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7 of the Biggest Enemies Stopping You From Success

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Everyone wants to be successful. It is a thing we all wish for. We want to achieve mind-blowing success. However, the road to success is not so easy. And the funniest part is, you are the one to determine whether you become successful or not.

You have the keys to success in your hand. Truthfully, if the key to your success is in your hand, why are you not successful yet? Well, it is because you are the biggest enemy to your success, shocked?

You are in control of whatever happens to you. However, inside you, 7 elements stop you from becoming successful.

Here are the 7 elements that are stopping you from becoming successful 

1. Complacency

Complacency is a state of smugness. The feeling of a very powerful self-satisfaction. Yes! There are times where you have put in all your effort to do one thing or the other.  With such great efforts you have put into your work, it is normal for you to feel magnified, praise yourself, and be satisfied with what you have done. 

Complacency comes in when you are over satisfied with what you have done. Sincerely, you have put so much work and effort into what you do, you won’t feel good if someone condemns all of your hard work and efforts. 

This is where most people make mistakes. Instead of listening to the faults, we tend to ignore what people say. Why? Because you are amazed at the work you have done all by yourself. You feel so satisfied that you don’t want to change it or listen to advice.

And, do you know what complacency brings? Complacency brings in pride, laziness, stagnancy, overconfidence, and procrastination. If you are wrong, admit that you are, ask people for advice and always be ready to learn.

Have a growth mindset, instead of a fixed one.

2. Low Self-esteem

How do you perceive yourself? Do you feel you are worthless? Well, low self-esteem is one of the biggest enemies of your success. However, you wield the power of self-esteem and that’s why you are the controller of your success. 

Low self-esteem holds a very strong power which is “underestimation”, you keep underestimating yourself which will make you lose your self-worth. What do you think happens when you lose your self-worth? One, you lose your confidence, two, self-respect, and lastly, you tap into the world of negativity.

Love yourself first! Why are you underestimating your great self? So many people have unbelievable potentials but they are just there underestimating themselves, destroying their self-confidence, while time is flying. 

Always love God and love yourself. If you love God, loving yourself will even be easier. Because the love of God brings indescribable joy and delight. This is from the perspective of a child of God.

You are a great person, know that! Nothing can shake you. One secret is this: if you don’t condemn yourself, no one on earth can condemn you. So, never condemn yourself. Never limit your potentials by yourself. You are limitless and ever-going.

3. Pride (Ego)

Pride has left billions of people in the world with bitter regrets. If you can not subject yourself to others, you may not be able to go far in life. Even if you succeed by chance, the end will still be filled with massive regrets.

Be humble, pride is one of the worst enemies of your success. Some people have a mindset that they can’t learn from someone younger than them even if they are in the same place of work or, even if they do the same thing.

Many people feel they are too big to ask for help. They feel they are too big to learn. If you don’t know a thing, ask people that know about it. Don’t feel too big to ask and always be ready to face and accommodate disrespect. 

Go and learn from the ultra-successful men and women in the world and see how much disrespect they have faced. But, look at where they are now. 

You need skills to succeed, which simply means you have to learn to have skills, and to learn new skills you need to put in a lot of service and work. But, how do you serve? You serve with respect and ultimate subjection.

“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton

4. Laziness

We all have our comfort zone. Most times, people become too satisfied with their comfort zone and that’s why it has become super-hard for them to get out of that place of comfort.

Your comfort zone could be in movies, your fave celeb, social media, games, friends, doing nothing, etc. What is your comfort zone or where is your comfort zone? Until you make Godliness, hard work, commitment, smart thinking, and persistence your comfort zone, success will be unachievable for you.

One creepy factor that lightens up our laziness is pleasure. The feeling of satisfying what our flesh wants. Though it may look like you are satisfying yourself, deep down, you are wasting your time. What do you waste your time on?

Is it social media? Gaming? Watching movies? Instead of wasting your time satisfying yourself, you should maximize your time doing things that will elevate your future.

5. Procrastination 

Procrastination is what has made many lose a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. It is also one of the biggest enemies to your success. However, don’t forget that you wield the power of procrastination by yourself. 

Procrastination and laziness are like twins, they go hand-in-hand together always. When you stay too attached to your comfort zone, procrastination kicks in, making you do nothing but waste time.

The powerful effect of procrastination is its ability to help you prolong things you could achieve. If you were to complete an assignment in the next 4 hours, procrastinating can make it 10 hours long.

This means you have spent 6 good hours being lazy. Know one thing which is, procrastination promotes laziness.

6. Fear and lack of self-confidence

These two are also like twins! Without fear, how can you lack self-confidence? Well, fear is what makes us lack self-confidence. The fear of speaking for yourself, showing your talents, and fear of failing.

This is also one of your greatest enemies. Fear has made a lot of people lose their dreams. And don’t forget that lack of self-confidence can not and never exist without the fear element.

Build your confidence strong and let fear disappear. Want to have confidence overnight? Then have confidence in God. If you have great confidence in God, nothing will be able to shake you.

7. Negative Society

A bad environment and bad people are what we call a negative society. Sometimes we don’t even dream of achieving success because of the kind of people we mingle with and the society we are in.

Who do you mingle with? Who are your best friends? If your answer to this question is negative, then you should know you are in a negative society. 

TheThrives is a Personal development blog that writes about confidence, self-esteem, productivity, Godliness, Success, motivation, and inspiration. We help people to find their purpose, solve life struggles and unleash their inner man and also live in Godliness. We believe that God is the greatest and the biggest.

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How Your Friends Determine Whether You Succeed or Not

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Can anyone do without having friends? We all have our friends, we share ideas with them, talk together, have fun, and fight. Yes, that’s the baseline of friendship. But, do you know that aside from you, your friends can determine whether you achieve success or not?

There are two things in friendship which are the ability to ”love” and the ability to “influence”. This means you are loved and you are influenced. How do your friends affect your success in life? How are they one of the biggest deciding factors of your success? Let’s find out.

What type of friends do you keep? 

First, what type of friends do you keep? Who do you call your best friend? There are two different kinds of friends, good friends, and bad ones. A lot of people have lost their pathway to success and some have also found their road to success all because of the friends they keep, the people they mingle with. 

Who is your best friend? Answer carefully. Having a best friend means you find each other compatible and understanding. Analyze who your best friend is. If your best friend has not motivated you to do something positive, if who you call your bestie has never given you positive advice, lastly if your best friend has never informed and advised you on your shortcomings, then you don’t have a best friend.

This quote tells us “birds of the same feather flock together”. Countless people have changed from their good nature into a bad one all because of friends. One thing to note is, “negative people move with negative aura”. If your best friend is filled with negativity inside-out then you will surely be affected by his/her negative aura.

They influence your success with positivity or negativity 

The friends you keep can either influence you with positivity or negativity because your friends have the power to change your kind of person completely. 

This is how your friends influence you:

  1. They influence you indirectly with what they do
  2. They influence you directly by teaching and giving you advice 

Yes, that is how they influence you. For instance, you watch a movie and you like the way the actor walks. The question is if you truly like the way the actor walks, won’t you try to imitate the actor? Of course, you will.

Just the way you imitate the actor is the same way your friends can influence you with their character. However, the funny part is, they don’t have to teach you to do things like them. You just find yourself imitating and copying them gradually.

An important question to ask is, are you imitating a good friend or a bad one? If you imitate a good friend then you will be good, but if you imitate a bad person, you will surely become a bad person.

Everyone wants to succeed, a good friend will always teach, enlighten, and motivate you for success. A bad friend will only motivate you to do evil things (smoking, drinking, fight, envy,).

And you should know that things like that are a great enemy of success and even of God. So, if you have these bad elements in your life, how will you achieve success? There is no way!

And also, they can teach and advise you directly. But, what do your friends teach you? When you ask them for advice do they inspire you positively or teach you the bad stuff.? A lot of people have regretted lifelong decisions just by listening to the advice of friends. 

The company you keep has the power to influence and change you. Never forget that a positive influence will teach, motivate, and brush you up for success. While a negative influence will inspire you to become a bad person, change your good nature, and leave you with regrets in the end.

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The 3 Step Process to Building a Profitable Pitch

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As a communication coach, one of the top questions entrepreneurs ask me is how to deliver a winning pitch to potential investors. They want to know if there’s a magic formula to get an investor to say yes and buy into their dream and their business. (more…)

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The 4 Pillars of Wealth and Abundance

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Have you ever wondered what the formula for a wealthy and abundant life is? Many people have. Lots has been written about the subject of wealth creation and living an abundant life. It was a breaking point in my journey and pursuit of success when I found out that there is a clear path to achieve success in life. Thanks to those who have shared their journey, we can clearly see and follow the principles of prosperity. (more…)

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Here Are 4 Reasons Why You Should Have a Podcast, Youtube Channel or Online Show

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Confidence comes from a place of strong understanding of self. After close to three years on radio, I’ve grown from a shy introvert to a shy introvert with an extrovert persona. When the mic is turned on, I can channel a version of myself that some say is attractive, strong, and of course, confident but it wasn’t always this way.

What I want to share with you is what I discovered on this journey into broadcast that you can apply to your life, your ventures, and your personal development. This doesn’t require any fancy gear. It does require a leap of faith on your part because once you go down the road of media; it can change your life.

1. Perceived Expertise

When you go to a doctor, you expect their knowledge will guide them to a solution to your problems. When you have a show, you become your listeners’ doctor. For all the multiple thousands, maybe millions, of YouTube channels, podcasts, and user-created content in the world, each person that gets behind a mic takes a position on their passion, their opinions, and their themes.

They challenge the status quo for the benefit of their listeners in hopes to entertain and educate. With consistency on your side, those fans place you on a platform and give you permission to influence them.

2. Global Acknowledgement

One of the benefits to increasing confidence is when you receive thank you notes from people you may never meet. The feeling of enriching someone’s life from halfway around the globe, provides validation you’re enhancing someone else’s life with your wisdom and your wit.

The very first time I was told I was making a difference in someone’s life in a country other than my own, I felt like I caused massive impact that transcends my circle of influence. When you experience just how much you can cause impact and it comes back to you, it’ll change your worldview.

“Be grateful for what you have and stop complaining – it bores everybody else, does you no good, and doesn’t solve any problems.” – Zig Ziglar

3. Backed By Numbers

One of the most exciting ways to measure success is to quantify your growth. It’s not enough to just broadcast. Having subscribers and downloads helps to know, numerically, how well you’re doing. Word of caution. This can be a way to set yourself up for distress because of number envy but if you understand what the numbers mean; you can control the narrative of the numbers.

The major number that makes most people smile is 10,000. I’d advise it to be 1. Here’s why. As you grow in your industry, so does your reach. If you learned that the one person that subscribed totally changed for the better because of you, wouldn’t that be worth the effort?

4. Effective Communication

While it’s not talked about much, having a show is documentation. You create a dynamic account of your life, your industry, and the pulse on what’s important simply by having a show. When you find a channel to improve your communication skills, you demand attention and people will listen to you. You become more trusted as a leader and people will follow you once they believe you can lead them to their wants and needs.

“To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we perceive the world and use this understanding as a guide to our communication with others.” – Tony Robbins

These insights have helped many people become leaders and, ultimately, move others to their best selves. It’s worked for me and I hope it works for you. At the end of the day, it’s all about showing up and showing out.

Have you ever thought about having a radio show? If so, what would you talk about? Let us below!

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