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How to Turn Your Thoughts Into Amazing Results

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Thinking Ideas Thoughts and Intentions Into Success

Being a mover and shaker, you’re always on the lookout for that one thing that can give you the edge.

Whether it’s the power-protein you mix into your coffee in the morning, or the way you optimize your inbox… you probably don’t care about the theory behind it….

You want to know what works!

Right?

I’ve worked with hundreds of grounded business owners and aspiring entrepreneurs and the thing I’ve noticed consistently is their ability to get results.

Real results.

Tangible, kick-ass, bottom line results.

And the thing that holds people back from creating the results they really want, and deserve, is the nagging doubt that they might not succeed.

Perhaps you’ve felt this way?

Maybe you’ve found yourself taking one step forward and two steps back, trying to will yourself to be positive. To have faith. To just work harder and maybe, just maybe, success will be yours.

Hoping. Dreaming. And trying desperately to not let those nay-sayers be right.

And if this is you – you’re not alone.

What I’ve noticed in working with hundreds of entrepreneurs over the years is that the folks who finally reach their goals, and get the awe-inspiring results are the ones who have taken time to master their thought.

Sounds glib?

I can assure you, that this is the foundation of every great person who has ever achieved anything. Total mastery of thoughts… Because your thoughts literally do create the world you experience.

And the secret is to focus on the outcome. (You can read more on how to do this here.)

The outcome you hold in your mind, really does create your physical world!

But what I find is that when folks first hear about this concept, they’re a little sceptical.

How can thinking about increasing my profit actually make more people buy my product?” they often scoff.

And I get it.

I used to wonder the exact same thing.

And until you’ve experienced it and proven it out for yourself, it does seem a little out there!

 

But What If You Could Prove It To Yourself?

What if it were possible to run a simple experiment that is going to help you master the process, and prove to yourself that your efforts are paying off.

Wouldn’t that be awesome?

Well, I don’t tease 😉

There is indeed a way.

And it’s easier than you think.

Not only that, but once you have your own data to back up the model you’ll discover a number of additional benefits:

1. You’ll no longer need to waste energy and focus questioning if it works

You get to by-pass understanding the mechanics like a black-box component in a software design.

You can just take it as a given and use it is.

 

2. You’ll be much more confident in taking on new, bigger projects

If your thoughts create your outcome, you don’t need to worry about the ins and outs of the project. You can simply focus your attention on what you want to create, and let the details and “obstacles” take care of themselves.

It takes some practice and training to get to this level of confidence, but you just need to start small and then build up to the big fat hairy audacious goals!

 

4. You’ll become MAGNETIC to people

You will walk and talk with tonnes more confidence. This makes you much more attractive to the people around you.

Remember the saying “success breeds success”? You will definitely be able to ride the momentum of your new found strategy that works for anything!

 

5. You’ll be less fearful

Often, the thing that causes the most stress for go-getter is the fear of failure… in one form or another. If you know you can’t fail, and your focus is on your goal you will naturally experience much less stress and anxiety.

Plus, it’s actually a healthier way to live!

Once you’ve conducted your own experiments, you’ll no longer be trapped in an oscillation between hoping and doubting.

Some folks swing from one extreme to the other… willing themselves to believe it works, and then advocating that it’s silly and definitely doesn’t.

But not you.

Not now.

Because you’re going to put in a little effort now, for massive rewards you can keep reaping down the line.

 

The Proof Is In The Pudding

So how then do we go about testing this out and proving to ourselves that this is worth doing?

Well, we need to pick a variable and track a result that is relevant to our hypothesis… just like in any scientific experiment.

 

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So here’s what you do:

1. Make a list of a few simple outcomes you’d like to achieve

I suggest picking simple ones, which don’t require much time to create, just for the purpose of proving the concept. This way you can get through a number of experiments in less than 14 days, rather than waiting years and forgetting about it along the way.

 

2. Select the first outcome to work on

This could be something as simple as attracting a free cup of coffee, finding a parking space where you normally struggle, or having your bills reduced. Make sure also that you can track it. It’s no good setting an intention to have something happen and you not know whether it happened or not… So if you’re looking for a reduction in your household bills, you need to know what you’re paying right now. Makes sense, right?

 

3. Ok, then you need to note down the goal, the date and how long you’re going to run your experiment for

This way you know that the effect is a result of your intention and you can’t put it down to fluke. So for example you could say “I allow myself to attract a free cup of coffee by noon today”… or whatever seems like a good time frame, given that you may work from home, and not venture out into the world necessarily.

 

4. Next lay the intention by thinking the thought and visualising, or whatever technique you use

If you’re new to this you may want to refer to “How to Think to Get What You Want”.

 

5. Then you want to track your results

I like to set a reminder on my phone to check in with the goal. So when the time has passed you just notice whether the outcome happened, and then you mark down the result in your experimenters’ journal.

And then you move onto the next experiment. 😉

 

Here’s what you’ll likely find:

Not every single outcome will manifest within your time frame. You’re new to this, and you’re just getting used to the process and the experiment.

That’s ok.

Keep going, and see what happens.

You may find that something like 7 out of 10 goals are achieved… consistently.

If this is the case then this is awesome. Can you imagine 7 out of every 10 intentions you set coming into your reality, consistently? Most traders on the stock market would be very happy with that result. You just need to keep focussing on things that bring you more of what you want.

This is a brilliant process to go through, because it attunes you to what you want, rather than what you don’t want.

The reason most people fail with achieving their goals is simply because they don’t focus on having their chosen outcome… they focus on NOT having it. I.e. on worrying about it. This systematic approach keeps you working on what you want… which is a great shift to make.

And over time, you will build up enough evidence to know without any doubt that the most reliable way to get an outcome is to set and intention and focus your energy on the outcome you want. The more you practice, the more certain you will become, and consequently, the more successful you will get at this approach.

 

Your Experiment Can Begin Right Now!

So there you have it.

Believe me, it’s a skill worth mastering.

After all – it doesn’t just apply to finding parking spaces or being given cups of coffee.

Far from it…

I’ve used it to win competitions, land a book deal, find the perfect Porsche for my budget and style – with no effort or research. I’ve used it to build a six figure income from nothing, been given shares to a company just months before they’ve hit the big time, been given otherwise expensive advice for the price of a glass of wine, and created the most amazing experiences and relationships with awesome people around the world.

It all begins by believing that you are the creator of everything that happens in your world…

And then DARING to choose the good things! (ReTweet This)

The things you really want, rather than struggle and hard work.

And this begins not by taking my word for it – but testing this out for yourself in a series of experiments over the next 14 days.

You can get going right now…

 

Go ahead and write in the comments below, what your first experiment is going to be…

And as always, I’m here to help, and I read every comment and email.

To Your Inevitable Success!

Laura Leigh Clarke

Laura Leigh Clarke is the unorthodox Business Coach, Recovering Quantum Physicist, Founder of ProsperityQM, Geek and a die-hard Doctor Who fan. She also helps people clear their money blocks and limiting beliefs so they can manifest the life and business they really want. Download Your Tool Kit for Making a Quantum Shift in Your Business, and watch your results explode!

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13 Comments

  1. Eric

    Mar 22, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    I am currently doing exactly what you are writing about. I am finally bringing forward an idea to reality after marinating on it for nearly 10-years. The biggest hurdle was expertise, but now the net allows collaboration with expertise in every field at low cost and ta da….my idea is emerging before my eyes. Watching a thought manifest into reality is almost indescribable! Great blog today!

  2. CrazyMonkey

    Feb 3, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    This is a great article. I have seen the steps laid out in the experiment many times in my previous readings. However, what I struggle with are two things:

    1) FEAR – I guess as humans, you can never get rid of fear. However, you can overcome it, but how?? I struggle with the general mentality of being fearless.

    2) Step #4 mentioned setting an intention. Is that enough? For exmple, for the longest time now, I have been wanted a brand new BMW M3. I am certainly making enough money to accomplish this dream. But, I can’t seem to convince myself that I deserve it. How to come over this?

  3. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 29, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Very enlightening and thought provoking.
    I have just retired and now I am in my own business. I am going to apply it. Although it might not be easy but I will try to control because I am determined to do.

    Thanks a lot !

    Laura Clarke

  4. Imran Soudagar

    Jan 26, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Thanks for the awesome article, the biggest problem most people face in their life is making decisions. I have seen people struggle with that and they get totally confused when there are more than 2 choices. It takes time to master this technique. But not impossible.

  5. Ganesh

    Jan 19, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    Trust me for a moment. I have a great story to inspire you all. Months ago during mid September 2014 I started reading a book ” think and grow rich”. In between somewhere 50th to 52nd page I was so excited about the thought of desire, emotions, faith, to achieve any goal, that I stopped reading where it was and concentrated on the wall mounted fan in front of me. Just to instantly test the theory in the book I wished with all my emotions and faith to turn the fan ON on its own. My time frame was 10 min but it didn’t work. I was bit depressed but was still hoping for a miracle to happen. For next half hour there was no sign. After that I felt asleep. To my greatest surprise in life around 5 am in morning I started feeling cold so searched for blanket around in my sleep and then I realized that the fan was on. This incident shocked me with ultimate faith in the book. This might seem to many of you a coincidence or a lie but the door of my room was locked in and I don’t have any past experience of getting up in my sleep.

  6. Tom Phillips

    Jan 15, 2015 at 11:41 am

    Hey Laura,

    Brilliant post! Really breaks it down and is very understandable.

    I had the same issue as Steve above, great comment also, with fear. Once you overcome your fear, break your goals down into easy to achieve chunks and start to focus solely on the feeling of already achieving that goal, things start to happen much quicker than you think!

    Keep up the good work 🙂

  7. Asino

    Jan 11, 2015 at 7:32 am

    So, I read this article yesterday and decided to try it out immediately. I’ve been having these backup phone chargers that I have been trying to sell for months. I would advertise them on Facebook and get 2 or 3 orders. Sales were going so slow that I forgot about them and left them laying around in my closet.

    Yesterday I decided that I want to sell all of them in the space 4 days. I then visualised myself being surrounded by people pushing their money into my face, wanting to buy the chargers. My next step was to advertise on that same Facebook page that gave me mediocre results in the past. The response it got exceeded all my expectations and lo and behold, all the chargers sold out that same day 😀

    I feel like I should be giving you a cut lol.
    Thank you for this great article.

  8. Zach

    Jan 7, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    Great great article. Here’s a quick little story for you…

    In 2003, I was mad down on my luck. Lost everything to a house fire, flunked out of college and had littler $.45 to my name. Moved in with my now inlaws and came home from a dead end job to my now wife watching Oprah. Everyone was talking about this book that changed their life called “The Secret”. I bought, and thought it was a bunch of crock, but told myself – literally – what else do I have to lose.

    I chose to set a goal of an extra $100 in the next 2 weeks. That same day – THAT SAME DAY – my father inlaw asked if I could sell his old tool bench and if I did, I could keep the money. Do you know what it sold for the next week?

    $100. My life has never been the same since. I have a goal in life to have more people understand that focusing on what you want is WAY better than what you don’t.

    Again – great great article!

  9. Daria

    Jan 7, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    This was just what I needed to read today! I retired from teaching Visual Arts in June 2013 with the intent of finding a second career. The first year I did a lot of substituting, which was fine, but not very fulfilling. It did allow me to adjust some what to my retirement and sort through 37 years of teaching materials. Last January, a friend of mine suggested, if I wasn’t happy where I was living and doing, why not considered moving elsewhere? That has been my thought and focus ever since on a daily basis. It’s now 6 months until my lease is up and the count down is on!
    My plan is to move to Lexington, Kentucky to work for the university is some capacity. I receive daily housing and employment updates online and the house I love is my screen saver. Next step is creating a resume and applying. I’m excited and can’t wait! I know that my positive thoughts and visualizing are key.
    Thank you for such a well written article. It was meant for me!
    Daria

  10. hashim ca

    Jan 7, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    nice, it feels like we all are special

  11. Shane

    Jan 7, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Good article to remember. Really, I need no convincing, as this is stuff I’ve seen already. Most recently, for quite a while I’ve actively wanted a new jacket for work but couldn’t quite justify it. Then the company Christmas party. They drew my name for the $300 heated jacket. I like the structured approach you’ve outlined. Will remember this.

  12. Steve Reed

    Jan 6, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    Great article Laura

    The old adage that ‘thoughts become things’ seems to be true indeed 🙂

    One thing I have really learned in recent years, hacving struggled with all the fears you mention, is that in the end, setting lofty goals for the long term is awesome, but breaking that down into much smaller goals is where the gold is. 14 days, like you said, is a good starting place. And from there, I tend to work out the daily actions that I need to put in place to reach that mini goal.

    Then, I work out a simple trigger action that will get me doing those daily things. As an example. I am an author, had some bestsellers on Amazon, but the idea of writing 30K words in a month is kinda scary, although not hard to achieve.

    My trigger action, is packing my laptop in the morning and going to the car. That’s it. If that happens, I open the gate, drive into town, buy a pot of tea at my fave coffeeshop, and come home a couple of hours later with 2000 extra words written. Always. I forget the goal, I just concentrate on the trigger action, and the rest takes care of itself.

    I’d recommend this to anyone who struggles to reach their goals, and combined with your awesome tips, making progress is not as hard as it may appear.

    Thanks for a cool article, I learned a lot

    -S

    • CrazyMonkey

      Feb 3, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Great comment 🙂

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Success is for the Self-Taught

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Truman Capote, Jimi Hendrix, Steve Jobs, Nikola Tesla. Those are four names you never thought you’d see in a sentence together. As it happens, these four individuals have more in common than their success, ingenuity, and fame. They were all autodidacts. In other words, they were self-taught learners.

The talents and innovations that skyrocketed them to fame were the products of their own teachings. Make no mistake, this doesn’t mean a formal education is a waste of time. However, it goes to show that success is crafted solely by commitment and focus. While college and traineeships can prepare us for the groundwork of what we pursue, it’s ultimately up to us as individuals to teach ourselves how to refine our knowledge for success.

It’s the self-taught principles that allow us to distinguish our own work from that of others. With the help of the internet, self-taught success is more possible than ever. And there are plenty of ways to reach our inner autodidact.

Elon Musk had science degrees from top Ivy League universities, but he still credits most of his knowledge to the textbooks he allegedly “committed to memory.” Reading is just one way to teach yourself everything you need to know. Aspiring inventors can surely learn a lot by sacrificing some of their leisure time to sit down with a textbook.

For writers and artists, the best study is to just read. Read anything. Inspiration can be derived from poetry, works of fiction, etc. These also help you develop your writing skills, which is an important asset for any aspiring entrepreneur.

“Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.” – Isaac Asimov

With the help of online Master Classes, Youtube videos, and apps – where online courses developed by some of the top U.S. educational institutions can be accessed remotely – self-taught success is more attainable than ever.

What’s more, we learn through practice. We can publish our own eBooks through Amazon without the publishing house bureaucracy. We can advertise our product, brand, or service through social media savvy without astronomical advertising costs. And as we practice, we learn. We gain feedback from our followers, learn from our mistakes, and do it better the second time around.

Even when you’re teaching yourself, others are always helping. However, you get to decide which lessons are most constructive, and you get to apply them to the real world in real-time.

The Science of Self-Taught

People have a tendency to romanticize the concept of self-taught success. It’s not a solution for laziness, or an excuse for lack of motivation. In many cases, teaching yourself is more work than being taught. The level of accountability rises when you are both teacher and student. Furthermore, it requires more discipline. Without a structured schedule or a guaranteed reward at the end of your efforts, your only hope is your dedication.

Beyond this, however, the only thing stopping most people from teaching themselves is insecurity. Fear of failure and inadequacy halts self-taught learners in their tracks. Especially because with self-teaching, inevitably, comes occasional failure. Unfortunately, the self-taught often feel they have nobody to blame the failure on but themselves – no teachers, mentors, or trainers as scapegoats.

According to Psychology Today, there is nothing that makes certain people better self-taught learners than others. The only difference is motivation, and willingness to overcome that lingering insecurity. Even the concept of “learning styles” is erroneous, says Psychology Today. While each individual is different, ability to learn is not based on preference, but expertise.

Beginners learn better from examples, while experts learn better by solving problems. This builds yet another case for autodidacts, who are more likely to learn by experience – the most effective method.

“Wisdom is not a product of schooling but a lifelong attempt to acquire it.” – Albert Einstein

The Rewards of Being Self-Taught

The fruits of your labor taste sweeter when you’ve taught yourself how to grow them. As such, success is more enjoyable when your self-education has contributed to it. All successful individuals have something in common: they’ve taken the initiative to teach themselves new things, or to supplement their formal education with self-teaching, as well.

Therefore, not all groundbreaking inventors, artists, and philosophers are solely self-taught. However, they’ve still accompanied their college training with their own individual quest for knowledge.

There is a simple reason why autodidacts thrive the most: because they’re always learning. The one mistake people who solely rely on formal education and training make is the mistake of stopping their learning process altogether once it’s over. Not only does this prevent you from being up-to-date on the latest concepts and advancements in your field, but it obstructs your brain’s thirst for mental stimulation.

By constantly learning and teaching ourselves new things, no matter how small or large they might be, we could change the course of our overall health and well-being. Research even shows that mental stimulation (consisting of practicing memorization, learning new things, and improving our skill in existing hobbies) is key to slowing down the development of, and possibly even reversing, Alzheimer’s and dementia.

Motivational speaker and entrepreneur Jim Rohn was noted for saying, “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” This does not mean you should abandon the pursuit of formal education, as it often serves as the foundation for self-education. But, it does mean we should maintain, cater to, and quench our thirst for knowledge as much as we possibly can.

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6 Expert Tips for Building Relationships With Those You Idolize

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Many of us dream of one day meeting a celebrity. Be it a movie star or a pro football player, we have a tendency to idolize these individuals, even looking to them for guidance as we make life decisions. In business, we can also find people we idolize. Individuals who have achieved great success with their own company or even revolutionized an industry.

From these people, we can learn key skills, gain valuable insights or even form partnerships to take our own business ventures to the next level. Yes, it is possible to form real relationships with your business idols or industry influencers. But like any other relationship, it requires work.

Here’s 6 ways you can start forming the relationships that will make a lasting difference for your entrepreneurial goals:

1. Do Your Research

Facebook stalking may be creepy for normal relationships, but doing some online research is perfectly okay for business leaders and influencers. After all, most influencers are extremely active online, either through social media, their own website or guest blogging. This basic research gives you a chance to better understand your business idol.

What do they like or dislike? What are their opinions on current trends? What do they talk like? These simple bits of information will help you better know how to approach them and determine if a relationship could prove beneficial.

“The richest people in the world look for and build networks. Everyone else looks for work.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Comment Carefully

Your initial research also serves as your first chance for engagement with your business idol. By liking social media posts or leaving thoughtful comments on blog articles, you can make a positive first impression.

Of course, leaving quality comments is sometimes easier said than done. As Kevin Duncan of SmartBlogger explains, thoughtfully contributing to the discussion with personal experiences or meaningful questions are a great way to get the conversation started.

“When you share a personal insight, bloggers can more easily relate to you. You’re no longer just an unfamiliar name making a comment that could have been left by anyone …the more personal your insight, the more unique it will be. And the more unique your insight, the more memorable your comment will be and the more you’ll stand out.”

3. Group Participation

Business leaders and influencers won’t only be found on blogs. Many are also active participants in online industry groups. Whether on Facebook or LinkedIn, these groups allow industry professionals to discuss current trends, ask for advice, or share new opportunities.

If you wish to make a positive impression, you should seek out, join and actively participate in these online groups. Avoid the temptation to promote yourself or your business. Instead, engage in conversations much like you would with a quality blog comment. By sharing your unique experiences and insights, you’ll build a stronger reputation among your peers.

4. Face Time

Online discussions are a great place to start, but the best relationships typically require some face-to-face interaction. You make a much more lasting impression when you have an in-person conversation. Industry conventions or lectures are great places to connect with others in your field. When you show yourself as a living, breathing human being, rather than just a name behind the computer, it becomes so much easier to make a personal connection and form a real, lasting relationship — and that can pay big dividends for future pitches.

Setting up a face-to-face meeting can be tricky. After all, you don’t want to come off as creepy. However, if you’ve already established an online rapport, asking if an influencer would like to briefly meet in person at an event you’re both attending shouldn’t be a problem.

5. Add Value

All relationships have a bit of give and take — and this is especially true when forming relationships in the business world. If you’re only approaching a business idol because you hope to gain something (like an extra investor in your startup), you likely won’t have success. Instead, find ways that you can contribute value.

As leadership consultant Randy Hain explains, “‘What can I do to help you?’ is absolutely one of the best ways to get business relationships off to a great start. Invest in the other person first, with no expectation of return. Do not keep score. Simply make the investment and over time you will benefit from the seeds of generosity you have planted.”

“Networking is the No. 1 unwritten rule of success in business.” – Sallie Krawcheck

6. Focus On the Long-Term

The aforementioned tactics aren’t “one and done” tips. Instead, you’ll need to continually practice them to show your genuine interest and build the kinds of friendships that can pay lasting dividends for everyone involved.

Relationships aren’t a short-term investment — and this is especially true if you want help on your own road to success. Real relationships need time to grow. They need continual nurturing. With a patient, long-term approach, you’ll be less tempted to jump right into a sales pitch and more likely to focus on a genuine friendship that delivers a real payoff.

Becoming an entrepreneur may put you in the role of the underdog — but this doesn’t mean you have to go at it alone. As you form genuine relationships with influencers and other business professionals, you’ll gain access to new sources of knowledge.

You’ll find friends who are willing to help or mentors willing to share their time. You may even find a new business partner. Relationship-building is a lifelong endeavor, but it will always pay off in the end.

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Stop Denying Your Negative Thoughts and Start Embracing Them

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Over the years, many of the talking heads and pundits in the personal development and success science industry have talked about the immediate replacement of negative thoughts with positive thoughts. The logic behind that particular behavioral strategy seems to make sense on the surface. Think about it, when a negative thought rears its ugly head, we should immediately dive into the repository of positive thoughts that we have available to us so that we could immediately begin to dwell on it.

Even further, some gurus of the genre suggest removing any chance of having a negative thought by the constant repetition of affirmations. Again, tried-and-true motivational technology that is very workable and still useful. I would suggest, however, that you view the above behaviors as tactics more than strategies.

I will further suggest to you that you do not abhor your negative thoughts but rather embrace them, examine them, and place them under a spotlight. My reasoning behind this goes back over 100 years into psychology with stimulus/response, that is, the cause and effect of certain behaviors. Many individuals look at a negative thought as a causative driver. The negative thought exists as a cause, and our behavior toward that cause will determine the effect.

So, following this logic, if an individual has a negative thought which makes them feel sad, and that sadness causes them to binge drink, by removing the negative thought you’ll have removed the motivation for binge drinking. Doesn’t that sound kind of silly? The suggestion here is to turn off the negative thought so that it will turn off the consumption of alcohol.

Of course, this makes sense if we view the negative thought as a primal force in behavior. So, what if we started to think of the negative thought more as the result of something else? It means that the “something else” must change first. What if we took a different approach? What if we looked at a negative thought as an effect of some larger causal factor?

“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.” – Joel Osteen

By reversing the cause-and-effect motion of negative thinking (saying that the negative thought is an effect), we now can ask a deeper, more penetrative question: Why are we thinking that negative thought? What is the underlying cause of that specific train of thinking? By reversing the cause-and-effect relationship of negative thinking, it allows the negative thinker to assume the role of diagnostician!

Below is a three-step process you can use to examine your negative thoughts, the role of it in your life, and how you can get rid of them:

1. Simply acknowledge the negative thought

Recognize the fact that there’s a negative thought in your mind instead of trying to go through a process of emotionally overlaying positive thoughts on top of it. Can you see how this exacerbates the issue? You have a negative thought, you immediately recognize that it must be changed, and you frantically scurry through the museum of your mind to find a positive thought to replace it.

In the meantime, while you are trying to find that positive thought, you’re feeling anxious, nervous, and guilty! When you finally find a positive thought to replace that negative thought, the normal process is to squash it. But you can’t! It’s like trying to get rid of weeds by covering them with rocks.

They will always find another way around the rock. It is the same with negative thoughts. Consequently, try acknowledging the negative thought.

2. Affirm the negative thought

It is a part of you. Instead of denying its existence, accept that it is there in front of you and that you are now willing to deal with it. If any of you reading this are dog lovers, you will know that the best way to get a dog next to you is by attempting to push it away from you. Every time you push the dog away it gets closer. This is the same with negative thinking because the harder you push the closer it gets.

“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation.” – Michael Jordan

3. Acquit the thought

Give it permission to leave you. Thank it for its past importance in your life and allow it to be on its way! At this point feel free to replace the negative thought with a positive thought. What will begin to happen when you place the negative thought under the spotlight is that you will see how insignificantly small it actually is.

This is a process I’ve been using for quite some time, and it works! Oh sure, I still use affirmations on a daily basis; as a matter fact I have them right here in front of me. I find that affirmations are a tremendous way to stay positive because it doesn’t allow any room for bad things to grow. But since the average person thinks 60,000 to 65,000 thoughts per day, let’s face it, a few negative thoughts have to squeak in there!

The best advice that I can give is to not freak out over a negative thought. Acknowledge it, affirm it, and acquit it! This is magic. Watch what happens!

How do you handle negative thoughts? Let us know your tips below!

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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Truman Capote, Jimi Hendrix, Steve Jobs, Nikola Tesla. Those are four names you never thought you’d see in a sentence together. As it happens, these four individuals have more in common than their success, ingenuity, and fame. They were all autodidacts. In other words, they were self-taught learners. (more…)

Ellie Batchiyska is a writer for Every USB, helping business and entrepreneurs with their branding through the use of custom flash drives.

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  1. Eric

    Mar 22, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    I am currently doing exactly what you are writing about. I am finally bringing forward an idea to reality after marinating on it for nearly 10-years. The biggest hurdle was expertise, but now the net allows collaboration with expertise in every field at low cost and ta da….my idea is emerging before my eyes. Watching a thought manifest into reality is almost indescribable! Great blog today!

  2. CrazyMonkey

    Feb 3, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    This is a great article. I have seen the steps laid out in the experiment many times in my previous readings. However, what I struggle with are two things:

    1) FEAR – I guess as humans, you can never get rid of fear. However, you can overcome it, but how?? I struggle with the general mentality of being fearless.

    2) Step #4 mentioned setting an intention. Is that enough? For exmple, for the longest time now, I have been wanted a brand new BMW M3. I am certainly making enough money to accomplish this dream. But, I can’t seem to convince myself that I deserve it. How to come over this?

  3. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 29, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Very enlightening and thought provoking.
    I have just retired and now I am in my own business. I am going to apply it. Although it might not be easy but I will try to control because I am determined to do.

    Thanks a lot !

    Laura Clarke

  4. Imran Soudagar

    Jan 26, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Thanks for the awesome article, the biggest problem most people face in their life is making decisions. I have seen people struggle with that and they get totally confused when there are more than 2 choices. It takes time to master this technique. But not impossible.

  5. Ganesh

    Jan 19, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    Trust me for a moment. I have a great story to inspire you all. Months ago during mid September 2014 I started reading a book ” think and grow rich”. In between somewhere 50th to 52nd page I was so excited about the thought of desire, emotions, faith, to achieve any goal, that I stopped reading where it was and concentrated on the wall mounted fan in front of me. Just to instantly test the theory in the book I wished with all my emotions and faith to turn the fan ON on its own. My time frame was 10 min but it didn’t work. I was bit depressed but was still hoping for a miracle to happen. For next half hour there was no sign. After that I felt asleep. To my greatest surprise in life around 5 am in morning I started feeling cold so searched for blanket around in my sleep and then I realized that the fan was on. This incident shocked me with ultimate faith in the book. This might seem to many of you a coincidence or a lie but the door of my room was locked in and I don’t have any past experience of getting up in my sleep.

  6. Tom Phillips

    Jan 15, 2015 at 11:41 am

    Hey Laura,

    Brilliant post! Really breaks it down and is very understandable.

    I had the same issue as Steve above, great comment also, with fear. Once you overcome your fear, break your goals down into easy to achieve chunks and start to focus solely on the feeling of already achieving that goal, things start to happen much quicker than you think!

    Keep up the good work 🙂

  7. Asino

    Jan 11, 2015 at 7:32 am

    So, I read this article yesterday and decided to try it out immediately. I’ve been having these backup phone chargers that I have been trying to sell for months. I would advertise them on Facebook and get 2 or 3 orders. Sales were going so slow that I forgot about them and left them laying around in my closet.

    Yesterday I decided that I want to sell all of them in the space 4 days. I then visualised myself being surrounded by people pushing their money into my face, wanting to buy the chargers. My next step was to advertise on that same Facebook page that gave me mediocre results in the past. The response it got exceeded all my expectations and lo and behold, all the chargers sold out that same day 😀

    I feel like I should be giving you a cut lol.
    Thank you for this great article.

  8. Zach

    Jan 7, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    Great great article. Here’s a quick little story for you…

    In 2003, I was mad down on my luck. Lost everything to a house fire, flunked out of college and had littler $.45 to my name. Moved in with my now inlaws and came home from a dead end job to my now wife watching Oprah. Everyone was talking about this book that changed their life called “The Secret”. I bought, and thought it was a bunch of crock, but told myself – literally – what else do I have to lose.

    I chose to set a goal of an extra $100 in the next 2 weeks. That same day – THAT SAME DAY – my father inlaw asked if I could sell his old tool bench and if I did, I could keep the money. Do you know what it sold for the next week?

    $100. My life has never been the same since. I have a goal in life to have more people understand that focusing on what you want is WAY better than what you don’t.

    Again – great great article!

  9. Daria

    Jan 7, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    This was just what I needed to read today! I retired from teaching Visual Arts in June 2013 with the intent of finding a second career. The first year I did a lot of substituting, which was fine, but not very fulfilling. It did allow me to adjust some what to my retirement and sort through 37 years of teaching materials. Last January, a friend of mine suggested, if I wasn’t happy where I was living and doing, why not considered moving elsewhere? That has been my thought and focus ever since on a daily basis. It’s now 6 months until my lease is up and the count down is on!
    My plan is to move to Lexington, Kentucky to work for the university is some capacity. I receive daily housing and employment updates online and the house I love is my screen saver. Next step is creating a resume and applying. I’m excited and can’t wait! I know that my positive thoughts and visualizing are key.
    Thank you for such a well written article. It was meant for me!
    Daria

  10. hashim ca

    Jan 7, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    nice, it feels like we all are special

  11. Shane

    Jan 7, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Good article to remember. Really, I need no convincing, as this is stuff I’ve seen already. Most recently, for quite a while I’ve actively wanted a new jacket for work but couldn’t quite justify it. Then the company Christmas party. They drew my name for the $300 heated jacket. I like the structured approach you’ve outlined. Will remember this.

  12. Steve Reed

    Jan 6, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    Great article Laura

    The old adage that ‘thoughts become things’ seems to be true indeed 🙂

    One thing I have really learned in recent years, hacving struggled with all the fears you mention, is that in the end, setting lofty goals for the long term is awesome, but breaking that down into much smaller goals is where the gold is. 14 days, like you said, is a good starting place. And from there, I tend to work out the daily actions that I need to put in place to reach that mini goal.

    Then, I work out a simple trigger action that will get me doing those daily things. As an example. I am an author, had some bestsellers on Amazon, but the idea of writing 30K words in a month is kinda scary, although not hard to achieve.

    My trigger action, is packing my laptop in the morning and going to the car. That’s it. If that happens, I open the gate, drive into town, buy a pot of tea at my fave coffeeshop, and come home a couple of hours later with 2000 extra words written. Always. I forget the goal, I just concentrate on the trigger action, and the rest takes care of itself.

    I’d recommend this to anyone who struggles to reach their goals, and combined with your awesome tips, making progress is not as hard as it may appear.

    Thanks for a cool article, I learned a lot

    -S

    • CrazyMonkey

      Feb 3, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Great comment 🙂

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Success is for the Self-Taught

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Truman Capote, Jimi Hendrix, Steve Jobs, Nikola Tesla. Those are four names you never thought you’d see in a sentence together. As it happens, these four individuals have more in common than their success, ingenuity, and fame. They were all autodidacts. In other words, they were self-taught learners.

The talents and innovations that skyrocketed them to fame were the products of their own teachings. Make no mistake, this doesn’t mean a formal education is a waste of time. However, it goes to show that success is crafted solely by commitment and focus. While college and traineeships can prepare us for the groundwork of what we pursue, it’s ultimately up to us as individuals to teach ourselves how to refine our knowledge for success.

It’s the self-taught principles that allow us to distinguish our own work from that of others. With the help of the internet, self-taught success is more possible than ever. And there are plenty of ways to reach our inner autodidact.

Elon Musk had science degrees from top Ivy League universities, but he still credits most of his knowledge to the textbooks he allegedly “committed to memory.” Reading is just one way to teach yourself everything you need to know. Aspiring inventors can surely learn a lot by sacrificing some of their leisure time to sit down with a textbook.

For writers and artists, the best study is to just read. Read anything. Inspiration can be derived from poetry, works of fiction, etc. These also help you develop your writing skills, which is an important asset for any aspiring entrepreneur.

“Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.” – Isaac Asimov

With the help of online Master Classes, Youtube videos, and apps – where online courses developed by some of the top U.S. educational institutions can be accessed remotely – self-taught success is more attainable than ever.

What’s more, we learn through practice. We can publish our own eBooks through Amazon without the publishing house bureaucracy. We can advertise our product, brand, or service through social media savvy without astronomical advertising costs. And as we practice, we learn. We gain feedback from our followers, learn from our mistakes, and do it better the second time around.

Even when you’re teaching yourself, others are always helping. However, you get to decide which lessons are most constructive, and you get to apply them to the real world in real-time.

The Science of Self-Taught

People have a tendency to romanticize the concept of self-taught success. It’s not a solution for laziness, or an excuse for lack of motivation. In many cases, teaching yourself is more work than being taught. The level of accountability rises when you are both teacher and student. Furthermore, it requires more discipline. Without a structured schedule or a guaranteed reward at the end of your efforts, your only hope is your dedication.

Beyond this, however, the only thing stopping most people from teaching themselves is insecurity. Fear of failure and inadequacy halts self-taught learners in their tracks. Especially because with self-teaching, inevitably, comes occasional failure. Unfortunately, the self-taught often feel they have nobody to blame the failure on but themselves – no teachers, mentors, or trainers as scapegoats.

According to Psychology Today, there is nothing that makes certain people better self-taught learners than others. The only difference is motivation, and willingness to overcome that lingering insecurity. Even the concept of “learning styles” is erroneous, says Psychology Today. While each individual is different, ability to learn is not based on preference, but expertise.

Beginners learn better from examples, while experts learn better by solving problems. This builds yet another case for autodidacts, who are more likely to learn by experience – the most effective method.

“Wisdom is not a product of schooling but a lifelong attempt to acquire it.” – Albert Einstein

The Rewards of Being Self-Taught

The fruits of your labor taste sweeter when you’ve taught yourself how to grow them. As such, success is more enjoyable when your self-education has contributed to it. All successful individuals have something in common: they’ve taken the initiative to teach themselves new things, or to supplement their formal education with self-teaching, as well.

Therefore, not all groundbreaking inventors, artists, and philosophers are solely self-taught. However, they’ve still accompanied their college training with their own individual quest for knowledge.

There is a simple reason why autodidacts thrive the most: because they’re always learning. The one mistake people who solely rely on formal education and training make is the mistake of stopping their learning process altogether once it’s over. Not only does this prevent you from being up-to-date on the latest concepts and advancements in your field, but it obstructs your brain’s thirst for mental stimulation.

By constantly learning and teaching ourselves new things, no matter how small or large they might be, we could change the course of our overall health and well-being. Research even shows that mental stimulation (consisting of practicing memorization, learning new things, and improving our skill in existing hobbies) is key to slowing down the development of, and possibly even reversing, Alzheimer’s and dementia.

Motivational speaker and entrepreneur Jim Rohn was noted for saying, “Formal education will make you a living; self-education will make you a fortune.” This does not mean you should abandon the pursuit of formal education, as it often serves as the foundation for self-education. But, it does mean we should maintain, cater to, and quench our thirst for knowledge as much as we possibly can.

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6 Expert Tips for Building Relationships With Those You Idolize

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Many of us dream of one day meeting a celebrity. Be it a movie star or a pro football player, we have a tendency to idolize these individuals, even looking to them for guidance as we make life decisions. In business, we can also find people we idolize. Individuals who have achieved great success with their own company or even revolutionized an industry.

From these people, we can learn key skills, gain valuable insights or even form partnerships to take our own business ventures to the next level. Yes, it is possible to form real relationships with your business idols or industry influencers. But like any other relationship, it requires work.

Here’s 6 ways you can start forming the relationships that will make a lasting difference for your entrepreneurial goals:

1. Do Your Research

Facebook stalking may be creepy for normal relationships, but doing some online research is perfectly okay for business leaders and influencers. After all, most influencers are extremely active online, either through social media, their own website or guest blogging. This basic research gives you a chance to better understand your business idol.

What do they like or dislike? What are their opinions on current trends? What do they talk like? These simple bits of information will help you better know how to approach them and determine if a relationship could prove beneficial.

“The richest people in the world look for and build networks. Everyone else looks for work.” – Robert Kiyosaki

2. Comment Carefully

Your initial research also serves as your first chance for engagement with your business idol. By liking social media posts or leaving thoughtful comments on blog articles, you can make a positive first impression.

Of course, leaving quality comments is sometimes easier said than done. As Kevin Duncan of SmartBlogger explains, thoughtfully contributing to the discussion with personal experiences or meaningful questions are a great way to get the conversation started.

“When you share a personal insight, bloggers can more easily relate to you. You’re no longer just an unfamiliar name making a comment that could have been left by anyone …the more personal your insight, the more unique it will be. And the more unique your insight, the more memorable your comment will be and the more you’ll stand out.”

3. Group Participation

Business leaders and influencers won’t only be found on blogs. Many are also active participants in online industry groups. Whether on Facebook or LinkedIn, these groups allow industry professionals to discuss current trends, ask for advice, or share new opportunities.

If you wish to make a positive impression, you should seek out, join and actively participate in these online groups. Avoid the temptation to promote yourself or your business. Instead, engage in conversations much like you would with a quality blog comment. By sharing your unique experiences and insights, you’ll build a stronger reputation among your peers.

4. Face Time

Online discussions are a great place to start, but the best relationships typically require some face-to-face interaction. You make a much more lasting impression when you have an in-person conversation. Industry conventions or lectures are great places to connect with others in your field. When you show yourself as a living, breathing human being, rather than just a name behind the computer, it becomes so much easier to make a personal connection and form a real, lasting relationship — and that can pay big dividends for future pitches.

Setting up a face-to-face meeting can be tricky. After all, you don’t want to come off as creepy. However, if you’ve already established an online rapport, asking if an influencer would like to briefly meet in person at an event you’re both attending shouldn’t be a problem.

5. Add Value

All relationships have a bit of give and take — and this is especially true when forming relationships in the business world. If you’re only approaching a business idol because you hope to gain something (like an extra investor in your startup), you likely won’t have success. Instead, find ways that you can contribute value.

As leadership consultant Randy Hain explains, “‘What can I do to help you?’ is absolutely one of the best ways to get business relationships off to a great start. Invest in the other person first, with no expectation of return. Do not keep score. Simply make the investment and over time you will benefit from the seeds of generosity you have planted.”

“Networking is the No. 1 unwritten rule of success in business.” – Sallie Krawcheck

6. Focus On the Long-Term

The aforementioned tactics aren’t “one and done” tips. Instead, you’ll need to continually practice them to show your genuine interest and build the kinds of friendships that can pay lasting dividends for everyone involved.

Relationships aren’t a short-term investment — and this is especially true if you want help on your own road to success. Real relationships need time to grow. They need continual nurturing. With a patient, long-term approach, you’ll be less tempted to jump right into a sales pitch and more likely to focus on a genuine friendship that delivers a real payoff.

Becoming an entrepreneur may put you in the role of the underdog — but this doesn’t mean you have to go at it alone. As you form genuine relationships with influencers and other business professionals, you’ll gain access to new sources of knowledge.

You’ll find friends who are willing to help or mentors willing to share their time. You may even find a new business partner. Relationship-building is a lifelong endeavor, but it will always pay off in the end.

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Stop Denying Your Negative Thoughts and Start Embracing Them

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Over the years, many of the talking heads and pundits in the personal development and success science industry have talked about the immediate replacement of negative thoughts with positive thoughts. The logic behind that particular behavioral strategy seems to make sense on the surface. Think about it, when a negative thought rears its ugly head, we should immediately dive into the repository of positive thoughts that we have available to us so that we could immediately begin to dwell on it.

Even further, some gurus of the genre suggest removing any chance of having a negative thought by the constant repetition of affirmations. Again, tried-and-true motivational technology that is very workable and still useful. I would suggest, however, that you view the above behaviors as tactics more than strategies.

I will further suggest to you that you do not abhor your negative thoughts but rather embrace them, examine them, and place them under a spotlight. My reasoning behind this goes back over 100 years into psychology with stimulus/response, that is, the cause and effect of certain behaviors. Many individuals look at a negative thought as a causative driver. The negative thought exists as a cause, and our behavior toward that cause will determine the effect.

So, following this logic, if an individual has a negative thought which makes them feel sad, and that sadness causes them to binge drink, by removing the negative thought you’ll have removed the motivation for binge drinking. Doesn’t that sound kind of silly? The suggestion here is to turn off the negative thought so that it will turn off the consumption of alcohol.

Of course, this makes sense if we view the negative thought as a primal force in behavior. So, what if we started to think of the negative thought more as the result of something else? It means that the “something else” must change first. What if we took a different approach? What if we looked at a negative thought as an effect of some larger causal factor?

“You’re going to go through tough times – that’s life. But I say, ‘Nothing happens to you, it happens for you.’ See the positive in negative events.” – Joel Osteen

By reversing the cause-and-effect motion of negative thinking (saying that the negative thought is an effect), we now can ask a deeper, more penetrative question: Why are we thinking that negative thought? What is the underlying cause of that specific train of thinking? By reversing the cause-and-effect relationship of negative thinking, it allows the negative thinker to assume the role of diagnostician!

Below is a three-step process you can use to examine your negative thoughts, the role of it in your life, and how you can get rid of them:

1. Simply acknowledge the negative thought

Recognize the fact that there’s a negative thought in your mind instead of trying to go through a process of emotionally overlaying positive thoughts on top of it. Can you see how this exacerbates the issue? You have a negative thought, you immediately recognize that it must be changed, and you frantically scurry through the museum of your mind to find a positive thought to replace it.

In the meantime, while you are trying to find that positive thought, you’re feeling anxious, nervous, and guilty! When you finally find a positive thought to replace that negative thought, the normal process is to squash it. But you can’t! It’s like trying to get rid of weeds by covering them with rocks.

They will always find another way around the rock. It is the same with negative thoughts. Consequently, try acknowledging the negative thought.

2. Affirm the negative thought

It is a part of you. Instead of denying its existence, accept that it is there in front of you and that you are now willing to deal with it. If any of you reading this are dog lovers, you will know that the best way to get a dog next to you is by attempting to push it away from you. Every time you push the dog away it gets closer. This is the same with negative thinking because the harder you push the closer it gets.

“Always turn a negative situation into a positive situation.” – Michael Jordan

3. Acquit the thought

Give it permission to leave you. Thank it for its past importance in your life and allow it to be on its way! At this point feel free to replace the negative thought with a positive thought. What will begin to happen when you place the negative thought under the spotlight is that you will see how insignificantly small it actually is.

This is a process I’ve been using for quite some time, and it works! Oh sure, I still use affirmations on a daily basis; as a matter fact I have them right here in front of me. I find that affirmations are a tremendous way to stay positive because it doesn’t allow any room for bad things to grow. But since the average person thinks 60,000 to 65,000 thoughts per day, let’s face it, a few negative thoughts have to squeak in there!

The best advice that I can give is to not freak out over a negative thought. Acknowledge it, affirm it, and acquit it! This is magic. Watch what happens!

How do you handle negative thoughts? Let us know your tips below!

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One Thing I Can Teach You About Life That Will Help You Forever.

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I used to be a very anxious person.

I was embarrassed by what I couldn’t do and every day was a struggle. From the moment I would wake up to the moment I’d go to bed, everything felt impossibly overwhelming. It’s a battle I’ve dealt with most of my life.

This daily struggle with mental illness taught me that the satisfaction didn’t lie in beating it; the satisfaction was in helping other people beat mental illness through my success in fighting it.


Recently, I was at work. It was a pretty standard day — nothing too exciting. I then had a catch up with one of the leaders I worked with.

She said something that got my attention: “One of our colleagues is battling a mental illness.”

I really wanted to help. My eyes lit up. There was no need to uncover my plan with anyone else. I knew that staying discrete was fundamental.

I approached the person in question and asked for a few minutes of their time.

I didn’t ask them to admit their mental illness struggle; I just shared my story.

I talked about the anxiety stopping me from having a normal life, eating the right foods, going on dates with girls, having the career I wanted and traveling the world.

I wasn’t sure if any of it was sinking in or even helping. I felt compelled to go on. One thing I knew was that he was paying attention. I could see it in his eyes.

I then went on to talk about how I beat mental illness. Strategies such as:

  • Creating fear lists
  • Seeking professional help
  • Working on myself
  • Books I read
  • Events I attended

Out of nowhere, he started opening up about his own struggle. I was shocked.
It wasn’t pretty. He had an extreme case of mental illness that I certainly couldn’t diagnose or give professional advice on.

All I could do was show him through my own story that there was hope

I offered him access to all the resources I had. I told him that he had my full support and I’d be happy to help in any way I could. He then said:

“What was your psychologist’s name?”

I told him I’d look it up and send it to him. I didn’t have the answer in front of me, but I was determined when I got home to find it.

At the end of the catch-up, he smiled. I don’t think he’d smiled like that in a very long time.

That smile gave me so much satisfaction. It made my own struggle with mental illness worth it. All those sleepless nights, times spent vomiting into the toilet and dark days where I didn’t want to go on made sense.


“It took more than seven years for me to understand that my own battle with mental illness actually had a benefit”

That benefit was the satisfaction in seeing someone beat their mental illness because I was able to defeat mine.

It’s probably the greatest satisfaction of my entire life.

That’s one thing I can teach you about life that will help you forever.

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