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Being Flexible Is a Requirement for Success. Here’s Why:

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Most aspiring entrepreneurs begin their journey with an idea of what it is they want to do. They have certain images of what this journey will look like. They have mapped out their path. They have done their research. They are energized because of how their “heroes” have done what they want to do. They are set.

This excitement serves as the adrenaline to their bodies. They are charging full-steam ahead. Their mind is set. The bow is pulled back and they are ready to release their idea to the world. This was me a few years back. All I saw was a straight line to my bullseye target … my business success. And then one setback after another came my way.

Sheer Determination

My determination kept me going. The adrenaline rush carried me through those times. But as is true, if there is no replenishing, that rush wanes over time. It happened to me.

Discouragement, apathy, feelings of depression, doubts and other emotions crept in sometimes all at once but mostly separately. Could I pull myself out of these feelings? Was this all a fantasy that I needed to give up?

The line was no longer straight. There were zigs and zags, twists and turns, starts and stops, ups and downs. This was the pattern that now governed my life.

Decision Time

It was now decision time. Do I keep going? Do I abandon my dream? Was I delusional? Can I get through this? These were some of the questions I had to process. There were no clear answers, but something in me compelled me to continue.

I realized that I had to be as flexible as I possibly could be. The twists and turns, zigs and zags, ups and downs, would have dealt a crippling blow had I remained inflexible.

As I hung on for dear life, I realized that I was adjusting to these changes and began to accept them. I made the necessary and immediate changes so I could stay on the ride and not be thrown off.

Making Necessary Changes

These changes came in the form of tweaking my initial idea, throwing out what was no longer relevant or no longer worked, and adding parts that made more sense at this point in the journey.

What was left after all the modifications was hardly recognizable as what I began with. Nonetheless, it was much better. I felt re-energized and ready to go all the way.

I adopted a flexible mindset, which became my new norm. And then the light bulb went on: Success in your business–your entrepreneurial journey–require having a flexible mindset.

“Stay committed to your decisions, but stay flexible in your approach.” – Tony Robbins

Here are 3 tips on how to adopt this mindset:

1. Think of your options

Do you make changes or quit? Quitting cannot be an option. This is something that you have to tell yourself. You might have to re-read some books, listen to some inspiring talks like those of the late Zig Ziglar, Brian Tracy, Earl Nightingale, Tony Robbins and others.

2. Join a mastermind group 

Surround yourself with those who are like-minded and are on a similar journey. Make sure you find a group with people who are doing what you want to be doing. They should be a couple of steps ahead of you but not too far ahead. That could backfire and become discouraging.

3. Revisit your why 

It is important that you go back from time to time to remind yourself of why you started this journey. Remind yourself of how you felt–your frustration with life as it was.

What you’ll find is that once you have explored these tips, your mindset will begin leaning to one of flexibility. It will be a conclusion that you come to as you weigh your options, listen to others and remind yourself as to your why.

As you make plans for starting your journey or if you are struggling in your journey, make sure to tell yourself these words: STAY FLEXIBLE!

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.” – Albert Einstein

How do you react when things do not go as expected? Do you take deep breaths, talk with a friend, or struggle? Let us know by commenting below!

Kingsley Grant is a Professional Speaker, Corporate Trainer, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, Certified Mindset & Communication Coach, Host of the Midlife Launch On-Demand Online Radio (Podcast), and a published Author. He focuses primarily on helping midlife professionals leverage their experience and expertise to financially support the lifestyle they want for themselves. Kingsley writes for the Huffington Post and The Goodmen Project and is a national and international speaker. He is a proud dad, husband, a man of faith and an entrepreneur at heart. Join him at www.kingsleygrant.com and at his podcast site: www.themidlifelaunch.com/podcast.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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