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The 3 Foundations of Success and How They Can Work for You

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Success comes so easily, when you know how to get it. For so long, I placed ultimate value in what my teachers at school taught me. Learn all these subjects, fit in, be the same as everyone else, and then you will succeed in life. It never rang true with me, I never felt I fit in, and the nightmare of being bullied on a daily basis did little to help. I never felt that school was a good place for me, I was bored and saw little value in what many teachers said. There were a few that inspired me, though they were the ones who were supportive of being myself, and following my beliefs in life.

As life flowed further on, with various challenges, dreams coming and going, some being shredded with various life events, others being surpassed in an incredible way. All of which raised my level of intrigue with how I could achieve successful results in such incredible ways, yet fail so spectacularly in others. Where was the sense in all this success, or lack of it? How could I ensure that I actually achieved success on a regular basis? And really achieve consistent results in the way I wanted.

Below, are the 3 foundations of success that I have learned over the years:

1. The Secret Power Unleashed From Being Yourself

One of the key points I realized, after a huge amount of soul searching and correlating a few things from different courses, was about being me. This flew in the face of what so many had told me growing up. While fitting in can be good at times, if you are dramatically turning your back on who you are, you are also turning your back on your strengths, your inner power, and the diversity which is you within the world and will lead to your achievement of success.

Fitting in can help bring harmony. Though when you are being your real self, you are happier. That happiness leads to greater feelings of fulfillment which in turn, yield the fertile grounds from which the fruits of success and achievement of desired results spring forth. The twist on this, is that when you’re truly in your element like this, feeling happy and fulfilled, your vibration is such that you naturally attract other people who want to be around you.

Ergo, you never have to change who you are to fit in, because you naturally attract the circumstances to you, which fit you. Being your true self, your authentic self, brings success with far greater ease than if you are changing who you are to blend in with others.

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

2. Letting Go Of Life Luggage Keeping Your Energy Productive

One of the other huge things that blocks people from achieving success in the way they want is dragging the past into the present…or even projecting it off into the future. So many people allow negative emotions and beliefs to block situations which they have zero relation to. Old stuff from childhood, which ceased to be relevant, comes through and blocks success with business deals and relationships, when it really has zero relevance, or reason to be there.

Most people have an increasing understanding of mindset and how things interact within it, with experiences leading to decisions that have far reaching implications. Though, few are able to actually release the things that are causing them issues in life and business. Emotional release and belief change can be challenging, however, they are achievable things though. Either through learning the right personal development techniques, or having the right coaching help.

I hit a huge turn around in life thanks to a course I signed up to. I totally reassessed my life, and let go of so much. Though, letting go is an ongoing thing. There are always things happening in life. So being able to let go, to release so you can be yourself, and be in harmony with yourself and life, is crucial.

At times this means allowing yourself to walk away and start again. Honoring yourself in this way can pave the path ahead which enables a smooth, efficient way to achieve incredible success. Letting go also means that rather than splitting your energy between suppressing negative emotions and working around limiting beliefs. You can flow totally in support of the success you are seeking, with a high degree of ease.

3. Get The Best Coaching And Mentoring Possible

Going at it alone can make for awesome success stories but it does increase your level of challenge. Getting help, getting experts who can impart the best knowledge and coach you into using it in the most effective way, provides a level of opportunity which is beyond measure in terms of the value it can yield.

For sure, sometimes finding your own way of doing things can be good. There are certain times where having someone, or a supportive group assembled to actually help you achieve success in a focused way, is really worthwhile. Why spend ten years achieving something when you could do it in six months with the right help? For a lot of people, pride is what blocks this from happening. Wanting to be seen as the best, and ultimate authority, able to achieve success on their own without help.

Yet, when you look at those who are ultra successful, their success came from getting the best help, and being open to it. While Tony Robbins is widely regarded as a huge authority on personal development, he had training, coaching and mentors. He developed a lot of things himself, though he also had a lot of help in the early years too. Every expert has had coaching and mentoring to help them. Many continue on, getting coaching and mentoring to help them consistently achieve success with new goals and dreams.

“A mentor is someone who sees more talent and ability within you, than you see in yourself, and helps bring it out of you.” – Bob Proctor

Success Depends On Loving Who You Are And The Life You Are Living

All of this comes together under one heading, loving the life you are living. When you are, success flows easily. Anything less, things are out of balance, causing stress and restricting your ability to succeed. So flow with these success foundations as best you can. Commit to being your true self, let go of the past and the things which are unsupportive, and get the best coaching and mentoring you can, to really power yourself forward into success and the way you wish to be in life.

Stephen Frost is a coach and personal development expert who helps people revolutionize their lives and businesses. He is the founder of Surging Life as well as the founder of Online Coaching Coach, author of the bestselling book ‘Life Unleashed’ and working on his vision of changing the lives of 1 billion people worldwide.

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Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.

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Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.

Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”

But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.

Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.

Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.

1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse

As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.

Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.

Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:

  • Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.

  • Read quality literature in your free time.

  • Nurture a strong relationship with your family.

  • Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.

  • Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.

The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.

2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay

You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.

If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.

3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome

Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.

You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.

The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.

4. Rejection Is Never Personal

Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.

Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.

5. Women Value Comfort and Security

Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.

Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.

Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.

6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons

A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.

Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.

Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.

7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form

Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.

It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.

If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.

8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise

Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.

Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.

Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.

9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams

One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.

That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.

Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.

Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.

Final Thoughts

The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.

Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.

Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.

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