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How to Make Sure 2021 Doesn’t Destroy Your Hopes and Dreams



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Making sure 2021 is a good year starts with preparing for 2021 now, this year, in 2020. Wasting the rest of this year will only leave you ill-prepared for all of the opportunities you’ll come across in 2021. You know what would make the rest of this year a waste? Doing absolutely nothing with it. You know what would be worse than wasting the rest of this year? Doing things that actually cause you to take two steps backward in life. Making sure you’re prepared for 2021 means tidying your life up in the areas of health, wealth, love, and happiness. Lucky for you, there’s a simple way to do this.

To gain more in the areas of health, wealth, love, and happiness, you need to level up your social power. That’s because your success in any aspect of life is affected by your success in your social interactions and social life. Do you let your friends influence you into eating junk food? Are you able to network with people to gain mentors who are already where you want to be in life? Are you attractive enough to attract the partner you want?

More Social Power Means More Success

You can gain what you want in life much easier by simply gaining more social power. Having the ability to connect with anyone is the most powerful asset you can have in this world. Need to get into better shape? Reach out to a personal trainer and done. Need to know how to adapt your business so it doesn’t get crushed by COVID? Reach out to a business mentor and done. 

Need to know how to navigate the dating world? Reach out to a (qualified) dating coach and done. Having a solid network and having good connections means that you don’t need to have all of the answers or all of the solutions to reach your goals. This is all great, but having this kind of instant access to others who can positively benefit your life starts with leveling up your social power. Your social power is mainly made up of your value and your quality. 

Your success in the dating and social marketplaces is determined by your quality. Being high-value creates interest and being high-quality creates attraction. Since interest comes before attraction when you first meet someone, let’s focus on the value for right now. Raising your value means doing your best to be your best in all of the areas that impact how people see you. These are separated into six categories: looks, resources, game, personality, status, and age.

“If you’re always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” – Maya Angelou

Start Looksmaxing

What is “looksmaxing”? It’s pretty much what the word implies: maxing out your looks (working on yourself to look as good as possible). For this part, the key areas you need to focus on are:

  • Your fitness
  • Your nutrition and the supplements you take (if any)
  • Your grooming (get a hairstyle that compliments your face shape, keep those nails trimmed, and so on)
  • Invest in a couple of good colognes (the kind that gets compliments)
  • Get your hygiene together (whiten your teeth, get a skin care regimen in place, etc.)
  • Get good fitting clothes

On the topic of getting good fitting clothes, to save money without sacrificing in the looks department, consider style capsules (also known as capsule wardrobes). It’s a minimal set of different clothing pieces that all fit well and don’t conform to any trend but are still stylish. That means looking good for a long time without needing to buy too many clothes or getting stuck figuring out what to wear.

Get Your Resources Together

I didn’t say get your “finances” together on purpose because your resources are made up of more than your money. It’s also made up of your connections. So, if you want to know a good way to get started on this, you can start with looking into personal finance gurus. Find one that you feel like you can trust. Be sure to check for reviews of their methods and personal finance strategies for if they work (and check if these are real people leaving these reviews). Then, stick to the plan that your personal finance guru gives you so you have somewhere to start.

Next, write down your top 20 goals that you want to achieve in your career. Then, find your top three in the list that you want to achieve the most—more than the other 17. Then, set your timer for one minute and write down (has to be pen to paper) as many names (first names only) as you can think of of people who you think can help you with the top three goals you wrote down. You can spend the rest of 2020 in preparation to start networking with these individuals in 2021 by researching them, their interests, things you have in common, and any possible obstacles or challenges they may be facing that you can help with (areas where you can provide value).

Forget Working On Your Game (For Right Now)

Working on your game to get better at talking with women is only going to help you once you’ve begun working on raising your quality. That’s because it’s not what you say it’s how you say it. A flirtatious line that would normally turn a woman on won’t work if it’s delivered with low self-esteem, insecurity, social fear and nervousness. It will only make the situation awkward which will make you feel worse for trying if you haven’t developed an antifragile ego. This isn’t a movie, it’s the real world. You won’t be socially rewarded with her number because she thinks your being shy is “kinda cute”. Raise your quality first (fix your mindsets and gain a bit more emotional and social intelligence).

Adopt A Personality That Turns Heads (In A Good Way)

Your personality in the eyes of others is affected by how dominantly you behave. There are different styles of dominance, but the styles that are typically the best for healthy social power are charm and charisma. Of course, it’s ultimately up to you what style of dominance you choose and decide work best with your personality. Some styles are a bit more aggressive than others. Those aggressive options are the styles that spark conversations about toxic masculinity in today’s world. So, if you want a more positive form of social power along with more networking success, consider developing more charm and charisma. To develop more charm, start by developing a deeper love for people. Learn to be more grateful for the people in your life. To develop more charisma, get in touch with your WHY—your mission in life.

“We are our choices. Build yourself a great story.” – Jeff Bezos

Start Getting Ready for 2021 Now

You may have noticed that I left out the “status” and “age” categories. That’s because status changes based on what you’re doing and your current goals so it’s different for everyone. And, age is unchangeable. So, considering all of the improving you could do in the other categories and considering that only one of the categories is unchangeable, you have a lot of room for growth and opportunity to level up your life! Get started on this list and it won’t be long before you’ve noticed that your ability to get more out of life has increased. Which is great news for anyone who wants more health, wealth, love, and happiness, but isn’t sure what else they need to do to achieve it. Now, get ready for 2021!

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How Your Beliefs Can Supercharge or Sabotage Your Success

Your life is dictated by beliefs and biases that drive your thinking, behaviors, and decisions



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How to Break the Cycles of Mediocrity and Manifest Your Greatness

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity



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In just a few weeks, we will be wrapping up 2023. Can you believe it? This year has been absolutely incredible for me.

I have seen amazing doors opened, new relationships formed and I am seeing dreams realized in my life. While this seems like the hallmarks of a great year, this has also been the most challenging year of my life. With all of the change happening in my life, I have been forced out of my comfort zone and challenged to grow in every area of my life.

I can truly say that I have made the most of my moments this year and I have used everything as a catalyst for maximizing my greatest potential.

As a revolutionary leader, I have the pleasure of consulting and advising leaders around the world to fulfill purpose, realize their greatest potential and make an impact.

I want to share some insights with you that will help you to break cycles of mediocrity and manifest your greatness

Everything legal must come through the matrix

I am sure that some of you are wondering why I am using the term matrix. However, what you have to understand is that I am trying to make a highly complex spiritual principle practical to understand.

Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, every life has an origin and I believe that origin is divine and begins with eternity. You are birthed from eternity and into time to fulfill a unique purpose and assignment in your lifetime and generation.

The matrix is simply the portal or vehicle that brings something out of the invisible realm and into tangible form. The problem with much of the teaching today is that it excludes the matrix. We are told to believe that success is instantaneous and overnight.

Nobody talks about how a dream progresses through stages beginning with visualization and ultimately culminating in manifestation. Without a matrix or portal then everything that you attempt to birth and build will be illegal.

The matrix not only makes you legal but it gives you the authority and power to function as the greatest expression of who you were created to be. 

Every matrix has an incubation process

While many people admire and respect me today, I remember a time when nobody knew who I was or the significance of my message. How did I get to where I am today? I got here through an incubation process.

In other words, everything that has been destined for your life is incubating and awaiting a set time of manifestation. The problem is that most people live their entire lives idle and never initiate the incubation process.

What do I meany by that? Most people are living reckless and very few people are living intentionally. I am amazed at the number of people I have conversations with that have no vision, goals or strategies for their lives. They show great promise and they have undeniable potential.

However, without development they will die with their dreams still in them.

Everything that has been destined for your life must be incubated and converted to become realities born to time. 

“Visualize this thing that you want, see it, feel it, believe in it. Make your mental blueprint and begin to build.” – Robert Collier

You must give expression to that which is not yet born to time

When you think about a matrix or a prophetic incubation process, you have to understand that potential is often unrealized and untapped. In other words, your potential is in raw form and your potential cannot serve you as long as it is untapped.

The thing that makes me valuable is that I have the ability to convert potential into power. I have done it in my own life and I have empowered leaders around the world to do the same. How do you convert potential into power?

First, it is important to note that you have to perceive potential. If you cannot perceive your potential then you can never cultivate your potential. In addition, you must take the time to cultivate your potential. We often get excited about our capabilities; however, we never expand our capacity in order to realize our greatest potential.

In other words, the strength of your potential is only discovered through your willingness to stretch. The more we are challenged the more we are empowered to expand our capacity for greatness. Most of all, you must begin to express your potential. The expression of potential is different for every person.

For example, the expression of my potential is best demonstrated through the thoughts, ideas, products, services, books, etc.

For another person the expression of potential may look like a screenplay, artwork, sports, scientific discoveries, medical breakthroughs, etc.

Regardless of the form of expression, I know that you will live empty and unfulfilled until you make the decision to express your potential. The expression of your potential gives voice to your dreams, life to your vision, significance to your moments and activates your true power.

You must manifest your greatness

As a revolutionary thinker and leader, my work has impacted people around the world. I am grateful that my life is a source of empowerment to so many people. However, before anyone could ever benefit from my life, I had to make a non-negotiable decision to become who I was born to be.

I wish I could tell you that this journey is easy and that you will get there overnight. However, in a world that celebrates us for doing we are often criticized for being. As a result, I wasted a lot of time trying to be who other people wanted me to be instead of being who I was born to be.

There is no greatness without becoming and there is no becoming with authenticity. It is through our bravery to be vulnerable that we ultimately manifest our greatness. We do not bless the world by being a duplicate. We bless the world when we honor our difference. When you honor your difference you honor your potential.

Ultimately, your difference is how you manifest your greatness.

When you present anything but your authentic self to the world, you are playing small and you are robbing the world of your significance. Manifesting your greatness requires you to master your gifts.

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Here’s a Young Man’s Antidote for the Uncertainty of the Modern World

Why do a lot of young guys lack confidence in today’s world? 



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Toxic Leadership: 5 Ways to Identify a Bad Leader

if you have a leader who displays any of the toxic traits, it’s time to move on to greener pastures.



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Let’s be honest, we’ve all crossed paths with a toxic leader in our careers at some point. Unfortunately, while some toxic leaders don’t even bother to hide their behaviour, some know very well how to conceal their true selves behind a strong-built facade. The latter is the most dangerous of the two. (more…)

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