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Why People Don’t Understand Success And Drop Out Of Life

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It’s so easy to get stuck on the hamster wheel of life and never get anywhere near being successful. Until you start viewing success as a fundamental part of your life, you will continue to be blinded by failure.

Success is not hard to grasp when you take the time to understand what those who have it do to attract success in their life. Promise me you won’t drop out from life and at least spend a few minutes to understand what you need to be successful.

Below are the 9 things people don’t understand about success:

 

1. It takes over your life

When you have carved out a path for success, it takes over your life. There is nothing else in the world you want to do, and you shoot distractions down with sniper rifle precision. If success is not taking over your life, then you haven’t discovered what your dream is just yet.

For me, now that I have discovered what success is, I won’t let anything get in my way. No person, no business, no roadblock, and no amount of failure. I will spend morning, noon, and night trying to find ways to inspire the world through entrepreneurship and personal development.

The path to success fills your mind with nothing but thoughts of what it’s going to be like when you achieve your dream. Having said that, you have to learn to enjoy the journey in the meantime otherwise you may never feel successful.

 

2. You’ll learn more about success through failure

Stop being afraid of failure. Failure is the best thing that can happen to you, and if you don’t understand it, then you’re screwed. Successful people are best friends with their failure, and they embrace what they can learn from it.

entrepreneur-failThere is no failure really, only lessons to be learned. If all you ever have is success then you’re kidding yourself; you’re not really successful, and you’re just pretending you are. Your mind can only be tricked by something you don’t believe in for so long.

Eventually, your mind will reveal you as a fraud, and you will be left holding a dream that means nothing to you and makes you feel lifeless.

 

3. Move on from failure quickly

When failure happens – and it will – teach yourself to move on quickly and not stay on a downward spiral. Failure can keep you pinned to the ground for a long time if you let it. As you encounter failure, acknowledge it and then divert your attention back to your dream.

“The better you get at shifting your attention away from negative experiences in your life, the quicker you will reach success”

 

4. Stop procrastinating

The fastest way to drop out of life is to procrastinate. The most precious resource you have is time, and if you waste it, no amount of money can bring it back. Forget about the shopping mall; the shops are not going anywhere.

They will always be there to sell you things you don’t need that take you away from gratitude and make you feel like you need more when you don’t. The one thing that is standing between you and your success is action. Take action consistently and eventually, something will stick.

The amount of people I meet that have an excuse for everything in their life and business blows my mind.

“Excuses kill your success if you allow your mind to create them. Use your excuse making creativity to do something remarkable in the world instead”

 

5. Sell and sell hard

its_about_sellingThe point that everyone misses except sales people is this; we’re all sales people whether we like it or not. To be successful, you have to be able to sell ideas and dreams to other people. Stop ignoring this fact and concentrate on implementing it into your life.

Whenever you get the chance to sell, do it, and do it as hard as you can. Put all of your passion and body behind the pitch and don’t worry about the outcome. The more you sell, the better you will get at it.

We all sucked at selling initially until we mastered our minds ability to deliver through our limitless amounts of energy. Creating positive energy through sales is what attracts everything to you that will make you successful.

 

6. Dream big

It frustrates me how small our dreams have become. Why can’t you achieve worldwide success? Tell me. I believe you can if your dream and vision are big enough. Think of the craziest dream you can, and then start work on it today. Block out the noise of people’s opinions and focus on the belief you have about your ability to achieve it.Dream Big Gym Workout

Small dreams will get you nowhere and make you mediocre. By being mediocre, you automatically disqualify yourself from being successful. I want to be a worldwide game changer and inspire the world through personal development and entrepreneurship.

I want to have a best-selling book and spend every day I have hanging around world leaders. I want to build a team of people who are obsessed with helping others. All of this is possible because I have wrapped these achievements in a big dream. Even if I don’t achieve each mini goal it doesn’t matter because by default, I will at least get a few of them which is better than getting none.

 

7. Add value no matter what

Standing around waiting for the world to give you something will not make you successful. You must become obsessed with adding value in everything you do. Get better at adding value as much as you can.

The greater the value is that you can add to people’s lives, the more value you get towards your dream. There are too many people waiting to receive handouts. Don’t be one of them and become a master at adding value in some useful form.

 

8. Stop being scared

I have bad news for you. Somewhere in the world right now as you are reading this, there is something horrible happening. A murder is being committed, a war is being started, and someone is losing a loved one.

You can’t stop these horrible things from happening, as they are part of our human existence. What you can do is stop being scared and not let fear take over your life. Channel the energy you put into your fear towards carving out your own path to success.

As long as you are scared, it’s unlikely you will take the calculated risks needed to get what you want. We all get scared. Those of us who can be scared and then can quickly change our physiology into confidence, are the ones who achieve unstoppable success.

 

9. Try 1000 things

Get good at trying 1000 different things until you find what works. I have tried everything from djing, to sport, to business, and failed a hundred different ways. The only way I found success was when I became relentless at trying everything.

Eventually, if you trial enough opportunities, you will find the one or two that form the basis of your dream. As you pursue these few activities, you will need to try many different ways to reach your goal. It’s not a matter of skill but a matter of trying lots of strategies to succeed.

Too many people don’t try enough paths in life and then wonder why they fail. There is always a solution to every problem as long as you get good at being prepared to keep having a go and changing your approach.

What are you going to do to be successful? Let me know on my website timdenning.net or my Facebook.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared hundreds of thousands of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around success, personal development, motivation, and entrepreneurship. During the day Tim works with the most iconic tech companies in the world, as an adviser, to assist them in expanding into Australia. By night, Tim coaches his students on the principles of personal development and the fundamentals of entrepreneurship. You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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  1. Charlene Rhinehart

    Aug 16, 2016 at 5:35 am

    The power of the words used in your first point confirmed that I was reading an original Tim Denning article! You always provide the right article at the right time. It’s amazing how that happens. I’m in the experimentation phase of my new adventure which means that failure is inevitable but I’m so grateful for the feedback that will allow me to be 10X better than the person I was yesterday. Failure is a disguised opportunity that most people don’t take advantage of. Thanks for sharing your wonderful insights!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 17, 2016 at 2:32 am

      Thanks Charlene for the very nice comment. It’s great to see you increasing your failure rate so that you can become more successful. Keep me updated with your progress.

  2. Bryan Oliver

    Aug 14, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Love the Try 1000 Things approach. This is a great perspective. To your other points, so many are scared to fail to the point where they don’t even try anymore. Appreciate the great insight.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:07 pm

      Bryan we all suffer from fear of what might happen. What I encourage people to do is challenge that fear and understand the pain that will occur if you don’t stop being afraid. Thanks for your feedback!

  3. Laikha Aziz

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    The hardest one is the first step you take to seperate yourself from the crowd.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Laikha leaving the crowd behind is always hard but you have to have the courage to do so.

  4. Toño

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    Beautiful morning and beautiful food for my mind in the form of your article 🙂 Felt a little bit out of my theme but you got me back! It’s funny when sometimes you just feel unsettled even though everything seems to be working fine yet still you are not quite there yet and some little detail can get you high in no time. I’m glad you posted your article just in the right moment for me. Happiness 😀

    I like your view on failure as I started to dig into this topic very deep. I’m working on the mindset that failure is the only way to success and that you most likely will fail your path forward, in a positive, learning, full of experience way! I also begin to understand the concept we cannot destroy the energy but we can transform it. We can channel it whatever it works for us, that’s what alchemists do, right?

    I also adore your Dream Big statement, and wholeheartedly agree on that! Aim ridiculously high, set up dreams that will inspire you and wake up at night with pulsing heart and smile on your face. I love it and was dreaming since my early childhood. Kinda forgot that habit since then but now I am getting back at it, with pleasure should I add!

    Your last point on trying 1000 things makes me think. How can we possibly discover what our purpose is if don’t try different things instead of doing one routine over and over again? It’s wonderful how easy this idea is yet it is not so common. I will try it out, as I was stuck with sales for years, and even though, we always sell something to someone, as you mentioned above, I realized it is highly important to sell things/ideas/products only when you believe they will do good for others and bring high value to them (yep, another point of yours, spot on).

    I find it very healthy to change your environment, daily routine and your thing you do daily so you never get tired or boring and so you can motivate not only yourself but others on your amazing journey 🙂

    I’m going to nature again today, just about to pack my things after finishing reply and enjoy the life. Was visiting my grandmother last weekend, spent time outside the city, and enjoyed it so very much! So will do the same today, as mountains are calling and I should go haha.

    Have a wonderful weekend, Tim, thank you so very much for the top read and my motivation, was needed it! Stay well and healthy, much love and appreciation, my friend!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:59 pm

      Toño you got the message perfectly. There is no success without failure period. You don’t just stumble upon success because you are lucky. You find success by becoming more of who you are and developing every single day. You’re right when you say your dreams should wake you up. You must be so in love with your dream that it becomes part of you and for this to happen it has to be gigantic.

      The other advice I have for you Toño is that if you are going to sell anything, it must be not only something you believe in, but something you are passionate about. If you don’t link your sales ability to your passion then people won’t be influenced to buy from you and they will stick with the old way of doing things.

      Speak soon Toño

  5. Lawrence Berry

    Aug 13, 2016 at 2:55 am

    There is one thing that you are right about, if you want more success in your life, you have to become obsessed with it. It has to be a part of your life. Not just a one time thing, but an everyday dream that you grasp like your last breathe. A lot of people don’t have the mindset to become successful but these tips can sure help someone achieve that right kind of mindset.

    • Toño

      Aug 13, 2016 at 3:27 am

      Good comment, Lawrence, I like it! Obsession with success should follow all day long, through all your life. You have to literally breathe and live it till the very end. And you should enjoy it as well, so if you won’t get what you wanted at least you had big fun!

      Thank you.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      Lawrence thanks for sharing your wisdom. You are spot on when you say that focusing on success is crucial. What you focus on is what will become present in your life. Success takes dedication and hard work to achieve and you need to want it for the right reasons. It all starts with mindset.

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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Do you think you’ll accomplish everything you want to before you die? Do you sometimes worry you won’t reach your goals? Do you have a plan to get what you want? If you’re like most people, you often have trouble squeezing in everything you want to do during the day, week or month, let alone everything you might want to accomplish in a lifetime. Updates from friends on Facebook, Instagram and Snapchat come in to your phone at all hours of the day and night. Invites to activities, events, festivals, etc. blow up your phone on a regular basis. (more…)

McVal Osborne is the author of Start Up your Life: Why we don’t know what we want, and how to set goals that really matter. McVal writes about motivation, decision making, and strategic thinking. He graduated from UC Santa Barbara in 2011 with a degree in Spanish, and has since worked as a market researcher and business consultant in Washington D.C., New York City and London. You can reach him on Twitter @mcval or on IG @mcvaliant.

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  1. Charlene Rhinehart

    Aug 16, 2016 at 5:35 am

    The power of the words used in your first point confirmed that I was reading an original Tim Denning article! You always provide the right article at the right time. It’s amazing how that happens. I’m in the experimentation phase of my new adventure which means that failure is inevitable but I’m so grateful for the feedback that will allow me to be 10X better than the person I was yesterday. Failure is a disguised opportunity that most people don’t take advantage of. Thanks for sharing your wonderful insights!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 17, 2016 at 2:32 am

      Thanks Charlene for the very nice comment. It’s great to see you increasing your failure rate so that you can become more successful. Keep me updated with your progress.

  2. Bryan Oliver

    Aug 14, 2016 at 2:52 pm

    Love the Try 1000 Things approach. This is a great perspective. To your other points, so many are scared to fail to the point where they don’t even try anymore. Appreciate the great insight.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:07 pm

      Bryan we all suffer from fear of what might happen. What I encourage people to do is challenge that fear and understand the pain that will occur if you don’t stop being afraid. Thanks for your feedback!

  3. Laikha Aziz

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    The hardest one is the first step you take to seperate yourself from the crowd.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 14, 2016 at 11:06 pm

      Laikha leaving the crowd behind is always hard but you have to have the courage to do so.

  4. Toño

    Aug 13, 2016 at 3:24 am

    Beautiful morning and beautiful food for my mind in the form of your article 🙂 Felt a little bit out of my theme but you got me back! It’s funny when sometimes you just feel unsettled even though everything seems to be working fine yet still you are not quite there yet and some little detail can get you high in no time. I’m glad you posted your article just in the right moment for me. Happiness 😀

    I like your view on failure as I started to dig into this topic very deep. I’m working on the mindset that failure is the only way to success and that you most likely will fail your path forward, in a positive, learning, full of experience way! I also begin to understand the concept we cannot destroy the energy but we can transform it. We can channel it whatever it works for us, that’s what alchemists do, right?

    I also adore your Dream Big statement, and wholeheartedly agree on that! Aim ridiculously high, set up dreams that will inspire you and wake up at night with pulsing heart and smile on your face. I love it and was dreaming since my early childhood. Kinda forgot that habit since then but now I am getting back at it, with pleasure should I add!

    Your last point on trying 1000 things makes me think. How can we possibly discover what our purpose is if don’t try different things instead of doing one routine over and over again? It’s wonderful how easy this idea is yet it is not so common. I will try it out, as I was stuck with sales for years, and even though, we always sell something to someone, as you mentioned above, I realized it is highly important to sell things/ideas/products only when you believe they will do good for others and bring high value to them (yep, another point of yours, spot on).

    I find it very healthy to change your environment, daily routine and your thing you do daily so you never get tired or boring and so you can motivate not only yourself but others on your amazing journey 🙂

    I’m going to nature again today, just about to pack my things after finishing reply and enjoy the life. Was visiting my grandmother last weekend, spent time outside the city, and enjoyed it so very much! So will do the same today, as mountains are calling and I should go haha.

    Have a wonderful weekend, Tim, thank you so very much for the top read and my motivation, was needed it! Stay well and healthy, much love and appreciation, my friend!

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:59 pm

      Toño you got the message perfectly. There is no success without failure period. You don’t just stumble upon success because you are lucky. You find success by becoming more of who you are and developing every single day. You’re right when you say your dreams should wake you up. You must be so in love with your dream that it becomes part of you and for this to happen it has to be gigantic.

      The other advice I have for you Toño is that if you are going to sell anything, it must be not only something you believe in, but something you are passionate about. If you don’t link your sales ability to your passion then people won’t be influenced to buy from you and they will stick with the old way of doing things.

      Speak soon Toño

  5. Lawrence Berry

    Aug 13, 2016 at 2:55 am

    There is one thing that you are right about, if you want more success in your life, you have to become obsessed with it. It has to be a part of your life. Not just a one time thing, but an everyday dream that you grasp like your last breathe. A lot of people don’t have the mindset to become successful but these tips can sure help someone achieve that right kind of mindset.

    • Toño

      Aug 13, 2016 at 3:27 am

      Good comment, Lawrence, I like it! Obsession with success should follow all day long, through all your life. You have to literally breathe and live it till the very end. And you should enjoy it as well, so if you won’t get what you wanted at least you had big fun!

      Thank you.

    • Tim Denning

      Aug 13, 2016 at 10:55 pm

      Lawrence thanks for sharing your wisdom. You are spot on when you say that focusing on success is crucial. What you focus on is what will become present in your life. Success takes dedication and hard work to achieve and you need to want it for the right reasons. It all starts with mindset.

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How to Use the “Small Victories” Method to Avoid Burning Out

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Have you had a goal you begin to work toward only to run out of steam? Do you know what you need to do to get to where you want to be, but the necessary work feels overwhelming? “Small Victories” is the method to eliminate procrastination, dramatically increase productivity, and to make every part of the process not just bearable, but fun.

The journey from novice to rockstar is filled with a thousand small victories. Each victory increases your skill, your confidence, your positive expectation, and is ultimately the only way to really do something truly great.

Imagine you have a band in which everything was fun- fun to practice, fun to get together and create. The first victory was writing your first song. Afterwards, some friends come to watch you practice, and they cheer you on giving you another boost. Then you play your first show, do your first band photoshoot, and create a band website. After all this hard work, you record your first song as a band, have your first major show, your first tour, and develop the best thing so far which are your first true fans.

Each victory gives you the energy to get to the next victory

If you told the kid, it was going to take ten years of work to get to the end goal, without celebrating the small important victories in between, it would be illogical for any human to hunker down and work 10 years to get there. So how is this relevant? When starting a business or following your dream, incentivizing yourself with small victories will make you far more likely to make you continue on to your end goal. Without it, your willpower only lasts so long.

The small victories are the positive fuel to make it to the next milestone. You create small victories by finding a way to interact with people as a way to have an impact even if it’s small. For example, when people try to start businesses, often they try to get everything together before selling their first product. It could be months or years of work before they are at the level of their competition.

I am a series of small victories and large defeats and I am as amazed as any other that I have gotten from there to here. Charles Bukowski

Say you’re creating a bakery, it could be a year before anyone tried your first baked good if you go the traditional brick and mortar route without any small victories. This comes with great financial cost and energy. You also lose out on the opportunity to improve your craft, your products, your image and your connections with others who can take your business to greater heights.

However, if you go with the method of small victories instead, you would start by creating a cult following amongst friends and family with your decadent treats. Next, you would bake them at home and sell them at local events, farmers markets, and maybe even at local businesses. This can give you the opportunity to create a strong local and social media following well before the opening of your first actual store.

Work and effort without small victories lead to burnout

We need to build rewards along the way into our endeavors, because this provides encouragement to keep going. Each moment is a separate gift, an experience where something was fulfilled, where something was accomplished, no matter how small, and being a recluse until the grand unveiling will have so many missed opportunities along the way.

Small victories are also an opportunity to develop your skills, get feedback – positive or constructive – and considerably increase opportunities. Small victories increase your credibility by showing a track record and the trajectory you’re on by increasing your ability to attract investors and partners.

“Success is rarely the result of one swell swoop, but more often the culmination of many, many small victories.” – Joseph M. Marshall III

The idea of celebrating small victories can be applied to any subject. In weight loss, for instance, seeing pounds melt away will give you the positive mindset to continue and even improve the choices you make to enhance your physique. Sharing your success with others will bring in the element of positive encouragement. It can also motivate others to come with you on the journey. Your small victories can inspire others to start their own journey.

What small victory did you achieve today which will bring you a step closer to your goals? Let us know below!

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Setting Up Your Mindset to Win: How to Achieve Success in Your Life and Career

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How did Usain Bolt become so successful? He seems superhuman, doesn’t he? Richard Branson, Steve Jobs, Paul Bocuse… all these people have something special in them. They became the stars in their niche. Have you ever wondered why? No, they do not have any superhuman capacity. They are simple people, just like you and I. They, too, had flaws. Their mindset, however, is what set them apart. If you want to win in your career and in life, generally, you need the mindset of a winner. You have to think like a true champion, so you’ll overcome your flaws and emphasize your strengths.

So how do you set the mindset to win? Here are 5 suggestions to get you started:

1. When You Can’t Achieve a Goal, Get Help

Have you heard of Paul Bocuse? He was one of the most famous chefs of his time, and he was named as the chef of the century. This is a good example of the point we’re about to make. Even the best are not almighty, they have to learn from someone. Paul Bocuse learned from another famous chef. He constantly worked to improve his skills and he learned along the way.

The lesson is: you cannot do everything on your own. This is the first thing you have to do: learn and find the right person to learn from. Are there any books by the champions of your chosen niche? Get them and read them. Can you get a mentor? Of course, you can! Start connecting with people on LinkedIn. Your alumni network is a great source of mentorship opportunities, too. Don’t be afraid to reach out and say that you want to learn from someone.   

“Don’t let the fear of losing be greater than the excitement of winning.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Work on Your Resilience

Here’s the most important life lesson you’ll ever learn: things don’t always go as expected. When you strive towards a particular goal, the chances of failure are real. When Usain Bolt started training, he wasn’t the fastest man on Earth. He worked towards that goal and he was resilient enough to go through all the obstacles he faced. We couldn’t possibly assume that such success came easily for him.

The journey towards a successful life is not a straight line, it’s a bumpy road full of difficulties and setbacks. The average person would give up along the way, but a champion would stay resilient. It’s the mindset that makes a true difference. The good news is that the more obstacles you overcome, the more resilient you become.

3. Focus

What do you want in your career and in your life? This is not something that can go with the flow. You cannot simply live your life one random day after another and expect great things to come your way. You have to focus on particular goals and work your way up there.

Ken Chenault, CEO of American Express, has a nice tip for everyone who wants to become successful: “Dedicate yourself to a core set of values. Without them, you will never be able to find personal fulfillment, and you will never be able to lead effectively.”

Simple and straight to the point, right? So set your goals! Find that major goal you want to achieve and break it up into smaller achievements. Then, start accomplishing things on a daily basis. You need to devote your life to achieving that goal.

4. Be Bold

Steve Jobs wasn’t focused on getting an average job, achieving average results and living an average life. He had big dreams and bold goals. All successful people have something in common at the starting point, a bold dream. Being afraid to dream big is a huge mistake. Set your imagination free! What’s the biggest thing you’d like to achieve? If you believe in yourself and you start working towards that goal one day after another, you’ll unlock your true potential. You’ll realize that not many things are impossible. You can achieve much more than you believe you’re capable of.

“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.” – Steve Jobs

5. If You Fall, Get Back Up

Have you ever wondered why Richard Branson became so successful? The answer is simple: never gave up, no matter what hardships he faced. His first company didn’t make money. The test flight of Virgin Atlantic Airlines almost crashed because of a flock of birds. Virgin Cola, his soda company, failed miserably. He almost got himself killed during his trip around the world. Richard Branson has done many things, but do you know what he never did? Give up. No matter how serious the failure was, he always found the strength to get back up on his feet and carry on with life. That’s the mindset of a champion!

Never allow yourself to get disappointed from failure. Do not fall back into average just because your big dream doesn’t seem to be working. Failure is not a big deal. It’s just part of the journey, and everyone has to face it. If you carry on, you’ll find success along the way.

So you want to be a champion? You better start working towards that goal without wasting any time. The first step is changing your mindset. Hopefully, the tips above inspired you to do that.

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3 Important Principles You Need to Know That All Billionaires Have in Common

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I’ve always been highly interested in the similarities amongst the world’s wealthiest. Their habits, successes, mindset, and failures have fascinated me. The journey to great prosperity can seem overwhelming, but if you apply success principles to any endeavor you can quickly and efficiently overcome challenges and expand.

Michael J. Gabrielli, founder of WeRunAds, has spent hundreds of hours and tens of thousands of dollars studying billionaires and their habits. Michael has also studied over 2000 different billionaires and from this experience he’s found three principles they all had in common.

Here are the 3 principles the billionaires all had in common:

1. Be in a rapid growth industry at the right time

Timing is so important. Billionaires know when the time is right to enter a market. Most billionaires do not enter first or second into a market because of the inherent risks involved. Many billionaires let the pioneers pave the way and then leverage the knowledge gained to innovate and optimize in order to create something that works.

The key is to find an industry that is soon to take off. Stepping in at the right time is important. Let’s take a real life example that is known all too well– the founder and CEO of Facebook, Mark Zuckerberg. When he entered the scene, the idea of a social network was moderately known, but it was still not quite predicted to be the monster it is today.

Others like Friendster, Myspace, etc. had made some headway into this fledgeling industry and then Facebook entered leveraging the knowledge and expertise gained from the early pioneers. Zuckerberg saw the huge potential of social networking, took what was done previously and made it better.

He is presently worth over $66 Billion and the company has surpassed the 2 billion users mark with 1.4 billion using the platform daily. Not surprisingly, many billionaires were not the first to pioneer the industry they would later find success in. They came in at the right moment, learned from the mistakes and triumphs of their predecessors, and made a lasting final product.

Here’s a practical 3 question exercise you can do to judge if you have the right timing with your current venture:

  1. Look at your industry and say—is this brand new?
  2. Am I trying to invent something that doesn’t exist?
  3. Am I too late to the party?

2. Position yourself better

In addition to finding the right industry and getting in at the right time, billionaires position themselves in the best way. They provide the solution to the need and they think outside the box to do it. Optimal positioning is a commonality amongst billionaires. For example, during the California Gold Rush, people rushed to mine for the gold itself blinded by the promise of large profits.

However, it turned out that Sam Brannan had the better idea for how to position himself for success. He knew the chances of finding gold were risky, so instead he committed to a sure thing. He manufactured the tools that were needed by all the miners to mine gold. As each new miner migrated West, they were happily met by Brannan and his company who were ready and waiting to sell these new hopefuls the shovels and tools they’d need to strike it rich.

Digging for gold seemed to be the most profitable route, however, greater returns were yielded in the supplying of materials required to mine for gold! A good company that also illustrates this concept is Microsoft. They did not seek to create their own computer, but the software that computers would run on. Most people mistakenly think they have to “go for the gold” to attain wealth, but it’s evident in history that selling the necessary tools to the gold miners can be far more profitable.

The two questions you need to ask yourself to see how you could position yourself correctly are, “What industries will need the supplies that I could provide? And, “Am I following the trend instead of innovating?

“Big shots are only little shots that keep shooting. I can see your sun rise out of obscurity. Keep shooting” – Ikechukwu Joseph

3. Take calculated risks

Most people choose the safe bet that is secure, however, this is not common among billionaires. Billionaires take big calculated risks in order to propel themselves to higher levels of influence and success. The most important thing to note here is that while to others the risks seem big—to billionaires, they are calculated.Risk and Calculated Risk are not the same. Calculated risk is measured and well-thought-out. Risk is impulsive and immeasurable. Understanding the difference between the two is a commonality among billionaires. The world’s most prominent figures have at some point in their lives disagreed with the ordinary and took a shot at the unknown. Proper calculation and clever thinking certainly accompanied the bold moves they made in their careers.

Howard Schultz, the CEO of Starbucks, is a great example of this. He had grown up in poverty and made his way out to earn a comfortable wage as an executive at a company that manufactured coffeemakers.

“Risk more than others think safe.” – Howard Schultz

He risked it all when he discovered a small coffee shop named “Starbucks” in Seattle that prompted him to quit his job and step out to create a company that was inspired by the Italian coffee culture and personal relationship people could have with their coffee.

Of the 242 people he spoke to, 217 said no to investing with him. Despite the discouragement, lack of agreement, and investment, Schultz kept pushing on. Fast forward to present time, and Starbucks’ is a massive success. Strong intuition and unshakeable belief is common among high achievers. Many successful billionaires risked their safe jobs, personal assets, and even their reputation to take calculated risks that they knew would pay off huge in the end.

The questions you need to ask yourself now are, “where can I take a calculated risk? Am I holding back when I should be going forward? What tangible steps can I take today to move forward?”

These 3 success principles are staple elements that are common among many billionaires. Now, there are more principles that you must discover and implement in order to become a billionaire. Work diligently and do all that can be done each day. Be inquisitive and study those that you wish to emulate.

Which one of these principles do you need to work on more this year? Let us know in the comments below!

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One Question You Must Answer to Ensure Personal Success

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I don’t believe in quick fixes, in get-rich-quick schemes, or any other system that guarantees instant success with only a modicum of effort. But, I do believe it’s possible to condense great strings of logical thought and intellectual algorithms into basics. I like to keep things simple! Many of my clients love the fact that I don’t overly complete things, and frankly, so do I! I like to ask simple questions whose answers can be had quickly but require some focus in obtaining the outcome.

Here’s the question I always ask: What is standing between your current reality (where you are now) and your ultimate vision (where you want to be)? Are the impediments psychological, physical, emotional or some other reason?

Until you answer what is causing the difference between your AS IS and your SHOULD BE, you will be stuck spinning your wheels in the mud and the muck of the former. This is an important question that requires a level of mental self-examination. And the answer to this question may require a lifetime of introspection. It is an important question to answer because if you know where you want to go that provides direction but examining why you are not there yet can provide momentum. (In other words, by answering the question it may get you there faster!)

“Success is not final; failure is not fatal: It is the courage to continue that counts.” – Winston S. Churchill

It’s just like following a road map. A map is useless unless you know two things, where you are, and where you want to go. What might be stopping you (or at least slowing you down) from the ultimate destination of your passion and life’s fulfilment?

I’ve asked many people about this over the years and have heard these four reasons that keep people from moving forward.

1. Lack of vision

How do you plan to get there, if you don’t know where “there” is? The most difficult undertaking in the world is to sit quietly with a blank sheet of paper and chart out your life. I know, I have many blank sheets of paper to prove it. However, I also found out that it only takes one sheet, with a few well-crafted lines of thought to give you the direction you need. But you need to start!

2. Lack of goals

So, you know where you want to go, you just don’t know how to get there. The second hardest thing in the world is to have a sheet of paper with your ultimate destination on top, and the rest blank as you ask yourself, now what or how do I get to my vision? The process of functional decomposition means breaking down the larger process into steps that are both actionable and motivational. In other words, the steps are small enough to do and you remain motivated because they are so small.

“Successful people do what unsuccessful people are not willing to do. Don’t wish it were easier; wish you were better.” – Jim Rohn

3. You don’t believe you can get there

You want to, but there is a script running through your head telling you to go home, make some chicken soup and don’t leave the house until these foolish notions of greatness are gone. Think about it, your parents never did what you are trying to do, no one in your family has ever done it, you are far too old (or too young) to do that, you don’t have the right education…your rationalizing can go on for a lifetime! Here is my suggestion when it comes to running those self-deprecating scripts: STOP IT!

4. You are lazy

You won’t admit this to yourself, but perhaps you are just plain lazy. I’ve seen it so many times; individuals majoring in minors. Performing high fun, low payoff activities instead of the low fun, high payoff activities. (And, by the way, who ever said that a high payoff activity can’t be fun? There’s that darn script again.) As a species we are inclined to take the path of least resistance, but that path may not lead us to our vision, but you must admit, we are having a great time NOT moving toward our vision! Laziness is not “doing nothing.” It’s doing the wrong thing because that’s what you want to do, and, very often, we know it’s the wrong thing to do!

There you have the four possible things that might be holding you back from the realization of your vision. Are any of them hitting home? Answer this question before you move on:

What is standing between my current reality and my ultimate vision of success?

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