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Practical Thoughts On Dealing With Overwhelm.

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I’ve gone through a rough patch in my life recently where I’ve felt overwhelmed. It’s made me feel tired and my mind is constantly thinking.

When I saw my situation for what it was and realized I was suffering from overwhelm, I decided to implement some practical strategies to deal with the problem.

Many of us suffer from overwhelm and think it’s just part of life. What I’ve learned is that overwhelm doesn’t have to be part of life. You can be happy and not have to feel overwhelmed all the time.

Definition of overwhelm:

Having too many options or not enough time, and feeling stressed as a result.


What causes you to feel overwhelmed?

– Not dealing with problems and letting them mount up
– Not saying no more often
– Trying to impress too many people
– An overflowing calendar
– Not enough time to relax

All of these causes that lead to overwhelm are a choice. When you make better choices, you quit feeling so overwhelmed.

Here’s some practical strategies for dealing with overwhelm:


Clear clutter.

Messy offices and homes make us feel stressed which only makes our overwhelm problem worse.

Freeing yourself from stress by learning to throw things away, declutter and only hold onto material possessions that matter to you can help you a lot.

I threw away more than 50% of my possessions and it’s one of the best decisions I’ve made. Now I don’t come home to a messy environment and I only have the things that make me feel joy.


Reduce meetings.

I’ve talked about, in another article, what I learned from doing no meetings for a month.

The feeling of having an empty calendar that I get to add events to is one of the best. Empty space when you’re feeling overwhelmed gives you time to deal with the situation.

Most meetings are not necessary and when you make your time harder to gain access to, people question their intentions and have to fight for your attention. This stops the “Let’s do a coffee catch up” requests that often serve no purpose.

With fewer meetings, you can focus your time on the problems in your life that are leading to overwhelm.


Listen to less and read less.

During periods of overwhelm, I find the temptation to read all the books on my list and to listen to all the podcast episodes I haven’t listened to, stressful.

It’s why I deleted all podcasts off my phone except for one and focused on 2–3 books — instead of hundreds of books like before.


Make time to relax.

I recommend the following:

– Lavender filled baths
– Long walks around your neighborhood
– Going out into nature
– Taking a scenic drive somewhere
– Holding a cup of warm liquid like tea


Work at your peak time of the day.

Mines 6 am. I get more done early in the morning, so that’s why I deal with all difficult tasks during this time.

“Finding the time of the day that you work best, allows you to get more done. Knocking off the most crucial tasks decreases the feeling of overwhelm”

The temptation is to focus our time on the easy wins, but they don’t give us the reduction in overwhelm we’re looking for.


Batch similar tasks.

Blogging on Saturday. Editing on Sunday. Picture finding on Tuesday’s and Thursdays. That’s how I batch tasks together that are similar.

I learned from a podcast with Jay Shetty that every time we change up the tasks we’re doing, we have to change our energy. The energy needed to write is very different from the manual labor tasks of posting on social media.

I write everything for the week on Saturday because the headspace I need to be in to do it well is very difficult to find every single day.

That headspace is flow and it requires an hour or so for me to drink some coffee, watch some motivational videos, relax my busy brain and make people feel the emotion through my writing. It’s also mentally exhausting.

If I tried to find this state every day, I’d burn out quickly. Working on certain passions takes a huge toll on your body and that might be why you’re feeling overwhelmed.

“The order in which you execute on tasks matters. Think about batching similar tasks carefully”


Distract yourself.

Yesterday I felt incredibly overwhelmed. Everything that could go wrong did. My work day was not fun and nothing I attempted to do worked out for the best.

This led me to be in an angry mood and I knew I wasn’t going to be useful in this state.

So, I packed up early and went and saw a movie that was very funny. I forgot about all my issues from the day and how overwhelmed I felt, and distracted myself.

At the end of the movie, I checked my phone and three of the problems solved themselves. I was back on top again all because I took time out and distracted myself from the overwhelm. Try it for yourself.


Learn to delegate.

Many requests of our time can be outsourced when we’re feeling overwhelmed. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Often, tasks are given to us and we accept them, but we don’t have to.

When we explain to the requester that we’re feeling overwhelmed, you’d be surprised how many times you’ll get them to change their mind.

You don’t have to do it all. All of us have people around us that can help and that will be happy to.


Multitasking is not helping.

By working on a modern computer, our attention is easily spread amongst multiple tasks. Trying to change from one task to the other is exhausting to the brain.

Multitasking has been proven to be useless. You need to focus on one task at a time. Set your computer up in such a way that you’re not easily distracted by popups and temptations like emails.


Turn off notifications.

Constant popups on your phone are increasing your feelings of overwhelm. We don’t realize, but much of the stress we encounter comes from our phone.

There’s always another notification, another person to text and another person to reply to.

Turn off all of your notifications and watch how it decreases your feelings of overwhelm. 

The biggest one of them all is instant messaging. These conversations never end and you consistently have to think of new responses which wastes your precious energy.


Take a break from social media.

“Instagram made me smarter” says no one. You don’t need to be on social media all the time. By having to manage my own social media, I’ve found it to be problematic and its led to my recent episode of overwhelm.

I had three LinkedIn/Facebook groups I had to keep checking, hundreds of tags in posts, comments, likes and instant messages.

Beyond a certain point, these features of social media go from feeling nice to making you feel overwhelmed. I appreciate it, don’t get me wrong, but responding to it all is a real challenge. The answer to this problem I’ve found is to batch check all social media twice a day. My goal is to get that down to once a day.

I intend on time blocking the exercise, so I’m not checking apps for hours on end. I’d rather be creating quite frankly and that’s how I feel I can help people the most — that’s my end goal after all.


Writing stuff down.

I tend to keep to-do lists in my head and that makes me feel overwhelmed. When I’m trying to solve a problem, my brainpower is wasted on mental notes and things I know I must remember.

Setting reminders on my phone and writing down lists helped me to deal with this issue.

The moment my brain feels overwhelmed from too many ideas, events or mental notes, I write them down. That way I can come back to them later in the day and be present.

Get stuff out of your head and onto paper or into your phone.


Use the unsubscribe button.

Everyone wants your attention and that’s part of the reason you feel overwhelmed. The need to keep up with podcasts, newsletters and group chats is challenging. Instead, unsubscribe on things you rarely get value from.

I get lots of newsletters but I only really read Tim Ferriss’s one, and Ryan Holidays blog updates. That’s why I chose to unsubscribe from all other newsletters.


Leave time in your schedule for blow-ups.

Something is always going to go wrong. That’s a guarantee. I found I was overwhelmed because when the inevitable blow-up came along, I hadn’t left time or space in my diary to handle it.

What I started doing was leaving one evening a week to deal with any blow-ups that may occur.

Having time to deal with problems reduces their burden.

“You can’t handle your existing feelings of overwhelm if you don’t make time for the guaranteed added challenges that are likely to find their way into your schedule”


Realize when you’re out of control.

During my period of overwhelm recently, I took a look at where the most pain was coming from. This is embarrassing to admit, but I was trying to write for more than ten online publications.

Having to post content in so many places was exhausting and only two of them were actually providing me the results I was wanting.

In the busy rush of overwhelm, I missed seeing how out of control this problem had become. In my head, I thought I was only writing on one or two. I used the excuse “I’m on ten publications but I only focus on two of them so it’s okay.”

It’s not okay. Look for areas in your life where you’re out of control. The answer in my situation was to remove myself from almost all publications.

I told a few of them that they could auto-upload my articles so then that way it was hands off from my side.

We all have areas where we are out of control and being honest with ourselves about what they are is how we reduce our feelings of overwhelm.


Thinking doesn’t fix overwhelm.

So many people think about overwhelm and know they’re overwhelmed but never do anything about it.

The best way (above everything else) to deal with overwhelm is take action. Go out there and smash out the tasks that are leading to the overwhelm. There’s nothing more freeing that dealing with the problem at the source.

It’s easy to complain and feel overwhelmed and that won’t help.

Tim is best known as a long-time contributor on Addicted2Success. Tim's content has been shared millions of times and he has written multiple viral posts all around personal development and entrepreneurship.You can connect with Tim through his website www.timdenning.net

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The 6 Step Process for Delivering Critical Feedback in a Constructive Way

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We have all been in the position where we knew we needed to have a difficult conversation at work that involved delivering constructive feedback. Maybe a major deadline was missed, there was a clear decline in performance, or someone blatantly dropped the ball. Most of us avoid delivering the feedback, and the conversation can get pushed back again and again, wasting valuable time and money.

Delivering constructive feedback is challenging, and uncomfortable for most people, even highly trained leaders. Yet, delivering and accepting feedback is one of the most important keys for success. So why do we avoid these conversations? Because we never learned how to have them.

Open, honest, direct communication is not a skill we are taught in school. There is no “How to Have Tough Conversations” 101. As a clinical psychologist that specializes in couples work, I see just how important communication is in maintaining thriving relationships. I understand that good communication is the foundation of every successful relationship; both intimate relationships and your work relationships.

Below is a 6-step guide to providing constructive feedback:

Step 1: Clarity on the Goal of the Conversation  

The first step is to get clear on the goal of the feedback conversation. Are you planning to see a change in performance, simply communicate how you felt, or receive an apology? Get clear on what you are hoping to get out of the conversation. Be honest with yourself about what you need, what is most helpful to the relationship, and what is most helpful to the organization. Getting clear on the goal also ensures you are speaking with the right person.

“I think it’s very important to have a feedback loop, where you’re constantly thinking about what you’ve done and how you could be doing it better.” – Elon Musk

Step 2: Invitation

Set up a time to talk. Feedback conversations are not meant to be had in the hallway. It is important that both parties can set aside adequate time and have the space needed for dialogue. Additionally, there must be respect for both parties’ need for time to process information. For example, if you are delivering feedback, and the receiver needs time to process the feedback before responding, setting up a subsequent meeting will be most helpful.

Step 3: Ownership

Own the role you played in creating the situation. When you model ownership of blind spots, failures, or missteps, you set the stage for the receiver to do the same. For example, you may acknowledge that you were not aware of how to support your employee and not aware of the problem until x situation occurred. Equally important as owning your role, is owning your emotions. Own your emotions using “I” statements. For example, “I felt disappointed when I realized your sales performance had substantially declined”.

Step 4: Open, Honest, Direct Feedback

Feedback that dances around the problem does not do anyone any good. It only increases anxiety on behalf of the receiver, and potentially causes the feedback to get totally lost. The conversation needs to be open, honest, and direct. For example: “I felt concerned when you did not attend the last two strategy calls this month…It brought up questions for me about your commitment to the company.”

Step 5: Listen, Validate and Accept

When providing feedback, it is important both parties maintain an open mind, and respond in a way that communicates validation and acceptance. As soon as an individual gets defensive, feedback cannot be taken in, and the value of the conversation dramatically decreases. When providing feedback it is important to listen, validate, and accept your receiver’s viewpoint. Notice, I did not say agree. This looks something like saying: “I can see why X led you to commit Y , I understand you were under a great deal of stress/dealing with a personal situation/frustrated.”

“We all need people who will give us feedback. That’s how we improve.” – Bill Gates

Step 6: A Clear Plan for Moving Forward

In providing feedback, the magic is that now things can change! If feedback is never given, relationships end, things will stay the same, businesses will die, and money will be lost. If you have gotten to this step, that means you did the hard work, and now you get to put change into action. A clear plan includes an acknowledgement from both parties regarding what they will do differently to prevent the situation from occurring again, and how they will stay accountable in making the change happen.

The good news about delivering feedback is that the more you do it, the easier it gets. Remember, giving and receiving feedback is one of the most surefire ways to open yourself up to massive growth.

As a giver of feedback, it is your job to model openness and a desire for growth, so that the receiver may take in the feedback and make the necessary changes. Exceling at feedback delivery will help you set you apart from others and enable you to achieve extraordinary relationships, in both your personal and work lives.

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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5 Essential Skills to Drive Success in Every Niche

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There are many people who don’t have the courage to launch a business in a niche as they think they don’t have the right skills and experience to obtain success. While there are specific skills which determine the success in every niche, there are also some general skills which ensure success in any business you would try.

Below are 5 essential skills you need to drive success in every aspect of your life:

1. Ambition

When you launch a new business, you need to be prepared for difficult moments such as fighting the competition and winning your target audience. Moreover, if you follow some successful entrepreneurs, you should keep in mind that they also faced difficulties and continue to experience them. So, how does a successful entrepreneur get over all the difficulties?

The essential skill you need to possess is called ambition. Set small and clear milestones in your development plan and use your ambition to go over each difficulty and finalize what you had in your mind. It doesn’t matter how hard the path is going to be. Visualize your target and put in all the efforts to achieve it. Staying organized and scheduling each step to get things done are some of the techniques you can use to achieve success.

2. Listen to those around you

While listening to your instincts is necessary if you want to be a successful entrepreneur, this is not enough. As your business develops, you will have an entire team to manage and lead to success. Therefore, you cannot be a successful leader and have success in every niche unless you learn how to listen to the people around you.

You should listen to your employees and discover what they are expecting from you. This is the way to follow if you want to keep your team motivated and help them give the best of themselves.

On the other hand, you will need to listen to your customers to improve your products and services and provide excellent customer support. By listening carefully to the voice of your customers, you will be able to stand out of the competition and ensure their loyalty towards your brand.

“We see our customers as invited guests to a party, and we are the hosts. It’s our job every day to make every important aspect of the customer experience a little bit better.” – Jeff Bezos

3. Courage

When you decided to become an entrepreneur and build your own business, it means you are a courageous person. Courage will help you harness the power of creativity. Don’t be afraid to take risks if you feel a specific action will bring more success to your business.

Apart from doing intensive research on your ideas and developing the exact steps you are going to follow, you will need the courage to implement them. Not all the ideas will turn out to be successful.

Regardless, you will have something to learn from each success or mistake and this will help you move your business even further. When you have the courage to follow a path which is not very familiar to you, this is going to be the moment when you will widen your horizons and exceed your limits to achieve success.

4. Creativity and imagination

If you already implemented your idea and you see that it works, you most probably think that you don’t need to change anything to achieve more success. You need to keep in mind that customers’ preferences change and your competition is waiting for your mistakes to “steal” your clients.

Therefore, you need to use your creativity and imagination to improve your products and services to meet your customers’ expectations. What is more, creativity can also mean that you are open to talk to new people and use their experience to improve something in your business.

“Get closer than ever to your customers. So close that you tell them what they need well before they realize it themselves.” – Steve Jobs

5. Continuous learning

If you want to drive success in every niche you will need to show a willingness to learn. You need to stay updated with what happens in your niche and what your customers expect from you.

Education is not only something for school. It is a lifelong process, and you should be open to seek knowledge and improve your skills with every opportunity. An efficient trick is to stay close to people who are already successful in your industry, ask their opinions on various subjects and learn from their experience.

The above five essential skills will help you build a successful business in every niche. A true leader is ambitious, knows to listen to the people around him, and is always open to learning from others.

No matter the size of your business, you will need to be creative and use your imagination to improve your products and services. These skills will help any leader develop new skills, stand out of the crowd, and strengthen his position on the market.

What skill do you think is most important to be successful in life? Let us know below!

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5 Key Investment Principles from Warren Buffett

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Warren Buffett is a mentor for a lot of traders. Why shouldn’t he be? After all, his investing principles have earned him the title of the world’s greatest investor. His way of working is a little contradictory to many others in the arena of online trading. He doesn’t invest the way it’s depicted in the popular media. He is the kind of investor who likes buying and holding.

Buffett has taught us that once you buy a stock, hold it no matter what. Forget that there is a recession in the economy or it is at its boom. Whether it’s good times or bad, you’re supposed to hold onto the stock.

Buffett doesn’t just buy stocks for the sake of holding them. He buys them for a specific reason. When those reasons no longer exist, he sells the stocks. He not only looks for good prices but sound management and a competitive advantage. He shared his opinion that companies such as IBM, Sears, and GM are great but they cannot stay competitive for long. Therefore, these companies shouldn’t be a part of your portfolio.

Why not learn from the pro himself and invest the right way? Here are 5 key principles to begin with:

1. Invest In What You Know

Before investing in a stock, it is very important to understand what a company does and how it makes its money. Ever wondered why Buffett has always avoided investing in tech stocks? It’s because he does not completely understand their business model. He sticks to what he knows.

This also explains why he prefers investing in Berkshire’s stocks. It represents a diverse mix of stocks such as utilities, banking, and insurance and consumer products. All of these are businesses that Buffett understands very well. No wonder he has invested a significant amount of money here.

“Beware the investment activity that produces applause; the great moves are usually greeted by yawns.”  – Warren Buffett

2. Before Buying a Stock, List the Criteria

It makes sense to buy stocks on the basis of criteria, right? After all, you’re ensuring that you don’t end up investing in something unfavorable. You could be searching for stocks in a certain industry with a set price to earnings ratio.

Buffett never makes the price of the stock the sole criteria of his buying decision. Sometimes, great companies end up taking a price dip because of the market situation. However, holding onto these stocks could still turn out to be favorable.

3. Be Aggressive During Tough Times

Generally, it’s not recommended to time the market. But if you’re a long-term investor, you’ll be fine no matter when you buy. This means that even during the tough economic times, you shouldn’t settle down. Keep on looking for opportunities. This is what Warren Buffett does because he knows that things will eventually turn around.

Buffett is known for capitalizing on opportunities during and after the great recession. Bank of America investment is one of the best examples of this. In his latest annual letter, Buffett said that “dark clouds will fill the sky almost after every decade. But it certainly will rain gold.” So don’t despair, keep on investing.

4. Don’t Worry About the Day to Day Market Movements

Along with other tips, Buffett also said that you must only buy a stock if you are comfortable holding on to it in case the stock market shuts down for a decade. Since you are holding onto the stocks for 10 or more years, there is no point in losing sleep over the minor swings.

Ignore the headlines about the trade wars, the government shutdown, and other chaotic news. Instead, you focus on learning the potential growth of your company over the course of time. The fact is, stock prices keep on changing, but it’s not significant if the company’s business still has a bright future.

“Only buy something that you’d be perfectly happy to hold if the market shut down for 10 years.” – Warren Buffett

5. Buy Buffett’s Stocks

Buffett keeps everything simple when it comes to investing. If you don’t want to do the guesswork and research to figure out which stocks to buy, simply invest in the stocks Buffett already owns. But, make sure you understand the business. Buffett discloses his holdings publically each quarter. He has capital in companies such as Wells Fargo, Apple, and Bank of America. To keep things simple, you can buy the shares of Berkshire Hathaway itself.

Warren Buffett hasn’t been successful all by himself. He has a team of investors who help him do legal work and give him investment tips. He’s also a part of an advisor network because he understands that an investor needs all the help he can get. It’s amazing that a billionaire like him still listens to others.

Now that you know how to invest like Buffett, it’s time you prepare your investment strategy. These principles are not hard and fast criteria, they are simply a discipline strategy all investors should stick to. Along with these, you can use math, technical analysis, fundamental analysis, and even stock charts to make a decision. You may not end up a billionaire, but you will avoid losses and make more profits than your fellows.

Which one of the 5 key investment principles from above resonated with you most? Let us know below!

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