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How to Use Psychological Distance to Become a Better Problem Solver
Life is about finding a way of living that makes you the happiest. However, that’s not always easy, and we all have to deal with obstacles and problems we don’t expect. Whether your problems stem from work, personal or emotional matters, a simple mindset shift can change how you go about them. That’s the art of problem solving, and with the help of a little-known phenomenon called psychological distance, that’s what we’re going to dive into today.
What Is Problem Solving?
Problem solving refers to the ability to tackle new, difficult situations with relative ease. It isn’t a personality trait or a certain characteristic that only some possess; rather, it’s a way of thinking developed through consistency.
Solving problems, at its core, comes from these three actions:
- Identifying the problem
- Looking at the problem from a distance (I’ll show you how)
- Writing down the steps or a plan of action to solving the problem
However, problem solving isn’t necessarily the same as thinking logically. Instead, it requires taking a step back from the problem itself and attempting to think outside the box, something that cannot always be done pragmatically. It’s true that logical problem solving can be used at work, but when it comes to personal development and more emotionally-charged topics, you need to push your boundaries to come up with the right solutions.
That’s why the skill of problem solving is so valuable to your personal development. It’s a tool for personal growth, and it acts as a meta skill that helps you deal with everything life throws your way.
How Can Problem Solving Benefit You?
Whether you’re looking for a way to establish your business or brand, or just growing personally, being a strong problem solver can help you in many ways, including:
- Successfully guiding your life or your business down the path you want, independently of the roadblocks that confront you
- Identifying problems you couldn’t see before due to a different life perspective
- Spending more time on developing solutions rather than worrying about them
- Adding an extra layer of creativity to your way of thinking
I could go on with the benefits of being an adept problem solver, and what that can do for the people and organizations around you. The most important entity that needs your problem solving skills, though, is yourself. Here’s my seven-step process for shifting your mentality into that of a problem solver right now.
How To Turn Yourself Into A Problem Solver: Step-by-Step
- Sit in a calm, relaxed place.
- Think about the first problem you want to solve in your life.
- Once you can clearly identify the problem, imagine that the problem is happening to a friend of yours, not to you.
- Take detailed notes on the advice you would give your friend in solving the problem.
- Then take the same problem and imagine it’s happening to you, but rather than it happening now, envision it happening to you one year from today.
- Take detailed notes on how you would prepare to solve the problem step-by-step in advance.
- Make a step-by-step plan for taking action on your best solution. Take the first step today.
Why does this all work? Because of a little-known phenomenon called psychological distance. Psychological distance refers to how near or far we perceive ourselves to be to a given event or subject. When you think of a problem happening to your friend, not yourself, you’re injecting psychological distance into that situation; when you think of a problem happening next year instead of today, you’re doing the same.
The great thing about psychological distance is that it turns you into a much more clear thinker: rather than getting caught up in the emotions of the problem that’s plaguing you, you focus on solutions instead. Countless studies have shown the benefits of psychological distance in changing perspective and solving difficult problems, so it’s time for you to start capitalizing on it, too.
Let’s look at a real-world example to see how this works in practice.
“Inside of every problem lies an opportunity.” – Robert Kiyosaki
Margaret Sanger: A Problem Solving Case Study
Margaret Sanger was a nurse that was born in the late 1800s. After she witnessed one of her patients pass away from a failed attempt at a self-induced abortion, Sanger decided to take a controversial position and support abortion and birth control as a whole. In those days, the birth control pill was just being developed, and it was seen as the devil in most parts of society. But Sanger was a fiery woman, and she stuck to her guns.
In line with the tenets of psychological distance, Sanger took a step back to see the situation from a new perspective, asking herself these sorts of questions:
- “What’s the problem I’m trying to solve?” The acceptance of the birth control pill in society to help women seeking to avoid pregnancy due to health concerns.
- “What causes this problem?” Society’s fear of women being in control of their bodies, which would lead to them having more power in society more broadly.
- “What can I do to fix this problem?” Empower women to choose the pill for their health and the stability of their families.
Sanger started acting upon her insights immediately, and decided that regardless of the obstacles in her way, she would champion the birth control pill for as long as she lived. In fact, she became a rowdy activist of the pill, going so far as to be thrown in jail multiple times in support of birth control, which was illegal in those times. Sanger found a way around all of the institutions that tried to silence her and ensured her message was heard. Thanks to her foresight and stubbornness, the birth control pill has become what it is today: one of the most important medicinal and societal advances in history.
Most of us don’t face the same obstacles as Margaret Sanger, but we can certainly learn from her journey. If she was able to change how society sees something as touchy and taboo as birth control, there’s no reason you can’t shift your mentality in how you solve problems, too.
Every successful company, product and organization has a problem solver behind them. But problem solving isn’t only important for leaders: companies today are looking for employees who have the same level of problem solving prowess. It’s no longer enough to just be a logical thinker; to succeed in the job market today, you need to think outside of the box and come up with solutions that no one else is thinking of. Apply the process I laid out above, with the story of Margaret Sanger ringing in your ears. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it when it works.
Don’t feel discouraged if your first attempt doesn’t work. Every time you use psychological distance to your advantage—just as Margaret Sanger and so many others have—you’ll gain a better understanding of how to do it naturally. Just as success only comes after a great deal of effort, the same holds for problem solving, too.
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Before chasing success, every young man needs to face these 9 brutal realities shaping masculinity in the modern world.
Many young men today quietly battle depression, loneliness, and a sense of confusion about who they’re meant to be.
Some blame the lack of deep friendships or romantic relationships. Others feel lost in a digital world that often labels traditional masculinity as “toxic.”
But the truth is this: becoming a man in the modern age takes more than just surviving. It takes resilience, direction, and a willingness to grow even when no one’s watching.
Success doesn’t arrive by accident or luck. It’s built on discipline, sacrifice, and consistency.
Here are 9 harsh truths every young man should know if he wants to thrive, not just survive, in the digital age.
1. Never Use Your Illness as an Excuse
As Dr. Jordan B. Peterson often says, successful people don’t complain; they act.
Your illness, hardship, or struggle shouldn’t define your limits; it should define your motivation. Rest when you must, but always get back up and keep building your dreams. Motivation doesn’t appear magically. It comes after you take action.
Here are five key lessons I’ve learned from Dr. Peterson:
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Learn to write clearly; clarity of thought makes you dangerous.
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Read quality literature in your free time.
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Nurture a strong relationship with your family.
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Share your ideas publicly; your voice matters.
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Become a “monster”, powerful, but disciplined enough to control it.
The best leaders and thinkers are grounded. They welcome criticism, adapt quickly, and keep moving forward no matter what.
2. You Can’t Please Everyone And That’s Okay
You don’t need a crowd of people to feel fulfilled. You need a few friends who genuinely accept you for who you are.
If your circle doesn’t bring out your best, it’s okay to walk away. Solitude can be a powerful teacher. It gives you space to understand what you truly want from life. Remember, successful men aren’t people-pleasers; they’re purpose-driven.
3. You Can Control the Process, Not the Outcome
Especially in creative work, writing, business, or content creation, you control effort, not results.
You might publish two articles a day, but you can’t dictate which one will go viral. Focus on mastery, not metrics. Many great writers toiled for years in obscurity before anyone noticed them. Rejection, criticism, and indifference are all part of the path.
The best creators focus on storytelling, not applause.
4. Rejection Is Never Personal
Rejection doesn’t mean you’re unworthy. It simply means your offer, idea, or timing didn’t align.
Every successful person has faced rejection repeatedly. What separates them is persistence and perspective. They see rejection as feedback, not failure. The faster you learn that truth, the faster you’ll grow.
5. Women Value Comfort and Security
Understanding women requires maturity and empathy.
Through books, lectures, and personal growth, I’ve learned that most women desire a man who is grounded, intelligent, confident, emotionally stable, and consistent. Some want humor, others intellect, but nearly all want to feel safe and supported.
Instead of chasing attention, work on self-improvement. Build competence and confidence, and the rest will follow naturally.
6. There’s No Such Thing as Failure, Only Lessons
A powerful lesson from Neuro-Linguistic Programming: failure only exists when you stop trying.
Every mistake brings data. Every setback builds wisdom. The most successful men aren’t fearless. They’ve simply learned to act despite fear.
Be proud of your scars. They’re proof you were brave enough to try.
7. Public Speaking Is an Art Form
Public speaking is one of the most valuable and underrated skills a man can master.
It’s not about perfection; it’s about connection. The best speakers tell stories, inspire confidence, and make people feel seen. They research deeply, speak honestly, and practice relentlessly.
If you can speak well, you can lead, sell, teach, and inspire. Start small, practice at work, in class, or even in front of a mirror, and watch your confidence skyrocket.
8. Teaching Is Leadership in Disguise
Great teachers are not just knowledgeable. They’re brave, compassionate, and disciplined.
Teaching forces you to articulate what you know, and in doing so, you master it at a deeper level. Whether you’re mentoring a peer, leading a team, or sharing insights online, teaching refines your purpose.
Lifelong learners become lifelong leaders.
9. Study Human Nature to Achieve Your Dreams
One of the toughest lessons to accept: most people are self-interested.
That’s not cynicism, it’s human nature. Understanding this helps you navigate relationships, business, and communication more effectively.
Everyone has a darker side, but successful people learn to channel theirs productively into discipline, creativity, and drive.
Psychology isn’t just theory; it’s a toolkit. Learn how people think, act, and decide, and you’ll know how to lead them, influence them, and even understand yourself better.
Final Thoughts
The digital age offers endless opportunities, but only to those who are willing to take responsibility, confront discomfort, and keep improving.
Becoming a man today means embracing the hard truths most avoid.
Because at the end of the day, success isn’t about luck. It’s about who you become when life tests you the most.
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