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I’ve gone through a rough patch in my life recently where I’ve felt overwhelmed. It’s made me feel tired and my mind is constantly thinking.

When I saw my situation for what it was and realized I was suffering from overwhelm, I decided to implement some practical strategies to deal with the problem.

Many of us suffer from overwhelm and think it’s just part of life. What I’ve learned is that overwhelm doesn’t have to be part of life. You can be happy and not have to feel overwhelmed all the time.

Definition of overwhelm:

Having too many options or not enough time, and feeling stressed as a result.


What causes you to feel overwhelmed?

– Not dealing with problems and letting them mount up
– Not saying no more often
– Trying to impress too many people
– An overflowing calendar
– Not enough time to relax

All of these causes that lead to overwhelm are a choice. When you make better choices, you quit feeling so overwhelmed.

Here’s some practical strategies for dealing with overwhelm:


Clear clutter.

Messy offices and homes make us feel stressed which only makes our overwhelm problem worse.

Freeing yourself from stress by learning to throw things away, declutter and only hold onto material possessions that matter to you can help you a lot.

I threw away more than 50% of my possessions and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made. Now I don’t come home to a messy environment and I only have the things that make me feel joy.


Reduce meetings.

I’ve talked about, in another article, what I learned from doing no meetings for a month.

The feeling of having an empty calendar that I get to add events to is one of the best. Empty space when you’re feeling overwhelmed gives you time to deal with the situation.

Most meetings are not necessary and when you make your time harder to gain access to, people question their intentions and have to fight for your attention. This stops the “Let’s do a coffee catch up” requests that often serve no purpose.

With fewer meetings, you can focus your time on the problems in your life that are leading to overwhelm.


Listen to less and read less.

During periods of overwhelm, I find the temptation to read all the books on my list and to listen to all the podcast episodes I haven’t listened to, stressful.

It’s why I deleted all podcasts off my phone except for one and focused on 2–3 books — instead of hundreds of books like before.


Make time to relax.

I recommend the following:

– Lavender filled baths
– Long walks around your neighborhood
– Going out into nature
– Taking a scenic drive somewhere
– Holding a cup of warm liquid like tea


Work at your peak time of the day.

Mines 6 am. I get more done early in the morning, so that’s why I deal with all difficult tasks during this time.

“Finding the time of the day that you work best, allows you to get more done. Knocking off the most crucial tasks decreases the feeling of overwhelm”

The temptation is to focus our time on the easy wins, but they don’t give us the reduction in overwhelm we’re looking for.


Batch similar tasks.

Blogging on Saturday. Editing on Sunday. Picture finding on Tuesday’s and Thursdays. That’s how I batch tasks together that are similar.

I learned from a podcast with Jay Shetty that every time we change up the tasks we’re doing, we have to change our energy. The energy needed to write is very different from the manual labor tasks of posting on social media.

I write everything for the week on Saturday because the headspace I need to be in to do it well is very difficult to find every single day.

That headspace is flow and it requires an hour or so for me to drink some coffee, watch some motivational videos, relax my busy brain and make people feel the emotion through my writing. It’s also mentally exhausting.

If I tried to find this state every day, I’d burn out quickly. Working on certain passions takes a huge toll on your body and that might be why you’re feeling overwhelmed.

“The order in which you execute on tasks matters. Think about batching similar tasks carefully”


Distract yourself.

Yesterday I felt incredibly overwhelmed. Everything that could go wrong did. My work day was not fun and nothing I attempted to do worked out for the best.

This led me to be in an angry mood and I knew I wasn’t going to be useful in this state.

So, I packed up early and went and saw a movie that was very funny. I forgot about all my issues from the day and how overwhelmed I felt, and distracted myself.

At the end of the movie, I checked my phone and three of the problems solved themselves. I was back on top again all because I took time out and distracted myself from the overwhelm. Try it for yourself.


Learn to delegate.

Many requests of our time can be outsourced when we’re feeling overwhelmed. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Often, tasks are given to us and we accept them, but we don’t have to.

When we explain to the requester that we’re feeling overwhelmed, you’d be surprised how many times you’ll get them to change their mind.

You don’t have to do it all. All of us have people around us that can help and that will be happy to.


Multitasking is not helping.

By working on a modern computer, our attention is easily spread amongst multiple tasks. Trying to change from one task to the other is exhausting to the brain.

Multitasking has been proven to be useless. You need to focus on one task at a time. Set your computer up in such a way that you’re not easily distracted by popups and temptations like emails.


Turn off notifications.

Constant popups on your phone are increasing your feelings of overwhelm. We don’t realize, but much of the stress we encounter comes from our phone.

There’s always another notification, another person to text and another person to reply to.

Turn off all of your notifications and watch how it decreases your feelings of overwhelm. 

The biggest one of them all is instant messaging. These conversations never end and you consistently have to think of new responses which wastes your precious energy.


Take a break from social media.

“Instagram made me smarter” says no one. You don’t need to be on social media all the time. By having to manage my own social media, I’ve found it to be problematic and its led to my recent episode of overwhelm.

I had three LinkedIn/Facebook groups I had to keep checking, hundreds of tags in posts, comments, likes and instant messages.

Beyond a certain point, these features of social media go from feeling nice to making you feel overwhelmed. I appreciate it, don’t get me wrong, but responding to it all is a real challenge. The answer to this problem I’ve found is to batch check all social media twice a day. My goal is to get that down to once a day.

I intend on time blocking the exercise, so I’m not checking apps for hours on end. I’d rather be creating quite frankly and that’s how I feel I can help people the most — that’s my end goal after all.


Writing stuff down.

I tend to keep to-do lists in my head and that makes me feel overwhelmed. When I’m trying to solve a problem, my brainpower is wasted on mental notes and things I know I must remember.

Setting reminders on my phone and writing down lists helped me to deal with this issue.

The moment my brain feels overwhelmed from too many ideas, events or mental notes, I write them down. That way I can come back to them later in the day and be present.

Get stuff out of your head and onto paper or into your phone.


Use the unsubscribe button.

Everyone wants your attention and that’s part of the reason you feel overwhelmed. The need to keep up with podcasts, newsletters and group chats is challenging. Instead, unsubscribe on things you rarely get value from.

I get lots of newsletters but I only really read Tim Ferriss’s one, and Ryan Holidays blog updates. That’s why I chose to unsubscribe from all other newsletters.


Leave time in your schedule for blow-ups.

Something is always going to go wrong. That’s a guarantee. I found I was overwhelmed because when the inevitable blow-up came along, I hadn’t left time or space in my diary to handle it.

What I started doing was leaving one evening a week to deal with any blow-ups that may occur.

Having time to deal with problems reduces their burden.

“You can’t handle your existing feelings of overwhelm if you don’t make time for the guaranteed added challenges that are likely to find their way into your schedule”


Realize when you’re out of control.

During my period of overwhelm recently, I took a look at where the most pain was coming from. This is embarrassing to admit, but I was trying to write for more than ten online publications.

Having to post content in so many places was exhausting and only two of them were actually providing me the results I was wanting.

In the busy rush of overwhelm, I missed seeing how out of control this problem had become. In my head, I thought I was only writing on one or two. I used the excuse “I’m on ten publications but I only focus on two of them so it’s okay.”

It’s not okay. Look for areas in your life where you’re out of control. The answer in my situation was to remove myself from almost all publications.

I told a few of them that they could auto-upload my articles so then that way it was hands off from my side.

We all have areas where we are out of control and being honest with ourselves about what they are is how we reduce our feelings of overwhelm.


Thinking doesn’t fix overwhelm.

So many people think about overwhelm and know they’re overwhelmed but never do anything about it.

The best way (above everything else) to deal with overwhelm is take action. Go out there and smash out the tasks that are leading to the overwhelm. There’s nothing more freeing that dealing with the problem at the source.

It’s easy to complain and feel overwhelmed and that won’t help.

Aussie Blogger with 500M+ views — Writer for CNBC & Business Insider. Inspiring the world through Personal Development and EntrepreneurshipYou can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.com

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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