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How to Turn Your Thoughts Into Amazing Results

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Thinking Ideas Thoughts and Intentions Into Success

Being a mover and shaker, you’re always on the lookout for that one thing that can give you the edge.

Whether it’s the power-protein you mix into your coffee in the morning, or the way you optimize your inbox… you probably don’t care about the theory behind it….

You want to know what works!

Right?

I’ve worked with hundreds of grounded business owners and aspiring entrepreneurs and the thing I’ve noticed consistently is their ability to get results.

Real results.

Tangible, kick-ass, bottom line results.

And the thing that holds people back from creating the results they really want, and deserve, is the nagging doubt that they might not succeed.

Perhaps you’ve felt this way?

Maybe you’ve found yourself taking one step forward and two steps back, trying to will yourself to be positive. To have faith. To just work harder and maybe, just maybe, success will be yours.

Hoping. Dreaming. And trying desperately to not let those nay-sayers be right.

And if this is you – you’re not alone.

What I’ve noticed in working with hundreds of entrepreneurs over the years is that the folks who finally reach their goals, and get the awe-inspiring results are the ones who have taken time to master their thought.

Sounds glib?

I can assure you, that this is the foundation of every great person who has ever achieved anything. Total mastery of thoughts… Because your thoughts literally do create the world you experience.

And the secret is to focus on the outcome. (You can read more on how to do this here.)

The outcome you hold in your mind, really does create your physical world!

But what I find is that when folks first hear about this concept, they’re a little sceptical.

How can thinking about increasing my profit actually make more people buy my product?” they often scoff.

And I get it.

I used to wonder the exact same thing.

And until you’ve experienced it and proven it out for yourself, it does seem a little out there!

 

But What If You Could Prove It To Yourself?

What if it were possible to run a simple experiment that is going to help you master the process, and prove to yourself that your efforts are paying off.

Wouldn’t that be awesome?

Well, I don’t tease 😉

There is indeed a way.

And it’s easier than you think.

Not only that, but once you have your own data to back up the model you’ll discover a number of additional benefits:

1. You’ll no longer need to waste energy and focus questioning if it works

You get to by-pass understanding the mechanics like a black-box component in a software design.

You can just take it as a given and use it is.

 

2. You’ll be much more confident in taking on new, bigger projects

If your thoughts create your outcome, you don’t need to worry about the ins and outs of the project. You can simply focus your attention on what you want to create, and let the details and “obstacles” take care of themselves.

It takes some practice and training to get to this level of confidence, but you just need to start small and then build up to the big fat hairy audacious goals!

 

4. You’ll become MAGNETIC to people

You will walk and talk with tonnes more confidence. This makes you much more attractive to the people around you.

Remember the saying “success breeds success”? You will definitely be able to ride the momentum of your new found strategy that works for anything!

 

5. You’ll be less fearful

Often, the thing that causes the most stress for go-getter is the fear of failure… in one form or another. If you know you can’t fail, and your focus is on your goal you will naturally experience much less stress and anxiety.

Plus, it’s actually a healthier way to live!

Once you’ve conducted your own experiments, you’ll no longer be trapped in an oscillation between hoping and doubting.

Some folks swing from one extreme to the other… willing themselves to believe it works, and then advocating that it’s silly and definitely doesn’t.

But not you.

Not now.

Because you’re going to put in a little effort now, for massive rewards you can keep reaping down the line.

 

The Proof Is In The Pudding

So how then do we go about testing this out and proving to ourselves that this is worth doing?

Well, we need to pick a variable and track a result that is relevant to our hypothesis… just like in any scientific experiment.

 

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So here’s what you do:

1. Make a list of a few simple outcomes you’d like to achieve

I suggest picking simple ones, which don’t require much time to create, just for the purpose of proving the concept. This way you can get through a number of experiments in less than 14 days, rather than waiting years and forgetting about it along the way.

 

2. Select the first outcome to work on

This could be something as simple as attracting a free cup of coffee, finding a parking space where you normally struggle, or having your bills reduced. Make sure also that you can track it. It’s no good setting an intention to have something happen and you not know whether it happened or not… So if you’re looking for a reduction in your household bills, you need to know what you’re paying right now. Makes sense, right?

 

3. Ok, then you need to note down the goal, the date and how long you’re going to run your experiment for

This way you know that the effect is a result of your intention and you can’t put it down to fluke. So for example you could say “I allow myself to attract a free cup of coffee by noon today”… or whatever seems like a good time frame, given that you may work from home, and not venture out into the world necessarily.

 

4. Next lay the intention by thinking the thought and visualising, or whatever technique you use

If you’re new to this you may want to refer to “How to Think to Get What You Want”.

 

5. Then you want to track your results

I like to set a reminder on my phone to check in with the goal. So when the time has passed you just notice whether the outcome happened, and then you mark down the result in your experimenters’ journal.

And then you move onto the next experiment. 😉

 

Here’s what you’ll likely find:

Not every single outcome will manifest within your time frame. You’re new to this, and you’re just getting used to the process and the experiment.

That’s ok.

Keep going, and see what happens.

You may find that something like 7 out of 10 goals are achieved… consistently.

If this is the case then this is awesome. Can you imagine 7 out of every 10 intentions you set coming into your reality, consistently? Most traders on the stock market would be very happy with that result. You just need to keep focussing on things that bring you more of what you want.

This is a brilliant process to go through, because it attunes you to what you want, rather than what you don’t want.

The reason most people fail with achieving their goals is simply because they don’t focus on having their chosen outcome… they focus on NOT having it. I.e. on worrying about it. This systematic approach keeps you working on what you want… which is a great shift to make.

And over time, you will build up enough evidence to know without any doubt that the most reliable way to get an outcome is to set and intention and focus your energy on the outcome you want. The more you practice, the more certain you will become, and consequently, the more successful you will get at this approach.

 

Your Experiment Can Begin Right Now!

So there you have it.

Believe me, it’s a skill worth mastering.

After all – it doesn’t just apply to finding parking spaces or being given cups of coffee.

Far from it…

I’ve used it to win competitions, land a book deal, find the perfect Porsche for my budget and style – with no effort or research. I’ve used it to build a six figure income from nothing, been given shares to a company just months before they’ve hit the big time, been given otherwise expensive advice for the price of a glass of wine, and created the most amazing experiences and relationships with awesome people around the world.

It all begins by believing that you are the creator of everything that happens in your world…

And then DARING to choose the good things! (ReTweet This)

The things you really want, rather than struggle and hard work.

And this begins not by taking my word for it – but testing this out for yourself in a series of experiments over the next 14 days.

You can get going right now…

 

Go ahead and write in the comments below, what your first experiment is going to be…

And as always, I’m here to help, and I read every comment and email.

To Your Inevitable Success!

Laura Leigh Clarke

Laura Leigh Clarke is the unorthodox Business Coach, Recovering Quantum Physicist, Founder of ProsperityQM, Geek and a die-hard Doctor Who fan. She also helps people clear their money blocks and limiting beliefs so they can manifest the life and business they really want. Download Your Tool Kit for Making a Quantum Shift in Your Business, and watch your results explode!

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13 Comments

  1. Eric

    Mar 22, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    I am currently doing exactly what you are writing about. I am finally bringing forward an idea to reality after marinating on it for nearly 10-years. The biggest hurdle was expertise, but now the net allows collaboration with expertise in every field at low cost and ta da….my idea is emerging before my eyes. Watching a thought manifest into reality is almost indescribable! Great blog today!

  2. CrazyMonkey

    Feb 3, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    This is a great article. I have seen the steps laid out in the experiment many times in my previous readings. However, what I struggle with are two things:

    1) FEAR – I guess as humans, you can never get rid of fear. However, you can overcome it, but how?? I struggle with the general mentality of being fearless.

    2) Step #4 mentioned setting an intention. Is that enough? For exmple, for the longest time now, I have been wanted a brand new BMW M3. I am certainly making enough money to accomplish this dream. But, I can’t seem to convince myself that I deserve it. How to come over this?

  3. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 29, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Very enlightening and thought provoking.
    I have just retired and now I am in my own business. I am going to apply it. Although it might not be easy but I will try to control because I am determined to do.

    Thanks a lot !

    Laura Clarke

  4. Imran Soudagar

    Jan 26, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Thanks for the awesome article, the biggest problem most people face in their life is making decisions. I have seen people struggle with that and they get totally confused when there are more than 2 choices. It takes time to master this technique. But not impossible.

  5. Ganesh

    Jan 19, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    Trust me for a moment. I have a great story to inspire you all. Months ago during mid September 2014 I started reading a book ” think and grow rich”. In between somewhere 50th to 52nd page I was so excited about the thought of desire, emotions, faith, to achieve any goal, that I stopped reading where it was and concentrated on the wall mounted fan in front of me. Just to instantly test the theory in the book I wished with all my emotions and faith to turn the fan ON on its own. My time frame was 10 min but it didn’t work. I was bit depressed but was still hoping for a miracle to happen. For next half hour there was no sign. After that I felt asleep. To my greatest surprise in life around 5 am in morning I started feeling cold so searched for blanket around in my sleep and then I realized that the fan was on. This incident shocked me with ultimate faith in the book. This might seem to many of you a coincidence or a lie but the door of my room was locked in and I don’t have any past experience of getting up in my sleep.

  6. Tom Phillips

    Jan 15, 2015 at 11:41 am

    Hey Laura,

    Brilliant post! Really breaks it down and is very understandable.

    I had the same issue as Steve above, great comment also, with fear. Once you overcome your fear, break your goals down into easy to achieve chunks and start to focus solely on the feeling of already achieving that goal, things start to happen much quicker than you think!

    Keep up the good work 🙂

  7. Asino

    Jan 11, 2015 at 7:32 am

    So, I read this article yesterday and decided to try it out immediately. I’ve been having these backup phone chargers that I have been trying to sell for months. I would advertise them on Facebook and get 2 or 3 orders. Sales were going so slow that I forgot about them and left them laying around in my closet.

    Yesterday I decided that I want to sell all of them in the space 4 days. I then visualised myself being surrounded by people pushing their money into my face, wanting to buy the chargers. My next step was to advertise on that same Facebook page that gave me mediocre results in the past. The response it got exceeded all my expectations and lo and behold, all the chargers sold out that same day 😀

    I feel like I should be giving you a cut lol.
    Thank you for this great article.

  8. Zach

    Jan 7, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    Great great article. Here’s a quick little story for you…

    In 2003, I was mad down on my luck. Lost everything to a house fire, flunked out of college and had littler $.45 to my name. Moved in with my now inlaws and came home from a dead end job to my now wife watching Oprah. Everyone was talking about this book that changed their life called “The Secret”. I bought, and thought it was a bunch of crock, but told myself – literally – what else do I have to lose.

    I chose to set a goal of an extra $100 in the next 2 weeks. That same day – THAT SAME DAY – my father inlaw asked if I could sell his old tool bench and if I did, I could keep the money. Do you know what it sold for the next week?

    $100. My life has never been the same since. I have a goal in life to have more people understand that focusing on what you want is WAY better than what you don’t.

    Again – great great article!

  9. Daria

    Jan 7, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    This was just what I needed to read today! I retired from teaching Visual Arts in June 2013 with the intent of finding a second career. The first year I did a lot of substituting, which was fine, but not very fulfilling. It did allow me to adjust some what to my retirement and sort through 37 years of teaching materials. Last January, a friend of mine suggested, if I wasn’t happy where I was living and doing, why not considered moving elsewhere? That has been my thought and focus ever since on a daily basis. It’s now 6 months until my lease is up and the count down is on!
    My plan is to move to Lexington, Kentucky to work for the university is some capacity. I receive daily housing and employment updates online and the house I love is my screen saver. Next step is creating a resume and applying. I’m excited and can’t wait! I know that my positive thoughts and visualizing are key.
    Thank you for such a well written article. It was meant for me!
    Daria

  10. hashim ca

    Jan 7, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    nice, it feels like we all are special

  11. Shane

    Jan 7, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Good article to remember. Really, I need no convincing, as this is stuff I’ve seen already. Most recently, for quite a while I’ve actively wanted a new jacket for work but couldn’t quite justify it. Then the company Christmas party. They drew my name for the $300 heated jacket. I like the structured approach you’ve outlined. Will remember this.

  12. Steve Reed

    Jan 6, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    Great article Laura

    The old adage that ‘thoughts become things’ seems to be true indeed 🙂

    One thing I have really learned in recent years, hacving struggled with all the fears you mention, is that in the end, setting lofty goals for the long term is awesome, but breaking that down into much smaller goals is where the gold is. 14 days, like you said, is a good starting place. And from there, I tend to work out the daily actions that I need to put in place to reach that mini goal.

    Then, I work out a simple trigger action that will get me doing those daily things. As an example. I am an author, had some bestsellers on Amazon, but the idea of writing 30K words in a month is kinda scary, although not hard to achieve.

    My trigger action, is packing my laptop in the morning and going to the car. That’s it. If that happens, I open the gate, drive into town, buy a pot of tea at my fave coffeeshop, and come home a couple of hours later with 2000 extra words written. Always. I forget the goal, I just concentrate on the trigger action, and the rest takes care of itself.

    I’d recommend this to anyone who struggles to reach their goals, and combined with your awesome tips, making progress is not as hard as it may appear.

    Thanks for a cool article, I learned a lot

    -S

    • CrazyMonkey

      Feb 3, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Great comment 🙂

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You Don’t Have To Listen To Every Bit Of Career Feedback. Some People Just Don’t Get You And That’s Fine!

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I recently got rejected from what I thought was a fantastic career opportunity. I was told that I was “Not entrepreneurial enough.”

Those that know me well know that it’s probably one of the few things I’m good at. Many of my mentors who I told this story to laughed out loud.

These three words were career feedback and I was always led to believe that to ignore this feedback would be ignorant and stupid.

I pondered that thought for a few days and then had a revelation: “I don’t have to listen to every bit of feedback I get.”

 

Pissed off is a natural first reaction.

That’s how I felt after someone told me I was crap at the very thing I love and have dedicated most of my time to. Our brain wants to be angry and fight back. Our first reaction, though, is often not what we should pay attention to.

“Empty space and time to reflect is how we process career feedback for what it really is: an opinion”

Don’t let your first reaction dominate how you think about the feedback. Maturity that can come at any age will show you to question everything – even your reaction.

 

Some people just don’t get you.

You’re not their type, they don’t like you, you speak a different language or you may have different values. Not everyone is going to get you and what you stand for and that’s okay. In my case, I didn’t connect.

Buying into the circus that is me is not for everyone. If you don’t like vulnerability or breaking comfort zones, then you probably won’t like me.

If you’re not obsessed with big goals, doing the impossible and trying to improve just a little bit every day, then you probably won’t like me.

That’s okay and I forgive you. I don’t have all the answers and I’m far from perfect – like the rest of us.

Learn to accept that some people will never get you and what you’re about.

That realization is how we overcome career feedback that we may not agree with.

 

Sometimes it’s any excuse. The real answer is something different.

Feedback can be disguised by the truth. The truth is maybe there was someone else the whole time and I never had a chance at this career opportunity. Maybe it wasn’t me at all.

Sometimes feedback is given because the real reason is much harder to deliver. It’s not easy to say “Tim, thanks but we hired someone else and you were never in the running.”

Admitting you never even had a chance is something many of us would never want to say. Being brutally honest takes courage, and courage is not everyone’s kind of kebab with garlic sauce on top, sprinkles and chili flakes.

 

We all get rejected.

I nearly forgot this fact. Everyone gets rejected. In fact, right now, someone is being rejected.

Rejection is not limited to you and me; learning to deal with it will only help us, not hinder our ability to achieve success in any field.

“We’ve all got 99 problems and thinking you’re special will only create more pointless thoughts that won’t serve you or your goals”

 

You’re responsible.

The thing about career feedback is that you have to take responsibility. Maybe in my case, I didn’t deliver the message of how obsessed and skilled I am at entrepreneurship. Maybe I could have done a better job at explaining my entrepreneurial background and passion.

It’s highly likely that I am entrepreneurial enough for this career opportunity and that it’s not a lack of skill at play here but a lack of effective communication.

“Responsibility always trumps the blame game and it helps us grow more as a person”

 

There’s always one lesson.

Mine was to develop more skills in strategy.

Let’s stop for one second: I hate the word strategy. The other career feedback I got was to do more strategy yet that’s not a skill of mine and I have no desire to do lots of that in my career.

The key here is that there’s always a lesson from all feedback and it might not be the intended lesson that the giver left you with.

There’s either a great lesson in the feedback or a reminder in the feedback of what you stand for. Don’t let any feedback compromise your values and who you are.

 

You are good enough.

You just have to believe in yourself and eventually, the right opportunity will find you.

Don’t give up your hopes and dreams because of one rejection. Interrupt the story in your head that plays on repeat and focuses on anger towards another person.

Replace that story with thoughts of how you can do better and get to the next opportunity.

Through rejection and bad career feedback, you find your way to what you’ve always wanted. That’s the hack and it works.

I’m off to suck up the rejection and take my own advice. Much respect.

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6 Important Lessons That Will Lead You to Success

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Failure is a part of life and it’s nothing to be ashamed of because the most highly successful people are the ones who have experienced failures the most in their life. The general public usually learns about people and their work when they become successful but only a handful of people know about the immense struggles that those people have gone through. Unfortunately, we do not have the stories of their failures to which we can relate our own setbacks and this is why we perceive failure to be a bad thing.

People are afraid of failure because, from a very young age, they are taught that making mistakes and being wrong is a bad thing so when a person suffers from a failure, it’s possible for that person to experience some form of depression. It is important for you to understand failure is a way for you to learn and move on from the experience. It is literally impossible to live life forever without failing at something, unless you live your life so carefully that you forget to live at all.

Here are 6 lessons that you should embrace that will change in your life:

1. Keep Your Expectations Low

When it comes to life, people often expect things like family, business, and marriage to be constant and consistent throughout the years. However, this is not the case because life is not that simple and there are always ups and downs which you need to confront.

Having low expectations is totally understandable and justifiable but having high expectations from relationships and businesses could prove to be harmful if those things don’t last forever. In addition to this, keeping your expectations low helps you accept whatever comes from the situation. High expectations tend to result in disappointment, pain, and loss, so it’s better for you to have low expectations, yet continue to work hard with what you are doing.

2. Acknowledge the Change

Most of the time, people think they may not experience change at all in their life because they are expecting things to last forever, but little do they know that change is always waiting to take place and can happen at any point in time. Acknowledging change means you’re fully aware of the situation and this will help when change occurs and you move from the stage of shock to acceptance.

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.” – Charles Darwin

3. Accept the Change

The acceptance of change can be difficult and you might resist it at first, but you need to understand the fact that accepting the change will help you make the necessary adjustments that you need in your life. Preventing and stopping the change from happening can prove to be disastrous for you because you are rejecting the fact that the situation has changed and are still living in the past.

Things turn out to be different from the way you expected them to be and this is completely  fine because you will be able to deal with the change more effectively by embracing the new situation.

4. Learn from Your Past

Once you accept the change and are ready to embrace it, it will start making sense and you will find lessons from which you can learn a lot. It is important to learn from your previous mistakes because learning and moving on eliminates the probability of you making those mistakes again in future.

5. Grow Stronger than Before

Accepting, embracing and learning from the change makes you stronger and better than you were in the past. The ability to learn from your past makes you a better person who is able to deal with the changes more easily and is able to move on without having any regrets in life. Moreover, this change will take away the fear of making new adjustments in life.

“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later.” – Bob Goff

6. Acknowledge the Wisdom and Embrace it

The more you permit change to happen in your life, the better you grow as an individual. Embracing the wisdom will bring new found energy and strength into your life with inner peace and calmness. Embracing the change proactively and accepting it as a part of your life will result in you being calmer and stronger than ever. Change is not your enemy but the greatest teacher from whom you will learn most of your life lessons.

It is worth mentioning that during the process of accepting change, you need to be brutally honest with yourself because most people are in denial and fail to realize the real reason behind the change. It is insane to repeat the same mistakes again and again with the expectations of a different result. So, if you do not learn from your mistakes, you are doomed to fail again.

Failure can find you again, but if the situation is different from the previous one, then it’s just another experience. You need to stand up after you fall since you cannot stop problems from occurring in your life. What you can do is handle them in a more strategic way.

Problems are a part of your journey, however, the important thing is to keep your eyes on the final destination. Once you reach your final destination, you will realize that all those problems you faced were totally worth the success.

Failure is the one who falls and never stands back up. When you stand back up and keep on trying to achieve what you want, you’re not a failure but a winner in life. So, never lose hope and always look for the positive side, even in the toughest of situations because this is what successful people do.

How do you embrace change and keep pushing forward in life? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Simple Ways to Supercharge Your Happiness

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With so many demands on our time, energy, wallet from work, family and friends, figuring out what makes you happy and going after it can be a challenge. If you don’t prioritize your happiness, nobody else will. These five simple hacks will help you supercharge your happiness so you can avoid burnout, overwhelm, and going to that second cousin twice removed’s barbeque just because you “should.”

1. Schedule plenty of YOU time into your week

Let’s face it, most of our lives revolve around other people. Work, friends, spouses and partners, family, etc., the majority of our day requires us to interact with other people and that can be really exhausting. It’s important to schedule at least an hour a day – and more if you can – of YOU time into your calendar to take care of yourself.

Doing things that you enjoy, whether that’s listening to a podcast, reading, or working out, and doing them alone allows you to reconnect to who you are and have something positive to look forward to every single day.

“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” – Ludwig Jacobowski

2. Make “no” the most important word in your vocabulary

Making other people happy is something that we all want. It feels good to help someone out or make their lives easier. The problem is that we often sacrifice our own well-being when we say “yes” too much, especially for opportunities, work, or interactions that don’t personally fulfill us.

So whether it’s with friends, co-workers, or colleagues, learning to say no not only increases your productivity, but also your quality of life. When you set clear boundaries for the things that you don’t want and won’t accept, it leaves more room for the people and experiences that do make you happy. And remember: You don’t owe anyone an explanation if you say no to them.

3. Create a “shake the day off” routine

Even the happiest people go through stressful periods. One of the biggest issues that leads to serial unhappiness, burnout, and chronic stress is not having a release to clear out the stress that’s built up over the course of the day.

So once you’ve closed your laptop or walked through the door, it’s important to have a routine that you do that helps you get everything you’ve been bottling up off your chest. Whether that’s playing loud music and ranting for 10 minutes, spending 20 minutes with a partner where you both get to talk about the stresses of the day, or just putting on your favorite playlist and dancing it out, it’s crucial to give your mind and your body the opportunity to let go of stress on a consistent basis.

Having a place to channel negative emotion at the end of the day will help you move through the emotions, honor them, and not dwell on them incessantly. And if you had an absolutely amazing day, flip your routine on its head – spend 10 minutes celebrating.

4. Do a closet purge

Our closets hold a lot of memories – good and bad, and they tend to be where we hoard a lot of emotional baggage, both metaphorically and literally. Go through your closet and find your favorite outfits that you wear currently, whether it’s sweatpants and a t-shirt or a really well-tailored outfit, that’s your starting point.

Everything in your closet and drawers should make you feel that amazing. So get rid of any clothes that are too big or too small, any emotionally-charged pieces of clothing (for example, if you’ve still got your wedding outfit after a divorce, donate it), or anything that doesn’t represent who you are.

Your style is an opportunity to make a statement about who you are and the clothes you wear should boost your mood. Even if you’re a minimalist, you should be proud of the quality of your pieces and how they fit.

“Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.” – Dale Carnegie

5. Get up close and personal with your bank account every day

Money doesn’t buy happiness, but it does give you options. So many people have a fear of money and they avoid it like the plague. Checking their bank balance is their least favorite to do, they hate paying bills, and they avoid opening mail or screen phone calls to make sure it’s not the bank.

Facing the reality of your money situation, whether it needs fixing or it’s great, will only help you improve it. You can also seek the advice of a financial planner at your bank to help you with this and create a plan to shift your situation. You might have more options available than you know.

Getting clear about the gap between your spending and your income can help push you to start looking for that job or new opportunity that you’ve been procrastinating on. Tracking your finances on a daily or weekly basis can help you come up with creative solutions to make more money and provide yourself with more options for financial freedom.

Maybe you’re paying for cable, Netflix, and Hulu, but it’d be more cost effective to just get Netflix and HBO Go because that’s all you ever watch anyways. You’ll never know where more options are hiding until you get up close and personal with the reality of your financial situation.

Comment below with the happiness-boosting tip that you’ll be implementing today!

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5 Goal-Setting Myths That Are Busted Once and for All

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Brian Tracy said it a long time ago “People with clear, written goals accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them can ever imagine.” Today, it’s scientifically proven that people with goals are more successful.  

Why? Because, setting goals will drive you to take action. Having clearly defined goals is like having a GPS System leading the way. But to be led, first you have to know where you want to go. And let’s be honest the vast majority of us don’t have even the slightest idea of where to start to make our dreams come true.

If you decide to join the 3% to 5% of people who set daily, weekly and quarterly goals, take it one step at a time and remain flexible, then over time, you can achieve things that you couldn’t even imagine before.

Lets start by busting 5 goal-setting myths:

1. Your goals have to be S.M.A.R.T.

Not true. It might be better to have smart goals, but simply having goals and writing them down already sets you apart from around 97% of people who don’t have them. My first goal which was starting my whole process about five years ago was to read more. Not a smart goal because it was not specific, measurable, or time-bound, but enough for a start. I went from not reading any books in five years to reading one book per week.

My five-year goal was “Write a book.” Again not a smart goal, but 4 1/2 years later I’m a bestselling author with more than 180,000 sales and downloads on Amazon, my books have been translated into Japanese, Korean, Spanish, German, Portuguese, Indonesian, etc. and I’m currently working on my seventh book. This is proof your goals don’t have to be SMART.

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” – Bill Copeland

2. You have to set realistic goals

What is realistic? If I had told people a couple of years ago: “In two years I’m going to be a bestselling author, I’m going to be on TV, radio, and my books will be read around the world”, chances are I’d rather have ended up in a madhouse than on the Amazon Bestseller list.

So it depends. If you tend to beat yourself up for not reaching your goals, then I would advise you to set smaller, more realistic goals. For example, if you set the goal of earning $100,000 USD a year and end up earning $97,000 USD and then beat yourself up feeling like a failure, I recommend you to set small, realistic goals.

If you are like me and always celebrate how far you have come even if you didn’t reach your goals, then set huge unrealistic goals. You want to earn $150,000 USD a year? Great, but if you only get to $50,000 USD in the first year, celebrate it. It’s better than $40,000. Analyze what went wrong, make a new plan and go for the $150,000 USD next year.

3. You have to reach all your goals

Actually, you don’t. I dare to bet that if you reach 50% of the goals you set, your life will be so much better, than not setting goals at all. Again, this depends on your personality. If you are a perfectionist, you might want to learn this kind of approach. In the last two years, I have only reached 40-50% of my goals, but it was by far the two best years of my life. I celebrated the goals I reached, and the goals I didn’t reach were discarded or turned into new goals for next year.

4. Reaching your goals will make you happier

Again, not true. Reaching your goals will not make you happier. It will only give you temporary highs before you go back to your base-level of happiness and set new goals. Goals properly understood will make you happier. It’s not the attaining of the goal that leads to happiness, it’s the having of the goal that leads to happiness. The role of your goals is to liberate us to enjoy the present.

If you go on a road trip and don’t know where to go or don’t have a destination, you are less likely to enjoy the present moment because every minute you have to look around. Every crossroads or turn you reach becomes an important decision. This is stressful. If you know where you are going, you have a sense of direction. You will feel liberated.

You are much more likely to enjoy the process, the environment, the landscape or the proverbial “flowers on the side of the way.” Not only that, if you have a clear sense of direction, you are much more likely to be happy. We need a goal for future orientation so that we can enjoy the present more

5. Having goals will make your more successful

Although science has shown that people who set goals are generally more successful, because they are more focused, having goals will not make you more successful. Many have people have goals and dreams and never reach them. They might even have written them down and try to use the “Law of Attraction” to reach their goals.

There is only one problem, nobody reaches their goals sitting on the sofa and imagining good things to happen. The most important ingredient is missing: TAKING ACTION. Having goals and working your butt off to reach them will make you more successful.

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” – Tony Robbins

I meet many people that have no goals and are happy. That’s totally okay. There is a time for everything. If you don’t have goals and are happy…keep on not having goals. No need to change what’s working, you will know when the time comes. Just listen very closely to the “I don’t need goals. I’m happy without goals” voice because comfort and fear talk the same talk.

Keep in mind that if you want to have an even better life, go set some goals, write them down and start working on them. It will be worth it.

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You Don’t Have To Listen To Every Bit Of Career Feedback. Some People Just Don’t Get You And That’s Fine!

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I recently got rejected from what I thought was a fantastic career opportunity. I was told that I was “Not entrepreneurial enough.”

Those that know me well know that it’s probably one of the few things I’m good at. Many of my mentors who I told this story to laughed out loud.

These three words were career feedback and I was always led to believe that to ignore this feedback would be ignorant and stupid.

I pondered that thought for a few days and then had a revelation: “I don’t have to listen to every bit of feedback I get.”

 

Pissed off is a natural first reaction.

That’s how I felt after someone told me I was crap at the very thing I love and have dedicated most of my time to. Our brain wants to be angry and fight back. Our first reaction, though, is often not what we should pay attention to.

“Empty space and time to reflect is how we process career feedback for what it really is: an opinion”

Don’t let your first reaction dominate how you think about the feedback. Maturity that can come at any age will show you to question everything – even your reaction.

 

Some people just don’t get you.

You’re not their type, they don’t like you, you speak a different language or you may have different values. Not everyone is going to get you and what you stand for and that’s okay. In my case, I didn’t connect.

Buying into the circus that is me is not for everyone. If you don’t like vulnerability or breaking comfort zones, then you probably won’t like me.

If you’re not obsessed with big goals, doing the impossible and trying to improve just a little bit every day, then you probably won’t like me.

That’s okay and I forgive you. I don’t have all the answers and I’m far from perfect – like the rest of us.

Learn to accept that some people will never get you and what you’re about.

That realization is how we overcome career feedback that we may not agree with.

 

Sometimes it’s any excuse. The real answer is something different.

Feedback can be disguised by the truth. The truth is maybe there was someone else the whole time and I never had a chance at this career opportunity. Maybe it wasn’t me at all.

Sometimes feedback is given because the real reason is much harder to deliver. It’s not easy to say “Tim, thanks but we hired someone else and you were never in the running.”

Admitting you never even had a chance is something many of us would never want to say. Being brutally honest takes courage, and courage is not everyone’s kind of kebab with garlic sauce on top, sprinkles and chili flakes.

 

We all get rejected.

I nearly forgot this fact. Everyone gets rejected. In fact, right now, someone is being rejected.

Rejection is not limited to you and me; learning to deal with it will only help us, not hinder our ability to achieve success in any field.

“We’ve all got 99 problems and thinking you’re special will only create more pointless thoughts that won’t serve you or your goals”

 

You’re responsible.

The thing about career feedback is that you have to take responsibility. Maybe in my case, I didn’t deliver the message of how obsessed and skilled I am at entrepreneurship. Maybe I could have done a better job at explaining my entrepreneurial background and passion.

It’s highly likely that I am entrepreneurial enough for this career opportunity and that it’s not a lack of skill at play here but a lack of effective communication.

“Responsibility always trumps the blame game and it helps us grow more as a person”

 

There’s always one lesson.

Mine was to develop more skills in strategy.

Let’s stop for one second: I hate the word strategy. The other career feedback I got was to do more strategy yet that’s not a skill of mine and I have no desire to do lots of that in my career.

The key here is that there’s always a lesson from all feedback and it might not be the intended lesson that the giver left you with.

There’s either a great lesson in the feedback or a reminder in the feedback of what you stand for. Don’t let any feedback compromise your values and who you are.

 

You are good enough.

You just have to believe in yourself and eventually, the right opportunity will find you.

Don’t give up your hopes and dreams because of one rejection. Interrupt the story in your head that plays on repeat and focuses on anger towards another person.

Replace that story with thoughts of how you can do better and get to the next opportunity.

Through rejection and bad career feedback, you find your way to what you’ve always wanted. That’s the hack and it works.

I’m off to suck up the rejection and take my own advice. Much respect.

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  1. Eric

    Mar 22, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    I am currently doing exactly what you are writing about. I am finally bringing forward an idea to reality after marinating on it for nearly 10-years. The biggest hurdle was expertise, but now the net allows collaboration with expertise in every field at low cost and ta da….my idea is emerging before my eyes. Watching a thought manifest into reality is almost indescribable! Great blog today!

  2. CrazyMonkey

    Feb 3, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    This is a great article. I have seen the steps laid out in the experiment many times in my previous readings. However, what I struggle with are two things:

    1) FEAR – I guess as humans, you can never get rid of fear. However, you can overcome it, but how?? I struggle with the general mentality of being fearless.

    2) Step #4 mentioned setting an intention. Is that enough? For exmple, for the longest time now, I have been wanted a brand new BMW M3. I am certainly making enough money to accomplish this dream. But, I can’t seem to convince myself that I deserve it. How to come over this?

  3. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 29, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Very enlightening and thought provoking.
    I have just retired and now I am in my own business. I am going to apply it. Although it might not be easy but I will try to control because I am determined to do.

    Thanks a lot !

    Laura Clarke

  4. Imran Soudagar

    Jan 26, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Thanks for the awesome article, the biggest problem most people face in their life is making decisions. I have seen people struggle with that and they get totally confused when there are more than 2 choices. It takes time to master this technique. But not impossible.

  5. Ganesh

    Jan 19, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    Trust me for a moment. I have a great story to inspire you all. Months ago during mid September 2014 I started reading a book ” think and grow rich”. In between somewhere 50th to 52nd page I was so excited about the thought of desire, emotions, faith, to achieve any goal, that I stopped reading where it was and concentrated on the wall mounted fan in front of me. Just to instantly test the theory in the book I wished with all my emotions and faith to turn the fan ON on its own. My time frame was 10 min but it didn’t work. I was bit depressed but was still hoping for a miracle to happen. For next half hour there was no sign. After that I felt asleep. To my greatest surprise in life around 5 am in morning I started feeling cold so searched for blanket around in my sleep and then I realized that the fan was on. This incident shocked me with ultimate faith in the book. This might seem to many of you a coincidence or a lie but the door of my room was locked in and I don’t have any past experience of getting up in my sleep.

  6. Tom Phillips

    Jan 15, 2015 at 11:41 am

    Hey Laura,

    Brilliant post! Really breaks it down and is very understandable.

    I had the same issue as Steve above, great comment also, with fear. Once you overcome your fear, break your goals down into easy to achieve chunks and start to focus solely on the feeling of already achieving that goal, things start to happen much quicker than you think!

    Keep up the good work 🙂

  7. Asino

    Jan 11, 2015 at 7:32 am

    So, I read this article yesterday and decided to try it out immediately. I’ve been having these backup phone chargers that I have been trying to sell for months. I would advertise them on Facebook and get 2 or 3 orders. Sales were going so slow that I forgot about them and left them laying around in my closet.

    Yesterday I decided that I want to sell all of them in the space 4 days. I then visualised myself being surrounded by people pushing their money into my face, wanting to buy the chargers. My next step was to advertise on that same Facebook page that gave me mediocre results in the past. The response it got exceeded all my expectations and lo and behold, all the chargers sold out that same day 😀

    I feel like I should be giving you a cut lol.
    Thank you for this great article.

  8. Zach

    Jan 7, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    Great great article. Here’s a quick little story for you…

    In 2003, I was mad down on my luck. Lost everything to a house fire, flunked out of college and had littler $.45 to my name. Moved in with my now inlaws and came home from a dead end job to my now wife watching Oprah. Everyone was talking about this book that changed their life called “The Secret”. I bought, and thought it was a bunch of crock, but told myself – literally – what else do I have to lose.

    I chose to set a goal of an extra $100 in the next 2 weeks. That same day – THAT SAME DAY – my father inlaw asked if I could sell his old tool bench and if I did, I could keep the money. Do you know what it sold for the next week?

    $100. My life has never been the same since. I have a goal in life to have more people understand that focusing on what you want is WAY better than what you don’t.

    Again – great great article!

  9. Daria

    Jan 7, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    This was just what I needed to read today! I retired from teaching Visual Arts in June 2013 with the intent of finding a second career. The first year I did a lot of substituting, which was fine, but not very fulfilling. It did allow me to adjust some what to my retirement and sort through 37 years of teaching materials. Last January, a friend of mine suggested, if I wasn’t happy where I was living and doing, why not considered moving elsewhere? That has been my thought and focus ever since on a daily basis. It’s now 6 months until my lease is up and the count down is on!
    My plan is to move to Lexington, Kentucky to work for the university is some capacity. I receive daily housing and employment updates online and the house I love is my screen saver. Next step is creating a resume and applying. I’m excited and can’t wait! I know that my positive thoughts and visualizing are key.
    Thank you for such a well written article. It was meant for me!
    Daria

  10. hashim ca

    Jan 7, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    nice, it feels like we all are special

  11. Shane

    Jan 7, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Good article to remember. Really, I need no convincing, as this is stuff I’ve seen already. Most recently, for quite a while I’ve actively wanted a new jacket for work but couldn’t quite justify it. Then the company Christmas party. They drew my name for the $300 heated jacket. I like the structured approach you’ve outlined. Will remember this.

  12. Steve Reed

    Jan 6, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    Great article Laura

    The old adage that ‘thoughts become things’ seems to be true indeed 🙂

    One thing I have really learned in recent years, hacving struggled with all the fears you mention, is that in the end, setting lofty goals for the long term is awesome, but breaking that down into much smaller goals is where the gold is. 14 days, like you said, is a good starting place. And from there, I tend to work out the daily actions that I need to put in place to reach that mini goal.

    Then, I work out a simple trigger action that will get me doing those daily things. As an example. I am an author, had some bestsellers on Amazon, but the idea of writing 30K words in a month is kinda scary, although not hard to achieve.

    My trigger action, is packing my laptop in the morning and going to the car. That’s it. If that happens, I open the gate, drive into town, buy a pot of tea at my fave coffeeshop, and come home a couple of hours later with 2000 extra words written. Always. I forget the goal, I just concentrate on the trigger action, and the rest takes care of itself.

    I’d recommend this to anyone who struggles to reach their goals, and combined with your awesome tips, making progress is not as hard as it may appear.

    Thanks for a cool article, I learned a lot

    -S

    • CrazyMonkey

      Feb 3, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Great comment 🙂

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You Don’t Have To Listen To Every Bit Of Career Feedback. Some People Just Don’t Get You And That’s Fine!

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I recently got rejected from what I thought was a fantastic career opportunity. I was told that I was “Not entrepreneurial enough.”

Those that know me well know that it’s probably one of the few things I’m good at. Many of my mentors who I told this story to laughed out loud.

These three words were career feedback and I was always led to believe that to ignore this feedback would be ignorant and stupid.

I pondered that thought for a few days and then had a revelation: “I don’t have to listen to every bit of feedback I get.”

 

Pissed off is a natural first reaction.

That’s how I felt after someone told me I was crap at the very thing I love and have dedicated most of my time to. Our brain wants to be angry and fight back. Our first reaction, though, is often not what we should pay attention to.

“Empty space and time to reflect is how we process career feedback for what it really is: an opinion”

Don’t let your first reaction dominate how you think about the feedback. Maturity that can come at any age will show you to question everything – even your reaction.

 

Some people just don’t get you.

You’re not their type, they don’t like you, you speak a different language or you may have different values. Not everyone is going to get you and what you stand for and that’s okay. In my case, I didn’t connect.

Buying into the circus that is me is not for everyone. If you don’t like vulnerability or breaking comfort zones, then you probably won’t like me.

If you’re not obsessed with big goals, doing the impossible and trying to improve just a little bit every day, then you probably won’t like me.

That’s okay and I forgive you. I don’t have all the answers and I’m far from perfect – like the rest of us.

Learn to accept that some people will never get you and what you’re about.

That realization is how we overcome career feedback that we may not agree with.

 

Sometimes it’s any excuse. The real answer is something different.

Feedback can be disguised by the truth. The truth is maybe there was someone else the whole time and I never had a chance at this career opportunity. Maybe it wasn’t me at all.

Sometimes feedback is given because the real reason is much harder to deliver. It’s not easy to say “Tim, thanks but we hired someone else and you were never in the running.”

Admitting you never even had a chance is something many of us would never want to say. Being brutally honest takes courage, and courage is not everyone’s kind of kebab with garlic sauce on top, sprinkles and chili flakes.

 

We all get rejected.

I nearly forgot this fact. Everyone gets rejected. In fact, right now, someone is being rejected.

Rejection is not limited to you and me; learning to deal with it will only help us, not hinder our ability to achieve success in any field.

“We’ve all got 99 problems and thinking you’re special will only create more pointless thoughts that won’t serve you or your goals”

 

You’re responsible.

The thing about career feedback is that you have to take responsibility. Maybe in my case, I didn’t deliver the message of how obsessed and skilled I am at entrepreneurship. Maybe I could have done a better job at explaining my entrepreneurial background and passion.

It’s highly likely that I am entrepreneurial enough for this career opportunity and that it’s not a lack of skill at play here but a lack of effective communication.

“Responsibility always trumps the blame game and it helps us grow more as a person”

 

There’s always one lesson.

Mine was to develop more skills in strategy.

Let’s stop for one second: I hate the word strategy. The other career feedback I got was to do more strategy yet that’s not a skill of mine and I have no desire to do lots of that in my career.

The key here is that there’s always a lesson from all feedback and it might not be the intended lesson that the giver left you with.

There’s either a great lesson in the feedback or a reminder in the feedback of what you stand for. Don’t let any feedback compromise your values and who you are.

 

You are good enough.

You just have to believe in yourself and eventually, the right opportunity will find you.

Don’t give up your hopes and dreams because of one rejection. Interrupt the story in your head that plays on repeat and focuses on anger towards another person.

Replace that story with thoughts of how you can do better and get to the next opportunity.

Through rejection and bad career feedback, you find your way to what you’ve always wanted. That’s the hack and it works.

I’m off to suck up the rejection and take my own advice. Much respect.

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6 Important Lessons That Will Lead You to Success

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Failure is a part of life and it’s nothing to be ashamed of because the most highly successful people are the ones who have experienced failures the most in their life. The general public usually learns about people and their work when they become successful but only a handful of people know about the immense struggles that those people have gone through. Unfortunately, we do not have the stories of their failures to which we can relate our own setbacks and this is why we perceive failure to be a bad thing.

People are afraid of failure because, from a very young age, they are taught that making mistakes and being wrong is a bad thing so when a person suffers from a failure, it’s possible for that person to experience some form of depression. It is important for you to understand failure is a way for you to learn and move on from the experience. It is literally impossible to live life forever without failing at something, unless you live your life so carefully that you forget to live at all.

Here are 6 lessons that you should embrace that will change in your life:

1. Keep Your Expectations Low

When it comes to life, people often expect things like family, business, and marriage to be constant and consistent throughout the years. However, this is not the case because life is not that simple and there are always ups and downs which you need to confront.

Having low expectations is totally understandable and justifiable but having high expectations from relationships and businesses could prove to be harmful if those things don’t last forever. In addition to this, keeping your expectations low helps you accept whatever comes from the situation. High expectations tend to result in disappointment, pain, and loss, so it’s better for you to have low expectations, yet continue to work hard with what you are doing.

2. Acknowledge the Change

Most of the time, people think they may not experience change at all in their life because they are expecting things to last forever, but little do they know that change is always waiting to take place and can happen at any point in time. Acknowledging change means you’re fully aware of the situation and this will help when change occurs and you move from the stage of shock to acceptance.

“It is not the strongest or the most intelligent who will survive but those who can best manage change.” – Charles Darwin

3. Accept the Change

The acceptance of change can be difficult and you might resist it at first, but you need to understand the fact that accepting the change will help you make the necessary adjustments that you need in your life. Preventing and stopping the change from happening can prove to be disastrous for you because you are rejecting the fact that the situation has changed and are still living in the past.

Things turn out to be different from the way you expected them to be and this is completely  fine because you will be able to deal with the change more effectively by embracing the new situation.

4. Learn from Your Past

Once you accept the change and are ready to embrace it, it will start making sense and you will find lessons from which you can learn a lot. It is important to learn from your previous mistakes because learning and moving on eliminates the probability of you making those mistakes again in future.

5. Grow Stronger than Before

Accepting, embracing and learning from the change makes you stronger and better than you were in the past. The ability to learn from your past makes you a better person who is able to deal with the changes more easily and is able to move on without having any regrets in life. Moreover, this change will take away the fear of making new adjustments in life.

“Embrace uncertainty. Some of the most beautiful chapters in our lives won’t have a title until much later.” – Bob Goff

6. Acknowledge the Wisdom and Embrace it

The more you permit change to happen in your life, the better you grow as an individual. Embracing the wisdom will bring new found energy and strength into your life with inner peace and calmness. Embracing the change proactively and accepting it as a part of your life will result in you being calmer and stronger than ever. Change is not your enemy but the greatest teacher from whom you will learn most of your life lessons.

It is worth mentioning that during the process of accepting change, you need to be brutally honest with yourself because most people are in denial and fail to realize the real reason behind the change. It is insane to repeat the same mistakes again and again with the expectations of a different result. So, if you do not learn from your mistakes, you are doomed to fail again.

Failure can find you again, but if the situation is different from the previous one, then it’s just another experience. You need to stand up after you fall since you cannot stop problems from occurring in your life. What you can do is handle them in a more strategic way.

Problems are a part of your journey, however, the important thing is to keep your eyes on the final destination. Once you reach your final destination, you will realize that all those problems you faced were totally worth the success.

Failure is the one who falls and never stands back up. When you stand back up and keep on trying to achieve what you want, you’re not a failure but a winner in life. So, never lose hope and always look for the positive side, even in the toughest of situations because this is what successful people do.

How do you embrace change and keep pushing forward in life? Let us know in the comments below!

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5 Simple Ways to Supercharge Your Happiness

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With so many demands on our time, energy, wallet from work, family and friends, figuring out what makes you happy and going after it can be a challenge. If you don’t prioritize your happiness, nobody else will. These five simple hacks will help you supercharge your happiness so you can avoid burnout, overwhelm, and going to that second cousin twice removed’s barbeque just because you “should.”

1. Schedule plenty of YOU time into your week

Let’s face it, most of our lives revolve around other people. Work, friends, spouses and partners, family, etc., the majority of our day requires us to interact with other people and that can be really exhausting. It’s important to schedule at least an hour a day – and more if you can – of YOU time into your calendar to take care of yourself.

Doing things that you enjoy, whether that’s listening to a podcast, reading, or working out, and doing them alone allows you to reconnect to who you are and have something positive to look forward to every single day.

“Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” – Ludwig Jacobowski

2. Make “no” the most important word in your vocabulary

Making other people happy is something that we all want. It feels good to help someone out or make their lives easier. The problem is that we often sacrifice our own well-being when we say “yes” too much, especially for opportunities, work, or interactions that don’t personally fulfill us.

So whether it’s with friends, co-workers, or colleagues, learning to say no not only increases your productivity, but also your quality of life. When you set clear boundaries for the things that you don’t want and won’t accept, it leaves more room for the people and experiences that do make you happy. And remember: You don’t owe anyone an explanation if you say no to them.

3. Create a “shake the day off” routine

Even the happiest people go through stressful periods. One of the biggest issues that leads to serial unhappiness, burnout, and chronic stress is not having a release to clear out the stress that’s built up over the course of the day.

So once you’ve closed your laptop or walked through the door, it’s important to have a routine that you do that helps you get everything you’ve been bottling up off your chest. Whether that’s playing loud music and ranting for 10 minutes, spending 20 minutes with a partner where you both get to talk about the stresses of the day, or just putting on your favorite playlist and dancing it out, it’s crucial to give your mind and your body the opportunity to let go of stress on a consistent basis.

Having a place to channel negative emotion at the end of the day will help you move through the emotions, honor them, and not dwell on them incessantly. And if you had an absolutely amazing day, flip your routine on its head – spend 10 minutes celebrating.

4. Do a closet purge

Our closets hold a lot of memories – good and bad, and they tend to be where we hoard a lot of emotional baggage, both metaphorically and literally. Go through your closet and find your favorite outfits that you wear currently, whether it’s sweatpants and a t-shirt or a really well-tailored outfit, that’s your starting point.

Everything in your closet and drawers should make you feel that amazing. So get rid of any clothes that are too big or too small, any emotionally-charged pieces of clothing (for example, if you’ve still got your wedding outfit after a divorce, donate it), or anything that doesn’t represent who you are.

Your style is an opportunity to make a statement about who you are and the clothes you wear should boost your mood. Even if you’re a minimalist, you should be proud of the quality of your pieces and how they fit.

“Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get.” – Dale Carnegie

5. Get up close and personal with your bank account every day

Money doesn’t buy happiness, but it does give you options. So many people have a fear of money and they avoid it like the plague. Checking their bank balance is their least favorite to do, they hate paying bills, and they avoid opening mail or screen phone calls to make sure it’s not the bank.

Facing the reality of your money situation, whether it needs fixing or it’s great, will only help you improve it. You can also seek the advice of a financial planner at your bank to help you with this and create a plan to shift your situation. You might have more options available than you know.

Getting clear about the gap between your spending and your income can help push you to start looking for that job or new opportunity that you’ve been procrastinating on. Tracking your finances on a daily or weekly basis can help you come up with creative solutions to make more money and provide yourself with more options for financial freedom.

Maybe you’re paying for cable, Netflix, and Hulu, but it’d be more cost effective to just get Netflix and HBO Go because that’s all you ever watch anyways. You’ll never know where more options are hiding until you get up close and personal with the reality of your financial situation.

Comment below with the happiness-boosting tip that you’ll be implementing today!

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5 Goal-Setting Myths That Are Busted Once and for All

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Brian Tracy said it a long time ago “People with clear, written goals accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them can ever imagine.” Today, it’s scientifically proven that people with goals are more successful.  

Why? Because, setting goals will drive you to take action. Having clearly defined goals is like having a GPS System leading the way. But to be led, first you have to know where you want to go. And let’s be honest the vast majority of us don’t have even the slightest idea of where to start to make our dreams come true.

If you decide to join the 3% to 5% of people who set daily, weekly and quarterly goals, take it one step at a time and remain flexible, then over time, you can achieve things that you couldn’t even imagine before.

Lets start by busting 5 goal-setting myths:

1. Your goals have to be S.M.A.R.T.

Not true. It might be better to have smart goals, but simply having goals and writing them down already sets you apart from around 97% of people who don’t have them. My first goal which was starting my whole process about five years ago was to read more. Not a smart goal because it was not specific, measurable, or time-bound, but enough for a start. I went from not reading any books in five years to reading one book per week.

My five-year goal was “Write a book.” Again not a smart goal, but 4 1/2 years later I’m a bestselling author with more than 180,000 sales and downloads on Amazon, my books have been translated into Japanese, Korean, Spanish, German, Portuguese, Indonesian, etc. and I’m currently working on my seventh book. This is proof your goals don’t have to be SMART.

“The trouble with not having a goal is that you can spend your life running up and down the field and never score.” – Bill Copeland

2. You have to set realistic goals

What is realistic? If I had told people a couple of years ago: “In two years I’m going to be a bestselling author, I’m going to be on TV, radio, and my books will be read around the world”, chances are I’d rather have ended up in a madhouse than on the Amazon Bestseller list.

So it depends. If you tend to beat yourself up for not reaching your goals, then I would advise you to set smaller, more realistic goals. For example, if you set the goal of earning $100,000 USD a year and end up earning $97,000 USD and then beat yourself up feeling like a failure, I recommend you to set small, realistic goals.

If you are like me and always celebrate how far you have come even if you didn’t reach your goals, then set huge unrealistic goals. You want to earn $150,000 USD a year? Great, but if you only get to $50,000 USD in the first year, celebrate it. It’s better than $40,000. Analyze what went wrong, make a new plan and go for the $150,000 USD next year.

3. You have to reach all your goals

Actually, you don’t. I dare to bet that if you reach 50% of the goals you set, your life will be so much better, than not setting goals at all. Again, this depends on your personality. If you are a perfectionist, you might want to learn this kind of approach. In the last two years, I have only reached 40-50% of my goals, but it was by far the two best years of my life. I celebrated the goals I reached, and the goals I didn’t reach were discarded or turned into new goals for next year.

4. Reaching your goals will make you happier

Again, not true. Reaching your goals will not make you happier. It will only give you temporary highs before you go back to your base-level of happiness and set new goals. Goals properly understood will make you happier. It’s not the attaining of the goal that leads to happiness, it’s the having of the goal that leads to happiness. The role of your goals is to liberate us to enjoy the present.

If you go on a road trip and don’t know where to go or don’t have a destination, you are less likely to enjoy the present moment because every minute you have to look around. Every crossroads or turn you reach becomes an important decision. This is stressful. If you know where you are going, you have a sense of direction. You will feel liberated.

You are much more likely to enjoy the process, the environment, the landscape or the proverbial “flowers on the side of the way.” Not only that, if you have a clear sense of direction, you are much more likely to be happy. We need a goal for future orientation so that we can enjoy the present more

5. Having goals will make your more successful

Although science has shown that people who set goals are generally more successful, because they are more focused, having goals will not make you more successful. Many have people have goals and dreams and never reach them. They might even have written them down and try to use the “Law of Attraction” to reach their goals.

There is only one problem, nobody reaches their goals sitting on the sofa and imagining good things to happen. The most important ingredient is missing: TAKING ACTION. Having goals and working your butt off to reach them will make you more successful.

“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.” – Tony Robbins

I meet many people that have no goals and are happy. That’s totally okay. There is a time for everything. If you don’t have goals and are happy…keep on not having goals. No need to change what’s working, you will know when the time comes. Just listen very closely to the “I don’t need goals. I’m happy without goals” voice because comfort and fear talk the same talk.

Keep in mind that if you want to have an even better life, go set some goals, write them down and start working on them. It will be worth it.

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