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Why should someone grant you something you desire of them if you yourself do not think you deserve it? People give to those who are emotionally and mentally ready to receive. The mindset of receptivity is something that can be cultivated and expanded upon to an unlimited degree. You are the window through which others can glimpse a future they want to be part of.

Embody your the future you want solidly in your own mind, because with a compelling enough vision you can persuade anyone, regardless of their previous outlook.

The way you feel about yourself will ultimately determine how others treat you. They will subconsciously sense what you feel worthy of.

Invariably, people will play the same role even if they move from one set of peers to another. They find themselves inhabiting the same status and the same role as in their previous clique. Even though this new group may not know them at all, they can nonetheless feel the inner status in their psychology.

If they change their inner status that will be their new standard. If you begin to truly appreciate yourself and who you are as a person, people in your life will reflect that. This change will be a lifelong transformation that you can keep with you always.

The inner status of receiving is a process that is cultivated from positive emotions towards self. It’s increasing your inner worthiness to a feeling of deserving anything you desire.

How does one cultivate this coveted inner status of receiving? The answer lies in forming positive emotions toward self. This act will enhance your inner worthiness and allow you to feel deserving of anything and everything you desire with an open and sincere heart.

“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection” – Buddha

You begin this process by guiding yourself into a very positive state and confirming your inner worthiness. Through repetition of self-affirming self-talk, you begin to push a boulder over the critical tipping point.

You can make yourself a sentry at the gate of your mind allowing in only thoughts that reinforce positive ideals of self. The definitions and labels you have placed on yourself regarding your self-worth will come at you from all angles.

Because of this, instead of solely aiming to eliminate the old ones, you must replace them with empowering ones. Affirm your confidence and understand that you are worthy of what you want. You deserve to have the most phenomenal life possible.

Change How You Feel, Change Your Relationship

Positive emotions elicit positive responses. The greatest influence you have on any relationship is about how you feel about the other person. Relationships including friendships, family, and business associates are not based on logic, they are based on emotions.

When you love, appreciate and admire people, because they can feel it. There is a natural drawing together; a certain magnetic chemistry that happens. By sitting down and deliberately searching for aspects to appreciate, you can dramatically change any relationship for the better.

You can draw out completely different characteristics than those that you have previously been observing. In addition, reinforce and expand upon ones that are already meaningful and most appreciated. You can create deep rapport with people important to you, business or personal.

The key is picturing the relationship as you would prefer it, and as though the outcome is already in hand. The goal is to condition yourself into the feeling state where you are ready to receive your desired outcome.

You can create a list of positive characteristics that you can appreciate about that person, and in time diminish the negative characteristics, thereby tipping the balance toward goodness, gratitude, and benevolence.

“My most brilliant achievement was my ability to be able to persuade my wife to marry me.” – Winston Churchill

Envision the outcome the way you desire it to be, but also actively live in the emotional state of that which is desired. The emotions will thereby become established solidly within you and the effect on all aspects of this relationship will prove profound. By delving deep into yourself and finding your sense of self-worthiness along with encouraging others to do the same, you will see them respond immediately.

Persuasion is about changing the emotional response from another party. Creating a strong positive emotional state will inspire people to continuously give back. Others will readily take cues from you when you start to believe that you are worthy and deserving.

It is human nature to gravitate toward what feels constructive or affirmatory and away from what feels damaging.

If you make it a habit to consistently instill positive emotions in another, that person will have a great positive association with you.

The most powerful tool you have at your disposal is your own positive mindset which encompasses encouraging words and the radiation of good vibes. When you appreciate someone over a short time, they will be influenced to appreciate you.

People will give back in a similar quantity to that which you are willing to give them. This is the secret of persuasion.

Share with us your tips and advice on persuading people!

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Zachariah Bourne is the Author of the upcoming book "Blissed Out". He’s a writer for Success Magazine and Huff Post and Co-Authors articles with Jacquelyn Denissoff. As a producer, songwriter and artist living in NYC, he uses music as a way to spread the message of positivity to the world. Follow him on Instagram or go check out his YouTube.

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But here’s the truth: there’s no success without sacrifice. You’ll need to give up comfort, excuses, and sometimes even social approval to accomplish your goals.

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1. Take Short Breaks After Finishing a Task

Psychology shows it’s important to reward positive behaviour.

After completing a big task or finishing a book, take five minutes to walk, stretch, or simply breathe. This quick reset helps your brain recharge and strengthens focus.

Many great writers swear by morning walks, solitude, and reflection can unlock creativity.

But if you refuse to take breaks, don’t be surprised when burnout hits. Your brain needs recovery time just as much as your body does.

2. Schedule Your Most Important Tasks First

Multitasking kills productivity. If you want to get more done, try time blocking, a method where you dedicate set periods for specific tasks.

Productivity expert Caitlin Hughes explains, “Time blocking involves scheduling blocks of time for your tasks throughout the day.”

For example, if you’re a writer:

  • Research your topic at night.

  • Write your first draft in the morning (don’t worry if it’s rough).

  • Edit in the afternoon, great writing comes from rewriting.

You can’t buy more time. Use it intentionally and without regret.

3. Eliminate Distractions from Your Workspace

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According to Inc. Magazine, it takes an average of 23 minutes to recover from a distraction. That’s nearly half an hour of lost productivity every time you check your phone.

Put your phone away. Close unnecessary tabs. And yes, limit your Netflix binges.

Meeting deadlines consistently is one of the fastest ways to stand out and earn respect.

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Entrepreneur Derek Sivers once said, “Everything is my fault.”

This mindset doesn’t mean self-blame; it means self-ownership. Stop pointing fingers, making excuses, or waiting for others to change.

If your habits (like smoking or drinking too much) hold you back, it’s time to make better choices. Your friends can’t live your dreams for you; only you can.

5. Invest an Hour a Day in Learning New Skills

Knowledge compounds over time.

Whether you read books, take online courses, or practise a craft, consistent learning gives you a competitive edge.

I used to struggle with academic writing, but I improved by studying the work of great authors and applying what I learned.

Your past doesn’t define you; your actions do. Every new skill adds another tool to your arsenal and makes you more unstoppable.

6. Develop a Growth Mindset

Psychologist Dr. Carol Dweck introduced the concept of fixed vs. growth mindset.

  • A fixed mindset believes success is based on natural talent.

  • A growth mindset believes success comes from effort and learning.

Choose the growth mindset. Embrace challenges. See failures as feedback. In today’s fast-moving digital world, adaptability is your biggest advantage.

7. Learn Marketing to Reach People Who Need You

I once believed marketing was manipulative, until I realised it’s about helping people solve problems.

If your work provides genuine value, marketing is how you let others know it exists. Even Apple spends billions on it.

Don’t be ashamed to promote your skills or business. Without visibility, your ideas will never reach the people who need them most.

Creative professionals who understand marketing and sales have an unfair advantage.

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Good mentors can fast-track your growth.

While mentorship often costs money, it’s one of the best investments you can make. Great mentors don’t care about titles; they care about your progress.

If you don’t have access to a mentor yet, books are your silent mentors. Read the best in your field, take notes, and apply what resonates.

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Author Ryan Holiday once said, “I don’t believe in myself. I have evidence.”

Confidence doesn’t come from shouting affirmations into the mirror; it comes from proof. Doing hard things, keeping promises to yourself, and following through.

When you consistently take action, your brain gathers evidence that you can handle whatever comes next. That’s real confidence, grounded, earned, and unshakable.

10. Focus on Your Strengths

Your strengths reveal where your greatest impact lies.

If people compliment you on something often, it’s a clue. Lean into it.

A former professor once told me I was creative, and that simple comment gave me the confidence to go all in. I studied creativity, applied it daily, and turned it into my career advantage.

Double down on your strengths. That’s how you build momentum and mastery.

11. Identify and Challenge Your Limiting Beliefs

Your beliefs shape your reality.

For years, I believed I couldn’t be a great writer because of my chronic tinnitus and astigmatism, sensory challenges that made concentration difficult. But over time, I realised those struggles made me more disciplined, observant, and empathetic.

Your limitations can become your greatest motivators if you let them.

Avoid shortcuts. Growth takes time, but it’s always worth it.

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Becoming productive, successful, and confident isn’t about working harder than everyone else. It’s about working smarter, consistently, and intentionally.

You don’t need to overhaul your life overnight. Start small: take a break after your next task, schedule your priorities, or spend one hour learning something new.

Every habit you change compounds into long-term success. Remember, true change comes from practising new behaviours.

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