams defines goals as “reach it and be done objectives.” Whereas systems, is what you do on a regular basis with an expectation that you’ll build on and improve your chances of success.

In Adams book, he says he didn’t have a goal to write it by a specific date. He had a “process” that included blogging daily (for practice) believing this consistency would lead him down a path to where he wanted to be.

Other examples:

  • dieting to lose 10 lbs. is a goal. Learning to eat right, and doing so on a regular basis, is a system.
  • making a million dollars is a goal. Being a serial entrepreneur, is system.
  • running a marathon in under 3 hours is a goal. Exercising daily, is a system (forming a habit).

Could goals create tunnel vision? The problem with goals, says Adams, is that they’re laser-focused and could block awareness of other opportunities around you. If you have your head down pursuing a goal, you may miss better opportunities that could potentially advance you, perhaps even faster.

In contrast, says Adams, systems are flexible, leaving you wide open for new and better ways of doing things. “A system, performed daily, is moving you from a place with low odds to a place with better odds.”

Adams concedes, goals aren’t completely off the table. Goals are useful in “simple” situations that are “narrow, simplistic and have predictable pursuits.” They’re ok for short tasks with a clear purpose.

Two examples of different goals would be an “ok goal,” which would be entering a contest, while a “great goal” is to win. “It’s simple, it’s near term, it’s manageable.” Nonetheless, for success, goals are terrible for long-term endeavors like personal health and career success goals.

So are goals for losers? Adams says goals are psychological. If you haven’t reached your goal, you could be in a perpetual state of frustration and disappointment, possibly feeling like a failure.

Goals proceed with blinders on, expecting certain results at the end of weeks, months or years. Then once you’ve achieved that goal, what are you prepared for? Whereas systems are skill-based that add up, and can serve you on future projects.

“Never settle for average.” – Steve Jobs

Talent Stacking for Success

Talent stacking is the process of increasing your personal value by “layering together several mediocre skills” until you have something unique.

Although Adams says most of his undertakings can be considered failures from the standpoint of goals, they’re actually successes from the standpoint of systems. Gaining transferable skills has allowed him to achieve success in the long run.

In a Wall Street Journal interview, Adams shares how he stacked his talents of “mediocre artist, an ok writer, somewhat humorous, and some business knowledge” to create the wildly successful comic strip Dilbert (seen online in 2,000 newspapers, 65 countries in 25 languages) and substantial economic value.

Previously we outlined the four principles of success. Here, we add talent stacking, allowing you to capitalize on the array of opportunities that come your way. Adams recommends choosing to acquire ‘talents’ that build assets you can apply to future projects.

The assets you build will lead you down the path of eventual success over time. In today’s fast-paced world, Adams feels we’d all benefit from adding t­he following skills to your main talent:

  • public speaking
  • persuasion (to understand psychology)
  • some business sense
  • some technology sense

Adams recommends to not worry about the end result. Focus on daily execution and over time, there will be a payday.

Passion will follow

Ask a billionaire what’s the most important element to success and he’ll likely say “passion.” Adams disagrees. He says someone’s passion may not be realistic. In addition, he feels you can develop passion with success.

Adams’ observation is that people who have a good business plan probably do well. As things start working, and you start making money, suddenly passion appears!

The crossroads of luck

Adams believes the flexibility of systems increases your odds of luck finding you. By adding to your talent stack, more opportunities cross your path, with success following close behind.

There are many kids today with better programming skills than Bill Gates had. Yet, Gates was born in a time in history where he had access to computers when other people didn’t, and that luck has made him billions and billions of dollars. Adams says go where the luck is, tune yourself into the vibration of luck and increase the chances you’ll get it.

“Success is luck multiplied by the skills you obtain” – Scott Adams

So there you have it, systems are better if you have a complicated situation and a long time frame. Goals are fine if you have a simple situation and a short time frame.

The thread that ties this highly recommended book together is that if you develop good systems and follow them daily, then your efforts eventually overlap with luck.

What do you think about goals now? Looking forward to hearing from you in the comments area below.

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