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7 of the Biggest Enemies Stopping You From Success

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Everyone wants to be successful. It is a thing we all wish for. We want to achieve mind-blowing success. However, the road to success is not so easy. And the funniest part is, you are the one to determine whether you become successful or not.

You have the keys to success in your hand. Truthfully, if the key to your success is in your hand, why are you not successful yet? Well, it is because you are the biggest enemy to your success, shocked?

You are in control of whatever happens to you. However, inside you, 7 elements stop you from becoming successful.

Here are the 7 elements that are stopping you from becoming successful 

1. Complacency

Complacency is a state of smugness. The feeling of a very powerful self-satisfaction. Yes! There are times where you have put in all your effort to do one thing or the other.  With such great efforts you have put into your work, it is normal for you to feel magnified, praise yourself, and be satisfied with what you have done. 

Complacency comes in when you are over satisfied with what you have done. Sincerely, you have put so much work and effort into what you do, you won’t feel good if someone condemns all of your hard work and efforts. 

This is where most people make mistakes. Instead of listening to the faults, we tend to ignore what people say. Why? Because you are amazed at the work you have done all by yourself. You feel so satisfied that you don’t want to change it or listen to advice.

And, do you know what complacency brings? Complacency brings in pride, laziness, stagnancy, overconfidence, and procrastination. If you are wrong, admit that you are, ask people for advice and always be ready to learn.

Have a growth mindset, instead of a fixed one.

2. Low Self-esteem

How do you perceive yourself? Do you feel you are worthless? Well, low self-esteem is one of the biggest enemies of your success. However, you wield the power of self-esteem and that’s why you are the controller of your success. 

Low self-esteem holds a very strong power which is “underestimation”, you keep underestimating yourself which will make you lose your self-worth. What do you think happens when you lose your self-worth? One, you lose your confidence, two, self-respect, and lastly, you tap into the world of negativity.

Love yourself first! Why are you underestimating your great self? So many people have unbelievable potentials but they are just there underestimating themselves, destroying their self-confidence, while time is flying. 

Always love God and love yourself. If you love God, loving yourself will even be easier. Because the love of God brings indescribable joy and delight. This is from the perspective of a child of God.

You are a great person, know that! Nothing can shake you. One secret is this: if you don’t condemn yourself, no one on earth can condemn you. So, never condemn yourself. Never limit your potentials by yourself. You are limitless and ever-going.

3. Pride (Ego)

Pride has left billions of people in the world with bitter regrets. If you can not subject yourself to others, you may not be able to go far in life. Even if you succeed by chance, the end will still be filled with massive regrets.

Be humble, pride is one of the worst enemies of your success. Some people have a mindset that they can’t learn from someone younger than them even if they are in the same place of work or, even if they do the same thing.

Many people feel they are too big to ask for help. They feel they are too big to learn. If you don’t know a thing, ask people that know about it. Don’t feel too big to ask and always be ready to face and accommodate disrespect. 

Go and learn from the ultra-successful men and women in the world and see how much disrespect they have faced. But, look at where they are now. 

You need skills to succeed, which simply means you have to learn to have skills, and to learn new skills you need to put in a lot of service and work. But, how do you serve? You serve with respect and ultimate subjection.

“Success seems to be connected with action. Successful people keep moving. They make mistakes but they don’t quit.” – Conrad Hilton

4. Laziness

We all have our comfort zone. Most times, people become too satisfied with their comfort zone and that’s why it has become super-hard for them to get out of that place of comfort.

Your comfort zone could be in movies, your fave celeb, social media, games, friends, doing nothing, etc. What is your comfort zone or where is your comfort zone? Until you make Godliness, hard work, commitment, smart thinking, and persistence your comfort zone, success will be unachievable for you.

One creepy factor that lightens up our laziness is pleasure. The feeling of satisfying what our flesh wants. Though it may look like you are satisfying yourself, deep down, you are wasting your time. What do you waste your time on?

Is it social media? Gaming? Watching movies? Instead of wasting your time satisfying yourself, you should maximize your time doing things that will elevate your future.

5. Procrastination 

Procrastination is what has made many lose a once-in-a-lifetime opportunity. It is also one of the biggest enemies to your success. However, don’t forget that you wield the power of procrastination by yourself. 

Procrastination and laziness are like twins, they go hand-in-hand together always. When you stay too attached to your comfort zone, procrastination kicks in, making you do nothing but waste time.

The powerful effect of procrastination is its ability to help you prolong things you could achieve. If you were to complete an assignment in the next 4 hours, procrastinating can make it 10 hours long.

This means you have spent 6 good hours being lazy. Know one thing which is, procrastination promotes laziness.

6. Fear and lack of self-confidence

These two are also like twins! Without fear, how can you lack self-confidence? Well, fear is what makes us lack self-confidence. The fear of speaking for yourself, showing your talents, and fear of failing.

This is also one of your greatest enemies. Fear has made a lot of people lose their dreams. And don’t forget that lack of self-confidence can not and never exist without the fear element.

Build your confidence strong and let fear disappear. Want to have confidence overnight? Then have confidence in God. If you have great confidence in God, nothing will be able to shake you.

7. Negative Society

A bad environment and bad people are what we call a negative society. Sometimes we don’t even dream of achieving success because of the kind of people we mingle with and the society we are in.

Who do you mingle with? Who are your best friends? If your answer to this question is negative, then you should know you are in a negative society. 

The Thrives is a personal development blog that has a lot of life-changing resources to help you live your best life and become a better person. Learn more about Godliness, Self-esteem, Happiness, Success, Motivation and Inspiration, Productivity, etc. We believe God is the Greatest and Biggest.

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20 Ways You Can Become a Powerful Communicator

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Emile Steenveld Speaker and Coach

Some people seem to naturally know how to effectively communicate in a group setting. They can express themselves clearly and listen attentively without dominating the conversation.

Being a powerful communicator is important for several reasons, including building and maintaining relationships, achieving goals, resolving conflicts, improving productivity, leading and influencing others, advancing in your career, expressing yourself more confidently and authentically, and improving your mental and emotional well-being. Effective communication is an essential life skill that can benefit you in all aspects of your life.

But, don’t worry if you don’t naturally possess this skill, as effective communication is something that can be developed with practice, planning and preparation.
 

1.  Listen actively: Practice active listening by giving your full attention to the speaker and responding to what they are saying.

 

2. Use “I” statements: Speak from your own perspective and avoid placing blame or making accusations.

 

3. Avoid assumptions: Don’t make assumptions about what the other person is thinking or feeling.

 

4. Be clear: Express your thoughts and feelings clearly and concisely by getting to the point and avoid using jargon or overly complex language.

 

5. Show empathy: Show that you understand and care about the other person’s feelings.

 

6. Offer valuable insights: When speaking in a group, provide a valuable takeaway or actionable item that people can walk away with.

 

7. Be an active listener: Listen attentively and respond accordingly, incorporating your points into the conversation.

 

8. Choose the right time: Pick the most opportune time to speak to ensure that you have the group’s attention and can deliver your message without interruption.

 

9. Be the unifying voice: Step in and unify the group’s thoughts to calm down the discussion and insert your point effectively.

 

10. Keep responses concise: Keep responses short and to the point to show respect for others’ time.

 

11. Avoid unnecessary comments: Avoid commenting on everything and only speak when you have something important to say.

 

12. Cut the fluff: Avoid being long-winded and get straight to the point.

 

13. Prepare ahead of time: Sort out your points and practice them before speaking in a group.

 

14. Smile and be positive: Smile and nod along as others speak, to build a positive relationship and be respected when it’s your turn to speak.

 

15. Take responsibility: Take responsibility for your own actions and feelings.

 

16. Ask questions: Ask questions to clarify any confusion or misunderstandings.

 

17. Avoid interrupting: Allow the other person to finish speaking without interruption.

 

18. Practice active listening: Repeat what the other person said to ensure you have understood correctly.

 

19. Use your body language too: Use nonverbal cues such as eye contact, facial expressions, and body language to convey your message and build rapport.

 

20. Be aware of the tone of your voice: it should be calm and assertive, not aggressive or passive.

 

By keeping these tips in mind, you can improve your communication skills and become a more powerful communicator, which can help you build better relationships, achieve your goals, and lead a more fulfilling life.

I you want to learn how to become more confident in life then you can join my weekly mentorship calls and 40+ online workshops at AweBliss.com so you can master your life with more success.

 
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