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How to Make Sure 2021 Doesn’t Destroy Your Hopes and Dreams

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Making sure 2021 is a good year starts with preparing for 2021 now, this year, in 2020. Wasting the rest of this year will only leave you ill-prepared for all of the opportunities you’ll come across in 2021. You know what would make the rest of this year a waste? Doing absolutely nothing with it. You know what would be worse than wasting the rest of this year? Doing things that actually cause you to take two steps backward in life. Making sure you’re prepared for 2021 means tidying your life up in the areas of health, wealth, love, and happiness. Lucky for you, there’s a simple way to do this.

To gain more in the areas of health, wealth, love, and happiness, you need to level up your social power. That’s because your success in any aspect of life is affected by your success in your social interactions and social life. Do you let your friends influence you into eating junk food? Are you able to network with people to gain mentors who are already where you want to be in life? Are you attractive enough to attract the partner you want?

More Social Power Means More Success

You can gain what you want in life much easier by simply gaining more social power. Having the ability to connect with anyone is the most powerful asset you can have in this world. Need to get into better shape? Reach out to a personal trainer and done. Need to know how to adapt your business so it doesn’t get crushed by COVID? Reach out to a business mentor and done. 

Need to know how to navigate the dating world? Reach out to a (qualified) dating coach and done. Having a solid network and having good connections means that you don’t need to have all of the answers or all of the solutions to reach your goals. This is all great, but having this kind of instant access to others who can positively benefit your life starts with leveling up your social power. Your social power is mainly made up of your value and your quality. 

Your success in the dating and social marketplaces is determined by your quality. Being high-value creates interest and being high-quality creates attraction. Since interest comes before attraction when you first meet someone, let’s focus on the value for right now. Raising your value means doing your best to be your best in all of the areas that impact how people see you. These are separated into six categories: looks, resources, game, personality, status, and age.

“If you’re always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be.” – Maya Angelou

Start Looksmaxing

What is “looksmaxing”? It’s pretty much what the word implies: maxing out your looks (working on yourself to look as good as possible). For this part, the key areas you need to focus on are:

  • Your fitness
  • Your nutrition and the supplements you take (if any)
  • Your grooming (get a hairstyle that compliments your face shape, keep those nails trimmed, and so on)
  • Invest in a couple of good colognes (the kind that gets compliments)
  • Get your hygiene together (whiten your teeth, get a skin care regimen in place, etc.)
  • Get good fitting clothes

On the topic of getting good fitting clothes, to save money without sacrificing in the looks department, consider style capsules (also known as capsule wardrobes). It’s a minimal set of different clothing pieces that all fit well and don’t conform to any trend but are still stylish. That means looking good for a long time without needing to buy too many clothes or getting stuck figuring out what to wear.

Get Your Resources Together

I didn’t say get your “finances” together on purpose because your resources are made up of more than your money. It’s also made up of your connections. So, if you want to know a good way to get started on this, you can start with looking into personal finance gurus. Find one that you feel like you can trust. Be sure to check for reviews of their methods and personal finance strategies for if they work (and check if these are real people leaving these reviews). Then, stick to the plan that your personal finance guru gives you so you have somewhere to start.

Next, write down your top 20 goals that you want to achieve in your career. Then, find your top three in the list that you want to achieve the most—more than the other 17. Then, set your timer for one minute and write down (has to be pen to paper) as many names (first names only) as you can think of of people who you think can help you with the top three goals you wrote down. You can spend the rest of 2020 in preparation to start networking with these individuals in 2021 by researching them, their interests, things you have in common, and any possible obstacles or challenges they may be facing that you can help with (areas where you can provide value).

Forget Working On Your Game (For Right Now)

Working on your game to get better at talking with women is only going to help you once you’ve begun working on raising your quality. That’s because it’s not what you say it’s how you say it. A flirtatious line that would normally turn a woman on won’t work if it’s delivered with low self-esteem, insecurity, social fear and nervousness. It will only make the situation awkward which will make you feel worse for trying if you haven’t developed an antifragile ego. This isn’t a movie, it’s the real world. You won’t be socially rewarded with her number because she thinks your being shy is “kinda cute”. Raise your quality first (fix your mindsets and gain a bit more emotional and social intelligence).

Adopt A Personality That Turns Heads (In A Good Way)

Your personality in the eyes of others is affected by how dominantly you behave. There are different styles of dominance, but the styles that are typically the best for healthy social power are charm and charisma. Of course, it’s ultimately up to you what style of dominance you choose and decide work best with your personality. Some styles are a bit more aggressive than others. Those aggressive options are the styles that spark conversations about toxic masculinity in today’s world. So, if you want a more positive form of social power along with more networking success, consider developing more charm and charisma. To develop more charm, start by developing a deeper love for people. Learn to be more grateful for the people in your life. To develop more charisma, get in touch with your WHY—your mission in life.

“We are our choices. Build yourself a great story.” – Jeff Bezos

Start Getting Ready for 2021 Now

You may have noticed that I left out the “status” and “age” categories. That’s because status changes based on what you’re doing and your current goals so it’s different for everyone. And, age is unchangeable. So, considering all of the improving you could do in the other categories and considering that only one of the categories is unchangeable, you have a lot of room for growth and opportunity to level up your life! Get started on this list and it won’t be long before you’ve noticed that your ability to get more out of life has increased. Which is great news for anyone who wants more health, wealth, love, and happiness, but isn’t sure what else they need to do to achieve it. Now, get ready for 2021!

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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7 of the Biggest Enemies Stopping You From Success

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Everyone wants to be successful. It is a thing we all wish for. We want to achieve mind-blowing success. However, the road to success is not so easy. And the funniest part is, you are the one to determine whether you become successful or not. (more…)

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