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How to Turn Your Thoughts Into Amazing Results

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Thinking Ideas Thoughts and Intentions Into Success

Being a mover and shaker, you’re always on the lookout for that one thing that can give you the edge.

Whether it’s the power-protein you mix into your coffee in the morning, or the way you optimize your inbox… you probably don’t care about the theory behind it….

You want to know what works!

Right?

I’ve worked with hundreds of grounded business owners and aspiring entrepreneurs and the thing I’ve noticed consistently is their ability to get results.

Real results.

Tangible, kick-ass, bottom line results.

And the thing that holds people back from creating the results they really want, and deserve, is the nagging doubt that they might not succeed.

Perhaps you’ve felt this way?

Maybe you’ve found yourself taking one step forward and two steps back, trying to will yourself to be positive. To have faith. To just work harder and maybe, just maybe, success will be yours.

Hoping. Dreaming. And trying desperately to not let those nay-sayers be right.

And if this is you – you’re not alone.

What I’ve noticed in working with hundreds of entrepreneurs over the years is that the folks who finally reach their goals, and get the awe-inspiring results are the ones who have taken time to master their thought.

Sounds glib?

I can assure you, that this is the foundation of every great person who has ever achieved anything. Total mastery of thoughts… Because your thoughts literally do create the world you experience.

And the secret is to focus on the outcome. (You can read more on how to do this here.)

The outcome you hold in your mind, really does create your physical world!

But what I find is that when folks first hear about this concept, they’re a little sceptical.

How can thinking about increasing my profit actually make more people buy my product?” they often scoff.

And I get it.

I used to wonder the exact same thing.

And until you’ve experienced it and proven it out for yourself, it does seem a little out there!

 

But What If You Could Prove It To Yourself?

What if it were possible to run a simple experiment that is going to help you master the process, and prove to yourself that your efforts are paying off.

Wouldn’t that be awesome?

Well, I don’t tease 😉

There is indeed a way.

And it’s easier than you think.

Not only that, but once you have your own data to back up the model you’ll discover a number of additional benefits:

1. You’ll no longer need to waste energy and focus questioning if it works

You get to by-pass understanding the mechanics like a black-box component in a software design.

You can just take it as a given and use it is.

 

2. You’ll be much more confident in taking on new, bigger projects

If your thoughts create your outcome, you don’t need to worry about the ins and outs of the project. You can simply focus your attention on what you want to create, and let the details and “obstacles” take care of themselves.

It takes some practice and training to get to this level of confidence, but you just need to start small and then build up to the big fat hairy audacious goals!

 

4. You’ll become MAGNETIC to people

You will walk and talk with tonnes more confidence. This makes you much more attractive to the people around you.

Remember the saying “success breeds success”? You will definitely be able to ride the momentum of your new found strategy that works for anything!

 

5. You’ll be less fearful

Often, the thing that causes the most stress for go-getter is the fear of failure… in one form or another. If you know you can’t fail, and your focus is on your goal you will naturally experience much less stress and anxiety.

Plus, it’s actually a healthier way to live!

Once you’ve conducted your own experiments, you’ll no longer be trapped in an oscillation between hoping and doubting.

Some folks swing from one extreme to the other… willing themselves to believe it works, and then advocating that it’s silly and definitely doesn’t.

But not you.

Not now.

Because you’re going to put in a little effort now, for massive rewards you can keep reaping down the line.

 

The Proof Is In The Pudding

So how then do we go about testing this out and proving to ourselves that this is worth doing?

Well, we need to pick a variable and track a result that is relevant to our hypothesis… just like in any scientific experiment.

 

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So here’s what you do:

1. Make a list of a few simple outcomes you’d like to achieve

I suggest picking simple ones, which don’t require much time to create, just for the purpose of proving the concept. This way you can get through a number of experiments in less than 14 days, rather than waiting years and forgetting about it along the way.

 

2. Select the first outcome to work on

This could be something as simple as attracting a free cup of coffee, finding a parking space where you normally struggle, or having your bills reduced. Make sure also that you can track it. It’s no good setting an intention to have something happen and you not know whether it happened or not… So if you’re looking for a reduction in your household bills, you need to know what you’re paying right now. Makes sense, right?

 

3. Ok, then you need to note down the goal, the date and how long you’re going to run your experiment for

This way you know that the effect is a result of your intention and you can’t put it down to fluke. So for example you could say “I allow myself to attract a free cup of coffee by noon today”… or whatever seems like a good time frame, given that you may work from home, and not venture out into the world necessarily.

 

4. Next lay the intention by thinking the thought and visualising, or whatever technique you use

If you’re new to this you may want to refer to “How to Think to Get What You Want”.

 

5. Then you want to track your results

I like to set a reminder on my phone to check in with the goal. So when the time has passed you just notice whether the outcome happened, and then you mark down the result in your experimenters’ journal.

And then you move onto the next experiment. 😉

 

Here’s what you’ll likely find:

Not every single outcome will manifest within your time frame. You’re new to this, and you’re just getting used to the process and the experiment.

That’s ok.

Keep going, and see what happens.

You may find that something like 7 out of 10 goals are achieved… consistently.

If this is the case then this is awesome. Can you imagine 7 out of every 10 intentions you set coming into your reality, consistently? Most traders on the stock market would be very happy with that result. You just need to keep focussing on things that bring you more of what you want.

This is a brilliant process to go through, because it attunes you to what you want, rather than what you don’t want.

The reason most people fail with achieving their goals is simply because they don’t focus on having their chosen outcome… they focus on NOT having it. I.e. on worrying about it. This systematic approach keeps you working on what you want… which is a great shift to make.

And over time, you will build up enough evidence to know without any doubt that the most reliable way to get an outcome is to set and intention and focus your energy on the outcome you want. The more you practice, the more certain you will become, and consequently, the more successful you will get at this approach.

 

Your Experiment Can Begin Right Now!

So there you have it.

Believe me, it’s a skill worth mastering.

After all – it doesn’t just apply to finding parking spaces or being given cups of coffee.

Far from it…

I’ve used it to win competitions, land a book deal, find the perfect Porsche for my budget and style – with no effort or research. I’ve used it to build a six figure income from nothing, been given shares to a company just months before they’ve hit the big time, been given otherwise expensive advice for the price of a glass of wine, and created the most amazing experiences and relationships with awesome people around the world.

It all begins by believing that you are the creator of everything that happens in your world…

And then DARING to choose the good things! (ReTweet This)

The things you really want, rather than struggle and hard work.

And this begins not by taking my word for it – but testing this out for yourself in a series of experiments over the next 14 days.

You can get going right now…

 

Go ahead and write in the comments below, what your first experiment is going to be…

And as always, I’m here to help, and I read every comment and email.

To Your Inevitable Success!

Laura Leigh Clarke

Laura Leigh Clarke is the unorthodox Business Coach, Recovering Quantum Physicist, Founder of ProsperityQM, Geek and a die-hard Doctor Who fan. She also helps people clear their money blocks and limiting beliefs so they can manifest the life and business they really want. Download Your Tool Kit for Making a Quantum Shift in Your Business, and watch your results explode!

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  1. Eric

    Mar 22, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    I am currently doing exactly what you are writing about. I am finally bringing forward an idea to reality after marinating on it for nearly 10-years. The biggest hurdle was expertise, but now the net allows collaboration with expertise in every field at low cost and ta da….my idea is emerging before my eyes. Watching a thought manifest into reality is almost indescribable! Great blog today!

  2. CrazyMonkey

    Feb 3, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    This is a great article. I have seen the steps laid out in the experiment many times in my previous readings. However, what I struggle with are two things:

    1) FEAR – I guess as humans, you can never get rid of fear. However, you can overcome it, but how?? I struggle with the general mentality of being fearless.

    2) Step #4 mentioned setting an intention. Is that enough? For exmple, for the longest time now, I have been wanted a brand new BMW M3. I am certainly making enough money to accomplish this dream. But, I can’t seem to convince myself that I deserve it. How to come over this?

  3. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 29, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Very enlightening and thought provoking.
    I have just retired and now I am in my own business. I am going to apply it. Although it might not be easy but I will try to control because I am determined to do.

    Thanks a lot !

    Laura Clarke

  4. Imran Soudagar

    Jan 26, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Thanks for the awesome article, the biggest problem most people face in their life is making decisions. I have seen people struggle with that and they get totally confused when there are more than 2 choices. It takes time to master this technique. But not impossible.

  5. Ganesh

    Jan 19, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    Trust me for a moment. I have a great story to inspire you all. Months ago during mid September 2014 I started reading a book ” think and grow rich”. In between somewhere 50th to 52nd page I was so excited about the thought of desire, emotions, faith, to achieve any goal, that I stopped reading where it was and concentrated on the wall mounted fan in front of me. Just to instantly test the theory in the book I wished with all my emotions and faith to turn the fan ON on its own. My time frame was 10 min but it didn’t work. I was bit depressed but was still hoping for a miracle to happen. For next half hour there was no sign. After that I felt asleep. To my greatest surprise in life around 5 am in morning I started feeling cold so searched for blanket around in my sleep and then I realized that the fan was on. This incident shocked me with ultimate faith in the book. This might seem to many of you a coincidence or a lie but the door of my room was locked in and I don’t have any past experience of getting up in my sleep.

  6. Tom Phillips

    Jan 15, 2015 at 11:41 am

    Hey Laura,

    Brilliant post! Really breaks it down and is very understandable.

    I had the same issue as Steve above, great comment also, with fear. Once you overcome your fear, break your goals down into easy to achieve chunks and start to focus solely on the feeling of already achieving that goal, things start to happen much quicker than you think!

    Keep up the good work 🙂

  7. Asino

    Jan 11, 2015 at 7:32 am

    So, I read this article yesterday and decided to try it out immediately. I’ve been having these backup phone chargers that I have been trying to sell for months. I would advertise them on Facebook and get 2 or 3 orders. Sales were going so slow that I forgot about them and left them laying around in my closet.

    Yesterday I decided that I want to sell all of them in the space 4 days. I then visualised myself being surrounded by people pushing their money into my face, wanting to buy the chargers. My next step was to advertise on that same Facebook page that gave me mediocre results in the past. The response it got exceeded all my expectations and lo and behold, all the chargers sold out that same day 😀

    I feel like I should be giving you a cut lol.
    Thank you for this great article.

  8. Zach

    Jan 7, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    Great great article. Here’s a quick little story for you…

    In 2003, I was mad down on my luck. Lost everything to a house fire, flunked out of college and had littler $.45 to my name. Moved in with my now inlaws and came home from a dead end job to my now wife watching Oprah. Everyone was talking about this book that changed their life called “The Secret”. I bought, and thought it was a bunch of crock, but told myself – literally – what else do I have to lose.

    I chose to set a goal of an extra $100 in the next 2 weeks. That same day – THAT SAME DAY – my father inlaw asked if I could sell his old tool bench and if I did, I could keep the money. Do you know what it sold for the next week?

    $100. My life has never been the same since. I have a goal in life to have more people understand that focusing on what you want is WAY better than what you don’t.

    Again – great great article!

  9. Daria

    Jan 7, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    This was just what I needed to read today! I retired from teaching Visual Arts in June 2013 with the intent of finding a second career. The first year I did a lot of substituting, which was fine, but not very fulfilling. It did allow me to adjust some what to my retirement and sort through 37 years of teaching materials. Last January, a friend of mine suggested, if I wasn’t happy where I was living and doing, why not considered moving elsewhere? That has been my thought and focus ever since on a daily basis. It’s now 6 months until my lease is up and the count down is on!
    My plan is to move to Lexington, Kentucky to work for the university is some capacity. I receive daily housing and employment updates online and the house I love is my screen saver. Next step is creating a resume and applying. I’m excited and can’t wait! I know that my positive thoughts and visualizing are key.
    Thank you for such a well written article. It was meant for me!
    Daria

  10. hashim ca

    Jan 7, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    nice, it feels like we all are special

  11. Shane

    Jan 7, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Good article to remember. Really, I need no convincing, as this is stuff I’ve seen already. Most recently, for quite a while I’ve actively wanted a new jacket for work but couldn’t quite justify it. Then the company Christmas party. They drew my name for the $300 heated jacket. I like the structured approach you’ve outlined. Will remember this.

  12. Steve Reed

    Jan 6, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    Great article Laura

    The old adage that ‘thoughts become things’ seems to be true indeed 🙂

    One thing I have really learned in recent years, hacving struggled with all the fears you mention, is that in the end, setting lofty goals for the long term is awesome, but breaking that down into much smaller goals is where the gold is. 14 days, like you said, is a good starting place. And from there, I tend to work out the daily actions that I need to put in place to reach that mini goal.

    Then, I work out a simple trigger action that will get me doing those daily things. As an example. I am an author, had some bestsellers on Amazon, but the idea of writing 30K words in a month is kinda scary, although not hard to achieve.

    My trigger action, is packing my laptop in the morning and going to the car. That’s it. If that happens, I open the gate, drive into town, buy a pot of tea at my fave coffeeshop, and come home a couple of hours later with 2000 extra words written. Always. I forget the goal, I just concentrate on the trigger action, and the rest takes care of itself.

    I’d recommend this to anyone who struggles to reach their goals, and combined with your awesome tips, making progress is not as hard as it may appear.

    Thanks for a cool article, I learned a lot

    -S

    • CrazyMonkey

      Feb 3, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Great comment 🙂

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15 Myths About Personal Development & How to Leverage Them

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Self-development is a cool trend, and modern culture has even created a cult around personal development. It is so powerful that we accept its doctrines without any analysis because we get soaked into its promises of becoming “better people” that we unconsciously decide to spend our money on those promises. However, many of these tips and suggestions are somehow thrown to us without additional information on how to actually leverage them.

Let’s analyze some of them together and bust some myths that have influenced your life too much already:

1. Personal Development Is Simply Positive Thinking

Many people don’t understand the notion that positive thinking is merely a component of the entire personal development “picture.” For some individuals, positive thinking is a much-needed aspect of their daily lives. Eliminate this misinterpretation in your mind once and for all.

2. Personal Development Isn’t for Everybody

As stated earlier, the personal development path is present in everyone’s life. It isn’t a strict skill, activity, or attitude that can be placed and interpreted in just one way because everyone is different. Still, the need for growth is hidden beneath our subconscious minds.

3. If You Tell Your Goals, You Will Fail to Achieve Them

Wrong. There are two types of people: the ones who share their goals and improve their performance, and the others who prefer keeping everything for themselves before they get any results. Find what works best for you!

4. Anything Is Possible if You Want It Bad Enough

This is a dream that has been sold for many years now. The “Law of Attraction” suggests that you can simply attract success by visually creating it every day and by desiring it a lot. However, it doesn’t state that you need to work 1000 hours, fail 33 times, and recover 33 times.

“The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.” – Oprah Winfrey

5. You MUST Write down All Your Goals

No, you don’t because there is no actual study that can confirm this, only hyped theories. However, this advice has its benefits too because when you write your goal down, you can better assess it and emotionally connect to it. Additionally, you can break it down into smaller chunks and organize it.

6. Once a Superficial Person, Always a Superficial Person

There’s no such thing as ever-lasting conditions. If someone told you that you cannot change, he just served you the most terrible lie. People can change for the better. It’s just a matter of how much they want it and how much they do for it.

7. A Habit Is Formed in 30 Days

A true habit is only going to last if the activity itself becomes a part of your subconscious mind. If you truly want to implement a habit, keep doing it (even for more than 30 days) until it “becomes a part of you.” Moreover, there’s a big difference between spending 3 or 30 minutes on it each day.

8. Multi-Tasking Is a Key to Higher Productivity

Even though this myth has started to capture attention and critics in the last several years, it is still worth remarking. David Rock writes in one of the best self-development books of all time that “even doing two things at once” severely decreases your brain’s performance. Single tasking and pure focus are a better practice!

9. We Are Using only 10% of Our Brains

Wrong. This is a myth that has been debunked for over 100 years already, yet common people still adore promoting it. When you hit your head and become paralyzed, only then you’re not able to use 100% of your brain.

10. Thinking of Positive and Negative Ideas Takes the Same Amount of Energy

It is only the shifting from positive to negative and the other way around that actually wastes your energy. When you’re thinking of something positive and you keep doing that for a long time, it doesn’t feel tiring. However, if you change from positive to something negative, you’ll have an overwhelming feeling as your mind and body are trying to adapt to what you’re actually focusing on.

11. You Can Eliminate All Your Fears Now

Nope, we can’t eliminate our fears by just clapping our fingers and saying “poof, it’s gone”. Yes, it is true that self-control helps us overcome situational fears, yet our deepest fears lie in our subconscious minds. It takes energy, time, and dedication to actually fill those gaps and change their neuro-associations.

12. Happiness Is a Born Trait

First off, happiness isn’t a trait. It is a state of mind, or better said, a state of love that overwhelms us entirely. It is true though that almost 50% of our happiness is “inherited,” yet we still get 50% of space to work on ourselves and find our own ways to reach unique happiness.

13. Positive Thinking Equals Optimist Thinking

Positive is not enough. You can keep smiling or accepting your situation without getting angry, yet it may become much harder when bad things keep coming. However, if you’re optimistic, which means that you believe that your problems aren’t permanent, nor personal, nor pervasive, you can overcome huge boundaries with ease.

14. If You Keep Doing Something, You Will Succeed

This statement is, in fact, true. Only that it lacks something very important. In order to reach your final objective, you need to keep doing something while also optimizing it consistently. Only by giving yourself constant feedback will you be able to stay on the right path.

15. You Should Pay a Coach

You don’t need expensive coaches. What you need is probably a mentor — the person, who already performs something that you want to be good at in the future. Want marketing? Find a great marketer and get closer to him. Talk to him, and learn from his mindset.

“My mentor said, ‘Let’s go do it,’ not ‘You go do it.’ How powerful when someone says, ‘Let’s!’” – Jim Rohn

Yes, it is unreasonable to believe the statements that do not hold up against criticism. There is nothing easy, fast and ideal, especially when it comes to self-development and success. Only the constant analysis of your actions, attention to your own feelings, the ability to feel the situation and invest your effort where necessary, will lead you to the desired goal.

How do you know you are on the right path towards achieving your dreams? Please let us know by commenting below!

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Where Will You Be in 3 Years? How to Strategically Transform Your Life

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Let’s settle the debate once and for all. Which is more important? What you know or who you know? Well, as it turns out, it’s a trick question. The answer: Both.

Progressing in your career or in growing a business is never easy without the right relationships. But, when you finally do get to meet the kind of people who have the power to put you on the fast track to success, you’d better have something to contribute.

By the time we finish college, we’ve spent years and years developing what we know. This knowledge and competence is added upon as we gain on-the-job experience. But, there’s a good chance that you haven’t given nearly as much thought to developing the other side of the equation. Many of us don’t invest sufficient effort to expand who we know. Often, this pattern of behavior persists throughout a person’s entire career.

Don’t Be Random, Be Strategic

We have a tendency to view education very methodically. We plan it out years in advance. Seeing as how that’s only half the battle, shouldn’t we also create a plan to methodically build our network?

Throughout his impressive career, networking expert Keith Ferrazzi has created a method that could change the way you think about developing and nurturing business relationships.

In his bestselling book, Never Eat Alone, Ferrazzi writes: ”The tool I use is something I call the Relationship Action Plan. The most simple version of the plan is separated into three distinct parts: The first part is devoted to the development of the goals that will help you fulfill your mission. The second part is devoted to connecting those goals to the people, places, and things that will help you get the job done. And the third part helps you determine the best way to reach out to the people who will help you to accomplish your goals. This means choosing a medium to connect, but, more important, it means finding a way to lead with generosity.”

For many of us, networking refers to an activity during which we:

  • Congregate in large groups of people (many of whom may be unemployed)
  • Spend a few hours engaging in friendly small talk with strangers
  • Exchanging business cards, followed by never speaking to each other again

There are multiple flaws in this method, not the least of which being that it’s far too random. For the most part, you likely have no idea who’s going to be at the next networking event that you plan to attend. You don’t know if the people that you talk to will be in a position to help you achieve your goals.

“Personal relationships are always the key to good business. You can buy networking; you can’t buy friendships.” – Lindsay Fox

Is Research Creepy?

Take time to plan ahead. Do your best to determine which people have the greatest potential to assist you in accomplishing your professional objectives. Research these people and try to learn how you can meet, connect and build ongoing relationships with them.

As you do so, be sure to keep in mind what Ferrazzi says about “finding a way to lead with generosity”. When reaching out to these people, your first concern should be how to add meaningful value to their lives so that you can establish a positive relationship.

There are those who would probably consider this type of behavior to be borderline stalking. After all, the plan is to diligently study a group of people, some of whom are probably strangers. You want to learn about their likes, dislikes, habits, hobbies, family, friends, etc.

When you think about it this way, it is admittedly a little bit weird. That said, keep in mind that your goal is to create a mutually beneficial relationship by leading with generosity and value. In other words, you’re studying these people in order to learn how to best help them.

Obviously, there are boundaries that you don’t want to cross. Be tactful and respect privacy. Luckily, these days, you can often learn plenty with things like Google, social media and company websites. For the most part, this is information that the person has chosen to publicly share with the world.

In the end, this type of planning may still make you a little uncomfortable. But, honestly, those who refuse to leave their comfort zones tend to have a low propensity for success. If it makes you feel any better, think of yourself as a spy gathering vital intel that will help you accomplish your mission to do good and fight for justice.

What Do You Want Out Of Life?

In your efforts to create and execute your own “Relationship Action Plan” (RAP), remember that this is about achieving your goals… which means you need to have goals. Those goals need to be specific, well thought out and realistic. They also need to have deadlines. (Otherwise they’re just dreams.) 

“I list what I’d like to accomplish three years from today. I then work backward in both one-year and three-month increments to develop mid-and short-term goals that will help me reach my mission.” – Keith Ferrazzi

Where Do You See Yourself In 3 Years?

Imagine what you could accomplish after three years of executing a well thought out Relationship Action Plan!

You probably spent somewhere between one and two decades in school developing and increasing what you know. Now you can add to that knowledge by expanding who you know, so you can achieve the kind of success that we all want.

What do you think is most important: what you know or who you know? Let us know by commenting below!

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The Ugly Truth About Success and Why You’re Not Achieving It

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As human beings, most of us have this tendency to overcomplicate things. Maybe you’ve had this experience of trying to find success, but for some reason, it keeps eluding you.  In our pursuit to win, hardly anyone tells us the ugly truth about why most of our dreams seem to evade us.

Today, I’m going to share with you why so many people are held back from fully realizing their dreams as well as how to overcome those obstacles.   

By creating a resolve to not make these three mistakes and falling prey to these common weaknesses – we can shift our success and assure that our goals are attained. Getting to the finish line isn’t as hard as you think – that is, if you don’t let yourself fall into these three traps.

1. You Don’t Follow A Plan Long Enough

In today’s society, we’re used to microwave results – we are accustomed to zapping our results. Push a button and voila your food is ready. Watch a movie and just like that in two hours the hero has experienced pain, sadness, and triumph. Sadly though, success doesn’t happen with a push of a button or in a two-hour window.

An example of where I fell prey to this ‘fast results mentality’ was when I wanted to create my ideal body. I hired trainers, tried systems, diets, and fads, yet none of it worked…or so I told myself. But the reality was this: I gave up too soon. It was never the plan, the diet, or the trainer. It wasn’t my lack of expertise or lack of potential. The only thing that stopped me was my inability to stick to a plan long enough.

In my conversations with Jack Canfield, Elliott Hulse, Robert Kiyosaki and numerous highly-successful individuals, I’ve learned they all made a plan and stuck to it for years. If you want to achieve greatness, you must make the plan and then work that plan every single day. Be consistent and be willing to let the results blossom with time.

“Plan your work and work your plan.” – Napolean Hill

2. We Don’t Hold Our Belief Long Enough

Einstein was once asked if he was a genius, to which he gave a simple response:  “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” I love his response.

To live out and embody is one that has taken me a long time to understand. You see, for a long time I’ve had this terrible habit, it’s a habit I don’t want to admit to anyone I ever had. For decades, I’ve been a quitter. Not just outwardly, but in faith, I’ve tended to quit.

If you’re struggling to achieve some great result, it’s likely you’ve also come across this stumbling block. Losing faith too soon can make us quit when in reality a few more steps could mean reaching Graceland.

After working hard at attaining my ideal body, I finally achieved it. The plan was simple when I stuck to it because I ate specific food and worked out. I repeated this process every day for several years. It wasn’t instantaneous or easy, but it was simple. The same goes for writing, creating wealth, and creating just about anything – create a plan and work that system day-after-day.

It’s not sexy, but it’s the truth. Big wins are a bunch of small actions taken on a regular basis. A home is built one nail, one board, one screw at a time. Create a plan and work that plan.

In the world of Hollywood and marketing, we often dress up success in a fancy costume, fancy perfume, and an elegant story. But at the end of the day, every dress is stitched the same with threads of hope, intense hours of sewing, and focused labor.

3. We Don’t Seek Roads That Have Been Paved For Us

One of my favorite coaches of all time is Anthony Robbins. One of my favorite quotes from him is this: “Success leaves traces.” In my desire to achieve greatness, I’ve made one fatal mistake time after time. That mistake was always seeking to get there on my own, in my own way, without the help of anyone.

If I had listened to Anthony, I would have looked for those traces and followed them to the finish line. For those of us who are strong, capable, and want to achieve greatness, the desire to ‘do it our way’ can be our greatest strength or hindrance.

In my case, it made my work a lot harder. When I first tried to sell high-end consulting, I thought I could just figure it out. I didn’t want to listen to anyone, hire anyone, or study. I had achieved so much in business I thought I could do it my way. In doing so, I delayed my success.

Once I admitted to myself and others that I didn’t know how to pave the road to success in this area I opened up new roads to success. I was introduced to people who had already paved a way and thus made my work much easier. Instead of whacking my way through the weeds and wild growth of my own ignorance, I was shown the highway to success, and instead of weed-whacking, it was like driving a Ferrari down I-90.

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” – Tony Robbins

If you’re having a tough time achieving some results, I want you to have a finely tuned mind and heart which will take perseverance, follow-through, and faith. Lastly, it’s going to help you immensely if you can find a pre-paved path. If you want the highway to success, it does exist, it just takes looking for pre-paved paths and then working the plan to get there.

How are you making sure you become successful in life? Please share your thoughts below!

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Always Choose Love, Not Fear

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A few weeks ago, I met a woman that seriously changed my perspective. It was one of those chance encounters that I believe was meant to happen for a reason.

This woman had been involved in the same tragedy that I had been caught up in. As I shared my story, I quickly realized that hers was much more challenging. Her sister had lost her young baby to a man on drugs. Once she told me this, I was lost for words.

How does one even comprehend that situation? How do you not choose fear? How do you choose not to hate? These were the questions I pondered afterward.

Here’s why you should choose love:

 

1. Love conquers fear

As humans, the easiest decision we can make is to choose love. Love destroys our fear and helps us see a deeper meaning in everything that happens in life. Love is the ever-conquering force in our life that will happen if we let it.

When you’re surrounded by love, it’s impossible to be conquered by the crippling disease that is fear. Love restarts the heart like a defibrillator. Fear causes a heart attack that can kill you if you let it.

Always choose love over fear.

 

2. Everything happens for a reason

When this young girls sister lost her baby, she chose to believe that it was meant to happen for a reason. She chose to believe that the loss of life would mean something far greater than death itself. This opinion was the result of love being the only answer she could comprehend.

After the tragedy, her community got around her and showed her more love than she had ever known. The death of her nephew started her entire family on a different path.

“While they couldn’t control the circumstances of the young baby’s death, what they could control was love”

They allowed the love that everybody showed them to take them to an entirely different level. Some days were good and other days were a nightmare.

Through it all, they chose to believe in love. Love is nothing more than a belief. It can only enter your life when you believe it exists. You must be accepting and you have to give love at the same time. They are the rules of the love game.

 

3. Think love not hate

When this tragic event occurred, it would have been so easy to hate the man hooked on drugs who caused this young baby to die. This girl taught me that hate has no place in the healing process. As a matter of fact, hate has no place in our lives.

Feelings of hate can cause us to go into a downward spiral. This spiral involves us becoming very selfish and only focusing on our own needs. From this place, we can’t do the inner work required to come back from adversity. Train your brain to always assume love as the default reason for everything.

“Spending our precious energy and time on this planet hating others for things we can’t control, will block us from our dreams”

Hate will transport us to a land far far away that resembles hell. Hell is where your nightmares come true, your fears are born and the person you become is something you despise for eternity.

 

4. Love is the best feeling in the world

There are lots of types of love but no matter what; love is the best feeling in the world. When you choose love your life seems extraordinary. You feel like you are on cloud nine and nothing can stop you. Love helps you to connect with your fellow human beings on an entirely different level.

Your success in life compounds because love attracts everything you could ever want in your life. You can’t be pissed off at the world when love is your default choice.

Love is what brings us closer together. Love is what creates human life through the coming together of a man and women. Love is what lights us up and fuels our intuition. Seek out love and you’ll know what it feels like to be invincible. If the worst happens, and a young baby close to you is killed, you’ll have all the answers.

 

5. Choose love by giving love

The best gift you can give while you’re alive is love. It costs nothing, but it takes every part of you to give. If a tragedy like the one described above occurs, you have the opportunity to give love.

When you do so, and you go through a difficult time, love finds its way back into your life. Choosing love is the beginner level: giving love is the expert level.

There are so many ways to give love. You could:

– Hug someone
– Do something nice for someone
– Write something beautiful to someone
– Be there for someone who is going through a tough time
– Smile at someone who looks down

The list is endless. Love is endless. Your capacity to give love is endless. What comes into your life can also be endless when you choose love. Think about that for a minute.

 

6. Love can cause a deranged man or women to see the light

 

If you talked to a terrorist and told them that you loved them, what would happen? While I don’t know for sure, what I do know is that there is a possibility you could interrupt their pattern. Part of the reason they do what they do is that they haven’t felt love.

Because they lack love in their life, they have adopted a set of false beliefs in the hope that this will fill the void they feel, due to the lack of love they’ve experienced.

 

“Terrorists, criminals and people on drugs, all have one thing in common: they need to be shown what love is so they can conquer the fear that’s been controlling their life – the fear that’s driven them to madness and to harm people”

 

***Final thought***

It’s time to wake up and stand for love. It’s what we were born to do. It takes no effort when we try it. Love can save us from just about anything. Love is about understanding that we are all on the same mission and that ultimately we are all part of the same cause and the same existence.

When you understand the idea of love, your consciousness goes to another level. People may begin to think that you’ve transcended their reality and that you have loads of wisdom. What’s really happened is that you’ve discovered the most powerful force on Earth: LOVE.

RIP to the young mothers baby. Love will transcend everything and bring you happiness again. I hope you can find it in your hearts to one day forgive the mean that caused you so much pain. Show him the love that he’s been lacking so desperately.

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15 Myths About Personal Development & How to Leverage Them

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Self-development is a cool trend, and modern culture has even created a cult around personal development. It is so powerful that we accept its doctrines without any analysis because we get soaked into its promises of becoming “better people” that we unconsciously decide to spend our money on those promises. However, many of these tips and suggestions are somehow thrown to us without additional information on how to actually leverage them. (more…)

Zoe Carter, ESL teacher, skillful blogger and essay tutor at SuperiorPapers.com. I am always in search for new ideas in online advertising, search engine optimization and business writing.

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  1. Eric

    Mar 22, 2015 at 5:34 pm

    I am currently doing exactly what you are writing about. I am finally bringing forward an idea to reality after marinating on it for nearly 10-years. The biggest hurdle was expertise, but now the net allows collaboration with expertise in every field at low cost and ta da….my idea is emerging before my eyes. Watching a thought manifest into reality is almost indescribable! Great blog today!

  2. CrazyMonkey

    Feb 3, 2015 at 6:32 pm

    This is a great article. I have seen the steps laid out in the experiment many times in my previous readings. However, what I struggle with are two things:

    1) FEAR – I guess as humans, you can never get rid of fear. However, you can overcome it, but how?? I struggle with the general mentality of being fearless.

    2) Step #4 mentioned setting an intention. Is that enough? For exmple, for the longest time now, I have been wanted a brand new BMW M3. I am certainly making enough money to accomplish this dream. But, I can’t seem to convince myself that I deserve it. How to come over this?

  3. Tufail Cheema

    Jan 29, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Very enlightening and thought provoking.
    I have just retired and now I am in my own business. I am going to apply it. Although it might not be easy but I will try to control because I am determined to do.

    Thanks a lot !

    Laura Clarke

  4. Imran Soudagar

    Jan 26, 2015 at 2:11 pm

    Thanks for the awesome article, the biggest problem most people face in their life is making decisions. I have seen people struggle with that and they get totally confused when there are more than 2 choices. It takes time to master this technique. But not impossible.

  5. Ganesh

    Jan 19, 2015 at 1:04 pm

    Trust me for a moment. I have a great story to inspire you all. Months ago during mid September 2014 I started reading a book ” think and grow rich”. In between somewhere 50th to 52nd page I was so excited about the thought of desire, emotions, faith, to achieve any goal, that I stopped reading where it was and concentrated on the wall mounted fan in front of me. Just to instantly test the theory in the book I wished with all my emotions and faith to turn the fan ON on its own. My time frame was 10 min but it didn’t work. I was bit depressed but was still hoping for a miracle to happen. For next half hour there was no sign. After that I felt asleep. To my greatest surprise in life around 5 am in morning I started feeling cold so searched for blanket around in my sleep and then I realized that the fan was on. This incident shocked me with ultimate faith in the book. This might seem to many of you a coincidence or a lie but the door of my room was locked in and I don’t have any past experience of getting up in my sleep.

  6. Tom Phillips

    Jan 15, 2015 at 11:41 am

    Hey Laura,

    Brilliant post! Really breaks it down and is very understandable.

    I had the same issue as Steve above, great comment also, with fear. Once you overcome your fear, break your goals down into easy to achieve chunks and start to focus solely on the feeling of already achieving that goal, things start to happen much quicker than you think!

    Keep up the good work 🙂

  7. Asino

    Jan 11, 2015 at 7:32 am

    So, I read this article yesterday and decided to try it out immediately. I’ve been having these backup phone chargers that I have been trying to sell for months. I would advertise them on Facebook and get 2 or 3 orders. Sales were going so slow that I forgot about them and left them laying around in my closet.

    Yesterday I decided that I want to sell all of them in the space 4 days. I then visualised myself being surrounded by people pushing their money into my face, wanting to buy the chargers. My next step was to advertise on that same Facebook page that gave me mediocre results in the past. The response it got exceeded all my expectations and lo and behold, all the chargers sold out that same day 😀

    I feel like I should be giving you a cut lol.
    Thank you for this great article.

  8. Zach

    Jan 7, 2015 at 10:01 pm

    Great great article. Here’s a quick little story for you…

    In 2003, I was mad down on my luck. Lost everything to a house fire, flunked out of college and had littler $.45 to my name. Moved in with my now inlaws and came home from a dead end job to my now wife watching Oprah. Everyone was talking about this book that changed their life called “The Secret”. I bought, and thought it was a bunch of crock, but told myself – literally – what else do I have to lose.

    I chose to set a goal of an extra $100 in the next 2 weeks. That same day – THAT SAME DAY – my father inlaw asked if I could sell his old tool bench and if I did, I could keep the money. Do you know what it sold for the next week?

    $100. My life has never been the same since. I have a goal in life to have more people understand that focusing on what you want is WAY better than what you don’t.

    Again – great great article!

  9. Daria

    Jan 7, 2015 at 6:12 pm

    This was just what I needed to read today! I retired from teaching Visual Arts in June 2013 with the intent of finding a second career. The first year I did a lot of substituting, which was fine, but not very fulfilling. It did allow me to adjust some what to my retirement and sort through 37 years of teaching materials. Last January, a friend of mine suggested, if I wasn’t happy where I was living and doing, why not considered moving elsewhere? That has been my thought and focus ever since on a daily basis. It’s now 6 months until my lease is up and the count down is on!
    My plan is to move to Lexington, Kentucky to work for the university is some capacity. I receive daily housing and employment updates online and the house I love is my screen saver. Next step is creating a resume and applying. I’m excited and can’t wait! I know that my positive thoughts and visualizing are key.
    Thank you for such a well written article. It was meant for me!
    Daria

  10. hashim ca

    Jan 7, 2015 at 5:32 pm

    nice, it feels like we all are special

  11. Shane

    Jan 7, 2015 at 1:08 am

    Good article to remember. Really, I need no convincing, as this is stuff I’ve seen already. Most recently, for quite a while I’ve actively wanted a new jacket for work but couldn’t quite justify it. Then the company Christmas party. They drew my name for the $300 heated jacket. I like the structured approach you’ve outlined. Will remember this.

  12. Steve Reed

    Jan 6, 2015 at 7:50 pm

    Great article Laura

    The old adage that ‘thoughts become things’ seems to be true indeed 🙂

    One thing I have really learned in recent years, hacving struggled with all the fears you mention, is that in the end, setting lofty goals for the long term is awesome, but breaking that down into much smaller goals is where the gold is. 14 days, like you said, is a good starting place. And from there, I tend to work out the daily actions that I need to put in place to reach that mini goal.

    Then, I work out a simple trigger action that will get me doing those daily things. As an example. I am an author, had some bestsellers on Amazon, but the idea of writing 30K words in a month is kinda scary, although not hard to achieve.

    My trigger action, is packing my laptop in the morning and going to the car. That’s it. If that happens, I open the gate, drive into town, buy a pot of tea at my fave coffeeshop, and come home a couple of hours later with 2000 extra words written. Always. I forget the goal, I just concentrate on the trigger action, and the rest takes care of itself.

    I’d recommend this to anyone who struggles to reach their goals, and combined with your awesome tips, making progress is not as hard as it may appear.

    Thanks for a cool article, I learned a lot

    -S

    • CrazyMonkey

      Feb 3, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Great comment 🙂

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15 Myths About Personal Development & How to Leverage Them

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Self-development is a cool trend, and modern culture has even created a cult around personal development. It is so powerful that we accept its doctrines without any analysis because we get soaked into its promises of becoming “better people” that we unconsciously decide to spend our money on those promises. However, many of these tips and suggestions are somehow thrown to us without additional information on how to actually leverage them.

Let’s analyze some of them together and bust some myths that have influenced your life too much already:

1. Personal Development Is Simply Positive Thinking

Many people don’t understand the notion that positive thinking is merely a component of the entire personal development “picture.” For some individuals, positive thinking is a much-needed aspect of their daily lives. Eliminate this misinterpretation in your mind once and for all.

2. Personal Development Isn’t for Everybody

As stated earlier, the personal development path is present in everyone’s life. It isn’t a strict skill, activity, or attitude that can be placed and interpreted in just one way because everyone is different. Still, the need for growth is hidden beneath our subconscious minds.

3. If You Tell Your Goals, You Will Fail to Achieve Them

Wrong. There are two types of people: the ones who share their goals and improve their performance, and the others who prefer keeping everything for themselves before they get any results. Find what works best for you!

4. Anything Is Possible if You Want It Bad Enough

This is a dream that has been sold for many years now. The “Law of Attraction” suggests that you can simply attract success by visually creating it every day and by desiring it a lot. However, it doesn’t state that you need to work 1000 hours, fail 33 times, and recover 33 times.

“The biggest adventure you can take is to live the life of your dreams.” – Oprah Winfrey

5. You MUST Write down All Your Goals

No, you don’t because there is no actual study that can confirm this, only hyped theories. However, this advice has its benefits too because when you write your goal down, you can better assess it and emotionally connect to it. Additionally, you can break it down into smaller chunks and organize it.

6. Once a Superficial Person, Always a Superficial Person

There’s no such thing as ever-lasting conditions. If someone told you that you cannot change, he just served you the most terrible lie. People can change for the better. It’s just a matter of how much they want it and how much they do for it.

7. A Habit Is Formed in 30 Days

A true habit is only going to last if the activity itself becomes a part of your subconscious mind. If you truly want to implement a habit, keep doing it (even for more than 30 days) until it “becomes a part of you.” Moreover, there’s a big difference between spending 3 or 30 minutes on it each day.

8. Multi-Tasking Is a Key to Higher Productivity

Even though this myth has started to capture attention and critics in the last several years, it is still worth remarking. David Rock writes in one of the best self-development books of all time that “even doing two things at once” severely decreases your brain’s performance. Single tasking and pure focus are a better practice!

9. We Are Using only 10% of Our Brains

Wrong. This is a myth that has been debunked for over 100 years already, yet common people still adore promoting it. When you hit your head and become paralyzed, only then you’re not able to use 100% of your brain.

10. Thinking of Positive and Negative Ideas Takes the Same Amount of Energy

It is only the shifting from positive to negative and the other way around that actually wastes your energy. When you’re thinking of something positive and you keep doing that for a long time, it doesn’t feel tiring. However, if you change from positive to something negative, you’ll have an overwhelming feeling as your mind and body are trying to adapt to what you’re actually focusing on.

11. You Can Eliminate All Your Fears Now

Nope, we can’t eliminate our fears by just clapping our fingers and saying “poof, it’s gone”. Yes, it is true that self-control helps us overcome situational fears, yet our deepest fears lie in our subconscious minds. It takes energy, time, and dedication to actually fill those gaps and change their neuro-associations.

12. Happiness Is a Born Trait

First off, happiness isn’t a trait. It is a state of mind, or better said, a state of love that overwhelms us entirely. It is true though that almost 50% of our happiness is “inherited,” yet we still get 50% of space to work on ourselves and find our own ways to reach unique happiness.

13. Positive Thinking Equals Optimist Thinking

Positive is not enough. You can keep smiling or accepting your situation without getting angry, yet it may become much harder when bad things keep coming. However, if you’re optimistic, which means that you believe that your problems aren’t permanent, nor personal, nor pervasive, you can overcome huge boundaries with ease.

14. If You Keep Doing Something, You Will Succeed

This statement is, in fact, true. Only that it lacks something very important. In order to reach your final objective, you need to keep doing something while also optimizing it consistently. Only by giving yourself constant feedback will you be able to stay on the right path.

15. You Should Pay a Coach

You don’t need expensive coaches. What you need is probably a mentor — the person, who already performs something that you want to be good at in the future. Want marketing? Find a great marketer and get closer to him. Talk to him, and learn from his mindset.

“My mentor said, ‘Let’s go do it,’ not ‘You go do it.’ How powerful when someone says, ‘Let’s!’” – Jim Rohn

Yes, it is unreasonable to believe the statements that do not hold up against criticism. There is nothing easy, fast and ideal, especially when it comes to self-development and success. Only the constant analysis of your actions, attention to your own feelings, the ability to feel the situation and invest your effort where necessary, will lead you to the desired goal.

How do you know you are on the right path towards achieving your dreams? Please let us know by commenting below!

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Let’s settle the debate once and for all. Which is more important? What you know or who you know? Well, as it turns out, it’s a trick question. The answer: Both.

Progressing in your career or in growing a business is never easy without the right relationships. But, when you finally do get to meet the kind of people who have the power to put you on the fast track to success, you’d better have something to contribute.

By the time we finish college, we’ve spent years and years developing what we know. This knowledge and competence is added upon as we gain on-the-job experience. But, there’s a good chance that you haven’t given nearly as much thought to developing the other side of the equation. Many of us don’t invest sufficient effort to expand who we know. Often, this pattern of behavior persists throughout a person’s entire career.

Don’t Be Random, Be Strategic

We have a tendency to view education very methodically. We plan it out years in advance. Seeing as how that’s only half the battle, shouldn’t we also create a plan to methodically build our network?

Throughout his impressive career, networking expert Keith Ferrazzi has created a method that could change the way you think about developing and nurturing business relationships.

In his bestselling book, Never Eat Alone, Ferrazzi writes: ”The tool I use is something I call the Relationship Action Plan. The most simple version of the plan is separated into three distinct parts: The first part is devoted to the development of the goals that will help you fulfill your mission. The second part is devoted to connecting those goals to the people, places, and things that will help you get the job done. And the third part helps you determine the best way to reach out to the people who will help you to accomplish your goals. This means choosing a medium to connect, but, more important, it means finding a way to lead with generosity.”

For many of us, networking refers to an activity during which we:

  • Congregate in large groups of people (many of whom may be unemployed)
  • Spend a few hours engaging in friendly small talk with strangers
  • Exchanging business cards, followed by never speaking to each other again

There are multiple flaws in this method, not the least of which being that it’s far too random. For the most part, you likely have no idea who’s going to be at the next networking event that you plan to attend. You don’t know if the people that you talk to will be in a position to help you achieve your goals.

“Personal relationships are always the key to good business. You can buy networking; you can’t buy friendships.” – Lindsay Fox

Is Research Creepy?

Take time to plan ahead. Do your best to determine which people have the greatest potential to assist you in accomplishing your professional objectives. Research these people and try to learn how you can meet, connect and build ongoing relationships with them.

As you do so, be sure to keep in mind what Ferrazzi says about “finding a way to lead with generosity”. When reaching out to these people, your first concern should be how to add meaningful value to their lives so that you can establish a positive relationship.

There are those who would probably consider this type of behavior to be borderline stalking. After all, the plan is to diligently study a group of people, some of whom are probably strangers. You want to learn about their likes, dislikes, habits, hobbies, family, friends, etc.

When you think about it this way, it is admittedly a little bit weird. That said, keep in mind that your goal is to create a mutually beneficial relationship by leading with generosity and value. In other words, you’re studying these people in order to learn how to best help them.

Obviously, there are boundaries that you don’t want to cross. Be tactful and respect privacy. Luckily, these days, you can often learn plenty with things like Google, social media and company websites. For the most part, this is information that the person has chosen to publicly share with the world.

In the end, this type of planning may still make you a little uncomfortable. But, honestly, those who refuse to leave their comfort zones tend to have a low propensity for success. If it makes you feel any better, think of yourself as a spy gathering vital intel that will help you accomplish your mission to do good and fight for justice.

What Do You Want Out Of Life?

In your efforts to create and execute your own “Relationship Action Plan” (RAP), remember that this is about achieving your goals… which means you need to have goals. Those goals need to be specific, well thought out and realistic. They also need to have deadlines. (Otherwise they’re just dreams.) 

“I list what I’d like to accomplish three years from today. I then work backward in both one-year and three-month increments to develop mid-and short-term goals that will help me reach my mission.” – Keith Ferrazzi

Where Do You See Yourself In 3 Years?

Imagine what you could accomplish after three years of executing a well thought out Relationship Action Plan!

You probably spent somewhere between one and two decades in school developing and increasing what you know. Now you can add to that knowledge by expanding who you know, so you can achieve the kind of success that we all want.

What do you think is most important: what you know or who you know? Let us know by commenting below!

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The Ugly Truth About Success and Why You’re Not Achieving It

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As human beings, most of us have this tendency to overcomplicate things. Maybe you’ve had this experience of trying to find success, but for some reason, it keeps eluding you.  In our pursuit to win, hardly anyone tells us the ugly truth about why most of our dreams seem to evade us.

Today, I’m going to share with you why so many people are held back from fully realizing their dreams as well as how to overcome those obstacles.   

By creating a resolve to not make these three mistakes and falling prey to these common weaknesses – we can shift our success and assure that our goals are attained. Getting to the finish line isn’t as hard as you think – that is, if you don’t let yourself fall into these three traps.

1. You Don’t Follow A Plan Long Enough

In today’s society, we’re used to microwave results – we are accustomed to zapping our results. Push a button and voila your food is ready. Watch a movie and just like that in two hours the hero has experienced pain, sadness, and triumph. Sadly though, success doesn’t happen with a push of a button or in a two-hour window.

An example of where I fell prey to this ‘fast results mentality’ was when I wanted to create my ideal body. I hired trainers, tried systems, diets, and fads, yet none of it worked…or so I told myself. But the reality was this: I gave up too soon. It was never the plan, the diet, or the trainer. It wasn’t my lack of expertise or lack of potential. The only thing that stopped me was my inability to stick to a plan long enough.

In my conversations with Jack Canfield, Elliott Hulse, Robert Kiyosaki and numerous highly-successful individuals, I’ve learned they all made a plan and stuck to it for years. If you want to achieve greatness, you must make the plan and then work that plan every single day. Be consistent and be willing to let the results blossom with time.

“Plan your work and work your plan.” – Napolean Hill

2. We Don’t Hold Our Belief Long Enough

Einstein was once asked if he was a genius, to which he gave a simple response:  “It’s not that I’m so smart, it’s just that I stay with problems longer.” I love his response.

To live out and embody is one that has taken me a long time to understand. You see, for a long time I’ve had this terrible habit, it’s a habit I don’t want to admit to anyone I ever had. For decades, I’ve been a quitter. Not just outwardly, but in faith, I’ve tended to quit.

If you’re struggling to achieve some great result, it’s likely you’ve also come across this stumbling block. Losing faith too soon can make us quit when in reality a few more steps could mean reaching Graceland.

After working hard at attaining my ideal body, I finally achieved it. The plan was simple when I stuck to it because I ate specific food and worked out. I repeated this process every day for several years. It wasn’t instantaneous or easy, but it was simple. The same goes for writing, creating wealth, and creating just about anything – create a plan and work that system day-after-day.

It’s not sexy, but it’s the truth. Big wins are a bunch of small actions taken on a regular basis. A home is built one nail, one board, one screw at a time. Create a plan and work that plan.

In the world of Hollywood and marketing, we often dress up success in a fancy costume, fancy perfume, and an elegant story. But at the end of the day, every dress is stitched the same with threads of hope, intense hours of sewing, and focused labor.

3. We Don’t Seek Roads That Have Been Paved For Us

One of my favorite coaches of all time is Anthony Robbins. One of my favorite quotes from him is this: “Success leaves traces.” In my desire to achieve greatness, I’ve made one fatal mistake time after time. That mistake was always seeking to get there on my own, in my own way, without the help of anyone.

If I had listened to Anthony, I would have looked for those traces and followed them to the finish line. For those of us who are strong, capable, and want to achieve greatness, the desire to ‘do it our way’ can be our greatest strength or hindrance.

In my case, it made my work a lot harder. When I first tried to sell high-end consulting, I thought I could just figure it out. I didn’t want to listen to anyone, hire anyone, or study. I had achieved so much in business I thought I could do it my way. In doing so, I delayed my success.

Once I admitted to myself and others that I didn’t know how to pave the road to success in this area I opened up new roads to success. I was introduced to people who had already paved a way and thus made my work much easier. Instead of whacking my way through the weeds and wild growth of my own ignorance, I was shown the highway to success, and instead of weed-whacking, it was like driving a Ferrari down I-90.

“Successful people ask better questions, and as a result, they get better answers.” – Tony Robbins

If you’re having a tough time achieving some results, I want you to have a finely tuned mind and heart which will take perseverance, follow-through, and faith. Lastly, it’s going to help you immensely if you can find a pre-paved path. If you want the highway to success, it does exist, it just takes looking for pre-paved paths and then working the plan to get there.

How are you making sure you become successful in life? Please share your thoughts below!

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Always Choose Love, Not Fear

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A few weeks ago, I met a woman that seriously changed my perspective. It was one of those chance encounters that I believe was meant to happen for a reason.

This woman had been involved in the same tragedy that I had been caught up in. As I shared my story, I quickly realized that hers was much more challenging. Her sister had lost her young baby to a man on drugs. Once she told me this, I was lost for words.

How does one even comprehend that situation? How do you not choose fear? How do you choose not to hate? These were the questions I pondered afterward.

Here’s why you should choose love:

 

1. Love conquers fear

As humans, the easiest decision we can make is to choose love. Love destroys our fear and helps us see a deeper meaning in everything that happens in life. Love is the ever-conquering force in our life that will happen if we let it.

When you’re surrounded by love, it’s impossible to be conquered by the crippling disease that is fear. Love restarts the heart like a defibrillator. Fear causes a heart attack that can kill you if you let it.

Always choose love over fear.

 

2. Everything happens for a reason

When this young girls sister lost her baby, she chose to believe that it was meant to happen for a reason. She chose to believe that the loss of life would mean something far greater than death itself. This opinion was the result of love being the only answer she could comprehend.

After the tragedy, her community got around her and showed her more love than she had ever known. The death of her nephew started her entire family on a different path.

“While they couldn’t control the circumstances of the young baby’s death, what they could control was love”

They allowed the love that everybody showed them to take them to an entirely different level. Some days were good and other days were a nightmare.

Through it all, they chose to believe in love. Love is nothing more than a belief. It can only enter your life when you believe it exists. You must be accepting and you have to give love at the same time. They are the rules of the love game.

 

3. Think love not hate

When this tragic event occurred, it would have been so easy to hate the man hooked on drugs who caused this young baby to die. This girl taught me that hate has no place in the healing process. As a matter of fact, hate has no place in our lives.

Feelings of hate can cause us to go into a downward spiral. This spiral involves us becoming very selfish and only focusing on our own needs. From this place, we can’t do the inner work required to come back from adversity. Train your brain to always assume love as the default reason for everything.

“Spending our precious energy and time on this planet hating others for things we can’t control, will block us from our dreams”

Hate will transport us to a land far far away that resembles hell. Hell is where your nightmares come true, your fears are born and the person you become is something you despise for eternity.

 

4. Love is the best feeling in the world

There are lots of types of love but no matter what; love is the best feeling in the world. When you choose love your life seems extraordinary. You feel like you are on cloud nine and nothing can stop you. Love helps you to connect with your fellow human beings on an entirely different level.

Your success in life compounds because love attracts everything you could ever want in your life. You can’t be pissed off at the world when love is your default choice.

Love is what brings us closer together. Love is what creates human life through the coming together of a man and women. Love is what lights us up and fuels our intuition. Seek out love and you’ll know what it feels like to be invincible. If the worst happens, and a young baby close to you is killed, you’ll have all the answers.

 

5. Choose love by giving love

The best gift you can give while you’re alive is love. It costs nothing, but it takes every part of you to give. If a tragedy like the one described above occurs, you have the opportunity to give love.

When you do so, and you go through a difficult time, love finds its way back into your life. Choosing love is the beginner level: giving love is the expert level.

There are so many ways to give love. You could:

– Hug someone
– Do something nice for someone
– Write something beautiful to someone
– Be there for someone who is going through a tough time
– Smile at someone who looks down

The list is endless. Love is endless. Your capacity to give love is endless. What comes into your life can also be endless when you choose love. Think about that for a minute.

 

6. Love can cause a deranged man or women to see the light

 

If you talked to a terrorist and told them that you loved them, what would happen? While I don’t know for sure, what I do know is that there is a possibility you could interrupt their pattern. Part of the reason they do what they do is that they haven’t felt love.

Because they lack love in their life, they have adopted a set of false beliefs in the hope that this will fill the void they feel, due to the lack of love they’ve experienced.

 

“Terrorists, criminals and people on drugs, all have one thing in common: they need to be shown what love is so they can conquer the fear that’s been controlling their life – the fear that’s driven them to madness and to harm people”

 

***Final thought***

It’s time to wake up and stand for love. It’s what we were born to do. It takes no effort when we try it. Love can save us from just about anything. Love is about understanding that we are all on the same mission and that ultimately we are all part of the same cause and the same existence.

When you understand the idea of love, your consciousness goes to another level. People may begin to think that you’ve transcended their reality and that you have loads of wisdom. What’s really happened is that you’ve discovered the most powerful force on Earth: LOVE.

RIP to the young mothers baby. Love will transcend everything and bring you happiness again. I hope you can find it in your hearts to one day forgive the mean that caused you so much pain. Show him the love that he’s been lacking so desperately.

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